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In this episode Caroline and Linda debate another intriguing topic:
What is altruism, and what is its purpose?
Is altruism only evident in humans, or can dogs behave altruistically?
Linda begins by defining altruism. She goes on to explain how scientists discovered the reason for altruistic behaviour—which, it turns out, is to maximise the chance that a species as a whole will survive and thrive. She also lists the many ‘side benefits’ of altruism, including better health, greater happiness, even increased longevity.
But can other species—in our case of course, dogs—also behave altruistically? Caroline explains, and adds a cross-species benefit: having a dog in the family can teach children to behave more responsibly and altruistically.
But with altruism, like so many other good qualities, Linda emphasises the importance of balance. Altruism to the exclusion of self-care, she warns, creates a victim mentality, which helps neither helper nor the helped.
Caroline closes this episode—the last in the first series—by encouraging listeners to extend kindness to their dog, and to behave altruistically rather than competitively towards other pet parents.
Finally, while waiting for the next series of podcasts, everyone is encouraged to send Caroline and Linda examples from their own experience and to offer suggestions for further podcasts, so they can make the next series as relevant to as many listeners as possible.
What's inside this episode?
00:00 Introduction, including a definition of altruism.
02:06 Why altruistic behaviour exists and continues.
04:26 The ‘side benefits’ of altruism.
05:05 Altruistic behaviour of dog to dog is often seen. Altruistic behaviour of dog to humans is more complex.
09:53 The importance of observing animals to help us better understand humans.
11:05 The neurochemical rewards when humans and dogs behave altruistically.
12:07 How having a family pet can encourage altruistic behaviour in young children.
14:48 The importance of maintaining a balance between behaving altruistically towards others and caring for oneself.
18:27 The importance of balancing online social interactions with face to face encounters.
22:26 A reminder to try to be more altruistic than competitive towards other pet parents.
23:56 Encouraging altruism towards your dog.
25:10 Just one thing: ‘Get out there and give!’
26:00 Caroline and Linda close this episode, explaining it’s the end of the first series of Supporting Both Ends of the Lead. Listeners are encouraged to send in experiences and suggestions about what they’d like to hear in the next series.
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We live in a world where it’s now easier than ever to obtain what we want straight away, without having to wait long if at all.
Linda argues that missing out on anticipation means we’re missing out on a major source of enjoyment in life—that delicious sense of knowing something good is going to happen and imagining what it will be like when it does. She draws on research looking at holiday planning to illustrate her argument.
Caroline explains how we can use anticipation when training our dogs. She introduces the ‘Ready Steady Go’ technique (view the training video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e34KeUnPCCQ) and explains how it can be used to decrease dogs’ anxiety and increase their joy. She also reminds us to take into consideration our dog’s breed as well as their own unique characteristics when deciding the best ways to use anticipation when we work with our dogs.
At the end of the podcast, Linda and Caroline encourage listeners to think about ways to build more anticipation into their own and their dog’s lives.
What's inside this episode?
00:00 Introduction. May as the month of holidays this year, and the joy that can be had anticipating holidays and free time.
04:12 We spend less time in anticipation in today’s world, and why this could be contributing to the decrease in reported happiness.
05:17 Are dogs capable of anticipation?
06:40 How to ensure human anticipation can be as joyful as possible.
07:55 The importance of and value in prioritising our dogs’ needs when we go on holiday.
09:17 Using anticipation and reward when training our dogs.
10:54 The Ready Steady Go technique explained.
15:18 How creating anticipation might enhance our dogs’ digestion.
19:40 Taking into consideration a dog’s breed and unique characteristics when using anticipation as a training aid.
21:40 The joy that can be had when anticipating a future desirable event, and a call for us to enjoy it more often.
24:36 Linda's "Just One Thing"
25:05 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Linda and Caroline provide those listeners in the UK with some advice to help enhance their experience of the unique run of long weekends we have during the Spring of 2023. If you’re outside of the UK, this episode still provides some important tips to help navigate changes that may occur during any special holiday periods you are lucky enough to celebrate.
Linda discusses how important it is to allow ourselves to enjoy rest and not feel the pressure to ‘do’ the whole time. She invites you to do these celebrations YOUR way. She also provides some great advice on what to do when you’re feeling especially tired during longer periods of celebration.
Caroline supports the dogs by talking through the importance of rest and balance - how quiet time is needed amongst all the celebrations and excitement. She also shares how music can help support our dogs when loud activities are happening near to home. Finally, she discusses the importance of some small elements of fluidity in our dog’s routines year-round, so that they find it easier to cope with these sorts of changes.
What's inside this episode?
00:00 Introduction
00:45 The stress of BIG occasions.
01:18 The advantage of good weather that allows us to socialise outside.
03:43 How special this run of time is.
05:00 Give yourself permission to rest.
06:00 The importance of balance for your dogs.
08:12 How much sleep does a dog need?
10:00 Fluidity in routine for our dogs.
11:45 The importance of bedtime routine to help us ease into sleep.
12:50 The cues we provide to our dogs that help them to predict what’s happening next.
14:50 Why giving children time to rest is important too.
15:50 Dogs need breaks for effective learning.
16:30 The sad news that a lie-in doesn’t help us feel more rested as adults.
17:56 Power naps over lie-ins.
19:11 Helping your dog through unique celebrations such as street parties for the King’s Coronation.
21:10 Sounds that can help ourselves and our dogs to block out unwanted noise.
23:05 Why familiarity in music can be more relaxing for humans.
25:32 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
25:50 Linda's "Just One Thing"
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Caroline and Linda ask listeners to join them in considering a challenging question for dog lovers everywhere:
Should we own dogs?
The question has arisen because of a Guardian piece published on 4 February. In this challenging article, environmental historian Troy Vettese argues that if we are truly to have empathy for animals, we should think seriously about having pets. Humans, claims Vettese, have chosen to dominate animals for our own benefit, despite at times the cost to the animals themselves.
Caroline counters this argument when we consider dogs specifically, because a look at the history of the human-canine relationship suggests we have chosen one another, and that both species benefit from the relationship. She and Linda agree that, given the world we live in now, simply ‘letting our dogs go free’ is neither practical nor kind.
Rather, they conclude, it’s the way we treat our dogs that’s key.
We need to consider their natural behaviours and offer them the opportunity to express those behaviours when safe to do so, and - as Vettese also argue - to see them as autonomous beings with their own lives and desires that should, whenever possible, be respected. Caroline and Linda also stress the importance of encouraging the ethical breeding of dogs; and Linda has now decided that going forward, she will choose to adopt rescue dogs.
Listeners are encouraged to discuss this podcast with their loved ones, and to let Caroline and Linda know their thoughts on this important and challenging question. Connect via: https://www.instagram.com/supportingbothendsofthelead
What's inside this episode?
00:00 Introduction: Is it ethical to have pets?
02:26 Overview of the history of human-canine relationship.
03:27 The parallels between parenting children and parenting our dogs.
04:30 Why the answer isn’t a simple one.
05:09 A paraphrase of this question, taking into account the need to offer the best quality of life to our dogs.
06:14 The day this podcast is recorded is National Puppy Day, spotlighting the need to fight for the rights of puppies and breed bitches.
08:22 A choice of terms to describe people who own dogs.
09:40 Similarities in aims for parents of humans and of dogs.
10:10 Authoritative parenting defined.
10:48 The need to give dogs an outlet for natural breed specific behaviours.
12:12 Widening the possibilities when it comes to keeping pets.
13:55 Pet acquisition during the pandemic, and the consequences.
14:40 Our responsibilities if we take a dog into our lives.
16:30 The importance of positive parenting.
17:25 The perils of using punishment to try to change behaviour.
19:12 Caroline’s 'Just One Thing'.
19:36 'Linda’s Just One Thing'.
20:19 Call for listeners’ opinions on this important issue.
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It's coming up to National Siblings Day (10th April) so, to celebrate, this episode is focussed on multi-kid and multi-dog households. Caroline and Linda explore the pros and cons of having a sibling, whether it's a human or a doggy one!
For the humans, Linda discusses why being an only child - which surprisingly around 40% of us are now - can be preferable for emotional stability, but that having siblings helps you to learn empathy if rivalries are handled correctly by the parent.
Caroline explores when is the right time to add another dog into your home, why choosing littermates may not be the best route to take, and how important it is to ensure all the dogs in your home can feel confident when alone - at home or in the world.
Like what you're hearing? Join Caroline and Linda for a special webinar for parents of dogs who struggle to be left home alone: https://barketplace.uk/shop/the-stress-of-life-with-a-dog-you-cannot-leave/
What's inside this episode?
00:50 Why being an only child has its perks!
02:45 Should we have multi-dog households?
04:35 Are you ready for a second dog?
06:23 The luck of the draw when it comes to adding a sibling.
07:31 The parental learning achieved with child number 1.
09:44 The unique loss a firstborn child (or dog) can experience.
10:20 The opportunities a new baby provides for an older child.
12:40 Resolving sibling conflict.
14:24 How dogs can help our children to learn caregiving skills and respect for other species.
16:28 How therapy dogs can support our children.
18:45 How you can encourage your current dog's sociability, if you're not ready for a multi-dog household.
20:24 How closer age gaps between siblings cause more intense interactions.
21:22 Littermate syndrome.
24:02 Intense same-gender sibling interactions.
26:25 Multi-sibling or dog households.
27:35 Ensuring your dog is confident when solo, away from their canine siblings.
31:25 Caroline’s ‘Just One Thing’.
31:45 Linda’s ‘Just One Thing’.
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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Just before the clocks ‘spring forward’ at the end of March, Linda and Caroline talk about the impact this time shift has on us humans and on our dogs - why it’s stressful, and what you can do to ease that stress.
Linda starts by giving reasons why, for humans, the Spring time change is more challenging than the Autumn shift. She explains how you can ‘flow’ into the new time and experience less discomfort, creating small time shifts over a week rather than making the change all in one night, and creating reasons to look forward to getting up earlier. She also offers listeners some useful techniques if they’re finding it difficult to fall asleep when they start going to bed earlier.
Caroline counters Linda’s explanation by pointing out that for our dogs - unlike for us - the Spring shift is probably easier to adjust to than is the Autumn time change. She encourages you to put more positivity into your (now lighter) evening walk, and to spice up those walks with novelty, including walking in new places and creating a ‘sniffari’.
Listeners are also encouraged to send in their own suggestions for coping with the time change, so Linda and Caroline can share them with everyone in future podcasts.
What's inside this episode?
00:00 Introduction, and why the Spring time change is more stressful for humans than the Autumn shift.
01:58 How to ‘flow’ into the time change with minimal stress.
03:20 Taking the change in small steps, focusing on when you go to bed.
04:24 How to use your extra morning time joyfully while waiting for the actual time change. Introducing Morning by Alan Jenkins.
05:14 How to prepare your dog for the Spring time change, and why this is easier for dogs than the Autumn shift—the opposite of what humans find.
07:42 Why it’s so important to be kind to yourself and to make waking up a time to love.
09:39 How to make your evening walk, now in light, novel and entertaining for both you and your dog.
10:32 Why strolls are better than strenuous walks in the evening.
11:10 Introducing the 'Sniffari'.
13:52 The importance of stories to help you get off to sleep when youtry going to bed earlier.
15:17 How to make use of Andrew Weil’s 4-7-8 sleep technique.
16:30 Making the 4-7-8 more interesting.
17:45 Caroline’s ‘Just One Thing’.
17:58 Linda’s ‘Just One Thing’.
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Linda and Caroline continue the conversation started last week around how separation can impact our dogs - and ourselves!
Linda starts by normalising separation anxiety as part of human development, before sharing with us how personality types and parenting styles can impact an individual's ease with time spent alone. She also highlights the importance of valuing face-to-face relationships and minimising time spent with others online.
Caroline delves into the concept of separation anxiety in our dogs - what it really is and how we can work out what our dogs are feeling. She shares how our dog's breed, sex, and historical experiences can impact their ability to feel calm alone - as well as highlighting the importance of a secure dog:human bond.
If you struggle with leaving your dog home alone and are finding it to be a great area of stress in your life, please join Caroline and Linda as they address 'The Stress of Life with a Dog You Cannot Leave' in their upcoming webinar: https://barketplace.uk/shop/the-stress-of-life-with-a-dog-you-cannot-leave
What's inside this episode?
01:05 Normalising separation anxiety during human development.
02:08 How we rely on each other more than any other species.
03:28 The types of bonds our dogs form with us.
07:58 What happens when humans experience prolonged separation.
09:19 How parenting styles affect how we feel about ourselves independently.
11:23 A secure bond is needed to create trust in alone time for our dogs.
13:04 What is 'Separation Anxiety' for dogs?
16:40 How introverted or extroverted you are can impact your need to be around people.
17:30 Aloneness vs. loneliness.
18:12 Is your dog's breed responsible?
20:10 Is the time of day - or space you're leaving your dog in- impacting their stress levels?
21:58 Minimise online relationships and embrace face-to-face friendships.
23:35 Are you the one not wanting to leave your dog?
25: Join us for our upcoming webinar.
26:02 Don't ignore the signs!
26:20 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
26:40 Linda's "Just One Thing"
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`Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Linda and Caroline delve into the different types of relationships we have and the communities these create. Linda explores the incredible concept of how our social circles are impacted by the size of the cortex in our brain! And Caroline discusses the concept of human influence on our dogs' lives - both those that live with us and the wider global population.
They discuss the concepts of loneliness and separation - and just how central we humans are to our domesticated dogs' lives.
Finally, Caroline answers a listener's question as to how best to encourage calmness in our dogs when guests visit our homes.
What's inside this episode?
00:19 Your community of relationships.
01:52 How a species' brain size affects their friendship circles.
05:24 The social devastation of the Pandemic period.
07:45 The part we play in the success of the worldwide dog population.
10:35 The control we have over our dog's human relationships.
11:50 The strength of human presence for dogs.
12:40 Should we ever be away from our dogs?
15:24 Loneliness and alone-ness.
16:30 Starting with a bond built on trust to prevent Separation Anxiety.
19:42 Should we have multiple dogs?
21:12 The human relationships dogs have.
24:00 How dogs feel about - and respond to - guests.
25:50 Encouraging calm when guests visit.
33:00 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
33:18 Linda's "Just One Thing"
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Pets Radar, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Caroline and Linda explore the concept of love - both between humans and within the dog:human relationship.
Starting by exploring the difference between passion and love, Linda explains why 'love' requires patience and hard work. Caroline shares how our dogs not only need to feel the ‘hug’ hormone Oxytocin, but also Dopamine to have successful pro-social relationships with the humans around them.
Love isn’t all hearts and flowers, it’s an incredible journey between two humans or a human and the dog they share their life with. Tune in today, to learn how you can have successful relationships with those around you.
What's inside this episode?
00:39 What is love?
03:35 Building a strong relationship with your dog.
04:07 How intensity in relationships bonds us.
05:18 The ‘gift’ of a challenging dog.
06:34 The unique relationship we have with our dogs.
07:44 Love is a choice.
08:30 Oxytocin and Dopamine, working together.
10:20 The importance of feeling valued.
13:25 Celebrate the positive natural choices your dog makes.
15:15 And reinforcing your children for behaviours you appreciate.
17:25 Deepening love.
17:50 Loving yourself and the ‘best friend test’.
19:13 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
19:46 Linda's "Just One Thing"
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Caroline and Linda follow on the conversation around New Year's Resolutions - sharing how we can be most successful in achieving our goals.
Caroline starts by explaining how you are ready for success in your own goals if you're used to training your dog. She also discusses the importance of creating a 4th element of the 'Habit Loop' for our dogs - CRAVING for the reward we're supplying.
Linda tells us of the importance of choosing goals that satisfy ourselves, instead of pleasing others. She continues that we also need rewards frequently on our journey - not just one big win at the end.
You'll achieve further success if you follow the final tips of this episode - 'Kettle Training' for dogs and 'SMART goals' for humans.
What's inside this episode?
00:19 The 'Habit Loop' in relation to dog training.
01:22 And how it applies to humans.
02:11 The choices we make for our dogs.
03:15 How our dogs need to crave our reward for successful outcomes.
05:04 Stop pleasing others instead of yourself.
06:18 Reward yourself frequently for success.
07:30 Building a reward history for your dog.
11:14 The power of social pressure when sticking to resolutions.
14:47 Creating consistency through 'kettle training' for dogs.
20:20 Small achievable steps using SMART goals.
24:07 Caroline's "Just One Thing"
24:49 Linda's "Just One Thing"
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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In this episode, Linda and Caroline welcome in the New Year by discussing ways to improve the chances of success when setting New Year Resolutions for ourselves and for our dogs. They share with you some of the traps we can fall into when trying to achieve our goals - from being too vague, trying to move too quickly, and using negative language. Follow the tips in this episode - and the next later this month - to avoid being one of the millions of people who fail by Quitter's Day, a mere 19 days into the New Year.
What's inside this episode?
00:19 Just how successful are we likely to be in forming new habits and sticking to New Year Resolutions?
01:51 Some interesting dog stats on training.
04:03 Why the way you phrase your resolutions is important.
05:34 The power of language when it comes to working with dogs.
08:32 Are your resolutions too vague?
10:38 Rewarding yourself, as you would your dog!
13:20 Breaking down resolutions into achievable steps.
15:20 Small steps for successful dog training.
17:34 How long does it take for a habit to become automatic?
20:31 Taking time in your training.
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Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
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Join Caroline, today, for the last in our '12 Days of Stressmas' tips as she discusses why SPACE can also be important for our dogs. Whether that's space from everyone - or just some time away from guests with special solo time with you.
When sharing spaces with friends and family that we wouldn’t usually do so with, it can become a little claustrophobic. Whether that’s, for you, because your visitors aren’t sympathetic to your dog’s needs. Or, for your dog, that they find it hard to relax with lots of people around and are becoming a little too used to you being around 100% of the time.
Creating space can help everyone. Whether that’s taking time out from your guests to go and walk your dog alone or taking a human-only walk that allows your dog some solo time. Making sure your dog has a little regular alone time will really help when you do return to your usual routine in January.
We hope you've enjoyed joining us for this special season. Both Caroline and Linda wish you a calm, happy, and relaxed Christmas alongside your canine. See you in 2023 for another double dose of wellbeing for you and your dog.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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Christmas is always an expensive time of year, and this year any expenditure is going to hurt more than usual. That’s why, for her final tip this Christmas season, Linda suggests two ways you can better manage your Christmas budget.
Before everyone gets together, contact everyone to offer two suggestions. If you’re the host you can do this easily when you invite your guests—but if that doesn’t happen, you could take it upon yourself if you’re a guest.
For the children’s gifts, suggest a (low) price cap for all gifts. Not only will this help you budget, it will have the excellent side-effect of preventing ‘gift competition’—feeling the need to show off by offering the most lavish gifts.
Then when it comes to the adults, suggest a Secret Santa exchange, one that also carries a price cap. That way, each adult buys only one gift for one other guest. This has the extra benefit of allowing you time to think of a truly desirable and thoughtful offering for the person whose name you’ve drawn.
Join us tomorrow for the final part of our '12 Days of Stressmas' mini-series.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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In this episode, Caroline invites you to investigate whether your dog is a glass (or should that be bowl?) "half full" or "half empty" personality when it comes to changes in routine.
Some dogs thrive on routine and structure. Unfortunately, again this time of year brings quite a lot of change to cope with. We may be around a lot more, enjoying extended holiday time. We might not be walking or feeding our dog’s meals at the time they’re used to. And with visitors staying, bedtimes might be later than usual.
Caroline helps you out today, with some tips for keeping some sense of predictability for those more pessimistic dogs.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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Too much togetherness, no matter how enticing it might seem beforehand, soon begins to stifle and create irritation.
In her penultimate Stressmas tip for the humans, Linda encourages each individual at your Christmas gathering to schedule a 20-30 minute ‘own time’ break each day, away from other guests.
To increase the effectiveness of this time away, and to make it most likely each of you returns feeling relaxed and ready for the next event, she offers three break-time ingredients.
The first is to spend your get-away time outdoors in natural light; the second is to incorporate movement; and the third is to make contact with someone who’s not part of your festive gathering. Linda also explains why each of these ingredients will enhance the quality of your daily time away.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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It might be the first time your family or friends have been able to get together at Christmas for a few years, which could be quite overwhelming for everyone, including your dog. Whether visiting dogs are the most friendly canine companions or not, meeting inside one dog's home can be unsettling for both sides. And if your dog isn't used to lots of humans visiting of late, then this episode is definitely for you. Caroline shares her top tips for making sure that introductions - and time spent together - go as smoothly as possible.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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Did you know that when humans—or all other mammals for that matter—are put into a crowded space, they’re more likely to become irritable, even aggressive? Throw alcohol into the mix and the problem intensifies!
In her fourth tip for the humans, Linda will emphasise the need to give each guest (and of course the host!) a space of their own, however modest. She’ll also suggest some novel ways to make that happen, even if space at your gathering is limited this Christmas.
Linda will also introduce you to the concept of a ‘time out room’, a place where any over-stressed guest can retreat for a much-needed down-time break.
Join us tomorrow for the next in our '12 Days of Stressmas' mini-series.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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Now we can all visit family and friends freely this festive season, you might be making up for the past couple of lost years. If you have a dog who finds car travel stressful, this might be difficult for all of you. In this episode, Caroline shares her top tips of what you can do NOW, even if you only have a week or two before your travels begin.
She follows up with tips for making visits with family - especially if they aren't 'doggy people' - less stressful with a little careful preparation.
Join us tomorrow for the next in our '12 Days of Stressmas' mini-series.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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Linda’s third tip for the humans this Christmas is to share out what needs to be done, so your Christmas schedule can run as efficiently and effectively as possible.
Who will load the dishwasher? Who tides up the wrapping paper? Who sets the table?
To share out these tasks fairly - and to have some fun in the bargain - Linda will introduce you to the Christmas draw-out hat.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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While we might be enjoying the Winter Wonderland unfolding in front of us, there’s an awful lot of change in a short space of time for our dogs. The world suddenly looks very different - from flashing lights, to shiny decorations or giant snowmen on roofs. In this episode of our mini-series the '12 Days of Stressmas', Caroline shares her tips for supporting your dog as they navigate these changes.
Firstly, she discusses how to slowly decorate your home, adding fun tricks to the process. Then Caroline moves onto the support you can provide your dog with on more stimulating walks and how to create balance in your week of walks so there’s some calmer spaces being explored too.
Join us tomorrow for the next in our '12 Days of Stressmas' mini-series.
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Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Edition Dog Magazine, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.
As the Founder of digital pet coaching service Barket Place, Caroline has a passion for improving connections between human and hound, with a focus on relationships and reduction of stress for canines living in a human world. She helps pet parents, like you, to work through challenges they may be experiencing with their dog's behaviour, so that they can get back to the important job of loving their dog.
Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.
Linda is currently working as a clinician and freelance journalist. She’s written regular advice columns for the Guardian, Telegraph, Daily Mail, The Times, and Psychologies magazine. She’s a contact for the British Psychological Society’s media group, psychology expert for netmums, and author of five self-help books. Linda broadcasts frequently on radio, appears on TV and online, and is in demand as a speaker across the UK.
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