Avsnitt
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- what actually can be designed
- the 2 traps of designing your self/personality
- what do you build with freedom
- how to know if you're building from goal or panic
- how to build for reliability not one-time only
- how to "reality-test"
- How to recognize positive change
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- Somatic & Social Reconstruction
- the difference between implicit/somatic and explicit/conscious
- understanding vs. body sense
- hypervigilance not as a personality trait
- physiological anxiety
- body reconstruction
- why anxiety can get worse
- dissociation during crisis
- overriding the nervous system
- the importance of social/communal
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Saknas det avsnitt?
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- who are you after the "we"
- collapse of the shared fantasy
- what you lost
- the kernel of the 'self'
- success defined in reconstruction
- the ego would prefer you suffer
- genuine failure
- end-running the ego
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- the hard part (the leaving part is easy)
- when a narcissistic relationship ends
- the voice in your head that uses you
- why survivors can't trust their own minds
- why "just be yourself" is the worst advice- the "survival self"
- why letting it go is hard
- what actually gets rebuilt
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- what you are changing into
- the more important question for narcissist than healing
- why most people cannot reach nonconditional love
- what is the willingness to love without transaction
- the internal stance that make change possible
- telling the truth without losing the relationship
- why most therapies contract the false self
- the architecture doesn't disappear
- what to build instead
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- modification vs. cure and healing in narcissism; how it works
- DBT test outcomes and men's "cover borderline"
- Vaknin's "cold therapy"
- re-traumatization
- 18 maladaptive schemas
- therapies that collude with the false self
- reverse splitting
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- the inversion that appears as grandiosity and confidence
- what the inner critic actually is
- sadistic super-ego- the grandiosity gap
- the defense cascade (3 parts)
- why therapy is difficult
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- The question: if the narcissist can change is the wrong question- why healing and 'behavior modification' are completely different
- what clinical profile is needed for "healing"
- there are two
- Do the inside and outside connect in Cluster B
- the longitudinal BPD research
- and why it's a misnomer
- 3 mechanisms that keep internal and external development locked apart
- the 3 outcomes of intervention so you don't waste time
- the corrective relationship structures OLNE offers
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Healing Narcissism Episode 1: Why They Can't See It
- Why the Narcissist cannot see themselves
- even when they try
- What the 'False Self' is
- The 2 categories they sort things in
- Why self-help doesn't work on narcissists
- What is narcissistic mortification
- How the pillar of OLNE works on narcissism
- What change actually requires - beyond surface level
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- how to tell the difference between histrionic, narcissist, and psychopath in bed
- why they look identical- the emotional temperature test
- what "I love you" means to each one
- what sociosexuality means for each
- three voices that live in one person
- the robotic doll test- the "don't ask, don't tell" idea
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- what is paranoid ideation
- two strands of paranoia
- the false self enemy
- twin anxieties
- the persecutory object
- the 5 behavioral outcomes of paranoid ideation
- projective identification
- narcissistic mirroring
- what happens
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• Why sex is a map of the whole personality
• Why the paranoid partner can't stay present in bed
• Three Cluster B types look identical - one is cold
• Why "I love you" and "you're a prop" come from same person
• The false self: the wall that kills intimacy
• They use sex like a sedative• Warmth vs. emptiness -how to tell them apart
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- What parentification actually is (it's not what you think)
- The two directions of the trap — and why both hurt
- Emotional covert incest: the harm with no name
- The voice inside you that says you're never enough
- Why you learned to self-soothe before you ever had a reason to
- What recovery actually looks like (it's not just "healing")
- Visa fler
