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The way you stay free requires a completely different approach than the strategy you used to get free.
In this episode, Romika shares a lot about Game Theory - the science of strategy - so that you can learn how to strategize ways to win at life, instead of just settling to play the game not to lose.
This episode includes:
Examples of what it looks like to play not to lose 12 thought pattern examples from a worksheet sent to Romika by her therapist from one of their sessions 4 practicals on how to enforce a strategy that helps you play to winPlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including
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It may seem as though there is a completely different approach needed when it comes to maintaining old friendships (as compared to new friendships), but the truth is: many of the fundamentals are the same!
In this episode, Romika shares easy to apply practicals to help strengthen, deepen and maintain the bonds in your older friendships.
Define the Relationship (DTR) Make new memories Focus/Prioritize the connection, not the issue Don't assume (good or bad) - askPlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including
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Perfectionism is the silent filter that curates your perspective on life - and many times, it's filtering your life, unbeknownst to you.
In this episode, Romika wants to help you self-identify the different types of perfectionism. Most perfectionists fall in and out of these 3 categories: the self-oriented perfectionist, the other-oriented perfectionist, and the socially-oriented perfectionist.
In short, there are 3 key principles:
Learning that everything you do, doesn't need to be the best you've ever done Does it have to be perfect, or is it okay that it's done? Inventory and DelegatePlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including
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It's hard to talk about life without also addressing your limiting beliefs...we all have them, the hope is that we'll all become more aware of the ones that are influencing our decisions in a negative way.
If unchecked, limiting beliefs take on a scarcity mindset. In this episode, Romika takes a deep dive into some of the groundwork that will hopefully help you begin to heal your scarcity mindset by targeting your limiting beliefs first.
In short, it comes down to 3 main areas:
Your narrative Your influenced decisions, and lastly, Stretching your capacity to give morePlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including
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The courage to be disliked is all about risking rejection. If you are anything like Romika, everything in you will tempt you to skip over this episode, but please stick it out.
It'll be worth it if you're a recovering people pleaser who wants to show up more genuinely in life and relationships.
07:07 - Introducing "constraints" 20:28 - You're a people pleaser 26:34 - You don't always need to relate to others 32:55 - Let themThe book referenced is called, The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
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It can be extremely difficult to live in the present moment....it takes a lot of intention and planning to make it happen for yourself.
In this episode, Romika provides you with 3 simple and practical steps to start living in the present moment by telling your time how you want to spend it, instead of feeling pulled in multiple directions and distracted from the present moment.
03:23 - Get organized 14:30 - Stop relying on your past or the fear of the unknown future to determine what you do right now 20:29 - Release yourself from the responsibility of influencing othersWatch the reel explaining how I organize my planner!
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It's about time we talk about motivation - how to get it, why we don't feel it, how to work around it so that you can accomplish all of your goals this year. In this episode, Romika is sharing all of the practicals you'll need to be motivated to accomplish your goals by as soon as tomorrow!
• 04:10, think in reverse
• 07:25, comfort or character
• 11:50, reframe your story
• 19:34, take more supplements (not what you think)
• 25:35, environment
• 28:18, be picky about your advisors
• 31: 24, movement vs. action
• 34:42, WW_D
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One of the scariest feelings is not feeling like you don't know who you are...or even the next steps to take so that you can figure out who you are. I only know because I've felt that at so many points in my life (and even most recently - last year... for most of 2023).
Not this year though. This year, we are facing this fear head on, and I am going to help you identify the next steps you'll need to take in order to reorient yourself, and re-ground yourself in who you are at your core.
04:44 - Intro: explaining why it is hard to become yourself post-trauma
07:30 - Romika shares her first identity crisis and the trauma behind the why
12:12 - Explore
14:00 - Learning how to identify core values
21:40 - Become it
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Relationships are hard....and estranged relationships add several extra layers of complexity and confusion to something that is already tiring, confusing and difficult.
In this episode, Romika shares how she feels about her relationships that are currently estranged, and presents practicals so that you can navigate your estranged relationships in a healthy way.
12:43, wallow in self-pity 13:57, get present 20:12, the 5 apology languages 26:26, bringing integrity into the relationship 31:50, keeping peace vs. making peace 34:09, think endgame 37:30, redefining relationshipsThe book that was referenced, was The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas.
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It is so hard to make new friends as adults, but we also need them - we were designed for community and connection. In this episode, Romika shares how she is currently navigating one of the most lonely seasons of her life, what specific qualities and characteristics she looks for when deciding to invest in a new friendship, and specific practicals you can use right now to create and begin to build new friendships as an adult!
03:30, sitting in the discomfort of loneliness 09:05, why Romika believes she feels lonely right now 13:40, Teachability and Availability 15:03, The 3 categories of friendships to seek out and invest in 20:37, Getting outside of yourself 29:16, Risking RejectionPlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram and Facebook!
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In this episode, Romika defines what a coping mechanism is, how they have served you in outliving your trauma, and 3 healthy and preventative coping mechanisms to adopt that can assist you while you learn how to respond preventatively instead of reactively!
9:20, #1: Name what's vague 21:08, #2: Force a pause 24:53, #3: Communicating what helps and what hurtsPlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram, TikTok and Facebook!
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Emotional burn-out is so common, and especially for those of you who have learned how to just push past what you're feeling so that we can just"get the job done." The more you push through, the more probable it becomes that you will experience feelings of burn-out.
In this episode, Romika identifies exactly what it is, shares how it has shown up in her own life, and for those of you who are struggling with feeling emotionally burnt-out or exhausted right now, she identifies 3 specific practicals on how to better manage and prevent it!
ADDITIONAL TOOLS:
This episode references the work of Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith and her research on "The 7 Types of Rest." Included is the link to her TedTalk episode, as well as her book, "Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity."
10:28 - Practical #1 - Learn how to Listen to your Emotions 27:33 - Practical #2 - Rest 38:38 - Practical #3 - Reprioritize where you carePlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram, TikTok and Facebook!
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In this episode, Romika is breaking down 4 principles you'll need to establish healthy boundaries in both healthy and unhealthy relationships. By the end of this episode, you will learn:
- the importance of boundaries
- how to think about boundaries
- and 4 principles to discover how to create boundaries in a healthy way
Boundaries are fundamental for every single relationship you encounter, which is why it is so important to understand how to establish, reinforce, and communicate them. The helpful, and maybe even reassuring part about establishing healthy boundaries is that it is a skill, so if you're not good at it now...keep going. It will get more and more comfortable for you!
With so much love,
Romika Gunn
The 4 Principles:
00:00 Trailer 02:23 Intro to boundaries, importance and relevance 10:53 #1: How to evaluate your own needs and wants before engaging with other people 18:09 #2: Building Fences vs. Building Walls 22:31 #3: Stop trying to fix 25:25 #4: RoleplayingPlease do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram, TikTok and Facebook!
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Welcome to Kinfolk!
In this introductory episode, Romika shares her heart behind why she created this podcast! In this episode, she defines and makes a distinction between what it looks like to live and what it looks like to survive. She also shares a vulnerable overview of her story so that those of you who don't know her yet, feel like you better understand her heart and the tone of this podcast going forward.
You will be able to listen to weekly episodes that dig deeper into practical ways to love in a healthier way, and matter in a meaningful way.
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