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In this podcast episode, Dr. Shaw addresses the notion of teaching our children good citizenship. She notes that it is similar to good sportsmanship wherein knowing how to lose and to win graciously may be the most important part of playing a game. Teaching good citizenship can start with simple tasks like cleaning the environment, but it can also be demonstrated in so many ways... kindness being an example or showing honesty or respect. Especially now when bullying and (politically) authoritarianism seems to be on the rise, it's important to teach positive behavior socially. Additionally, teaching humanity should not be tied to a material reward. Rewards should be intrinsic, and that needs to be modeled for our children by parents and educators. Also, learning should be about the process and not a product.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw examines the concept of self-doubt. She begins with a reference to one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements, and she talks about a featured notion of that book which is to be impeccable with your words. Her interpretation of that is to not go against yourself, because if you do, with your perception pf self-doubt you may have a self-fulfilling prophecy on your hands. She puts forth that the way to rectify self-doubt is to have self-compassion when having doubt and then practice not having doubt. You can practice not having low self-esteem by marking and noting those moments when you succeed in something. Doubt in and of itself isn't always negative... it can give you caution and help you avoid a dangerous situation. With our children, we are sharing our life lessons and being their mentors, and if we can put them on the best path by having them avoid self-doubt, their journey might just be smoother.
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In this highly personal episode, Dr. Shaw reacts to a message that came to her from an acquaintance... the message was supposed to positive, but because the message was rooted in bad sportsmanship and over-zealous pride it triggered a reaction in Dr. Shaw that made her want to remind everyone of the inclusiveness that America was built upon. There are lessons for us all in what she shares here, including for parents raising children in today's divisive culture.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw takes a quick look at the notion of SELF-LOVE. For starters, the development and maintenance of self-love begins with not being down on oneself. With our children, it's important to model our ability to navigate difficult waters. Self-love also promotes self-trust. Giving your child a good amount of responsibility demonstrates to them that you feel that they understand their natural boundaries and abilities. Real friendships also support our sense of well-being, and when we find ourselves with unfulfilling relations it undermines our feeling of self worth.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw succinctly sums up her three key ingredients for having a relationship that's based on emotional well-being. Her list is a simple one... (1) fill your emotional tank, even if you fill it yourself, (2) hold the space for your partner to be okay with having a bad day, and (3) table the conversation if it's clearly not a good time for it. That list sounds simple, and it is, but during this podcast Dr. Shaw illustrates and illuminates each of those three building blocks of a relationship with emotional well-being.
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In this brief episode, Dr. Shaw explores that moment for all of us when we grasp a concept that we are learning, and the experience of learning kicks into gear. She refers to that as the moment the light bulb goes on over our heads, but she also points out that the crucial moment is what we do in the learning process before that moment of understanding kicks in. When we are trying to teach something new, we need to hold onto two concepts... what is the aim of the new skill we are teaching and are we creating confusion. As you are teaching a concept, you should check for understanding with you child. A child will often say they understand something when they don't, so check in with them and offer to explain whatever it is. It doesn't matter how old we are, 6 or 66, when we learn, that light bulb turns on.
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In this brief but important episode, Dr. Shaw takes a close look at what it means to share your feelings honestly with your friends and with your associates. In any instance where we feel that telling the truth will create a negative consequence, we may have our rationale, but in reality, honesty is the best policy. The old saying that "the truth will set you free" is correct, but it is all based on your belief system. We must all learn to let go of any belief that doesn't serve us.
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On this brief podcast, Dr. Shaw takes a moment to express her gratitude and share her desire to help people and continue to contribute to society. As she hits the 4 1/2 year mark in the life of her weekly podcasts, Dr. Shaw wanted to simply reflect on her desire to share her expertise each week and to thank those who have been so supportive of her podcast efforts. Her reflection here reminds us that having a positive impact on someone or opening their eyes to a new way of thinking, no matter what the size or scope of that impact, is always worthwhile.
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In this brief but very valuable episode, Dr. Shaw shares some timeless wisdom regarding maintaining friendships as quality relationships. For a long time she has promoted the concept that friendships, relationships and partnerships are only truly succeeding if all parties involved are lifted up. No one needs nor should anyone tolerate a relationship where you are made to feel worse or smaller or less than someone else. She points to the trusting environment that she created year after year in her classroom as a successful learning environment BECAUSE there was trust and a feeling of safety. She also reminds us that exposing our children appropriately to the ups and downs of our own relationships will serve to teach them the right path in developing and maintaining their own friendships of worth and meaning.
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It this episode, Dr. Shaw discusses when and how to designate responsibility to our children. She draws an important comparison between responsibility and respect because they both need to earned and they both need to be mutual. She also illustrates how responsibility must be a product of responsiveness, and what that really means. Here, Dr. Shaw also re-introduces the concept of modeling the kind of result(s) you want for your children, and you can sometimes accomplish that aspect by sharing a very personal story. She also encourages all parents and educators to share the tasks with young children, and she illustrates clearly in this podcast what that looks like.
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This podcast was recorded on March 1, 2025, the day after the surreal meeting of the U.S. President and the President of Ukraine at the White House. Dr. Shaw has been a proponent of ethics and humanity for a long time... she has written 22 children's nonfiction books on social and emotional behavior... and she cannot digest the embarrassing bullying that took place at the White House on Feb. 28, 2025. Her comments on this podcast episode might be construed as political, but they are simply a visceral reaction by an educator who fought bullying and other bad behavior for her entire long career.
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In this very valuable episode, Dr. Shaw dives into not only the importance of having quality relationships, but she also provides a road map for how to have and maintain them. She breaks it down into what she calls the "6 C's"... Communication, Conflict management, Caring for yourself and those around you, Connecting openly and deeply, Commitment and Courage. These essential ingredients to quality relationships are listed and discussed in no particular order, but Dr. Shaw does a great job of examining each of those items and offering illustrative examples of how they work in practice. This is all important because we want our children to have quality relationships at school and with their peers, and by maintaining quality relationships as parents, educators or mentors, we model the best behavior for them.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw takes a close look at what it means to either live with self-doubt OR to cast doubt aside and live with an attitude of possibility. Dr. Shaw acknowledges that there are many things that we may not be able to master or ever to do well, but understanding our reasonable limitations is not the same as living in doubt. She puts forth that doubt (along with regret and guilt) is a creator of obstacles and that when we live in a space of doubt, we are causing our own suffering and not allowing ourselves to be open to success. Naturally, while this is a philosophy for adults to live by, it's also a pattern that we should model for our children so that they, too, are open to saying "I think I can."
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In this brief episode, Dr. Shaw examines the question that many of us ask ourselves which is... how do we get to the point where we feel that we are "enough"? Over-achievers clearly are motivated by being better all the time, and Dr. Shaw, who admits to being an over-achiever, points out that for her, her biggest competition is with herself. Often, doing your best is simply enough, and we need to learn how to celebrate doing our best. It is also okay to have down time, even when the need to contribute for a feeling of self-worth is pushing you forward. Self-love means working towards unconditional self-love. An important tenet to remember is to simply lead a balanced life.
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In this advice-filled episode, Dr. Shaw veers into a territory that she usually does not address which is interacting with adolescents. This topic came in by request, and Dr. Shaw dove right in with a balanced and intelligent approach. She begins by acknowledging that adolescence is a challenging time, and she then runs through a number of key points in how to best address issues with that age group. She says to encourage open communication, and ideally, that's something you start earlier in life. She also says to promote healthy habits, to be a source of encouragement, to be honest, to encourage quality relationships outside of the immediate family, to teach problem-solving, to set goals that are attainable, to be patient and to model self-care. Of course she gives more detail and examples of what each of those supportive behaviors might look like making this an incredibly valuable podcast.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues responding to the feedback she received from parents regarding what they would like to see included in their children's education.... and today she addresses COMMITMENT and FOLLOW-THROUGH. Dr. Shaw describes what a commitment consists of and how to not avoid the task. The importance of commitment is that it keeps an individual on track. If you begin a commitment, you need to recognize the goal and the intention of that commitment and that it is important that children feel the accomplish of the commitment. Also, if there is an agreement to make a commitment it needs to be followed through. If not, there must be natural consequences.
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In this episode, Dr. Shaw continues here mini-series focused on best practices for educating children per what parents want most for their children. Here she concentrates on the concept of grit and hard work, and she begins with a reminder that parents and educators must model exactly what we want our children to learn. Dr. Shaw also points out that confusion is important to avoid, and checking for understanding when we communicate with our children is very important. She interlaces the notion of commitment or follow-through while discussing hard work, and she gives great guidance on how to handle things when faced with a difficult challenge.
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With this episode, Dr. Shaw continues her series within a series. During this edition, she is addressing the areas of education in which most parents have indicated to her that they are most interested in regard to their child's learning. This week her focus is on teaching kindness and compassion. One key to teaching kindness and compassion is by example. Parents often unconsciously display behavior that runs completely counter to what they want their children to be taught.... the lesson there for parents is to be careful. For teachers, the key is being intentional. We are always socializing our children to pay attention to things, so reinforce that their attention should be paid to the positive.
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With this podcast, Dr. Shaw begins a brief series within her series during which she will present key components of what parents are telling her they want out of their children's education. The areas of interest for most parents of young children do vary, but Dr. Shaw has distilled the most common goals and topics into a handful of categories, and what she focuses on in this podcast is teaching children honesty and integrity. Parents want their children to be aware of their humanity, and she explains how in her classrooms the stage was always set for children to learn how to be honest and how deceit is a double-edged sword. One must note and mark moments when honesty is exhibited, must continue to model honesty and must reinforce in both the home and the learning environment that we pay attention to only the positive and not reward the negative with our attention.
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