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Summary
https://www.weidenfeldandnicolson.co.uk/titles/anna-motz-3/a-love-that-kills/9781474624381/
Anna Motz, is a forensic psychotherapist, clinical and forensic psychologist. In this conversation she discusses her focus on the darker side of women and their use of violence. She explains how her interest in this area developed from her experiences working in psychiatric hospitals and forensic services. Anna highlights the differences between male and female patterns of violence, particularly in terms of violence against the self and violence in the domestic realm. She also discusses the prevalence of female sexual abuse of children and the societal challenges in recognizing and addressing this issue. Anna shares her journey of training as a forensic psychotherapist and the impact it has had on her practice. She emphasizes the importance of psychotherapy in forensic settings and the need for cultural change within prisons and the community. Anna also discusses her latest book, A Love That Kills, which aims to challenge stereotypes and myths about women and motherhood. Finally, she reflects on the importance of self-care and emotional well-being in her work.
Takeaways
Women who are violent are often both perpetrators and victims, and their stories are often untold and invisible.Female violence often takes the form of violence against the self and violence in the domestic realm.Female sexual abuse of children is more prevalent than official crime statistics suggest due to the private nature of traditional female violence and societal stereotypes.Training as a forensic psychotherapist provides a more nuanced understanding of perpetration and the role of society in shaping individuals' behavior.Writing about the darker side of women and their use of violence can help challenge stereotypes and myths and promote understanding and compassion.Self-care and emotional well-being are essential for professionals working in the field of forensic psychotherapy.Chapters
00:00Focusing on the Darker Side of Women
06:06Differences in Male and Female Patterns of Violence
07:09Violence Against the Self
09:32Female Violence in the Domestic Realm
10:19Female Sexual Abuse of Children
23:27The Influence of Childhood and Marginalization
28:56The Importance of Psychotherapy in Forensic Settings
36:34Writing A Love That Kills
46:11Protecting the Integrity of the People in the Book
48:26Self-Care and Emotional Well-Being
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Summary
https://www.weidenfeldandnicolson.co.uk/titles/anna-motz-3/a-love-that-kills/9781474624381/
Anna Motz, is a forensic psychotherapist, clinical and forensic psychologist. In this conversation she discusses her focus on the darker side of women and their use of violence. She explains how her interest in this area developed from her experiences working in psychiatric hospitals and forensic services. Anna highlights the differences between male and female patterns of violence, particularly in terms of violence against the self and violence in the domestic realm. She also discusses the prevalence of female sexual abuse of children and the societal challenges in recognizing and addressing this issue. Anna shares her journey of training as a forensic psychotherapist and the impact it has had on her practice. She emphasizes the importance of psychotherapy in forensic settings and the need for cultural change within prisons and the community. Anna also discusses her latest book, A Love That Kills, which aims to challenge stereotypes and myths about women and motherhood. Finally, she reflects on the importance of self-care and emotional well-being in her work.
Takeaways
Women who are violent are often both perpetrators and victims, and their stories are often untold and invisible.Female violence often takes the form of violence against the self and violence in the domestic realm.Female sexual abuse of children is more prevalent than official crime statistics suggest due to the private nature of traditional female violence and societal stereotypes.Training as a forensic psychotherapist provides a more nuanced understanding of perpetration and the role of society in shaping individuals' behavior.Writing about the darker side of women and their use of violence can help challenge stereotypes and myths and promote understanding and compassion.Self-care and emotional well-being are essential for professionals working in the field of forensic psychotherapy.Chapters
00:00Focusing on the Darker Side of Women
06:06Differences in Male and Female Patterns of Violence
07:09Violence Against the Self
09:32Female Violence in the Domestic Realm
10:19Female Sexual Abuse of Children
23:27The Influence of Childhood and Marginalization
28:56The Importance of Psychotherapy in Forensic Settings
36:34Writing A Love That Kills
46:11Protecting the Integrity of the People in the Book
48:26Self-Care and Emotional Well-Being
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Summary
If you were to ask anybody who's lived or worked in a prison, what's the most striking thing about prison? I suspect their answer would fall within the domain covered by their research. So we're meeting with Kate Herity and Jason Waugh. Jason's not a new guest. If you've not already heard him talking about forensic psychology on a podcast a few weeks ago, then you really should. He's associate professor in criminology at the University of Nottingham with research interests in penology, the Sociology of Power, Narrative and Sensory Criminology and the Philosophy of Science.
https://bristoluniversitypress.co.uk/sound-order-and-survival-in-prison, Link to Kate's book.https://sensorycriminology.com/home/ Link to Kate's, and others website.This conversation explores the sensory experiences of individuals in prison and the impact it has on their well-being. The discussion covers the significance of sound, the role of silence and noise, the importance of smell, and the effects of poor ventilation in prisons. It also delves into the power dynamics of touch, including the lack of kind touch and the intrusion of unwanted touch. The chapters highlight the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and those with histories of trauma. Overall, the conversation sheds light on the often overlooked sensory aspects of the prison environment and their profound impact on individuals' lives. The conversation explores the sensory impact of prison environments on both prisoners and researchers. It delves into the imposition of power and touch, the riskiness of being a researcher in prison, and the impact of the sensory environment on researchers. The conversation also discusses the deliberate creation of harsh sensory environments as a form of punishment and the coping mechanisms employed by individuals to navigate these environments. TakeawaysThe sensory experiences of individuals in prison have a significant impact on their well-being.Sound, silence, smell, and touch play crucial roles in shaping the prison environment.The lack of kind touch and the intrusion of unwanted touch can have profound effects on individuals in prison, particularly those with neurodivergence or trauma histories.Understanding and addressing the sensory aspects of the prison environment is essential for promoting dignity, well-being, and rehabilitation. The sensory environment in prisons communicates power dynamics and punishment.Researchers in prison must navigate the sensory environment and consider their own positionality.The sensory impact of prison affects both prisoners and staff, and can have long-lasting effects.The creation of harsh sensory environments is a deliberate part of the punishment in prisons. -
Summary
If you were to ask anybody who's lived or worked in a prison, what's the most striking thing about prison? I suspect their answer would fall within the domain covered by their research. So we're meeting with Kate Herity and Jason Waugh. Jason's not a new guest. If you've not already heard him talking about forensic psychology on a podcast a few weeks ago, then you really should. He's associate professor in criminology at the University of Nottingham with research interests in penology, the Sociology of Power, Narrative and Sensory Criminology and the Philosophy of Science.
https://bristoluniversitypress.co.uk/sound-order-and-survival-in-prison, Link to Kate's book.https://sensorycriminology.com/home/ Link to Kate's, and others website.This conversation explores the sensory experiences of individuals in prison and the impact it has on their well-being. The discussion covers the significance of sound, the role of silence and noise, the importance of smell, and the effects of poor ventilation in prisons. It also delves into the power dynamics of touch, including the lack of kind touch and the intrusion of unwanted touch. The chapters highlight the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and those with histories of trauma. Overall, the conversation sheds light on the often overlooked sensory aspects of the prison environment and their profound impact on individuals' lives. The conversation explores the sensory impact of prison environments on both prisoners and researchers. It delves into the imposition of power and touch, the riskiness of being a researcher in prison, and the impact of the sensory environment on researchers. The conversation also discusses the deliberate creation of harsh sensory environments as a form of punishment and the coping mechanisms employed by individuals to navigate these environments. TakeawaysThe sensory experiences of individuals in prison have a significant impact on their well-being.Sound, silence, smell, and touch play crucial roles in shaping the prison environment.The lack of kind touch and the intrusion of unwanted touch can have profound effects on individuals in prison, particularly those with neurodivergence or trauma histories.Understanding and addressing the sensory aspects of the prison environment is essential for promoting dignity, well-being, and rehabilitation. The sensory environment in prisons communicates power dynamics and punishment.Researchers in prison must navigate the sensory environment and consider their own positionality.The sensory impact of prison affects both prisoners and staff, and can have long-lasting effects.The creation of harsh sensory environments is a deliberate part of the punishment in prisons. -
Malinder is a forensic psychologist from Australia who moved to the UK in 2003. She enjoyed a diverse and exciting career in a number of NHS forensic mental health services around the UK, before moving into private practice in 2020 after some very difficult workplace experiences and bereavement, which coincided with the onset of the pandemic. Her private practice is growing and diversifying, it is underpinned by a passion for practicing from a position of lifelong experience of being "different". Her main interests are helping those who have struggled with being "different", and the effective, meaningful and ethical intervention for, and prevention of the impact of trauma on professionals in mission-driven roles, particularly experiences of moral injury and institutional betrayal. She has lived experience of autism and is passionate about contributing to increasing awareness and understanding of the experiences of highly-masked, late-diagnosed autistic people. She has a keen interest in the development and application of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.
Summary
Malinder Bhullar, a forensic psychologist, discusses her experiences working in forensic mental health services, including her time at Rampton Hospital and her involvement in delivering radically open DBT. She also shares her decision to transition to private practice and the difficulties she faced in institutional settings. Additionally, Melinda talks about her realization of being autistic and her contribution to a forthcoming book on neuro-narratives of mental health. In this conversation, Malinder discusses her journey of discovering her neurodiversity, specifically autism. She shares how she initially had no awareness of neurodiversity and only began to recognize it when working with high-functioning clients. The moment of realization came when she saw a profile on LinkedIn that resonated with her own experiences. Malinder decided to pursue a formal diagnosis for validation and credibility. This has since been confirmed. She also discusses the challenges of whistleblowing and the importance of rules in forensic practice. Finally, she explores the implications of autism for her work as a psychologist and the importance of self-care.
Key points;
Working in forensic mental health services can involve both rewarding and challenging experiences.Radically Open DBT is a treatment approach specifically designed for individuals who have excessive emotional control.Transitioning to private practice can provide more autonomy and flexibility for clinicians.Institutional settings can present difficulties and challenges for professionals, and there is a need for greater awareness of whistleblowing and addressing systemic issues.Self-reflection and self-discovery can lead to a better understanding of one's identity and experiences. Neurodiversity, specifically autism, can go unrecognized for a long time, even by professionals in the field.Discovering one's neurodiversity can bring a sense of fitting in one's own skin and provide answers to past experiences.Formally pursuing a diagnosis can provide validation and credibility, especially for individuals who are highly masked.Whistleblowing and autism may be connected. -
Malinder is a forensic psychologist from Australia who moved to the UK in 2003. She enjoyed a diverse and exciting career in a number of NHS forensic mental health services around the UK, before moving into private practice in 2020 after some very difficult workplace experiences and bereavement, which coincided with the onset of the pandemic. Her private practice is growing and diversifying, it is underpinned by a passion for practicing from a position of lifelong experience of being "different". Her main interests are helping those who have struggled with being "different", and the effective, meaningful and ethical intervention for, and prevention of the impact of trauma on professionals in mission-driven roles, particularly experiences of moral injury and institutional betrayal. She has lived experience of autism and is passionate about contributing to increasing awareness and understanding of the experiences of highly-masked, late-diagnosed autistic people. She has a keen interest in the development and application of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.
Summary
Malinder Bhullar, a forensic psychologist, discusses her experiences working in forensic mental health services, including her time at Rampton Hospital and her involvement in delivering radically open DBT. She also shares her decision to transition to private practice and the difficulties she faced in institutional settings. Additionally, Melinda talks about her realization of being autistic and her contribution to a forthcoming book on neuro-narratives of mental health. In this conversation, Malinder discusses her journey of discovering her neurodiversity, specifically autism. She shares how she initially had no awareness of neurodiversity and only began to recognize it when working with high-functioning clients. The moment of realization came when she saw a profile on LinkedIn that resonated with her own experiences. Malinder decided to pursue a formal diagnosis for validation and credibility. This has since been confirmed. She also discusses the challenges of whistleblowing and the importance of rules in forensic practice. Finally, she explores the implications of autism for her work as a psychologist and the importance of self-care.
Key points;
Working in forensic mental health services can involve both rewarding and challenging experiences.Radically Open DBT is a treatment approach specifically designed for individuals who have excessive emotional control.Transitioning to private practice can provide more autonomy and flexibility for clinicians.Institutional settings can present difficulties and challenges for professionals, and there is a need for greater awareness of whistleblowing and addressing systemic issues.Self-reflection and self-discovery can lead to a better understanding of one's identity and experiences. Neurodiversity, specifically autism, can go unrecognized for a long time, even by professionals in the field.Discovering one's neurodiversity can bring a sense of fitting in one's own skin and provide answers to past experiences.Formally pursuing a diagnosis can provide validation and credibility, especially for individuals who are highly masked.Whistleblowing and autism may be connected. -
Sally Needham, Human Development and Performance Lead at Sheffield United Academy, discusses the role of psychology and neuroscience in elite football. She emphasizes the importance of mental health and wellbeing in high-performance sports and the need for early intervention and education. Sally explains the application of polyvagal theory in understanding player behavior and the impact of child development on coaching. She also shares her own experiences and challenges in implementing neuroscience in elite sport. Overall, Sally highlights the significance of understanding the individual and promoting wellbeing in the pursuit of athletic excellence.
The focus on well-being and transition in elite sport, particularly football, is not enough of a priority.There is a need for more understanding and knowledge in the football industry regarding the challenges faced by players during and after their careers.The goal is to optimize the body and brain's functioning together, emphasizing team resilience and fundamental relationships.The red zone, where individuals can experience fight, flight, or freeze responses, can impact performance and behavior in football.Self-care practices such as exercise, yoga, and nature can help manage stress and maintain well-being, but life can sometimes interfere with these practices.Understanding oneself, including thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, is crucial for players to cope with the demands of the game and life.Developing a "window of tolerance" allows players to be high performers and handle the challenges they face.Consultancy work is done to apply psychological and social principles in different contexts, such as working with vulnerable children.Various tools and strategies, such as podcasts, journaling, and relaxation techniques, are used to help players understand and manage their mental states. The integration of neuroscience and child development in football can provide a deeper understanding of player behavior and inform interventions and support systems. -
Sally Needham, Human Development and Performance Lead at Sheffield United Academy, discusses the role of psychology and neuroscience in elite football. She emphasizes the importance of mental health and wellbeing in high-performance sports and the need for early intervention and education. Sally explains the application of polyvagal theory in understanding player behavior and the impact of child development on coaching. She also shares her own experiences and challenges in implementing neuroscience in elite sport. Overall, Sally highlights the significance of understanding the individual and promoting wellbeing in the pursuit of athletic excellence.
The focus on well-being and transition in elite sport, particularly football, is not enough of a priority.There is a need for more understanding and knowledge in the football industry regarding the challenges faced by players during and after their careers.The goal is to optimize the body and brain's functioning together, emphasizing team resilience and fundamental relationships.The red zone, where individuals can experience fight, flight, or freeze responses, can impact performance and behavior in football.Self-care practices such as exercise, yoga, and nature can help manage stress and maintain well-being, but life can sometimes interfere with these practices.Understanding oneself, including thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, is crucial for players to cope with the demands of the game and life.Developing a "window of tolerance" allows players to be high performers and handle the challenges they face.Consultancy work is done to apply psychological and social principles in different contexts, such as working with vulnerable children.Various tools and strategies, such as podcasts, journaling, and relaxation techniques, are used to help players understand and manage their mental states. The integration of neuroscience and child development in football can provide a deeper understanding of player behavior and inform interventions and support systems. -
Dr. Judy Mackenzie, a retired psychiatrist and psychotherapist with extraordinary experience, discusses her career in working with therapeutic communities in prisons. She worked at HMPs Glen Parva, Aylesbury, Grendon, Gartree and Dovegate. She shares her passion for storytelling and the importance of understanding people's stories in therapy. Dr. Mackenzie talks about her experience starting the first therapeutic community for young offenders in HM Young Offender Institution, Glen Parva, and the challenges she faced in maintaining its success. She also discusses the dynamics and conflicts that can arise within prison therapeutic community teams and the importance of addressing and processing these tensions constructively. Dr. Mackenzie shares her views on the effectiveness of therapeutic communities and the need for a psychodynamic approach and a sense of community and belonging. She also briefly explains psychosynthesis psychotherapy and how it incorporates transpersonal elements. Finally, she reflects on the toll that working in the prison system can take and the importance of self-care.
Keywords
therapeutic communities, prisons, storytelling, psychotherapy, Glen Parva, conflicts, psychodynamic approach, community, psychosynthesis psychotherapy, self-care
Key points;
Therapeutic communities in prisons provide a supportive and transformative environment for offenders.
Addressing and processing conflicts within therapeutic community teams is crucial for their effectiveness.
A psychodynamic approach and a sense of community and belonging are essential in therapeutic communities.
Psychosynthesis psychotherapy incorporates transpersonal elements and focuses on understanding the state of the soul.
Working in the prison system can take a toll, and self-care is important for maintaining emotional balance.
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Dr. Judy Mackenzie, a retired psychiatrist and psychotherapist, discusses her career in working with therapeutic communities in prisons. She shares her passion for storytelling and the importance of understanding people's stories in therapy. Dr. Mackenzie talks about her experience starting the first therapeutic community for young offenders in HM Young Offender Institution, Glen Parva, and the challenges she faced in maintaining its success. She also discusses the dynamics and conflicts that can arise within prison therapeutic community teams and the importance of addressing and processing these tensions constructively. Dr. Mackenzie shares her views on the effectiveness of therapeutic communities and the need for a psychodynamic approach and a sense of community and belonging. She also briefly explains psychosynthesis psychotherapy and how it incorporates transpersonal elements. Finally, she reflects on the toll that working in the prison system can take and the importance of self-care.
Keywords
therapeutic communities, prisons, storytelling, psychotherapy, Glen Parva, conflicts, psychodynamic approach, community, psychosynthesis psychotherapy, self-care
Key points;
Therapeutic communities in prisons provide a supportive and transformative environment for offenders.
Addressing and processing conflicts within therapeutic community teams is crucial for their effectiveness.
A psychodynamic approach and a sense of community and belonging are essential in therapeutic communities.
Psychosynthesis psychotherapy incorporates transpersonal elements and focuses on understanding the state of the soul.
Working in the prison system can take a toll, and self-care is important for maintaining emotional balance.
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Duncan Craig is the founder and CEO of We Are Survivors. Here he discusses the work of his charity in supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and exploitation. He shares his personal journey of realizing his own survivor status and the lack of support available for male victims. Duncan highlights the barriers faced by male survivors in seeking help, including societal homophobia and the lack of visibility and representation. He also discusses the services provided by We Are Survivors, the demographic data of their clients, and the need for multiple attempts at seeking help. Duncan reflects on the case of Reynhard Sinaga and the limited media coverage of his crimes. Finally, he discusses the importance of storytelling and maintaining psychological health in challenging work. In this conversation, Duncan emphasizes the need for regular supervision and the role it plays in supporting the staff. He also highlights the organization's values of transparency, integrity, understanding, and responsiveness. He talks about creating a supportive environment for the staff, including providing spaces for breaks and encouraging laughter. Finally, Duncan shares his personal coping strategies, such as creating boundaries between work and personal life and watching light-hearted TV content.
Main points;
Male survivors of sexual abuse and exploitation face unique barriers in seeking help, including societal homophobia and the lack of visibility and representation.Services for male survivors should provide a range of options, including anonymous online support, face-to-face counseling, and specialized programs for specific populations such as prisoners.There is a need for greater awareness and understanding of male vulnerability and the experiences of male survivors in order to provide effective support and prevention strategies.Media coverage and public discourse often overlook or downplay the experiences of male survivors, perpetuating harmful stereotypes and hindering progress in addressing the issue.Maintaining psychological health in challenging work requires self-care strategies, such as storytelling, building rapport with clients, and recognizing the importance of personal boundaries. Regular clinical supervision is crucial for supporting staff in organizations working with survivors of sexual abuse.Transparency, integrity, understanding, and responsiveness are important values to uphold in such organizations.Creating a supportive environment includes providing spaces for breaks and encouraging laughter.Personal coping strategies, such as setting boundaries and engaging in light-hearted activities, are essential for self-care. -
Duncan Craig is the founder and CEO of We Are Survivors. Here he discusses the work of his charity in supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and exploitation. He shares his personal journey of realizing his own survivor status and the lack of support available for male victims. Duncan highlights the barriers faced by male survivors in seeking help, including societal homophobia and the lack of visibility and representation. He also discusses the services provided by We Are Survivors, the demographic data of their clients, and the need for multiple attempts at seeking help. Duncan reflects on the case of Reynhard Sinaga and the limited media coverage of his crimes. Finally, he discusses the importance of storytelling and maintaining psychological health in challenging work. In this conversation, Duncan emphasizes the need for regular supervision and the role it plays in supporting the staff. He also highlights the organization's values of transparency, integrity, understanding, and responsiveness. He talks about creating a supportive environment for the staff, including providing spaces for breaks and encouraging laughter. Finally, Duncan shares his personal coping strategies, such as creating boundaries between work and personal life and watching light-hearted TV content.
Main points;
Male survivors of sexual abuse and exploitation face unique barriers in seeking help, including societal homophobia and the lack of visibility and representation.Services for male survivors should provide a range of options, including anonymous online support, face-to-face counseling, and specialized programs for specific populations such as prisoners.There is a need for greater awareness and understanding of male vulnerability and the experiences of male survivors in order to provide effective support and prevention strategies.Media coverage and public discourse often overlook or downplay the experiences of male survivors, perpetuating harmful stereotypes and hindering progress in addressing the issue.Maintaining psychological health in challenging work requires self-care strategies, such as storytelling, building rapport with clients, and recognizing the importance of personal boundaries. Regular clinical supervision is crucial for supporting staff in organizations working with survivors of sexual abuse.Transparency, integrity, understanding, and responsiveness are important values to uphold in such organizations.Creating a supportive environment includes providing spaces for breaks and encouraging laughter.Personal coping strategies, such as setting boundaries and engaging in light-hearted activities, are essential for self-care. -
Nick Duffell has had a very varied career, which has include working as a teacher, a carpenter, a divorce mediator, a psychotherapist, and a psycho historian. He is the author of The Making of Them. Nick book about boarding school was groundbreaking when it was first published and provoked a backlash. Whilst we featured several previous conversations about boarding school, we thought, when reading his book, that it might have been well have been subtitled, A History of How the British Disliked Their Children.
Nick is the author of a number of books, several relevant to our topic.
Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege: A guide to therapeutic work with boarding school survivorshttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Trauma-Abandonment-Privilege-Nick-Duffell/dp/1138788716/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Jjql9XE6-nGXpxja6GmdvnbYRY1tkuTGFBC3Vm_sbmM0pscihCOPLN5bulgJdr6mEIJftd5ZQYjVnxbSkJyTNw6bY1-b8dA4nGTnkhT20M6wlVEgY7jRUAx4bcmBYQ0p.RwbrV-VOw6gjHrOLUM5LluC8zJcWZxaoAc7pYHTbs40&dib_tag=se&qid=1710784370&refinements=p_27%3ANick+Duffell&s=books&sr=1-1
Summary
Nick Duffel discusses the origins and impact of boarding schools in Britain. He explains that the British tradition of sending children to boarding schools dates back to the Middle Ages and was formalized in the 19th century to produce leaders for the British Empire. The boarding school system has become central to British culture, with many aspiring families sending their children to these schools. However, there has been a lack of reflection on the psychological impact of boarding schools, and the psychotherapy profession has been slow to address this issue. The boarding school culture has influenced British society, creating a top-down mentality and an entitlement complex among leaders. This has led to a lack of focus on children's needs and a contemptuous attitude towards younger people. This conversation explores the impact of boarding schools on individuals' emotional intelligence, decision-making, attitudes towards women and migrants, and intimate relationships. It delves into the militaristic and hyper-masculine nature of boarding schools and the purposeful disconnection from femininity. The conversation also examines the influence of boarding schools on attitudes towards intellectualism and the performative nature of intellectualism. It distinguishes between rebels and compliers among boarding school survivors and highlights the challenges of working with ex-boarders in therapy. The conversation concludes with insights on personal well-being and self-care.
Takeaways
The British tradition of sending children to boarding schools dates back to the Middle Ages and was formalized in the 19th century to produce leaders for the British Empire.There has been a lack of reflection on the psychological impact of boarding schools, and the psychotherapy profession has been slow to address this issue.The boarding school culture has influenced British society, creating a top-down mentality and an entitlement complex among leaders.This has led to a lack of focus on children's needs and a contemptuous attitude towards younger people.Boarding schools can disconnect individuals from vulnerability and emotional intelligence, leading to challenges in connecting with others and making good decisions.The militaristic and hyper-masculine nature of boarding schools can perpetuate antipathy towards women and migrants.Boarding school survivors may struggle with intimate relationships and find it difficult to enter into a 'we' dynamic due to their training in dissociation.Attitudes towards intellectualism in boarding schools can vary, with some schools fostering anti-intellectualism and a focus on performative qualities.Working with ex-boarders in therapy requires specialized training and an understanding of the unique challenges they face.Chapters
00:00Introduction and Background
03:38The Origins of Boarding Schools in Britain
04:07The Psychological Impact of Boarding Schools
10:51The Influence of Boarding Schools on British Culture
16:20The Lack of Reflection on Boarding School Impact
25:27The Un-child-focused Attitude in British Society
28:59The Entitlement Complex and Contempt for Younger People
29:46The Challenges Faced by Young People Today
31:12The Psychological Impact of Boarding School Training
31:36The Disconnect from Vulnerability
32:07The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
32:35The Impact of Emotional Disconnection on Decision-Making
33:08The Influence of Emotional Input on Decision-Making
34:11The Effects of Boarding School on Attitudes Towards Women and Migrants
35:03The Militaristic and Hyper-Masculine Nature of Boarding Schools
35:24The Purposeful Disconnection from Femininity
36:50The Introduction of Girls to Boarding Schools
37:17The Impact of Boarding School on Intimate Relationships
39:07The Influence of Boarding School on Attitudes Towards Intellectualism
42:46The Performative Nature of Intellectualism
43:13The Perception of Boris Johnson's Cleverness
44:29Rebels vs. Compliers
46:37The Impact of Boarding School on Personal Development
51:26The Journey to Well-Being
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Nick Duffell has had a very varied career, which has include working as a teacher, a carpenter, a divorce mediator, a psychotherapist, and a psycho historian. He is the author of The Making of Them. Nick book about boarding school was groundbreaking when it was first published and provoked a backlash. Whilst we featured several previous conversations about boarding school, we thought, when reading his book, that it might have been well have been subtitled, A History of How the British Disliked Their Children.
Nick is the author of a number of books, several relevant to our topic.
Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege: A guide to therapeutic work with boarding school survivorshttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Trauma-Abandonment-Privilege-Nick-Duffell/dp/1138788716/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Jjql9XE6-nGXpxja6GmdvnbYRY1tkuTGFBC3Vm_sbmM0pscihCOPLN5bulgJdr6mEIJftd5ZQYjVnxbSkJyTNw6bY1-b8dA4nGTnkhT20M6wlVEgY7jRUAx4bcmBYQ0p.RwbrV-VOw6gjHrOLUM5LluC8zJcWZxaoAc7pYHTbs40&dib_tag=se&qid=1710784370&refinements=p_27%3ANick+Duffell&s=books&sr=1-1
Summary
Nick Duffel discusses the origins and impact of boarding schools in Britain. He explains that the British tradition of sending children to boarding schools dates back to the Middle Ages and was formalized in the 19th century to produce leaders for the British Empire. The boarding school system has become central to British culture, with many aspiring families sending their children to these schools. However, there has been a lack of reflection on the psychological impact of boarding schools, and the psychotherapy profession has been slow to address this issue. The boarding school culture has influenced British society, creating a top-down mentality and an entitlement complex among leaders. This has led to a lack of focus on children's needs and a contemptuous attitude towards younger people. This conversation explores the impact of boarding schools on individuals' emotional intelligence, decision-making, attitudes towards women and migrants, and intimate relationships. It delves into the militaristic and hyper-masculine nature of boarding schools and the purposeful disconnection from femininity. The conversation also examines the influence of boarding schools on attitudes towards intellectualism and the performative nature of intellectualism. It distinguishes between rebels and compliers among boarding school survivors and highlights the challenges of working with ex-boarders in therapy. The conversation concludes with insights on personal well-being and self-care.
Takeaways
The British tradition of sending children to boarding schools dates back to the Middle Ages and was formalized in the 19th century to produce leaders for the British Empire.There has been a lack of reflection on the psychological impact of boarding schools, and the psychotherapy profession has been slow to address this issue.The boarding school culture has influenced British society, creating a top-down mentality and an entitlement complex among leaders.This has led to a lack of focus on children's needs and a contemptuous attitude towards younger people.Boarding schools can disconnect individuals from vulnerability and emotional intelligence, leading to challenges in connecting with others and making good decisions.The militaristic and hyper-masculine nature of boarding schools can perpetuate antipathy towards women and migrants.Boarding school survivors may struggle with intimate relationships and find it difficult to enter into a 'we' dynamic due to their training in dissociation.Attitudes towards intellectualism in boarding schools can vary, with some schools fostering anti-intellectualism and a focus on performative qualities.Working with ex-boarders in therapy requires specialized training and an understanding of the unique challenges they face.Chapters
00:00Introduction and Background
03:38The Origins of Boarding Schools in Britain
04:07The Psychological Impact of Boarding Schools
10:51The Influence of Boarding Schools on British Culture
16:20The Lack of Reflection on Boarding School Impact
25:27The Un-child-focused Attitude in British Society
28:59The Entitlement Complex and Contempt for Younger People
29:46The Challenges Faced by Young People Today
31:12The Psychological Impact of Boarding School Training
31:36The Disconnect from Vulnerability
32:07The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
32:35The Impact of Emotional Disconnection on Decision-Making
33:08The Influence of Emotional Input on Decision-Making
34:11The Effects of Boarding School on Attitudes Towards Women and Migrants
35:03The Militaristic and Hyper-Masculine Nature of Boarding Schools
35:24The Purposeful Disconnection from Femininity
36:50The Introduction of Girls to Boarding Schools
37:17The Impact of Boarding School on Intimate Relationships
39:07The Influence of Boarding School on Attitudes Towards Intellectualism
42:46The Performative Nature of Intellectualism
43:13The Perception of Boris Johnson's Cleverness
44:29Rebels vs. Compliers
46:37The Impact of Boarding School on Personal Development
51:26The Journey to Well-Being
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In this powerful conversation, Sharla Smith, an equality, diversity, and inclusion consultant, and actor, discusses her work as a facilitator of sessions on unconscious bias, inclusive leadership, and anti-racism. She talks about the importance of creating a safe and respectful space for honest conversations and encourages participants to actively engage in the sessions to get the most out of them. Sharla also describes how her background in acting helps her liven up the sessions and make them more engaging. She shares her own experiences of facing discrimination and the importance of therapy and communication in processing and addressing such issues. Sharla primarily works with organizations in the public sector, conducting training sessions and courses on diversity and inclusion. She emphasizes the need to make the sessions interesting and interactive, incorporating exercises, games, and discussions. Overall, Sharla's goal is to create meaningful conversations and promote understanding and inclusivity.
Takeaways
The acting industry has significant barriers and challenges, including racism and limited opportunities for diverse actors.
The media often distorts historical visibility and reinforces rigid expectations of actors and characters.
Rejection in the acting industry can have a negative impact on mental health and integrity.
Transitioning to diversity, equality, and inclusion work can provide a sense of purpose and impact.
Engaging training sessions in diversity and inclusion require interactive exercises and open discussions.
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In this powerful conversation, Sharla Smith, an equality, diversity, and inclusion consultant, and actor, discusses her work as a facilitator of sessions on unconscious bias, inclusive leadership, and anti-racism. She talks about the importance of creating a safe and respectful space for honest conversations and encourages participants to actively engage in the sessions to get the most out of them. Sharla also describes how her background in acting helps her liven up the sessions and make them more engaging. She shares her own experiences of facing discrimination and the importance of therapy and communication in processing and addressing such issues. Sharla primarily works with organizations in the public sector, conducting training sessions and courses on diversity and inclusion. She emphasizes the need to make the sessions interesting and interactive, incorporating exercises, games, and discussions. Overall, Sharla's goal is to create meaningful conversations and promote understanding and inclusivity.
Takeaways
The acting industry has significant barriers and challenges, including racism and limited opportunities for diverse actors.The media often distorts historical visibility and reinforces rigid expectations of actors and characters.Rejection in the acting industry can have a negative impact on mental health and integrity.Transitioning to diversity, equality, and inclusion work can provide a sense of purpose and impact.Engaging training sessions in diversity and inclusion require interactive exercises and open discussions. -
Sybil Taunton, is the Head of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion for the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors (RICS). She is an advocate for equality, diversity, and inclusion. Today she shares her pxperiences and insights on topics such as the impact of the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy in the Uersonal eS military, the emotional toll of keeping secrets, the continuous war in America, and the lack of diversity in leadership. She also discusses her work with the Modern Military Association of America and the challenges faced by gay prison officers. Throughout the conversation, Sybil emphasizes the importance of representation, empathy, and inclusive leadership in creating a more equitable society. In this conversation, Sybil Taunton discusses the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing personal comfort levels when discussing sensitive topics such as sexual orientation, neurodivergence, and mental health. She emphasizes the need for EDI practitioners to understand their own boundaries while still being relatable and supportive to others. Additionally, Sybil shares advice on maintaining emotional safety and nourishment, including the importance of prioritization and managing expectations to avoid burnout.
Takeaways
The Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy had a significant emotional impact on LGBTQ+ service members, causing fear, anxiety, and a lack of psychological safety.Continuous war in America has shaped the country's culture and has had a significant impact on the working class, diverting resources away from domestic issues.Diversity in leadership is crucial for creating inclusive and innovative organizations, as it brings a variety of perspectives and experiences to the table.The emotional challenges of being a visible minority, such as a gay prison officer, can include fear, lack of privacy, and the need to navigate stereotypes and assumptions.Representation and visibility are essential for marginalized groups, as they provide role models and create a sense of belonging and opportunity. Setting boundaries is crucial when discussing personal and sensitive topics.Recognizing personal comfort levels and boundaries helps maintain emotional safety.Prioritization and managing expectations are key to avoiding burnout.EDI practitioners should strive to be relatable and supportive while still protecting their ownwellbeing. -
Sybil Taunton, is the Head of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion for the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors (RICS). She is an advocate for equality, diversity, and inclusion. Today she shares her pxperiences and insights on topics such as the impact of the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy in the Uersonal eS military, the emotional toll of keeping secrets, the continuous war in America, and the lack of diversity in leadership. She also discusses her work with the Modern Military Association of America and the challenges faced by gay prison officers. Throughout the conversation, Sybil emphasizes the importance of representation, empathy, and inclusive leadership in creating a more equitable society. In this conversation, Sybil Taunton discusses the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing personal comfort levels when discussing sensitive topics such as sexual orientation, neurodivergence, and mental health. She emphasizes the need for EDI practitioners to understand their own boundaries while still being relatable and supportive to others. Additionally, Sybil shares advice on maintaining emotional safety and nourishment, including the importance of prioritization and managing expectations to avoid burnout.
Takeaways
The Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy had a significant emotional impact on LGBTQ+ service members, causing fear, anxiety, and a lack of psychological safety.Continuous war in America has shaped the country's culture and has had a significant impact on the working class, diverting resources away from domestic issues.Diversity in leadership is crucial for creating inclusive and innovative organizations, as it brings a variety of perspectives and experiences to the table.The emotional challenges of being a visible minority, such as a gay prison officer, can include fear, lack of privacy, and the need to navigate stereotypes and assumptions.Representation and visibility are essential for marginalized groups, as they provide role models and create a sense of belonging and opportunity. Setting boundaries is crucial when discussing personal and sensitive topics.Recognizing personal comfort levels and boundaries helps maintain emotional safety.Prioritization and managing expectations are key to avoiding burnout.EDI practitioners should strive to be relatable and supportive while still protecting their ownwellbeing. -
In this episode of the Locked Up Living podcast, Naomi Murphy and David Jones host Stuart Wade, a renowned sportsman turned clinical hypnotherapist. Wade, a martial arts champion inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame, discusses his transition into hypnotherapy. He dispels common misconceptions about hypnotherapy and explains its therapeutic benefits for various issues including depression, phobias, and physical ailments. Wade also discusses techniques for personal improvement and shares a simple yet impactful color breathing technique for better mental health. From sports performance to emotional well-being and life improvement, the discussion dives deep into the impact that our mind and attitude can have in shaping our lives.
Takeaways
Hypnotherapy is a form of one-to-one therapy that can help with psychological, emotional, and physical issues.Anyone can be hypnotized to some extent, but the level of susceptibility varies.The Havening technique combines elements of hypnosis, EMDR, visualization, and physical touch to help alleviate negative emotions and rewire the brain.NLP was derived from hypnosis and focuses on using language to overcome issues in behavior, thoughts, and feelings.Hypnotherapy can be used to re-sculpt identity and help individuals achieve their goals.Hypnotherapy has clinical applications for fears, phobias, depression, and even physical issues.Techniques like color breathing and positive self-talk can be used to improve well-being. -
In this episode of the Locked Up Living podcast, Naomi Murphy and David Jones host Stuart Wade, a renowned sportsman turned clinical hypnotherapist. Wade, a martial arts champion inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame, discusses his transition into hypnotherapy. He dispels common misconceptions about hypnotherapy and explains its therapeutic benefits for various issues including depression, phobias, and physical ailments. Wade also discusses techniques for personal improvement and shares a simple yet impactful color breathing technique for better mental health. From sports performance to emotional well-being and life improvement, the discussion dives deep into the impact that our mind and attitude can have in shaping our lives.
Takeaways
Hypnotherapy is a form of one-to-one therapy that can help with psychological, emotional, and physical issues.Anyone can be hypnotized to some extent, but the level of susceptibility varies.The Havening technique combines elements of hypnosis, EMDR, visualization, and physical touch to help alleviate negative emotions and rewire the brain.NLP was derived from hypnosis and focuses on using language to overcome issues in behavior, thoughts, and feelings.Hypnotherapy can be used to re-sculpt identity and help individuals achieve their goals.Hypnotherapy has clinical applications for fears, phobias, depression, and even physical issues.Techniques like color breathing and positive self-talk can be used to improve well-being. - Visa fler
