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Most of us will have had the post break up haircut, or equivalent. That response to an event that has made us decide that something needs to change as we are no longer that person anymore. But why do we do this? Are we avoiding thinking about something that could actually help us move forward?
In this episode we explore what might be going on for us as we reach for the scissors, or throw out all our clothes. We’ll look at what defence mechanisms could be getting in our way and why we are feeling anxious. And why was I trying to look like a kids tv presenter?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.23) Why do we decide on a post break up haircut?
(4.38) Denial
(6.04) Rationalisation
(6.44) Sublimation
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It’s tempting to think that we should always be moving forward, that we must forever be making progress, no matter how slowly. And there is a lot of truth in that. Our defence mechanisms can tempt us to avoid looking at our behaviour with the promise that by continuing to move forward we will get to the promised land – whatever that might look like for us.
In this episode I’ll be inviting you to consider what defence mechanisms might have come out to play for you over the festive period and what they might be telling you. Roland Rat, Tufty the Squirrel (remember him?!) and A1 all join us along the way. What’s not to enjoy?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.22) No “new year, new me”
(3.00) How did you feel when the OOO went on?
(4.24) Denial
(7.54) Regression
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Why do we feel alive around some people and like we’ve been through the wringer when we are around others? What’s going on for us when some people lift us up and with others we can feel as if it’s they have dropped us from a great height? In this episode I’m exploring what’s going on from a psychodynamic perspective when we take on the energy of other people and consider ways that we can manage this so that we can feel better.
Along the way we’ll meet the Grinch, the Dementors from Harry Potter, James Bond and Stan Wawrinka. Now that would be a night out…
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.02) Feeling like the Grinch
(4.07) Recollections may vary
(5.12) Transference
(8.34) Projection
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How do we feel when someone makes a comment about us? There are probably times when we can brush it off and not think about it again, and there are others where we end up ruminating over it for days afterwards. But what’s going on in the making of these comments? Are they just as innocuous as the person who made them (possibly) believes? Or is there something deeper at play here?
In this episode I put these comments under the psychodynamic spotlight to see if we can understand what is happening. We take a trip to Waltons’ mountain and learn why these days I’m more likely to be wearing glittery leggings instead of neon fruit print ones. What’s not to enjoy?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.06) The mohair jumper scenario
(4.02) Defence mechanism bingo
(8.43) Awareness is key
(10.40) Setting boundaries
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It’s an easy trap to fall into, thinking we should be brilliant at everything the minute we try it, and then berating ourselves when we aren’t. What’s happening for us when we set ourselves up in this way? What stories are we telling ourselves about where we think we should be?
In this episode I explore the psychodynamics behind the ‘comparisonitis’ and why we can create false narratives around our growth and achievements. We’ll take a trip through reality television shows and Anne Widdecombe will be dancing the light fantastic. What’s not to enjoy?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(3.38) What imposter syndrome really means
(5.45) Conscious, preconscious and unconscious
(8.34) Projection and projective identification
(9.59) False expectations and ideals
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How do we make sense of our worlds? How do we understand what seems incomprehensible? It’s no surprise to discover that we will create stories and meanings for what happens to us, in order for us to make sense of our worlds. But why do we do this? And is it any good for us?
Find out what Freud has to do with a cotton wheel, learn why you might want to swap Nik Kershaw for Simon le Bon and discover why you will never find me in a trilby hat. There’s a lot going on.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.00) Creating meaning for ourselves
(6.24) What is going on here?
(7.25) The Fort/ Da game
(10.05) This week’s invitation
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There’s a million and one different things that distract us in our day to day lives. Just putting this episode together I had to ensure that my phone was away and I had done everything that I needed to before I sat down to work. Why do we do this? Is it just that we live in a very busy world, or could there be some psychodynamic concepts playing into all this?
Join me as I take a trip into the world of distraction, via the Champs-Élysées and my own coaching sessions. We’ll find out exactly who Ricky is, and why did I become Miss Piggy for a moment?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(4.20) Anna Freud
(5.20) Repression
(6.14) Displacement and Sublimation
(9.20) Reaction Formation
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What’s going on for us when we feel we need to hoover up all the food on the breakfast buffet? Are we being selfish or are there other things at play for us? In this episode I look at hoarding and what might be the psychodynamic reasons for us taking more than we actually need.
Join me as I discover that cabaret at breakfast never disappoints, there wasn’t a great banana shortage of 2024, and that Paddington Bear hard stares don’t work on everyone.
Here are this episode’s highlights:
(3.00) Why do people behave like this?
(3.50) Unconscious meanings
(6.00) Significant loss
(7.35) Compulsion to repeat
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I'm thrilled to welcome another guest to the show today, Rozalyn Willocks. Rozalyn is a Recruitment Director, career coach, mentor, and Amazon bestselling author of Get Your Career Unstuck. She’s here to discuss career transitions and to explore why many of us remain in unfulfilling jobs.
Join us as we discuss all things career related from considering what makes us stay in jobs that leave us unfulfilled to why we no longer have Terry and June style work trajectories.
If you'd like to connect with Rozalyn or learn more about her work, you can reach her here:
http://www.rozalynwillocks.com
Here are the highlights of the episode:
(5.15) Definition of success
(17.24) Rationalisation
(25.20) Workplace Stockholm syndrome
(31.45) Job satisfaction wheel
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Just in time for Halloween I am bringing out a ghosting special. Ghosting is a particularly unkind and unfeeling way of treating people and can be extremely difficult to come to terms with. Not every ghost is friendly like Casper…
In this episode I’m exploring what ghosting is, why it happens and what we can do about it – whether we are the ones being ghosted, or even doing the ghosting ourselves. We’ve also got our old favourite the defence mechanism bingo cards, Maya Angelou and Scooby Doo. It’s a Halloween party not to be missed!
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.43) What is ghosting?
(2.29) Why do people ghost?
(6.38) What to do if you’ve been ghosted.
(8.50) What should you do if you are tempted to ghost someone?
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Freud found a huge amount of inspiration in Shakespeare’s works – so if it’s good enough for him, it’s definitely good enough for me. This time we are delving into Hamlet to see what we can learn about narcissism. This definitely won’t be the first time we use Hamlet as a reference point, as there’s so much in there!
In this episode I explore why we might not challenge the fact that there is something rotten in the state of Denmark, how we can end up inadvertently supporting this and what can we do about it. We might even get to discover a different defence mechanism.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.45) Hamlet’s narcissism
(5.36) Moralisation
(7.10) Why do we follow the narcissist?
(8.01) Where have you been adding to Denmark’s rotten state?
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Can we always see what is right in front of us? We might like to tell ourselves that we can, but this is not necessarily always the case. Despite what we might like to believe.
In this episode I explore why we might be avoiding what is staring us right in the face. We’ll need our defence mechanism bingo cards again and we’ll be meeting Barry from accounts, Micky Flanagan and James Bond along the way. Have a listen and avoid the cancel culture!
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.40) Defence mechanism bingo cards
(2.04) Repression
(5.39) Projection
(7.30) Undoing
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What does the Wizard of Oz and psychological ideas have in common? Well, quite a bit – as long-time listeners of the show will be aware. How can we learn about ourselves and others by thinking about Dorothy and her journey to the emerald city?
In this episode I start my journey into understanding narcissism (there will be quite a few episodes!) and explore the well-known psychological concept of flying monkeys. As well as avoiding the monkeys swooping around us it’s also time to get out of defence mechanism bingo cards again.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.17) How to know if you are dealing with a flying monkey
(4.10) Why do we get dropped like a hot potato?
(5.37) Rationalisation
(7.10) Have you been a flying monkey?
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How many times have you been sent on training at work only to spend your time wishing you were anywhere else and panicking about the to do list that’s mounting up whilst you are away from your desk?
In this week’s episode I talk to Sam Lancashire, founder of Creating Lightbulb Moments about her mission to rid the world of tick box training. Join us as we discuss the worst types of training that we have been on, what it means to be voluntold to attend courses and why rehearsing is better than role playing.
Sam is a high performing creative learning leader, mental health first aider and best-selling author on a mission to rid the world of low impact, tick box training, passionate about using her knowledge and experience to facilitate ‘Lightbulb Moments’ for people in need of a breakthrough - for many different reasons. Sam also focuses on productivity and mindset as part of her Sales & Leadership Development Practice. She is a Fellow of the Learning & Performance Institute, a qualified coach, trainer and experienced mentor; supporting global teams and their leaders to impact business and personal performance for over 18 years.
You can get in touch with Sam at:
Linkedin: Samantha Lancashire FLPI
Instagram: Creating Lightbulb Moments
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(3.50) How do you want your team to feel on training?
(12.19) Olympians
(24.00) Withdrawing from training
(35.45) How leaders and managers can get involved
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Why is it that on some days we find it easy to make decisions and on others we struggle to think what to eat for dinner? Some choices might be incredibly simple, and others leave us baffled about what to do for what seems like hours. And why does the chocolate at the supermarket till seem to speak to us more insistently than in other places?
In this episode I explore what might be going on for us when we are finding ourselves overwhelmed with the decisions we need to make and what we can do about this. We also discover when the best time is for me to be making matchstick models and learn why you might be getting socks from me at Christmas.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(2.39) Decision fatigue is different from mental fatigue
(3.24) The id, ego and superego
(4.25) Ego depletion
(7.41) Decisions with far reaching impact
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Why do we find ourselves getting attached to scenarios more quickly than is helpful to us? This can be an incredibly common experience for a lot of people and one that can cause us a lot of stress and of worry. We can also feel like it’s only us that this happens to.
In this episode I explore what might be going on for us when we are getting invested in situations and what we can do about this. We also take a trip to Monte Carlo (if only!) and see what Marilyn Monroe has to say about the subject.
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.23) Unmet needs
(2.54) Defence mechanism bingo
(5.12) A constant state of lack
(5.52) Love bombing
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With so much noise in both our virtual and our real worlds how do we know who we should be listening to? Should we block it all out and listen to ourselves, or can we work out where to go to for a sounding board?
In this episode I explore why just listening to ourselves might not be the most helpful thing to do. We return to our defence mechanism bingo cards, whilst saying hello to Marjory the trash heap and Roger Moore. I also seem to be fighting with my brother… What’s not to enjoy?
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(1.42) Wilful blindness
(5.52) Is it lovely to be told what to do?
(7.41) Does everyone have your best interests at heart?
(9.06) Who is on your team?
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I’m excited to be bringing another guest to the show today, Sarah Manley. Sarah is a coach, mentor and an Amazon bestselling author with her book Quiet Catalyst.
Sarah joins me to talk all things related to being an introvert including where we sit on the introversion/ extroversion spectrum, and how we can thrive in our relationships with other people, and at work once we have an idea what our needs are. We also consider what psychodynamic mechanisms might be coming into play and Sarah shares some tips on to how to look after ourselves better.
If you would like to get in touch with Sarah and learn more about her work you can contact her here:
Website: https://linktr.ee/thequietcatalyst
Email: [email protected]
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(9.45) The assumption that people who are quiet in meetings have nothing to say
(15.25) The introversion/ extroversion continuum
(21.45) Managing boundaries around networking
(28.10) Listening skills as an introvert
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I’m excited to be bringing another guest to the show today, Marta Checko. Marta has an inspiring story (or stories!) to tell about how she overcame significant challenges in her life. There’s a lot to learn about resilience, the power of not giving up and how we are stronger than we think.
If you would like to get in touch with Marta and learn more about her work you can contact her here:
E-mail: [email protected]
List of Marta’s creative projects and ways to support others: Linktree
Blog where Marta shares her thoughts and reflections: Substack
LinkedIn/Instagram: @martachecko
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(4.37) Marta’s first challenge
(10.18) Days of fighting with our inner selves
(18.49) Marta’s second challenge
(25.40) Taking a minute to breath
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I’m delighted to welcome Tamzin Hall, neurodiversity champion and founder of The Neurodiversity Academy to the show today. Tamzin is a leading neurodiversity consultant, trainer, and coach. She is a proud dyslexic and a #1 best-selling author. With decades of experience in leadership, learning and development, a Level 7 qualification in Coaching and Mentoring, and PCC certification, Tamzin helps leaders understand and support their neurodivergent staff. She assists businesses in creating inclusive practices that empower neurodivergent employees, ensuring they feel valued and accepted.
Join us as we talk about how to get it right when considering neurodivergence in the workplace, and how psychodynamics can help us understand our part in building strong relationships.
You connect with Tamzin and learn more about her work at:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamzin-hall/
Website: https://www.theneurodiversityacademy.com/
Here are the highlights of this episode:
(6.20) Meeting in the middle
(16.10) Fear of getting it wrong
(19.20) Work for an organisation that is doing this right
(21.48) Having someone to go to who understands
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