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When we think of our mental health, we tend to immediately start making a list of everything that is wrong; and we fall into that habit so easily because, for many of us, something has been wrong for a long time and we’ve been actively trying to sort it out and work on ourselves. Being on a healing and self-discovery journey is one of the most powerful things we’ll ever do for ourselves and for our loved ones, but sometimes we can get so focused, for so long on correcting what is wrong that we forget to take notice when things start to go right. The work is important but it’s also equally important to acknowledge our efforts and give ourselves credit for our hard-earned victories, no matter how big or small they are. We hope you’ll join us as we flip the script on our pathologies and discuss some of the “symptoms” that are proof-positive of healing and growth. If you’re enjoying the podcast we’d love it if you could help us spread the word by telling your friends, subscribing to the podcast, and leaving a rating or review. If you have any feedback or topics you’d like for us to cover we’d love to hear from you at [email protected] Don’t forget to follow us on social media, on TikTok and Instagram as different_functional and on Facebook as different functional. If you’d like to support us on Patreon we are at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional As always, thank you for listening and remember: Different does not mean defective.
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The march of time never stops, the demands on our personal time never seem to wane, and there’s always more than enough stress to go around. The truth is, most of us tend to burn the candle at both ends, and that habit has a way of catching up to us in the form of burnout. Yes, sometimes we put ourselves in that position unnecessarily but there are also plenty of times when burning out is unavoidable because there’s simply too much to do and not enough time or energy to get it all done. Either way, we’re not here to judge, but we are here to help. Join us for a discussion about how to cope with burnout, lessen the impact of it on your life, and replenish your reserves.
If you’re enjoying the podcast we’d love it if you could help us spread the word by telling your friends, subscribing to the podcast, and leaving a rating or review. If you have any feedback or topics you’d like for us to cover we’d love to hear from you at [email protected] Don’t forget to follow us on social media, on TikTok and Instagram as different_functional and on Facebook as different functional. If you’d like to support us on Patreon we are at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional As always, thank you for listening and remember: Different does not mean defective.
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S-E-X is almost always a taboo topic of discussion, perhaps especially among neurotypicals and “civilized society”. For those of us who are neurodivergent and already regularly struggle with the subtleties of social scripts, the topic of intimacy can feel more taboo and, at times, even confusing. The lived experience of neurodivergents is often different in surprising, wonderful, and weird little ways; and though we often can’t discuss S-E-X openly we can likely assume that the same rule applies in this arena of life as well. But how do we know for sure if we can’t talk about it? Well, we don’t know how to answer that question, but your Different Functional ladies here are pretty direct and blunt, and since we don’t know any other way to be we figured, why not go about this in a trial-by-fire sort of way. Join us as we discuss the intricacies, oddities, and awkwardness of being neurodivergent in the bedroom, and help us answer the age-old question: “Is it just me, or…..?” Thanks for listening. We very much appreciate you and the support you offer us. If you’re enjoying the show it would be wonderful if you could please like, subscribe, rate, review, and spread the word about our humble little podcast. If you’re feeling especially generous and would like to support us on Patreon you can find us as www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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Like many other things in life, neurodivergence is a bit of a double-edged sword. Some of our neurodivergent traits are so impressive that they almost seem like superpowers, while others impair our ability to function so much that they can feel like a curse. What’s even more interesting is how our own perception of these traits may differ from the perceptions others have of us, especially the perceptions of other neurodivergent people. Join us as we explore the duality of our neurodivergence, discussing our perceptions of both our best traits and our biggest challenges through the lens of autism and ADHD. Thank you for listening, your support means the world to us! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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Increasingly more of us are being diagnosed with some form of neurodivergence and/or are accidentally stumbling upon an unexpected sense of kinship among neurodivergent communities on social media. As our knowledge expands, both clinically and culturally, our vocabulary around neurodivergence is also evolving at a rapid rate. Clinicians have been in the process of changing diagnostic terminology for a while already and now, members of the neurodivergent community have been coming together, often via social media, to create terms and phrases that more accurately describe the full, lived experience of being a neurodivergent person in a neurotypical world. Many of us are discovering that while our struggles can indeed be described as symptoms that impair our daily function, especially in the context of societal expectations, there are also so many fascinating, beautiful, and almost superhuman qualities on the other side of the neurodivergent coin. Join us as we discuss the definitions and origins of some of these terms and explore what they may actually look like as part of the lived experience for neurodivergent people. Thank you for listening, your support means the world to us! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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How’s everyone feeling out there? Not gonna lie, 2024 has started off as a very stressful year for us. We have our tried-and-true coping mechanisms and skills but let’s face it, sometimes you just need a little something extra to get you through the storm; so we did a little internet search to see if there were any suggestions that maybe we hadn’t thought of before. The conclusion we came to was: No, not really. Pretty much every website we came across gave the exact same basic advice we’ve all heard again and again and again, with barely even any variance in how it was packaged. And we thought, alright, if they’re all saying the same things then surely there must be some merit to these suggestions, but do they work as well for as for neurodivergents as they seemingly do for neurotypicals? Join us as we put these suggestions to the test and discuss our views on their efficacy and shortcomings as two neurodivergent women in search of some heavy duty stress busters. Thank you for listening, your support means the world to us! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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We’ve been doing the podcast now for a little over two years and if you’ve been listening for awhile you’d probably think you know us pretty well by now. I mean we do share a lot about our personal lives and past experiences, and we always try to be as authentic as possible, but if you’re neurodivergent you’re likely also very familiar with a little thing called “masking”. To coexist somewhat peaceably in a neurotypical world, many neurodivergents learn early on that they have to slip on a persona and play by certain rules, and over time those masks become almost second nature and it can even become difficult to remember where the mask ends and you begin. So for this episode we’re doing something a little bit different. We want to show you our strange, little neurodivergent selves, as unmasked and unfiltered as possible; so instead of presenting you a typically structured episode where we’d instinctively mask, we’ve compiled a ton of clips with our more candid moments during the last two years that never made it into the episodes. From bloopers to conversations about the weirdness of life, this is a glimpse behind the masks we wear everyday. Strap in and prepare yourselves for a rowdy and raucous good time that’s chaotic, unhinged, and hilarious. We’ve got the combined humor of teenage boys, little old ladies, and fed up millennials so expect some crude humor, cussing, and complaints about weird things bodies do. We hope you’ll join us for the party and that you’ll still like us on the other side of it, after you’ve seen some of our rougher edges. Thank you for listening, your support means the world to us! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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Happy Valentine’s Day! Do ya’ll celebrate this holiday? To be honest, we don’t really celebrate it much ourselves. There’s too much pressure to make things extra special and it’s uncomfortable to eat at an overcrowded restaurant. Also, does anyone else think it’s strange to romanticize an internal organ, especially since a “heart” looks nothing like the one in your body and it’s not even the organ responsible for creating all those lovey-dovey feelings anyway? Honestly, that last question might point to one more reason why we don't celebrate Valentine's Day in the typical fashion: Neurodivergence. Everything neurodivergents do, we do a wee bit differently (awkwardly too in most cases), and dating is no exception. Join us for some story time and an exploration into some of the ways that neurodivergence can make dating an interesting and challenging endeavor. We’d also love to hear from you! Email us your stories of dating as a neurodivergent person at [email protected] or drop us a comment on one of our posts for this episode on Tik Tok, Facebook, or Instagram where you can find us as Different Functional. If you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave us a rating and review. Thanks so much for listening! We’re so glad you’re here!
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We’d like to believe that all trauma and abuse survivors are purely sympathetic characters who would never inflict the kind of pain they’ve been through on another person, but the reality is usually much messier than that. When we hear the phrase “hurt people, hurt people” we often think of it as a way to understand and maybe even develop compassion for bullies, but you don’t have to be a stereotypical bully for this phrase to apply to you. Many of us who have been victims of trauma and abuse end up perpetuating that cycle forward as a result of maladaptive coping mechanisms, a lack of self-awareness, environmental normalization of destructive behaviors, warped attempts at self-protection, or even self-loathing and sabotage. And most of us don’t want to hurt others; in fact, we often hate ourselves when we do cause harm because we know exactly how damaging the long-term impact of that pain can be. But how do we stop weaponizing our wounds and stop paying our own trauma and abuse forward? Join us as we share some of our own experiences on this topic, and discuss how you can make peace with the past, make amends with those you’ve hurt, and change your perspectives and behavior to ensure a better future for yourself and your relationships. To see our resources for this and all our other episodes visit https://www.differentfunctional.com/podcast-resources If you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave us a rating and review.
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If you’re a neurodivergent person, chances are you’re used to feeling out of step with the rest of the world. Those of us in the community have learned the importance of masking and adaptation because we’ve often been accused of being weird, lazy, unmotivated, easily distracted, overly sensitive, immature, inappropriate, unempathetic, disrespectful, rude, selfish, uncommunicative, bad listeners, etc… The list goes on and on. But what if we’re not actually the problem? It’s possible that we’ve been gaslit our whole lives into believing things about ourselves that are egregiously untrue or misrepresented and then pressured into fixing things about ourselves that were never broken to begin with. Maybe we're just different. And maybe there's nothing wrong with that. To see our resources for this and all our other episodes visit https://www.differentfunctional.com/podcast-resources If you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave us a rating and review.
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Happy New Year! 2023 was a wild year, and by that we mean it was a feral beast. We may have all walked away from it a little scratched up, bruised, and shell shocked but we made it! Cheers to our survival and to the hope that 2024 will usher in some much-needed relief and happiness; after these last few chaotic and pensive years, we’ve all certainly earned it. Because of everything we’ve been through recently, those New Years resolutions feel even more meaningful than usual. It’s time for some real, lasting and positive changes, but what does that look like and how do we get there without just losing heart or motivation by the end of January? Join us as we discuss how to identify and attain the goals that will bring the most sustainable improvements into your life. Thank you for listening, your support means the world to us. Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional
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How’s everyone doing out there? If the answer is “Not so great” we feel you. The holiday season is a bit of a trudge for us too, and few things are more grating on the nerves than the inescapably repetitive songs and movies that play for weeks on end every single year. How many times can you listen to Jingle Bells without losing your mind? How many Santa themed movies can you watch before you start having nightmares about how exactly he sees you when you’re sleeping? And if you’re struggling with your mental health or your relationships this year then how much forced “holly jolly” can you take? Now, don’t get us wrong. We do wish you a merry Christmas and a happy New Year, but we also understand if that feels like a tall order, so we’ve put together a list of mostly offbeat Christmas movie and song recommendations to help you survive the rest of this holiday season. Thanks for listening and for your support this year. We’ll see you in 2024, and here’s hoping it’s a better year for all of us. To see our resources for this and all our other episodes visit https://www.differentfunctional.com/podcast-resources If you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave us a rating and review.
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Love it or hate it, the holiday season can be the most challenging and stressful time of year. Sure, there are lots of pretty sparkly things and good food and magical festivities and great sales BUT there’s also so much traffic, so many crowded stores, tons of familial and social obligations, and a surplus of financial woes. Santa always comes bearing a loaded mixed bag of both good and bad things that can make us feel all sorts of ways about all kinds of things. In the midst of all this, it’s easy to get overwhelmed, switch into auto-pilot mode and forget what this season is all about. That’s right, the reason for the season. No, we’re not going to say Jesus because we believe that the holiday season is not one-size-fits-all, and that everyone should have a chance to enjoy it on their terms and for their own reasons. And if you’re struggling to find your peace, love, and joy this year then join us as we explore a plethora of possible reasons that might help you find your holiday spirit. If you enjoy the podcast don’t forget to subscribe and please leave us a rating and review. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional Thanks for listening!
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Over the river and through the woods, to our traumatic holiday memories we go. Buckle up folks, it’s gonna be a bumpy ride! We may not be able to pick our families, but we can choose whether we laugh or cry at the madness and chaos they bring to us. We’ve personally cried plenty of tears over the years, and while there may still be one or two of those tears in this episode, we’re mostly sick of crying and think maybe it’s time to bring some dark humor to holiday spirits (double entendre, anyone?). Allow us to regale you with some insane tales that may feel very familiar and relatable to those of you who grew up in dangerously dysfunctional homes. ***MASSIVE TRIGGER WARNING*** If you don’t have a strong stomach and a twisted sense of gallows humor you might want to sit this one out because this episode does include the following topics: suicide, racism, assault, domestic abuse, child abuse and neglect, substance abuse, and mental health crises. That being said, if you’re still along for the ride there are some laughs and also some touching moments to be had, and it only took us about 25 years to find them.
If you are struggling this holiday season and need some assistance, please, don’t hesitate to reach out. There are resources available that can help pull you out of both internal and external crises. Visit our website www.differenfunctional.com/mental-health-resources for an extensive list of helplines that you can call, text, or chat with today. You are worthy. You are loved. You can get through this. And you are NOT alone.
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It’s here guys. We’re in the thick of it, and we don’t mean mashed potatoes and gravy. We mean the holiday season. Dun, Dun, Dun! If you grew up with a dysfunctional family, you probably had at least a few traumatic holidays with them and that can make you a little skittish when the turkey and jingle bells start coming out. Family is hard. Holidays are stressful. But if you’re dealing with your own family at least you know what to expect. However, what if you’re not dealing with them? What if you’re meeting your partner’s family for the first time instead? And what if they’re…. “normal”? That sounds like it would be a relief, but it can be equally if not even more intimidating. When you’re only used to dysfunction, trauma, and abuse it can be difficult to know how you should interact with a family that is close-knit and loving, where no one screams or throws chairs or burns the food just to be spiteful. We get it, we’ve been there ourselves. So if you’re stressed and struggling to figure out how to navigate this holiday season with the future in-laws we’ve put together a list of questions for you to consider and talk over with your partner so you can feel a little more prepared for whatever uncertainty comes your way. If you enjoy the podcast don’t forget to subscribe and please leave us a rating and review. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional Thanks for listening!
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If you enjoyed our most recent episode, we have a surprise for you. We actually held back one extra story to release for Halloween. We hope you all have a terribly wonderful Halloween!
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Happy Halloween! Spooky season is upon us and we need your help to settle a dispute! While we both love fall, Ivy has a fondness for the creepy, crawly, scary aspects of the season but Autumn most definitely does not. Now we’re not debating whether horror is good or bad entertainment, or even necessarily whether it’s good or evil. No, we’re at an impasse about whether or not it has any merit at all within society, culture, or the individual human psyche. So please, gather around the campfire with us while we dip our toes into the spooky realm to explore some classic urban legends and discuss whether these stories are worthy of passing along to scare yet another generation. We’re even joined by a special guest storyteller who will delight and terrify us with his rendition of these classic creepy tales. How do you feel about urban legends or the genre of horror? Write in and give us your thoughts at [email protected] or use the contact form on our website www.differentfunctional.com. Don’t forget to check out our resources page for this episode on our website, as well. And if you’d like some extra spook, join us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional Thanks for listening!
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Autumn is here! And we don’t mean the co-host of the podcast either. Are you slipping into your flannel shirts, beanies, and boots yet? Enjoyed any pumpkin spice lattes or apple fritters? Have you been busy decorating, watching horror movies, and picking out a costume for spooky season? We don’t know about you, but this year has been putting us through the wringer, and with so much stress and uncertainty it’s been hard to find the little joys in life. So, in this episode we’re taking a big, deep breath of that crisp fall air, grabbing some warm apple cider, and sitting down to chat about the relief and child-like joy that this season can bring. Sure, there may be a lot of disparaging memes and mocking comments about the “basic white girl fall starter pack” but you know what we say? Screw ‘em. It feels like these days the moments of joy are few and far between and we’re not going to be ashamed of some moments of happiness and contentment. If you enjoy the podcast don’t forget to subscribe and please leave us a rating and review. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional Thanks for listening!
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Okay ya’ll, we’re doing something a little bit different this time. Chances are you’ve heard of inner child work, and if you’re listening to this podcast you’ve probably also done some inner child work yourself or are curious about trying it. When we hear the words “inner child work” we often imagine cathartic moments, full of difficult and complex feelings, but that’s not all it is. Connecting with your inner child is also about establishing internal trust and allowing that younger version of yourself to have freedom of expression and to play. Many of us who were traumatized, abused, or neglected as children never really had the opportunity to freely enjoy our childhood. And heck, even if you didn’t experience childhood trauma, having to be an adult all the time is so boring and frustrating! So today, we hope you’ll join us for a bit of a game. Let’s all allow our inner child to express themselves through a series of timed challenges that are as fun as they are fascinating. There will be lots of unmitigated joy, some internal battles of will, and some unexpected heartfelt moments; which is honestly exactly what a lot of us need right now.
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It seems like everyone has an opinion about everything, whether those opinions are educated and well-informed or not. If you’re a trauma survivor you’ve probably heard them all, everything from victim-blaming to toxic positivity and everything in between. Some of the people who are spouting these opinions are willfully ignorant and abusive while others are well-intentioned but ill-equipped to help. One thing is for sure though, there are some things we all wish we’d never have to hear again. Join us as we discuss some of these hot button phrases and maybe send this episode along to anyone who you wish would just zip-it for once. If you enjoy the podcast don’t forget to subscribe and please leave us a rating and review. And if you’d like to support us on Patreon you can find us at www.patreon.com/differentfunctional Thanks for listening!
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