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Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation
Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy.
Takeaways:
Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Emotional States
09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers
30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation
Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.
Takeaways
· Change and disruption can be challenging.
· Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.
· Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.
· Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.
· Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.
· Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.
· Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.
Sound Bites
· "Change and disruption are difficult for me"
· "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"
· "The power of naming things and how validating it is"
· "It's the openheartedness really."
· "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Frustrations
08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility
25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility
34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs
40:39 Managing Expectations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment
Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.
· Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.
· Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.
· Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.
· Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.
Takeaways
· Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
· Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
· Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
· Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
· Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
· Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
· Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
· Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
· Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.
Additional topics discussed:
Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations. Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support. Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception
07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support
08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries
12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions
14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support
20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability
21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm
22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations
23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations
25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation
26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships
27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking
28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best
29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries
29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy
30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information
32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel
38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life
40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
Summary
Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.
Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.
Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.
Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
Points made in this episode:
Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception. Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much." Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities. Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much." Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships. Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions. Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough." Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities. Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much." Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities. Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues. Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem. Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections.00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic
01:36 The Wound of Too Much
06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy
07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females
10:16 Stimming and Accommodations
11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues
13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much
14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions
18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties
20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight
21:10 Personal Examples and Communication
23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest
24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.
Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.
Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.
Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.
Additional takeaways:
Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years. Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity. Discover the importance of staying connected during separations. Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system. Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo. Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships. Explore personal growth through periods of solitude. Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence. Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience. Consider the balance between independence and interdependence. Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations. Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship. Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion. Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone
03:04 Trusting the Process
04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD
05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others
06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy
07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
09:13 Taking Care of Pets
11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships
13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension
16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting
22:30 Processing and Communication
24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance
26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace
28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
· Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
· Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
· Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.
Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships. It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity. The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable. Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking. The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships. Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.
More about unmaskingChapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Staying true to your authentic self is important when creating content.
Building trust and security in relationships takes time and vulnerability.
The value of a podcast is not solely determined by download numbers.
Interdependence allows for mutual support and growth in relationships.
Understanding the importance of emotional vulnerability. Exploring newfound perspectives and insights. Recognizing and embracing feelings of exposure. Reflecting on personal trauma and its impact on self-awareness. Acknowledging the significance of maintaining authenticity in self-expression. Navigating the balance between showcasing autism identity and personal growth. Exploring the process of redefining podcast branding and content focus. Embracing the journey of self-discovery and acceptance. Recognizing the value of open-hearted communication. Reflecting on personal growth and aspirations for authenticity in content creation. Discussing the impact of external validation on podcast metrics and audience engagement. Emphasizing the importance of sharing valuable content. Reflecting on personal struggles with content creation and self-expression. Recognizing the significance of relational content in podcast episodes. Embracing the challenges and rewards of discussing personal relationships openly. Exploring the impact of neurodivergence on relational dynamics and communication. Navigating shifts in podcast content focus and listener engagement. Reflecting on the journey of self-acceptance and authenticity. Embracing the diversity of perspectives and experiences in relationships.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
02:44 Struggles with Linear Content and Personal Experience
08:04 Shifting Focus to Relational Content
13:26 Building Trust and Security in the Relationship
21:18 Navigating Attachment Insecurities
25:24 Interdependence and Holding Space for Each Other
28:08 Communication and Vulnerability in the Relationship
31:20 Planning Visits and Considering Context
34:08 Conclusion and Gratitude
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Red & Green Flags in Relationships
Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Honor your rhythms and practice self-care in relationships.
Pay attention to red flags such as controlling behavior, lack of respect, and constant fighting.
Look for qualities like kindness, respect, trust, and effective communication in a partner.
Set boundaries and be aware of gaslighting in relationships.
Consider the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership.
Spend quality time together and ensure compatibility with each other's friends.
Red Flags:
Lack of respect and kindness towards service providers Moving too quickly in the relationship without respecting boundaries Negative and derogatory descriptions of past relationships and partners Jealousy and controlling behavior Attempting to change or control the other person’s appearance and behavior Putting the other person down, even in a teasing manner Inability to provide comfort and support during difficult times Not being responsive or available when the other person asks for support or help Constantly pushing boundaries without respecting the other person’s limits Constant fighting or high emotional conflicts Lack of active listening and attunement to the other person’s needs Disrespect towards others and themselves Lack of emotional awareness and intelligence Poor communication skills and inability or unwillingness to engage in difficult conversationsGreen Flags
Good communication skills (or willing to improve them) Mutual trust and respect. Supporting each other’s goals even if it brings up feelings for you You can have fun together. Demonstrating empathy and tenderness during difficult times Being willing to pitch in and help when it is needed without needing to be asked (or having a willing spirit). You can be independent and enjoy your own friends and interests. There is interdependence: you need each other and can depend on the other person. You make decisions together and consider both people and how they will be affected. Conflict isn’t seen as threatening or dangerous. You value rupture and repair and know it’s part of any healthy relationship. You both can compromise and consider the other person’s needs/feelings without sacrificing or giving in You can count on the other person to show up or do what they say will do. There is a sense of equality and both people matter. There is reciprocity (financial, emotional, respect, compromise). The other person “gets” you, or tries to understand when they don’t. Having similar values and goals, despite political differences. Ability to work through differences and agree to disagree. Being reliable and having a group-minded approach. Showing kindness, generosity, and emotional attunement. Respecting boundaries and moving at a comfortable pace in the relationship. Treating service industry workers with respect and kindness. Providing comfort, support, and responsiveness during challenging times. Demonstrating high emotional awareness, intelligence, and effective communication.Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Update
01:03 The Importance of Honoring Rhythms and Self-Care
04:00 Qualities to Look for in a Relationship
06:05 Communication and Conflict Resolution
09:33 Gaslighting and Boundaries
13:38 Equality, Support, and Independence
16:09 Trust, Honesty, and Similar Values
18:24 Attachment Wounds and Conflict Resolution
21:44 Spending Quality Time and Friend Compatibility
22:28 Conclusion
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.
Takeaways
Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery.
Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance.
Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.
Additional points discussed:
Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns. Impact of burnout on family dynamics. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support. Importance of preparation in family communication. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity. Emotional release and support in times of conflict. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns. Family dynamics during conflict resolution. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation. Rupture and repair work in relationships. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication. Parenting challenges and self-awareness. Generational differences in perspectives on communication. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest
02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want
03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience
04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No
05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards
06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero
07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain
08:26 Communication Challenges with Children
09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values
11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation
14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings
15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives
18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded
19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps
22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way
25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans
26:27 Staying in Relationship Through Messiness
30:20 Having Grace and Humility in Relationships
32:01 Accepting Imperfection and Being Present
35:15 Wrapping Up and Expressing Love
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real
I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and it's important to recognize that friendships come and go.
· Communication and reciprocity are key in maintaining healthy relationships.
· Navigating difficult conversations and setting boundaries is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships.
· Recognizing and honoring one's own needs is crucial in navigating relationships.
· Understanding and accepting neurodivergence in relationships can be challenging but necessary for fostering understanding and connection.
Other Insights:
Insights on building relationships based on emotional intelligence. Strategies for holding space for feelings in friendships. Importance of rupture and repair in relationships. The significance of taking space in challenging relationships. Communication dynamics in maintaining connections. Evaluation of relationship importance in personal growth. Practices for healing and growth within relationships. Challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in friendships. Strategies for navigating friendship complexities. Understanding the impact of neurodiversity on relationships. Coping mechanisms like rage writing for emotional processing. Recognition that not all friendships are lifelong. Quick connection and oversharing tendencies in relationships. Awareness of assumptions about closeness in friendships. Identifying personal values in seeking friendships. Reflection on reasons for leaving relationships. Difficulties in maintaining friendships for neurodivergent individuals. Exploration of evolving friendships with neurodivergent needs. Insights into the dynamics of neurodivergent friendships. Understanding the complexities of neurodiversity in relationships.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
00:55 Challenges in Making and Keeping Friendships
02:02 The Changing Nature of Friendships
03:35 Reciprocity and Communication in Relationships
04:58 Recognizing the Lack of Reciprocity
05:58 Testing Relationships and Making Assumptions
06:56 Navigating Difficult Conversations
08:05 Recognizing and Addressing Needs in Relationships
09:21 Dealing with Resentment and Setting Boundaries
10:24 Navigating Relationships During Tragedy
11:44 Feeling Central in Someone's Life
12:41 Recognizing Support Systems in Relationships
13:40 Navigating Relationships with Different Perspectives
16:00 Missteps and Room for Growth in Relationships
17:21 Challenges in Accepting Neurodivergence in Relationships
18:52 Understanding the Nuances of Autism and ADHD
20:16 Navigating Relationships with Limited Understanding
21:43 Setting Boundaries and Ending Relationships
23:13 Processing Grief and Emotions in Relationships
24:21 Having Vulnerable Conversations with Loved Ones
25:46 Navigating Emotional Needs and Connection
27:30 Recognizing and Honoring Personal Needs
29:32 Navigating Decision-Making and Overwhelm
31:30 Communicating Needs and Boundaries in Relationships
33:34 Navigating Overwhelm and Self-Judgment
35:19 Summary and Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help
Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation. They explore the importance of finding joyful movement and the impact of rest on their well-being. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. They acknowledge the need to be kind to oneself and accept the challenges that come with it. They also talk about the practice of naming and addressing gremlins, which are negative thoughts or beliefs that can hold us back. By bringing these gremlins to light, they can be examined and dealt with. Lastly, they touch on the topic of protectiveness and support, highlighting the importance of being there for each other during difficult times.
Takeaways
Finding joy in movement can energize and fulfill us.
Rest is essential for rejuvenation and creativity.
Vulnerability and asking for help can deepen connections.
Navigating attachment wounds can lead to growth and healing. Practicing self-compassion and acceptance is crucial for personal growth and well-being.
Naming and addressing gremlins can help in overcoming negative thoughts and beliefs.
Being protective and supportive of others during challenging times fosters strong relationships.
Acknowledging and accepting temporary struggles can lead to personal growth and resilience.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Health Updates
03:11 Finding Joyful Movement
08:02 Struggles with Productivity and Pressure
13:10 The Importance of Rest
18:20 Vulnerability and Insecurity in Relationships
23:08 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help
28:27 Navigating Attachment Wounds
30:30 The Growth and Healing Process
33:01 The Importance of Rest in Therapy
33:53 Closing Remarks
33:58 Self-Compassion and Acceptance
34:46 Naming and Addressing Gremlins
35:04 Protectiveness and Support
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Autism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)
There are things that happen to most autistic people once they identify as autistic, and there should be a warning label! If you’re late diagnosed, and high masking, there’s a good chance you are, or will be in autistic burnout. There’s also skill regression, and not being able to push through anymore. This can be confusing and distressing. I bring you up to date on my health journey, and where I’m at with autistic burnout, and I provide a few resources.
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this episode, Patricia provides a personal update on her health and discusses the challenges of identifying as autistic. She shares her experiences with navigating the healthcare system and dealing with health issues such as vestibular neuritis. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and trauma, as well as the need for positive male archetypes in her life. She discusses the lack of reciprocity in relationships and the importance of self-compassion and rest. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace all parts of themselves and share the podcast with others.
Autistic Burnout
Autistic burnout is a phenomenon experienced by many individuals, characterized by extreme exhaustion, mental fatigue, and sensory overload. It often results from prolonged periods of masking, camouflaging, and trying to fit into neurotypical expectations, leading to a depletion of cognitive and emotional resources. Autistic burnout can manifest as difficulty in functioning, heightened sensory sensitivities, emotional meltdowns, and a sense of overwhelm. Recognizing the signs of autistic burnout is crucial for individuals to prioritize self-care, seek support, and make necessary adjustments to prevent further exhaustion. Strategies to manage autistic burnout may include setting boundaries, practicing sensory regulation techniques, engaging in self-soothing activities, and seeking therapy or counseling. Creating a supportive environment that accommodates sensory needs, communication preferences, and individual differences can help prevent and alleviate autistic burnout. Educating employers, educators, and healthcare providers about autistic burnout can lead to more inclusive and accommodating environments for autistic individuals. Understanding one's neurodivergent traits can help individuals recognize their limits, advocate for their needs, and navigate challenges related to autistic burnout. Building a support network of understanding friends, family members, therapists, and fellow neurodivergent individuals can provide emotional support and validation during periods of autistic burnout.Benefits of having an autism diagnosis (either self-diagnosis or formal diagnosis) for myself
Self-identification and diagnosis in the autistic community are helpful in understanding one's unique neurodivergent traits and needs. It helps individuals access appropriate support, accommodations, and resources tailored to their specific differences and strengths. Self-identification empowers individuals to embrace their identity and connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals. Diagnosis provides validation and a sense of relief for many individuals who have long struggled with feeling different or misunderstood. Understanding one's autism can lead to better self-awareness and self-acceptance, promoting mental well-being and confidence. It allows individuals to advocate for themselves in various settings, such as education, employment, and healthcare, ensuring their needs are met. Diagnosis can help individuals navigate social interactions, sensory sensitivities, and other aspects of daily life more effectively. Early diagnosis in children can lead to early intervention and support, improving long-term outcomes and quality of life. It helps dispel misconceptions and stigma surrounding autism, promoting acceptance and inclusion in society. Self-identification and diagnosis contribute to a more accurate representation of the diverse autistic community, highlighting the spectrum of experiences and challenges individuals may face.Takeaways
Identifying as autistic can come with challenges and a range of emotions, including anger, grief, and frustration.
Navigating the healthcare system can be difficult, especially when seeking a diagnosis or specialized care.
Autistic burnout is a real phenomenon that can lead to skill regression and a decreased ability to function.
Self-compassion and rest are essential for managing autistic burnout and maintaining overall well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Update
01:15 The Challenges of Identifying as Autistic
02:08 Struggling with Health Issues
03:32 Navigating the Healthcare System
04:36 The Impact of Vestibular Neuritis
05:59 Autistic Burnout and Trauma
07:15 Grief and Anger in the Autism Journey
08:31 Childhood Experiences and Identity
09:50 The Need for Male Archetypes
11:19 Seeking Support and Advocacy
12:42 The Lack of Reciprocity in Relationships
13:54 Navigating Small World and Limited Energy
15:14 Accepting Where You Are
16:33 The Impact of Autism Diagnosis
17:54 The Complexity of Autism Presentation
19:46 The Validity of Self-Diagnosis
20:21 The Illusion of Neurotypical Functioning
21:31 Embracing Autism as a Disability
22:35 Understanding Autistic Burnout
23:46 The Impact of Medical Appointments
25:17 The Harsh Inner Critic and Self-Compassion
26:12 Fear of Not Functioning
27:05 The Lack of Recognition for Autistic Experiences
28:11 Observing Reciprocity in Relationships
29:07 The Importance of Rest and Self-Care
30:00 The Impact of Autistic Burnout on Work
31:06 Embracing All Parts of Yourself
32:20 Conclusion and Call to Share the Podcast
Additional Takeaways
Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations.
Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others.
Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks.
Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals.
Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members.
Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations.
Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits.
Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs.
Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships
04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships
07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care
10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion
11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs
16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation
20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression
22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment
25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Exploring Identity, and Turning Toward Yourself in Affirming Ways
Jen and I touch on so much in this episode: challenges setting boundaries; structure vs. the need for novelty (ADHD vs. autism), attachment injuries and bids for connection; the challenges and gifts of hard conversations; what neuro-affirming therapy looks like; PDA and focusing on others to reduce demands; masking; what comes up when someone suspects they are autistic or are recently diagnosed.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss various topics related to parenting, boundaries, and self-discovery. They explore the challenges of adjusting to new structures and parenting roles, as well as the importance of partnering with children and acknowledging limitations. They also discuss the significance of modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability. The conversation delves into navigating personal preferences and resistance, expressing needs and bids for connection, and the importance of setting boundaries and embracing autonomy. They also touch on the process of recognizing and embracing an autistic identity, as well as the roller coaster of emotions that can come with this realization. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, authenticity, and deepening intimacy in relationships.
Takeaways
· Adjusting to new structures and parenting roles can be challenging but can also provide opportunities for growth and learning.
· Modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability can strengthen relationships and create a sense of safety and trust.
· Setting boundaries and embracing autonomy are essential for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships.
· Becoming your own heroine in your life and your story
· Assessing what you want in relationships, and seeing if the people who are disappointing you are people you would choose
· Communicating when it you’re wanting a bid for connection
· Addressing our attachment wounds in relationship is really an act of service to the relationship
· The ongoing challenge between ADHD and the need for novelty and with autism wanting routine and structure
· Conflict and avoidance of conflict can be hard, and having difficult conversations can also be hard. How does it help the relationship?
· The importance of having autistic or neuro-affirming therapists and coaches since allistic practitioners can cause more trauma and harm
· If you’re recently diagnosed autistic or suspect you are autistic, you may experience skill regression, difficulty doing things you previously did, and your identify may be shaken up (there’s grief and anger there as well)
· Ways your PDA may be showing up and things you have learned to do to minimize having your nervous system activated
· You may have been socialized to be “other focused,” which makes it hard to know what you are wanting and needing, and it can be a form of masking, and it may reduce PDA and RSD
Recognizing and embracing an autistic identity can bring validation and understanding, but it can also be accompanied by a roller coaster of emotions and a need for self-reflection.
Chapters (adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
01:18 Adjusting to New Structure and Parenting
03:03 Partnering with Children and Acknowledging Limitations
04:23 Modeling Imperfection and Repairing Emotional Availability
05:05 Exploring Personal Challenges and Seeking Support
06:41 Navigating Personal Preferences and Resistance
08:08 Expressing Needs and Bids for Connection
09:35 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Repairing Ruptures
10:51 Taking Risks and Embracing Discomfort
12:40 Honoring Wounds and Attending to Healing
14:51 Setting Boundaries and Embracing Autonomy
16:40 Navigating Conflict and Deepening Intimacy
19:03 Recognizing Autistic Identity and Processing Emotions
23:53 Reevaluating Relationships and Prioritizing Values
27:10 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Reflection
31:57 Navigating the Roller Coaster of Autistic Identity
32:44 Conclusion
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Real Talk on Health Challenges: Speaking FOR Your Parts vs. Speaking FROM Your Parts
Jen and I talk about the difference between complaining, speaking honestly about what’s going on, and the other person’s capacity to sit with things that they may feel they need to fix or change. Many of you have been told that you complain too much or that you’re too negative. Neurodivergent brains tend to report the truth, and we are very discerning about what we like and what we don’t like. This can be perceived as negativity, complaining or being depressing to be around. What if it really wasn’t about you?
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the difference between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles. They explore the challenges of navigating conversations around difficult topics and the importance of holding space for each other's experiences. They also delve into the healing process and the acceptance of trauma, emphasizing the need to honor and validate our own emotions. The conversation highlights the significance of checking intentions and capacity in communication, as well as the transformative power of being in relationship with our experiences. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of speaking from a part versus speaking for a part. They explore the concept of unprocessed trauma and how it can affect communication. They also discuss the significance of acknowledging and balancing pain, as well as differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part. The conversation highlights the role of chaperoning the part and the importance of validating and witnessing pain. Finally, they find humor in the uncertainty of their podcast episodes.
Takeaways
Differentiate between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles.
Hold space for each other's experiences and validate emotions.
Accept and heal from trauma by being in relationship with our experiences.
Check intentions and capacity in communication to ensure effective and compassionate conversations. It is important to speak from a part rather than speaking for a part.
Unprocessed trauma can impact communication and lead to a desire for others to intuitively understand and fix our needs.
Acknowledging and balancing pain can help in managing distressing emotions.
Differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part can provide clarity in communication.
Chaperoning the part involves bringing in other perspectives and validating the pain experienced.
Validating and witnessing pain is crucial in processing unprocessed trauma.
Finding humor in uncertainty can help alleviate pressure and create a lighter atmosphere.
Chapters (adjust for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates
02:34 Differentiating Between Complaining and Sharing
08:15 Healing and Accepting Trauma
13:25 The Healing Process and Holding Space
16:53 The Energy of Holding Space and Acceptance
23:39 Checking Intentions and Capacity in Communication
27:19 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Boundaries
32:24 Processing Trauma and Holding Space for Emotions
36:29 The Complexity of Communication and Trauma Responses
38:55 Being in Relationship with Our Experiences and Healing
39:52 Speaking from a Part vs. Speaking for a Part
40:38 Identifying Unprocessed Trauma
41:33 Acknowledging and Balancing Pain
42:14 Differentiating Acting from Speaking
42:53 Chaperoning the Part
43:22 Validating and Witnessing Pain
43:42 Finding Humor in Uncertainty
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Getting from Here to There When You’ve Lost Your Routine
How do you get back in a groove after you’ve gotten out of it? We often assume we can jump back in, but sometimes it’s harder than that. I also talk about getting consent in relationships before giving feedback and advice. Attuning to the other person is the best gift you can give someone. This means dropping your agenda. I also talk about how to communicate your sensory needs when others are unaware. It can be exhausting it can be for us when we have to compensate and when we are overstimulated.
HIGHLIGHTS
20 takeaways from this episode:
1. Strategies for managing the transition from the holiday season to regular routines.
2. Tips for handling difficult conversations with loved ones.
3. The importance of active listening in communication.
4. How to show empathy and validate others' feelings.
5. The benefits of setting clear boundaries in conversations.
6. The use of "I" statements to express thoughts and feelings.
7. The importance of seeking compromise in challenging discussions.
8. The value of taking breaks during emotionally charged conversations.
9. The benefits of seeking professional help from a therapist or coach.
10. Understanding attachment wounds and their impact on relationships.
11. The concept of PDA (pathological demand avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy) and its effects on communication.
12. The importance of attunement in relationships.
13. The role of consent in sharing with someone who is struggling.
14. The value of self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions.
15. Strategies for managing sensitivity and emotional reactions.
16. The benefits of eliminating inflammatory foods from one's diet.
17. The challenges of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season.
18. The importance of managing expectations in relationships.
19. The value of self-reflection and self-awareness in communication.
20. The benefits of practicing mindfulness and self-care in daily life.
Additional Takeaways
Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations.
Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others.
Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks.
Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals.
Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members.
Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations.
Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits.
Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs.
Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships
04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships
07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care
10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion
11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs
16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation
20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression
22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment
25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Attachment Injuries, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Self-Care
Jen and I discuss attachment wounds and using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework. We talk about the difference of speaking for our parts vs. speaking from our parts. We talk about overperformance, the pressure to show up and masking, and the importance of feeling seen and heard in relationships. We talk about unpacking an autism diagnosis and reviewing life through the lens of autism. We also emphasize embracing imperfection and practicing self-care and self-compassion.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current states and challenges, including the impact of attachment injuries and autism. They explore the importance of reframing and unpacking an autism diagnoses. They also discuss the significance of embracing imperfection and practicing self-compassion. The conversation delves into the difference between speaking for parts and speaking from parts, as well as the challenges of feeling seen and heard in relationships. They also touch on the role of technology in communication and the connection between self-worth and expressing love. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the pressure to show up and overperform, particularly in relation to masking and societal expectations. They explore the idea of letting go of perfection in expressing self-worth and the impact it has on relationships. They also delve into managing expectations and self-pressure, recognizing that others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves. Finally, they touch on the importance of embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them.
Takeaways
The pressure to show up and overperform can be overwhelming, especially for individuals who feel the need to mask their true selves.
Letting go of the idea of perfection in expressing self-worth can lead to greater ease and authenticity in relationships.
Managing expectations and self-pressure is crucial for maintaining mental well-being, as others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves.
Embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them allows for a more integrated and balanced sense of self.
Summary
· Navigating life with autism and managing attachment injuries.
· The impact of autism on daily routines and family dynamics.
· Understanding the challenges of having food, routines, and independence,
· Embracing imperfection and letting go of perfectionism,
· Recognizing the need for gentleness and self-compassion, especially with the inner critic.
· Exploring the concept of "autistic burnout" and its impact on daily life and mental health.
· Reflecting on the journey of self-discovery and acceptance after receiving an autism diagnosis.
· Embracing the process of reframing past experiences through the lens of autism.
· Navigating the complexities of showing love and care.
· Understanding the diverse ways individuals express love and support within the neurodivergent community.
· Addressing the challenges of communication and maintaining connections
· Exploring the impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on memory, attention, and maintaining social patterns.
· Recognizing the importance of open communication and managing expectations in relationships.
· Embracing vulnerability and acknowledging the impact of attachment wounds in personal interactions.
· Insights into the journey of self-discovery, self-care, and personal growth as a neurodivergent person
Chapters (will need to be adjusted with the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Current State
01:07 Exploring Attachment Injuries and Autism
04:04 Accepting the Autism Diagnosis
09:26 Leaning into Challenges and Reframing
12:26 Navigating Self-Criticism and Self-Judgment
15:19 Embracing Imperfection and Self-Compassion
19:01 Speaking for Parts vs. Speaking from Parts
23:28 Being Fully Present in Life
28:02 Feeling Seen and Heard in Relationships
30:03 Navigating Technology and Communication
34:26 Self-Worth and Expressing Love
36:15 Hustling for Self-Worth and Activation
37:02 The Pressure to Show Up and Overperform
38:06 Letting Go of Perfection in Expressing Self-Worth
39:11 Managing Expectations and Self-Pressure
39:27 Embracing Different Parts of Ourselves
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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The Power of Showing Up: Embracing Imperfection and Struggles with PDA and RSD
Jen and I discuss our struggles with showing up and doing life even when it's hard. We model grace and vulnerability, reminding you that it's okay to not have it all together. The conversation touches on topics such as PDA, rejection-sensitive dysphoria RSD, and the pressure of gift-giving. We also discuss the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed. This episode is helpful for anyone who may be struggling.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their personal struggles with health issues, specifically vertigo and its impact on their daily lives. They explore the challenges of navigating uncertainty, the importance of showing up authentically even when it's hard, and the need for self-compassion and self-care. They also delve into topics such as perception, autonomy, and the role of humor in medical settings. The conversation highlights the significance of connection, vulnerability, and understanding in supporting one another during difficult times. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring one's own needs and limitations. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They explore the role of active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, cultural sensitivity, and overcoming communication barriers. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and respectful communication in personal and professional relationships.
· We discuss the challenges of being perceived and the pressure to conform to societal expectations.
· The conversation touches on topics such as autism, PDA, and rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD).
· We discuss the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed.
· It’s okay to not have it all together.
· We talk about the pressure of gift-giving and the anxiety it can cause for neurodivergent individuals.
· We discuss the concept of being in charge and the nervous system getting activated when feeling a loss of autonomy (PDA—Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy).
· We friends share our experiences with PDA and how it affects our daily lives.
· We talk about the importance of self-care and setting boundaries to avoid burnout.
· We discuss the challenges of being vulnerable and the fear of rejection that comes with it.
· The conversation touches on the importance of self-acceptance and embracing one's unique traits.
· We discuss the impact of childhood experiences on our current struggles and coping mechanisms.
· We share our experiences with medical care and how we navigate uncomfortable situations.
· We talk about the importance of humor and how it can humanize otherwise sterile environments.
· The conversation ends with a reminder to be kind to oneself and to embrace imperfection as a part of the human experience.
Takeaways
Navigating health issues can be challenging and uncertain, but it's important to show up authentically and seek support.
Self-compassion and self-care are crucial during difficult times, even if it means letting go of expectations and prioritizing rest.
Communication and understanding are key in maintaining healthy relationships and navigating challenges together.
Humor and vulnerability can provide comfort and connection in medical settings, helping to humanize the experience. Effective communication is crucial for building strong relationships and resolving conflicts.
Active listening and empathy are essential skills for effective communication.
Non-verbal communication, such as body language and facial expressions, can convey important messages.
Cultural sensitivity is important for understanding and respecting diverse communication styles.
Identifying and overcoming communication barriers can improve the quality of communication.
Chapters (these times need to be adjusted to the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone
01:10 Modeling How to Show Up and Do Life Even When It's Hard
02:06 Supporting Each Other and Being Present
02:31 Understanding and Sharing Personal Health Struggles
06:10 The Uncertainty and Challenges of Dealing with Vertigo
09:01 The Impact of Dizziness on Daily Life and Activities
10:15 Navigating the Emotional and Mental Toll of Health Issues
12:30 The Importance of Connection and Honesty in Difficult Times
13:40 Exploring Personal Awareness and Self-Reflection
21:11 The Influence of Perception and Autonomy on Self-Care
23:51 The Role of Humor and Vulnerability in Medical Settings
26:14 Navigating Overwhelm and Setting Boundaries During the Holidays
29:03 Recognizing Soul Fatigue and the Need for Rest
31:37 Reevaluating Expectations and Prioritizing Self-Care
35:20 Communicating Needs and Understanding Each Other
37:30 Reflection and Gratitude
02:30 The Importance of Effective Communication
08:15 Active Listening and Empathy
15:45 Non-Verbal Communication
22:10 Cultural Sensitivity and Communication
29:20 Overcoming Communication Barriers
35:10 Conclusion
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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Navigating Autism and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)
I discuss being diagnosed Autistic with a PDA (pathological demand avoidance) profile. I express frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as I don’t see myself in the criteria. I highlight the common misdiagnosis of PDA as oppositional defiant disorder in children, emphasizing the need for a deeper understanding of neurodivergent experiences. I advocate a shift from viewing differences as deficits, and the importance of recognizing the unique perspectives of neurodivergent individuals.
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this episode, Patricia shares her personal reflections on being diagnosed autistic and the challenges she faces with Pathological Demand Avoidance, (PDA). Patricia prefers Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy instead. She discusses the differences between autism and HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of autism. Patricia also explores how PDA affects parenting and the need for low-demand environments. She reflects on her struggles with holiday traditions and the importance of self-acceptance and embracing stimming. Additionally, Patricia discusses the impact of seasonal changes and offers insights into managing PDA in daily life. She concludes with a book she enjoyed reading that has coded autistic characters in it.
Some of the challenges and awarenesses about being autistic and having a PDA profile:
· Patricia shares her frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as she does not see herself in the criteria. It was written for white boys who externalize their symptoms. Many late-diagnosed, high-masking folks tend to internalize their presentation, and they go undiagnosed and don’t see themselves in the criteria, which needs to be updated.
· Patricia emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of neurodivergent individuals and the need to look at differences rather than deficits.
· She expresses her passion for wanting researchers and experts in the field of ADHD, autism, and HSP to work collaboratively to find commonalities.
· Patricia talks about the challenges of being formally diagnosed with autism and how it has led to a year of "Ahas."
· She shares insights into how PDA shows up in her life, including anticipating things that could go wrong and giving people permission to not respond.
Takeaways
Understanding the lived experience of autism is crucial for creating a supportive environment.
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) also known as Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can be misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder and is characterized by nervous system dysregulation.
Parents with PDA may face challenges in parenting neurodivergent children and may benefit from creating low-demand environments.
Embracing self-acceptance and allowing oneself to stim can lead to a greater sense of joy and freedom.
Seasonal changes can impact mood and energy levels, and it's important to listen to one's body and practice self-care.
Anticipating demands and setting boundaries can help manage PDA and reduce stress.
The book 'Lessons in Chemistry' features characters who are coded as autistic and explores themes of feminism and neurodiversity.
Chapters (please adjust times with the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
01:58 Understanding PDA and Autism
06:49 Challenges of Parenting with PDA
08:18 Navigating Holiday Traditions
16:08 Embracing Stimming and Self-Acceptance
17:32 Coping with Winter and Seasonal Changes
24:05 Managing PDA in Daily Life
27:31 Anticipating and Resisting Demands
28:52 Book Recommendation: Lessons in Chemistry
30:17 Closing Remarks and Invitation
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension
Ellie and Patricia highlight the importance of creating inclusive spaces that foster trust, comfort, and collaboration for neurodivergent folks. They discuss the benefits of tailoring curriculum to individual and group needs. This episode also touches on the depth and organic nature of group conversations, and the role of personalized attention within a structured framework. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive and inclusive environments for neurodivergent individuals.
GUEST
Ellie
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
This conversation explores the experiences and dynamics of the Online HSP Course and how it fits with being autistic or identifying as neurodivergent. The episode covers topics such as trust and comfort in the group, creating a safe and supportive environment, addressing social issues, embracing whole identities, gaining different perspectives, and forming connections and friendships. The conversation highlights the importance of personalized attention, optional participation, and creating a neurodivergent-friendly space. It also emphasizes the value of feeling seen, heard, and honored in the group. The participants discuss the unexpected benefits and the lasting connections that were formed through the course.
Takeaways
Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial for a group focused on highly sensitive people and neurodivergent individuals.
Embracing whole identities and recognizing marginalized parts of ourselves can lead to a sense of belonging and understanding in the group.
Optional participation and personalized attention allow individuals to engage in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to them.
Forming connections and friendships within the group can provide validation, support, and a sense of community.
The dynamics of a smaller group can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger sense of cohesion.
Some topics covered in this episode:
1. Neurodivergence and its representation in the course
2. Personal perspectives and interactions with course material
3. Overcoming apprehensions about joining a group
4. The dynamics of group participation and introversion
5. Creating a supportive and inclusive group environment
6. Addressing potential group members' concerns
7. Establishing core values and expectations for group participation
8. Discussions on social issues and human rights
9. Tailoring the curriculum to individual and group needs
10. Group size and its impact on interactions
11. Depth and organic nature of group conversations
12. Personalized attention within a structured framework
13. Flexibility and guidance in group discussions
14. Trust and comfort in participating in the course
15. Impact of discussions on autism and neurodivergence within the HSP group
Chapters (please add time to account for introduction
00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Recording
00:46 Initial Thoughts about the Group
01:45 Trust and Comfort in the Group
02:09 Discussion about Autism in the Group
03:08 Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment
04:27 Addressing Social Issues in the Group
05:29 Intersectionality and Embracing Whole Identities
06:15 Recognizing Marginalized Parts of Ourselves
07:02 Expectations and Insight in the Group
08:17 Gaining Different Perspectives in the Group
09:24 Learning and Sharing Experiences in the Group
10:40 Creating a Cohesive Group
11:19 Building Trust and Connection in the Group
12:02 Different Perspectives on Group Cohesion
13:03 Feeling Safe and Comfortable in the Group
14:03 Optional Participation and Individual Needs
15:47 Forming Connections and Friendships in the Group
17:40 Validation and Understanding in the Group
19:37 Feeling Seen, Heard, and Honored in the Group
20:23 Personalized Attention and Tailored Discussions
23:14 Flexibility and Personalized Approach in the Group
24:46 Creating a Safe and Neurodivergent-Friendly Space
26:12 Feeling Safe and Understood in the Group
28:18 Addressing the Lack of Mention of Neurodivergence in the Course
30:17 Recommendations for Joining the Course
32:57 Continuing Connections and Friendships after the Course
36:31 Smaller Group Dynamics and Cohesion
39:25 Acknowledging Different Group Experiences
40:07 Gratitude and Positive Feedback
GUEST BIO
Ellie is a corporate professional in a senior manager position. Through experiencing significant burnout, she was identified as autistic earlier this year. Her formal diagnosis followed. Leading up to her diagnosis and through today, she has been searching for information to help her understand her autism and for strategies for managing the seemingly endless effort it takes to be her in a world that expects her not to be autistic.
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