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In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to explore a fascinating angle on hoarding: its artistic side. We'll tackle the connection between creativity and hoarding, including why so many people who hoard are into arts and crafts, and diving into how people who hoard might view their possessions in an unusually aesthetic light. Jan shares insights from both clinical experience and research, offering a fresh perspective on the parallels between art and accumulation. Whether you're a creative type or just curious about the psychology behind collecting, this conversation will give you plenty to think about.
Curiosity: Example of using curiosity to cope with pain.Gratitude: Using the Finch app to practice gratitude daily.Journaling: Imperfect journaling as a new approach to managing emotions.Arty, Crafty Side of HoardingTrends seen in clients regarding art and hoardingThe challenge of managing craft supplies in people who hoardAnalysing Creativity and HoardingComparison to detectives and acute perceptionConsideration of feeling overlookedStruggles with Crafting and PerfectionismChallenges in starting and completing craft projectsStudy on Artists and HoardingTraits shared by studio artists and people who hoardADHD and executive dysfunction parallelsArt and Beauty in HoardingTendency to keep beautiful thingsStruggles with displaying or appreciating collected itemsAnalysis of Andy Warhol's AccumulationDiscussion of Warhol’s collection as art vs. hoardingSocioeconomic and behavioural aspects of collecting vs. hoardingAesthetics and Inclusion in HoardingDiscussion of under-inclusiveness in categorising objectsExploration of seeing beauty in ordinary objectsPotential Neurodevelopmental Aspects of HoardingInsights from MRI studyBrain regions potentially linked to hoarding behavioursUsing Art to Represent Hoarding SpaceArtists using clutter and hoarding as themes in artQuestioning the nature of representing hoarding through artFear of Sterile and Soulless HomesAddressing the fear that tidiness equals lack of personalityDiscussing clutter core and maximising aesthetic displays -
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In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger, a psychologist at De Montfort University who has researched how hoarding behaviours develop and the potential for early intervention. We explore the importance of looking beyond physical clutter to understand what possessions mean for those with hoarding tendencies and discuss the role of trauma, loss and life transitions. Plus, we touch on the challenges and potential pathways for early intervention in children and young people.
Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Path to Studying HoardingInfluence of TV programmes about hoarding.Curiosity about the development of hoarding behaviours.Research on Hoarding Behaviours and ChildhoodDiscussion on hoarding behaviours beginning in childhood or adolescence.Experiences shared by research participants.Understanding 'Struggling to Manage'Explanation of the concept derived from research.Methods used by Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger in her research.Qualitative study and grounded theory methodology.Patterns of Hoarding DevelopmentManaging possessions and life.Emotional attachments and meanings of possessions.Impact of life transitions on hoarding behaviour.Overcoming Hoarding ChallengesImportance of support beyond possessionsIdentity and functioning challenges for individuals with hoarding disorder.Early Intervention in HoardingDifficulty in identifying people who need early intervention.Importance of awareness and understanding childhood behaviours.Diagnostic Criteria and Support ChallengesDiscussion on current diagnostic criteria for hoarding disorder.Difficulties in accessing support without a diagnosis.Potential Patterns and Findings in Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's ResearchEmotional attachments and decision-making reluctance.Preferences for discarding possessions through certain methods.Advice for Parents about children showing hoarding behavioursRecommendations for parents of children displaying hoarding-related behaviours.Importance of communication and understanding the emotional meanings attached to items.Emphasis on trauma and loss in hoarding behaviours.Importance of understanding personal experiences in hoarding -
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In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard.
Sam’s experience growing up in a hoarded homeImportance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoardingSam’s Childhood ExperienceDescription of upbringing in a hoarded homeEmotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxietyLack of emotional and physical spaceExperiences of shame and comparison with peersCoping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily LifeSam's view of their home as an obstacle courseImpact of hoarding on family relationshipsLack of privacy and its influence on personal developmentImpact on Self-Esteem and Mental HealthStruggle with self-esteem and self-careConnection between environment and depressionFeelings of negativity and isolationSchool and Social InteractionsEffect on academic performance and organisational skillsChallenges in completing schoolworkExperiences with friends visiting the home and related anxietiesAdolescence and Growing AwarenessAnger and frustration during teenage yearsLack of external intervention and supportMissed opportunities for professional helpExternal Perception and Professional InsightOutside family and societal perceptions of hoardingDrip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming othersRelationship with Food and NutritionNegative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smellsOngoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruitRebuilding a relationship with food as an adultLeaving the Home and IndependenceSam’s experience and decision to move out at 20Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded homeContinued responsibilities in a second hoarded homeLong-term Effects on Sam’s Adult LifeInfluence on career choice and support work with young carersOngoing challenges with personal organisation and self-careStruggles with mental health and burnoutSam’s Relationship with FamilyComplex relationship dynamics with parentsLack of understanding from parents regarding Sam’s struggles and decisionsReflection on parental insight into hoarding and its effects on familyCurrent Relationship with Hoarding and CleaningSam’s approach to possessionsEmotional responses to cleaning and organising tasksDeveloping the skillset for maintaining an organised living spaceMessage for Others Experiencing Similar SituationsEncouragement for other young carers and children of hoardersImportance of self-worth and identity outside of hoarding stigmasStrategies for mental health and personal growthFinal Thoughts and ReflectionsReflections on how sharing and exploration helps understandingHope for the interview to be beneficial to listeners with similar experiences -
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Today, I'm reflecting on 11 unexpected lessons I've picked up since starting this podcast, which go beyond just understanding hoarding disorder. From learning the power of showing progress rather than perfection, to discovering the benefits of stepping out of my comfort zone, I'll share insights that have influenced not just my journey with hoarding, but life as a whole.
Let's see how the themes of mistakes, progress, and learning can apply to anyone seeking positive change.
Importance of showing progress instead of aiming for perfectionPersonal struggle with early episodes and progression over timeDecision to keep early episodes live as a reflection of journey and growthExamining ContradictionsRealisation of contradictions in personal life versus podcastingApplying podcast editing philosophy to home tidyingCapabilities and AchievementsRealisation of being able to do things previously thought impossibleLearning from incremental progress and its application to lifeComfort ZonesExploring stepping outside of comfort zonesThe rewards of nudging the edges and expanding comfort zones slowlyLearning and GrowthStarting from minimal knowledge and continuously learningAcademic engagement and gaining comprehensive understandingSticking to a RoutineMaintaining a consistent schedule and routine with the podcastRole of accountability and motivation in sticking to a routineAdaptability and ChangeAbility to learn, adapt, and tweak processes over timeApplication of flexibility learned from podcasting to personal lifeCommunity and AccountabilityImpact of accountability and community support on podcasting and lifeBuilding mutual support through interactions and feedbackFacing Mistakes and RealityEmbracing mistakes and authenticity rather than striving for flawlessnessShifting perspective on self-perceived failuresRespect and Compassion from OthersReceiving respect from guests and listeners despite personal doubtsImpact on self-compassion and self-respectTransferability of LearningApplying lessons learned in podcasting to other areas of lifeRecognising that growth in one area can benefit othersReflections on the transformative impact of the podcast on lifeEncouragement to pursue growth and new experiences beyond direct goals -
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In today's episode, I talk about the practical challenges of handling clothes when losing or gaining weight, without promoting or criticising body size changes – this is a diet-culture free zone! I look at the emotional, nostalgic, and practical hurdles in letting go of clothes that no longer fit and offer advice on maintaining a well-balanced wardrobe while managing current size transitions. Like, what do we buy in our new size?! Plus, I'll provide practical tips on selling or donating old clothes and how to avoid over-accumulating in your new size.
Handling Clothes When Gaining or Losing WeightExperience with Weight FluctuationEmotional and Practical Challenges of Clothes That No Longer FitChallenges of Discarding ClothesEmotional Attachment to ClothesDifficulty in Letting Go of Clothes with Memories or AssociationsFactors Influencing the Decision to Keep or Discard ClothesPotential Future Weight FluctuationsEmotional AttachmentsThe Sunk Cost FallacyGuilt About WasteStrategies for Managing Clothes When Weight ChangesBuilding the Dehoarding MuscleSelling vs. Donating ClothesSetting Parameters for Clothing StoragePractical Solutions for Current Clothing NeedsShopping Your Own StuffGradual Replacement StrategyMindful Purchasing DecisionsThe Liberating Aspects of Letting Go of Clothes -
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In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter.
Inviting Professional HelpJasmine explains common motivators for people to seek helpSpecific incidents or realisations prompting actionExample scenarios like misplaced items or repairsThe Initial Call to a Professional OrganiserWhat typically prompts the call for professional helpJasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach outThe importance of taking calls seriously and with empathyEngaging with Potential ClientsApproach to initial conversations with potential clientsBuilding trust and understanding the client's situationEstablishing client needs and potential outcomesAssessing the Client’s HomeHow Jasmine gathers information about the client's homeImportance of assessing without judgmentConsidering client interaction with their items and living spaceProfessional Organiser-Client DynamicsRespecting clients’ preferences and leading decisionsBalancing professional insight with client autonomyWorking towards the client's goals and prioritiesProcess from Inquiry to Working TogetherSteps from initial inquiry to in-home visitManaging client expectations and realitiesEnsuring client comfort and readinessIn-Home Visit ExperienceJasmine’s mindset and approach during a home visitAvoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalismLogistical and emotional assessments of the client’s environmentJudgment and Perception in the Decluttering ProcessBeing conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clientsStrategies for maintaining client comfort and trustDetermining Fit and ReferralsAssessing fit between client and professional organiserReferring clients to other professionals when appropriateDealing with Client Motivations and External PressuresAddressing clients seeking help due to external pressuresFinding a balance between urgency and client readinessEnsuring Positive Outcomes and Encouraging Future EngagementCreating a sense of achievement for the clientFostering positive experiences to encourage future self-helpChallenges and Responsibilities of Professional OrganisersEthical responsibilities and managing client expectationsBuilding trust for effective collaborationPersonal Reflections and Habits for Mental HealthJasmine shares personal habits that support her mental healthReflection on the importance of reading and self-care activities -
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In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I explore how to create a ventral vagal space or touchstone to help us regulate our emotions, drawing inspiration from the work of Deb Dana and polyvagal theory. We look at how we can find or create areas within our home, and objects we can use on the go, that provide safety and connection, allowing us to feel grounded and manage overwhelming moments. We'll look at the emotional significance of objects, avoiding those that glower at us, and instead creating spaces filled with comfort and warmth.
Creating Your Own Ventral Vagal SpacePermission Slip segmentDiscussion about photographic portraitsEmotions associated with the portraitsObjects as MemoriesSignificant memories vs. happy memoriesHarriet Impey's notion of "glowering" objectsEmotional Impact of ObjectsPortraits as a reminder of insecurityVentral Vagal Space ConceptUse of Deb Dana's work in polyvagal theoryConnection between emotional safety and physical spaceExplanation of Polyvagal TheoryBreakdown of the nervous system's stages: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagalRelevance of Polyvagal Theory to HoardingTrauma and its relation to object attachmentChallenges of decision-making in a cluttered environmentDeb Dana's Home Analogy - Comparison of home systems to body's autonomic systemsIntegration needed for a "full life" and connectionPractical Application of Ventral Vagal SpacesCreating nourishing home spacesAbundanceImportance of TouchstonesExplanation and significance of touchstonesExamples of personal or portable calming itemsCreating a Ventral Vagal Space or TouchstoneStarting small by identifying objects that bring safety and contentmentUsing childhood memories to influence current safe spacesApplications and BenefitsUsing the space for emotional regulationTouchstones as portable reminders of safetyRecognising objects that already serve as touchstonesImportance of awareness and observation in identifying touchstonesUtilising Resources for GroundingExamples of resources: lava lamps, messages, certain soundsStrategies for implementing these resources in daily life -
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In today's episode, I'm sharing nine strategies that are making a real difference in managing my hoarding behaviour and curbing over-acquiring right now. From tricks to overcome perfectionism and opening a daunting pile of letters to finding support in unexpected places and even leveraging a cute app, these tactics are moving me forward.
Join me as I lay out what's working, in the hope it sparks a few ideas for you too.
Opening 100 unopened lettersOvercoming fear and procrastinationSorting coins and dealing with obsolete itemsDecision-making process in letting goRecognising dehoarding as self-kindness, not punishmentBenefits of having a friend who knows the hoarding situationManaging perfectionism and doing things imperfectlyUsing the "hummingbird method" for tasksIntroduction and use of the Finch app for self-careUsing virtual assistants for task remindersSuccess with excessive mug collection and food cupboardsImpact of the documentary "Buy Now" on purchasing habitsChanging relationship with the inner criticOvercoming Mail Anxiety MilestoneKindness, Not ChoreEmbrace Imperfection for Future GrowthHands-Free Task ManagementBest-before dates at the start of the yearConsumerism DocumentaryCurbing Instant Gratification -
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In today's episode, I chat with Harriet Impey about the complex process of clearing out her parents' cluttered house after their deaths. From unusual family rules to emotional ties with objects, we cover how Harriet navigated the challenges of sorting belongings, her family dynamics, and the personal growth she experienced along the way navigating emotional landscapes.
We also talk about whether her parents hoarded and how their relationship with their stuff has affected her relationship with her stuff. Plus, we discuss the importance of letting go, embracing mindfulness, and the transformative power of therapy.
Trailer: Where Dragons Live: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ARgzYZei8 Growing up in a cluttered house and realisation later in lifeHarriet's mother's attachment to objects and possible hoardingInfluence of family habits on personal behaviourRelationships and Emotional AwarenessHarriet's journey towards emotional awareness and accepting imperfectionsImportance of recognising complex feelingsManaging fear of arguments and expressing angerUsing Objects Instead of Saving ThemHarriet's family preference for keeping items "too special to use"Transition to using these items with joyFamily Dynamics and Emotional SuppressionDifferences in attitudes towards possessions among Harriet and her siblingsParents' contrasting approaches to objectsImpact of her mother's anxiety on household rules and behaviorClearing Out Parents' HomeHarriet's responsibility in sorting through parental belongingsEmotional impact of dealing with deceased person's possessionsReference to "Swedish Death Cleaning"Importance of considerate item managementTherapy and Self-ReflectionHarriet's 20 years of therapy and its impactThe influence of therapy on personal happiness and self-awarenessLearning to be less rigid in lifeManaging and Letting Go of BelongingsEvaluating the necessity of keeping certain belongingsMindfulness and Mental HealthMindful self-compassion and ACTThe filming of "Where Dragons Live"The dual charm and burden of the family homePersonal Experiences and Family Impact -
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In this episode, I discuss Ren's song "Hi Ren," a mind-blowing exploration of inner conflict that blows apart ideas about the balance between darkness and light within us all. We'll unpack Ren's introspective lyrics, which explore themes like mental illness and creativity, and consider his take on life and what we can learn from it. I share how this song's impact has resonated with my own journey in dealing with grief and the inner critic.
Watch the original song by Ren here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc&pp=ygUGaGkgcmVu
Impact of "Hi Ren" by Ren Gill on my lifeRelation to grief and managing the inner criticThemes of Strength and HopeInner strength and resilience amidst challengesInner ConflictIllness and psychological battlesThe pendulum metaphor, advocating acceptanceUniversal evil and inner conflictDark side as defensive rather than malevolentChaos and division as intrinsic parts of selfIdentification with 'hope' indicating a shift towards optimismLife as a DanceComplexity and humanity over supernatural perfectionEpisode contains sensitive topics including swearing, suicide, and mental distressSong AnalysisExploration of mental illness and creativity strugglesConnection to personal inner critic experiencesDialogue between Ren's dark and light personasDiscussion of inner conflict and personal growthInternal struggle about personal achievementsDark side's criticism of Ren’s insecuritiesRen’s music achieving 43 million YouTube viewsDark side as a symbol of temptation and negativityHost's parallel with personal inner criticsSteve Chapman's TED talk on inner criticsEmotional impact of "Hi Ren" song on the hostDark Ren attacks out of fear and insecurity.Inner critic misconstrues protection as help.Inner critic always undermines self-confidence, futile.Ren's song conveys hope's profound impact.Embrace change; it's an evolving balance.Struggling makes us human, imperfect, and relatable. -
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Exploring impermanence, this episode highlights how these concepts can help us understand hoarding behaviours and the illusion of control. Looking at impermanence also includes addressing mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, coping with change, ambiguity and uncertainty. Yikes!
Embracing ImpermanencePsychological benefits of impermanenceConcept of "glimmers"Interplay between mindfulness and impermanenceFernández-Campos paper on non-judgmental attentionCritique of commercial distortion of mindfulnessJon Kabat-Zinn’s definition of mindfulnessPractical mindfulness exercisesMindfulness in Hoarding ContextPsychological dimensions and security from possessionsEnvironmental Responsibility vs. HoardingPersonal insights on waste and possessionsUncertainty, Ambiguity, and Impermanence in HoardingTolerance of uncertainty and ambiguityEmbracing impermanence to reduce distressAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and HoardingPsychological flexibility and acceptance of constant changeACT's promotion of resilienceUse of ACT and Compassion Focused TherapyRadical AcceptanceSteps to practice radical acceptanceAwareness and curiosity toward challengesVocalising Thoughts and JournalingBenefits of speaking thoughts aloudBuddhist Concepts and ImpermanenceAwareness and acceptance in BuddhismTara Brach’s qualities of awarenessPersonal Reflections on Change and RelationshipsResisting and coming to terms with change"Permission Slip" SegmentConcept of Control and Suffering in HoardingDesire for permanence leading to hoarding behaviourJustifications for Keeping ItemsAvoiding unnecessary consumptionEthical decision-making when buyingIncreasing Awareness and Understanding Personal MotivationsPromoting curiosity through being without something -
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In today's episode, I ask Dr Chia-Ying Chou about the complex interplay between grief and hoarding. We'll explore how emotions like grief can trigger hoarding behaviour, the role an inner critic plays, and learn all about compassion-focused therapy – including why it’s so much easier to offer compassion than to receive it. The timing is perfect, coinciding with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK.
Grief and Hoarding DiscussionChia-Ying Chou discusses the non-direct link between grief and hoarding based on clinical experience.Factors such as resistance to grieving and avoiding vulnerability exacerbate hoarding.Grief can trigger hoarding behaviour to maintain a sense of control and avoid confronting loss.Host shares personal experiences of how grief intensified their hoarding behaviour.Grief and PossessionsPeople keep deceased loved ones' belongings as a way to preserve their existence.Chou mentions the ambiguous preservation of loved ones through items.Anxiety and resistance to facing grief make organising or discarding possessions difficult.Complex Emotions in GriefHost reflects on the unexpected emotions in grief, like anger or impatience.Therapeutic Strategies for Grief and HoardingChou compares addressing resistance to grief to preparing for a challenging hike.Emphasis on resourcing, preparing mentally, and gathering support.Suggestions for a "baby-step" approach to facing fears and emotions.Inner Critic and GriefHost discusses journey with their inner critic and finding new approaches to handle it.Chou highlights how internal criticism is often related to grief and missed opportunities.Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT)Integration of Western psychotherapy and Buddhist philosophy for addressing psychological challenges.Difficulty in receiving or directing compassion towards oneself.Connections Between Hoarding, Trauma, and GriefPatterns of loss, either tangible or intangible, among those who hoard.Episode ties with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK.Cultivating Compassionate CompanionsIdea of cultivating an imaginary compassionate companion for emotional support.Emphasis on emotions being a part of persona, not the true self.Emotions and Grief ManagementPacing yourself.Chou recommends creating space for emotions to surface naturally.Encouragement to welcome emotions as a creative process in internal space.Examine fears and take small steps to engage with feelings. -
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Today, I'm with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about the fascinating art of kintsugi and how it connects with hoarding and trauma recovery. We explore how this Japanese tradition of mending broken pottery with gold has lessons for us about the therapeutic journey and the beauty in imperfection. We also discuss how these concepts apply to overcoming perfectionism in hoarding and highlight the empowering process of creating, destroying, and rebuilding.
Introduction to Kintsugi and Dr. Jan EppingstallExplanation of kintsugi as a Japanese art form of repairing objects with gold.Kintsugi and the connection to recovery from trauma.Kintsugi as a Metaphor for HealingImportance of acknowledging the process of healing without oversimplification.Reference to Amy Price's article about kintsugi symbolising care and time.Discussion of Tomas Navarro's book and the importance of action in healing.Psychological and Therapeutic ImplicationsMetaphor in therapy for expressing complex emotions.Application of kintsugi philosophy in mental health contexts, including trauma recovery.Relation to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), acceptance, and resilience.The real-life application of acceptance and self-compassion.Creation, Destruction, and RebuildingCreate, destroy and recreate art as part of personal healing.Parallel with kintsugi in wabi sabi / finding beauty in imperfection.Personal Empowerment and ResilienceEmpowerment through courage and resilience using scars as a metaphor.Resonance with Leonard CohenIdea of imperfection as a means for transformation.Contrasts with Modern ConsumerismKintsugi and wabi sabi's focus on the beauty of imperfection and impermanence.Reference to Beth Kempton's book on creating serene, beautiful spaces.Addressing Perfectionism and HoardingApplication of kintsugi principles to address perfectionism in hoarding.Exploration of creating, destroying, and rebuilding as a therapeutic exercise."Wreck This Journal" to overcome artistic perfectionism. -
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In this episode, I propose ten experiments to help customise your decluttering journey, focusing on individual preferences to uncover what strategies work best in your home. These experiments encourage a flexible approach to dehoarding. It's all about tailoring your methods to fit your style and your personality, ensuring that decluttering becomes a more intuitive and effective process.
Approaching Tasks as ExperimentsTasks viewed as experiments inspired by CBTReduction of perfectionist pressureEmphasis on personal differences and no right or wrong answersTesting different time slots for tasksEffectiveness of beginning the day with decluttering"Swallowing the frog" conceptLong-term goals vs. short-term goals for motivationExperimentation and Adjusting Over TimePeriodic repetition of experiments to adapt to changesUse of structured time frames and spontaneous urges to declutterExperimenting with personal preferences for initiating actionOptions such as music, TV, silence, social interaction, or media consumptionUse of podcast as motivational toolUpbeat music playlistGroup accountability sessions via Zoom for shared motivationProductivity based on to-do list specificityDecluttering strategies: by space, type of item, or item within a spaceHandling Difficult CategoriesApproach to emotionally challenging itemsTailoring strategy based on personal readinessConsistency in DehoardingShort daily durations vs. longer weekly sessionsFinding the best fit based on routineTime ConstraintsSetting strict vs. flexible schedulesCombination of structured and spontaneous effortsPersonalising Decluttering and Productivity MethodsFocus on individual preferences and method effectiveness -
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In today's episode, I talk about the strategies I've been trying to address over-acquisition and manage my finances, from savings pots to practising 'just-in-time' shopping. I explain how these methods, alongside mindfully resisting impulse buys and more, are helping me reduce clutter.
Personal Financial ManagementDedicated accounts with savings pots for various expenses like glasses, car repairs, and gifts.Spending limits.Evaluating the necessity of purchases.Reflecting on past financial struggles.The tendency to overprepare due to fear of scarcity.The impact of hoarding on life, such as emotional pain from bereavements.The challenge of trusting that resources will be available when needed.Shopping Habits and StrategiesEmphasising rationality in shopping.The "just in time" shopping approach to combat over-acquiring.Mindful shopping techniquesChecking existing supplies before shopping.Using shopping lists with flexible categories.Resisting urge-driven purchases like discounts.Mindful Financial PracticesExploring alternative uses for money beyond impulse buys.Prioritising spending on quality experiences.Past Financial Hardship and Emotional ImpactPast experiences of financial hardship leading to anxiety and hoarding.Reflecting on the emotional impact from periods like the COVID-19 pandemic.Personal Growth and Overcoming BeliefsEncouragement to try despite potential failures. -
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Avoiding the chaos of complex idea capture systems is vital for preventing distraction and overwhelm. Today, I'm sharing practical strategies for transitioning from idea capture to action, breaking down large tasks into manageable subtasks and exploring tools like Google Tasks and voice assistants for prioritisation and organisation. Plus, I reflect on my own long-term struggle with to-do lists and how to experiment with different approaches to find a system that suits your needs.
Simplifying Idea CaptureAvoid complex systems to prevent distraction and overwhelm.Focus on simple, streamlined methods for capturing ideas.Set dedicated idea capture times to minimise distractions.Organising Idea Capture MaterialsEnsure materials and tools are easily accessible.Utilise technology for effortless idea capture using voice assistants.Transitioning from Idea Capture to ActionPrioritise tasks based on urgency, impact, or personal goals.Structure and prioritise tasks.Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable subtasks.Combining Digital and Non-Digital MethodsUse written to-do lists to complement digital systems for immediate tasks.Essential Elements for an Effective SystemThinker's Notebook's five elements: omnipresence, efficiency, organisation, security, and offline thinking.Exploring Digital and Non-Digital ToolsPopular digital tools: Evernote, OneNote, ToodleDo, Todoist, Trello, Taiga.io, Google Calendar, Outlook Calendar, Google Tasks.Non-digital methods: scraps of paper, notebooks, preprinted planners, bullet journals, mind maps.Personalising the Capture MethodImportance of selecting a method suited to personal preferences and technical comfort level.Experimentation with different approaches.Two-Step Strategy for Idea CaptureCombine digital or portable capture methods with comprehensive home organisation tools.Mind Mapping for SubtasksUse mind maps to break down tasks, providing a visual representation.Realistic Time ManagementDecide on timings based on deadlines and personal flexibility.Visual Task ManagementTrack progress and prioritise tasks using visual tools like checklists or kanban boards.Prioritisation and Breaking Down TasksOrganise tasks by priority for easier management.Divide large tasks into smaller parts for simplification.Timely Task ExecutionBe realistic about time required for tasks and accommodate flexibility.Psychological Boost from CompletionMark tasks as completed for a dopamine boost and visual progress tracking.Adapting Idea Capture SystemsExperiment with various methods to find an effective system that suits personal needs and goals. -
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In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall, a counsellor with a PhD in hoarding, to discuss the phenomenon of digital hoarding, where people accumulate excessive digital items.
We'll explore the emotional responses to losing digital content, the organisational and environmental implications of digital clutter, and strategies for managing our ever-growing digital lives.
From the nostalgic pull of old photos to the overwhelming influx of emails, this conversation reveals the surprising similarities between physical and digital hoarding.
Introduction to Digital HoardingDefinition of digital hoardingComparison with physical hoarding, highlighting similar stress, anxiety, and attachment.Emotional Responses to Digital LossNon-hoarders experiencing emotions like anger and anxiety over losing digital items.Technological Advancements and Digital StorageThe proliferation of digital content creation, especially digital photos.Impact of technology on creating and storing digital content.Historical context of storage limitations versus current capabilities.Broader Implications of Digital HoardingExtending beyond photos and videos to emails, subscriptions, and digital accounts.Cybersecurity risks and financial costs associated with digital hoarding.Reasons we retain digital content.Emotional Attachment and Digital DataEmotional ties to digital items like photos and documents.Reflecting identity and memory triggers in digital possessions.Digital Organisation StrategiesHost's impeccably organised digital life contrasted with a cluttered home.Tiago Forte's PARA method for prioritising digital items.Inbox Zero and maintaining an organised email setup.Challenges of Digital ClutterVolume over efficiency: issues accessing necessary information despite organised files.Parallels between digital and physical hoarding behaviours.Digital Inefficiency and Environmental ImpactWasted time, reduced focus, and productivity issues due to digital clutter.Significant carbon footprint of data centres and environmental concerns.Strategies for Managing Digital ClutterReducing digital intake by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and content.Advice on stopping excessive bookmarking and managing browser tabs.Importance of setting up email filters to streamline email management.Creating physical keepsakes from special digital photos for meaningful interaction.Permission Slip SegmentDiscussion on evaluating difficult-to-discard items for sentimental or practical reasons. -
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In today's episode of That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast, I'm joined by Kendra Adachi, author of "The Plan, Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius," as we explore self-compassion and realistic productivity. We'll discuss cultural differences in self-trust, the pitfalls of traditional planning, and how small, manageable steps can lead to meaningful progress. Kendra's insights challenge societal expectations and underscore the importance of kindness and contentment in our daily lives.
Self-Trust and Societal InfluencesCultural differences in self-trust between men and womenWomen's challenges with self-trustUnderstanding systemic influencesEncouragement of kindness and acceptance towards oneselfSocietal Expectations and Productivity PressureCritique of the "hustle" culture and pressure for excellenceContentment as opposed to constant optimisationKindness to oneself as an alternative to relentless improvementResistance to the idea of contentmentContentment and Self-CompassionContentment not the same as giving upDefining contentment as awareness and appreciation of the presentSelf-compassion as a holistic life perspectiveContentment and making mistakesHoarding and Mindset ShiftsProblem with future-focused thinkingImportance of prioritising what matters to usShifting mindset towards valuing fewer things and creating spaceKinder approach to oneself and questioning what we have lose by trying contentmentIntegration vs. GreatnessEmbracing integration over achieving greatnessHonouring emotions and practicing self-kindnessGoal setting challenges and adopting flexible approachesShrinking priorities to manage overwhelmPlanning and Productivity ChallengesDiscussion on why many struggle with planning and productivityUnrealistic expectations from productivity expertsInternalisation of failure for unmet expectationsDisparity in authorship vs. readership of time management booksThe Lazy Genius Way and Practical StrategiesIntroduction to concepts from "The Lazy Genius Way"Principles of "going in the right order" (naming what matters, calming the chaos, trusting oneself)Encouragement of smaller, manageable stepsPotential for meaningful change despite societal pressures - Visa fler
