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  • Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent.


    They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Narcissistic people are likely to engage in several kinds of abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, financial, emotional or spiritual Hijackals use intimidation as a quick way to win, or silence someoneChange your perspective and stop allowing yourself to be les than equal.Use the Personal Weather Report to your advantage

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #narcissstiintimitation #respondingtointimidation #stayingcalmwhennarcissistsareangry

    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse

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  • Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time?


    Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you se them differently?


    VERY IMPORTANT EPISODE to straighten your thinking about yourself and others who were treated as Golden Children growing up.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Why being the Golden Child is not a great rolehelp to understand the downsides of being raised by a narcissistic parentRecognize the lasting effects of being the Golden Child or Scapegoat child in a narcissistic familyGiving up the "overachiever" role given to you by your family dynamic

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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    #goldenchilldinfamily #goldenchildonlychild #goldenchildrepresentsfamily #goldenchildscapgoatlostchild

    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • Narcissists love it when you run after their approval.

    You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away.


    In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal - save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem.

    Listen in.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Hijackals want you to please themThey make it very difficult to doWhy narcissists always need to be rightRefusing to remember the truth makes things impossible

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #narcissistisalwaysright #hijackalalwaysright #narcissistslie #hijackalslie #narcissistsmustwin

    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • You want someone--at least one someone--to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little later, right? "Why did I do that?" 


    There are good reasons you overshare. Don't beat yourself up for it. Listen in to understand the "whys" and stick around for the "why nots!" so you can make positive changes in what you share and with whom. You can stop oversharing, and still be heard when you talk with the right people. 


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    The longing to be knownThe desire to have an allyTrusting the wrong person for the right reasonsDisappointed and betrayed while looking for a friendTaking care of yourself in ways you didn't know you'd need to

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

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    #oversharing #feelinginvisible #wantingtobeheard #flyingmonkeys #givinggossip #falseintimacy

    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

    #hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse

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  • Steps to emotional freedom require knowing where the path starts. These five "must-do's" are fundamental to saving your sanity, self-esteem, and self-confidence. When you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal, it's even MORE critlcal.


    Know the importance of each of these and how to keep them top of mind. Develop enough strength to follow the "healthier human" path to avoid being sucked down the "Hijackal human" one. YOU CAN!! 


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    How to not get sucked into Hijackal dramaGaining perspective about how the narcissist's mind worksCreating emotional distance when the narcissist is accusing youDr. Shaler's most important mantra for saving your sanity

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

    PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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    #narcississticprojection #observenarcissisticbehavior #emotionaldistance #safefromanarcissist

    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • Oh, how Hijackals love to poke, prod, and provoke you into losing it and reacting, right? And then they like to wind you up further so you'll yell, blame, complain, and meltdown. Crazy-making?


    Yes, INTENTIONALLY CRAZY-MAKING!


    Learn ways to not go there, to not react, to not behave like the Hijackal...or the way the Hijackal wants to manipulate you into behaving, How to choose control and calm instead. Yay!


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Nasty, manipulate way to make you out to be the abuser - Don't let it happen.Be careful: Hijackals and other narcissists attempt "reactive abuse" to keep you feeling wrong, thoughtless, confused, and small. DoNT't let them!Hijackals like to push you to reactive abuse when you are out with other people. Some do it to make a reason to call the police and make a scene. Don't let them.

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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    #reactiveabuse @coercivecontrol #avoidreactiveabuse #narciccistprojection

    narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing you.


    Think deeply about these five "would be good" things narcissists promise but fail to deliver...and, they do it very deliberately. There are real deal-breakers...when you actually see them. Listen in. Don't be fooled by the promises!!!


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    5 good things that Hijackals promise you, that they won't deliver onWhy you need to be VERY clear that you are thinking you are being promised something that you will NEVER receive....except for a hot minute now and again!Why mutuality is critical to a loving relationshipThe most unlikely promises that won't be fulfilled....so sad.

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

    FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

    INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

    YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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    #narcissistsbreakpromises #canrustanarcissist #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • You want to be able to trust a person, right? It's natural. It's healthy. Yet, you cannot trust narcissists or any variation of Hijackal. And, I know you want to. 


    In this episode, hear the many ways you CANNOT trust them, even when you want to. Hear ways you convince yourself you can believe them, and why you must stop. Yep, it's hard sometimes. But, if you trust them, you're diving into crazy-making even further...and, that's never a good thing. Join in.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Trust is a hallmark of a healthy relationship....and relationships with narcissists are unhealthy!Why Hijackals are untrustworthy....narcissists, tooHow narcissists take advantage of you...over and over and over.Why narcissists won't compromiseStop giving them another chance.

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #nevertrustanarcissst #canitrustanarcissist #donttrustanarcissist #wasteyearsofmylife

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  • Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right?


    You might pass it off as another "little thing to avoid" to reduce the abuse. WHAT? You're doing things to reduce the abuse rather than set boundaries and making plans to leave? SEE HOW SNEAKY IT ALL IS? Don't miss these ten main "features" of narcissistic emotional abuse!!


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    You can get used to being emotionally abused...and, that's not good!Failing to see abuse as abuse is dangerous.Among the top ten forms of frequent emotional abuse10 ways you can get used to being emotionally abused without actually noticing

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    Rhoberta


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    #emotionallyabused #usedtobeingabused #seeingemotionalabuse #beingusedandabused

    #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist #anri-social

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  • Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in charge and in control of all the things. Be informed. See them for what and who they are.

    They are always wanting to create a fracas, a commotion, an upset, and a mess. When you can see what they're up to, it's easier to see their ploys, tricks, and defaults. Then you an choose your responses in healthier ways.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Hijackals, narcissists, anti-socials: all need to win and be right27 mean ways they try to keep things chaotic, emotionallyHijackals love a fracas, a noisy disturbance or quarrel, about anythingDo everything in your power to avoid responding with reactive abuse

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #sneakynarcissist #nastynarcissist #narciccistsaaretroublesome #reativeabuse #seeinganarcissist

    #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist

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  • When you're on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I'm suggesting something impossible...maybe even crazy. I'm not.


    It's important to recognize that you can stay in charge of yourself, no matter what kind of crazy-making the Hijackal or narcissist engages in.


    Difficult? Yes, but not impossible. Worthwhile? Definitely!


    Learn this invaluable approach to taking good care of yourself, even though you may be rattled daily by a Hijackal now.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Be hard on issues, Soft on self.Why Hijackals may NOT harden your heart: you won't give them your permission!Harden your attitude towards the Hijackal, but keep your heart safe.Hijackals don't care who they hurt.Do your best not to take it personally.

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #hardenmyheart #hardenmyattitude #narcissiststakeandtake #hardenmyattitudetothenarcissist #heartopen

    #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist

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  • You may think that it's impossible to be "too nice." It's not. It actually can make things worse...and that's just what it does when you're in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal.


    You do all the giving and then, more is expected, right? Not working! Listen in to recognize the ways being "too nice" works against you.


    Hijackals LOVE to take advantage of someone who will fall all over themselves to keep the Hijackal happy. Remember, though, the Hijackal is dedicated to never being happy for more than a hot minute...if that. Then, it will be right back to blaming you for everything.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    People-pleasing can be part of being "too nice" and can lead to chronic codependencyDon't let someone else's opinion of you matter more than your own opinion on youHijackals will find fault with you no matter how nice you are and how much you do for them5 ways Healthier Humans behave differently than Hijackal Humans

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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    #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist

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  • Most people want to believe the stories of others. You want to be able to trust, right? So, you're inclined to be sucked in by plausible stories, excuses, reasons, etc.. Also, you don't want the hassle of their endless denials and turning things on you.


    Learn how plausibility is the key to turning this into healthier interactions to stop the crazy-making. Listen in and get away.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    plausible = seeming reasonable, probable, or persuasive...or NOT!How a plausible story is a slippery story: could be equally true or untrue"Plausible Deniability" = the sneaky way to deny knowledge of a responsibility or to be accountable for somethingWhy Hijackals like things that have no evidenceAnd, why Hijackals HATE EVIDENCE!Your best antidote to plausible deniability: the personal weather report

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

    Rhoberta


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  • You're a good person. You want to see the best in folks. You are right ready to help someone excuse their poor behavior, and be understanding. Hijackals count on that! They treat you poorly to see how much you'll put up with.


    It's often not long into the relationship before they're taking up all the space....and you're gasping for air, dying to be heard.


    BE CLEAR ABOUT THESE 12 TRAITS. See them. Believe them. Don't expect them to change.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    There are many more than twelve traits of narcissistic HijackalsYou may be too emotionally exhausted to see these clearly anymore, SO it's important to listen to this episodeWhy it's important to recognize these traits and make decisions to set boundaries that keep you saferHow sabotage, undermining, and threats relateWhy "belittling" is SO damaging

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  • Narcissists and other Hijackals are infuriating, frustrating, and crazy-making. You reach the end of your tether and you want to tell them everything that's wrong with them and more. 


    You've likely noticed that nothing good happens when you accuse them of being narcissistic,, point out their flaws, or ask them to change. What's much ore likely to happen is that they explode, spilling their nastiness in every direction. MAXIMUM AGGRESSION. 


    Listen to this episode to understand why and how to stop poking the Hijackal. You'll feel better when you stop. 


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Big link between narcissism and aggressionNarcissists don't take much provocation to be nasty, blaming, and shaming.Narcissistic aggression is not caused by you, nor is it your faultHijackals are entitled, thin-skinned, and owners of fragile egos.Both male and female narcissists are equally aggressive , though , it may show up in different ways.Why you are best to step back and observe the Hijackal behavior rather than participate with it.

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  • You want to believe that love can change people, right? So, you give, give, and give in yet nothing really gets better beyond a half minute. You decide to give more until there is little left of you. Nothing changes...except for getting worse. That's because their decision to change has nothing to do with it And, worse...they have no interest in changing to make things better.


    Listen in to realize the many reasons WHY this is so, and WHY it's so hard to believe people who think and behave in narcissistic Hijackal ways exist...and see no reason to care how they affect you. ESSENTIAL TO RECOGNIZE!


    IGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Why you want to believe a narcissistic person can changeHow believing a narcissistic person can change and investing it it robs you of time for healthier thingsHow a Hijackal manipulates you into thinking it's your job to please them and take care of themWhy you might stay TOO LONG in an unhealthy relationship with a narcissistWhy it is essential to see a toxic relationship for what it is: UNHEALTHY

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  • Male and female children are differently treated--and affected--by having a narcissistic mother. SO many things you may never have thought much about!


    This episode will help you think in different ways about the long-term effects that having a Hijackal mother could have had on your sense of self, your self-confidence, your resilience...AND on your relationships. Use this episode to help you uncover hidden pieces SO you can turn them around and feel clearer and stronger.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Narcissistic mothers treat their sons and daughters differently\Why you may have learned to have no needs...or deny the ones you haveHow you were mothered shifts your responses in relationshipThe impact of lowering your expectations of having your needs metWhy it's important to purposefully examine what happened to you...and its impact

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  • Unless they want something badly, narcissists want you to be in emotional chaos. In fact, they want you to feel less than and inadequate. Back-handed and blindsiding, they do their best to keep you off center and uncertain.


    Learn about toxic shame and how it may be playing out in your inner dialogue and in your relationship with a narcissistic parent and/or partner. See it so you can stop it!


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    What is toxic shame?How is toxic shame different from "normal" shame?How do I know if I've experienced toxic shame?Why narcissists are so likely to pass along the toxic shame they live beneathWhy everything threatens a narcissistWhat narcissist do with toxic shame and why you need to know so you can avoid it

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  • New! Your questions are the focus for this episode. Narcissistic or not so much? What are you wondering about?

    Recognizing the patterns, traits and cycles that ARE narcissistic is wise...AND so is discerning what is NOT narcissistic. Ask your questions in the chat and I'll answer them as clearly as I can.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    Questions from audience about narcissistic traits Are alcoholics likely to be narcissistic?Do narcissists often have alcoholic tendencies?What about a nitpicky boss?When a man frequently cuts me off mid-sentence, is that a narcissistic?

    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

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  • TRIANGULATION. See It. Say No, Step Away,. Understanding what triangulation really is allows you to see it more clearly and step away more readily. Get the inside scoop on this in your life. Once you see it, you can do something about it. You'll feel SO much better when you do.


    HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

    What triangulation isWhy narcissistic people use triangulationHow to recognize the abuse of triangulationHow to step away, and say NO more oftenTaking back your power in small ways from a narcissistic relationship

    You often feel the triangulation before your recognize what's happening. A twisted story about you comes to you, and you're tempted to think it's a misunderstanding. When it comes from a narcissistic source, it's usually very purposeful; intended to confuse, concern, and create chaos.

    Does this sound familiar?

    Learn about the purposes of triangulation and how to catch it faster; how to redirect it and reduce the confusion.


    I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

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