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So many women are not experiencing the sex, orgasms, and intimacy they genuinely want. Often, they blame themselves for this or settle for the belief that “this is just as good as it gets.” But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m so excited to welcome back master certified coach, podcast host, and sexual pleasure and intimacy expert Danielle Savory. In this episode, we dive into the powerful themes of the newly released series "Dying for Sex" and explore the larger conversation about the self-intimacy and vulnerability that is required for women to understand and advocate for their sexual wants and needs. Here’s what we cover:
The harmful cultural narratives that continue to shape women’s experiences of sexualityHow developing intimacy with yourself helps you overcome obstacles to pleasureWhy our healing and exploration thrive in the presence of other womenHow to open up a conversation around sexuality with a friend The role of the body and nervous system in cultivating openness and curiosity around pleasure Practical starting points for women ready to explore their sexual desireI can't wait for you to listen!
Check out the series "Dying for Sex": https://www.imdb.com/title/
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Many women who struggle with people-pleasing often blame themselves, but these habits are usually rooted in deeper issues that are beyond our control. There can be various underlying causes, but in this episode, I share how my personal experiences with bullying have influenced my people-pleasing tendencies. If recalling your own experiences of being bullied brings up strong emotions--it’s okay to skip this episode if it feels too tender. But if you’re ready, I invite you to explore how these early wounds may have influenced your people-pleasing—and how healing starts with self-compassion, not self-criticism. Here’s what I cover:
An overview of the four nervous system responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawnA deep dive into the “fawn” nervous system response and how it connects bullying to people-pleasingHow bullying-related shame impacts our sense of worthinessA visualization exercise that uses arts work to help you heal your inner childWhy being attuned to others’ needs might actually be a trauma responseA compassionate question to ask yourself that will reveal the beliefs you formed about safety and belongingDr. Ramani Clip: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHL5jFLMbE2/?hl=en
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You may remember my conversation with therapist Andrea Parks about the drama triangle and how we can shift out of harmful roles in our relationships. But once we escape the drama, how do we build the deep, connected relationships we crave? In this episode, Andrea introduces the intimacy triangle and we dive into how authenticity, openness, and responsiveness create true closeness. Here's what we cover:
The role that vulnerability plays in intimate relationshipsHow to strengthen the three components necessary for intimacy in your relationshipsWhy it’s often difficult to develop the three components of intimacy in high-demand religions or family systemsExamples of how openness increases intimacy in all relationshipsWhy responsiveness is often transactional or conditional in an unhealthy systemI can’t wait for you to listen.
By training and profession Andrea is a therapist and facilitator. She is in private practice and the owner of Bloom Healing. She has a degree in Child Development and a Masters degree in Counseling psychology. She has training and experience in psychodrama, attachment, somatic bodywork, developmental trauma, grief and life transitions. Alongside her work as a trauma therapist she specializes in group therapy and loves creating spaces where individuals with diverse backgrounds can come together in community and heal. By choice and good fortune she is the mother to three children and honored to be partnered with Shawn, her closest friend and companion in life. In her free time she is a seeker of poetry, wild things, beauty and friendship.
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One of the biggest challenges for people pleasers is the fear of disappointing, inconveniencing, or hurting others. As women, we have often been programmed to avoid these situations in order to maintain happy and peaceful relationships since childhood. But how can we truly find happiness and peace when we constantly betray our own wants and needs to avoid conflict and keep others satisfied? In today’s episode, I speak with Celeste Davis, who writes about deconstructing patriarchy and learning how to take up more space in the world as a woman on her Substack, Matriarchal Blessing. We explore the themes of her essay, "The Cost of Chronic Accommodation," which addresses the sacrifices women make to ensure the happiness of others—and how to break that cycle. Here's what we cover:
The invisible cost of never prioritizing your own desiresHow a woman's self-sacrifice is expected and even romanticized by our societyWhy doormat or b*tch are not your only options for how you show up–there is a middle ground where you can assert yourselfHow social structures that depend on doing invisible work for free keep women from valuing our time and energy Two unique definitions of boundaries to help you protect what is sacred to youHow to deal with the avalanche of emotions–fear, anxiety, shame, guilt–that you have been programmed to feel when you disappoint someoneI can’t wait for you to listen.
Terri Cole on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-a-high-functioning-codependent-find-out/id1564530722?i=1000703548035
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https://celestemdavis.substack.com/
http://celestemdavis.substack.com/p/hidden-costs-of-accommodation
https://celestemdavis.substack.com/about
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You may have heard Dr. Crystal Hall's name on the podcast a few weeks back when I responded to the video about why women are leaving the church. Crystal comes to the church from a feminist perspective–she's doing the deep work of unpacking how patriarchy has shaped religious spaces. As a coach for women in ministry, she helps others identify and unlearn the subconscious beliefs religion has instilled about their worth, roles, and voices. Here's what we cover:
The influence of patriarchal programming in our society–it's something that shapes us before we even learn about feminism or religionHow feminist values can come to the surface through the foundation of patriarchyWhy resistance, recovery, and re-reading are three essential ways to engage with religion through a feminist lensHow coaching can bridge the gap between the theory of gender equality and its practiceWhy grieving is part of feminist spiritual practice—especially when confronting what was lost or never offeredWhat gives us hope for the future when it comes to feminism, patriarchy, and religionI can’t wait for you to listen.
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So many women blame themselves for their people-pleasing tendencies–I can’t speak up, I apologize too much, I have to avoid conflict at all costs. If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, the first thing I want you to know is that it’s not your fault, and there is nothing wrong with you. We’ve lived our entire lives in a patriarchal system that shapes how we think about ourselves as women. In this episode, I give you a peek behind the curtain of that unconscious operating system and provide a framework to explore–and change–the tendencies that lead us to believe there’s something wrong with us. Here's what I cover:
The unconscious limitations we have due to our programmingHow our behaviors are shaped by a constant interplay between conscious and unconscious thoughtsSeveral examples of how to reframe self-critical thoughts so you can feel better, not worseThe importance of tuning into your body while practicing new thoughtsA visualization to help you reach toward the mindset you want—not the one you inheritedHow imagining a younger version of yourself can build self-compassionI can't wait for you to listen.
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It’s so common to tie our worth to our weight—this message has been ingrained in us from a young age. But the truth is, no number on the scale can give you the value and worth you're searching for. I’m so excited for you to hear my conversation with Laura Conley, a coach who helps moms lose weight for the last time. We talk about how our health isn’t tied to diet culture or calorie-counting, but to reconnecting with yourself and your body from a place of love and curiosity. Here’s what we cover:
The impact of growing up in a society that idealizes certain body typesWhy emotional eating—using food as a quick escape from stress–can be hard to recognizeHow misinterpreting the body positivity movement can create more shame for some, and why it’s okay to want changeThere is no set “prescription” for weight loss–you have to figure out what you truly want and needHow balancing your hunger hormones can deepen your self-connectionThe role that systems like Big Food play in our health, habits, and ability to make positive changeI can't wait for you to listen!
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https://www.lauraconley.com
https://theyummymummy.lauraconley.com/3stepcalories
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lose-weight-for-the-last-time-with-laura-conley/
https://www.instagram.com/lauraconleycoaching/
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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After speaking with Britt Hartley in last week's episode, several listeners sent me the same video of Jared Halvorson attempting to call women back to the church. Today, I want to respond to that video and continue exploring how the tools of organized religion—Christianity in particular—were not designed with women in mind. We’ll dive into the harmful ways institutions view women and examine how patriarchy affects everyone--even those with good intentions. Here’s what I cover:
How institutional patriarchy teaches even the most well-meaning men to uphold systems that don't serve womenWhy leaving the church can be an incredible reclamation of power for womenHow women are often cast as incompetent decision-makers so that men can “rescue” themThe problematic rebranding of sacrifice as an investmentHow all institutions–not just religious ones–depend on women staying small and helpfulWhat happens when women start connecting to themselves and making decisions based on what they truly believe is best for their livesI can't wait for you to listen.
Jared Halvorson’s apology video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DH06jbisdK2/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA%3D%3D
Crystal Hall: https://www.crystalhallphd.com/
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So much of our good-girl programming is rooted in religious teachings. Many of these rules keep us trapped in people-pleasing, but it’s possible to break free and develop a healthy spirituality– one that empowers you to live life the way you want. Today, I’m joined by Atheist Spiritual Director and author of No Nonsense Spirituality, Britt Hartley, to explore this transformation. Here’s what we cover:
Breaking down the definition of atheism and what healthy spirituality looks likeHow to identify a high-demand religion--significant control in your life with a high cost if you leaveThe deep connection between religion and patriarchyWhy different methods of healing are often necessary for women who leave religionTools to help women reconnect with themselves and figure out who they truly areHow religious patriarchy hurts everyone, not just womenI can't wait for you to listen.
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www.nononsensespirituality.com
https://nononsensespirituality.com/book
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It can be so hard for women to find reliable information about their bodies and what they truly need to be healthy. In this episode, I talk to award-winning journalist and author of The Vagina Business, Marina Gerner. Her book explores FemTech—innovations designed to genuinely support women’s health rather than mislead or market to them with misinformation. Together, we dive into the world of women’s health and knowledge can empower a vibrant female experience. Here’s what we cover:
An introduction to FemTech and how it’s driving progress in women’s healthThe taboos that often block women from getting the care and support they needWhy female pain is often normalized instead of being properly treatedHow to tell the difference between privacy and shame when it comes to women’s bodiesHow scam tech and the pink tax exploit women—even in healthcareKey questions to identify scam tech vs. innovations that seek to support women’s healthI can’t wait for you to listen.
Marina Gerner’s debut book is out now. THE VAGINA BUSINESS: THE INNOVATIVE BREAKTHROUGHS THAT COULD CHANGE EVERYTHING IN WOMEN’S HEALTH. A deeply researched journalistic investigation, it shines a spotlight on the fantastic potential of femtech (female technology) to transform women’s lives, if it’s done well. As a journalist, she has written about books and arts, as well as finance and tech for over a decade. Her range of expertise has led to Marina being called "a Renaissance woman of the modern age." Marina has won several awards and written for The Economist, Jewish Chronicle, Guardian, Financial Times, Wired, the Times Literary Supplement, The Times, and the Wall Street Journal. She has been a contributing editor at The Sunday Times Raconteur, the i newspaper and MoneyWeek.
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/marina-gerner-phd-2252ba26/
https://schedule.sxsw.com/2025/events/PP150229
https://www.marinagerner.com/preordernow
https://marinagerner.substack.com/
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Connection is a fundamental human need, yet many feel disempowered when it comes to making friends or deepening existing relationships. Today, I’m joined by connection coach Jewel Hohman to discuss the importance of strong friendships and how people-pleasing tendencies affect our ability to form meaningful bonds. Here’s what we cover:
How societal programming around friendship contributes to the loneliness epidemicWhy good girl tendencies like over-apologizing take away from the honesty that is essential to friendshipHow cultural factors–think church or Disney–have perpetuated prioritizing romantic connection over friendshipThe crucial role of consistency and vulnerability in creating and deepening friendshipsHow to determine when to end a friendship and do so with compassionWhy conflict resolution is key to stronger friendshipsI can’t wait for you to listen!
As a connection enthusiast with a degree in psychology and sociology, over 4000 hours coaching on connection, and a pending master’s in social work, Jewel combines evidence-based self-help and the latest friendship research to help people build friendships that actually nourish them. In a post-pandemic world where millions are lonelier and more disconnected than ever, this conversation is urgent but mostly ignored, and Jewel is on a mission to change that!
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www.connectionwithjewel.com
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Facebook.com/lifecoachjewel
https://www.connectionwithjewel.com/podcast
https://www.connectionwithjewel.com/resources
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Embodying real wealth means being true to yourself with every decision–whether in your career, family life, or finances. Today, I’m joined by financial planner and author Julie Murphy to discuss how aligning with your authentic self can transform your financial reality. So many of us are not living the life we want because we feel stuck in our financial situation. Julie offers a fresh perspective on how that shifts when we love ourselves first and create the safety that allows us to choose adventure. Here's what we cover:
How to embrace a new kind of discomfort that will enable you to pivot to the lifestyle you actually wantHow our programming has led us to “make do” or “figure it out” even when it's not our job Why listening to your body is the most effective way to make the right financial decisionHow building your trust muscle will help you toward financial freedomExamples to help you learn how to accept disappointing someone in a financial settingThe value of a support system when you're finding financial empowermentI can't wait for you to listen.
Julie Murphy is a Chicago-based CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ and founder and CEO of JMC Wealth Management, Inc. Julie received her BS in Finance from the University of Illinois Champaign-Urbana and her MBA from The University of Notre Dame. With 25+ years of experience in the financial services industry, Julie and her team have successfully served thousands of clients throughout the U.S. and abroad. Julie is adept at all the critically important financial and life planning aspects. Consulting areas include, but are not limited to, portfolio management and asset allocation, including risk management, college planning, business and retirement planning, estate planning, life, disability, and long-term care insurance. Unlike other CFPs, Julie’s approach is unique. She works with clients to uncover their " relationship" to their assets. Her time-tested program, PACT (P: Picturing Yourself, A: Accepting Reality and Awakening, C: Choosing to Change, T: Taking Action) has transformed countless client's lives.
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Free IMPACT Workshop: https://www.impactyourlifenow.com/registration-page
Books: https://juliemurphy.com/store
Free Worksheets: https://www.impactyourlifenow.com/Free-Downloads
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When it comes to relationships, we are designed to seek safety, belonging, and connection–we all want to know that we matter. For people pleasers and perfectionists, this commonly shows up as using certain behaviors to “earn” love in return, but that often doesn’t help cultivate real connection. In this episode, I offer you ten strategies you can use to improve any relationship no matter where you are in your journey. Here’s what I cover:
Why the skills to repair after a rupture are a crucial part of any relationshipA practice to help you better understand your conflict patternsWhy the distinction between fault and responsibility is so important4 questions to help you figure out what is working in your relationships and do more of itHow understanding the difference between boundaries, expectations, and preferences will help you communicate more clearlyWhy taking care of yourself with love and kindness is so effective for improving your relationshipsI can’t wait for you to listen.
Listen to episode 23 of the podcast to practice saying what you want to say.
Listen to episodes 36 and 37 of the podcast to dive deeper into the difference between boundaries, expectations, and preferences.
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In her book, You Are Not Broken, Dr. Kelly Casperson points out the societal myth that sex is just “extra”--something to enjoy while it lasts and accept when it’s gone. I'm excited to welcome Dr. Casperson to the podcast today to discuss the impact of cultural stigmas about women's health and sexuality, and expand on last week’s episode about practical ways women can advocate for themselves when it comes to perimenopause. Here’s what we cover:
The narrow societal definition of who deserves a sex life and the misinformation it has causedHow good girl rules are often reinforced by medical professionals even when it’s not intentionalThe female body isn’t a niche–every physician should understand itChanges in women’s sexuality that can signal perimenopause: arousal, desire, pain, and orgasmWhy one of the biggest menopause myths is that you “get over it” at a certain pointThe goal of perimenopause education isn’t perfection–it’s living life at the highest quality possibleI can’t wait for you to listen.
Check out these resources mentioned by Dr. Casperson:
https://www.myalloy.com/
https://www.joinmidi.com/about-us
https://www.blackswanltd.com/never-split-the-difference
https://themfactorfilm.com/
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https://kellycaspersonmd.com/
https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-book/
https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-podcast/
https://www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd/
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If you follow me on social media or regularly listen to this podcast, you might know that I have taken on the role of a volunteer perimenopause missionary. This stage of life has had a significant impact on me, as well as my sisters and friends—just as it does for all women at a certain point. In this episode, I investigate how the lack of information and support for women going through perimenopause ties back to one important factor: how religious teachings about Eve have influenced the way society views and treats women. Here's what we cover:
A poem by Danielle Coffyn that highlights the way men and women are viewed differently based on how Eve is depicted as morally and intellectually inferiorHow the story of Eve is directly linked to so many hardships women face–from victim blaming to not receiving adequate medical careExamples of good girl programming that often stops women from demanding more for themselvesWhy it is important to listen to the message that feminine rage sends usWhat you can do to advocate for yourself and receive the care and support you need during perimenopauseI can't wait for you to listen.
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I started this podcast to contribute to the conversation around people-pleasing and perfectionism. Now, as The Ex-Good Girl Podcast reaches the 100th episode, I am extremely proud and grateful. My goal has always been to share tools, strategies, and stories to help you overcome challenges that result from good girl programming and live the life you want.
It has meant so much to hear from all of you along this journey about the skills you’ve implemented and the progress you’ve made in your lives and relationships. Today, I’m answering your questions about people-pleasing, patriarchy, and so much more. Here’s what I cover:
How honest conversations are often confused with conflict by people pleasers who have been conditioned to fear confrontationWhy open communication is key to maintaining an important relationship when you disagreeThe importance of setting goals you know you can accomplish to maintaining the energy to work toward positive changeHow to feel in your body whether or not it is truly your choice to please someone Tips for how to talk to the men in your life about patriarchy and feminismI can’t wait for you to listen!
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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In this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Amy McPhie Allebest, a writer, teacher, and feminist historian whose work has helped shape my understanding of patriarchy and expand my worldview. In her podcast, Breaking Down Patriarchy, Amy offers thought-provoking insights that inspire continued learning about the roots of patriarchy in society. Today, she shares some of those powerful ideas and personal stories, which I hope you find valuable as I have. Here’s what we cover:
How “good girl” programming contributes to white feminism and upholding patriarchyWhy feelings of fear, guilt, and shame create barriers to open-mindednessSeveral tools for accepting discomfort in order to effectively engage with learning about patriarchyWhy working to educate yourself is a valuable first step from silence to speaking upHow to create a space for yourself where it's safe to learn and change your mindWhy grieving your past beliefs or harm you’ve caused is essential to moving forwardThe importance of generosity and understanding in growing from what you learn instead of self-blamingI can't wait for you to listen.
Check out these reading recommendations from Amy:
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color
Books by bell hooks
Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
Caste by Isabel WilkersonFind Amy here:
https://breakingdownpatriarchy.com/
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https://breakingdownpatriarchy.com/podcast/Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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Have you ever felt resentment building, only to realize your own choices have led you to that place? A huge source of resentment is mistakenly blaming others for decisions that we are responsible for, but recognizing your power to control this can be transformative. In this episode, my guest, Sara Wilhelm, shares her recent breakthrough in understanding her resentment, and how she has made a plan to move forward in the direction of living more according to her values. Here’s what we cover:
The steps to take you from feeling resentful to taking actionHow people pleasing disconnects us from our true feelings and desiresA method to help deal with the discomfort you feel when you stop people pleasingHow women are programmed to believe that our time is not actually our ownWhy finding a way to take action helps stop resentment towards other people or larger systemsThe importance of self-compassion as you work through your resentmentI can't wait for you to listen!
Find Sara here:
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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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I want every woman to have the ability to create a life of her choosing, filled with the freedom to embrace her desires. I’ve worked hard to create a program that helps women achieve this, but the real magic of my Stop People Pleasing program comes from the women themselves who are willing to take risks, expand their capacity for feeling uncomfortable, and develop the skills needed to live authentically without the weight of constantly pleasing others. In this episode, I’m so grateful to be joined by four amazing women from my program–Allyssya, Sara, Stephanie, and Susan–who share their journeys with people pleasing. You'll hear about the changes they have made in their daily lives and in how they see themselves. Here’s what we cover:
How a group program provides encouragement from other women on the same path Why trust in yourself is crucial to turn your focus to your own desiresHow people pleasing has a cost, and you often pay for it with your peace and happinessExamples of which areas in life people-pleasing tendencies are most commonWhy coaching provides you with the freedom to implement what you've learned whenever the time is right for you How to start living a life you created instead of living a life someone chose for you when you stop people pleasingI can't wait for you to listen!
Find Sara here:
https://sarafisk.coach
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
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https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach
https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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Mistakes are a part of life–we all make them, whether it’s with ourselves, with others, or in pursuit of our goals. Even as we grow emotionally and strive for greater self-connection, our inner critical voice often shames us for every misstep. In this episode, I explore why self-compassion is key when we mess up, and how leaving self-criticism behind is essential to lasting growth. Here’s what I cover:
Examples that illustrate the way we were conditioned to fear making mistakes and the lasting impact this hasHow to address the parts of yourself that are triggered when you mess up—the critic and the part that feels like you are in trouble—with compassion so you can move forward in a healthy wayWhy caring for those parts allows us to separate ourselves from the mistakes we makeSentences to say when you mess that preserve your self-respect and the sincerity of your apologyHow people pleasers often conflate their self-worth with their actions, but you deserve to make a mistake and recover from itFour questions to ask after you make a mistake to inspire a more loving response from yourselfI can't wait for you to listen.
Find Sara here:
https://sarafisk.coach
https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach
https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333
What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!
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