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In this episode, we’re discussing the current state of online dating with my special guest Keziah Nduri. Keziah is a law graduate, model and content creator from London whose Twitter thread about how her seemingly unsuccessful voyage through the rough waters of Hinge gained a lot of attention.
VIEW THREAD HERE: https://twitter.com/nd0uri/status/1421878391624642563?s=20
TIMESTAMPS
(04:10) - QUICK FIRE QUESTIONS
(15:19) - Keziah’s Hinge experience
(21:00) - Ethnicity preferences
(30:13) - Why the “jungle” is such a wild place
(39:12) - Have dating apps enhanced or ruined dating?
(47:30) - Dating during lockdown
(52:46) - Pros and Cons of Online Dating
(58:00) - WE’RE CELEBRATING & THAT’S MAD
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In this episode, I am joined by my close friend, Dele who like me is a Black man currently in therapy.
We discuss the different forms of therapy, what made us both start, the process of finding a therapist, what it's taught us, attachment styles and much more. We also answer the questions submitted by the Adzvice community on Instagram, introduce two new segments and share a lot of laughs along the way.
TIMESTAMPS
(07:10) - THIS OR THAT?
(10:30) - What prompted our therapy journeys
(25:06) - Is therapy expensive?
(28:02) - Lessons learnt from therapy
(34:00) - Transactional analysis and attachment styles
(44:28) - Answering your questions
(53:25) - Adzvice for those considering therapy
(56:15) - IS IT JUST ME? / THAT'S MAD!
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After my recent hiatus, which I explain on the pod, I am finally back and discussing the 'Ask for ANI' domestic abuse codeword scheme that stands for Action Needed Immediately. Joining me for this week is Patricia Wharton who is a presenter and someone with extensive experience in domestic abuse awareness.
I also explain the bittersweetness that is supporting England as a non-white person as well talk about 'The Serpent', my pick of the week.
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In this episode like no other, an emotional Bonita explains why she had to make a very tough decision regarding her future involvement with the podcast.
The guys also discuss the increased violence between Israel and Palestine, talk about the impact of shit managers and share six pieces of advice regarding money that they wish they knew sooner.
TIMESTAMPS
(18:39) - THAT'S MAD: The violence between Israel and Palestine and what we can do to support
(36:43) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: The launch of Freepour
(43:18) - The effects of having a shit manager and stories from the community
(56:16) - 6 things we wish we knew about money sooner
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Ade and Bonita discuss the topic of oversharing in this week’s episode. Why do we do it? What are the implications? Is it ever beneficial? and more. First up in the conversation, is a quick chat about therapy.
TIMESTAMPS
(11:43) - THAT’S MAD: India’s Covid Crisis and the ‘new norm’
(18:40) - WE’RE CELEBRATING: Black and brown-led collectives doing amazing things
(34:01) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Oversharing,
(42:40) - How Gen Z differs from Millennials when it comes to oversharing
(51:00) - Negative vs positive oversharing and who determines it?
(59:55) - FLOWERS: Bonita’s colleague Freddie and PICKS OF THE WEEK: Line of Duty (BBC) and Invincible (Amazon Prime).
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"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness". The second part of this famous Oscar Wilde quote is conveniently left out of the conversation when we speak about imitation but it's not the only thing left undiscussed. What happens when that imitation forces you out of your job, affects your finances and impacts your mental health?
Ade and Bonita are joined by Daniel Oduntan, an interdisciplinary media artist to discuss this very topic and why he took to social media to create a 5-day gallery exposing his former employer, the V&A Museum, for ripping off and erasing the ideas of he and other black creatives.
TIMESTAMPS
(11:24)- THAT'S MAD: The son of an ex-couple in the middle of the UK's largest divorce case has been ordered to pay his mum $100m.
(18:50)- WE'RE CELEBRATING: Black British excellence in TV and Film.
(22:31) - Discussing the serious revelations about Noel Clarke's behaviour.
(26:01) - MAIN DISCUSSION with Daniel Oduntan and why and how he challenged the V&A.
(50:33) - Why creative plagiarism needs to be discussed.
(54:09) - Advice for others to manage and prevent creative plagiarism.
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When we talk about violent crimes within the community we don’t often discuss the hurt and trauma it causes the families of the victim even years after the incident. Ade and Bonita tackle this important topic with the assistance of this week’s guest, Rachel Duncan.
Rachel Duncan is a mother, school governor, active leader in her community, and an ex Metropolitan Police Officer. Also, Rachel is the aunt of James Bascoe-Smith, a 17-year-old teenager who was tragically stabbed multiple times in an unprovoked attack in Brixton on February 23 2021.
TIMESTAMPS
(02:50) - THAT'S MAD: Deepfake AI technology used during a zoom call with European MPs
(06:17) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: The guilty verdict of Derek Chauvin over the murder of George Floyd
(17:07) - Reflecting on Stephen Lawrence Day
(25:03) - Bonita’s lived experience and the story of James Bascoe-Smith’s unprovoked stabbing
(32:13) - How do we safeguard young kids and make real change against violent crime
(43:38) - Should drill music be banned?
(53:00) - How violent crime affects the people closest to the victim
(62:52) - Flowers for Ade and Bonita’s CEO
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Our generation talks about moving out and gaining independence a lot but one thing not discussed enough is the realities of adulting once you've finally left the nest.
Ade and Bonita each share three lessons that they've learnt since moving out as well as a discussion about Ramadan, £10 sofas and Addzvice's 5th year anniversary and they also share this week's flowers and picks of the week.
TIMESTAMPS
(09:43) - THAT'S MAD: ASDA’s £10 sofas and similar brand blunders including one company that cost itself £48m settling lawsuits.
(24:18) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: 5 Years of Adzvice and the lessons learned over the years.
(38:50) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Personal accounts of moving out.
(49:02) - Tips on cohabiting, saving, watch-outs, renting, mindset changes, furnishing your home and more.
(68:15) - Summary of the 6 things we wish we knew sooner.
(70:38) - FLOWERS: Bonita’s Colleagues and PICK OF THE WEEK: Undone (Amazon Prime Video).
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Alex Holmes, award-winning podcaster, emotional resilience coach and writer joins Ade and Bonita to talk about his debut book, 'Time To Talk'.
Alex describes his book as a love letter to all the men who have lost their way and to the women that love them.
TIMESTAMPS
(07:48) - THAT'S MAD: People turning grief into an opportunity for clout
(15:43) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: NHS England to launch mental health hubs for expectant and bereaved mums
(19:32) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Alex Holmes' 'Time to Talk' book.
(26:47) - How a serious accusation online drove Alex to delete his Twitter
(41:25) - Inspiration for the book
(50:50) - Has mental health become a buzzword?
(60:00) - Therapy barriers for black men
(67:00) - Do you need a black therapist as a black person?
(78:17) - Why Women need to invest in Men’s Mental Health too
(82:01) - PICKS OF THE WEEK: Seaspiracy (Netflix) and Uncoded Bias (Netflix)
PURCHASE TIME TO TALK HERE: https://uk.bookshop.org/books/time-to-talk-how-men-think-about-love-belonging-and-connection/9781789562217
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TW: Not ones to shy away from an uncomfortable topic, Ade and Bonita discuss self-harm.
To help navigate the conversation is special guest, Janet - a student mental health nurse, blogger and writer who has been featured in BBC Three, HuffPost, Black Ballad & more. Janet has also publicly discussed her journey to overcoming self-harm and shares advice for others in similar a position.
TIMESTAMPS
(06:43) THAT'S MAD: Britain isn't institutionally racist according to a recent report from Number 10.
(29:22) WE'RE CELEBRATING: Students and staff of Pimlico Academy for protesting against the school's discriminatory new uniform policies.
(34:04) MAIN DISCUSSION: Self-Harm (Trigger Warning).
(41:29) What sparked Janet's self-harm and how her family reacted.
(49:47) Seeking help and helping others.
(72:12) - Helpful list of self-harm services to check out
(73:13) - PICKS OF THE WEEK: Industry (BBC iPlayer) and Invincible (Amazon Prime Video)
JANET'S BLOG: https://www.lifeonplanetja.net/
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Career progression is a major consideration for many of us particularly after the year we've collectively experienced. In this episode, Ade and Bonita each share three lessons they wish they had learned earlier on in their respective careers.
TIMESTAMPS
(07:53) THAT'S MAD: ASA threatens to name and shame influencers on Instagram for failing to properly label ads.
(21:56) WE'RE CELEBRATING: Aberdeen University as it's set to return a looted Nigerian statue over 120 years ago.
(35:40) MAIN DISCUSSION: 6 Career lessons we wish we had learned sooner
(68:21) FLOWERS: James Bascoe-Smith and Ade's girlfriend
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We millennials put extraordinary pressure on ourselves to own things. Whether it be houses, cars or designer items. For a long time, it has seemed that people's was intrinsically linked to the number of things they owned.
In this episode, Ade and Bonita discuss the rise of the Sharing Economy and ask whether or not, ownership as a concept has become outdated.
TIMESTAMPS
(05:12)- THAT'S MAD: #NotAllMen and White Women vs the Police.
(16:56) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: Renstart - a surrey-based charity helping homeless people get housed.
(19:55) - MAIN DISCUSSION: the Sharing Economy.
(23:20)- Leasing vs buying cars.
(41:08)- Pros and Cons of the Sharing Economy.
(60:00) - PICKS OF THE WEEK: Green Home Grants, White Tiger (Film) and Trial By Fire (Film).
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You don't have to look any further than our own podcast intro to hear just some of the negative ways millennials are characterised. In this episode, Ade and Bonita discuss and unpack the concept of Hustle Culture and why as a generation of millennials, we're so obsessed with it.
TIMESTAMPS
(05:30)- THAT'S MAD: Harry and Meghan spill the royal tea
(21:37) - UK vs the USA in the racism Olympics
(27:50) - WE'RE CELEBRATING: 'Time to Talk' by Alex Holmes (book launch)
(29:36) - MAIN DISCUSSION: Hustle Culture
(49:08) - Tips for managing the pressures of Hustle culture
(55:30) - FLOWERS AND PICK OF THE WEEK: Grace F Victory and Gousto
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In this episode, we're talking about how friendships new and old can change during your 20's.
TIMESTAMPS
06:44 - THAT'S MAD - Tech is f*cking with us again, this time it's with deep fakes
11:16 - WE'RE CELEBRATING - Bristol Council for asking the UK Government to make Slavery reparations
16:04 - MAIN DISCUSSION: The changing dynamics of friendships
30:09 - Mixed-gender friendships
35:30 - How Ade and Bonita became friends
38:41 - Relationships affecting friendships
43:40 - Why you need to accept change in friendships
48:03 - Lessons for our younger selves
53:15 - FLOWERS
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Unlearning is the central theme of this week’s episode and Ade and Bonita talk in great detail about just a handful of things they believe adults must unlearn.
Joining them for a quick chat is a fellow Ade who is the founder of Blacticulate - a platform that focuses and elevates,
via podcasts and workshops, positive Black stories.
TIMESTAMPS
08:10 - THAT'S MAD: White actors voicing Black characters
12:38 - WE'RE CELEBRATING: Disney righting its racist wrongs
20:35 - MAIN DISCUSSION: Things to Unlearn (covering topics such as identity, compliance, self-doubt, anti-blackness and more)
44:55 - INTERVIEW: Ade from Blacticulate
73:20 - Tips for podcasters starting out
79:44 - FLOWERS: Disunomics (someone to follow) and PICK OF THE WEEK: Snowfall (TV show)
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Inspired by a few recent events on Bonita's Twitter account, the guys are back to discuss how social Social Media really is today.
DISCUSSION POINTS
Another reason why Bonita hates people
How Social Media affects relationships IRL
Performing for Social Media
What does the future of Social Media look like?
PICKS OF THE WEEK
Album: 'Conflict of Interest' by Ghetts
Book: 'The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read' by Philippa Perry
Fitness: Heather Robertson's 12 Week Fitness Plan
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Ade and Bonita are joined this week by 'The Medical Expert', Pome Knight - a community pharmacist. With so much misinformation surrounding the vaccine developed to tackled Covid-19, this episode explores some of the most common worries and misconceptions from within the Black community in particular.
TIMESTAMPS
(06:00) - How was it developed so quickly?
(09:50) - Side effects of the vaccine
(14:04) - 'BAME' communities' reluctance to take the vaccine
(18:05) - Differences between the Covid-19 vaccines
(26:24) - Vaccination passports
(36:28) - Picks of the Week: 'InShot' and 'MixLab' (mobile apps)
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What better way to prepare for Valentine's Day than a good ol' discussion about toxic behaviour within relationships?
Ade and Bonita are joined by Shomi Williams, AKA 'The Tapped Therapist' for an open discussion on energy withdrawal in relationships, toxic traits and Ade's 'Heartbreak Theory'. Apart from being a Mental Health professional, Shomi is the founder of Lafiya Health, a platform that promotes health and well-being in Black communities.
TIMESTAMPS
(10:42): Energy withdrawal
(14:45): Why do we miss the toxic signs?
(17:25): Relationship therapy
(22:08): Should the man love the woman more?
(34:21): Recognising toxicity
(40:18): Ade's 'Heartbreak Theory' and breakups
(51:40): Should you ever get back with an ex?
(59:21): Flowers from Bonita
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Ade and Bonita are joined by Imarn Ayton, Founder of the Black Reformist Movement to explore various topics surrounding covert and institutional racism. Actor-turned-activist Imarn was also a leading figure in the #BlackLivesMatter protests in London last summer.
TIMESTAMPS
(04:35): Abolishing vs Reforming
(15:40): Black Reformist Movement
(20:25): Is abolishing the police the easy way out?
(27:14): Microaggressions
(32:22): Is there really a “Black community”?
(44:07): Where does the donation money go?
(54:29) Picks of The Week: Night Stalker and Bling Empire (Netflix)
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