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Our brains are always constructing a narrative.
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We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures.
But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it?
Have you been cheated on...
Broken up with...
Made a big mistake...
Struggled in dating...
These events could be long gone but the story you tell yourself about them could be shaping your reality today.
Tune in to learn why rewriting the story you tell about the past is important and how to get started today!
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Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now?
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Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark...
It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives.
But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations.
Ready?
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Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered?
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Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives?
If so... I've got you!
This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year.
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This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings.
People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!'
If your brain has offered a similar question...
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Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?
Why the idea of red flags fuels anxietyWhat we're really most afraid ofHow self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships
Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy?
And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful.
Listen to find out:
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Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?
Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle?
Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction...
And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before?
If so - it's time to break the cycle.
And this episode will help you do just that!
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We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!
Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you?Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you?Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making?
But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships.
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If so, this episode is for YOU!
In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them.
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When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us...
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And certain things that aren't...
In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead.
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Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category?
Why our brains worryWhether worry is ever productiveSome of Emilie's favourite techniques for overcoming worry and anxietyAnd how to face any worrying situation with confidence and self-certainty
In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app.
We're covering topics like:
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How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?
Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to beWhy owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others)And how to step into that future version of YOU
If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!
Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier.
But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward.
And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing.
I'm covering:
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Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?
Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...Buy a house...Get married...Have a child...
Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up inSocietal pressures and how to handle themThe expectation gap - and how to close itAND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxiety
Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are?
In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia.
And we'll be digging into:
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Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?
Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking spaceHow to regulate your nervous system and create inner safetyHow to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fear
Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
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Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?
The reason why we challenge our thinkingWhen fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decisionHow the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought
Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?
Then this episode is for YOU!
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Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?
Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?
Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
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Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.
Do you struggle with trusting your partner?
Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!
Then this episode is for you.
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Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.
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If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.
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When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...
Why rejection seems so terrifyingWhat we're actually afraid ofHow dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our sufferingAND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secure
- What if they break up with me?
- What if they're mad at me?
- What if they're lying to me?
- What if they leave me?
... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.
In today's episode, I'm talking about:Ready? LISTEN NOW.
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Do you tend to take things personally?
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Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?
Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?
Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?
If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.
And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.
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Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?
Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to creating unshakable confidence
Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?
And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
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When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism?
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Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'?
When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?
With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'.
And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap.
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