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My first book, Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, is out in the world right now. I'm SO EXCITED! My business manager Jayla Rae joins me to reveal the little-known, lesser-discussed pieces of my book-writing journey. She’s leading me through questions about what I learned while writing the book, what I am most looking forward to, and thought-provoking questions about the book from Date Brazen clients! Join us on this behind-the-scenes book journey!
We get into:
Getting real and raw while writing the book and the juicy stories within The feels and the fun of sharing my book with friends and family for the first time. Answering burning questions from the Date Brazen community about the book, future plans, and beyond!Links:
You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/book-pub-day-qa -
How can embracing your main character energy and taking up space transform your journey? In this episode, Lily sits down with Krishan Trotman, VP and Publisher of Legacy Lit Books, to discuss the exciting journey of co-creating Lily's new book 'Thank You, More Please,' which hits shelves next week, June 11th. 📚✨ Tune in to hear Krishan’s own main character energy story, behind-the-scenes details about Lily’s book, and a deep dive into the world of publishing diverse voices.
Don't forget to pre-order 'Thank You, More Please,' coming out June 11th. Your pre-orders mean the world and help ensure the book gets the recognition it deserves. 🌟 Your support is immensely appreciated!
We get into:
Krishan’s main character energy story and her role as VP and Publisher at Legacy Lit The co-creation of Thank You More Please Advice for aspiring authors on writing, getting published, and maintaining the motivation needed for long-term projectsLinks:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Krishan on Instagram
Legacy Lit BooksShow notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/mce-taking-up-space-with-krishan-trotman -
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Do you ever feel trapped by outdated dating rules and wonder if there's a better way to attract more? The amazing Damona Hoffman joins Lily to dismantle the four big dating myths and introduces the four pillars of lasting love for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Damona helps to outline these myths and paves a clear path with actionable next steps, making the dating process easier and helping you find what you desire. Damona says, “You have more control over what happens in your life than what you allow yourself to believe. How deep are you willing to dig?”
Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps, including Bumble and Match, and she was named the Official U.S. Dating Coach of OkCupid in 2021. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona’s first book F the Fairy Tale, was released January 2, 2024.
We get into:
Using dating apps with intention + why Damona says to take notifications off your dating apps and track what is going on in your dating life. The three C’s when designing your profile: Color, Context, Character. The four BIG dating myths and how to ditch them! Including the preferences list myth, the chemistry myth, and the soulmate myth.Links:
F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite The Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story
Damona’s website
The Dates and Mates podcastDamona on Instagram @damonahoffman
Damona’s Date TrackerShow notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/shedding-dating-myths-with-damona-hoffman
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Want to reclaim your self-worth and challenge societal norms? Then, get ready for a fantastic episode because we’ve got Kara Loewentheil, the powerhouse behind the School of New Feminist Thought, on this week’s podcast! Kara’s new book, 'Take Back Your Brain,' just dropped, and I can’t wait to share our conversation with you.
In this episode, Kara and I dive into romantic socialization's history and social impacts. We bust myths about love, marriage, and self-worth and discuss the difference between empowerment and true personal power. We urge you to root your self-worth in yourself instead of seeking external validation.
Kara’s insights are a game-changer. She offers a roadmap for embracing self-compassion, challenging patriarchal norms, and building mindsets that lead to a more fulfilling life.
Don’t miss out on this powerful conversation! Tune in now and start taking back your brain!
We get into:
The brain gap: what it is and how to overcome it. Why the goal is to be grounded in your self-worth and not your relationship status The four traps of romantic socialization Body positivity vs body neutrality The beauty and power in the phrase “How human of me…”Links:
Take Back Your Brain
Unfuck Your Brain Podcast
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/take-back-your-brain-kara-loewentheil -
If you date men and have ever wondered if the feminist partner you want exists, this episode is for you! This week, we explore the Brazen Breakthrough tools, mindset shifts, and strategies that Client Julianne applied to attract a feminist man and is now building an epic partnership.
Lily and returning guest Julianne dive into the evolution of Julianne's love life since her last podcast appearance. They discuss the importance of self-trust, essence-based preferences, and the empowering shift from muscling through dating to co-creating a fulfilling relationship.
This is a must-listen episode for anyone wondering if their ideal partner exists.
We get into:
How Julianne used the Brazen Breakthrough tools to attract a proactive, feminist man her way
How attraction is an essence-based preference
Co-creating a relationship with someone can be fun!
Links:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
The Brazen Breakthrough
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-julianne-attracted-a-feminist-man
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How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨
You’ll learn:
Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts. “Messy progress forward is okay.” “Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself.” The goal is never to feel anxious again; it’s to increase your capacity for resiliency so that when you feel anxious, you know what to do about it. Even if you have anxiety, you can still make massive changes in your life.Links:
Free Training With Lily Womble TODAY, May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
The Brazen Breakthrough
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!Psychology Today
Dr. Kristin NeffBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-date-with-social-anxiety
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Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi’s journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of connections you desire.
We get into:
How Mishi learned to rediscover herself after enduring two challenging breakups The most significant difference in Mishi’s dating life today The act of listening to your intuition and embracing self-trust Some of the Brazen Breakthrough strategies that Mishi found helpful, including Bless-Release and the Dating Feedback System What it’s like to be in a proactive and loving relationshipLinks:
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/attracting-proactive-loving-partner
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In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment.
This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! 🔥
You’ll learn:
Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be with Owning your EBPs is a feminist act. It's about flipping the script and putting yourself at the center of your dating universe. Bye-bye, antiquated norms! EBPs are the answer to attracting the best partner in your life Under vs. Over-Functioning Preferences: It's all about finding that sweet spot. Too little? You're selling yourself short. Too much? You're losing sight of your true desires.Links:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
Creating Your Essence-Based Preferences Comprehensive Guide
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/owning-your-preferences
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Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy.
We get into:
How Danielle realized she wasn’t getting what she truly wanted in dating Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you want Shifting from second-guessing yourself to trusting your intuition The lessons and takeaways from Brazen Breakthrough that help Danielle show up and support others (and herself) The impact on Danielle’s dating life, including creating stronger boundaries and dating with intention The act of reclaiming your sense of SelfLinks:
Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life
The Brazen Breakthrough WaitlistShow notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/hard-breakups-to-joyful-af-dating-life -
Did you know you’re most attractive when you are authentically you? Well, that’s precisely what this week’s guest, Therapy Jeff, says! Jeff Guenther, known as Therapy Jeff, joins Lily for a conversation about the intricacies of modern dating, the evolution of therapy in the age of social media, and authentic self-expression.
Therapy Jeff's insights on modern dating and mental health are a breath of fresh air. In a world saturated with dating advice and unrealistic expectations, his book, 'Big Dating Energy,' offers a refreshing perspective: that lasting love stems from embracing one's authentic self. In an era of self-doubt and comparison, Jeff reminds us that we are inherently lovable and deserving of genuine connection.
We get into:
What dating advice/problems/framing Jeff’s book, Big Dating Energy, aims to solve Addressing beliefs like “It’s my fault, or I’m not good enough.” The idea of feminine and masculine energy and the notion of “not being in your feminine enough.” Cognitive overload and how to get in touch with your intention when using social media or dating appsLinks:
Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!
Jeff’s book, Big Dating Energy
Therapy Jeff’s website
Therapy Jeff on TikTok
Therapy Jeff on InstagramShow notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/big-dating-energy-with-therapy-jeff -
Nervous about sending a DM to a cutie or asking somebody on a date? If you answered yes, then this week’s episode is for you. Lily explores the mindset shifts and practical steps needed to step out of your comfort zone and shoot your shot! Whether it's sliding into those DMs or asking someone out face-to-face, this episode is your guide to overcoming the nerves and getting what you want.
Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to revolutionize your approach to dating. Asking for more of what you want leads to more of what you desire. This episode is part strategy and part hype. You’ve got this and Lily’s got your back!
You’ll learn:
“The only thing separating you from getting what you want is your willingness to ask for it out loud.” Shooting your shot is about giving your permission to be the main character of your story How to get over the paralyzing fear of asking for what you want The role permission, self-trust, and courageous action play when shooting your shot It’s not about doing it perfectly. It’s about doing the thing. Your job is to pursue what you want, trust your desire, and take messy, courageous action toward those desires.Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-challenge
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We're diving into the intersection of body liberation, white supremacy, and dating with the incredible Jessica Wilson, MS. RD. As the author of "It's Always Been Ours: Rewriting the Story of Black Women's Bodies," Jessica brings her expertise as a dietitian, storyteller, and community organizer to the forefront. Together, Lily and Jessica explore the interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires, unpacking how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the dating world.
We get into:
The interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires Jessica’s view on how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the process of putting themselves out there in dating “Your body is not the problem,” Spaces to seek out body liberation support and community How do we set boundaries for those, not on the same page or path with body liberation? Jessica’s favorite moment of Black Joy since writing her bookLinks:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Jessica’s website
Jessica’s book, It’s Always Been Ours
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/body-liberation-dating-and-black-joy-with-jessica-wilson
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Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide.
You are worthy. If you need more convincing, this week’s episode is not to miss. Tara Schuster, author of Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way, joins Lily on the show! In the book and throughout this conversation, Tara shares practical steps to liberate yourself from emotional suffering, heal your past, and own your future.Tara served as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of critically acclaimed shows such as the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key & Peele, the Emmy® Award winning @Midnight (now After Midnight on CBS) amongst many others. Over the last twelve years, Tara has spent her “10,000 hours” on the other side of the couch studying philosophy, therapies, religions, and even memoirs of the adults she admired so that she could find emotional freedom from a neglectful and psychologically abusive childhood.
“It’s not magic having a different life. You can’t sit back and wait for it to happen; you have to work for it.” What inspired Tara to write Glow in the F*cking Dark and its mission: the practice of finding your essential self. Thoughts and advice for overcoming lack of self-trust and self-criticism Tara shares her self-compassion party trick! How Tara got to a place to make decisions rooted in her own best interest, especially in dating
Lily and Tara get into:Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
Glow in the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster
Tara’s website
Tara on Instagram
The Loveland Foundation
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/glow-in-the-dark-with-tara-schuster
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Are you tired of swiping left and right, endlessly scrolling through dating apps, hoping to find a genuine connection? In this episode, Lily welcomes Maxine Simone Williams, the creative powerhouse behind a New York City-based initiative, We Met IRL, reshaping how people meet and mingle, diving deep into the world of speed dating and real-life encounters.
Maxine shares her journey of building We Met IRL and why her speed dating events make dating fun again. Plus, Lily and Maxine tackle common dating concerns like handling rejection at speed dating events or overcoming social barriers for the shy and introverted.
Tune into this episode as Lily and Maxine journey beyond the screens, where in-person connections thrive.
They get into:
Dating assumptions that these events challenge - making dating fun again!
Are dating apps the only way people are meeting people?
Instagram vs Phone Number: what to give out when meeting IRL
What if nobody chooses me at speed dating
How to go about meeting people in real life or speed-dating if you are shy or introverted
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
Get Instant Access to Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable
We Met IRL on TikTok @wemetirl
We Met IRL on Instagram @wemetirl
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/speed-dating-with-maxine-simone-williams -
Are you striving to let go of the wrong people? What if we told you that the extent to which you're willing to bless and release the wrong people is directly linked to your path toward the right relationship? In this episode, Lily reveals her strategy for blessing and releasing the wrong people in your life, enabling your mind to shift its focus towards the right connections for you.
"Blessing and releasing" is a radical step towards fulfilling your desires. So, grab your note-taking tools because this episode is full of practical how-to's on this transformative process.
In this episode, you will learn:
Having people in your life who are not suitable for you is about the underlying fear that what you want is not possible or not worthy of what you want. That is worthy of your curiosity and compassion.
Categories of when to bless and release (B&R) someone
Different levels of connection deserve a different approach to blessing and releasing.
Tips for outlining a B&R moment for a breakup
Lily breaks down an incomplete roster of individuals to bless and release, including: the stonewaller, the Eeyore, the most intense human, and the pen-pal.
Reflection questions to help you determine if you need to bless and release someone
Text and out loud scripts for B&R like “Hey, thanks for hanging. I’m not feeling a romantic connection, wish you the best.”
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!124. The “Thank You, More, Please!” Challenge!
Radical Alignment, Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower
Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-bless-and-release-the-wrong-people
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Today, get ready to geek out with us on the podcast! We're thrilled to have Faith Hill, a staff writer at The Atlantic, joining Lily for an insightful conversation about research and its cultural impact on dating. We get into topics like dating dynamics, dating yourself, social connections, and being single.
Together, Lily and Faith dive into Faith’s latest articles about exploring love, dating, and the complexities of singlehood. What's particularly captivating about Faith's writing is how she addresses those burning questions that naturally arise as you delve into the research she shares.
Tune in for a chat that sheds light on the intriguing intersection where love, society, and human connections meet! 🎙️✨
We get into:
Dating culture and its problematic value of coupled people over singles
What the research showed regarding dating “spark vs. slow burn.”
The assumption that we'll be happier in a relationship
The emotions that get stirred up when examining this statement, “As your friends get coupled, it could feel like a ghost town.”
Hot-take: “Spending all your time with your partner is not great for your relationship or friendships.”
Allowing for messy intimacy with friendships or partners
Perception and feelings about solo dating: how to release the narrative that taking yourself on a date means you are lonely, and how to bring more pleasure to solo time
Hot-take: “Solitude is not antithetical to connection.”
Links:
Pre-order Lily’s upcoming book, Thank You, More Please!
130. How to find and create "exhale" friendships with Blake Blankenbecler
173. Fighting for our friendships with Danielle Bayard JacksonFaith’s articles referenced in this episode:
No, You Shouldn’t ‘Date ’Em ’Til You Hate ’Em’
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/11/awkward-modern-dating-the-spark/676039/Don't let love take over your life
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/relationship-balance-love-friendship-autonomy/675321/Take yourself on a date!
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/seeing-movies-alone-solo-date-in-public/672363/Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/research-cultural-impact-of-dating
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Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
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Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
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Doors to this round of The Brazen Breakthrough close 2/23/24 @ midnight EST.
Here's the LINK TO JOIN US.
If you're catching this after the fact, then add your name to the waitlist with the link above.
- Visa fler
