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  • We’re back!

    CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment style both from a clinical standpoint and from a personal standpoint via CA’s experiences.

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    Notes:

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    Defining the four main attraction styles (Secure attachment, Anxious-ambivalent attachment, Anxious-avoidant, and Disorganized/disoriented attachment)

    Where all insecure attachment styles come from

    How does someone develop avoidant-attachment?

    Why opposite attachment styles seem to be attracted to one another

    CA’s journey as someone with avoidant-attachment style

    How avoidant-attachment shows up in relationships

    How to heal and form a healthy attachment style

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd

    Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

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  • Are dissociation and disengagement the same thing? Is it ever healthier to more or less walk away to protect yourself? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore both dissociation and disengagement, using the analogy of a snowstorm. Join us to discover when we need to tough it out, put on a coat, or stay inside. 
    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
    Notes:

    Emotional Support water bottles and missing walls

    The difference between consciously and respectfully disengaging and dissociation

    Is there a way to healthily disengage when there is too much pain?

    The mistakes we make while learning to protect ourselves in a good way

    What happens if the other person isn’t safe

    Learning to trust your limits in a healthy way


    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd

    Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.


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  • We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing

    What trauma healing really looks like

    Societal beliefs and trauma recovery

    Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds

    How it feels to shift out of survival mode

    How to approach recovery safely

    Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

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  • In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Sweater weather!

    Changing energy and changing seasons

    What are protective factors and how do they affect us?

    Beginning the process of processing trauma

    How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing

    What normal relationships look like

    The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Does religion own spirituality?

    What is spirituality?

    What is secular spirituality?

    An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality

    Fear-based spirituality and trauma

    The source of spiritual power

    Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Super cringy opening

    March Madness - but with kittens!

    What is cringe?

    What can cringe teach us?

    Is it weird or is it a social contract

    When do we begin to feel cringe?

    Where perception comes into play

    The link between cringe and trauma recovery

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

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  • Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer, Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of music, delve into profound discussions on faith, suffering, and self-acceptance, and gain valuable insights into the art of living in the moment. Audrey's wisdom and experiences make for a truly inspiring conversation you won't want to miss.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Introducing Audrey Assad

    The power of music - specifically with praise and worship music

    Being ok with not having an answer

    OCD and Black-and-White Thinking

    The relationships between Christianity and suffering

    The importance of radical self-acceptance

    Learning to just live for the sake of living

    Links:

    Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1

    https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YoXD8jlj6RZ2i3qyUytzr?si=235516c3dd384d13

    Audrey’s New Single: https://ffm.to/betteriscoming

    Her substack: https://thevioletfields.substack.com/

    Monica Martin: Go Easy Kid: https://open.spotify.com/track/50hN4KDpQILZpTejaifHZK?si=CWxhlOreT9aqcaAzgMVMlA

    Website: http://www.audreyassad.com

    Audrey’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/audreyassad

    The liturgists podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scrupulosity/id903433534?i=1000447501709

    Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hXrkFJoM55UKJY9COQsMw?si=Bv2Zj5pST6KrSKbx-AY7Lg

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

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  • Jaime and CA welcome McKay Orton, a natural beekeeper who has repeatedly gone viral to discuss beekeeping, nature, animals, mental health, and how they intersect.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Introducing McKay Orton

    Bee’s and mental health

    Nature, connection, and improving our wellbeing

    The frequency of curiosity

    Other animals who can help calm you down

    The importance of connecting with nature

    Honey talk

    Links:

    McKay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mckayjo

    McKay’s website: https://mckayjo.com/

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • CA puts Jaime in the hot seat to discuss Jaime's brand new book, "Toxic Relationship Recovery," which comes out tomorrow! Get a behind-the-scenes look at everything that went into writing (and recording) it before you pick it up yourself!

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Pre-order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    The story behind Jamie's book

    How did the title come about?

    Why Jaime used the word, "toxic"

    The importance of using the right language

    Describing the format of the book

    Who is the target audience


    Links:

    @Gendersauce’s post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Are intimacy and sex the same thing? Is skipping right into the “deeper conversations” a good way to create intimacy? How do we actually form intimate relationships with other people? Jaime and CA explore these questions and more as they take a deep dive into intimacy, what it is, how we build it, and why it’s so hard.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Pre-order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

    Notes:

    Roleplay time!

    Building intimacy versus trying to skip to it

    How do we build intimacy?

    Outs to intimacy

    Building emotional intimacy with yourself

    The dangers of getting too intimate too soon

    Misperceptions about intimacy

    Sex and intimacy

    How mundane conversations can lead to intimacy

    Links:

    @Gendersauce’s post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

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  • In this special bonus episode, CA and Jaime take a deep dive into the Jonah Hill text message situation to explore the importance of standards and boundaries, how and when to have conversations about them, standards versus control, and more.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jonah Hill, Sarah Brady Text Messages—Full Transcript: https://www.newsweek.com/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-text-messages-full-transcript-1812193

    Notes:

    Background on the Jonah Hill texts

    Why stating your boundaries and standards is actually a good thing

    The differences between boundaries and standards

    The importance of deciding what matters to you before it’s too late

    Core components of standards we should look at in a relationship

    How to have conversations about boundaries and standards

    Clarify! Clarify! Clarify!

    Looking at Jonah Hill’s texts

    Giving away the keys to the car

    Being celebrated vs tolerated

    Links:

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    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

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  • Can humor help us heal? Can a joke ever be “too dark?” Join Jaime and CA as they chat with comedian Myles Weber and explore the relationship between comedy and healing on this hilarious and insightful episode.

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Notes:

    Jaime and CA learn how to banter Always wear SPF Introducing Myles Weber Why Jaime is terrible at Dungeons and Dragons Why seeking out balance while healing is so important The importance of finding people who can be your “coping buddy” How Myles learned how to “read the room” professionally How Myles figured out how personal they should go Can you still be funny if you are no longer traumatized?

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: ⁠http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts Myles’ 1st Special: ⁠https://youtu.be/tPvT6_ICxbg Myles’ 2nd Special: ⁠https://youtu.be/0fbI8Rum58w Online Comedy Coaching: ⁠greenroomtalk.org Myles’ website: ⁠mylesweber.com Follow the podcast on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/ Jaime’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/ Jaime’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself CA’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/ CA’s Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected] International Suicide Hotlines: ⁠https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines National Suicide Hotline: Call:988 Text: 988 Website:⁠ https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
  • Suffering has a role in life, but what happens if it takes center stage? CA and Jaime explore how we can break free from looking at our trauma as a main fixture of our identity and learn to let our suffering be a part of who we are and not all of who we are.

    Notes:

    The role of suffering in our lives

    Suffering as “part of our lives” vs suffering as the goal

    Is suffering a path to holiness?

    Identifying ourselves with our baggage

    Learning to let go of our trauma story

    “Addiction Does Not Make the Artist”

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/

    “Rest is Resistance: A MANIFESTO” by Tricia Hersey: https://thenapministry.com/

    “Riptide” by Beartooth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zv3t0Fvgvik

    “Sunshine” by Beartooth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSy-VzkXr2k

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

    Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    In this incredibly personal and powerful episode, Jaime and CA explore the dark moments in our lives where it can seem impossible to see the light. They also discuss how to be there for someone in those moments, even when you are dealing with stuff yourself.

    **This episode covers sensitive topics like depression and suicidality. So, please don’t listen if you are not in a safe headspace. See the notes for resources.

    International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines

    National Suicide Hotline: Call: 988 Text: 988

    Website: https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

    Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

    Notes:

    When trauma specialists have trauma themselves

    The problem with putting people on a pedestal

    Why linear healing isn’t really a thing

    Being a witness to someone else’s darkness

    How to be there for someone during a dark time

    Witnessing your own darkness on social media

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

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  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    We often find ourselves offering help by way of the phrase, “let me know what I can do to help,” but have we ever stopped to think about how incredibly unhelpful that may be? Jaime and CA explore how to actually provide real support for people who are going through a tough time, for whatever reason, by not just making it easier on the person suffering, but by being proactive about it.

    Notes:

    Actually providing support vs providing intention to support

    Why “Let me know if you need anything” doesn’t work

    What if we want to help someone but can’t?

    How to proactively help people who are going through something

    Be brave enough to be wrong and take risks

    How to help without being taken advantage of

    How to help on a real, deep level

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

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  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA and Jaime continue their series on Neurodivergency by discussing how it impacts relationships, focusing on romantic partners. They discuss the importance of actually knowing yourself, how to properly communicate your needs, what acceptance looks like, and more in this dynamic discussion.

    Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41rYpF6FnCouWR6NzYDFb1?si=3100d2970c3c4458

    Notes:

    The importance of knowing yourself

    What overstimulation looks like

    How to describe overstimulation with analogies

    How to communicate your needs

    Why having a partner who can validate your needs is so important

    What acceptance and support really looks like

    How to identify when your self-advocacy is being challenged for the right reasons

    What if both partners are neurodivergent?

    How to have a conversation, not a competition

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

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  • Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime and CA begin a series on Neurodivergency by exploring through their own experiences what it is, comorbidities and how they can affect diagnosis, how neurodivergent brains and neurotypical brains think differently, and more.

    Notes:

    Just a reminder!

    What is a neurodivergent brain?

    Neurodivergence and comorbidities

    Why the criteria for symptoms of neurodivergence needs to change

    Examples of how comorbidities can affect a neurodivergent brain

    How do late-diagnosed people even find out?

    What neurotypical-minded people can do

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠[email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Go on social media and within two minutes you will come across dating advice. What if we took the best of that advice and directed it toward our relationship with ourselves? That sounds good on paper, but when it comes down to it, what does building a relationship with yourself look like? How do we do it? Jaime and CA are off this week, so our producer picked one of his favorite previous episodes of the show, “Date Yourself.” Enjoy!Notes:

    What does building a relationship with yourself look like? What does it feel like when you engage in dialogue with yourself? Does it feel like a harmful relationship? Is there Kindness? Compassion? Are you your own bully?

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠ What About Bob on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/What-About-Bob-Bill-Murray/dp/B08GY1YYSF FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠ CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B. Plamen S. Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
  • As children, our homes are supposed to be our safe haven; a place where we can get away from the things that make life tough, but what happens when it’s not? What happens when we are bullied at home, too? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore bullying by discussing where it comes from, how it is learned, and how we can fight against it, even when it happens in our own homes.

    Notes:

    Introducing our Over 50 Club!

    What is bullying?

    Where do bullies come from?

    Which child will get bullied in the home?

    Being “othered”

    Bullying at school vs bullying at home

    Am I my own bully?

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

    What About Bob on Amazon Prime:https://www.amazon.com/What-About-Bob-Bill-Murray/dp/B08GY1YYSF

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]

    Over 50 Club!

    Amanda B.

    Plamen S.

    Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

  • Happy Anniversary! Jaime and CA celebrate the show’s one-year anniversary by looking back over their journey and then getting intimate by answering some questions from The Skin Deep’s, “{THE AND} Relationship Card Game.”

    Notes:

    Happy Anniversary!

    Why we started the podcast

    Our journey once we started

    Our hosts get personal with a card game

    Links:

    Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned

    The Skin Deep’s Card Game: https://shop.theskindeep.com/pages/the-and-relationship-card-game

    FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠

    Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠

    Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠

    CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠

    Email us topics/suggestions: [email protected]