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Ever feel like you're caring about all the wrong things? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the art of caring about the right things. They explore how aligning your thoughts, words, and actions can lead to true happiness and fulfillment.
The hosts kick things off with a powerful quote from Mahatma Gandhi about finding harmony in life. They then dive into why so many of us, especially those struggling with addiction or mental health issues, often find ourselves caring about things that don't really matter.
Duane and Eric offer practical advice on how to identify your core values and use them as a compass for decision-making. They explain how this approach can reduce stress, boost resilience, and help you navigate life's challenges more effectively.
The episode breaks down a five-step process to help listeners start living a more congruent life. These steps include identifying core values, assessing current focus, practicing mindful decision-making, letting go of the uncontrollable, and cultivating self-compassion.
Throughout the discussion, the hosts emphasize that aligning with your true values is an ongoing process that requires patience and self-compassion. They remind listeners that it's not about becoming indifferent, but about being intentional with your care and energy.
This episode, based on positive psychology, is packed with insights and practical tips for anyone looking to live a more authentic and fulfilling life. Whether you're in recovery or simply seeking personal growth, you'll find valuable guidance on how to care about the right things and create harmony in your life.
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TAM+ Ep 9 Embrace the Now: How Radically Accepting Reality Can Transform Your Life
Key Topics
Identifying and aligning with core values
The impact of caring about the wrong things
Mindful decision-making based on personal values
Letting go of uncontrollable factors
Cultivating self-compassion in the process of change
The link between value alignment and stress reduction
Practical steps for living a more congruent life
Timestamps
[00:01:18] Introduction to the topic of caring about the right things
[00:02:52] Discussion on finding harmony and happiness
[00:05:30] The power to change and align with true values
[00:07:11] Steps to identify and focus on what truly matters
[00:10:25] Breakdown of the five-step process for living a congruent life
[00:13:44] Importance of letting go of the uncontrollable
[00:15:44] Closing thoughts and worksheet information
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Hear strategies to break the cycle of addiction and transform family dynamics in our latest episode featuring Jeff Jones, a seasoned professional counselor and family recovery coach. Jeff opens up about his personal journey and how it fuels his mission to help families combat addiction, urging the importance of removing shame and advocating for early intervention. Learn actionable steps and gain practical insights on how families can become an integral part of their loved one's recovery process, fostering a supportive and hopeful environment.
Discover the hidden complexities of codependency within families affected by addiction. Jeff discusses how codependent behaviors often stem from childhood, impacting personal identity and complicating recovery efforts. By sharing his own experiences and professional insights, Jeff underscores the significance of viewing addiction separate from the individual's core being. This nuanced understanding helps families provide the necessary support without enabling addictive behaviors, promoting healthier relationships and more effective recovery strategies.
In this episode, you will hear:
Jeff Jones' personal journey and its impact on his mission to help families.
The importance of removing shame and advocating for early intervention.
Understanding the complexities of codependency and its impact on personal identity.
Recognizing and transforming unconscious family roles in addiction recovery.
The significance of compassionate boundary-setting
Empowering families to support their loved ones through holistic and actionable strategies.
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Ever feel like your emotions are on a wild rollercoaster, swinging between overwhelming highs and numbing lows? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of The Addiction Mind Plus, hosts Eric and Duane Osterlind dive into a crucial concept for anyone in addiction recovery: the Window of Tolerance.
The Window of Tolerance refers to the emotional sweet spot where you can handle life's challenges without being overwhelmed or shutting down. Outside of this window, you might feel intense anxiety or emotional numbness—both of which can drive addictive behaviors. But don’t worry, understanding and managing this window can help you stay balanced.
Join Eric and Duane as they explore:
What the Window of Tolerance is and why it matters
How to recognize when you’re inside or outside of this window
Practical strategies to expand your Window of Tolerance and maintain emotional balance
If you've ever struggled with feeling too much or too little, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips to help you find your emotional equilibrium.
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Key Topics Covered
Defining the Window of Tolerance: What it is and how it affects emotional stability.
Symptoms of Hyperarousal and Hypoarousal: Recognizing when you're too overwhelmed or emotionally shut down.
Strategies for Managing Your Window of Tolerance: Mindfulness, grounding techniques, and emotional regulation.
The Role of Trauma in Emotional Regulation: How past trauma can impact your Window of Tolerance.
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What if the traumas of your past could be transformed into a beacon of hope for the future? Join us for an intimate conversation with Greg Schindler, a trailblazer in longevity and cellular medicine, as he shares his remarkable journey from a tumultuous childhood in Houston, Texas, to becoming a leader in his field. From facing the heartbreaking suicides of both his biological and adoptive fathers to overcoming addiction, Greg's story is a testament to the human spirit's capacity for resilience and transformation.
Greg recounts the challenges of growing up with an abusive, alcoholic father and transitioning into a more affluent but emotionally complex environment with his stepfather. Despite the external stability, the internal battles led him down a path of substance abuse, seeking validation and escape from his trauma. His journey through self-acceptance and sobriety is both heartbreaking and inspiring, shedding light on the pivotal moments and people who guided him toward a healthier, more purposeful life.
In this episode, you will hear:
Struggles with addiction, self-acceptance, and the journey to sobriety.
Role of a sponsor and the significance of spirituality in recovery.
Emotional and transformative visit to the cemetery to close emotional loops.
Overcoming negative self-talk and embracing self-compassion and healing.
The intersection of personal growth, longevity, and cellular medicine.
Addressing the aging population crisis and the potential of cellular medicine for better health.
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Have you ever felt a whirlwind of emotions but couldn't pin down exactly what you were feeling? You're not alone. Many people, especially those on the road to recovery, struggle to identify their emotions. This episode of "The Addicted Mind" podcast dives into the crucial skill of recognizing and naming our feelings.
Hosts Duane and Eric explore why pinpointing emotions is so important, especially for those battling addiction. They explain that many people used substances or behaviors to cope with overwhelming or confusing feelings. Learning to identify emotions is a key step in breaking free from destructive cycles.
The hosts introduce a practical tool: asking yourself specific questions to figure out which emotion you're experiencing. They walk through examples for emotions like fear, envy, anger, shame, and guilt. By answering these targeted questions, listeners can better understand their emotional state.
Duane and Eric stress that accurately identifying emotions is crucial for "checking the facts" – a method discussed in a previous episode. Once you know what you're feeling, you can examine if your emotional response fits the situation. This allows you to "adjust the volume" of your emotions – either dialing them up or down as needed.
The hosts share real-life examples of how this process has helped people. In one case, a client realized they were feeling shame rather than guilt, leading to a breakthrough in their healing journey.
Listeners are encouraged to practice this skill and to join a live "deep dive" session for more in-depth learning. The hosts also offer a downloadable worksheet to help listeners work through identifying different emotions on their own.
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Key Topics
The importance of identifying specific emotions in recovery
Using targeted questions to pinpoint emotions
Examples of questions for fear, envy, anger, shame, and guilt
How emotion identification connects to "checking the facts"
Real-life impacts of accurately naming emotions
Resources for further learning and practice
Timestamps
0:00 - Introduction and importance of emotion identification
2:43 - Connection to previous "Check the Facts" episode
5:43 - Exploring fear as an emotion
7:10 - Discussing envy and its complexities
8:05 - Examining anger and its various triggers
10:13 - Distinguishing between shame and guilt
13:43 - Closing thoughts and resources for listeners
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Unlock the secrets of transformation and discover how mindfulness can revolutionize your life. Join us as we chat with Pat Smith, a high-performance coach and corporate trainer for NeuroChangeSolutions, who shares his extraordinary journey from a decade-long addiction to personal redemption. Learn how Pat's initial pursuit of physical fitness blossomed into a comprehensive wellness approach that includes nutrition, sleep, and community, highlighting the incredible power of meditation and mindfulness in overcoming anxiety and depression.
Journey with us as we explore the deeply personal stories of overcoming adversity through mindfulness practices. We delve into the mind's potential for reprogramming through practices like meditation and journaling. We liken the mind to a garden, emphasizing the necessity of weeding out detrimental thoughts and cultivating empowering ones. This conversation also touches on the importance of emotional regulation, particularly in high-stress environments, and how mindfulness can enhance leadership, promote a happier workforce, and unlock greater potential.
In this episode, you will hear:
Pat Smith's journey from addiction to personal redemption through mindfulness and meditation
Importance of a holistic wellness approach: physical fitness, nutrition, sleep, and community
The role of meditation and journaling in reprogramming the mind and fostering personal growth
Emotional regulation and its impact on decision-making and leadership in high-stress environments
Insights into the benefits of mindfulness for enhancing professional performance and overall well-being
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Ever felt like your emotions were driving you off a cliff? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into a powerful tool that could change the game for anyone in recovery or struggling with mental health: the "Check the Facts" technique from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
Imagine being able to hit the pause button on those overwhelming feelings that seem to come out of nowhere. That's exactly what this episode teaches you to do. Duane and Eric break down a simple six-step process that helps you untangle your thoughts from your emotions, giving you the power to make better choices in tough moments.
But this isn't just about calming down. It's about fundamentally changing how you respond to the world around you. Whether you're dealing with addiction, anxiety, or just life's everyday challenges, this episode offers a practical skill that you can start using right away.
The hosts share real-world examples and explain how this technique can help prevent relapse, improve relationships, and bring more balance to your life. They also discuss the science behind why this works and how you can practice it to make it second nature.
If you've ever felt at the mercy of your emotions or made decisions you later regretted, this episode is a must-listen. It's not about ignoring your feelings, but about understanding them better so you can respond in a way that aligns with your true goals and values.
Tune in to learn how to check the facts and take back control of your emotional responses. Your future self will thank you!
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When Nick Padlo hit rock bottom, he never expected that a serene meditation garden would be the catalyst for a profound transformation. As a West Point graduate and Army combat veteran, Nick's journey through addiction and mental health struggles led him to discover the life-changing power of mindfulness and meditation. We explore the stark contrast between mindfulness and mindlessness and how focusing on meditation objects like breath, body, or emotions can sharpen both personal and professional effectiveness.
Transitioning from rehab to real life poses significant challenges, and building a comprehensive sobriety toolkit is essential. Nick shares invaluable insights into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and daily mindfulness practices, stressing the importance of continuous self-improvement. We also underscore the vital role of education and skill-building in recovery, Sophros Recovery's expansion efforts, and the necessity of supporting veterans and first responders. Ultimately, Nick's journey sends a powerful message of hope and resilience, proving that with the right tools and mindset, anyone can aspire to a better life.
In this episode, you will hear:
Nick Padlo's transformative journey from addiction and mental health struggles to recovery
The life-changing impact of mindfulness and meditation on Nick's recovery
Contrast between mindfulness and mindlessness, enhancing personal and professional effectiveness
Building a comprehensive sobriety toolkit including CBT, DBT, and daily mindfulness practices
Importance of continuous self-improvement and education in addiction recovery
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Are you feeling drained, irritable, and on edge, even though you're doing everything right in your recovery? The missing piece of your puzzle might be as simple as getting a good night's sleep. In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the often-overlooked importance of sleep in addiction recovery.
Think sleep doesn't matter? Think again! The hosts reveal how poor sleep can sabotage your efforts, making you more likely to relapse. But don't worry – they've got your back with practical tips to transform your sleep habits and supercharge your recovery.
Discover why sleep is your secret weapon for managing emotions, boosting brainpower, and keeping cravings in check. Duane and Eric share personal experiences and scientific insights that will make you rethink your relationship with sleep. They bust the myth that sacrificing sleep for productivity is a badge of honor and explain why it's time to prioritize those precious Z's.
Ready to take your recovery to the next level? Tune in to learn five simple yet powerful steps to create the perfect sleep routine. From ditching screens before bed to crafting a sleep-friendly environment, these tips will help you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle your recovery journey.
Don't let poor sleep hold you back any longer. Listen now and unlock the power of restorative rest to become the best version of yourself in recovery.
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Key Topics
The five crucial reasons sleep is important for recovery
How sleep affects emotion regulation and decision-making
The link between sleep, stress management, and cravings
Common sleep challenges in recovery and how to overcome them
Five practical steps to improve your sleep quality
Creating a sleep routine that supports your recovery goals
Timestamp
[00:01:14] Importance of sleep in recovery and mental health
[00:02:57] Two sides of sleep struggles: overworking and insomnia
[00:04:32] Sleep's impact on emotion regulation and impulse control
[00:05:50] How sleep affects cognitive function and decision-making
[00:06:43] Sleep's role in stress management and cortisol levels
[00:08:21] Sleep's influence on craving control
[00:09:35] Five practical steps to improve sleep quality
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Can small, consistent changes truly lead to a life-changing transformation? Join us on the Addicted Mind podcast as we sit down with Justin McClure, a Forbes top creator and acclaimed TED Talk speaker, who shares his extraordinary journey from the grip of addiction to a life of fulfillment and success. Growing up in rural Georgia, Justin faced significant family trauma and neglect, which fueled his dependency on substances. His story is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the impact of daily, mindful efforts in overcoming personal struggles. In this episode, Justin unveils his latest book, "Daily Sober: 365 Daily Lessons to Breaking Habits," designed to guide those battling addiction one day at a time.
Through candid conversation, Justin discusses the importance of self-compassion, therapy, and patience in the recovery process. He highlights the profound effects of small, manageable steps in creating lasting change, much like a plane altering its course by just a few degrees. Reflecting on his disciplined approach to writing and the joy he finds in self-improvement, Justin offers invaluable insights into the journey of healing and self-love. This episode is a beacon of hope and practical advice for anyone struggling with addiction, illustrating the power of incremental progress and supportive environments in achieving a fulfilling, sober life.
In this episode, you will hear:
Impact of family trauma and neglect on addiction
Importance of small, consistent changes for transformation
Self-compassion, therapy, and patience in recovery
Daily lessons from Justin's book "Daily Sober"
Embracing discomfort and incremental progress
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Have you ever felt like reaching out for help is a sign of weakness? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode of the Addicted Mind podcast, hosts Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind delve into the powerful impact of asking for help on the journey to recovery.
Asking for help can be one of the hardest steps in addiction recovery, but it's also one of the most crucial. Duane and Eric discuss common barriers like shame, denial, and fear of vulnerability that keep people from seeking the support they need. They share personal stories and insights from their experiences as therapists, emphasizing that recovery flourishes in connection and not in isolation. Listen in as they break down five key internal beliefs that often prevent people from reaching out and offer practical advice on overcoming these hurdles. By the end of the episode, you'll understand why seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a profound act of courage and strength.
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Key topics
• The 5 main barriers to asking for help in addiction recovery
• Why social support is crucial for maintaining long-term sobriety
• How childhood experiences can affect our ability to seek help
• The importance of vulnerability in the recovery process
• Practical steps to overcome the fear of asking for support
• Free resources to help build your support network
Timestamps
[00:01:06] Introduction to the importance of asking for help in recovery
[00:03:51] Discussing the 5 internal beliefs that prevent people from seeking help
[00:04:12] Exploring shame and stigma as barriers
[00:05:26] Addressing denial in addiction
[00:06:34] The fear of vulnerability and its roots
[00:08:00] Self-reliance mindset and its impact on seeking help
[00:09:57] Dealing with hopelessness in addiction recovery
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Everyone has a level of healthy narcissism. We all see things through our lens to some degree. The narcissist, however, has pathological levels of self-involvement and he or she experiences fundamental developmental deficits early on in life.
According to author and speaker, Julie Hall, addiction is a huge part of the narcissistic family system. There is a pattern of depression, anger, confusion with family rifts, and alienation, and there is no awareness of what the core issue is.
In her book, The Narcissist In Your Life: Recognizing the Patterns and Learning to Break Free, Julie breaks down the pattern of a narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissism vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Everyone has a level of healthy narcissism. We all see things through our lens to some degree. The narcissist, however, has pathological levels of self-involvement and he or she experiences fundamental developmental deficits early on in life.
With narcissists, there’s an underlying sense of profound vulnerability, shame, inferiority, and worthlessness.
Narcissism is a defensive coping structure and children who develop this kind of coping structure tend to repress their feelings of vulnerability and shame. They build an exterior persona to mask their overwhelming feelings.
They develop a false grandiose and superior personality, often becoming domineering and competitive. They are out of touch with their inner, emotional world and so they don’t actively engage with people on an emotional level.
The narcissistic personality avoids self-reflection at all costs and it learns to mimic certain behaviors that look like intimacy.
Narcissists tend to see themselves and others as either worthless or wonderful. When they see themselves (or others) as perfect, they need to stay that way in order not to feel worthless. They seem to be in a state that is disconnected from other people.
The Narcissistic Family and Its Role in Addiction
In a family in which one or both of the parents are narcissistic, the family is structured in such a way that the needs of the children are secondary to the needs of the parents. Several dysfunctional families are set up that way. But there are differences unique to a narcissistic family as opposed to an alcoholic family or an addicted family.
Addiction is a huge part of this whole narcissistic family system. People coming out of families like this are dysregulated themselves, and they are carrying complex trauma. There’s a pattern of depression, anger, confusion, family rifts, and alienation.
It manifests in many ways, whether it’s substance abuse, sex addiction, eating disorders, or any kind of addiction. There’s a loss of homeostasis when you’re in that traumatizing environment. And so, you try to find a way to cope with all of the confusion.
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Have you ever felt like your emotions are running the show, pushing and pulling you in directions you don’t want to go? You’re not alone.
In this episode of the Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind dive deep into the world of emotion regulation. They explore common myths about emotions that keep many of us stuck in unhealthy patterns. With practical insights and compassionate guidance, Duane and Eric shed light on how our misunderstandings about emotions can lead to more intense feelings and problematic behaviors.
By debunking these myths, they show us how to develop healthier relationships with our emotions, allowing us to make decisions that align with our true goals. Whether you’re struggling with impulsive reactions or avoidance strategies or just want to understand your emotions better, this episode is packed with valuable information that can help you navigate your emotional landscape more effectively.
Join Duane and Eric as they explore the myths surrounding emotion regulation and how these misconceptions can hinder our recovery journey. Learn about the importance of understanding your emotions from a biopsychosocial perspective and discover practical tips to regulate your emotions instead of letting them control you. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a better grasp of how to manage your emotions and make decisions that support your well-being.
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Key Topics
Understanding the impact of emotions on decision-making
The importance of emotion regulation skills in recovery
Debunking common myths about emotions
The role of avoidance and escape strategies in emotional intensity
How to develop a healthier relationship with your emotions
The benefits of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) in emotion regulation
Practical steps to regulate emotions effectively
Key Moments
[00:01:22] - Introduction to the topic of emotion regulation
[00:02:07] - The problem with letting emotions drive our decisions
[00:03:00] - Defining emotion regulation and its significance
[00:07:19] - Introduction to myths about emotions
[00:09:08] - Discussion on the myth: Emotions are bad or dangerous
[00:11:44] - Exploring the myth: If I start feeling, I’ll never stop
[00:14:00] - Addressing the myth: I should be able to control my emotions
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Imagine finding your true calling amidst the chaos of addiction recovery. That’s exactly what happened to Patrick Holbert, a former TV producer who took a leap of faith and became a stand-up comedian. In this episode, Patrick shares his incredible journey of overcoming addiction and how joining a 12-step program and the Artist's Way workshop led him to pursue his passion for comedy. We explore how his acclaimed show "Punchline Drunk" uses humor and personal storytelling to educate college students about alcohol abuse, and how fatherhood has added a new emotional layer to his performances.
Patrick opens up about the complexities of filling the void left by addiction with work and external validation, and the burnout that often follows. He candidly discusses the pivotal moment of joining an Artist's Way group, which helped him dive deeper into self-discovery and community support, ultimately highlighting the need for holistic recovery. We also touch on the courage it takes to seek meaningful change and the setbacks that can occur when old habits resurface, emphasizing the importance of addressing inner needs for true fulfillment in sobriety.
In this episode, you will hear:
Patrick Holbert's transition from a TV producer to a stand-up comedian during his addiction recovery journey.
The impact of joining a 12-step program and the Artist's Way workshop on Patrick's path to sobriety and comedy.
The creation and success of "Punchline Drunk," a show that educates college students about alcohol abuse through humor.
The challenges of filling the void left by addiction with work and the resulting burnout.
Insights into the supportive yet challenging environment of the New York City comedy scene.
The development and significance of Patrick's comedy special "Qualification," filmed at a recovery convention.
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Welcome to the Addicted Mind podcast! Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'm either a success or a complete failure"? This episode is for you.
In this episode, we dive deep into the pervasive issue of black-and-white thinking, also known as dichotomous thinking and its impact on addiction recovery. Join Duane Osterlind and Eric Osterlind as they explore how this rigid mindset can create emotional instability and hinder progress. Drawing on principles from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), they discuss practical steps to move from extreme thinking to a more balanced, nuanced approach. You'll learn mindfulness techniques, how to challenge your thoughts, and the importance of embracing the gray areas in life. By the end of this episode, you'll have valuable tools to help you think more dialectically and support your journey to recovery. Plus, don't miss the downloadable worksheet in the show notes to further your practice!
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Key Topics
Understanding black-and-white thinking and its impact on recovery
Introduction to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Practical steps to shift towards dialectical thinking
Importance of mindfulness and self-compassion
Challenging extreme thoughts and seeking clarification
The role of language in shaping our perceptions
Timestamps
[00:00:00] Introduction and overview of black-and-white thinking
[00:02:15] The impact of black-and-white thinking on recovery and relationships
[00:06:15] Why our brains default to black-and-white thinking
[00:08:40] How to become a gray thinker: Practical steps
[00:10:58] Seeking clarification and the role of community support
[00:12:42] Reframing negative thoughts and focusing on positives
[00:14:11] Call to action: Download the worksheet and join the community
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How do you manage the weight of expectation and the emotional toll of personal loss while thriving in the high-stakes world of professional football? Join us Duane as he sits down with Chris Hubbard, a celebrated NFL player and a fervent mental health advocate. From his roots in Columbus, Georgia, to the peaks and valleys of his collegiate career at UAB, Chris sheds light on the trials of being a first-generation college student and the seismic impact of losing his grandfather at the tender age of 19. His candid recounting of emotional struggles, his mother’s unwavering support, and the transformative decision to seek therapy at 25 are truly inspiring, leading to the creation of his mental health initiative, the Overcoming Together Foundation.
Discover the intense pressures that come with NFL draft day and the valuable lessons Chris gleaned from illustrious teammates like Troy Polamalu and Ben Roethlisberger during his early years with the Pittsburgh Steelers. He also delves into how losing touch with his core beliefs led to feelings of being lost and how therapy helped him confront deep-seated traumas, including the devastating loss of a friend to suicide.
Chris also emphasizes the power of expressing emotions openly, breaking the societal mold of stoicism, and surrounding oneself with positive influences. Through his foundation, Overcoming Together, Chris is committed to fostering community support, spreading mental health awareness, and providing safe spaces for open dialogue, demonstrating that vulnerability is a strength and mental health support is transformative.
In this episode, you will hear:
Mental health advocacy in sports
Navigating mental health struggles in sports
Embracing mental health through spirituality
Strength through mental health awareness
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In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric dive deep into the unspoken roles that families often fall into, especially when dealing with addiction. They explore how these roles—like the hero, caretaker, scapegoat, mascot, and lost child—can perpetuate dysfunction and hinder recovery. By understanding and identifying these roles, you can begin to break free from the cycles that keep you stuck. Tune in to learn practical steps for recognizing these dynamics, fostering open communication, and setting boundaries that support your journey toward recovery and authentic living.
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Key Topics
Understanding common family roles in addiction
The impact of these roles on personal well-being
Historical context and development of family therapy
Practical steps for changing dysfunctional family dynamics
Importance of self-care and therapeutic support
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Can you imagine a life where alcohol isn’t the centerpiece of your social interactions? In this episode, Duane sits down with Veronica Valli, a recovery coach and psychotherapist, who challenges the deeply ingrained belief that a fulfilling life must include alcohol. She reveals the initial shock and eventual liberation that comes from meeting people who thrive without it. Having been alcohol-free for over 24 years, Veronica shares her deeply personal story.
What began as binge drinking and drug experimentation in her teenage years in the UK led to severe consequences and a struggle for self-acceptance. Her tale is a testament to the power of emotional sobriety, which she considers the cornerstone of true recovery. Through candid anecdotes, she discusses the role of fear in maintaining alcohol dependence and how sobriety transforms one's perception of joy and connection. Veronica emphasizes the importance of managing emotions without alcohol and discovering the surprising joys of being fully present in life's moments.
This episode explores the rollercoaster of early sobriety and the necessity of a supportive community and the right tools to navigate this phase successfully. Veronica introduces her five pillars of sobriety – movement, connection, balance, process, and growth – as key components for maintaining and enriching a sober life. Duane and Veronica also cover addressing past trauma and shifting ingrained perceptions about alcohol. Veronica's journey is one of profound gratitude and clarity, offering hope and inspiration to anyone considering the path of sobriety.
In this episode, you will hear:
Why emotional sobriety is key to true recovery
Misconceptions tied to alcohol dependency
The struggle of managing emotions without alcohol
Addressing underlying issues like resentment, fear, and self-worth
The five pillars of sobriety
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In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals and how they affect our well-being. Have you ever felt the high of achieving a big goal, only to have that happiness fade away? This episode explores why that happens and introduces the concept of the "hedonic treadmill." You'll learn how extrinsic goals, like money and status, give short-term happiness but don't last. In contrast, intrinsic goals, like personal growth and meaningful relationships, bring deeper and more lasting joy. Duane and Eric share practical tips on how to shift your focus to these intrinsic goals, cultivate gratitude, and build stronger, more fulfilling connections. They also discuss the importance of mindfulness, personal growth, and serving others in achieving true contentment. Tune in to discover how you can step off the hedonic treadmill and find real, sustainable happiness in your life.
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Key Topics
The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic goals
Understanding the hedonic treadmill
How extrinsic goals lead to temporary happiness
The importance of intrinsic goals for lasting fulfillment
Practical tips to shift focus and cultivate intrinsic goals
Timestamp List
[00:01:06] Introduction to the topic: Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals
[00:03:08] Explanation of the hedonic treadmill
[00:04:20] The impact of extrinsic goals on happiness
[00:07:33] Defining and understanding intrinsic goals
[00:11:00] How to step off the hedonic treadmill
[00:16:04] Practical tips for cultivating intrinsic goals
[00:19:00] Summary and closing thoughts
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What happens when the traditional 12-step recovery program doesn’t quite fit your belief system? Licensed marriage and family therapist Jeffrey Munn joins Duane to share his deeply personal journey through addiction and recovery, which led him to author "Staying Sober Without God: The Practical 12 Steps to Long-Term Recovery from Alcoholism and Addiction." Jeffrey opens up about his battles with isolation and internal turmoil and highlights the crucial support from his parents that helped him navigate this challenging path. His story underscores the necessity of individualized recovery approaches and shines a light on the often-overlooked needs of atheists and agnostics in recovery.
Jeffrey discusses the integration of traditional 12-step programs with personalized mental health approaches, emphasizing the importance of addressing trauma, unresolved grief, and boundary-setting. He candidly recounts his own experience with the pressure to adopt a belief in a higher power within 12-step meetings and how this led to a temporary setback. Through his narrative, you'll learn about the significance of merging the wisdom of 12-step programs with modern psychological insights to create a more rational and personalized recovery journey. They also delve into the specifics of how inpatient rehab focusing on mental health practices played a pivotal role in his recovery.
The conversation takes a deeper turn as they examine the challenges and benefits of faith-based recovery for those who struggle with blind faith. Jeffrey provides a logical and practical perspective on the concept of "letting go and letting God," drawing parallels to principles in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).
In this episode, you will hear:
Finding personal recovery path without God
Psychology-based recovery approaches
Personal recovery and finding meaning
Exploring alternative higher powers in recovery
Navigating integrity and personal belief systems
Challenges with faith-based addiction recovery
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