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In this episode, Dr. Kate and renowned author, Soraya Chemaly, explore the misconceptions and dangers of resilience, highlighting the lack of social care and the value of care in society, highlighter in her new book: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma.
Some of the key points include:
- Resilience can be misconstrued and work against us when there is a lack of social care and value for care in society.
- The concept of resilience has become detached from science and has proliferated as an ideology.
- The science of resilience has biases and limitations, particularly in relation to gender and vulnerable populations.
- Healing and resilience are not solely individual endeavors, but require community, relationships, and reflection.
- Traditional notions of masculinity can hinder resilience and adaptability to change.
- The idea of bouncing back to a pre-trauma state is a myth, and healing involves assimilating experiences and evolving as individuals. Rigid notions of masculinity can be harmful and lead to a lack of resilience.
- Marginalized communities may overcompensate in one area to compensate for marginalization in another.
- Cultivating an embodied awareness of our environments is important for resilience.
- Resilience should be viewed from a relational perspective, emphasizing interconnectedness.
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Soraya Chemaly is a renowned journalist, activist, and author. Her work focuses on the words we use, the images we make, and how to act to build a better world. Her work will make you think, and give you plenty to talk about!
Get Soraya Chemaly's books here:
The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma
Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger
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Instagram: @rageandresilience
Website: https://www.sorayachemaly.com
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In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Brooke Brownlee, APCC (Clinical Associate at Modern Intimacy) discuss a listener question, about how to navigate a partner's inflation fetish.
They address questions about what an inflation fetish involves, how to ensure safety during activities, and how to support a partner's interests without feeling uncomfortable. They also debunk myths surrounding inflation fetishes and provide resources for further exploration.
Takeaways
- It is common for partners to have mismatched sexual interests, and it is important to approach these differences with curiosity and support.
- Engaging in inflation activities can be safe as long as there is consent, communication, and awareness of potential risks.
- Supporting a partner's inflation fetish does not require personal arousal, but rather a willingness to understand and participate in a way that feels authentic.
- Myths surrounding inflation fetishes, such as associations with child attraction, should be debunked to promote understanding and acceptance.
- Self-exploration, open communication, and seeking resources can help navigate and introduce inflation fetishes into the bedroom.
Keywords
#inflation #inflationfetish #partnership #partnersupport #safety #resources
Read More:
What Does It Mean to Have an Inflation Fetish? by Brooke Brownlee, APCC
https://www.modernintimacy.com/what-does-it-mean-to-have-an-inflation-fetish/
The Juicy Round World of Blueberry Porn, by Samantha Cole, Vice
https://www.vice.com/en/article/wjmjqw/the-juicy-round-world-of-blueberry-porn
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ADHD can impact so many different aspects of a person’s life…including in the bedroom!
On this week’s episode of Get Naked, Dr. Kate is joined by Alexandre Fraysse to discuss how to navigate living with ADHD (or loving someone with ADHD) and the ways that it may show up in the bedroom.
Together, they unpack:
• Tips for taking accountability
• Sharing tasks in partnership
• Recommendations when you’re stuck in a “functional freeze”
• The role ADHD plays in the bedroom
And so much more!
Alexandre Fraysse is an ADHD coach for professionals who specializes in helping his clients master their lives and natural gifts, empowering them to become unstoppable forces of nature in their professional and personal lives. Through creating personalized strategies and providing unwavering support, Alex’s clients transform their lives, harness their strengths, and conquer any obstacles in their way.
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How do you embrace sex positivity if you grew up surrounded by social messaging filled with shame? Dr. Tara is ready to help you answer this question, and share her journey to sex positivity as well!
This week on Get Naked, the doctors are in session – Dr. Kate and Dr. Tara sit down to discuss:
• First sexual experiences
• Defining sex positivity
• Unpacking the judgement and backlash that sex positive individuals face (and why)
• The macro- and micro-communications about sex
and so much more!
Dr. Tara is the internet's resident sex expert for GenZennials, on a mission to show that women can at once be sexual, intellectual, and powerful. She is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, the TV host of Celebs Go Dating, an award-winning sex researcher, a TEDx speaker, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, and an in-demand sex and relationship coach based in Los Angeles.
On TikTok, Dr. Tara is sharing bite-sized nuggets of wisdom to an audience eager to step into their power in sex, life, and beyond. Translation: she's making some serious moves destigmatizing sex, and having a blast while doing it.
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Have you ever had a stressful day, filled with seemingly never ending tasks, and found yourself recoiling at the advances of your partner?
If yes, you may be, as author Amanda Montei coins it, touched out.
Amanda joins Dr. Kate in the studio this week to discuss this concept of being “touched out”, and the ways that it can permeate into our intimate and familial relationships.
Together, the two explore:
• The surprises one may encounter when entering motherhood
• Being in recovery while becoming a mother
• Weaponized choice in parenthood
• The division of labor in households
And so much more.
Amanda is the author, most recently, of Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent & Control. She is a contributing writer for New York Times Magazine, and her work has also appeared at The Cut, New York Times, Elle, Time, Slate, and many others. She writes the newsletter Mad Woman.
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Can you ever be truly prepared to be a parent? And how can fathers show up for their sons to ensure that they grow up with emotional maturity?
On this week's episode of Get Naked, Eli Weinstein joins Dr. Kate to discuss the in's and out's of parenting, especially when it comes to navigating fatherhood.
Together, the two unpack:
• How weaponized incompetence may be used in parental dynamics
• The lack of role modeling for fatherhood that many men face
• How postpartum may impact men
• Tips for new fathers
and so much more!
Eli Weinstein is a Licensed Clinical Social Work Therapist who has worked in multiple settings, including psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. Eli has honed his skills of CBT, ACT, positive psychology, and other therapy techniques to reach a grasp of the inner workings of the human mind. His mission is to use his experience, expertise, and voice to help empower individuals and let them know the life they hope for is possible.
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Is anal s-x only for gay men? Is it riskier than other types of s-x? Does it cause incontinence?
These are just a few of the ASSumptions that Dr. Evan Goldstein debunks on this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate.
Anal play can be daunting for some, especially if you have no idea where to begin, or you've been poorly educated around the topic (or not educated at all)!
Luckily, Dr. Evan Goldstein and Dr. Kate are here to help untangle some common myths surrounding all things butt related.
Together, the two break down:
• Common misconceptions around anal
• How to begin training your sphincter
• Exploring the body in an interoceptive way
and much more!
Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt.
He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries.
His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between is now available – buy it here.
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We're exploring all avenues of empowerment this week, from female friendship to being a "Free Agent", bonobos vs. chimps, and even exploring age hypogamy relationships.
Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate on this week's episode of Get Naked to talk about:
• Recent studies on female friendship and the crucial role it plays in women's lives
• The benefits of decentering men
• Bonobos, chimps, and the key differences of their social structures (including what we can learn from bonobos)
• Why younger men reported wanting to be with older women
• The concept of new masculinities
And truly SO much more!
By the end of this episode, you may be asking yourself, "How can I live more like a bonobo?"
Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. has been a writer and social researcher in New York City (and now Los Angeles) for over two decades. Her writing explores gender, parenting and motherhood, popular culture, and female sexuality.
Her memoir, Primates of Park Avenue, is a hilarious, touching, and insightful look into the exotic world of Manhattan motherhood. Her book Stepmonster, a finalist for the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award, is widely considered the “go-to” source for stepmothers, adult stepchildren, therapists and others who seek a uniquely candid, interdisciplinary, cross-cultural and comprehensive look at the topic.
You can check out more of Wednesday's work by visiting her website here.
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If you've been on TikTok or Twitter, chances are you've come across Girthmasterr, the Australian adult content creator who has made quite a splash with his – well – generous anatomy.
This week on Get Naked, Girthmasterr joins Dr. Kate in the studio to open up about his experience entering the adult content industry and his sudden rise to fame.
Together, they discuss:
• The double standard of s-x work between men and women
• The behind-the-scenes of creating adult content scenes
• STI health & s-x work
• Parasocial relationships & p0rn exposure
and much, much more.
Girthmasterr is an award winning adult actor and content creator that has collaborated with some of the biggest names in the p0rn industry. He has appeared in Rolling Stone, Daily Beast, Slate, and The Cut, as well as many more publications and is one of the top creators on OnlyFans.
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This week on Get Naked, Dr. Kate sits down with Modern Intimacy's Digital Media Coordinator Claudia Vera to answer your pressing questions about sexuality and relationships!
Together, they three listener questions:
• Why is it that I can't get aroused unless someone is watching?
• My partner has a fantasy about having a threesome with me... is he not sexually satisfied with me? Will he still desire me?
• Why do we (in the beginning of a relationship) feel the need/desire for sex, but then after awhile it goes away?
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As technology has advanced, so has the ability to harness images without consent – this is where deep fakes and AI generated images enter the picture.
On this week's episode of Get Naked, Dr. John Delatorre joins Dr. Kate to break down WHY image-based sexual violence is so damaging, how it appears in our culture today, and the small but meaningful ways we, as individuals, can intervene.
Together, they unpack:
• The implications of distinguishing the real from the fake via AI image
• What may compel someone to engage in creating deep fakes • The dehumanization of celebrity as an object for consumption
• The Taylor Swift AI lawsuit and controversy that followed
• The role of fear and anger in deep fake perpetrators
and so much more!
John Delatorre, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist in Texas, Arizona and New York State. He provides therapy and assessment for a variety of concerns, including providing interventions to the severely mentally ill, individuals with significant trauma histories, and crisis interventions/de-escalation.
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In your day to day life, how often do you do something for yourself? Do you incorporate pleasure into your routine, or do you find yourself yearning for some moments of intention?
On this week's episode of Get Naked, Bedside host Tatiana Fogt returns to the podcast to talk about how a person can build a sustainable (and accessible) pleasure practice into their daily lives.
Together with Dr. Kate, the two explore:
• Identifying the significance between rest and pleasure
• How to escape from constantly being in a "doing" mindset
• Exploring what brings you joy by tapping into childhood
• The myth of needing to "earn" pleasure
and so much more!
Tatiana is the brilliant creator and host behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more, she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable
Be sure to join the waitlist to grab a copy of Tatiana's latest journal here.
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What is an incel? What leads a person to become an incel? And what does it mean to be black-pilled and red-pilled?
On this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Dr. Kate is joined by Brendan Kwiatkowski, an educator, researcher, and speaker specializing in the social-emotional development and well-being of boys and men. The two dive into an illuminating conversation that aims to better understand the root reasons that men become drawn to inceldom, including the roles that entitlement and shame play.
Together, Brendan and Dr. Kate work to unpack:
• What traits embody precarious masculinity
• Why a person may find themselves identifying with incel culture
• Why men in particular are targeted by / attracted to the incel community
• The difference between red and black pilled ideologies
and so much more!
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How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship?
In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now.
Together, they discuss:
• How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner.
• How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth.
• How to love someone while not losing yourself.
& so much more!
Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive.
Original air date: October 10, 2023
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How does one unlearn the rigid beliefs of purity culture?
This week, Dr. Kate is joined by Julia and Jeremiah of Sexvangelicals, a a podcast, educational platform, and community building project offering the sex education the church didn't want you to have.
The three of them unpack:
• The impact that these environments can have on one's relationship to pleasure and sex
• The sense of grief and loss that can come hand in hand with the freedom of exiting high control environments
• Redefining the role of importance that sex plays in your life
and so much more!
Be sure to check out Sexvangelicals podcast to gain insight on giving yourself permission to be a sexual person, navigating the deconstructing process, and healing from the ways that Christian communities may have gotten it wrong.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
When Religion Hurts You (book) by Laura Anderson
Sunday School Dropouts (podcast) by Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs
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Did you know that there are 14 muscles in the pelvic floor? Do kegels actually work? And what IS the pelvic floor, exactly?
We are revisiting a community favorite this week with pelvic floor expert Courtney Virden!
Together with Dr. Kate, the two unpack:
• How pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together
• The shame around pelvic floor dysfunction
• Accessible pelvic floor exercises
& so much more!
Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets.
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Why are men afraid of women? The answer may surprise you.
Dr. Kate is joined by Dr. Avrum Weiss on this week's episode of Get Naked to discuss the ways that men's fear of intimacy may negatively impact their relationships with women.
Together, they unpack
• The deepseated root of fear of intimacy, starting from our childhood relationships
• The strain that fear can place on intimate relationships between men and women
• How men unconsciously identify their own fears of intimacy
• The role of the patriarchy when it comes to control
• Starting points to help men overcome fear of intimacy
and so much more.
Dr. Avrum Weiss is a psychologist, author, and speaker. He has written four books, the most recent “Hidden In Plain Sight: How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships”.
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Is it ever acceptable to cheat? What do fidelity agreements look like in partnership?
This week, we are revisiting a community favorite episode with the one and only Dan Savage!
Dr. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family YOU want, not one dictated by society.
Together, they unpack:
• The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty
• Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship
• The power of practice in group and community settings
• The Karmic Rule of Kink
and so much more!
Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, media pundit, author, journalist, and LGBT community activist. Be sure to check out his column, Savage Love, and his podcast, Savage Lovecast.
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Are anal play and pegging are safe (and okay to enjoy)?
This week on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Australia's leading men's sex coach Cam Fraser joins the podcast to discuss all things anal play, and to help shed some of the stigma surrounding it within male spaces.
Together, they unpack:
• Myths around male sexuality and masculinity
• Why some men may fear anal play, and why they may be curious about it
• How prostate orgasms can be achieved (and what sets them apart)
• Tips for getting started with pegging and anal play in solo/partnered sex
And so much more. We hope that this episode can help to dispel myths around anal play, masculinity, and what it means about one's sexuality, so that individuals can feel free to explore what feels safe and pleasurable for them.
Cam Fraser is a Professional Sex Coach, certified with the World Association of Sex Coaches, as well as a Sexologist, and the current Deputy Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists. His work aims to help men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.
You can learn more about Cam by visiting his website.
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When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind?
Maybe you think about a passionate kiss, or getting frisky with a partner in the bedroom.
But what if we told you there were other ways to cultivate intimacy that didn't involve sex?
This week, we are revisiting a community favorite on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, where Dr. Kate explores the multifaceted definitions of intimacy with Doc Erica Holmes.
The two unpack a holistic definition of intimacy, walk listeners through a few activities that can help couples connect, and explore how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy.
Doc Erica is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, trainer, community consultant and author in the greater Los Angeles area. Be sure to check out Erica's latest book, Intimacy Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect.
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Original episode air date: August 8, 2023
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