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For some families having lots of Halloween candy floating around our homes causes stress and strain. In this podcast learn some tricks for treating your whole family to a more fun and happy experience as you learn to set limits and boundaries while giving lots of choices and, occassionally, letting your kids make poor decisions.
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Hearing the phrase "secure attachment" makes us think of some academic thesis. BORING! Well, I want to help flip that idea in our minds to "CRUCIAL". Yes, having our kids see us as stable, reliable and empathetic beings in their lives is ESSENTIAL. In this podcast episode I talk to Eli Harwood, a therapist and "attachment nerd", as she calls herself on social media. We talk about how in her book, Raising Securely Attached Kids, you can learn to build a stable and trusting environment for our kids so they will thrive and grow.
In her examples of how secure parents approach problems you can feel relief in knowing there are successful strategies in creating confident kids who know we'll always have their backs.
Eli's new book:
Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy and ResilienceEli's Good Morning American appearance 8/31/24:
How to Manage Anxiety and Stress at the Beginning of the School YearEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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How much can a 2-, 3- or 4-year-old do? What can they do? They’re so little, right? A toddler? A preschooler? What’s reasonable? What’s not? Are you doing too much as a parent?
All good questions for sure that most of us struggle with! In this podcast we explore what’s reasonable to encourage and train young kids to do from chores to life skills that will build self-confidence and independence.
Feed themselvesPack backpackMake bedPick out clothesPut clothes in hamperWash their own hands by themselves
Here's the list of ideas we cover:
Personal accomplishments:Family Contributions
Setting the tableClearing dishesVacuumingDustingFold socksLoad laundry and start machineUnload/put away dishesWash windowsTake care of petsSimple cooking tasksOutdoor tasks
Pull weedsRake leavesWater plantsPersonal Growth
Learn how to have Solo Play TimeHave "Reading Time" on their ownLearn to ride a Balance BikeBe Assistant to Mom or Dad - these are done with JOY and with Mom or Dad, not alone
Help make a mealPick up dog poop or clean litter boxHelp take out the trashGarden - sweep, dig, plantClean - bathroom, mop floorEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Getting teens and tweens to talk to parents is an age old battle the repeats itself over and over again with each new generation. Times change but our teens wanting independence from us doesn't.
In this episode learn some tips and tricks for how to get our kids to relax and just enjoy being with us so that they'll open up and want to trust us.
There is a list of activities and how to use them to break down the barriers and engage your teens and tweens that should lead to building trusting relationships.
Here are links to things referenced in the episode:
YouTube video: Communicating with Teens
Blog Post Transcript Available HEREEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Kids of all ages need to feel connected and loved unconditionally. How can you set up a system in your family for creating and keeping those connections? In this podcast we go over connections for kids between 2 and 10. The next podcast covers what you can do for teens and tweens, a much harder demographic than younger kids who still think the world of you.
In this episode we explore ideas on how to have regular "quick" connections on a daily or weekly basis while also considering longer "dates" with our kids. We talk about how the intention is for each parent to have one-on-one time with each kid in their family.
There are examples of how some families have accomplished this as well as resources for ideas on what to do for "short" connections as well as times to connect in longer, more meaningful ways.
The goal is to set up connections that can go deep and will continue on into their tween and teen years.
Hint: Start young!
Resources for this podcast:
30 Joyful Ways to Connect by OneTimeThrough
56 Ways to Connect With Your Kids by TalkingParents.comEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Grumpy kids can really put your home into a foul mood. What can we do to help tame these dark clouds and bring some sunshine back into our lives?
In this episode we'll cover these four steps:Step 1 – Keep Your Cool
Step 2 – Offer Empathy and Hugs
Step 3 - Fix the Broken Connection
Step 4 – Go on a Trigger Quest and Brainstorm
Kings Corner Card Game YouTube Instruction Video Mood Meter Graphic
The transcript for this episode is HERE
Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:Parenting Decoded YouTube Videos
Communicating with Teens and Tweens Parenting Decoded YouTube Video Getting Kids to Listen Being a Calm ParentParenting Decoded Podcast Link
Anger Management for ParentsEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Parents struggle with how to motivate their children toward certain behaviors. Typically rewards and bribes are used.
In this episode learn about when bribes and rewards are most likely to motivate your child. There are pros and cons of both types of motivations. Bribes tend to reinforce negative behaviors, while rewards are commonly thought of as something that's planned ahead and well-thought-out, used for positive behaviors.
However, sometimes our plans backfire! When? How? What do we do? Listen and learn!
Click HERE for a written transcript on my website.Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Kids being bullied isn't new. What's new is the extent at which they are being bullied and, with the internet, in new and harmful ways.
https://router-network.com/education/anti-bullying-guidehttps://kidshealth.org/en/parents/bullies.htmlhttps://www.pacer.org/bullying/https://www.stopbullying.gov/
In this episode, we'll cover the different types of bullying:
Verbal - teasing, name-calling, taunting, etc.,
Social - spreading rumors, leaving kids out, embarrassing them, etc.
Physical - hitting, spitting, tripping, etc.
Cyberbullying - using digital devices to cause others harm
Why does bullying occur?
What can families do?
How you can role-play and brainstorm with your child.
Here are resources referenced in the podcast that are also on the transcript that is available and on my website blog:Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Do you have an anxious child? Does it worry you or drive you crazy? Either way you need to listen to this podcast!
Being over reassuringSwooping in/Jumping in too soonAllowing avoidanceBeing too tough or critical
Learn about the 4 different types of anxiety, then the 4 parenting traps that we fall into when we attempt to "help" that wind up having negative impacts.In this podcast, hear from Stephanie Pinto, founder of Let’s Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids and author of the best-selling book From Chaos to Connection. We talk about how parents can support their kids who have anxiety.
Find Stephanie and her resources at www.Stephaniepinto.com. She’s amazing!
Here’s a link to her FACEBOOK and INSTAGRAM if you’d like to follow her.Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Today with the launch of the Barbie movie and so much emphasis on selfies and having perfect bodies, it's worth considering how we help out the millions of kids who aren't "perfect".
In this episode I interview Pam Luk, Founder of Ember & Ace, a clothing brand for plus-sized kids. We talk about how to support our kids both socially and emotionally as well as how we as parents need to tamp down our own feelings about perfection that harm our kids in emotional ways that hurt more than help.
Here is a link to Ember & Ace if you'd like to take a peek at their offerings and learn more about them:
https://www.emberandace.com/Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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What do you with kids who are wired differently? Who might be on the spectrum (ADHD, Asperger's, OCD, etc.)? Maybe they've had a diagnosis, maybe you just can see they are off the charts brilliant and some things but a total failure at socializing with kids their age.
If you have such challenges with your kids, take a listen to Sam Young of Young Scholars Academy in this episode as he explains how his online community for neurodivergent and gifted children works. He brings a strength-based approach to getting our kids to connect in healthy, positive ways while learning at the same time. Lots of topics for kids to connect in small group classes with mentors who help them connect while teaching. What a concept, like minded-students can finally find "their people"!
Young Scholars Academy can be found at YOUNG SCHOLARS ACADEMY.
A list of their classes for FALL 2023 is at FALL 2023 COURSES. If you listen and need this link after Fall 2023, just go to the main website and choose "Courses" from the main menu.
For anyone listening, there's a special discount of 15% off any classes booked for first-time students!
Use Code: YSAPARENTINGDECODED15Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Some kids seem to be born not caring where stuff is. They rely on us to find things and if we can't find them they blame US! Yikes!
This episode gives you ideas about how to let go of the responsibility for items in our kids lives that should be THEIRS but seem to have become OURS.
Learn how to keep a calm head as we turn over the job of owning "stuff" back to our kids in loving ways.
Step 1: Turn off the "mom finder" that enables kids lack of responsibility
Step 2: Learn how to Brainstorm solutionsEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Most parents seem to get hit with this at some point in our parenting journey. It can start at around 6-7 months and usually goes away gradually throughout early childhood. But… sometimes we’re just put to the test with separation issues and we wish someone would let us know what’s normal, what’s extreme and give us some ideas about what to do.
In this podcast we have Jessica O’Connor, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist to help step us through ideas in dealing with separation at different ages and stages.
For more details about separation anxiety and what do to:
LINK TO BLOG FOR PODCAST 56
To reach Jessica O'Connor:
www.jessicaoconnor.org
Lastly, if you are having issues in dealing with yourself or your child please reach out to the 24/7 National Helpline for Substance abuse and mental health services administration 1-800-662-HELP (4357).Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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Listen to Heath Wilson, co-founder of Aro, talk about their innovative technology that helps families develop good screen habits in a positive and fun way.
There's a smart tech "box" to hold your devices when families decide to have non-tech time and an app that will track how long technology has been in the box. It's the complete opposite of our normal "get off your device" that many families fight about now,! This is more like: "hey, how fun to see how long you been off your device" twist!
You can use the app to have contests with both adults and kids and even track what you were doing while your devices have been in the box. So cool!
Here's a link : GOARO.COM
I have a few other podcasts mentioned that can help parents looking for more info in dealing with screen time :
Podcast 11: Screen Time Issues - Part 1
ages preschool through elementary
Podcast 12: Screen Time Issues - Part 2
ages middle to high school
Podcast 44: Screen Time Struggles
how to deal with screen addictions with Emily CherkinEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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There are so many pressures we face as parents but one of the most challenging can be managing our own parents when it comes to gifting to their grandkids. It's enough to drive some of us crazy!
The gift of time from movie passes to tickets to museums or water parksLessons - music, art, karate, whatever!Donations to a college or savings fundCoupon Book made by the grandparents with fun events from sleep overs to paint your nailsLots of other ideas when you listen!
In this episode we'll talk about the types of interference we might be dealing from our family values being over run to dealing with huge amounts of clutter that we have to organize not to how too many toys can interfere with creativity in our kids. Take a listen to hear more possible issues.
What can you do?
Start by having Family meetings with your parents and in-laws. COMMUNICATE!
Set clear boundaries and offer ideas of what you'd like to see happen. Be willing to compromise and, again, communicate with those you love.
Ideas for gifts they can give:Materials mentioned in the podcast about too many toys and kids:
Psychology Today Article
Today's Parent Article
TRANSCRIPTEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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When you have a child who refuses to read or is delayed in their reading compared to their peers it can be a very stressful time for parents as we try to navigate the what-to-dos and the why-is this-happening-to-my-child thoughts that constantly run through our minds. The same stress can hit us when our kids don’t want to write and then again if they start falling into the “I hate school” mode which really tears us up.
Having learning differences can contribute heavily to this stressful time but knowing what to do and what resources you can employ in your home and in child’s school environment can make a huge difference.
This is why I’ve interviewed Dr. Victoria Waller on this podcast, to provide you with ideas for getting to those resources that your child needs. She’s recently released her book YES! Your Child Can: Creating Success for Children with Learning Differences in which she’s poured her 40 years of experience working with and studying learning differences in children. It’s an invaluable resource and I want you to all know about it.
Take a listen to hear amazing ideas of how to creatively activate the passions of our kids to ignite their abilities to learn. Also find out how to engage teachers and tutors to help leverage those passions to get your child onto a path of success.
Here's a link to order the book: YES! Your Child Can
If you'd like to contact Dr. Waller: WebsiteEmail me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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In this third installment of my manners series we discuss how to train your kids to chew their food with their mouths closed. It can be a challenge but with some consistency, love and a bit of fun and games it's possible to move your kids into the social graces.
There are two books for younger kids that might come in handy:
“How Dinosaurs Eat Their Food” by Jane Yolen
“Dinner with Olivia” by Emily Sollinger
Here's a copy of the TRANSCRIPT on my website.
Also, feel free to email me with other questions -- [email protected].Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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When kids drain our energy by doing things that drive us crazy we need to respond in a loving and empathetic manner. However, when we're so tired of them doing things that drain us -- like whining, talking back, fighting with their siblings, or ignoring screen time limits -- we just don't know what to do.
In this podcast you'll learn not only how to recognize things that drain your energy but how to let your kids know and then ask them to do things for you that help replenish that energy.
Our kids to need to learn to recognize how their poor decisions to misbehave affect other people. We want to raise kids who are respectful and responsible and this energy replacement can help do just that!
Click here for a list of Energy Drain Replacement Ideas
TRANSCRIPT HERE
If you have questions, email me at [email protected].Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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What was Mary like as a parent? In this special episode hear from Mary's two grown sons on what it was like growing up with Mary as a parent. They talk about how natural consequences shaped them and how energy drains encouraged them to make better decisions among other topics.
This episode was created at the request of Mary's Facebook Group, Parenting Decoded, who were curious about the long term impact of good, solid parenting techniques on children. What better examples than Mary's boys who went from having a helicopter mom to a consultant mom when they were in middle school. A big change!
What grade did Mary get from her boys on her parenting skills? Take a listen and hear it for yourself!Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
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In this episode we learn how to get our kids to say “thank you” and how to help develop a general sense of appreciation for not only “things” but also training them in thankfulness which will help to promote an “attitude of gratitude”.
Start Early Be ConsistentGive Praise for using Thank You Use Family Meetings to Set ExpectationsSet up Family Thanking EventsDinner time thank you routinesBedtime blessings routineThank you note practice for birthdays and holidaysMake it FUN! We'll talk about a few ideas for setting up a "fancy dinner" so we can practice all our manners in a creative and fun way.Lastly, we'll go over how important modeling good "thank you" practices can be in helping bring thankfulness in our homes.
TRANSCRIPT AVAILABLE HERE
Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com.
Have a blessed rest of your day! - Visa fler
