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Introducing: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.
(Link below for those that don't have a live link)
Simple Scripts gives you instant access to the words you need to say hard things in life, love, or work.
If an ebook isn’t really your thing but you want to support Mayhem and the work we have been doing, please know that I would consider any purchase of this book to be a sign of sponsorship for the show.
Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things
Link for those who can't open the ones above: https://heathergrayconsulting.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1064315
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In all likelihood, you will feel it in your bodies when you are ready to go low contact but it can be hard to navigate what your boundary will be and how to communicate it.
Listen in for ways of organizing this decision for yourselves.
Do you think it’s time to go low contact but are struggling with how?
Write in with your question or situation: [email protected]
I’ll share advice and direction over on Instagram.
You can follow me there: @DaughtersNPD
If we get a significant number of questions, I will offer a bonus episode of the show.
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Today, ‘Coral’ shares her story in her own words and in her own voice.
Daughters of narcissistic mothers know all too well what it is like to always second guess yourself, to not want your mother’s opinion but to also feel like you need it. It is not at all uncommon for those who’ve experienced relational trauma as kids to suffer from chronic anxiety as an adult.
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Coral shares her story, shares so much of her healing, and also shares the struggles she has today. Listen in and hear my thoughts, directions, and insights. -
In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we tackle the unique challenges faced by daughters of narcissistic mothers on and around Mother’s Day.
Learn strategies for coping, finding resilience, and fostering healing during this often triggering time.
We discuss the emotional complexities and triggers that daughters of narcissistic mothers often experience during Mother's Day.
Learn coping strategies and gain practical tips to help you all navigate the day with greater ease and self-care.
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Last November, I experienced a devastating friend breakup—a story I wasn't sure I'd ever share here. After finding solace in my favorite podcast, It's Going to Be OK, I opened up to their team.
I thought the story would stay there until I shared it with a Mayhem listener and she encouraged me to let the rest of you in on it.
Then, two other listeners stumbled upon it by happenstance since I’ve recommended the podcast to all of you, a few times. They recognized me in the story and shared how meaningful they found it.
They, too, thought it belonged here.
I knew though, that I couldn't share that episode if I didn't also share my own Mayhem story with you and that's what I am doing here with all of you today.
So here I am, sharing my Mayhem story and also:
'Already Enough and… A Bit Much.', It's Going to Be OK Podcast on Apple
'Already Enough and A Bit Much on Spotify
This episode features a poem titled 'A Bit Much' by Lyndsay Rush—a piece that grabbed my heart, helped me feel seen, and ultimately helped me accept myself a little bit more.
This is Me. All In.
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Today we tackle the intricate challenge of forming and maintaining friendships as an adult survivor of childhood trauma. Navigating the complexities of trust, communication, and boundaries, we explore the unique challenges faced by individuals who have experienced childhood adversity. Learn strategies for fostering healthy friendships, gaining self-awareness, and creating a supportive community on the path to healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights on cultivating meaningful connections after surviving childhood trauma.Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 34: Choosing Wisely: A Heartwise Blueprint for Finding Healthy Love After Neglect
Episode 4: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
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Ready or not, Narcissistic Mother's Day is Coming.
I know this is going to be a hard day for many of you but if possible, I would like to make it less hard and help it suck a little bit less.
I am not accepting your questions which I will answer in the coming weeks over on Instagram.
You can follow me there over at DaughtersNPD.
There, you can DM me your questions and I will answer them in an upcoming reel, post, or livestream.
If you prefer, you can email me your question. My email address is: [email protected]
If you're going to email, do put Mother's Day in the subject so I know it's for this. My inbox can get quite full, as you might imagine.
Again: Find me on Instagram
Email me: [email protected]
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Narcissists are always going attack. That's what they do. They wouldn't be narcissists if they didn't.You can easily feel like you are being held hostage by their narrative and that there is no "right" answer or "right" response to their nonsense.You'll want responses at the ready and you'll want to neutralize the weapon.Listen in to learn ways of doing both.
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We know "hurt people hurt people" What do you do when you're the person doing the hurting?In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we're looking to break the cycle of hurt after childhood trauma. "Emily" bravely shares her journey of recognizing her own problematic behavior stemming from past trauma, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and accountability in the healing process. So, we're talking about it. Listen in as I offer practical strategies for transforming pain into growth and fostering healthier relationships post-narcissistic abuse.Episodes to Revisit:Episode 40, 32, 26, and 3
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Good news for daughters in Massachusetts who are navigating your recovery journey from narcissistic abuse. With openings in my schedule, I’m now offering specialized clinical consultations designed to provide targeted support for trauma recovery.
Here is the link to purchase and schedule.
-My approach focuses on helping daughters who feel stuck or uncertain about their next steps in recovery.
-The sessions are designed to address various challenges such as setting boundaries, navigating relationships, or overcoming parenting struggles due to childhood trauma.
-Unlike traditional therapy, I’m offering a block of four sessions that can be used flexibly over a two-month period, allowing for deep dives into specific concerns or goals.
*Before signing up, you should know: My office hours are scheduled for Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 1:30 PM to 8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (EST). It is crucial that you confirm your availability during these specified times.
Link to schedule.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
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Today we're talking about managing anxiety, fear, and dysregulation after narcissistic abuse. Learn to navigate these challenges and find healing as you work for your emotional well-being. Understand your anxiety and learn what you can do about it as you heal from narcissistic trauma. Discover how to cultivate resilience, regain inner balance, and thrive in the aftermath of emotional abuseMentioned in this episode:
Grounding Techniques
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Today, you get to meet "Christie", in her own voice AND in her own words!She shares her story of recovery from a narcissistic mother and enabling father and invites me to talk to her about self worth and learning how to take up space.She also generously shares an accompanying art exhibit she offers as a reflection for her healing. You can find that in the attached Google doc.
"Christie's" Art Exhibit: This Version of Love
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Once you cut off contact with your mom, it can be hard to know who you are. What do you think, feel, and believe? What are your values?
You're so used to filtering them through your mother's perspective that it can be hard to know yourself.
How do you reintroduce yourself to yourself?
Start Here:
Mentioned in this show: Relationship to Self Journal Prompts
Addition questions for reflection included in today's show:
As you go through your day and you consider your interactions you had, check in with yourself:
How did you feel? Were you regulated in your body? Did you feel seen and respected? Did you feel safe? Walk yourself through the same thing as you consider your decision making process for the day.It might be worth your time to create a daily check in journal for yourself where you quickly ask yourself these questions and jot your answers down:
Did you feel good about your decisions? Did you feel good about your interactions? What did you need more of? Less of? Where did it get hard? When it got hard, what might you have needed or what might have made you feel more comfortable? Were there any boundaries you might have needed to set? When you look at the quality of your relationships, are you satisfied? Are there other toxic connections that might perhaps need to be toned down or removed in order to feel safer? When you are exposed to new ideas or approaches to things, get curious with yourself. How do I feel about that? Does that feel true for me? What would feel more true?--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mothermayhem/message -
It's infuriating when your abuser turns the tables and accuses you of abuse. That's what reactive abuse is and that is a tactic narcissists use to change the narrative.Today we're tackling it head on so you can get in the driver's seat and get back in control of a dynamic that often feels very much out of your control.
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The trauma experienced by daughters in law of narcissistic mothers in law doesn't get talked about enough but it's a lot. You have your own trauma that you have experienced from her. you have vicarious trauma that comes from witnessing your mother in law's abuse of your husband, and you have her impact in your kids.In this week's episode, we are breaking all of it down so we can build you back up.
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When there's so much trauma that you don't even know where to begin, it can make you feel as though you've been swallowed whole by it all.Recovery is complicated but it's possible. Listen in as I help two sisters navigate their story together and separately.
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This is your invitation to join us for our next coaching call scheduled for March 6th, 10:30am 12:30pm PST.
I wish you only had to consider this to be your warm welcome to further connect but I also know that accepting an invitation like this can be challenging so we're talking about it quickly, today.
I hope you'll consider joining us by using this link.
Also mentioned in this episode: Instagram post by Healing_out.loud
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When you're the child of a narcissist, the pain isn't a one-time event; it's a relentless cycle of rejection and invalidation. And when a father enables a narcissistic mother, it's a recurring betrayal that leaves scars. But where do you start to heal from such deep wounds?Join us as we explore the journey of recovering from narcissistic abuse, delving into the daunting task of learning to be seen and reclaiming space in a world that often made you feel invisible.
These are the questions we're tackling head-on today — the ones that have haunted many of us: How do we find light in the darkness? How do we learn to shine despite our past?Let's navigate this journey together, finding hope, healing, and a sense of belonging along the way. You're not alone in this. Mentioned in this episode: Episodes 3 and 15. You can listen in using the same app you have used for this show.
Encouraged reflection: Consider these journal prompts that were in the companion guide for Episode 3.
Question for the show?: [email protected]
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When you're the only child of a narcissistic mother, you end up feeling like your experience exists in an echo chamber. You're the golden child one second and the scapegoat the next.When you become an adult, it can feel like everything falls on you, that you have to stay connected with her because if not you, who?Here's how to navigate all of that.
Question for the show? [email protected]
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It's not your picker that's broken. It's your connection to yourself. Choosing love that's better for you means choosing the love that is right for you.Here's how.
Mentioned in this episode: Episode 4 of Mother Mayhem: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
You can find it in the podcast app you are using for this episode.
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