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In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything.
Together, Jason and I dive into:
Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.What it really means to heal — beyond symptom management.The transformational power of somatic work, parts work (IFS), and embodied spirituality.How authentic relationships become the ultimate container for healing.Jason also explores how to reconnect with your true Self, why you are not broken, and why genuine freedom from addiction comes from a profound internal shift — not just managing behaviors.
Learn more about Jason at: InfiniteRecoveryProject.com
If you’re tired of surface-level recovery and ready for true transformation, this is a must-listen.
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Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy.
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Why most couples get stuck in imbalanced recovery dynamics—and how to shift them
Tools from their Intimacy Pyramid framework that help couples reconnect emotionally, spiritually, and physicallyWhether you're struggling with addiction, supporting a spouse who is, or both, this episode offers wisdom, validation, and hope. Matthew and Joanna are proof that recovery is possible, and that with the right tools, couples can move from surviving betrayal to thriving in renewed trust.
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Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term?
In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude.
Learn how daily gratitude can:
Rewire your brain using neuroplasticityReduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortexReplace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purposeBuild a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just disciplineI also walk you through my personal morning gratitude routine, and how it's helped me stay sober for over 10 years—even during high-stress seasons.
If you’re serious about learning how to quit porn, stay clean, and build a mentally and spiritually resilient lifestyle, this episode is for you.
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What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup.
But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life.
In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his wife and kids were out of the country—how he avoided porn cravings, built emotional resilience, and grew stronger in his relationship with God.
You'll learn:
How to overcome porn addiction when you're alone and vulnerableDaily mindset practices that keep cravings from taking rootHow prayer, scripture, and intention can replace porn as a coping mechanismWhy pain can be the foundation for real spiritual growthHow to develop a recovery mindset and lifestyle that holds under pressureIf you're struggling with relapse, loneliness, temptation, or want to support someone who is, this episode is for you.
This is porn addiction recovery from the inside out—real habits, spiritual power, and mental clarity. You’ll walk away with hope and a concrete plan to stay sober when it’s hardest.
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How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency.
If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency.
You may have achieved a week or two of sobriety at some point. Or even a few months. But would you like to make it a year, 5 years, 10 years, and beyond?
How do you maintain focus and motivation to stay sober from porn when times get tough? When you don’t feel good enough as a husband or father, when work sucks, life gets overwhelming, you’re exhausted or burnt out, you lose something or someone you loved, your wife isn’t connecting with you, your kids are testing your patience, or your best intentions end in failure?
A car’s engine cannot function long-term without regular oil changes. Without these, the engine corrodes, breaks down, and eventually fails.
You may know the skills to stay sober. You may have a nice frame, engine, and all the bells and whistles. But if you don’t have adequate, clean oil in your engine, you’ll never achieve long-term sobriety and truly lose your desire for porn.
So, how do you quit porn, avoid porn relapse, and stay sober in tough times? You need oil.
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My conversation today is with George Haymaker. We discuss the neuroscience of quitting porn and other addictions, and how to change habit patterns and rewire your brain.
George is an inspiring man with an incredible story. He’s helped many people heal their brains and change their habits for the better. He is a certified neuroscience coach & consultant, and an impressive entrepreneur with a long history of successful business ventures.
George helps addicts overcome their destructive patterns by teaching them sound practices for step-by-step habit change based on principles of neuroscience.
I believe our conversation today will give you some crucial insights for your own porn addiction recovery, or compassion for a loved one who’s struggling with pornography addiction, and an understanding for the methods that you can use to truly break free of porn.
Below, I discuss some takeaways from the episode, as well as additional insights and tips for porn recovery.
You can find George Haymaker, Certified Neuroscience Coach & Consultant, at georgehaymaker.com or LinkedIn.
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It can be very hard for many men to stay sober from porn on vacations - both during and after. We are thrown out of our structure and norm, and many of us can feel far more impulsive and prone towards porn addiction.
This can seem counterintuitive, as you'd think that vacation and travel would make it easier to stay sober. I talk about why this is not the case for many people, why post-vacation can be a time of serious relapse with porn, and how to guard against these pitfalls and stay clean of porn during travel.
I do this using 4 keys to stop watching porn while traveling:
Keeping StructureToning Down IntensityGrowing RelationshipsWatching NutritionThese 4 keys to stay clean of porn on vacation are fundamental to a recovery mindset and lifestyle. You need to enter vacation with a safety plan to stay clean of porn. If you do not, you set yourself up for porn relapse. Fail to plan and plan to fail.
To quit porn, you can follow these same principles in the rest of life, but they are distinctly important while on vacation.
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When your husband is addicted to porn, you can feel powerless to stop it. You may ask: How do I stop my husband from watching porn? Is there something I can say or do that will convince him? If only I could find the right words, maybe he would finally feel motivated and stop hurting me and our family like this.
Anger and feeling the impulse to control him is normal. Feeling judgmental, hateful, and appalled by his behavior is normal too. You wish you knew what to do, and you can’t help feeling sometimes that it's your fault he’s doing this. Other times, you blame him for everything and think that all of the problems in your marriage are because of his porn problem.
Perhaps you experience feelings of worthlessness or confusion. How could he do this to me? Am I not enough for him? Why does he turn to this, instead of loving me?
The betrayal trauma of having a spouse with porn addiction is real, and subsequent symptoms of PTSD are common. Your husband has broken your trust in a significant way, and feelings like numbness, hyper-vigilance, codependence, and anger are all common.
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There are a lot of voices out there telling you that all you need to quit porn addiction is more discipline. They say you just have to want it bad enough, fight hard enough, and exert enough self-control. But if you’ve ever tried to stop watching porn using willpower alone, you already know—it doesn’t work. In fact, relying on willpower actually fuels porn addiction. Today, I’m going to show you why, and more importantly, what works instead.
Willpower Is a Symptom of Recovery, Not the Cause of It
We are taught that staying strong, thinking positively, and being highly motivated are the keys to quitting porn. But here’s the problem—these are not the causes of recovery; they are the results of it.
Real recovery from pornography addiction is not about forcing yourself to resist urges. It’s about becoming the kind of person who naturally doesn’t need porn anymore. Willpower alone won’t get you there. Instead, lasting freedom requires both “will” and “power.” These don’t come from sheer effort but from creating a new way of living that removes the underlying causes of porn addiction in the first place.
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Why doesn’t God take away your porn addiction? People tell you to give your addiction to Christ, and it doesn’t seem to work for you. Why?
I remember how frustrated I used to be by this concept of giving my addiction over to Christ. People advised me to simply surrender to Christ and that was the answer to get sober. But it didn’t work for me. I thought this might be because God didn’t love me, didn’t care, or that I was simply too sinful a person.
I’ve worked with men across the world who struggle with these beliefs, and I’ve helped them find success in porn addiction recovery.
The key is not to simply give your addiction to Christ, but to understand how to successfully integrate truths and approaches from spirituality, religion, and psychology to provide a powerful force for quitting porn.
By combining methods from both psychology and faith, you can overcome porn addiction. I did it myself and I teach men across the world to do the same.
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Regular spiritual practice is a catalyst for growth in all other areas of your life. It acts as a driving force for positive growth in your sobriety, relationships, career, health, ambition, and more.
This article will give you insights into why spirituality and faith are so crucial for recovery, how to include both psychology and God in overcoming porn addiction, and common mistakes that addicts make when asking God to help them quit porn.
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Do you feel like your wife is ignoring your progress with porn addiction? That she doesn’t understand how difficult it is for you to quit porn?
Do you feel like you can get sober for a few weeks, or even a few months, but when you relapse with porn it is devastating for her, and you have to start over from square one?
Do you feel like you can’t do anything right in her eyes because of your pornography addiction? That she sees even your best intentions to be loving and kind as selfish and self-centered?
Do you feel disrespected? That your opinions and needs don’t matter because of what you’ve done? That you don’t have a say.
Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, that your spouse is constantly angry and the smallest thing might set her off? Either into anxiety and depression, or into fury and distrust?
Do you question how much of the problems in your relationship are from you or her? Do you wonder if it is all because of your addiction, but also can’t help seeing how controlling, angry, and insecure she is? You think maybe it’s your fault that she’s this way. But it can’t be all your fault, can it?
We talk about this and much more in today’s episode.
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Do you believe that you are genetically prone to addiction? What if you could alter these genetics?
Today, I speak with Dr. Evelyn Higgins with Wired for Addiction about the science behind porn addiction, specifically the impact of epigenetics on addiction.
According to Dr. Higgins, we can alter our genetic expression, developing a completely different way of life, and rewiring our brain to overcome porn addiction.
Dr. Evelyn Higgins is an internationally recognized expert in epidemiology of substance use disorders, mental health conditions, and process addictions like social media, video game, and porn addiction.
Across Western culture, we have a pervasive belief that our genetics play a condemning role in our lives, that they are determined, we can't change them, and they lead to outcomes we have little to no control over.
Once an addict, always an addict...
Epigenetics flips this belief on its head.
It is not your destiny to deal with addiction cravings for life. That is not my story. It doesn't have to be yours.
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Today, I’m joined by Owen Marcus, an expert in somatic and emotional healing for men across the world. His company is called MELD. He is highly knowledgeable, with 30+ years of experience, and it was a real pleasure speaking with him.
Many of us men struggle to express our emotions. It’s classic! What we may not know, though, is that unprocessed hard emotions can easily evolve into porn cravings and porn relapse.
Anger and shame (the feeling of not being good enough) often drove my cravings for porn. And I hadn’t a clue this was happening!
This skill of noticing your emotions, processing through them, and being able to sit with them when they’re uncomfortable is crucial for recovery from porn addiction. This is because from a psychological perspective, hard emotions and insecurities (and I know that’s a swearword for a lot of us men) are at the root of our porn addiction.
In my program, I teach men specific methods to get deep into these emotions, reflect on them, and become experts at effectively working through them so that these fundamental human insecurities don’t evolve into cravings for porn.
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I had an excellent conversation with Tony Smith from The Walk Family Podcast - a Christian podcast for parents. It was a huge privilege talking with Tony about the true struggle of pornography addiction in this country and around the world.
As many of you guys know, porn addiction is rampant. This is no longer the 90’s where the internet was new - porn is now recognized as a legitimate addiction across the world.
While it has not yet been officially included in the DSM (the Diagnostic Statistical Manual within the psychology field) I believe that is coming soon. It has become impossible to ignore.
iPads, cell phones, computers...we really have set ourselves up to be an addicted society unfortunately. And not just to porn.
Internet addiction, social media addiction, and other digital addictions that have become commonplace. Now, in small kids as well. We’re raising a society of digital addicts.
In this conversation, Tony and I talk about my personal journey overcoming porn addiction, and I talk about how I’m helping men do the same thing in my 1-on-1 coaching business.
There are many different psychological and behavioral strategies and tactics you can use to decrease your need for porn and eventually quit porn entirely. There are physical, emotional, and social roots of porn addiction that you can address and overcome.
So I hope this episode is a blessing to you guys. Let’s dive in with Tony Smith from the Walk Family Podcast.
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As a porn addiction recovery coach, I see clients of all backgrounds - religious and irreligious. Christianity and porn addiction often go hand-in-hand in my experience. I know that they did for me.
I love my faith, but the reality is that many Christians carry burdensome shame about their sexuality, and others about their porn habit. This sexual shame is part of what drives their addiction.
Many of us grew up being taught (explicitly or implicitly) that sexuality is dangerous, and is to be feared and strictly controlled. We were taught that physical attraction or desiring a woman is sinful, “inappropriate”, or immoral.Fear of sexuality was often unconsciously used by our parents and ecclesiastical leaders to prevent us from committing sexual sin or degrading our bodies with promiscuous sexual acts.
I understand this tendency to use fear as a motivator, and I know that many of these parents and leaders are well-meaning. Unfortunately, though, what many often do not understand is that this approach to preventing sexual promiscuity is damaging and fills people with sexual shame. Not only that, but paradoxically it can actually drive the promiscuity it seeks to inhibit.
In today's episode, I explore these topics with you. I also talk about why Christians may struggle with porn addiction more than anyone else, and how a perfectionistic relationship with God can be one of the foundational drivers of pornography addiction. I also discuss psychological and lifestyle methods you can use to overcome religious shame, strengthen your faith, and stop porn addiction.
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Today's episode is from the New Paths podcast. Dan Johnson and I tag-team it again and talk porn addiction recovery, touching heavily on my personal porn addiction story.
In today's episode, I'm going to dig in some to my childhood trauma, as well as sexual trauma, getting a bit vulnerable with you.
I want to say from the get-go, I didn't experience severe trauma. My heart goes out to those who have, including many of my clients and friends in recovery.
Rather, I grew up as a kid with a very sensitive and anxious mind. I was prone towards mental illness, obsessive compulsive behaviors, perfectionism, and I had a sexually traumatic experience when I was a kid that defined many of my views of sex and arousal.
I also had other types of experiences in my childhood and youth that some people might see as, you know, normal!
But with this episode, I really want to drive home how we shouldn't compare our trauma to one another. We shouldn't look at our past and say, "Well, yeah. I didn't really experience anything hard, so I don't think my pornography addiction could be driven by anything from my childhood."
Look, I did that for many years. When it comes down to it though, we all carry stuff! So, I talk about some of that stuff with Dan, and get real about it.
We talk about how I sought safety, pleasure and escape, not just through porn, but through other things like video games, food, television, etc.
And we talk about how to quit porn using recovery mindset and lifestyle strategies.
It's an extremely valuable episode, I think. Again, it was a huge privilege for me to be on.
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Every man or woman who struggles with porn addiction carries trauma and emotional struggles.
In my own personal porn addiction recovery journey, I’ve come to understand many things about the emotional pain that I carry. And by understanding it, I’ve been able to release much of it, and I continue to after a decade of sobriety from porn.
In my professional work with clients, I’ve come to see many of the same patterns - the same burdens, insecurities, and coping mechanisms.
If you or a loved one is suffering from porn addiction, you must understand that the addiction goes much deeper than a desire for sexual pleasure, and today we talk about these deep psychological dynamics.
In this episode, I am privileged to be with HollyKem and Dean Sunseri, authors of A Roadmap to the Soul and incredible coaches that have been helping people across the world for over 30 years.
Dean is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a Doctorate in Ministry, and HollyKem has experience as a Substance Abuse Counselor. Their approach is powerful and compassionate.
In today's episode we dig deep into the mental and emotional drivers of pornography addiction, We talk about why people can’t get sober, and we discuss bad advice we get that actually makes pornography addiction worse.
We also talk about healing past trauma, how to forgive yourself and others, how to quit porn, and how to save your marriage AND improve your sex life.
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In the episode, Dan Johnson gives you 3 easy steps to stop porn addiction. This process is called The Frontline Framework.
Dan Johnson with New Paths is another man just like myself helping men overcome porn addiction.
Dan and I not only discuss this framework but also dive into multiple psychological and lifestyle strategies you can begin using right now to quit porn.
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I recently had someone reach out to me directly to ask about porn addiction withdrawal—what it really feels like, what challenges come up, and how to get through it. Their question instantly took me back to the beginning of my own porn addiction recovery journey.
When I was six months sober, it was one of the most beautiful yet difficult times of my life. I was learning so much about myself. But I was also facing challenges I never expected.
You might have heard people describe withdrawing from porn as mild—a process that only lasts days or weeks. But I’ll be honest, that hasn’t been my experience, nor the experience of the clients in my program or the people I’ve volunteered with. For most of us, porn addiction withdrawal is a longer, more complex process.
Why Does Porn Addiction Withdrawal Feel So Hard?First, let’s be clear: You’re not crazy if you feel like quitting porn is a battle. Pornography is highly addictive—some studies suggest it’s as addictive, if not more, than cocaine. It hijacks your brain’s reward system, creating a dopamine rush that can feel impossible to resist.
Here’s the kicker: withdrawal from porn mimics some of the same symptoms of porn addiction itself. Why? Because using porn spikes dopamine to extremely high levels, which damages your brain and inhibits its capacity to produce its own dopamine in the short and long-term. To cope with this, you go back to porn again and again to get that “hit”. But when you quit, your brain is suddenly deprived of these dopamine spikes altogether, and this leaves you feeling unmotivated, unfocused, and disconnected from others.
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Anger and porn addiction—what do they have in common? At first, it might seem like the answer is nothing.
But think about it: how many times have you been angry, and shortly afterward found yourself relapsing on porn?
Or maybe you felt stressed or frustrated after a hard day at work, only to come home and slip up.
Doesn’t the shame you feel after watching porn feel similar to the shame after losing your temper in a big fight?
In this episode, I’m going to show you the connection between anger and porn addiction, uncover their root causes, and share one simple mental technique to overcome both.
Anger and Porn Addiction Are Symptoms, Not the Cause
We often view anger as the problem. We tell ourselves:
If I could just get my anger under control...I just need to breathe, think positively, or be more disciplined...Why can’t I stop being so selfish?The same pattern shows up with pornography addiction:
If I could just stop watching porn, my life would be so much better...I need to distract myself, stay busy, or focus on exercise...But here’s the truth: anger and porn addiction aren’t the real problem. They’re symptoms of something deeper.
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