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Becoming an emotional adult as a surgeon is essential, but it's not easy. You are working in a high-stress, high-stakes industry, and it's so much easier to act out and throw tantrums like a toddler. Perhaps that's been modeled for you in training. Perhaps you think you have to throw a fit to take good care of your patients. Well, you don't. You'll learn why a lot of adults—including surgeons—live their lives as emotional children, what it means to be an emotional adult, and how to take ownership of your life.
Listen to The Life Coach School Podcast episode about emotional childhood and adulthood here:
https://www.thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/the-life-coach-school-podcast-2/episodes/2148780126
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303www.melthackercoaching.com
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The best way to insulate ourselves against patient retaliation is to cultivate "know, like, and trust". But how do we do that? In this episode, I'll tell you how I used to do it right, then, in a state of burnout, I did it very wrong (2 patients complained about me to the board of medicine during that time), and now I'm creating "know, like, and trust" with everyone, "difficult" patients included.
I'll teach you a simple 5 step process that will allow you to connect with anyone and everyone. No need to people please or let patients walk all over you. The result will be glowing reviews from your patients, less chance for retaliation, and, hey, maybe you'll even look forward to clinic.
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303www.melthackercoaching.com
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**This episode discusses sensitive topics including sexual assault**
Today's episode features Dr. Francis Mei Hardin, an otolaryngologist, host of "Promising Young Surgeon", and a pioneer of culture change. She interviewed me about being sexually assaulted when I was a 4th year resident. We talk about power dynamics in training, the importance of compassion and support for trainees, and how my program cared for me in my wounded state after the assault. If you have ever experienced assault or violence, please take good care of yourself, seek support, and listen with caution.
Link to Promising Young Surgeon Podcast:
https://heyinfluent.com/podcasts/promising-young-surgeon/
Thank you to the Influent Network!
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303www.melthackercoaching.com
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Short and sweet, I will give you ONE thought that can become the foundation of your surgeon self concept. Adopt this belief and you’ll remember why you became a surgeon in the first place. With a solid self concept, you can grow confidence, curiosity, creativity, and connection.
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303 ❤️www.melthackercoaching.com
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You don’t have to hunker down in a basement bunker (your "surgeon room"). You actually have the freedom to explore the rest of your beautiful home. Consider your identity a multi-room house, and you’ve merely ignored the other parts/rooms of yourself for so long that you’ve forgotten they exist. Consider detaching from your surgeon identity and reconnecting with other parts of your multifaceted self.
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303 ❤️www.melthackercoaching.com
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The key to creating wealth is learning how to engage with and manage your emotions. Emotions are vibrational frequencies in your body. As a surgeon, you have been taught to ignore your body. That's BS. It's time to reconnect with your body and realize the power of your intuition. In this episode, I discuss how emotions are the key to unlocking your potential, how to engage with emotions as though you were engaging with a child or training an animal, and the boundless places you can go when you allow and digest negative emotions to get to a place where you can intentionally generate emotions that create momentum in your life.
I want to hear from you! Email me your story at [email protected] or text me 262-893-0303 ❤️www.melthackercoaching.com
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Life is not all or none. Black or white. This or that.
There is overlap between two contradictory sides of ourselves. When we see the world this way, we are able to accept ourselves in whatever realm we tend toward and consciously shift ourselves to the realm that best serves our goals. From the system's perspective, we should be unemotional, selfless martyrs. The truth is: we are complex, feeling, thinking, imperfect creatures.
In this episode, you'll learn about the energy-sucking disadvantages of self-focused, "get" energy and the benefits of other-focused, "service" energy. You'll learn how to use duality to strive for 100% perfect results with every patient while also knowing that is an impossibility. You'll also learn how to use strategic disconnection to get out of your own head and serve your patients at your highest level. Don't miss this one!
I want to hear from you! Email me your thoughts on duality to [email protected] or shoot a text to 262-893-0303.www.melthackercoaching.com
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Humans love drama. But when we indulge in drama, we keep ourselves stuck in our current lived experience. In this episode, you will learn a language you can use to recognize drama in your life and a new lens through which to see the world that will help you exit the drama triangle and become empowered. You can create whatever you want in your life, and in order to do that, you have to redefine the roles of victim, villain and hero.
I want to hear from you! Email me all about the drama in your life at [email protected] or shoot a text to 262-893-0303.www.melthackercoaching.com
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According to Byron Katie, there are three businesses: your business, other people's business, and the universe's business.
Surgical complications are none of your business. They are the universe's business.
What do I mean by this? NOT that you shouldn't take action to help your patients when they have a complication. You absolutely should. I say this to mean that you do not own a complication as something you intentionally caused or have full control over.
We own our own business. That's where we have agency. That's where we get to decide how to respond to circumstances of the world. That's where we get to decide what we make them mean. We simply have no jurisdiction in the other two businesses.
I want to hear from you! How does this framework change your perspective? Email me at [email protected]www.melthackercoaching.com
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Our training has taught us to rely on white swans and fear red swans. In this episode you'll learn why approaching your patients this way creates roadblocks, can lead to misdiagnosis and mistreatment of the patient, causes you distress, and distracts you from reality.
The way to reduce medical errors, build rapport with patients, and increase efficiency is to identify the black swans--the unknown unknowns--and turn them into white swans--known knowns.
White swans exist both in the real world and in our brain. Red swans do not exist in the real world but do exist in our brain. Black swans exist in the real world but do not exist in our brain...unless we identify them by asking the right questions.
Great black swan questions:
-What don't I know?
-What would make this picture whole and complete?
-Is this a problem worth solving for the patient?
-Is my belief triad (belief in self, belief in surgery, belief in patient) strong?
-Is the patient's belief triad (belief in self, belief in surgery, belief in me as a surgeon) strong?
I want to hear from you! If you implement this framework, please email me your story at [email protected].www.melthackercoaching.com
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We know how to create safety for patients. The processes and procedures have been shoved down our throats. Sure they are useful to keep patients safe in specific situations. But what about keeping us safe? Little does JHACO know that a surgeon who feels safe creates safety for everyone. So, surgeon, let's make your safety a priority.
Viral video "I was an MIT trained neurosurgeon": https://youtu.be/25LUF8GmbFU?feature=shared
"Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss: https://www.blackswanltd.com/never-split-the-differencewww.melthackercoaching.com
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Wait...our bodies aren't just vessels carrying our intelligent brains and skillful hands from the OR to the clinic? In this episode, you'll learn what makes you a whole, complete human and the importance of understanding and honoring your whole, undivided self.
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Wondering why I went from a seemingly successful surgeon to a surgeon coach and podcaster? In this episode, I give you a peak behind the curtain into my personal life. You'll learn about the drama of my past, my struggles with mental health, how the shock of the pandemic sent me on an unexpected journey of introspection, and the miracle of coaching.
If you or anyone you know is struggling with mental health, please find support. Contact your doctor, call your best friend, make an appointment with a mental health professional, do whatever you need to do to support you. I'm here for you, and I'd love to hear your story and support you. Please email me at [email protected]
Find The Life Coach School Podcast here:
https://www.thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/the-life-coach-school-podcast-2www.melthackercoaching.com
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Martyrdom is a toxic, one way street to burn out. In this episode, I explore why humans feel the need to add suffering to their lives, from historical and religious examples of martyrs to martyrs in medicine (and the dangerous precedent that sets for the rest of us). The ultimate message here is: you matter. I hope you'll feel inspired to prioritize yourself and give martyrdom the middle finger.
I want to hear from you! Please share your personal experiences of martyrdom culture with me at [email protected].www.melthackercoaching.com
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Shame is an emotion that can either destroy you or humanize you. In this episode, you'll learn what shame is, why it is such a powerful social motivator and de-motivator, who is particularly susceptible to shame, the origins of shame, how to manage shame when we face surgical complications, and how to become unshameable.
Listen to Bewildered's "Unshamable" episode:
https://marthabeck.com/episodes/unshamable/www.melthackercoaching.com
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Surgeons are humans, and humans feel anxiety. Anxiety does not have to derail you in the operating room. If you are a surgeon who struggles with anxiety, nothing is wrong with you. I've struggled my entire life, and I've learned to love the anxious side of me. This episode will normalize this omnipresent emotion and provide you with immediately actionable strategies to implement right away.
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Imposter syndrome is pervasive in high-achieving women...even surgeons. In this episode, I look at all sides of this very important issue. You'll learn the history, the origins, the impact, and most importantly, how to overcome it.
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You climbed a mountain. You beat the video game. And you have all the diplomas, AOA memberships, awards, degrees, and board certifications to prove it.
Now what? What matters to you? Where are you going next? Let's get you there with a sense of purpose.
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