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  • Hi lovely,

    It’s Selina here today, bringing to you what I feel is such a powerful and important conversation about a topic that many of us (myself included) really don’t talk about enough. And we need to.

    In this episode I had the wonderful opportunity to talk to Anna Lyons and Louise Winter, authors of ‘We All Know How This Ends - Lessons about Life and Living from Working with Death and Dying’. 

    Anna is an end-of-life doula and Louise is a progressive funeral director and together they have written an incredible, practical guide to navigating death, dying, grieving, losing ones we love and supporting those that have lost a loved one. 

    They teach us how and why we all need to think about death in a radically different way and why it is important for us all to talk more about it more.

    And so that is what we did in this episode. We talked about death and dying. From arranging funerals and the creative ways you can do it, to end-of-life care and how wonderful hospices in the UK are, to the best way to support someone when they are grieving the loss of a loved one, to the importance of us all getting more used to death by talking about it. 

    I cannot recommend their book more. I was hooked from the moment I started it. It really is one I think we should all read. You can pre-order it here. (https://www.lifedeathwhatever.com/the-book)

    Find out more about the work that Anna and Louise do here: https://www.lifedeathwhatever.com/

    And follow them on instagram here @lifedeathwhat (https://www.instagram.com/lifedeathwhat/)

    Hope you enjoy this episode and find it as fascinating and valuable as I did.

    Lots of love, 

    Selina x

  • Hello lovely!

    If you’ve been following us for a while then you’ll know that we like to challenge the modern day narrative that love is something that comes from that one special romantic partner in life. This is one of the reasons why we like to hijack Valentine’s Day and use it to celebrate love in all its forms. And this year is no exception! 

    On Sunday we kicked off the start of our self-love challenge, 28 Days of Love and if you’re not already taking part, we’d love to invite you. This is our sixth year running it and it is always such a gorgeous four week journey, but this year, it feels like we all need it more than any other (right?!).

    If you’re worn out from global pandemics, lockdown, homeschooling, working from home, not going on holiday for over a year...then self-love is the balm that will help you recover, reclaim your energy and navigate the Coronacoaster. 

    If you’d like to join us then head over here for all of the details (https://loveprojectlove.com/28daysoflove) (it’s totally free!)

    And to get you in the mood we have pulled out one of our favourite podcast episodes from the archives: LOVE: it’s not just for Valentine’s, recorded two years ago at Liberty London. It is one of our favourite podcast episodes and so this week we are bringing it back from the archives!

    In this episode we talk about: 

    Why we are so passionate about busting the modern day myth that love is something that comes from that one special romantic partner in life

    The impact that belief has had on so many of our lives and our relationships. 

    How learning to love yourself is a skill that we can all get good at (and how it helps us to flourish as individuals and in our relationships)

    The different ways you can weave self-love into your day to day life

    Why so many of us resist self-love (and what to do about that)

    And how, when you start to tune into that inner loving voice your life will start to transform from the inside out

       

    We are sending you the biggest cuddle and we hope to see you over on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/loveprojectlove/?hl=en) for 28 days of love. 

    We hope you enjoy the episode 💕

    Love, Vicki and Selina xxx

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  • Hi lovely,Vicki here - I hope this email finds you safe and well ❤️In today’s episode, I answer some of your questions on dating and relationships (thank you for sending those in!)Really loved creating this episode for you. There were lots of questions relating to attachment theory (which is great as it is my favorite topic to talk about!).Specific questions that I answered in the episode:Is it possible for an anxious and an avoidant person to develop a secure and loving relationship?How do you deal with an avoidantly attached partner who isn't always sure they want to repair their attachment issues? How do I start calling in a securely attached partner rather than the avoidant ones I usually find myself drawn to? My partner and I are exclusive but he said he’s not ready to call me his girlfriend yet. Is this a red flag?I’m just about to move in with my partner. What are your tips for starting the next chapter of our lives in lockdown?How do I find the balance in my relationship, so I don’t lose myself? This is the gorgeous TED talk that I mentioned - The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3fIZuW9P_M)Here is the wonderful book on Attachment theory that I mentioned - Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. (https://uk.bookshop.org/books/attached-are-you-anxious-avoidant-or-secure-how-the-science-of-adult-attachment-can-help-you-find-and-keep-love/9781529032178)Ooh and I wanted to also share this brilliant video from The School of Life on ‘How to Cope With an Avoidant Partner. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2zkUSC-Zm4)And lastly, how would you like to receive a (free) weekly love letter from me on topics like the ones explored in today’s episode? Every Sunday, I am talking about topics like; dating for your attachment style, compatibility, the appeal of the unavailable ones, how to spot the red flags of relationship availability and lots more! If you’d like to receive my love letters 💌 then head over here to sign up and your first letter will be sent this Sunday (at 5pm gmt)! (https://vickipavitt.com/sundaylove)Really hope you enjoy this Q&A episode 😍😍😍So much love, Vicki x

  • Hi lovely,

     

    It’s Selina here 👋 and today I have my dear friend, the truly wonderful Nova Reid, back on the podcast for the third time to dive into the topic of racism, anti-racism and the work Nova does with white people to show them how to unpack their inner racism and white privilege and become good allies. 

     

    Nova is a diversity and anti-racism campaigner, writer and TED speaker. She regularly appears on BBC News, Sky News and BBC Radio as an expert on race and diversity matters and her book, the Good Ally is coming out at the end of this year!

     

    While I’ve had Nova join me previously on the podcast to talk about white privilege and anti-racism (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/race-and-white-privilege-with-nova-reid) and microaggressions and hidden racism (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/navigating-microaggressions-nova-reid) , particularly in the workplace, this time I wanted to invite her back to share what 2020 was like for her, as an anti-racism educator and black woman living in Britain, in the wake of the murder of George Floyd and the Black Lives Matter movement.

     

    I feel that people often don’t realise how hard, how painful and how traumatic doing this work often is for Nova. For me she truly is one of the strongest, smartest, most extraordinary, compassionate and powerful people I know. Doing her course ‘Anti-racism and White Privilege’ was life changing for me and I cannot recommend it more to any white person wanting to do the essential work of unpacking their own inner racism and learning how to become a good ally.

     

    So dive into this episode where we talk about all of this and more.

     

    And don’t forget to pre-order Nova’s book ‘The Good Ally’, at Waterstones (https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-good-ally/nova-reid/9780008439484?awaid=3787&utm_source=redbrain&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=css&gclid=CjwKCAiAsOmABhAwEiwAEBR0ZtP6Ov1hP2yENO_VPgoju-xwim01dNh6jSpxODREuXZzk5Y9I5lKKBoC9QwQAvD_BwE&awc=3787_1612364915_f91065e3b9d499d2c8ad6f35325ed337) , WHSmith (https://www.whsmith.co.uk/products/the-good-ally/nova-reid/hardback/9780008439484.html?gclid=CjwKCAiAsOmABhAwEiwAEBR0ZhIQ1F8f37aFz8idlgp1QJ9HwC2WLKTasUiFjDUO2AGKthndh8rvwxoCb4AQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) or Amazon (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Ally-Nova-Reid/dp/0008439486) . 

     

    X Selina

  • Hi lovely,

    How are you doing this week? Here in the UK things have not been easy. A lot of people are really struggling with this latest lockdown, including us! So if you’re one of those people, then know that you are not alone. This is tough and while resilience, resourcefulness and inner strength will help us get through this, sometimes you have to stop being the strong, resilient one.

     

    If you tend to be the one that is often there for others, if you identify with being a good coper or pride yourself on being strong in times of struggle, then sometimes you need to drop all that and let yourself feel all the feelings, without judgement. And NO telling yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling that way because other people have it much worse than you. Your feelings need to be acknowledged and felt. Suppressing them and brushing under the carpet DOES NOT WORK. 

    In fact I have a whole section on that in my new book Burnt Out (https://www.theburntoutbook.com/) and I share how one tool, in particular, in there has really been helping me over the past few weeks.

    And talking of my book!...I have a VERY exciting announcement! 

    The wonderful team at Octopus feel that the world needs ‘Burnt Out’ NOW and so rather than making you all wait until 15th April when the paperback book comes out, they have released the ebook version of it TODAY!!!! So if you’re an ebook lover (or even if you’re never tried an ebook before) you can get ‘Burnt Out’ this minute for just £4.99!

    The eBooks are available through Amazon, Apple, Google & Kobo, short links below:

    Amazon: https://amzn.to/2KyNoRW

    Google: http://bit.ly/3nVs7iH

    Kobo: http://bit.ly/39OLa9o

     

    If, like me, you’ve never read an ebook before, you can easily download an ebook reader for free on your laptop, tablet or smartphone. I’d never read an ebook before and am now a total convert! 

     

    And of course if you do buy Burnt Out as an ebook while you wait for the paperback, then it would make my year if you would leave a review. 

     

    Personally the section in the book on managing your Emotional Energy has really been helping me get through these past few weeks and that is where you will find the ‘Emotional Check-in’ tool that I talk about in today’s episode.

    Let me know if you use it! 

    Lots of love, 

    Selina x

  • Hi lovely,

    I have a fascinating episode for you today!

    I got to speak to Margee Kerr and Linda Rodriguez McRobbie about their new book, ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’. 

    In this episode, we talk about:

    Why pain isn’t all bad and how we can develop a healthy relationship with it

    Resilience as a skill - something we can practice and cultivate over time

    Why we need to come up with a bigger vocabulary for pain (because one word is used to describe so much!) 

    Heartbreak and why it hurts so much

    How we can support our loved ones when they are in pain

    And so much more!

    I loved this conversation with Margee and Linda. 

    Really hope you enjoy it too!

    Order your copy of ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’ for the UK (https://www.bloomsbury.com/uk/ouch-9781472965271/) , Aus (https://www.bloomsbury.com/au/ouch-9781472965257/) and US (https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/ouch-9781472965257/) .

    Love, Vicki x

  • Hi lovely,

    How are you doing this week? The general mood here in the UK seems to be 😳😤😫😖😭🤪🤯, so if you’re having a challenging time of it at the moment, know that you are not alone and we’re sending you big virtual hugs. 

    And I have a real treat for you with today’s episode. Just before Christmas I got to interview the wonderful and inspiring best-selling author and founder of the Numinous, Ruby Warrington who has just released her third book ‘The Sober Curious Reset: Change the Way You Drink in 100 Days or Less’, a follow on from her previous best-selling book, Sober Curious. 

    The book is brilliant, with lots of space to journal as you go through, but it was after this interview with Ruby that I felt compelled to actually DO the Sober Curious Reset.  I’m two weeks into it and while it has been a little challenging (particularly on Friday night!) I am absolutely loving it. I think this really could be a life changer. 

    So tune into this week’s episode to hear about Ruby’s own journey with alcohol and why she is such an advocate for breaking free from the cult of drinking and how The Sober Curious Reset can help you to transform your own relationship with alcohol and drinking. 

    Order your copy of The Sober Curious Reset here (https://uk.bookshop.org/books/the-sober-curious-reset-change-the-way-you-drink-in-100-days-or-less/9780762472703) .

    Lots of love, 

    x Selina

  • Happy New Year lovely,

    We are so happy to be back on the podcast 🎙🤗

    This week, we’re reflecting on the insights and lessons that came out of doing our Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journals - and boy was it powerful! 

    Listen in to hear us share our 2020 reflections, the new discoveries and lessons we’ve learnt from this past year and what our 2021 intentions are going to be! ✨

    We found recording this podcast to be just the tonic to help us to get excited about this brand new year (despite still being in the pandemic and the UK being back in lockdown). We really hope that this episode nourishes you, like it did us. 

    If you haven’t done your Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) yet, then don’t panic, you have plenty of time. And if you have done your Goodbye Hello journal, then come and let us know over on instagram @loveprojectlove (https://www.instagram.com/loveprojectlove/) what your focus for 2021 is. We can’t wait to hear!

    Join us on Zoom

    You can also join us on Zoom next week for our quarterly love-in (next Weds 13th Jan, 6.30-7.30pm GMT) and you can share your intention with us live (and get a virtual hug from us). Sign up here (https://loveprojectlove.com/lovein) to join us (it’s totally free and we’d love to see you there).

    And also - more delicious free resources can be found below!:

    Selina’s Monday Crew Podcast and Weekly check-in - The Monday Crew is a weekly Monday podcast and a Weekly Check-in Tool that helps you to design a life you love, one Monday at a time! It’s totally free to join and you can sign up here (https://www.selinabarker.com/themondaycrew) .  

    Vicki’s Sunday Love Letter newsletter - The Sunday Love Letter is a newsletter on all things Love, Dating and Relationships, designed to soothe, support, comfort and inspire you, each and every Sunday! It’s free to join and you can sign up here (https://vickipavitt.com/sundaylove) (tick the box when you sign up for Vicki's free dating audio workshop too!) 

    Lots of love, 

    Selina & Vicki xxx

    PS here (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/nature-based-spirituality-with-isla-macleod) is the episode that we mentioned with Isla on nature-based spirituality 

  • Hi lovely! 

    Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.

     
    In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!). 

    If you haven’t yet listened to the earlier episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752728-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-1) , episode 2 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752805-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-2) , episode 3 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752810-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-3) and episode 4 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752818-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-4) 🤗

    In today’s episode, we share the fifth and final step to designing a life you love: how to bring your dreams and intentions for the year to life.

    Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY.

    And if you enjoyed today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today 💖

    We loved creating this series for you, we hope you’ve loved it! 

    Do let us know how you found it and what your 2021 intentions are - we always love to hear from you. You can email us at hello@loveprojectlove.com (mailto:hello@loveprojectlove.com) or dm us on Instagram @loveprojectlove (https://www.instagram.com/loveprojectlove/?hl=en) .

    Here’s to a fulfilling and nourishing 2021!!! 💕💕💕

    Love always, Selina and Vicki X

  • Hi lovely! 

    Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.

     
    In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!). 

    If you haven’t yet listened to the earlier episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752728-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-1) , episode 2 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752805-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-2) and episode 3 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752810-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-3) .

    In today’s episode, we share the fourth step to designing a life you love: choosing a focus and setting an intention for the year ahead. 

    Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY

    And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today 💖

    We’ll see you back here tomorrow for episode number 5 - the final episode in the series.

    Love, Selina and Vicki X

  • Hi lovely! 

    Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.

     
    In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!). 

    If you haven’t yet listened to the first two episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752728-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-1) and episode 2 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752805-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-2) .

    In today’s episode, we share the third step to designing a life you love: allowing yourself to dream (and taking your dreams seriously). Ooh we love this one! 

    Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY

    And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today 💖

    We’ll see you back here tomorrow for episode number 4!

    Love, Selina and Vicki X

  • Hi lovely! 

    Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.

     
    In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!). 

    If you haven’t yet listened to the first episode in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here (https://audioboom.com/posts/7752728-how-to-design-a-life-you-love-in-2021-5-part-mini-series-episode-1) .

    In today’s episode, we share the second step to designing a life you love: creating a list of all the things you want to fill your life with. 

    Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY

    And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today 💖

    We’ll see you back here tomorrow for episode number 3!

    Love, Selina and Vicki X

  • Hi lovely! 

    Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.

     
    In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!).

    In this first episode, we’ll be sharing the first practical tool to designing a life you love - to pause and reflect on your journey so far. 

    We loved creating this series for you, we hope you love it! 

    And if you enjoyed today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today 💖

    We’ll see you back here tomorrow for episode number 2!

    Love, Selina and Vicki X

  • Hi lovely,

    We’re almost there! Almost at the end of 2020...phewf. It has been a tough year, there is no denying it. But it’s so important that rather than just writing it off altogether, we do take a moment to reflect and take a closer look at the year we’ve been through and in particular what we did manage to make happen in our lives despite it all. 

    You have.

    You have had ideas and dreams that have come to life. There are things you wrote into your Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 at the start of the year that are now in existence in your life today. You did that.

    And so, before we all close our Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journals for good, we have a bonus exercise for you: A Final Reflection, where you take a look back at what you wrote in your journal a year ago and see which of those dreams and ideas that were first written into the pages of your journal, did in fact become a reality. 

    We want you all to see that even during a global pandemic, you did still bring some of your dreams and ideas to life. 

    You might even find that there are some things you wrote down that you completely forgot about, but that came true anyway...THAT is the magic of writing down your dreams and desires. They can take seed and grow, even without you focusing on them consciously. 

    So let’s celebrate that!

    Get your Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journal and join us in this week’s episode (our final episode of the year!) as we talk you through the exercise and share our own answers and lessons learnt as we did ours. 

    You can get a PDF of the exercise by signing up over here (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/finalreflection) .

    And listen to the podcast here

    Next week we’ll be running a 5 day mini series on Design A Life You Love in 2021 and then we will be back with you at the start of January to go through our Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journals together. 

    Find out where to order your Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal from here (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/shop) !

    And in the meantime, we’ll be over on instagram @loveprojectlove (https://www.instagram.com/loveprojectlove/?hl=en) sharing all the different places people are doing their Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal this year - please share a photo if you’re on IG or send it to us via email - we LOVE getting shots of where people are doing their journals!

    Lots of love, 

    Selina & Vicki xxx

  • Hiya lovely, 

    I’m so excited to share this week’s episode with you (my first solo one!) ✨

    In the episode, I share the 7 lessons that I’ve learnt about love, dating and relationships as I celebrate 7 years of love coaching. 

    The lessons that I share are about what I’ve learnt when looking at my own relationship pattern through the lens of attachment theory (anxious attachment) and how this has shaped my love coaching work too. 

    Tune in to hear me share:

    The three main Attachment styles and how they influence your mindset and attitudes to love, dating and relationships 

    Why anxious attachers are attracted to the people that are the least likely to meet their needs (inc why you’re attracted to the unavailable ones)

    The Pursue-Withdraw pattern in relationships 

    The power of our minds in hindering or or helping us to move forward in our love lives

    My own personal story of becoming more secure and fulfilled in love

    The importance of self love and vulnerability on a dating journey 

    What it means to redefine your love blueprint to enjoy a happy and fulfilling love life

    And so much more!

    I absolutely loved recording this episode - I hope you enjoy it! 

    If you are listening to this episode feeling stuck in an unfulfilling relationship pattern like the ones I share, then I want you to know that change is possible. I really believe that with the right guidance and the willingness to learn and grow, that we can rewrite our relationship blueprints, to enjoy happy and fulfilling love lives.

    I’ve just opened the doors to my 2021 love coaching programme - designed for women with an anxious attachment. This coaching programme is my absolute heart and soul and it contains everything I know, in 7 years of love coaching, about how to become more secure in love.

    I’m holding discovery calls this month and in January. Come and check out vickipavitt.com (https://vickipavitt.com/) (my brand new website 🤗) if you’re interested in joining me on this next adventure! 

    So much love, V xxx

  • Hi lovely, we hope you are doing well 😍

    Over on the pod this week, we talk about lockdown fatigue and managing feelings of overwhelm and emotional exhaustion - something that many of us are feeling right now.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    How to manage your emotional, physical and mental energy (where Vicki gets an impromptu coaching session from Selina!)

    The power of taking breaks around your working day and the magic of napping 

    Lessons from nature, the seasons and the menstrual cycle

    How mini-projects - from creating to decluttering - can help you to feel calm and grounded 

    The importance of being kind to yourself, honouring your feelings and moving at a pace that’s right for you 💖

    The Monday Crew

    Join Selina’s wonderful new Monday Crew - a weekly Monday podcast and a Weekly Check-in Tool that helps you to design a life you love, one Monday at a time! It’s totally free to join and you can sign up here (https://www.selinabarker.com/themondaycrew) .

    And here are the podcasts that we mentioned:

    Living and working in flo with Alisa Vitti (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/living-and-working-in-flo-alisa-vitti)

    Nature based spirituality with Isla Macleod (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/nature-based-spirituality-with-isla-macleod)

    Why ritual is so important to us and how to bring it back into our lives with Tiu De Haan (https://loveprojectlove.com/new-blog-1/the-power-of-ritual)

    We hope you enjoy the episode!

    So much love,

    Vicki xxx

  • Hi lovely,

    It’s Selina here 👋, with an episode for you this week that I have been wanting to record for years. 

    I finally got to sit down with the magical queen of rituals and nature-based spirituality, Isla Macleod, to ask her a thousand and one questions about the way she lives and works in harmony and deep relationship with nature. 

    I have known Isla for about four years and have been mesmerised by her instagram account which shares her life amongst the trees, living in a yurt, going on pilgrimages and honouring the celtic festivals with nature-based rituals.

    Isla is, in her words, is ‘a creator of ceremonies, ritual designer, transformational healer and companion at the thresholds. Inspired by nature, forged by my longing, devoted to remembering. Lover of moss, mushrooms, trees, wild swimming and moonlight’. I really recommend reading her ‘Who I am’ (https://islamacleod.com/who-i-am) page on her website. You’ll fall in love. 

    You’ll also fall in love hearing her talk about the magic she experiences on a daily basis thanks to her deep relationship with the natural world and how any of us can start to bring that magic and relationship with the natural world into our own lives. 

    So without further ado...here is the episode. Enjoy! 

    If you want to find out more about Isla, you’ll find her beautiful website over on https://islamacleod.com and I highly recommend following her on instagram @islajmacleod (https://www.instagram.com/islajmacleod/) and signing up to her newsletter here (https://mailchi.mp/3307cb27c84f/islamacleod)

    X Selina

    P.S. I am opening the doors to take on a handful of new people on my 5 Month Life Coaching journey (https://www.selinabarker.com/lifecoaching) . If you are feeling ready to create the life you really want to be living, then come and find out more about how I can help you do that: https://www.selinabarker.com/lifecoaching

  • Hello, it’s Vicki here and I have a brilliant episode for you today. 

    I got to speak to dating coaches David and Ahmad - to talk about Dating in Lockdown and how lockdown, with all of its restrictions, can be a really positive time for dating and making new connections with people.

    David and Ahmad are dating coaches who empower men to create meaningful and passionate connections based on authentic expression and emotional intelligence. And they do that through their Podcast ‘The Authentic Dating Series’ (https://www.authenticdatingseries.com/) , their talks, events and coaching.

    In this episode, David and Ahmad share their own personal dating journeys and how they have overcome fears of commitment and the fear of rejection and it’s this male vulnerability (and how they celebrate this in the work that they do) that I love about these two - something that is so often missing from the dating conversation. 

    I really hope this episode supports you on your dating journey.

    And if you are looking for some support and guidance on your dating journey and you’d love to have me as your love and dating coach, cheering you on as you go on dates, helping you to release dating anxiety and fears and supporting you through the ups and downs of modern dating then do reach out! Simply send me an email with the word ‘LOVE’ as the subject to vicki@vickipavitt.com and I’ll tell you all about the coaching that I offer.

    I hope you enjoy the episode 💜

    So much love, V xx

  • Hi lovely,

    We are back! After our quarterly monthly break from recording and we are jumping back behind the mics with a special relationship episode. 

    We got together with the playful power couple: Madeline (https://www.madelinemcqueen.com/) and David McQueen (https://www.davidmcqueen.co.uk/) to talk about how they have made love last (while having two children and running a business together) for thirty two years. 

    I’ve known Madeline and David for over ten years and they offered me invaluable guidance and advice on love and relationships in the years when I was dating.  They have always been intentionally open about talking about their relationship and sharing about the ups and downs, warts and all, of being in a long term relationship. They believe passionately that friendship in your relationship is key and that every relationship requires work to help it to thrive.

    They are also both coaches and so they bring a level of insight, self-awareness and a no-nonsense practical attitude to their relationship which you don’t often find in other couples. 

    They have so many pearls of wisdom to offer on how to make love last and so in this episode Vicki and I got to ask them about how they have made their love last for over thirty years and what advice they would give to others about how to cultivate a happy and healthy relationship. 

    As ever, when I speak to Madeline and David, I came away with so many gems and aha moments (and was squirming in my seat on a number of occasions too, as you’ll hear!). So I hope you find some valuable gems in this too.

    If you enjoy this episode please leave us some of those shiny 5 STARS on your podcast channel - every review makes such a difference (and it makes our day)! 

    Lots of love,

    x Selina

  • Hello lovely, 

    Well here we are, at the end of another quarter of 2020 and what a quarter it has been!

    In this week’s episode, we talk about how the last 3 months have been for us, our happiest moments, our most challenging moments and how we are navigating what is known as the ‘messy middle’ point of the pandemic.

    We’d love you to join us for this quarterly check-in, grab your Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journal if you have one or simply answer the questions as we go through them. As always, we find these quarterly reflections to be so nourishing and we hope you do too 😍

    Join us live!

    We also invite you to join us live on Thursday 8th October at 7pm (BST) on Zoom for our quarterly Project Love love-in. They are gorgeous - a chance for us all to pause and reflect on these past 3 months and to set our intentions and commitments for the following quarter. Sign up here (https://loveprojectlove.com/lovein) to join us!

    We really hope you enjoy this episode. It’s the last in the season as we take our scheduled podcast break in October. We’ll be back for a new podcast season in November!

    Much love,

    X Selina & Vicki

    PS the new Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal is out now! Head over here (https://www.thegoodbyehellojournal.com/) to grab a copy for you and your loved ones

    PPS this (https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-day-2/) is the Brené Brown podcast episode we mentioned