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  • Samira Shihab has evolved as an entrepreneur into venture capital with her most recent position in building and leading AC Ventures’ value creation team. She is also the founder of Stellar Women, Indonesia’s first female focused business accelerator and platform for entrepreneurs and women leaders. Previously, she is also is the co-founder of Tinkerlust, Indonesia’s leading preloved luxury marketing place.This episode is sponsored by NordVPN who is giving all TIGS listeners an exclusive deal: A 2-year plan plus 4 extra months, with an unconditional 30-day money-back guarantee.Go to nordvpn.com/indahg or use the code INDAHG at checkout.Timestamps:
    0:00 – Thank You, NordVPN
    1:44 – Jesus is a Capricorn
    2:38 – What do you consider a big age gap? Why & how did Samira decide to get married at 23? Tradwife & internalized misogyny?
    17:39 – How Samira would have approached dating & marriage differently — Protect yourself better, ladies!
    27:06 – Would you rather your husband become the billionaire, or you become the billionaire?
    32:08 – Did you like being a stay-at-home mom/wife?
    34:16 – Should the legal age to marry be raised to 21, or is 19 okay? Are you sure you weren’t groomed? How to responsibly assess men before getting married?
    43:46 – Pros and cons of marrying young, opinion on modern feminism, Khadija bint Khuwaylid, why do you respect your partner?
    52:01 – What if your daughter came home with a much older man?
    58:43 – Why are people these days lazy to date? Modern gender warfare, bottled-up resentment about the patriarchy, trust issues with men
    1:18:21 – Girl talk
    1:21:26 – Criteria to screen your future husband — What questions to ask on a date?

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  • Bobby Saputra is the son of the richest man in Indonesia, his dad owns the bottled water brand AK-WA, and today he wants to share his political opinions about homelessness, climate change, the military bill, and the economy with Cindy Liu, daughter of the richest woman in Indonesia and largest collector of Birkin bags.No timestamps this time, cause timestamps are for poor people.Continue to the VIP episode on NOICE?”:https://open.noice.id/catalog/dc1dfd52-27f1-4e82-853c-275f33544f22?utm_source=app_sharing&referrer_id=e7d9d677-a918-42b1-a718-805fcf608cdf&utm_medium=podcast

  • Gaby Hartanto is a Chinese-Indonesian model, actress, speaker, and entrepreneur who has successfully balanced her passion for entertainment with a strong commitment to education.She began her career in the Indonesian entertainment industry at the age of 14 and has since made her mark internationally as a model, working with global brands and being featured in renowned fashion publications.Alongside her creative pursuits, Gaby earned her degree from UC San Diego in 2021, reflecting her dedication to academic excellence. As an actress, she has appeared in various web series and films, showcasing her versatility and depth on screen.Drawing from these experiences, she is
    now growing her podcast, Progressive Mindset @progressivemindset.id , where she shares
    meaningful conversations to elevate each other’s mindsets.Her genuine love for connecting with people has allowed her to build an
    extensive network, which she considers one of her greatest asset.0:00 — Thank You Velvet Gunawarman
    00:23 — Chaotic Banter
    6:40 — Would you rather be overestimated or underestimated in your intelligence? Why do you, should you, care about your appearance?
    19:57 — Stigmas & stereotypes about models, men (including politicians) trying to buy you
    35:50 — Continue to NOICE VIP
    42:34 — Popular Pretty Girl (Gaby) vs. Ugly Loser Girl (Indah) back in High School; Is it easier to make friends when you're pretty?
    51:26 — Too pretty to be intelligent? Why is it okay when women sexualize men but not the other way around?
    01:09:10 — Does being attractive include or exclude you from certain spaces?
    01:21:30 — Do you like male attention?

  • Anies Baswedan is the former Indonesian Minister of Education and Culture (2014–2016) and former Governor of Jakarta (2017–2022). More recently, he ran as a presidential candidate in the 2024 Indonesian general election. He holds a PhD in Public Policy from Northern Illinois University, a Master’s degree from the School of Public Policy at the University of Maryland, and a Bachelor's degree in Economics from Universitas Gadjah Mada. In 2023, he was appointed to the board of the Asia Research Center at the University of Oxford.

    Timestamps:

    0:00 — Life in Maryland, Illinois & DC. What does Anies miss from life in the United States?
    9:43 — Moving back to Indonesia after life abroad
    19:08 — Being the only brown Muslim Indonesian kid living with a white family in Milwaukee, speaking in churches to an audience of white people
    25:51 — Advice for international Indonesians abroad: Hangout with non-Indonesians! Addressing Indonesia's lack of global presence and global comprehension
    40:05 — The role Indonesian international students play on the global stage, and advice for when Indonesians travel
    58:40 — Continue to VIP Section
    58:54 — The importance of speaking an international language, addressing the narrative that speaking English makes you less patriotic, and how did Anies learn English?
    01:21:36 — Closing, aspirations for Indonesia, and recommendations for LPDP reformation

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  • Firu got in an arranged marriage at age 23, and Mela used to be an ustadzah who wore the hijab and then later in life decided to take it off. Curious now, aren't you?

    Timestamps
    0:00 — Firu, Indah & Mela's reactions to Azzamine movie trailer
    4:44 — Takdir vs. Consent & Agency, How does marriage in Islam work?
    14:27 — Why did Firu want to be in an arranged marriage? What was that process like?
    17:06 — Are arranged marriages still common? Is dating haram in Islam?
    31:08 — Why did Firu’s and his now-wife reject each other at first?
    35:20 — Why arranged marriages work, and analyzing divorce in the west vs. east
    38:04 — Why did Firu get married young? Was it really by choice? Pros & cons of arranged marriages, Western dating vs. Eastern dating
    45:17 — ‘Biro Jodoh’ and when arrange marriages DON’T work out
    53:33 — Liberal Muslims vs. Conservative Muslims on arranged marriages, parents projecting what they want in your partners & 'Indonesia Tanpa Pacaran'
    01:06:09 — Would you put your kids in an arranged marriage? What if they don’t want to get married? Reflections on life before marriage & kids vs. after, being unmarried in your 30s, and what is ‘Jatuh Cinta?’
    01:16:26 — The Syar’i way of finding love in Islam & Hijrah for men vs. women
    01:21:27 — Why Mela took off her hijab, debating hijab for pre-pubescent girls, and is it hot under there?
    01:34:09 — The burden of taking off the hijab & the unfair expectations & standards placed on Muslim women
    01:48:35 — (Closing) Why is love hard? Finding love after college, and why Indah actually really likes being single

  • Ian Hugen is a content creator, radio announcer, and writer, pioneering change and storytelling as a transgender individual in Indonesia.

    Timestamps:

    0:00 — Difference in how parents & family treated you as a boy vs. as a girl. Do you want to have kids?
    14:47 — Moving abroad, seeking medical services in Indonesia as a trans person
    19:26 — What is a woman? What's inside your pants? Are cis people & trans people different?
    32:34 — Sponsorship Message
    35:34 — How to navigate having transgender children? HRT in Indonesia & the dangers of trans people self-medicating
    53:32 — Getting work done, Mother-Daughter relationships, and do trans women feel pressured by the same beauty standards as cis women?
    01:03:36 — Should parents financially provide for their kids' transition? How would you define someone who is "transphobic?"

  • Gita is a serial entrepreneur and venture investor with over 20 years of experience. In her free time, she writes about failure, women’s issues, and mental health on Instagram. Ario is content creator & entrepreneur. He talks about tech, parenting, relationship & life. Either Jack of all trades or Master of None, you decide.

    Check out Parentalk: https://parentalk.id, https://www.instagram.com/parentalk.id/

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - Intro
    00:40 - How Do Misscarriage happens?
    08:26 - What were the emotions during a misscarriage journey?
    10:19 - Conceiving a baby is not easy.
    12:04 - The stereotypical judgment of Indonesian people.
    13:28 - IUD
    14:19 - 50% of infertility being an issue with the male partner.
    15:50 - Did you immediately tell people after you get pregnant?
    18:46 - How did people react?
    23:32 - How did people react to Ario’s infertility?
    25:30 - How did Gita’s & SImon’sfamily members react?
    26:43 - Judgments in weddings
    28:25 - People love to blame
    29:05 - How did Ario react to his infertility and the process he’s gone through?
    33:00 - Both of your babies are IVF?
    34:20 - IVF?

    VIP Portion:
    41:13 - Baby’s head has a helmet (superbowl!!)
    42:39 - Having a baby is not a final destination
    46:23 - Have an identity outside being a parent / Being a parent and its responsibility.
    51:42 - Do people focus more on your wife or the baby when giving birth?
    56:10 - IVF, menstruating, what’s put in the body
    59:07 - Did Ario’s wife go through any hormonal treatment?
    1:00:29 - Your partner needs to be there throughout the process.
    1:04:53 - Gender, sexism, poornes, and stay at home partner.
    1:08:17 - How do you wish for people to apologize to you?
    11:20:20 - How do you wish people would go about your misscarriage/ infertility issue?
    1:13:42 - Have you guys ever considered Adoption?
    1:15:43 - Why is having biological children a big deal?
    1:23:17 - What ways to normalize these topics?
    1:24:16 - CLOSING (Lighting Rounds)

  • Azka Corbuzier is a content creator and media personality. He’s currently attaining a bachelors in Psychology at Universitas Indonesia.

    Timestamps:
    0:00 — Intro vlog
    00:58 — When did your fitness journey start & how?
    11:15 — Can anyone afford to get fit?
    19:57 — Do you feel like beauty standards for men are fair?
    27:58 — How can we start our fitness journey and stop making excuses?
    28:50 — How to navigate your partner gaining a lot of weight



    50:45 — Body Positivity Movement, Should all sizes be represented?
    01:00:29 — Is eating healthier easier when you're poorer in Indonesia?
    01:06:20 — YAP SESSION; Talking politics on camera vs. IRL, motivational podcasts, extroverts vs. introverts, chronotypes & going on dates

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  • Ferry Haris is an accomplished cybersecurity and privacy management professional with a diverse international background, based in the Netherlands. Through his boutique consulting firm, FeHa International Consulting, he offers comprehensive solutions in IT risk management, compliance, and cybersecurity, particularly tailored to the needs of small and medium-sized enterprises. Ferry's current focus lies in developing, growing, and sustaining a series of cybersecurity and privacy management tech companies serving global organizations and individuals needs.

    Timestamps
    00:00 — Why do I keep getting anonymous phone calls? Why does Indonesia have so many scammers? The problem with cybersecurity & digitization in Indonesia.
    8:37 — How to make a strong password, and why it matters?
    16:14 — VPNs, Avoiding airport wifi & how to properly protect ourselves (anti-virus & browsing habits)
    22:57 — KTP, UUPDP, and the failure of Indonesian businesses protecting private citizens' private information
    40:51 — The everyday ways we are compromising our privacy without even knowing
    50:44 — Social media & why we should & shouldn't care that everything we post is there forever? How to navigate what we should and should not post on social media, and what we need to do to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe on the internet?
    01:04:04 — Digital resiliency is everything, the importance of knowing how much information is worth before posting it publicly
    01:11:45 — Should we be covering our cameras? What are common digital habits that compromise our safety? (Pirated software debate)

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  • Oza Rangkuti adalah seorang akuntan.(Canda, dia komedian)0:59 — Kapan Kawin? Umur berapa mulai merokok dan kenapa mulai? Mami merokok gak? Kesenjangan gender dalam merokok12:30 — Cewek lu minta lo berhenti merokok, gimana reaksi lo?19:05 — Peran media & lingkungan sosial21:56 — Apakah lo mulai merokok gara2 tekanan sosial dari teman2? Bahas rokok & maskulinitas, manfaat sosial dari merokok, dan kenapa cowok gak bisa ngobrol kalo gak minta korek dulu?Continue on VIP:20:57 — Apakah lo mulai merokok gara2 tekanan sosial dari teman2? Bahas rokok & maskulinitas, manfaat sosial dari merokok, dan kenapa cowok gak bisa ngobrol kalo gak minta korek dulu?41:18 — Cara Oza mengurangi merokok45:52 — Cerita Indah digebukin nyokap gara2 ketangkap merokok; Gimana kalo suatu hari anak2 lo yang merokok, cara memperkenalkan rokok dan alkohol ke anak201:02:45 — Kenapa rokok sebenarnya isu ekonomi, dan apa sarannya?

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  • Adythia Pratama is a guerilla marketing expert. He is the Founder & CEO of PT Braja Biru Abadi, a company that pioneered the product "Integrated Marketing System," a marketing system that integrates conventional marketing methods with digital marketing methods.

    0:00 — Dutch vs. Japanese colonization; Did we learn corruption from the Portuguese?
    5:24 — Marketing vs. Manipulation, Motivation vs. Manipulation, Cow's Milk; Is manipulation really a bad thing?
    13:45 — Morals & ethics in marketing, cigarettes, social media & drugs
    21:14 — What is the most powerful and most successfully marketed product in the world? Is there morality in Marketing? Branding vs. Sales vs. Marketing.
    56:07 — Derail: GBTL in the U.S & Rainbow Washing during Pride Month; Are you pro GBTL? R
    01:13:57 — Apple vs. Congo, and why the allegations are unlikely to be true
    01:23:33 — Consumers responsibility, ju0l, pinj0l & PayLater
    01:53:53 — The important role of private businesses in shaping the future of Indonesia, Marketing book recommendations from Adythia
    2:07:28 — Moral Aesthetics; How morally flexible are you?

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    Adit MKM adalah mas-mas Jawa biasa yang kebetulan selama setahun terakhir sudah punya kebiasaan baca buku. Sempat terlibat juga dalam kesenian stand-up comedy, tapi sekarang lebih banyak menghabiskan waktu untuk jalan-jalan bersama anabul.Get a copy of ‘Masa Depan yang Tidak Boleh Dibicarakan’ bit.ly/bukumasadepanTimestamps: 00.00 — Indonesia, Etc. and Stolen Focus08:46 — Do we need to read books? Social media vs Reading Books29:01 — Why are gossip/entertainment content more favorable than intellectually stimulating content in Indonesians? How do we exercise literacy and curiosity?38:48 — Do Indonesians just hate reading? Discussing book accessibility and the book market in Indonesia 54:55 — What was the first book that you read as a child? 01:12:25 — Does reading articles, newspaper, and religious books count as intellectually stimulating reading?01:25:35 — Do you think parents have a major role in developing reading habits? The importance of showcasing influencers/content creators who read 01:35:07 — Adit & Indah's top three books in their wishlists, and not judging people by what they read01:54:40 — [Plug] Adit MKM's first book

  • Dr. Bagus Muljadi (PhD) is an Assistant Professor of Engineering at the University of Nottingham. His expertise lies at the interface between applied mathematics, physics, and engineering, with applications in geothermal, bio-architecture, semiconductor, peatland, and others involving flow in complex geometries. He also facilitates partnerships between UK and Indonesian higher education + research institutions. Through the UK-Indonesia Consortium for Interdisciplinary Sciences (UKICIS), Dr. Muljadi is helping the UK and Indonesia governments manifest stronger collaborations in research and innovation.

    Timestamps:

    0:00 — Precision in different languages (German vs. Indonesian)
    02:36 — The role of the professor, wokeness infiltrating academia, and what are 'safe spaces' actually supposed to be?
    16:03 — Progressivism vs. Liberalism & not putting your politics into boxes. What is the difference between Independent thinking vs. Critical thinking? Learning not to view antithesis as antagonization. Why do liberal values come much more naturally to some cultures compared to others?
    22:18 — Sponsorship | Jalinstraksi
    24:24 — Thesis vs. Antithesis in critical thinking
    35:00 — Nationalism vs. Globalism, 'The Walled Garden' analogy by Professor Bagus. How do we get Indonesia on the international stage?

    46:00 — Continuing to VIP Section
    51:21 — More on Critical thinking vs. Independent thinking. Can independent thinking exist within a collective societal structure? Being individualists on a macro scale, being collectivist on a micro scale, rights & responsibilities being reciprocal
    01:14:41 — Is independent thinking antithetical to social cohesion?
    01:20:18 — How do we avoid being trapped in echo chambers on social media, and use it as a tool of exposure and perspective-taking? How to tell when people's political understanding is just whatever is trending on social media.
    01:32:40 — Culture & accents, does Bagus get dogpiled on by people in the U.K for being more American accented?
    01:39:27 — Comedians, the courage to tell the truth, more on how do we avoid being trapped in echo chambers on social media, and the importance of narratives & counter-narratives

  • Andytha F. Utami, also known as Afutami, is the Founder and CEO of Think Policy, a community-driven enterprise focusing on solving intergenerational issues through improving the ecosystem of policy making in Indonesia. She advises the government on addressing climate policy constraints, including energy and land transition, industrial decarbonization, as well as human capital development. She has nearly a decade of experience in the sector through her time as the Environmental Economist with the World Bank and Climate Program Lead at the World Resources Institute. In 2023, Think Policy co-initiated a technology-based political education movement Bijak Memilih (bijakmemilih.id) which aims to build a critical mass of engaged citizens, which has been accessed more than 11 million times and awarded the MIT Solve global competition. This year, she was named Fortune 40 under 40 for her contribution on public policy.Afu's has a Master’s in Public Policy from Harvard University and has published the best-selling book "Menjadi" which promotes critical thinking and awareness on social issues.

    Timestamp:
    02:02 — Where were you when Peringatan Darurat happened? Fufufafa, Private Jet & Body Odor; Content vs. Container, The Dance Floor vs. The Balcony
    11:45 — Why don’t we know how to listen to different opinions anymore? Social media literacy, echo chambers, ego and cancel culture as the new fascism
    38:58 — Do politicians deserve empathy & compassion?
    52:40 — Afu’s Top 4 of where democracy went wrong
    01:07:34 — Why should we not be voting based on our own values and morals? Socrates’ views on democracy.
    01:19:50 — Lower Class, Middle Class & Rich People. Why it’s in rich people’s benefit to want to push up the poor and middle class, and how do we include rich people in the conversation?
    01:36:49 — How do you get the courage to speak up and take action? How do we empower that in others? High Agency vs. Low Agency.
    01:38:22 — Capitalism, Should billionaires exist? Should there be an inheritance tax?

  • Daniel Limantara is the CEO and Founder of Neo Historia Indonesia, a dynamic platform dedicated to revitalizing the way history is taught and appreciated. With a strong passion for making historical knowledge accessible and engaging, Daniel led his team to create content that resonates with a wide audience, effectively blending educational rigor with modern storytelling techniques. Daniel’s commitment to education and history not only enlightens but also inspires a new generation to dig deeper into their heritage.

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    00.00 — Can you easily identify the different types of Chinese people? Discussing the diversity of Chinese Southeast Asian and the Chinese language
    06:22 — Did your parents teach you Hokkien/Teochew?
    11:19 — How is the writing system of Hokkien, Teochew and the other dialects? What's your Chinese name?
    14:12 — What generation Chinese Indonesian are you? Cina Totok vs. Cina Peranakan
    17:18 — How did we get here? Brief history of Chinese in Indonesia
    28:25 — "Balik sana ke Cina!"
    32:39 — Racial segregation between Chinese Indonesians and Non-Chinese-Indonesians.
    36:43 — Chinese Indonesians are also racist towards each other.
    38:33 — Chinese Indonesian Stereotypes
    46:51 – Unpacking Chinese Indonesian generational traumaContinue to VIP:
    50:15 — 1998 and the most harmful stereotype about Chinese Indonesians
    55:22 — Where are we (Chinese-Indonesian) are trying to go? Did your parents allow you to hangout with non-Chindos?
    01:01:35 — Can Chinese-Indonesian talk about politics? Discussing Chinese-Indonesian in politics and the after effects of Jaman Orba on Chinese Indonesians.
    01:11:58 — Who is responsible for progressing the racial tolerance in Indonesia? What should we do to progress towards inclusivity in Indonesia?
    01:23:58 — The myth of cultural incompatibility theory

  • Pandji Pragiwaksono is a father of 2, and a daddy to 283 million Indonesians. Sometimes he does standup comedy.

    Timestamps:

    00.45 — Were you allowed to cry as a child? What was growing up with divorced parents like? Was your father present? Was he a good husband?
    10:30 — Is your mom/dad a good person?
    13.33 — Sponsorship (JalinTraksi)
    16:00 — Would you rather have a rich & absent parent, or a poor present parent? Pandji reflecting on being a shit dad
    24:18 — How did your parent fuck up with you, and fucked you up? Unpacking generational trauma we inherited from our parents
    29:55 — Why are you an angry person? Discussing mental health
    36:30 — Daddy issues and sugar-babies. How did being fatherless affect Indah growing up?
    45:44 — What did you continue and unlearn from your parents? Why did Indah's mom not get married? Why did Pandji's parents never remarry?
    56:15 — Pandji's biggest fearContinue on VIP:
    01.00.13 — Do you like being a dad? Why are you so hard on yourself?
    01:10:55 — Did you want to be a dad? Why is Indah so adamant about adopting?
    01.17.36 — Analyzing the Fatherlessness Epidemic in Indonesia & Deconstructing The Role of a Father
    01:32:55 — Have you ever met men that resented having kids? Did your dad hug you? What's your love language?
    01.47.30 —Solution to Fatherlessness, Abortion & Women’s Role in Fatherlessness

  • Grace Tahir has worked in the healthcare industry for 20+ years. She is one of the directors of Mayapada Hospitals, and a co-founder of digital media company, Everest Media. She loves reading books and is a mom of three.Watch the full episode (with no ads) on NOICE for just Rp. 15K that will go towards supporting this show and everybody on the TIGS team. NOICE is available on mobile device app, or web browser. Accepted payment methods include GoPay QRIS & Virtual Accounts for your convenience.Link to TIGS on NOICE: https://open.noice.id/catalog/dc1dfd5... Timestamps:0:10 — Did you want to become a mom? Did you have good parents? What was 1 bad and 1 good thing your parents did with you?09:09 — Parents apologizing to their children, forgiving our parents for being toxic/abusive, what is the difference between toxic parents and abusive parents, “Anak Durhaka”17:41 — Who takes care of your parents now that you have a family of your own? How do siblings decide who takes care of the parents? Living with parents after marriage, juggling career, family & parents22:40 — Why do people put their parents in retirement homes, are we obligated to take care of our parents? Pragmatic alternatives to sending your parents to a retirement home. Do all parents deserve to be taken care of?37:00 — “I am not your friend, I am your parent.” Navigating our relationship with our parents as adults, and how to make our kids actually want to spend time with us. Loving our parents vs. Liking our parents, Honoring our parents vs. Obeying our parents.56:53 — Orang tua durhaka, child free movement, IVF, surrogacy

  • Maureen Kartika is a Beauty & Lifestyle content creator. Through her content, Maureen strives to represent people with disabilities in the beauty industry and promoting a message of inclusivity. She is dedicated to raising awareness about disabilities and contributing to the vision of an inclusive Indonesia where everyone can thrive.This episode is sponsored by Bhoelan, Indonesia's first adaptive wear line for people with physical disabilities and limited mobility. Available on Shopee.Indah is wearing the 'SARAH' blouse. Get it here: https://shopee.co.id/Bhoelan-SARAH-Ke... Timestamps:0:00 — When is it okay to ask disabled people about their disabilities? How do we go about asking those questions?12:10 — "Orang Disabilitas vs. Orang Difabel," "Cacat," and handling generational gaps between elders and educational gaps between genuinely uninformed people18:44 — Where do disabled people hangout? Braille for blind & hard-of-sight people, elevators, allegations of special treatment & the soft bigotry of low expectations38:47 — Sekolah Luar Biasa, diversity hiring & admissions, early exposure and bridging dialogues between disabled and non-disabled people57:06 — Disability in professional settings & job recruitment, diversity quotas, envisioning a discrimination-free hiring system01:15:04 — Pasung & family hiding disabled members01:24:25 — Fashion & Beauty for disabled people01:39:12 — Partying, Dating, Marriage & Sex for disabled people