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IJustin is on a mission to use his phone less. Find out what he has done this week that has been a freeing (albeit slightly inconvenient) experience.
In response to last week's episode 'Mum Break', a lot of women are saying they could never leave the kids and go away for a week! Kylie and Justin discuss why this is the case and what can be done to support and encourage mums to take some time out for themselves.
In this episode:
Unplug ChildhoodDeleting apps from devicesDropping social mediaThe never ending laundry cycleA shout out to all the extraordinary single parents listening!"Mum breaks" - why they aren't happening moreThe 'martyr syndrome' of motherhoodDads need to step up.
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#100 Managing Bedtime as a Solo Parent10 Reasons You’re Doing Better as a Parent Than You ThinkWhat Dad Can Do for Mum’s Wellbeing.
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We unpack the latest science for parents with three fascinating studies this week: the positive outcomes that come from connecting online, the power of touch and how it has the capacity to ease pain, anxiety, and depression, and how anger is worse for us than we thought.
In this episode:
A Multiverse Analysis of the Associations Between Internet Use and Well-Being by Matti Vuorre and Andrew K. PrzybylskiInternet connection and wellbeingBrain developmentGetting the balance rightThe power of touchVagus nerve and Karen YoungA systematic review and multivariate meta-analysis of the physical and mental health benefits of touch interventionsStress hormones damage usAnger Does a Lot More Damage to Your Body Than You Realize Anger Kills, by Dr Redford WilliamsAnger is normalStephen Covey - the space between stimulus and response.
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Why Getting Angry Doesn't Work#553 All The Rage: Taming Parental Anger.Find us on Facebook or TikTok
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Beck Delahoy explores the paradox of modern parenting: while raising children has never been easier thanks to advancements in health, education, and living standards, parenting itself has become increasingly challenging. However, with these advancements, a "slow life strategy" has emerged, leading to intensive parenting practices doing more harm than good. It’s time to ease up on the intensive parenting and embrace a simpler, more fulfilling approach to raising children.
In this episode:
Beck Delahoy's 'Lessons Learned' Parenting SubstackLife expectancy's pre 1900sWhy raising children into adulthood has never been easierThe 'slow life strategey'Intensive parentingParenting is harderTime to lower the parenting bar.
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What Your Child Needs From You [Webinar].
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Conflict is a normal, natural part of every healthy relationship, but sometimes our children can become fearful and anxious when parents argue. You can have more productive arguments and model healthy conflict resolution by focusing on the quality of the interaction—the regulation—rather than the resolution itself.
Brittany asks, "How do you teach empathy without creating a people-pleaser?"
We want our children to be helpful, kind, and considerate of others, but not at the expense of their own wellbeing or with unhealthy levels of self-sacrifice. There are three things you can teach your child to prevent them from becoming people-pleasers.
In this episode:
When children become concerned and try to keep the peace between parentsBe attentive to your child's worriesIs it ever ok to argue in front of the kids?Examples of unhealthy conflictRespectful, productive conflictHow to focus on regulation over resolution (4 things to model)John Gottman, Esther PerezPeople-pleasing VS empathy, consideration of othersWhere does your child get their value or sense of identity from?.
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#523 Should We Argue In Front Of The Kids?.
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When we make feelings “King”, our children can become stuck in their emotion, unable to regulate or move forward. Justin shares the right way to respond to feelings, helping them understand, process, and then move through their emotional state.
In this episode:
Revolutionary change in how parents respond to emotionsImpact of TikTok parenting influencersValidating emotionsFeeling seen, heard, valuedWays to regulate and tame emotionsParent or therapist?#822 The Emotional Lives of Teenagers - Part 1#827 The Emotional Lives of Teenagers - Part 2#976 Abigail Shrier's Bad TherapyHow to help your child process their emotion and move on from it.
Related links:
The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents, by Lisa DamourThe Secret to Regulating EmotionsEmotion Coaching [Webinar]Little People, Big Feelings [The Summit].
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Kylie is away on a kid-free adventure with a friend...and loving it! Has Justin been surviving without her? Listen in to hear the challenges, the fun, and the lessons they are both experiencing during this extended time apart.
In this episode:
A girls week awayFriendshipsPressures of family lifeImportance of stability and routine.
Related links:
Overwhelm [webinar]18 Ways to Increase Your Happiness.
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This Week In Parenting: why Australian parents are more open to smacking children than other countries, and how we can reduce peer pressure for kids and for parents by joining forces and creating community.
In this episode:
Smacking and corporal punishmentAustralian parents most open to smacking kids in international study | 9NewsThe Parenting RevolutionCan Australia make age verification work for social media? | The GuardianMomentum is building!36 Months - sign the petitionLet kids be kids - have a play-based childhoodPeer pressure for kids and for parents tooUnplug Childhood - join the village & take the pledge.
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#454 Online Safety with Julie Inman Grant from the e-Safety CommissionWhy It's Not Ok To Smack Your Kids - a great list of resources for what to do instead.
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Journalist and author Susie O'Brien chats with Justin about the current situation in schools regarding student behaviour and classroom management, with a recent senate inquiry suggesting that it's time to go back to basics and teach children how to behave at school.
In this episode:
A Senate Inquiry is Calling For a New 'Behaviour Curriculum' to Tackle Classroom Disruptions | Monash UniversityGetting back to basics with classroom behaviourExplicit Teaching Push in New Behaviour Curriculum | Education ReviewWhat do teachers want?Lack of support from principals and parentsRegressive or progressive?Related links:
The Calm Classroom [Webinar]One-Minute Wellbeing: 50 Quick Tips for Educators [Free Download]Boys, Girls, Brains, & Behaviour in the ClassroomFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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Three-year-olds are exhausting! Energetic, emotionally reactive, and uninhibited—all the things that can make a parent begin to question if their child has ADHD! Today, Dr Justin looks at the developmentally normal behaviours of a three-year-old and shares four things they need in order to learn, grow, and thrive.
Plus, three tips for neurodivergent parents trying to hold it all together while navigating the chaos of family life and struggling with their own ADHD.
In this episode:
ADHD, ODD, or just three?Developmental Milestones - PreschoolersLittle People, Big Feelings (Webinar)What Your Child Needs From YouWhy saying "use your words" isn't helpfulTheory of mindDiagnosing ADHDWhat 3-year-olds needNeurodivergent parentsChallenges of ADHD as an adultHelp For the ADHD Parent - from the Happy Families team.
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Parenting an ADHD ChildWomen in Australia with ADHD - FB support groupADHD Mums - Australian resource and podcast.
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Are you overthinking family meals? Do you want a little more peace and a lot less chaos at the dinner table? How can a family dinner fit in amongst work commitments and extra-curricular activities? We take a look at the research behind what was once considered the norm - family dinners, and share some tips to ease the pressure.
In this episode:
San Remo market researchChaos of mealtimesYOYO (You're On Your Own) nightScreens and mealtimesExtra-curricular activities for kids AND parents are impacting family meals5 tips to ease the pressureAre we overthinking family meals? 5 realistic tips to ease the pressure | The Conversation Rituals of connectionRelated links:
Eat Right Without a Fight - E-BookHow do I Get My Child to Eat Healthy Food Without the Power Struggles?How to Banish Tech and Make Mealtimes MatterMenu Planner [Free Download].
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We know that giving children access to social media and devices is not in their best interests. Our children deserve—and need—a play-based childhood. Join the village today and “Unplug Childhood” with us!
In this episode:
"It was the damn phones" by Kori Jane | Instagram
The “Unplug Childhood” movement
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, by Jonathan Haidt
Make some noise and get on board!Why this mattersNo social media before age 13Give kids a play-based childhoodMake the pledge todayRelated links:
Our Phones Are Wrecking UsKids Need Smart Parents Not Smart Phones.
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In between homeschooling, 7 seasons of House, and a lot of travel, Justin and Kylie still managed to do some reading this month. Listen in to hear reviews of a classic children's book, a terrifying, heartbreaking YA novel, a disappointing flop filled with falsehoods, a warts and all memoir, and a contender for book of the year!
Kylie's books:
This Is Where it Ends, by Marieke Nijkamp 4.5/5Charlotte’s Web, by E.B White 5/5Justin's books:
Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up, by Abigail Shrier 3/5Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class, by Rob Henderson 5/5Time to Think: The Inside Story of the Collapse of the Tavistock's Gender Service for Children, by Hannah Barnes 75/5.
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Life can be really challenging for neurodivergent kids growing up in a world where they don't seem to fit in. Justin speaks with two authors about their fabulous books, and why representation in literature is so important for our children.
Square Me, Round World by Chelsea Luker is a collection of short stories describing what life can feel like when you are a person growing up in a world not built for you and Wonderfully Wired by Stacey Lucas-Toumbourou celebrates the strengths and differences of 100 neurodivergent individuals who changed the world
In this episode:
Square Me, Round World, by Chelsea Luker | BooktopiaThe importance of representationRaising neurodivergent childrenWonderfully Wired, by Stacey Lucas-ToumbourouRelated links:
Championing Neurodiversity: Helping Your Child Thrive in a Neurotypical World [Webinar]'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' with Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence [The Course]Parenting an ADHD Child7 Insights for Parents of Autistic Children | Chris BonnelloFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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Screen struggles are something that every family is dealing with - and not just with the kids! We share some small changes you can make to help you find a healthier and more balanced relationship with your phone.
Does it feel like your child knows exactly which buttons to push to trigger you? News flash: YOU are the only one that can choose how YOU respond! Learn how to increase your competence (and confidence!) in holding personal boundaries and regulating your own emotions, and watch your relationship with your child improve in the process.
In this episode:
We Are Social 2023 Digital ReportHow to turn your phone screen to grayscaleParental triggersNeurodiversitySetting and respecting boundariesThe 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People, Stephen CoveyYou choose your responseParenting competenceBuilding relationshipsRelated links:
#565 Pushing Our ButtonsWhy Our Kids Need Us to Set LimitsHow To Be Less Tired#379 How I Work with Amantha Imber#240 Phones & Family Life with Dr Kathryn ModeckiFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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Dr Justin’s 3 E’s (explore, explain, and empower) are the pillars of autonomy-supportive parenting. But there are times when they just do not work (we are all only flawed humans after all!). Today's tips will help you calmly and confidently navigate through the heat of these challenging moments.
In this episode:
The 3 Es of Effective Discipline: Explore, Explain, and EmpowerSelf-determination theoryBasic psychological needs of every humanRelatedness, competence, autonomyNeed-supportive parentingHigh emotions = low intelligenceBeing ok with our children's discomfortPatience and practiceFast is slow, and slow is fastNeurodiversityTurn towards your child in challenging timesRelated links:
The Parenting Revolution, by Dr Justin CoulsonThe Secret to Regulating EmotionsHow to Fix a Problem ChildLittle People, Big Feelings [The Free Webinar]Find us on Facebook or TikTok
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Connecting with your teenager on their terms gives you the opportunity to engage with their world in a meaningful way. Being on the same digital platforms as your child allows for greater understanding, better conversations, and stronger connections, keeping them safe along the way.
In this episode:
Connection - feeling seen, heard, and valuedThe joy of Snapchat filtersUnderstanding our teenager's worldDoing housework with your childDaddy-daughter datesRelated links:
Miss-Connection 7 Day Connection Challenge [Free Download]Miss-Connection: Why Your Teenage Daughter “Hates” You, Expects the World, and Needs to Talk, by Dr Justin CoulsonYou Did WHAT on Snapchat?!Settle Down About SelfiesFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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'Gentle Parenting' is a mindset with an emphasis on the child’s feelings. It may sound lovely and calm, but in reality, this "way of being" has a tendency to indulge emotions at the expense of effective family functioning, leaving parents feeling like they are hanging on for dear life—exhausted, incompetent, and emotionally drained!
Justin and Kylie share four essential steps for parenting gently in a way that ensures our children feel safe, secure, and loved.
In this episode:
Defining "gentle parenting"Parental Guidance Season 1Different parenting stylesGentle parenting the polar opposite of authoritarian“The Rise of the Accidentally Permissive Parent
Anne Pezalla – Gentle Parenting Can Be Really Hard On Parents | The ConversationJohn Gottman - Raising An Emotionally Intelligent ChildEmotion coaching gone wrongIndulging emotions at the expense of all elseAutonomy-supportive parentingKind and present parentsBoundaries and limitsRelated links:
Emotion Coaching | The WebinarThe Secret to Regulating EmotionsWhat’s Your Parenting Style? - Happy Families QuizFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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Reflecting on 1000 episodes of Australia’s leading parenting podcast, we cover the highs and the lows of family life, from farewells to celebrations and everything in-between.
Today’s episode is a celebration of Kylie's big heart, Justin's big brain, the best of some really bad jokes, and of course, you, our wonderful listeners—our Happy Families family!
(With a special appearance from Hamish Blake!)
Related links:
#282 Better Together#562 The Pursuit of Happiness#853 Developing Yourself or Finding Yourself?10 Things Every Parent Needs To Know - Happy Families.
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Anonymous asks, "My 3-year-old is asking questions about his absent father. How do I answer in a way that supports my young son's mental health and self-esteem?". Justin gives examples of a healthy and developmentally appropriate response to this difficult situation in a way that honours the father, supports the child, and also advocates for our anonymous listener.
Lisa, from Canada, is concerned that catching the school bus will potentially expose her 11-year-old daughter to explicit material. Justin shares some suggestions that will help every parent safely lead their child along the path to independence.
In this episode:
Single parentAbsent fatherMental health Answering sensitive questions age appropriatelyHonesty and transparencyChildren need to feel safe, secure, lovedBuilding independence, confidence & self-efficacyCocooning, pre-arming, deferenceThe Three E's (Explore, Explain, Empower).
Related links:
How Do I Support My Daughter Now That I'm Divorcing? - Happy FamiliesPornography Is The New Public Health Crisis - Happy Families#898 Porn-Proofing Your Kids, with Kristen JensonCreating Confident Kids - Happy FamiliesNavigating Your Teen's Quest For Independence - Happy Families.
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There is a growing movement to commit to giving our primary-aged children unplugged childhoods! Dr Justin shares four things you can do NOW to give your children a play-based childhood, free from digital distractions and social media.
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In this episode:
How would an enforcement even work?CensorshipAge-verification for social mediaImportance of holding platforms accountableA movement to keep smartphones and social media out of primary schoolUnplugged childhoodKids need smart parents not smart phonesRelated links:
Tech Giants Are Anti-Kids - Happy Families#991 This Week In Parenting: Vape Zones, Baby Bans, & Nicotine Pouches How Do I Get My Daughter To Drop Social Media And Study For Exams? - Happy FamiliesSocial media has the “exact same negative effect on depression” as eating potatoes | QuartzFind us on Facebook or TikTok
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