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Worried about family comments on your child’s ADHD? The judgmental questions, the unsolicited advice, the pressure to explain your choices - it’s a lot.
Get the guide: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others Get It is available on the website, filled with practical tips for advocating for your child while protecting your peace.
This episode is here to help you:
Respond calmly, even when caught off guard.Set boundaries that stick (without second-guessing yourself).Protect your peace and your child’s confidence.Whether you’re bracing for the next family gathering or still processing the last one, you’ll find practical strategies to handle these moments with clarity and confidence.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between genuine curiosity and someone just stirring the pot - and where to draw the line.
Hit play for tools you can use right now to feel more prepared, more empowered, and less alone.
Related Episode:
S02E50: Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking FreeWhat to Listen Next:
S02E46: ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse ShoppingS02E48: Running Out of Time: Why ADHD Mums Feel Overwhelmed at Christmas (and How to Fix It!)S02E49: Christmas Chaos: Hacks for Surviving Family Drama, Sensory Overload, and Picky Eaters!BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS
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Sick of saying yes when you really want to say no? People-pleasing feels like keeping the peace, but it leaves you exhausted, resentful, and avoiding people you care about. If you’re ready to stop the cycle, protect your energy, and show your kids healthy boundaries - this episode is for you.
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Timestamps (approx.)
2 mins: People-pleasing isn’t a flaw - it’s how you learned to survive in a world that doesn’t get your brain.4 mins: Why is people-pleasing so hard to shake? Let’s break it down.6 mins: 3 reasons to stop people-pleasing - and a painfully relatable example of what happens when you don’t.10 mins: Building your boundary muscle: Start small, say no with confidence, and stay strong when the pushback comes.18 mins: Your kids are watching. Show them that standing up for themselves is not just okay - it’s essential.20 mins: Setting a boundary is step one. Sticking to it is where the magic happens. Here’s how to avoid ‘boundary creep.’Resources:
Sensory-Friendly Holiday Ideas: Need to create calm during chaos? Explore fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets in my Affiliate Amazon Shop.
The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique: A quick grounding exercise to manage emotional overwhelm.
Box Breathing Technique: Learn how to use this simple method to regulate stress in under a minute.
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Still not sure if you have...
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Christmas - it’s the season of joy, right? Well, not always. Between the family drama, overwhelming sensory triggers, and the constant pressure to create magical moments, the holidays can feel more like chaos than cheer. For neurodivergent mums, it’s even trickier to juggle routines, expectations, and everything in between.
Timestamps (approx):
1 min: Why family tensions skyrocket at Christmas - and how to handle unspoken expectations before they spiral.2 mins: Guilt-free boundaries that actually stick: How to say no with kindness and protect your energy.6 mins: Beating sensory overload: Quiet corners, calm kits, and simple strategies to keep things manageable.10 mins: Picky eaters and Christmas lunch. 14 mins: Handling criticism with confidence: What to say (or not say) when Aunt Karen gets passive-aggressive.18 mins: Simplifying the season: Why connection and small traditions matter more than picture-perfect holidays.This isn’t about creating a Pinterest-worthy Christmas - it’s about making the season work for your family, with all its quirks and chaos.
Resources
Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Concept: A mindset tool to let go of controlling others. Learn more on the Mel Robbins Podcast.Calm Kits for Sensory-Friendly Holidays: Stock up on fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets. Shop on Jane’s Affiliate Amazon Shop.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS
If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!
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Key Topics covered in this ep: Christmas family drama Holiday sensory overload Picky eaters at
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The holiday season is supposed to be magical, but for many ADHD mums, it can feel like a chaotic, relentless sprint. Between managing school events, last-minute gift shopping, and endless holiday prep, it's easy to become overwhelmed and exhausted. In this episode, I go beyond the usual holiday tips and dive into proven strategies tailored for neurodivergent mums to help you reclaim your sanity and rediscover joy during the festive season.
What I cover in this episode:
Outsmart your brain’s tendency to underestimate tasks and avoid the classic holiday scramble.Simplify gift wrapping, school event prep, and more - all without burning out.Identify the three key tasks that truly matter this season and feel empowered to let go of everything else (including the spring cleaning!).Learn how to sidestep common pitfalls like overcommitting, freezing under pressure, and chasing unrealistic expectations.Discover how to delegate effectively, use basic tools without falling into the "perfect app" trap, and leverage your support network.What To Listen To Next:
S02E47: ‘Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse Shopping [Solo Episode] with Jane McFaddenResources Mentioned:
Buy Prepaid Satchels Online - Australia Post: Simplify your holiday shipping by purchasing prepaid satchels in bulk (not sponsored or affiliated).
BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS
If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!
CONNECT WITH ME...
If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format.
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Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).
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EXTRA RESOURCES:
Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources
Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/
Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD mums Neurodivergent parenting Holiday overwhelm Christmas planning tips Time management strategies Gift wrapping hacks Managing...
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Ever wondered what happens when someone without ADHD takes ADHD medication? You’ve probably heard the rumours - instant focus, super-productivity, maybe even a “magic pill” for getting things done. But what’s the truth?
A Guide to ADHD Medication: Find practical advice, answers to FAQs, and tips for tracking progress with ADHD medication.
In this episode, we explore the surprising science behind how these meds work for neurodivergent brains versus neurotypical ones. Spoiler: it’s not what you think. We’re also tackling the myths that fuel doubt for so many navigating their diagnosis - and sharing real-life insights to help you feel more confident about your journey.
Hit play and find out:
Why ADHD medication isn’t the productivity hack people think it is.What really happens in the brain when you take it.How these meds can transform the way neurodivergent minds tackle daily life.The hidden risks for people without ADHD.Why tracking your progress matters.Signs that your medication is working.Resources Mentioned:
A Guide to ADHD Medication: Find practical advice, answers to FAQs, and tips for tracking progress with ADHD medication.Join the Facebook Group: Be part of the ADHD Mums Podcast community - a supportive space to connect and share with other neurodivergent parents.Follow on Instagram: Get daily insights, relatable stories, and updates straight to your feed.Related Episodes:
S01E65: From Skeptic to Advocate: Medication for Children
S012E38: How ADHD medication revealed my Autistic traits
S02E40: ADHD Medication: Stimulants vs. Non Stimulants
Disclaimer: This episode shares general insights and should not replace advice from your healthcare professional.
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The holidays are here, and if your spending habits feel like they’ve gone rogue, you’re not alone. Whether you’re a serial online shopper or someone who’s mastered the art of hiding packages from loved ones, this season has a way of making impulse buying feel unavoidable.
As someone who hates the chaos of shopping centres and has a delivery driver who might know me by name, I get it. Christmas can be a minefield of social expectations, emotional triggers, and last-minute stress that sends us straight into overspending territory. But here’s the good news: you can navigate this season without blowing the budget - or your sanity.
This episode is packed with real-life stories and practical tips for managing your spending. You’ll hear about:
Why the ADHD brain loves impulsive buying and how time blindness and dopamine-seeking behaviours play a role.Emotional triggers like guilt, perfectionism, and social pressure that turn “just one gift” into a cart full of purchases.Simple, actionable strategies to take back control.The reality that your kids (and even your in-laws) will likely remember the moments you share, not the price tags on their gifts.Looking for gift ideas? Check out my Recommended Products + Gift Ideas for a mix of thoughtful and fun picks that are perfect for the holiday season. These are items I genuinely love and think you will too!
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Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end).
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Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources
Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/
Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD and impulse shopping Neurodivergent spending habits Holiday budgeting tips Managing emotional spending Christmas gift ideas ADHD-friendly gift guide Overspending during the holidays Mindful shopping strategies ADHD mums and money management Tips for avoiding impulse buys Budgeting for Christmas Neurodivergent-friendly
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Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where your needs always seem to come second? Or maybe you’ve wondered why some women, especially neurodivergent ones, end up in toxic relationships time and time again. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a colleague, or even a family member, understanding how narcissists operate can help you protect yourself and reclaim your sense of self-worth.
This episode tackles those difficult questions with compassion and clarity, exploring the hidden patterns that keep us stuck and how to break free.
Timestamps (approx):
2 mins: The trap of love bombing: why it feels so good at first and how it keeps you stuck in a toxic cycle.
4 mins: How childhood experiences with narcissistic parents or caregivers shape the relationships we seek as adults.
8 mins: Spotting manipulation tactics like blame-shifting, emotional hot potato, and gaslighting - and how to protect yourself.
12 mins: Steps to break the cycle: creating a safe exit plan, building a support network, and finding your way back to yourself.
This isn’t about pointing fingers or placing blame - it’s about helping you see the patterns, make sense of your experiences, and take back control of your life.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses topics like abuse, manipulation, and toxic relationships, which may be distressing to some listeners. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
Related Episode:
S02E28: Protecting Vulnerable Women: Addressing the Crisis of Sexual Assault with Tanya Hicks
Support and Help Lines
- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)
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Family and domestic violence doesn't stop at home - it has a significant impact on workplaces too. That’s why I’m so grateful to have Laurie Arrowsmith from White Ribbon Australia back on the podcast. Laurie shares practical insights on how workplaces can foster safety, support, and equality for all employees.
As a Senior Workplace Programme Specialist, Laurie has spent over a decade working with both survivors and perpetrators, creating programmes that drive meaningful change.
Key Takeaways:The Workplace as a Safe Space: For many, work offers respite from domestic challenges. Learn how supportive policies can protect and empower employees.Economic and Cultural Impact: Domestic violence costs businesses billions annually. Discover strategies to minimise absenteeism and support wellbeing.Empowering Action: Embedding gender equality and providing training ensures workplaces are part of the solution.Supportive Policies: Understand the importance of family violence leave and how discreet workplace resources can make a difference.Workplaces have a unique opportunity to champion safety, equality, and empowerment. Through proactive policies and leadership, they can make a lasting difference.
TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
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Support and Help Lines
If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.
- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277
- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counselling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491
- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321
- Women’s Health Centres:...
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**This audio has been replaced with a solo key take away messaging from Jane due to issues with audio quality** - Please email [email protected] if you would like a copy of the original audio - it is scratchy which for those with noise sensitivity was difficult to listen to**
Domestic Violence is one of those topics that’s so much more complicated than it seems from the outside. This week, I sat down with Elyse Nauta for a second time, and as always, she brought incredible insight. Elyse has 15 years of experience in child protection, working everywhere from metro areas to remote regions like the Kimberleys. We explored the big question: why don’t women just leave? Spoiler: it’s not as simple as it sounds.
Key topics covered:
The Complexity of StayingThe Subtle Grip of Coercive ControlThe Cycle That Keeps Victims HopingUnderstanding Why Perpetrators ActBarriers That Make Leaving So HardHow We Can HelpElyse paints a vivid picture of what life can look like for women caught in these situations. Her insights remind us that understanding the ‘why’ behind someone staying in an abusive relationship is key to offering real support.
TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
Related Episodes
Coercive Control and Lived Experience Episode
Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Statistics Referenced
Who are the Perpetrators? Why am I using the term men? The Australian data shows that 75% of domestic violence perpetrators are men: Perpetrator Statistics
Support and Help Lines
If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.
- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364...
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Friendships can be tricky, especially when navigating neurodivergence. As parents, we often wonder how to help our kids make meaningful connections, set healthy boundaries, and deal with social challenges.
That’s why I brought in the one and only Bec Sparrow A.K.A. Australia’s Friendship Whisperer. With two decades of experience as a writer, speaker, and advocate for connection, Bec has helped countless parents, teens, and schools understand what it takes to create meaningful, lasting friendships. Her passion for belonging shines through in this episode, where she shares insights drawn from both her professional expertise and her lived experiences.
We explore:
Friendship as a skill: Why friendships aren’t instinctive for everyone and how to teach kids (and yourself) to build meaningful connections step by step.Setting boundaries with confidence: Practical tips for helping kids say no and communicate their needs without guilt.Spotting red flags in friendships: Bec uses Dr Brené Brown’s BRAVING framework to break down the key elements of trust and healthy relationships.Handling conflict with kindness: How to navigate disagreements without creating unnecessary drama.Expanding social circles: Why building friendships outside of school is essential for resilience and avoiding negative peer pressure.More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/
Related Episode:
S02E35: ADHD and Autistic Friendships with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett
Resources Mentioned:Follow Bec on Instagram: @rebeccasparrow72Find more resources, articles, and info on Bec’s online programs: https://rebeccasparrow.com/ Get Bec Sparrow’s latest book: Out of the BoxDr Brené Brown’s Podcast about the BRAVING acronym: The Anatomy of TrustListen to Bec on the Parental as Anything TEENS podcastBOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS
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Today, we're diving into an important yet often difficult topic - what women need to consider for safety and support when thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. Laurie from White Ribbon Australia is a leading voice in domestic violence prevention and intervention. At White Ribbon Australia, she manages the Workplace Accreditation Program, fostering safer spaces for women and families. Laurie has dedicated her career to reducing violence, supporting survivors, and holding perpetrators accountable. Laurie’s here to walk us through those essential first steps, sharing insights that could make a world of difference.
Timestamps (approx):
1 min – Key steps to consider before leaving an abusive relationship, including understanding the risks and preparing for safety.4 mins – Creating an escape plan with essentials like a “go bag” and securing digital privacy.7 mins – The role of support networks in combating isolation and offering safety when planning to leave.10 mins – Legal protections: applying for intervention orders and working with domestic violence officers for added safety.12 mins – Importance of seeking legal advice and considering mediation as an alternative to family court.17 mins – Exploring options to remain in the home safely by legally removing the partner through sole occupancy orders.20 mins – Recognising manipulation tactics like “love bombing” and the importance of reaching out for guidance.TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
Let’s be real - we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Important Links
Daisy App – A free app developed by 1800RESPECT that provides local support service information while protecting user privacy.
Escaping Violence Payment – Financial assistance up to $5,000 for women experiencing family violence, available through organisations like Uniting and Wesley Mission.
Government Financial Assistance – Support payments like Parenting Payments, Single Income Family Supplement, and Family Tax Benefits A and B for single parents and families.
Support and Help Lines
If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be...
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Commonly known as the ‘queen of common sense,’ Maggie Dent is one of Australia’s most beloved parenting authors, educators, and podcasters. And I finally had the chance to catch up with Maggie!
More resources can be found here: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources
Maggie’s down-to-earth stories and no-nonsense advice will leave you feeling ready to take on the rollercoaster ride of parenting teens. From dealing with slammed doors and one-word answers to navigating school dramas and social pressures, Maggie breaks it all down with heart, humour, and a whole lot of understanding. This is your go-to episode for parenting teens with love, patience, and a sprinkle of laughter when it’s needed most.
Note: This episode includes a brief mention of suicide.
Key Topics Covered:
What’s happening during adolescence and how it shapes emotions, decisions, and behaviour.How to connect with your teen through unconditional love, patience, and understanding - even in challenging moments.Tailored tips for kids with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits to help them build confidence and resilience.Strategies for supporting teens through tough times with compassion instead of conflict.How to set healthy boundaries for screen time, improve sleep, and guide teens in navigating today’s digital challenges.Plus a whole lot more!Resources mentioned:
Follow Maggie on Instagram: @maggiedentauthorFind more resources, articles, and info on Maggie’s workshops and speaking events: https://www.maggiedent.com/ Get Maggie’s Latest Book, Help Me Help My Teen: https://www.maggiedent.com/shop/help-me-help-my-teen/ Follow Maggie on her popular podcast Parental As Anything and her new series The Good Enough Dad.BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS
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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including domestic violence, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. It includes real-life accounts from survivors that may be distressing. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
In this episode, I speak with Elyse Nauta, who has supported DV families across both metro and regional areas, and is a mum to a neurodivergent daughter. Elyse shares her professional knowledge from working in child protection for over 15 years to talk about the tough, often hidden reality of life after leaving an abusive relationship:
Leaving Isn’t Always the End: Even after women find the courage to leave, some abusers still find ways to control from afar, especially through kids or by twisting legal systems in a tactic called systems abuse. Elyse helps us understand what that looks like in real life.The Power of a Good Support System: From Elyse’s experience, having just one trusted friend or family member to lean on can make a world of difference. We talk about why support can be the key to helping women rebuild their confidence and sense of security.Financial and Legal Hurdles: Family Court and co-parenting come with their own challenges, especially when the ex has more financial control. Elyse shares insights on why this can feel like an uphill battle for many women.Raising Boys with Better Tools: We dive into why teaching boys healthier ways to handle emotions matters. Elyse believes that showing them what positive relationships look like can help create a safer future for everyone.Let’s be real: we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Important Links:
Dr. Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men: Listen to Dr. Billy Garvey talk about the importance of guiding boys toward positive masculinity on The Imperfects Podcast: Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men
Support and Help Lines:
If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing. I don't want to create resources on a website with no 'quick exit' function. A quick exit function on domestic violence (DV) websites is designed to protect individuals who may be in immediate danger while seeking help or information online. Many victims of DV are closely monitored by their abusers, including their online activities. The quick exit button allows users to leave the website instantly and redirects them to a neutral site, like a search engine, with one click.
- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counselling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
- Relationships Australia: Offers counselling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277...
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In today’s episode, I welcome back Claire Britton, a neurodivergent OT with a wealth of experience supporting ADHD and neurodivergent families. Claire brings a unique, practical perspective on managing ADHD - think habit-stacking, body doubling, and dopamine menus! She shares insights on evidence-backed strategies that have helped her clients and breaks down why some popular approaches might not be the best fit for everyone.
Claire and I also explore her thoughts on:
Building ADHD-friendly routines that are easier to stick toWhy neurodiversity-affirming strategies can make a difference in day-to-day lifeThe difference between "shoulds" and "coulds" Outdated or non-neurodiversity-affirming approaches to be cautious aboutThe role of perfectionism and how it impacts parents’ self-compassionStrategies for being honest about your needs to avoid social exhaustionNeurodivergent communication styles, like the “dramatic” expression of emotionsDouble empathy: understanding neurotypical vs. neurodivergent communicationThe challenges and benefits of unmasking emotionsHow society’s expectations can shape ADHD experiences, especially for children and womenCreating a versatile “toolbox” of ADHD strategies, customised to individual needs, with an emphasis on flexibility over rigid rulesIf you’re looking for fresh ideas or just a conversation that makes you feel seen, Claire’s perspective might just give you a few tools and insights to explore. I enjoyed chatting with Claire again and hope you find some value here too!
Resources Mentioned:
Follow Claire on Instagram: @neuroinclusion.auLearn more about Claire’s work at NeuroInclusionAustralasian ADHD Professionals Association Clinical Guidelines: Comprehensive guidelines for evidence-based ADHD management. Read hereBody Doubling Platforms: Explore these online tools for accountability and focus:Deepwrk – Virtual coworking for ADHD supportFlow Club – Community-guided focus sessionsCofocus – One-on-one virtual sessions for productivityDopamine Menu: Learn about Claire’s ADHD self-regulation strategy on her Instagram or website.Related Episode:
Episode with Claire Britton on Executive Function Challenges in ADHD: Strategies for Success — Apple | Spotify
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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
This episode is part of our Domestic Violence Mini-Series, and today we focus on a critical and often overlooked topic: workplace violence and emotional abuse.
In this episode, we discuss the intersection of workplace violence and domestic violence, exploring how power imbalances can manifest both at work and at home. We share a lived experience from a brave woman who faced workplace bullying and emotional abuse, shedding light on how these subtle but harmful behaviors can deeply affect mental health and productivity.
We explore:
The hidden nature of workplace emotional abuseThe similarities between domestic violence and workplace bullyingStrategies for addressing and preventing violence in professional environmentsWorkplace and domestic violence are often connected, reinforcing each other through the unequal power dynamics at their core. Our goal is to bring these issues into the light, fostering understanding and encouraging solutions for a safer, more equitable world.
Let’s be real—we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of emotional abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Support and Help Lines:
If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, reaching out to professionals can be life-changing.
1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counseling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
Relationships Australia: Offers counseling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277
Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counseling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491
Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321
Women’s Health Centres: Specialized support for women affected by domestic violence, including counseling and medical services. Contact your local center.
In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)
Legal Protection Orders
If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.
Tech Safety Tips
For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the eSafety Commissioner for guidance on how to protect yourself from tech-facilitated abuse.
References
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In this episode of ADHD Mums, I chat with Vanessa Anlezark, a 39-year-old Registered Nurse and Mum, about her experiences managing chronic health conditions, including EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome) and POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome).
Vanessa's journey highlights the importance of self-advocacy, finding the right healthcare team, and connecting with a supportive community. Her story sheds light on the realities of navigating multiple diagnoses and the resilience it takes to manage neurodiversity alongside chronic conditions.
Key Takeaways:
Understanding EDS and POTS: Vanessa breaks down what Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and POTS are, explaining their impact on the body and their connection to neurodivergent conditions like ADHD and Autism. The Diagnosis Journey: With no genetic markers for hEDS, diagnosis can be difficult. Vanessa discusses the 2017 diagnostic criteria, the challenges of misdiagnosis, and the empowering nature of knowledge, even when no cure exists.Advocacy in Healthcare: From facing medical gaslighting to seeking specialised care, Vanessa shares practical advice on advocating for yourself or loved ones in the healthcare system.Finding Support and Community: Vanessa emphasises the importance of connecting with others, whether through online support groups or specialists knowledgeable in hypermobility and autonomic disorders.Self-Diagnosis and Validation: For those struggling to get an official diagnosis, self-diagnosis can still provide validation and help in managing symptoms effectively.Mentioned Resources:
The Ehlers-Danlos Society – Visit WebsiteEDS Diagnostics 2017 (Note: This criteria can be used by any doctor for diagnosis) – Visit WebsiteThe Dysautonomia Project – Visit WebsiteThe Australian POTS Foundation – Visit WebsiteMast Cell Action – Visit WebsiteMast Attack – Visit WebsiteMast Cell Activation Syndrome & Dysautonomia - Dr. Lawrence Afrin – Watch VideoCONNECT WITH ME...
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In this Mini-Series, for this episode we dive deep into the painful reality of emotional abuse in families, especially in mother-child relationships. We speak with Jasmine (not her real name), who courageously shares her personal experience of enduring emotional abuse by her mother throughout her childhood and into adulthood.
TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including child abuse, physical and sexual abuse, and emotional trauma. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
This episode sheds light on:
What emotional abuse looks like in familial relationshipsThe long-term psychological impact of emotional manipulation and controlHow children in emotionally abusive homes may act and how difficult it can be to identify abusePractical signs to look for in children that may be silently suffering, and what we, as parents and community members, can do to offer supportJasmine's brave escape from her emotionally abusive home and how she reclaimed her lifeEmotional abuse doesn't leave physical marks, but its effects can be equally, if not more, damaging than other types of abuse. This episode is a powerful reminder that we must pay attention to the hidden struggles children face and create environments where they feel safe, loved, and supported.
Let’s be real—we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of emotional abuse or points them toward safety, it’s worth it. It’s not about perfection, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Support and Help Lines:
- 1800RESPECT: A national sexual assault, domestic, and family violence counseling service. Confidential and available 24/7. Call: 1800 737 732. Visit the Website
- Relationships Australia: Offers counseling, mediation, and support services. Call: 1300 364 277
- Men’s Referral Service: Support for men using family violence, offering confidential counseling and resources. Call: 1300 766 491
- Family Relationship Advice Line: Offers information and support for family separation, parenting arrangements, and more. Call: 1800 050 321
- Women’s Health Centres: Specialized support for women affected by domestic violence, including counseling and medical services. Contact your local center.
- In Immediate Danger: Call: Triple Zero (000)
Legal Protection Orders
If you need protection, apply for legal orders such as Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders (ADVOs) or similar orders in your state or territory.
Tech Safety Tips
For technology-related abuse, contact WESNET or visit the
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In this solo episode, I talk about a topic that's highly relevant for anyone navigating life as an ADHDer: the differences between stimulant and non-stimulant medications. Whether you're considering medication for yourself or your child, understanding your options and how they work is crucial.
For detailed info, check out A Guide to ADHD Medication on my website. This is for the mums who are fed up with the confusing advice and just want the facts about ADHD medication – no fluff, no jargon. Discover the different types of medications, how to choose the right one, and what to expect during the process. Learn how to monitor effectiveness, tackle common issues, and work with your healthcare provider to find the best fit for you or your child. This guide also addresses what to do if ADHD medication starts to make you more sensory sensitive, teary, or withdrawn, helping you recognise when it might be unveiling underlying Autistic traits.
Timestamps (approx):
2 mins: An overview of common stimulants like Adderall, Ritalin, and Vyvanse and how these medications affect the central nervous system to improve focus and energy3 mins: Debunking myths surrounding stimulants and addiction 6 mins: Options for those sensitive to stimulants or dealing with anxiety11 mins: Balancing trial and error in finding the right treatment13 mins: Common side effects of both stimulant and non-stimulant medications14 mins: Preparing for appointments with healthcare providersRelated Episode: From Skeptic to Advocate – Hear more about Jane’s journey in deciding to use ADHD medication for her children. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
Mentioned in This Episode: DNA Testing – for listeners interested in learning how their body might respond to different medications. (Note: This is an informational mention, not an endorsement)
Please note: The information provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. While the content is based on current knowledge and research, it may not reflect the most recent developments and does not consider individual medical circumstances. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider or medical professional before starting, stopping, or changing any medication or treatment plan.
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In this episode of ADHD Mums, I chat with Georgia Poletti Moulds, co-host of the Going Loco podcast. Georgia candidly shares her journey with bipolar and her recent realisation that she likely has inattentive ADHD, discovered through her son's diagnostic process.
Jane and Georgia discuss the challenges of distinguishing between bipolar and ADHD, especially when symptoms like hyperactivity, hyperfocus, and mood fluctuations can appear similar. They also touch on the impact of family history, the nuances of managing mental health during pregnancy, and the importance of advocating for oneself within the healthcare system.
Please Note: There is a brief mention of suicide in this episode.
Listen to Georgia on her Going Loco Podcast here
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If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here!
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TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast series discusses topics that may be distressing to some listeners, including lived experience recordings of attempted suicide. If you or someone you know is affected by these issues, please prioritise your well-being and consider listening to a different episode or proceed with caution. If you feel overwhelmed at any point, it's okay to take a break or seek support.
We cover the harrowing reality of maternal suicide, which tragically accounts for up to 20% of maternal deaths in Australia. You’ll hear deeply personal stories from two women, who bravely share their experiences with postpartum depression and suicidal thoughts. These stories are not just for mothers but for anyone who supports or knows a mother who may be struggling in silence.
We explore:
The overwhelming pressures of motherhood, especially for neurodivergent women.The silent struggles many mothers face, hidden behind smiles and societal expectations.How hormonal shifts, financial stress, lack of sleep, and relationship changes contribute to maternal depression.The importance of community, connection, and asking for help.How reaching out or recognising warning signs can prevent tragic outcomes.Let’s be real—we can’t change or cover everything in one podcast series. But what we can do is start the conversation. If this episode helps even one person recognise the signs of suicidal thoughts in a friend or encourages a mother to go and seek help then this has been worth it. It’s not about me perfectly covering all aspects of suicide, it’s about offering hope and shedding light on what’s often kept in the dark.
Related Episodes:
Mini Series: The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series
S1E45 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 1) - Anonymous Guest who gets real about what motherhood is for her and how little she enjoys itS1E64 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 2) - Kaitlyn Fawlkner S2E11 The Untold Struggles of Motherhood Series (Part 3) - with Lucy HollisterReferences:
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What does depression look like in Mums?
Support and Help Lines:
Here are some helplines and support services in Australia specifically for mothers struggling with suicidal thoughts or experiencing mental health challenges:
National Helplines for Suicidal Mothers:Lifeline: Phone: 13 11 14 - Website: www.lifeline.org.au - Lifeline offers 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services for anyone in distress, including mothers experiencing suicidal thoughts.
Beyond Blue: Phone: 1300 22 4636 - Website:
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