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Who Are You Really?
In this episode of Words With Myself, we discuss the identity of self and the paradox of identity. We identify with this perception of ourselves, this character curated for our consciousness to inhabit. But is that truly all you are, if you sit back and meditate it won't be long before you notice you are not the thinker of your thoughts, so who are you really?
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Sometimes I notice myself angered by those who seem to lack initiative and drive. It’s not my intention, but the ramifications of a deep-seated resentment dwelling beneath the surface. A disdain for those who abdicate the empty pursuit of perfection and are brave enough to relinquish their inner critic. Or, maybe it’s not a conscious effort at all. Perhaps it’s not a decision but simply a wound they never sustained.
Is that truly possible? To grow up with healthy surroundings and never pick up that chatty hitchhiker. You know who I’m referring to don’t you? That incessant, nagging voice forcing you back to the grindstone towards an ever-shifting ideal. One that’s vague and non-descript, one that only reveals the next steps after the current ones are climbed.
Are we simply to trust this? That the pursuit will eventually lead us to satisfaction. That one day, we will achieve enough, have enough or, be enough —to justify our existence. This constant need for progression, these endless goals and tiresome fights. Battles we can win, but a war that we have already lost. Some games you can lose just by playing.
These efforts aren’t entirely futile, we should all strive to be the best versions of ourselves, right? But the line is thin and difficult to draw. Intentions can be hard to decipher, especially when they are our own. Sometimes it can feel as though our ego is taking us for a ride, lashing out in self-defence and baraging us with constant tasks to obtain evidence that we are in fact, enough.
I often wonder, am I completing these assignments out of love or hate? Am I fueled by fear? A need to meet others’ expectations, a belief that only the infallible can be loved. But if this is true, does that mean nobody is? Everyone makes mistakes and we all have our flaws, so why treat ourselves as an exception? Why hold ourselves to this impossible standard?
It isn’t necessarily what we are doing that is the problem, but instead, the reasons why we are doing it in the first place. A virus that spreads as we look to others for approval, one that can only be remedied by accepting ourselves for who and what we are without separating ourselves from our dreams. To move forward not because we are not good enough, but to give ourselves the gift of fulfilling our purpose and walking our path.
This state can only be attained by letting go of our perceptions of what is good and bad, to free ourselves from dichotomy while embracing duality. These fundamental laws exist, there can be no doubt about that. But we need not rank, categorise and compare ourselves constantly. This only leads to suffering, a suffering that many never escape. Most succumb to this endless pursuit of perfection, driven by the idea that they will eventually get to a point b.
The cliche says that it isn’t about the destination but the journey, yet I pose there is no destination altogether. Only, imagined pitstops along the way, each carrying the promise of a better view to behold while blinding us to the present moment. Possibility may exist in tomorrow, but isn’t tomorrow also only a possibility? If all that captivates your mind are the next steps, how to progress to the next level or achieve the next goal, I am afraid you have lost the reason along the way.
Life is not to be lived as a series of never-ending challenges, it is not so much a game with objectives or levels, but an open-world sandbox where you get to decide how and what you contribute to make your life and the world around you interesting and beautiful. Unfortunately, the meaning of life is so simple it is rejected by most who come across it. The meaning of life is to live, to exist, to be and to explore. It is both inconsequential and immeasurably important, devoid of any inherent meaning yet meaningful in so many ways, it is not to fight duality nor dichotomy but rather to simply experience it. For the rules are what makes the game worth playing, and a game without rules is no game at all.
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Remember that thing? That thing you have always wanted to do but never had the confidence to do so?
This is an episode for those experiences crying for help, desperately awaiting your courage to step out of fear and embrace them.
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Welcome to episode 7 of the Words With Myself podcast, where we discuss life's everyday mysteries. This episode is about perception, capturing the essence of the saying 'looking at life through rose-tinted glasses', and how our experiences and emotional states dramatically shape how we see the world.
Join us as we delve into the fascinating concept of differing perceptions, evidenced in our day-to-day experiences. We talk about riding a roller coaster as an analogy, emphasizing how different individuals may experience the same event in entirely different ways based on their internal make-up or emotional state.
We further discuss how your emotional state can either enhance or ruin your day. From experiencing negative emotions due to minor inconveniences or letting traffic ruin your day, to focusing on the positives and appreciating the beauty of life, we analyze how different perspectives impact our overall experience.
The episode further explores how one can almost become imprisoned in a negative state, perceiving everything as hopeless and gray, purely based on the emotional lens they choose to wear. We ponder on how one's perspective clicks together when things go right and how doubt sets in when things go awry, illustrating the impact of our mental state on our perceptions.
We also delve into how clouded perspectives from the past or future can prevent us from enjoying the present moment. As we guide you through a more mindful way of thinking, we stress the importance of focusing on what is happening right now to shift your present disposition positively.
In the light of psychology, spirituality, and philosophy, we indicate how we often create our own form of hell by scrutinizing and punishing ourselves, eventually leading us into a dark cloud of distorted reality.
In sum, we invite you to reflect on these 'glasses' that you wear – how your past experiences and emotional state may be blurring your perception of reality. This episode will encourage you to shift your perspective, challenge your perception, and experience life in a new and more enriching way.
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Welcome to a thought-provoking episode of 'Words With Myself' where we venture into the delicate balance between feelings and actions in pursuing our goals. Drawing from a personal tale of triumph in the face of discomfort, this episode emphasizes the importance of perseverance, endurance, and commitment.
In this reflective narrative, the speaker embarks on a stroll in the woods, against the backdrop of inclement English weather. Despite the gloomy forecast and subsequent downpour, the speaker remains undeterred, choosing to continue the planned journey. A fortuitous change in climate sparks sunshine, transforming the initially grim journey into a vibrant walk in the woods.
This episode investigates the valuable insights that arise when feelings, while validated, do not immediately drive actions. Our emotions, although profound can sometimes trick us into opting for immediate gratification and overlook long term well-being. The speaker's resolution to continue the walk irrespective of her initial reluctance, beautifully demonstrates this paradox.
Our journey through life often mirrors this walk, filled with discomforts that test our resolve. Exploring this at length, the speaker urges listeners to champion their objectives even when they seem challenging, embracing the universe's tests, and steering clear of complacency.
Above all, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of staying committed to our goals, even when our immediate feelings suggest otherwise. By pushing through resistance and focusing on the bigger picture, the speaker suggests we can overcome hurdles, improve our overall satisfaction, and experience the rewarding life we desire.
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Welcome to another episode of 'Words with Myself'. In this episode, we take a deep dive into the realm of language and communication. We focus on examining the transformative power of words and how they shape our world, our perceptions and our very reality. Throughout history, words have portrayed significant importance, often mirroring the chants, spells and incantations of old, signifying an ability to manifest and shape our realities.
However, in contemporary society, careful articulation and thought-provoking speech patterns seem to be fading, replaced with slang and less precise, easily dismissed terminology. Language is rapidly evolving, but with shortened sentences and rapid speech, do we still uphold the same precision in our expressions? The episode sheds light on how our language prepares the lens through which we view the world.
We touch upon the many aspects of language, from its use in politics to emotional manipulation in film and music. With examples from George Orwell's '1984', we attempt to navigate the labyrinth of linguistic manipulation. We remind you that everything you say, and every word you use is akin to a spell, shaping your universe.
This episode also discusses the influence of self-deprecating language on our consciousness and encourages the flip of negative statements into positive ones. Equipped with examples from different walks of life, we inspire a change in outlook towards oneself and our world.
Join us as we delve deep into the power of words and their effect on our lives, outlining the importance of being mindful of what we say and how we say it. Our words, after all, are our magic!
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Join us for an insightful episode of Words With Myself, where we explore the importance of not just questioning external information, but also our internal beliefs. Wrapped in a continuous effort to decipher your truth, the episode emphasizes how our beliefs are subtly shaped by a lifetime of curated data from society, the internet, and the government.
We delve into the challenge of questioning deeply held beliefs and the emotional discomfort that comes along with it. It asserts that the defensiveness and agitation we experience when our beliefs are challenged, usually point towards beliefs we haven't truly internalized. We discuss the painful yet transformative experience of questioning those views, which might be rooting us in negativity or detrimental patterns.
In this episode, we illustrate this point with an intimate look at the struggle with depression. We confront the popular belief that it is an insurmountable, inborn affliction and explore an alternative viewpoint of depression as stuck trauma. It's a viewpoint that if realized much earlier, it could have spared much suffering.
By the end, we arrive at a ground-breaking insight. Not only do you often hold baseless beliefs, but questioning and investigating these beliefs, can lead to a profound change in your life.
So, tune in as we unlock the door to wisdom, by daring to unspool the threads of our belief system, questioning everything, especially ourselves.
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Welcome to another episode of 'Words With Myself', where we emphasize the importance of living in the present moment. Yet, it's not just about being in the now, but purposively being there. Today, we explore the power of intentional living—consciously deciding to pilot our own lives rather than just mechanically going through the motions.
This episode uncovers the potency of being intentional in your everyday activities. From listening to our podcast to your daily chores or meal times. We delve into the concept of presence and how it plays an integral role in shaping our attitude toward even simple daily events.
We discuss the consequences of detachment from our own actions and how often, we end up becoming observers of our existence rather than participants in our life. This episode sheds light on the transformative potential of being intentional in your actions, and how this can revolutionize your experiences, boost your understanding, and reinstate your connection with your life.
By pouring thoughtfulness into each action, ensuring every act has a purpose, you can not only enhance your experiences but also increase the appreciation for small joys in life. Take for instance, choosing to be intentional and present while walking or eating doesn't just improve the experience, but may potentially lead to improved health and happiness.
We urge you to reflect and audit your days, to bring more awareness to how you spend time. Recognize the choices you made, interactions you had, and their impact on shaping your day, and ultimately your life. This episode empowers you to ask the crucial question - Are you making the choices that you genuinely want to make? Listen in and take a step toward an intentionally driven life rooted in the present.
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Welcome to another episode of Words With Myself, a series dedicated to personal development and self-understanding. This episode narrates my journey from discovering who I am to realising the importance of having a clear vision.
Reflecting on my past year, it was a precious time of exploration and openness to new experiences. Wandering without a map and uncovering my true desires through the unknown allowed me to formulate a clear direction in life.
Understanding my desires and having developed the drive to pursue them, I recognise now, more than ever, the need to have a solid vision guiding my actions and choices. A sense of purpose can spotlight specific opportunities pivotal to achieving your goals. However, it is crucial to hold a flexible mindset and remain open to redirection as our desires might evolve with time.
Living in alignment with your values, following your desires instead of succumbing to external pressures, is the primary focus of this episode. The importance of envisioning and tirelessly striving for the life you love is discussed along with the negative impacts of living a life designed by others' expectations.
We also dive deep into the complicated dynamics of parental sacrifices and expectations and their consequential impact on a child's life. Emphasising the importance of having your children live the life they truly desire with no pressures or indebtedness.
If you find yourself stuck between duty and passion and discontented with your current life, remember, it's never too late for a change. Accepting your choices, taking responsibility, and making peace with them is your way to the life you truly want.
This episode is an assertive reminder that your life is entirely your own. How you decide to live every day counts. Embrace the power of choice confidently and wholeheartedly to bring about the life transformation you always sought.
Join us for an insightful discussion to gain a fresh perspective on life choices and realise the power of living in alignment with your true self.
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Welcome to this engaging episode of "Words With Myself," where I deeply reflect on my journey to personal fulfillment and self-appreciation. Through the lens of my experiences, I explore the highs and lows, the trials and triumphs, the pain, and the passion that have shaped my path.
Candidly casting a light on mental health challenges, I talk about my long periods of depression that made happiness seem unattainable for a long time. The turnabout is the result of a fiercely fought personal battle, countless challenges, heartaches, and getting up every time I fell. All of these have culminated in a life where I wake up happy and fulfilled, every day.
A critical lesson that I emphasize, often overlooked, is not only living in the present but also cherishing it. This concept is a significant antidote to negative tendencies, such as the constant pull towards a depressive state or a perpetual state of worry about what might go wrong in the future. The episode reiterates the essence of life - change and how to navigate through its unpredictability with peace and gratitude.
The narrative extends into relationships, where the fear of losing someone can turn into an unhealthy obsession, potentially sabotaging the relationship. The discussion plants the seeds of the Buddhist principle of non-attachment, emphasizing that without the fear of loss hovering over us, we can wholly and freely appreciate and celebrate our relationships.
In the final part of the episode, I delve into the merits of gratitude, even in instances when life seems uninspiring or challenging. There is always something, however small or significant, to be thankful for in life. It could be a challenging period, food, water, or even something as seemingly insignificant as a comfortable pillow.
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We all change, we learn new information, have different experiences, gain new insights, but could it be that we just grow closer to who we always were? I am not convinced the soul changes, I believe that our true selves are the constant, and that change happens at the level of the ego. Be open to change, but know that ultimately, all change should bring you closer in alignment with who you are, not further away.
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Sometimes, the tools we develop to protect ourselves, end up being the very things that hurt us the most. Our defence mechanisms were all developed at a point in time where we believed that it was the only way, our only choice. An important step in healing and growing is to understand that these things we once developed to protect ourselves, may not be suitable for you now and actually might be hurting you more than the initial situation that caused you to develop them.
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Part two of the communication episode is about the importance of your communication. How what you say, in turn, creates and affirms the beliefs that shape your reality.
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Living a free life is a life of sovereignty. Living your own life, on your terms, with your own beliefs and ideas, making your own choices. There is a responsibility that comes with this, you must be 100% accountable, and you must allow yourself to embrace your journey without benchmarking it against others. Set yourself free, and embrace acceptance in the truest form it needs to come, self-acceptance.
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Communication is a difficult thing to master, and much of our speech often reflects our attitude towards life. I am very careful about what I say, and I am often criticised for being too picky with language. But so much of how someone thinks and feels can be picked up from subtle cues in their speech, things they may not even know about themselves. Switching to accountable language is a fundamental first step to clear communication.
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We are living in a time where science is believed to negate ancient wisdom, that spirituality is nonsense and only for the unscientific. Yet more and more, we are seeing science coincide with ancient wisdom, not disprove it. The two do not have to be mutually exclusive, one does not disprove the other.
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Some Changes we can't make immediately, but does that mean we are just supposed to wait? Absolutely not! We need to do everything we can to prepare ourselves for the change to take place. Create space, Clear room, Know what to expect and what is required.
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From childhood, we are taught to look outside of ourselves to know whether our actions, the way we look, and the people we are are, is good enough. We are taught that external validation supersedes internal validation and that our feelings and thoughts are not as important as the thoughts and feelings of others. This is something we must move away from, to place ourselves back in the drivers seat and give ourselves the authority over our lives back.
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Motivation is unreliable, the best way to remain motivated is to take motivation out of the equation altogether. Motivation implies there is a choice, that you will do something depending on how you feel. Discipline is the art of doing something regardless of how you feel. Discipline allows you to be consistent, it ensures the work you need to do gets done. Motivation is great, but you can't depend on it.
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Feel the fear and do it anyway, is the underlying message of this episode. Acts of courage are not measured by external perception, but in internal conflict. The truest acts of bravery exist when someone overcomes the fear they feel in service of a noble cause. It is not about not feeling scared, or becoming someone that doesn't feel fear, but instead being someone capable of feeling afraid but being unwavering in the face of it.
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