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  • #167 My Horse Only Went In Reverse

    #167 My Horse Only Went In Reverse

    · Resilient Reiner

    Ever felt like you’re stuck in reverse? Like no matter how hard you try, you’re not moving forward—not in your riding, your mindset, or even your life? I’ve been there. And let me tell you, I’ve had a horse who quite literally refused to go forward, no matter how patiently or clearly I asked.

    This episode is about what I learned from that experience—and trust me, the lessons go far beyond groundwork. Because whether you’re working with a tricky horse or tackling your own mental blocks, the truth is the same: there are no shortcuts to lasting success. The “long way,” as frustrating as it feels, is what builds confidence, trust, and results that stick.

    So, grab your coffee, saddle up, and let’s chat about why the hard stuff isn’t forever, how to stay the course, and why the long way truly is the shortcut.

    If this episode resonates with you—or if you know someone who’s in the thick of it—tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram. I’d love to hear how this episode hits home for you, what you’re working through, and how you’re staying committed to your journey. Don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes—it’s one of the best ways to help more riders find this podcast!

    In This Episode You Will Learn:

    Why the “long way” is the only way to real progress (and why shortcuts often backfire).How breaking challenges into tiny, manageable steps makes the impossible feel possible.Why nothing stays hard forever and how to shift your mindset in tough moments.The importance of building trust—whether with your horse or yourself—and how it transforms everything.Practical strategies for staying patient and resilient when you’re tempted to quit.

    Questions I Answer:

    What do you do when things feel like they’ll never get easier?How do you keep going when progress feels painfully slow?What’s the connection between training a horse and training your mindset?How can small wins build momentum for big results?

    🔗 LINKS / RESOURCES:

    🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    When things feel impossibly hard, I want you to remember this: hard doesn’t last forever. Whether you’re struggling with a training challenge, battling show-day nerves, or rebuilding confidence, remind yourself that this is for NOW, not forever. The long way—the patient, intentional, step-by-step way—will get you where you want to go. Stay committed to your journey, and trust in the process.

    Ride on,

    Nicole

  • #166 My horse kicks out during lead changes—what am I doing wrong?

    #166 My horse kicks out during lead changes—what am I doing wrong?

    · Resilient Reiner

    Hot take: It’s not them. It’s you.

    If you’ve ever asked your horse for a lead change and got a tail swish, ear pin, or full-on kick in response… this episode is for you.

    I’ve heard from so many riders who say things like:

    “She knows how to do the change… but lately, she kicks out like she’s mad at me.”

    Yep. From ranch riders to reiners. From cowhorse to barrel racers. And beyond! The dreaded lead change. And I get it—because I’ve been in that saddle too. But here’s the truth no one’s telling you: Most of the time, it’s not about training mechanics. It’s about what you’re carrying into that moment with your horse.

    In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real reason lead changes go sideways—and how to fix it without drilling, over-cueing, or blaming your horse. This one might ruffle a few feathers, but it’ll also set a lot of riders free.

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach, @resilientreiner, and share this episode with your riding crew! I love hearing your stories and what landed for you most. 💬

    And if you’ve got a second, leaving a review on iTunes helps more riders find this work—and show up with confidence when it counts most.

    IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

    The surprising reason your horse might kick out during a lead change (and nope, it’s not because she’s being moody)What “rider energy” really means—and why your horse feels it before you say a wordHow to take the stress out of flying lead changes.Why desperation ruins good cuesThe body tension mistake 90% of riders don’t even realize they’re makingThree simple mindset shifts that lead to smoother, drama-free changesLead changes made easy

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    Why is your horse suddenly resistant to lead changes when she knows how to do them?Why won’t my horse do a flying lead change? Is it me?Could your mindset actually be affecting your horse’s behavior?How do you reset the pressure you carry into show-pen moments?What should you do differently if you feel nervous or over-focused before a maneuver?What’s the difference between leading and begging in the saddle?

    LINKS / RESOURCES:

    🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

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  • #165 From Sick Days to Success: Rebuilding Momentum in Your Mindset & Riding

    #165 From Sick Days to Success: Rebuilding Momentum in Your Mindset & Riding

    · Resilient Reiner

    After being down sick for a week—coughing, couch-bound, and completely out of rhythm—I realized it’s not just your body that needs a comeback plan. Your brain does too.

    And I’m not talking about “motivation” or “trying harder.” I’m talking about that subtle shift that happens when your energy feels off, your confidence feels thin, and you’re just not all the way with it anymore.

    Whether you’ve been sick, sidelined, burnt out, or just plain tired… this episode is your permission slip to regroup, reset, and come back stronger—without the pressure to “hustle.”

    This is real-life mental coaching, straight from the couch to the barn.

    If this one hits home, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share the episode with a friend who might be crawling out of their own slump right now. We’re all in this together, and I seriously love seeing how y’all bounce back in your own way.

    If this helped you reset, would you leave a review on iTunes? That helps more riders find the show and get the support they didn’t know they needed.

    IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

    Why just “resting” isn’t enough to reset your nervous systemTwo powerful tools that helped me shake the brain fog and get grounded againWhat breathwork really does to your body and why it’s not just trendy nonsenseHow gratitude can rewire your brain (yes, literally)Why it’s easier to maintain your mindset than rebuild from zeroHow to check in with your mental state before you swing a leg overThe not-so-fancy truth about showing up—even when you’re not 100%

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    What’s the first thing you should focus on when you’re trying to feel like “yourself” again?How does breathwork work—and how do you use it when you feel off?Why is gratitude such a game changer for performance and clarity?What does ongoing mindset maintenance actually look like in real life?How can you spot when you’re slipping—and how do you get ahead of it?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    If you’re in a season where you feel like you’re running on fumes… I want you to know this:

    You’re not lazy. You’re not behind. And you’re definitely not broken.

    Your mindset just needs a little dusting off—like a saddle that’s been sitting in the tack room too long. It’s still good. You’re still good.

    So take this episode like a deep breath. A mental reset.

    Get back in the groove, one step at a time. You’ve got this.

  • #164 For the Love of Horses and the Hate of Paperwork—With James Dexter of Stable Pro

    #164 For the Love of Horses and the Hate of Paperwork—With James Dexter of Stable Pro

    · Resilient Reiner

    Ever feel like your brain is overloaded with everything but actually riding your horse? If you’re a trainer—or even just a client who’s lived through the chaos—you know exactly what I’m talking about. Managing the business side of training horses is a full-time job in itself.

    Today, I’m bringing on James Dexter, a lifelong horseman who grew up ranching in Nevada and has seen it all firsthand. After watching too many great trainers burn out from the business stress, James decided enough was enough—and STABLE Pro was born.

    STABLE Pro is the business tool every trainer wishes they had years ago—and today, James is sharing the behind-the-scenes journey of creating it, why it matters so much for mental clarity, and how it’s changing the game for trainers and clients alike.

    If you’re ready to ride with a little less chaos (and a lot more focus), this episode’s for you.

    If you or someone you know would love this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach, @resilientreiner, and James at @farmerdexter on Instagram and share it with your crew! I love hearing what hits home for you. And if you’ve got a second, please leave a review on iTunes—it seriously helps more riders find the show!

    Tune in to Hear: James’ story of growing up ranching, showing, and what finally pushed him to build STABLE Pro.

    🎙️ How trainers (and their families!) were drowning in paperwork, stress, and late-night invoices—and how it didn’t have to be that way.

    🎙️ How STABLE Pro helps trainers automate invoices, track trips, manage horses, and free up brain space.

    🎙️The “mental load” no one talks about in the horse world—and why tackling it matters just as much as training your horse.

    🎙️ Why being organized isn’t just about admin—it’s about showing up with more focus, energy, and confidence.

    🎙️ Real stories of how STABLE Pro is making life easier for trainers and clients (and yes… even saving a few marriages along the way!).

    🎙️ What’s coming next for STABLE Pro—and how the horse world is finally catching up to modern business tools.

    Questions We Cover:

    🎯What made James realize the horse industry desperately needed a tool like STABLE Pro?

    🎯 How does mental overload hurt trainers (and their horses)?

    🎯 What’s the one feature James is most proud of?

    🎯 How can better organization improve show day confidence?

    🎯 Why does James believe even small trainers and barns can benefit from better systems?

    🎯 What’s next for the future of equine business management?

    Meet James Dexter: James Dexter is a lifelong horseman, carrying on his family’s multi-generational ranching legacy at Fifty Horse Ranch. After seeing how business stress was stealing the joy from horse training, he founded STABLE Pro to help trainers stay organized, lighten their mental load, and get back to doing what they love most—riding and training with confidence.

    Connect with James: Follow James on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stable_pro/ and check out everything STABLE Pro can do at https://stablepro.us/ !

    Extra Resources:

    🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #163 When Riding Plans Go Off the Rails: Here’s What I’m Learning

    #163 When Riding Plans Go Off the Rails: Here’s What I’m Learning

    · Resilient Reiner

    Truth bomb: Sometimes the biggest growth as a rider comes when you don’t get to ride.

    This one’s personal. I’m bringing you behind the scenes of what’s been going on with my horses lately—yep, two three-year-olds, big dreams, and a whole lot of unexpected detours. Between surprise injuries, weather chaos, and a few humbling reality checks, I had to let go of the perfect plan… and remind myself what I actually care about: healthy horses, long-haul progress, and being the kind of rider who doesn’t crumble when things go sideways.

    If your horse training plan has gone off track and your brain is spiraling with “I’m behind,” this episode is the deep breath and mindset reset you didn’t know you needed.

    🤠 If this episode hit home, I’d love to hear about it. Tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share what landed for you. And if you’ve got a barn friend who needs this reminder too—send it their way. It helps so much when you leave a quick review on iTunes so more riders can find this kind of support.

    IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

    How I’m navigating two horses at totally different stages—and neither of them according to plan 🙃The mental reframe that’s helping me feel proud even when I’m not in the saddleWhy real progress is rarely linear (but always worth it)The surprising connection between ego and restWhat “riding the season you’re in” actually looks likeWhy consistency doesn’t mean perfection—and how to feel strong without doing it all “right”

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    What do you do when everything gets thrown off?Is it okay to give my horse time off—even when you feel behind?How do you handle guilt when you’re not riding as much as you planned?Can you still call myself a serious competitor if you’re not showing right now?How do you get out of a mental spiral when everything’s off track?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    FROM ME TO YOU, FRIEND:

    If you’re in a season where your goals feel further away than ever… you’re not broken. You’re building. Even if it doesn’t look like much from the outside, every rehab wrap, every quiet moment at the gate, every time you choose presence over panic—that’s growth.

    You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

    And I’m right here in it with you.

    Talk soon,

    Nicole 🤎

  • #162 What To Do If Your Confidence Drops Mid Pattern?

    #162 What To Do If Your Confidence Drops Mid Pattern?

    · Resilient Reiner

    You can be 99% ready, 99% confident—and one tiny mistake can make your brain yell, "Welp. Guess we blew it."

    Sound familiar?

    Today, we’re diving straight into something most riders don’t want to talk about but EVERY rider faces: what to do when your confidence tanks mid-pattern.

    Because here’s the hard truth—even the best riders lose it sometimes. The real difference? It’s not about never wobbling. It’s about knowing exactly how to get yourself back in the game when it happens. Saddle up, friend. This one’s a game-changer. 🤠

    If you or someone you know benefitted from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this with your riding crew! 🐎 I seriously love hearing how these episodes hit home for you, so don’t be shy—message me your biggest takeaway.

    And hey—leaving a quick review on iTunes? Helps more riders find their power. I appreciate it more than you know. 🙌

    In This Episode You Will Learn:

    Why losing your confidence mid-ride doesn’t mean you’re a bad rider (and what it really means)The real reason your brain spirals over a tiny mistakeThe 3-step Confidence Reset you can use IN THE MOMENT to get back on trackWhy you don't have to be confident every second to ride like a proHow to stop a mental meltdown before it wrecks your whole pattern

    Questions I Answer:

    What should you do when you realize you’re spiraling mid-pattern?How can you snap yourself back to focus without losing precious time?Is it even possible to rebuild confidence in the middle of a run?How do elite riders handle the "oh no, I messed up" moments differently?Can breathing really change how you ride under pressure? (spoiler: YES.)🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

    Friend, riding like a champion isn’t about never making a mistake. It’s about knowing how to come back swinging, even after you hit a pole, miss a cue, or hear that ugly little voice start up in your head. You’ve got more in you than you even realize—and learning how to recover fast? That’s your real power. Let’s ride!

  • #161 Have You Seen The Bird That Fakes A Broken Wing?

    #161 Have You Seen The Bird That Fakes A Broken Wing?

    · Resilient Reiner

    Here’s something wild: your brain is tricking you on purpose.

    Yep, you read that right. And not because it’s broken or messed up—but because it’s doing its best to protect you.

    In this episode, I share the story of a tiny bird with one of the strangest survival strategies in nature… and how that same pattern plays out in your brain every time you step into the show pen and feel your confidence disappear. If your nerves flare up and your focus gets hijacked—right when it matters most—this episode will shift the way you see it and give you tools to take your mental game back.

    This one’s about way more than birds. It’s about understanding your stress patterns, rewiring your response to pressure, and becoming the kind of rider who can stay calm and connected no matter what.

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’d love to hear what your version of the “broken wing moment” looks like—and how this episode helped you move through it. Also, don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes to help other riders find the show!

    In This Episode You’ll Learn:

    What a killdeer is—and what the heck it has to do with your mental game as a riderHow your brain creates “decoy drama” right before high-pressure momentsThe surprising truth about anxiety, overthinking, and second-guessingWhy your brain thinks it’s protecting you (even when it’s getting in your way)A simple phrase that can flip your mindset instantly on show dayWhy most riders ignore their mental patterns—and how that keeps them stuckHow to retrain your brain to stay grounded and focused, even when the pressure is high

    Questions I Answer:

    Why do you always feel anxious or scattered before you compete—even when you’re prepared?How can you tell if what you're feeling is a real issue or just my brain freaking out?What’s the fastest way to ground yourself before a run?Is there a simple tool to help you stop spiraling when nerves hit hard?How do you actually train your brain to stay calm under pressure?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:5 Days to Confident Competitor. Stop ‘show nerves’ and saddle up with swagger! https://nicoleburnettcoaching.thrivecart.com/5-days-to-confident-competitor/ 🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/resilientreineracademy 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #160 What I Saw On Horseback Last Week Still Gives Me Goosebumps

    #160 What I Saw On Horseback Last Week Still Gives Me Goosebumps

    · Resilient Reiner

    Here’s a hot take: Confidence has nothing to do with ribbons or high scores.

    Last week, I was riding through wide-open country, soaking up a scene that looked like it came straight out of an old western film—bison off the trail, a bald eagle overhead, and a sunset that nearly stopped me in my tracks. But what gave me goosebumps wasn't just the view. It was the feeling. Of being grounded. Present. At peace with my horse and myself.

    In this episode, I’m sharing the story behind that ride and the powerful reminder it gave me: we’re not building confidence to impress anyone—we’re building it so we can live. If your brain’s been stuck in “what if” mode or talking you out of the rides you actually want to be on, this one’s for you.

    If this episode resonated with you—or you know a rider who needs to hear this message—be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I love hearing how these episodes land for you. And don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes so other riders can discover the podcast too!

    In This Episode You Will Learn:

    Why confidence has to come before the ribbons, not afterWhat your brain is really doing when it talks you out of somethingHow fear can show up even when your horse is readyThe deeper reason we work on mindset—and how it fuels the rides of your dreamsTo stop waiting until you “feel ready” to do the bold, badass things you’re dreaming of

    Questions I Answer:

    What does confidence actually look like outside the arena?Why does your brain keep convincing you to play small—even when you’re ready?How do you train your mind to stop second-guessing and start saying yes to your life on horseback?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

    You don’t have to earn the adventure. You just need to trust yourself enough to go live it.

    See ya out there,

    Nicole 🤠

  • #159 Stop Worrying About Fear (Do This Instead)

    #159 Stop Worrying About Fear (Do This Instead)

    · Resilient Reiner

    If fear is still showing up before a run—even after the journaling, the breathwork, the visualization—you are not broken. And no, it doesn’t mean your mindset work isn’t working.

    Here’s the hard truth we don’t talk about enough in the horse world: Confidence isn’t the absence of fear. It’s what you choose to focus on in spite of it. This episode is your no-fluff reminder that waiting for every last doubt to disappear before you ride your best? That’s a one-way ticket to disappointment. We’re not here for Stepford-wives cowgirls who are cool as a cucumber 24/7—we’re here for real riders who feel the nerves, face the noise, and ride anyway.

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway—especially if you’ve ever had a “nervous but still showed up” moment. And don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes to help more riders find this work and build unstoppable confidence in and out of the saddle. 🤠

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:

    Why fear is a normal part of the process (yes, even for high-level riders)How to shift your focus without gaslighting yourselfThe real goal of mental performance work (hint: it’s not deleting your feelings)What actually makes you unstoppable in the saddleThe 4-step reset process I use when doubt creeps in right before a run

    QUESTIONS YOU ANSWER:

    “Why do you still get nervous even after doing all the mindset work?”“Does feeling fear mean you’re not mentally strong?”“What should you do when negative thoughts pop up right before you ride?”“Can you still have confidence even if you feel doubt?”🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #158 Not Another Trust Fall 🙄

    #158 Not Another Trust Fall 🙄

    · Resilient Reiner

    You ever hear someone say, “You just need to build trust with your horse,” and want to scream, Cool, but HOW?!

    Same.

    Unless we’re about to do a full-on trust fall in the middle of the warm-up pen (hard pass), that advice can feel vague at best and frustrating at worst.

    Here’s what no one tells you: trust doesn’t come from a perfect pattern or flawless cue. And it doesn’t come from just sitting in the middle of the field with your horse, either. It comes from what’s going on in your brain before your butt hits the saddle. It’s your mindset. Your energy. Your consistency. That’s what your horse is reading 24/7—and today, we’re talking about exactly how to clean that up so you can build the kind of bond that holds steady under pressure.

    Because if your horse is hesitating, spooking, or shutting down... it’s not about training harder. It’s about becoming the rider they can actually count on.

    Let’s dig into what trust really means, why it starts with you, and how to become the calm, confident leader your horse has been waiting for.

    Welcome to Day 4 of this powerful (and yeah, maybe slightly uncomfortable) training series: How to Get Your Horse to Actually Listen to You.

    Each day this week, you’ll get a short, practical episode that blends mindset work, neuroscience, and in-the-saddle strategy—because what’s going on in your brain directly impacts what’s happening under your seat.

    Today’s Topic: Day 4 — Not Another Trust Fall: How to Build Unshakable Trust with Your Horse

    Don’t forget to Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st.

    👉 Sign up here

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am so curious to hear all about your experience building trust with your horse—what’s working, what’s not, and what you’re changing after today’s talk.

    Also, it means the world if you leave a quick review on iTunes to help other riders discover the show. 🤠💛

    IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:

    What trust actually means in a rider-horse partnership (hint: it’s not just about “bonding”)Why your mental state is either building trust or eroding it—every time you rideThe 4 core mindset shifts that make you a more trustworthy leader in the saddlePractical mental performance strategies that help you regulate your energy and build consistencyWhy perfection is NOT the goal—and how to handle mistakes in a way that builds connection, not tension

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    What does trust really look like in the saddle?How do I stop second-guessing myself and show up more confidently for my horse?What can I do to stay grounded, especially on high-pressure rides?How do I handle mistakes without damaging the trust I’ve worked so hard to build?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #157 Your Horse Is Listening… Are You Being Clear?

    #157 Your Horse Is Listening… Are You Being Clear?

    · Resilient Reiner

    You can have your heels down, shoulders back, and hands perfectly placed…

    And your horse will still look at you like, “Girl… pick a lane.”

    Let’s cut to the chase: your horse doesn’t care about how well you follow the textbook and how perfect your hip angle is if your energy is scattered and your cues are saying two different things. They’re not confused because they’re stubborn. They’re confused because you’re giving them mixed messages—and most of the time, you don’t even know you’re doing it.

    This episode is for every rider who’s ever walked away from an arena wondering, “Why didn’t that go the way I planned?” The answer? It starts between your ears—not under your saddle.

    Today we’re talking about one of the most overlooked (but wildly powerful) truths in horsemanship: clear communication starts with a clear mind.

    Welcome to Day 3 of this powerful (and yeah, maybe slightly uncomfortable) training series: How to Get Your Horse to Actually Listen to You.

    Each day this week, you’ll get a short, practical episode that blends mindset work, neuroscience, and in-the-saddle strategy—because what’s going on in your brain directly impacts what’s happening under your seat.

    Today’s Topic: Day 3 – The Key to Clear, Confident Communication

    Don’t forget to Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st.

    👉 Sign up here!

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’m genuinely curious to hear all about your experience—especially the moment you realized your horse was just reacting to your mental energy. And hey, don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes to help more riders discover the show!

    IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

    Why technically “doing it right” doesn’t always workThe hidden reason your horse seems confused or reactiveHow mental clutter creates mixed signals under saddleWhat it actually means to ride with leadership and clarityThe simple but powerful mindset shift that leads to better connection

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    Why does my horse respond differently when I think I’m riding the same?How do I know if I’m giving mixed cues?What does my mindset have to do with my horse’s behavior?How can I get grounded before I ride so I’m clear in the saddle?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #156 The Weird Way Horses ‘Feel’ Your Emotions (and Why It Matters)

    #156 The Weird Way Horses ‘Feel’ Your Emotions (and Why It Matters)

    · Resilient Reiner

    You storm into the barn after a rough day. Your brain’s still chewing on a conversation you had hours ago, your jaw’s tight, your shoulders are up around your ears… and the second you swing a leg over? Your horse is tense, distracted, maybe even downright cranky.

    And we think they're the problem? Nah.

    Sometimes your horse isn’t being a brat. They’re just mirroring YOU!

    I know that’s a tough pill to swallow—but hang with me.

    What if I told you there's actual neuroscience behind this? Not just woo-woo “energy” stuff—but hard, proven brain science that says your horse is literally mirroring your nervous system?

    Today we’re breaking down how that invisible connection between your state and their behavior works—and more importantly, how to use it in your favor.

    Welcome to Day 2 of this powerful (and yeah, maybe slightly uncomfortable) training series: How to Get Your Horse to Actually Listen to You.

    Each day this week, you’re getting a short and practical episode that blends mindset work, neuroscience, and in-the-saddle strategy—because what’s going on in your brain shows up in your reins.

    Today’s Topic: Day 2 —Magic Mirror On The Wall, Who’s The Best Horse of All? The Science of Mirror Neurons and How They Impact Your Horse’s Responses

    Don’t forget to Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle!

    Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st.

    👉 Sign up here

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your riding crew.

    I’d love to hear how your horse responds when you check your energy first. Seriously—DM me your “ah-ha” moment or tag me in your barn stories!

    And hey—don’t forget to leave a review on iTunes. It helps other riders find the show and join this wild and resilient community we’re building together. 🐴🤠

    IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

    What mirror neurons are and why they matter in the barnHow your emotional state directly impacts your horse’s focus and behaviorThe unexpected reason your horse might be “off” during a rideWhy “checking yourself” before a ride matters more than checking your tackA simple, effective mindset shift you can use before every ride to reset your energy

    QUESTIONS I ANSWER:

    Why does my horse act differently when I’m stressed or upset?Can my horse really sense my emotions—or is that just a myth?What’s the fastest way to reset my energy before a ride?How do I stop bringing outside stress into my time with my horse?What does neuroscience say about horse and rider connection?🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #155 Yes, I Paid A Horse Psychic To Decode My Mare

    #155 Yes, I Paid A Horse Psychic To Decode My Mare

    · Resilient Reiner

    Okay, I’m gonna say something that might ruffle some reins—but hear me out. What if your horse isn’t being stubborn? What if they’re not being disrespectful, lazy, or out to ruin your ride?

    What if… they’re actually trying to communicate with you—and you’ve just been missing it?

    In this episode, we’re flipping the script on one of the most frustrating experiences as a rider: when your horse just won’t do the thing. You know what I’m talking about—when they hesitate at the gate, throw their shoulder out, or flat out ignore your cues. Instead of chalking it up to disobedience, we’re digging into what’s actually going on beneath the surface—for both you and your horse.

    This one’s a mix of tough love, neuroscience, and good old-fashioned cowgirl curiosity. So pull up a seat, or tighten your cinch—we’re going there today.

    Welcome to Day 1 of this powerful (and yeah, maybe slightly uncomfortable) training series: How to Get Your Horse to Actually Listen to You.

    Each day this week, you’ll get a short, practical episode that blends mindset work, neuroscience, and in-the-saddle strategy—because what’s going on in your brain directly impacts what’s happening under your seat.

    Today’s Topic: Day 1: Ugh! You Just Don’t GET IT!! Why Understanding Your Horse’s Perspective Changes Everything (Plus The Mindset Shift That Leads to Long-Term Success).

    Don’t forget to Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag us @nicoleburnettmentalcoach, @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I am so curious to hear about your experience and aha moments. Also, please leave a review on iTunes to help other riders discover the show and build their own unshakable confidence in the saddle.

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    Why “bad behavior” in your horse might actually be a sign they’re unsure or overwhelmedHow your energy, emotions, and mental state directly influence your horse’s reactionsThe mindset shift that turns frustrating rides into powerful communication momentsWhy taking resistance personally kills progress (and what to do instead)How to read your horse with more empathy—and ride with more leadership

    Questions I Answer:

    What’s really going on when my horse doesn’t listen to me?How can I tell the difference between disobedience and communication?How do my own thoughts and emotions impact my horse’s performance?What mental shifts can I make to become a more effective rider and partner?Is it possible to fix “behavior issues” without drilling more? (Spoiler: yes!)🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #154 It’s NOT A Skill Issue

    #154 It’s NOT A Skill Issue

    · Resilient Reiner

    What if the reason you’re not winning isn’t your riding—but your mind?

    I’m not talking about confidence in the usual way. I’m talking about the deep, hidden beliefs that make success feel unsafe—like stepping up will bring more pressure, more judgment, or more expectations than you’re ready for.

    Riders think they need more training, more practice, more saddle time. But if your subconscious isn’t fully on board with success, no amount of extra effort with your horse will fix it.

    In this episode, we’re digging into the mental blocks that hold horse riders back, why you can’t just “push through” them, and how to finally get your mindset working for you instead of against you.

    If this episode hits home for you, I want to hear about it! Tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your barn crew. Tell me—have you ever caught yourself hesitating, second-guessing, or holding back in competition or in training? Let’s talk about it. Also, leaving a review on iTunes helps more riders find this podcast, so if this episode resonated with you, please take a second to share your thoughts!

    ~Nicole~

    In This Episode, You Will Learn:

    The hidden fears that cause horse riders to hold back—without even realizing itHow your nervous system keeps you safe by keeping you stuckThe subconscious beliefs that make winning feel unsafe, overwhelming, or “undeserved”Why pushing harder isn’t the answer—and what actually worksHow to rewire your mindset for confidence, ease, and next-level performance in the saddle

    Questions I Answer:

    Why do you freeze up or second-guess yourself when it matters most?Could your fear of success be stronger than your fear of failure?How do you stop making things harder than they need to be?Why do you feel guilty about winning or getting ahead?How can you break the cycle of overthinking and just ride?📲 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going!

    Enjoying the podcast? If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave a review on iTunes—it helps more horse riders find the mental strategies they need to ride with confidence and perform at their best. 🐴⭐

    💬 What’s one moment with your horse that made all the hard work worth it?

    📲 Tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and let me know!

    🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here! 🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #153 Steal My Exercise To Uncover Hidden Mental Blocks Stalling Your Progress 🔥🐴🏆

    #153 Steal My Exercise To Uncover Hidden Mental Blocks Stalling Your Progress 🔥🐴🏆

    · Resilient Reiner
    What If Your Biggest Riding Breakthrough Had Nothing to Do with More Time in the Saddle?

    You’ve trained, you’ve practiced, you’ve put in the work—but something still feels off. Maybe you’re inconsistent in the show pen, holding back when it matters most, or feeling like there’s a ceiling on your progress. What if I told you that the real reason you’re stuck has nothing to do with your riding ability or your horse?

    In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the hidden mental blocks that are keeping you from riding at your absolute best.

    Most riders don’t realize how much their subconscious fears, beliefs, and doubts are running the show—until they do. And once you see it? You can change it.

    🔥 Inside This Episode, You’ll Discover:

    ✔️ The #1 factor that determines whether you level up or stay stuck

    ✔️ How to know if your mind is unconsciously holding you back

    ✔️ The one question that can instantly reveal a hidden fear sabotaging your progress

    ✔️ A simple yet powerful exercise to reveal mental blocks you didn’t even know you had

    ✔️ How shifting your mindset can create massive breakthroughs—faster than you think

    If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself in the show pen and ready to step into the rider you were meant to be, this episode is for you.

    🚀 Ready to Take the Next Step?

    If this episode hits home, don’t stop here—let’s actually DO something about it.

    🔥 Join the next round of the Mental Gym for Equestrians!

    👉 Align your subconscious mind & nervous system with your biggest riding goals—for better rides without more time in the saddle.

    👉 High-touch coaching, deep mindset work, and a program designed to rewire your riding from the inside out.

    🚀We kick off April 1st! Limited slots—save your spot! → Join Here

    📲 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going!

    📩 Did this episode hit home? DM me on Instagram @nicoleburnettmentalcoach or @resilientreiner and tell me:

    💬 What’s one belief you uncovered that might be holding you back?

    ⭐ Don’t forget to subscribe & leave a review! Your support helps more riders break through their mental barriers and ride with confidence.

    🎧 Now, hit play—this episode is going to change the way you ride!

    Nicole

  • #152 Do You Remember Your First?

    #152 Do You Remember Your First?

    · Resilient Reiner

    You never forget your first—

    🏆 First big score.

    🏆 First blue ribbon.

    🏆 First time stepping into the show pen and actually believing you belong there.

    But getting there? That’s the hard part.

    In today’s episode, I’m sharing real client wins that prove confidence, connection and success isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build.

    🚀 The rider who just walked away with her first-ever blue ribbon—after once believing she’d never be good enough.

    🚀 The rider who scored her first 70 in reining—a number that once felt impossible.

    🚀 The competitor who qualified for the NRCHA Celebration of Champions AGAIN—like it’s just another day at the office (spoiler: it’s a HUGE freaking deal).

    🚀 The rider who told me, "I've never felt this connected to my horse before." Because yeah, the wins are incredible, but this feeling? This is what it's really about.

    These riders aren’t just winning.

    They’re having more fun than ever. They’re riding with more confidence, more trust, and more joy—because they’ve finally learned how to get out of their own way.

    🔥 If you’ve ever struggled with confidence in the show pen or the practice pen, THIS is the episode for you.

    💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    ✔️ What real success looks like—beyond the ribbons and scoreboards

    ✔️ The mindset shifts that separate stuck riders from those who start winning

    ✔️ Stories of riders who once doubted themselves but are now proving themselves wrong

    ✔️ Why confidence is something you train—just like you train your horse

    ✔️ How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself in competition

    🔥 Questions I Answer in This Episode:

    🔥 What separates the riders who succeed from those who stay stuck?

    🔥 How do you push past mental blocks in competition?

    🔥 What does it take to go from feeling like an imposter to competing with confidence?

    🔥 What’s the difference between riders who dream about winning and those who make it happen?

    🔥 How do you know when you and your horse are ready to step up?

    📲 Let’s Keep the Conversation Going!

    Enjoying the podcast? If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave a review on iTunes—it helps more horse riders find the mental strategies they need to ride with confidence and perform at their best. 🐴⭐

    💬 What’s one moment with your horse that made all the hard work worth it?

    📲 Tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and let me know!

    🚀 Ready For Your Own Mental Breakthrough? Here’s How:

    🎯 Join the Mental Gym for Equestrians! → Align your subconscious mind and nervous system with your biggest riding goals for better rides without more time in the saddle! Live high-touch group coaching. Limited Spots. Starting April 1st. Sign up here!

    🎯 Resilient Reiner Academy → The confidence to win so you ride like you belong. Sign up here!

    🎯 Get Free Weekly Mental Coaching Tips → Join my email list! Subscribe here

    🎧 Now, hit play & let’s celebrate these incredible wins together!

  • #151 Have You Personally Been Victimized By A Spicy Chestnut Mare (™) AKA Dragon Horse?

    #151 Have You Personally Been Victimized By A Spicy Chestnut Mare (™) AKA Dragon Horse?

    · Resilient Reiner

    Some horses are steady, quiet, and predictable. And then… there are the ones that make you question every life decision that got you here. You know the type—the kind that steps into the warm-up pen already buzzing, flicking an ear, shifting a hoof, coiling up like she’s ready to launch into orbit. And no matter how much you try to settle her, she’s not having it.

    So, you do what feels natural—you try to make her still. But the more you pull, breathe, adjust, the more she resists. And before you’ve even hit your first maneuver, you’re already in a fight.

    Sound familiar?

    I had a client who lived this exact struggle with her mare—losing points, getting frustrated, and bracing for a battle before she even got the chance to prove herself. But here’s the thing: the problem wasn’t her horse’s fire. It was how she handled it.

    This episode is all about changing the way you think about tension, focus, and control. Because the answer isn’t forcing stillness—it’s leading with clarity. Let’s get into it.

    🎯 If this episode hits home for you…

    Tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share your biggest takeaway! I want to hear your story—what clicked for you? What’s your experience with handling a high-energy horse? And if you found this helpful, leaving a review on iTunes helps more riders find the tools they need to step into the pen with confidence.

    🔥 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    ✔️ Why trying to force your horse into stillness can backfire

    ✔️ The real reason your horse won’t settle (and what to do about it)

    ✔️ How your own focus directly affects your horse’s energy

    ✔️ The mindset shift that helped my client turn frustration into control

    ✔️ What to do instead of bracing, muscling, or hoping for the best

    ✔️ How to step into the arena with a plan that actually works

    🔥 Questions I Answer in This Episode:

    💡 “Why does my horse feel tense before we even start the pattern?”

    💡 “How do I stop my horse from fidgeting and shifting in the show pen?”

    💡 “Why do I feel like we’re in a fight before we’ve even done anything?”

    💡 “Is it possible to get my horse to focus without forcing it?”

    💡 “How do top riders stay so calm and collected, no matter what?”

    Links & Resources:DON’T MISS THE UPCOMING FREE RIDE LIKE A PRO MASTERCLASS! Sign up here!! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlap Free Training On How To Build The Mental Edge in riding, training, and competition!! 💪 https://www.resilientreiner.com/RRA_free_masterclass_signupJoin the Herd: free weekly mental coaching straight to your inbox! 🔥 https://www.resilientreiner.com/ Say Hellooooo to Less Stress + More Wins! 🏆 https://www.resilientreiner.com/academy For riders ready for a pro-level, million dollar rider mindset that makes success inevitable. Join us now! https://www.mentalgymforequestrians.com/

    Look, I get it. When you’re in that pen, and your horse is shifting and fidgeting and not doing what the quiet bay gelding across the way is doing, it’s frustrating. But here’s what I want you to take away from this:

    The goal isn’t to take the fire out of your horse. It’s to direct it.

    You don’t have to muscle your way through. You don’t have to force a battle. You just need to show up with focus, clarity, and a plan.

    And when you do that? Your horse will finally have someone to trust.

    If this episode spoke to you, shoot me a DM—I’d love to hear about your experience with a spicy one. Let’s chat. 🤠🔥

    Nicole

  • #150 The One Thing This Rider Does (That Most Won’t) 🤯

    #150 The One Thing This Rider Does (That Most Won’t) 🤯

    · Resilient Reiner

    What if I told you that one simple change could completely shift your mindset, eliminate distractions, and help you ride with more confidence than ever before?

    🚨 Spoiler: It has nothing to do with training harder… and everything to do with what you DON’T do before you ride. 🚨

    >>>DON’T MISS THE FREE RIDE LIKE A PRO MASTERCLASS! Watch the replay here while it’s available! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlap

    In this episode of the Resilient Reiner Podcast, I’m sitting down with Bella Sobral, a young equestrian who has cracked the code on staying laser-focused on competition day. And here’s the part that blew my mind—she doesn’t touch her phone for hours before she competes. 🤯

    No scrolling. No texting. No distractions.

    Why? Because she knows that your focus starts long before you step into the arena.

    Instead of getting lost in notifications, stress, or social media comparison, she uses that time to mentally prepare, visualize her perfect run, and step fully into her competitor mindset. And guess what? It works.

    In our conversation, Bella shares how she flips pre-show jitters into fuel for excellence, adapts seamlessly between different horses, and masters mental rehearsal to conquer any challenge. If you’re ready to step into your power and ride with unstoppable confidence, this episode is your blueprint for success.

    If you or someone you know has gotten something valuable out of today’s episode, please tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach, @resilientreiner, and Bella @BellaSobral on Instagram. I love hearing your stories—let me know how these insights are changing your ride! And if you have a minute, leave a review on iTunes to help more riders discover our community.

    In This Episode You’ll Learn:

    How can you harness the power of visualization to rewrite your pre-show script?Discover the specific mental exercises Bella uses to flip anxiety into unstoppable confidence.What’s the real impact of disconnecting from digital distractions before a show?Learn why Bella’s strict no-phone rule isn’t just about focus—it’s about resetting your mind for peak performance.Ever wondered how to ride a horse you’ve never been on?I reveal Bella’s step-by-step process for quickly bonding with a new horse under high-pressure conditions, ensuring you’re ready to take on any challenge.How do you transform pre-show jitters into a performance-enhancing adrenaline boost?Explore actionable strategies to channel that nervous energy into your greatest asset on show day.What can you learn from a legacy of equestrian training?Bella opens up about how her family’s deep roots in horse training have shaped her mental preparation, and how you can apply these timeless lessons to your own riding journey.

    Links/Resources:

    DON’T MISS THE UPCOMING FREE RIDE LIKE A PRO MASTERCLASS! Watch the replay here while it’s available! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlap Free Training On How To Build The Mental Edge in riding, training, and competition!! 💪 https://www.resilientreiner.com/RRA_free_masterclass_signupJoin the Herd: free weekly mental coaching straight to your inbox! 🔥 https://www.resilientreiner.com/ Say Hellooooo to Less Stress + More Wins! 🏆 https://www.resilientreiner.com/academy For riders ready for a pro-level, million dollar rider mindset that makes success inevitable. Join us now! https://www.mentalgymforequestrians.com/

    Guest Instagram:

    Follow Bella Sobral on Instagram: _bella.sobral_

    Check out her journey, behind-the-scenes moments, and more inspiring equestrian adventures!

  • #149 Do You Have A Subconscious Riding Block?

    #149 Do You Have A Subconscious Riding Block?

    · Resilient Reiner

    DON’T MISS THE UPCOMING FREE RIDE LIKE A PRO MASTERCLASS! Sign up here!! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlap

    What if I told you that your biggest riding struggle isn’t about skill or talent—it’s about what’s happening inside your mind? That hesitation before pushing for more speed in a run, the frustration over not getting that perfect stop, or the weird resistance you feel when things start going too well—it’s not just in your head. It’s a subconscious block, and it’s quietly running the show.

    Most riders think that if they just work harder, practice more, or “get tougher,” they’ll break through their limits. But what if the real reason your progress feels like a rollercoaster has nothing to do with how much you ride—and everything to do with the hidden beliefs and fears shaping your decisions? In this episode, we’re going straight to the root of the issue so you can stop feeling stuck and start riding at the level you know you’re capable of.

    If you or someone you know has benefited from this episode, be sure to tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this episode with your community! I’d love to hear your thoughts—what subconscious blocks have shown up in your riding? Also, if this episode hit home for you, leave a review on iTunes. It helps other riders find the podcast and step into their full potential!

    In This Episode, You Will Learn:

    ✔️ What subconscious blocks are and how they impact your riding decisions, confidence, and progress

    ✔️ The real reason you might hesitate, procrastinate, or overanalyze every little thing in the saddle

    ✔️ How fear—of failure, judgment, and even success—can shape your riding without you realizing it

    ✔️ Why some riders struggle with inconsistency and self-sabotage (even when they really want to improve)

    ✔️ How to finally break free from mental blocks and ride with clarity, confidence, and consistency

    Questions I Answer:

    🐴 Why do you feel stuck in your riding, even when you are putting in the work?

    🐴 How do subconscious beliefs control your performance in the arena?

    🐴 Why do you hold yourself back when things are going well?

    🐴 How can you break out of fear-based habits and start trusting yourself in the saddle?

    🐴 What’s the fastest way to retrain your brain and finally ride to your full potential?

    Link and Resources:

    DON’T MISS THE UPCOMING FREE RIDE LIKE A PRO MASTERCLASS! Sign up here!! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlap Free Training On How To Build The Mental Edge in riding, training, and competition!! 💪 https://www.resilientreiner.com/RRA_free_masterclass_signupJoin the Herd: free weekly mental coaching straight to your inbox! 🔥 https://www.resilientreiner.com/ Say Hellooooo to Less Stress + More Wins! 🏆 https://www.resilientreiner.com/academy For riders ready for a pro-level, million dollar rider mindset that makes success inevitable. Join us now! https://www.mentalgymforequestrians.com/

    Your riding isn’t just about what happens in the arena—it’s about what’s happening in your mind before you ever step into it. So if you’re ready to stop second-guessing, start showing up fully, and ride like the competitor you were meant to be—this episode is for you. Let’s get to it! 🎙️

  • #148 I’m Not Here To Talk About The Super Bowl

    #148 I’m Not Here To Talk About The Super Bowl

    · Resilient Reiner

    Let me ruffle some feathers here—more saddle time isn’t a silver bullet. I said it. It’s not always the answer. 😲

    Pssst- don’t miss out on the FREE masterclass next week! Ready to ride like a pro!? SIGN UP HERE!

    I know, I know. That’s what we’ve always been told, right? You mess up in the show pen, you need more practice. You get outscored, you need to work harder. You choke under pressure, you just need more miles.

    But what if I told you that’s dead wrong?

    Because I’ve seen it a hundred times. Riders who could lay down a textbook-perfect pattern at home crumble the second the pressure is on. And no amount of extra practice fixes it. So what’s really going on?

    It ain’t your cues. It ain’t your horse. It’s what’s happening in your head.

    Today, we’re throwing out the old-school “just ride better” advice and getting into what actually separates the riders who hold it together when it matters from the ones who don’t. Because confidence? Focus? Consistency? Those aren’t personality traits—they’re skills. And you can train ‘em just like anything else.

    So if you’re tired of overthinking, second-guessing, and feeling like your brain is working against you in the show pen, pull up a seat. This one’s for you.

    If this episode hits home for you, do me a favor—tag me @nicoleburnettmentalcoach and @resilientreiner on Instagram and share this with a rider who needs to hear it. I love seeing how you are putting this to work. And if you’re feeling extra generous, leave a review on iTunes—it helps more riders find this and get their mental game right.

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    ✅ Why more practice won’t fix a shaky mental game (and what will)

    ✅ The biggest mindset mistake riders make that keeps them stuck

    ✅ The moment I realized we’ve been coaching riders all wrong

    ✅ The exact four-step framework I use to help riders get bulletproof under pressure

    ✅ Why confidence isn’t a feeling—it’s a skill (and how to train it)

    Questions I Answer:

    ❓ Why do some riders ride great at home but fall apart in the show pen?

    ❓ How can you train confidence like a skill instead of waiting to “feel” it?

    ❓ What do pro riders do mentally that most amateurs never even think about?

    ❓ What’s the #1 thing you can do today to start riding with more focus and consistency?

    Link and Resources:

    Free Training for riders ready for a pro-level, million dollar rider mindset that makes success inevitable. Join us now! https://www.nicoleburnettcoaching.com/rlapFree Training to build unshakable confidence as a rider!! 💪 https://www.resilientreiner.com/RRA_free_masterclass_signupJoin the Herd: free weekly mental coaching straight to your inbox! 🔥 https://www.resilientreiner.com/ Say Hellooooo to Less Stress + More Wins! 🏆 https://www.resilientreiner.com/academy

    Riding under pressure isn’t about talent. It’s not about hard work. It’s about whether or not your brain is trained for it. And if you’re sick of letting fear, doubt, or nerves run the show, it’s time to do something about it.

    Shoot me a DM on Instagram @nicoleburnettmentalcoach or reply to this episode—I’d love to help you get your mental game dialed in. 💪

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