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  • Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast!

    We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024.

    In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy!

    In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about:

    How open relationships work Jealousy How to avoid the mistakes we made when opening up Communication Sex parties 101 Boundaries Accidental Polyamory How to avoid polyamory risks and threats New Relationship Energy How to reignite the fire in long term relationships

    And More!

    If you want a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship so you can have a lifetime of pleasure and satisfaction, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery which begins in October. Sign up now and get access right away to all the training modules and content! It will give you extra time to get started before we jump into the live coaching calls in October!

    Learn More and sign up at: https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery

    Show references:

    Poly Newbies Digital Course - ⁠⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠⁠ Get our latest free worksheet - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet⁠ Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/⁠
  • It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you?

    You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well!

    We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we interact with other kites and strings either in a dating or lifestyle/swinging situation, and the dynamics of pairing with different types of partners.

    We also discuss how someone might yearn to step into a different role than they usually occupy—like someone with kids and family responsibilities who gets to feel the exhilarating freedom of being the kite when with another partner and how they might secretly want their other partner to offer them this opportunity as well!

    We give specific examples of how you can be a “switch” and bring excitement into your relationships and how this might offset resentments around always having to be one thing!

    And it wouldn’t be a podcast without some playful fun and teasing about our own tendencies to be the kite and string in our relationship!

    Show References:

    Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program. We have a new cohort beginning in October 2024. Reach out and let us know if you want to be informed when we are ready to start! https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - available now! Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠
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  • While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to!

    This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships.

    Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I don’t know won’t hurt me? However, as we said to a coaching client recently and talk about in this episode, when we avoid hearing from our partners about their experiences completely, our brains “fill in the blanks” and that story is often much worse than knowing the truth.

    There's others that LOVE to share all the details about their encounters with others and those that want to hear everything, but there's the matter of privacy of others to consider.

    And some people are ok with some details but want certain things left out.

    We cover all these things and more in this exciting episode - How Much Do I Want To Know: From DADT to ALL the Juicy Details!

    And if you're newly navigating non-monogamy or facing some bumpy territory, we've got you! Our Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - has a proven system that will provide you with a foundation for success! AND is now at a special price for our followers and our online community!

    Other Show References:

    Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery - our deeper dive program which includes coaching from us. New cohort starting October 2024! https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Book an Introductory Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and how to get awesome free resources at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠
  • Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others.

    Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others.

    If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone.

    Even when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are that we are asking for too much, being too difficult or if we say something, they might not like us.

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    ✅ What personal boundaries are vs. agreements or rules we might have with our partner(s);

    ✅ Why boundaries are important (hint: it’s about you)

    ✅ How to set your boundaries;

    ✅ How to communicate them; and

    ✅ Why people want to know your boundaries

    Download our Building and Communicating My Personal Boundaries FREE WORKSHEET which will guide you in setting your boundaries and having them stick!

    If you'd like it to feel EASIER to communicate your boundaries and feel SECURE in your open or polyamorous relationship, we can help! Book a complimentary call where we can speak confidentially about your personal circumstances and how we can work together OR jump right into our Poly Newbies Digital Course or Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery coaching program which have proven systems that will provide you with a foundation for success!

    Show References:

    Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Get the Free Building and Communicating Boundaries Worksheet - https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/

    Note this previously aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where viewers shared comments which we read during this episode.

  • You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating.

    Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting.

    Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years.

    Others are just plain awful.

    There's the 6-6-6-6 rule that women with "high standards" should only look for men who are 6 feet tall, with a 6 inch 🍆, six figure salary and a six-pack!

    In this episode we take an informative and humorous look at these relationship rules, debunk the myths and as always provide expert solid advice on what things you might want to consider to have secure, successful and sexy polyamorous relationships!

    There's even some food talk in there to keep you entertained with references to yams, sausages and oysters!

    We would love to hear your take on these numerical rules, what your favorites were and any that we missed (good advice or otherwise). If you’re listening on Spotify you can now add comments to each episode!

    We want to continue to keep this podcast free and reach as many people as possible so it would help us a lot of you hit the like button, subscribe, share with your friends and write a review!

    Show references:

    Let's Talk Polyamory Online Dating Guide - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguide Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer New Relationship Energy: The Awesome and the Awful - Season 1, Episode 21 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=2DxjYeOaRQmep_H8wr8ZFA Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy - https://www.weekofvisibility.com/ 8 Rules of Love by Jay Shetty - https://8rulesoflove.com/ The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider. Originally published in 1995 and they’ve followed up with several books on this. https://therulesbook.com/ Taryn Newton-Gill, Dating and Attachment Coach of Truer Love - https://www.truerlove.com/love-coaching
  • Have you heard the term ACCIDENTAL POLYAMORY?

    This is what some call those unexpected journeys that lead individuals and couples into exploring polyamory dynamics either as a willing participant or with some fear or resistance.

    In this episode, Accidental Polyamory: Now What? we cover 3 different unexpected scenarios one can find themselves in.

    Imagine you're in a monogamous relationship, and suddenly, one partner expresses a desire to explore consensual non-monogamy or open the relationship. How do you navigate those conversations and potential changes?

    Or, picture this: you're single and enjoying the dating scene when you meet someone amazing, only to find out they are polyamorous. How do you handle being with someone with multiple partners, and determine if this is a relationship style that suits you?

    Maybe you’re already non-monogamous - like a swinger or in an open relationship - and then you or your partner start developing deeper emotional connections and want to shift to a more polyamorous model. How do you handle this significant change?

    We share other definitions and terms you might come across in these situations like cowboy/cowgirl and poly-bombing.

    Join us as we share real stories, expert insights, and practical advice for anyone finding themselves unexpectedly on the path to polyamory.

    Whether you’re curious about polyamory, already practicing some form of non-monogamy or simply interested in the diverse ways people love and connect, this episode is for you!

    Resources referenced in this episode:

    S1 Ep21- NRE: The Awesome and the Awful https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=C7mzQLx9ReSXw-POBvW2UQ S1 Episodes 17 & 18 - How to Securely Transition Into Different Ways of Doing Consensual Non-Monogamy https://open.spotify.com/episode/0tknogIG4ATioM7uLmMrrt?si=CE4ylclOQsCyr5Jbtt2g-Q & https://open.spotify.com/episode/1VuLR3blPCLTOpuaKw0bcO?si=So2i9us1R2qtlpZbtddZUw Poly Newbies Digital Course Special Offer- ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse⁠⁠ Find out more about us, our service and access some pretty cool resources at https://www.taraandandre.com/
  • Thinking about opening your relationship or diving into polyamory? It sounds thrilling and 🔥hot, right? Imagine the excitement of meeting new people and having the freedom to explore both emotional and sexual connections with them.

    For us, it's been an incredible and fulfilling journey, surpassing our wildest dreams.

    But, there are some unexpected risks and challenges that can threaten the security of any relationship.

    In this episode, we share our personal experiences and cover the things you'll want to be ready for including:

    ✨ Feeling different than you might imagine.✨ How your attachment style and your partner(s)'s can influence your experiences.✨ The gap between your expectations and reality.✨ You don't know what you don't know.✨ You might not be as great a communicator as think you are and you'll need to communicate more than you'd expect.✨ You are not as prepared as you believe!

    We share specific examples for each point and provide insights on how to better prepare yourself for the unexpected as you navigate your personal journey!

    Resources referenced in this episode:

    - Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse⁠

    - S1E8 podcast episode: How is My Attachment Style Impacting My Relationships - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3KUuTKZQKRNHBISBeynIvq?si=R2jyYOCDT1ueCM4BgIzatQ

    - Attachment Quiz - https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

    - S1E5 podcast episode: Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and Great Guest - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3cOwAFpV7tpRgR56tzRtvf?si=ZRUMtrsaSp-VBd83LUyM2g

    * all podcast episodes also available on Apple and YouTube podcasts, Amazon Music and iHeart Radio

  • At some point in your journey towards non-monogamy someone you know has likely said to you "I could never do that. I'm too jealous!"

    Maybe you've even wondered this about yourself or have been afraid that you aren't cut out for non-monogamy given some of the strong feelings you've felt.

    While jealousy is one of the main things that people are challenged with when opening a relationship or experiencing polyamory for the first time, and it can be intense and feel all consuming, there are ways of understanding your jealousy and finding of ways to work through these feelings so that you can shift to being neutral or even experiencing compersion! 💖 Pinky swear!

    And... a little myth busting... the reality is that most non-monogamous people experience jealousy or insecurity under certain circumstances from time to time. The key is to learn how to be less impacted by it.

    In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast we dive into this topic and share with you the 6 things you can do starting now to feel more secure in your relationships!

    Resources referenced in this episode:

    Our courses and programs ❤️Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery⁠ and our ⚡️Poly Newbies Digital Course at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠ Sign up to get our FREE Jealousy Worksheet at https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet

    Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

  • New Relationship Energy, or NRE, sometimes gets a bad rap in polyamory as while one person may be experiencing the highs of being with someone new, others that they are in relationships may feel left behind, or jealous or find it threatening to the security of that connection... hence the "awful"

    But it’s not all about putting out forest fires.

    There’s nothing wrong with new relationship energy in itself, and in fact it can be an "awesome" experience for all involved.

    One of the amazing things about polyamory is that it allows people to experience all the magic of new love without destroying long-term, stable relationships in the process - and may even breathe new energy and pleasure into them!

    There are always considerations or things to navigate whether you’re the person experiencing the NRE with someone new, the new person or the people they are in relationships with.

    We talk about all of these things and more in this podcast episode!

    We want to encourage and support spreading the word of polyamory and normalize it as a valid relational identity - one which can be secure and long-lasting!

    To help you and others to learn more, we’ve decided to reduce our profit on our 7-Module Poly Newbies Digital Course so that more people can access this valuable resource. You can find this special offer at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

    You can book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠

    Want to know more about us, find out about our other coaching and therapy services or book us for your event or podcast? 👉 ⁠https://taraandandre.com/⁠

  • In this episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast we are open up our polyamory dictionary and cover a ton of common definitions and terms you may come across as you navigate consensual non-monogamy:

    Metamour Kitchen, Parallel and Garden Party Polyamory Solo Polyamory Polycules V (Vee) Relationships and being a Hinge Primary, Satellite and Comet Partners Unicorns, Bulls and Rhinos Unicorn Hunting Couple’s Privilege Threesomes, Triads and Throuples Relationship Anarchy Jelalousy and Compersion

    We cover common myths you might hear (like that you MUST get to know and like your metamours) and how terms and labels such as these are useful to help identify yourself and why you still need to ask someone what their definitions are so you are on the same page in understanding.

    And of course it wouldn't be our podcast if we didn't share some of our personal stories including how our relationship fits into multiple "styles" and how being with others who are different than each other doesn’t take away from our relationship, but instead is one of the things that enhances our relationship and why polyamory is such a great fit for us!

    Resources referenced in this episode:

    Our courses and programs ❤️Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery at https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery and our ⚡️Poly Newbies Digital Course at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse You can book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession Want to know more about us, find out about our other coaching and therapy services or book us for your event or podcast? 👉 https://taraandandre.com/
  • Are there things that you feel you 😩 “suck” at in your open or polyamorous relationships?

    Perhaps it seems that others are having an easy time and doing it “right” and that you’re the only ones with an all-you-can-ride ticket on struggle bus!

    Here’s the TRUTH though... Nobody does it perfectly.

    Everyone sucks at non-monogamy at some point.

    This can happen at the beginning or at any stop along the way in your journey. We know from our own experiences and from the couples and individuals we've worked with.

    Just when you think you’ve figured it out, something can come along that surprises and challenges you.

    That doesn’t mean it isn’t right for you. Maybe you, like André admits on this podcast, sucked at monogamy which is why polyamory is a better fit and is worth figuring out.

    In this episode we talk about the 5 things you can do when opening an existing relationship or exploring polyamory so you suck less!

    Determining your WHY Building your self-esteem / security in self Getting clarity on what you want and setting up a secure framework for relationship style you want. Establishing yourValues-Based Agreement™ Learning how to communicate effectively!

    If you want to start in opening a relationship and would like support so you don't suck, for a limited time you can benefit from a focussed intensive coaching experience with us that will allow you to MINIMIZE your growing pains & MAXIMIZE your pleasure, connection and security. Find out more at 🏁https://go.taraandandre.com/openrelationshipstartup

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    Want to know more about us, the services and programs we offer or book us for your event or podcast? Visit us at:

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  • In this episode we pick up where we left off in part 1 and take a deeper dive into WHY making a transition to a different relating style of consensual / ethical non-monogamy can be such an issue for couples.

    These new and unexpected feelings and struggles often come as a surprise as prior to making the change they might have felt secure in what they were doing.

    If you missed part 1, we shared the 5 essential steps to feel good in making a change in your relationship:

    ✅ Understanding what makes you want to make the change

    ✅ Finding clarity around what you want and developing your personal relationship vision

    ✅ Communication (no surprise this is on the list right?)

    ✅ Making a plan to implement that vision including agreements you might want to make

    ✅ Regular reviews and making adjustments as necessary.

    The program we refer to in this podcast is our 16 week Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery program which includes 8 modules of training plus direct coaching with us! You can find out more about this program at https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery

    You can learn more about us, access free resources and find out about our Poly Newbies Digital Course and other coaching and therapy services on our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/.

    Get Support:

    If navigating this transition is causing some unfamiliar big feels that you're having trouble with, or if you need support on another issue, we invite you to book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Call. On this call we will help you unpack what might be the cause of these feelings and give you an action plan of next steps you can take on your own and/or with our support to get you back to that place of fun and pleasure you've always enjoyed in your relationship. You can book that call at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

  • Change is exhilarating and exciting, but as you may have experienced, it can also be challenging, especially in relationships!

    Many of our listeners have shared with us that they are in the midst of making a transition in their relationships, opening up to the idea of polyamory and dating people individually.

    These transitions often involve difficult discussions and feelings of insecurity and instability that weren't there before.

    Firstly, this is NORMAL! As new people enter the picture in closer and more emotionally intimate ways, it can trigger some unexpected emotions.

    And secondly, as always, we’ve got you!

    In this episode,⚡️How to Securely Transition Into Different Ways of Doing Non-Monogamy you'll learn five key strategies to create a solid foundation for this transition, helping you feel less scared and much more secure to move forward.

    If you’d like to make a secure transition in your relationship and address issues that have come up as a result of opening your relationship, book a confidential Relationship Rescue Call with Tara and get your next steps at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue.

    Find out more about us, the services we offer, book us for a talk, and access other great resources at ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

    The club we spoke at and refer to in this episode is Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, Ontario, Canada: https://oasisaqualounge.com/

    We invite you to subscribe and share a review on any of our podcasting platforms!

  • Have you ever found yourself choosing between staying together or splitting up for good?

    If you're considering changes in your relationship, tune in as we delve into the intriguing question: Is It Time To De-Escalate My Relationship?

    Because there's other options out there, and we're diving deep into them in this special podcast episode.

    We kick things off with a heartfelt, unscripted conversation about our own journey in reshaping our polyamorous relationship. Trust us, it's been quite the adventure! 🎢

    Next up, get ready for a captivating discussion on de-escalating a relationship where we cover:

    What is de-escalation and how does it differ from breaking up? Relationship Anarchy and how it might be an option for de-escalation. How to recognize the signs that it may be time for a change. What can de-escalation look like in a non-monogamous relationship. What you can do if you want a change in your relationship but don't want to de-escalate or break up.

    And finally we go over the steps you can take to de-escalate or modify your relationship in a consensual and loving way including how to approach your partners proactively.

    If your are considering if it’s time to call it quits, de-escalate your relationship or if you want to dig in and make changes to improve your relationship we’d love to help. Book a confidential call to talk about it with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue.

    Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

  • It's a question we often get asked... Can opening my relationship (or monogamous LTR) save my marriage?

    Conventional wisdom, and perhaps even our own advice in the past, would warn against opening up a relationship as a fix or solution.

    BUT... the more accurate answer is YES, it could help in some cases.

    In this episode we explore the possibility of opening your relationship and the many benefits you can gain such as deeper connection, trust, variety, sexual and emotional stimulation and personal growth to name a few.

    All while enjoying the rewards, security and benefits of being married or in a LTR that you desire.

    We also share the very unique circumstances and conditions that need to either be in place before you open or that you need to build your “qualifications” in such as fantastic communication, understanding your jealousy, secure attachment and more.

    If you’d like to open a relationship and are unsure if it will work for you, or if you’ve already opened and feel that perhaps you weren’t quite ready for it, we can help via individual and couples coaching or one of our programs! Book a confidential call to talk with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue to find out what would be best for you!

    You can also find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠.

  • 🦄Unicorns… mythical creatures or real?

    In this episode we talk about UNICORNS in the context of consensual non-monogamy and if if UNICORN HUNTING can be done in a way that defies this stereotype so that it’s ethical, consensual and feels good for all parties involved!

    The term unicorn-hunting typically describes the practice of an established couple searching for a third person to engage in either threesomes or triads. You may have seen such couples stating they are “looking for a third”.

    Often this is a heterosexual couple looking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship who is equally attracted to both of them and interested in whatever arrangement that couple has in mind.

    Where this can end up being a less than favourable arrangement, in particular for the unicorn, and why searching for a third gets a bad rap is because of the unequal power dynamic that can exist in some cases.

    Having said this, there are those that LOVE being a unicorn when the conditions are right.

    We talk about this and the results of a survey we did of our Let’s Talk Polyamory community members on this controversial topic. We have left this survey open for those who wish to share their views as well - https://forms.gle/4jL3JhYVANRmFo1c9 which we can use for a follow-up episode.

    Join our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group and can share your ideas on the topic of unicorn hunting or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly

    Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

    If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

  • Are you putting in effort to keep your sex life 🌶spicyyy or just waiting and wishing for things to change on their own?

    This is the final instalment of our podcast series the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships where we cover the 5th way:

    Doing something different that takes deliberate effort.

    Because epic relationships, awesome adventures and 🔥hot sex lives don't just appear out of thin air!

    If you missed the first 3 parts of the series we covered:

    ✅ Having some distance and spend time apart

    ✅ Being Present - physically, emotionally and sexually

    ✅ Interrupting patterns and routines

    ✅Increasing sexual and erotic energy

    We recap these in this episode and give more examples too!

    Here's the link to our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where you can share your ideas on what keeps the fire alive in your relationships or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly

    Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

    If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

  • What gets you hot and bothered in the bedroom?

    In this episode we are continuing our discussion of the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long Term Relationships with #4...

    Increasing sexual and erotic energy!

    So how exactly do you do that?

    Maybe it’s being touched somewhere unusual where you’re not normally touched, or that you don’t normally think of as an erogenous zone? Like the side of your ankle which André shares a story about.

    Or maybe it is something that allows you to prepare and get warmed up for intimacy which Tara shares.

    We talk about all these things as well as concepts, like responsive desire and how to utilize that and other things to get things hot again!

    If you missed parts 1 and 2 we talked about:

    ✅ Having some distance and spending time apart

    ✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners

    ✅ Interrupting Patterns and Routines

    If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support, book a relationship rescue call with Tara here: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

    Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/

    The lifestyle/sex/libertine club we referenced in the podcast is Club L in Montréal, Quebec, Canada. You can find out more about them at https://www.leclubl.com/

    The life-changing Cervix Wand that Tara refers in this episode can be found on https://waands.com/products/cervix-wand?ref=taraandandre and you can enter the code TARALYNNEFRANCO to get a 10% discount.

  • When we are in longer-term relationships we can have so many amazing things - security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven.

    However, these things we love can be the very things that can dampen the mystery, intrigue, excitement and longing that are strong foundations for desire and eroticism.

    Hence why it is so important to find ways of keeping the excitement alive in our relationship.

    In Part 1 of The 5 Ways to Reignite the Fire in Long-Term Relationships we spoke of the first two things:

    ✅ Having some distance and spending time apart

    ✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners

    In this episode we continue with the 3rd thing you can do:

    ✅ Interrupting Patterns and Routines

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  • We often expect our partner to be both our best friend and erotic partner. But these two needs often push against each other.

    On the one hand, we need security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven and secure base.

    But we also need adventure, unpredictability, mystery and surprise which is what ⛽️fuels sexual energy!

    Join us, your hosts and coaching and therapist duo T&A -Tara and André as we discuss desire in relationships in Part one of:

    The 5 Ways to REIGNITE 🔥FIRE in Long-Term Relationships!

    In this episode we cover the first two ways:

    ✅ Have some distance and spend time apart

    ✅ Being Present

    We also touch on our attachment patterns and how they impact relationships as well as resentments and how they can build and hurt our connection with our partners!

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