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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, has a transformative conversation with women's confidence coach, Bek Antonucci, surrounding topics of body image, self-love, and radical self-expression. Bek shares her journey of overcoming societal pressures and personal challenges, including a transformative experience with a stigmatized health condition, and embracing self-acceptance and empowerment.
The conversation dissects the impact of childhood experiences on body perception, the importance of self-awareness, and the power of vulnerability. Together, they explore how women can reclaim their narratives and find confidence through self-expression and personal growth. This episode offers practical tools and inspiring stories so that you can challenge limiting beliefs and embrace your unique selves.
What We Explored This Episode03:11 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs
07:35 Reclaiming Feminine Identity
09:46 Navigating Aging with Grace and Acceptance
17:59 The Journey to Body Confidence and Self-Worth
19:42 Journey to Self-Acceptance and Vulnerability
24:23 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery
25:45 The Long Game of True Health
28:08 Future of Body Positivity and Self-Expression
Memorable Quotes"I know that when I'm slimmer, women will compliment me. I know that when I have a little bit more juice on me, men will love it more. But the misconception is that we're doing it for someone else.""The more I did this work, the less I reached for food to band-aid any kind of emotion. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with emotions and understanding the role food plays in our lives.""As women, some of us are so habitual in checking in the mirror, making sure that we look okay, ensuring the fitness routine is on, eating a certain way, and checking for changes or fluctuations. Get curious about where this drive and the need for it came from"Connect with BekBek’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bekantonucci/?hl=en
Bek’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@bekantonucci
Bek’s Spoify - https://open.spotify.com/show/2EteUkpcHX7jcCV1f5wGWh?si=vt_dhgEaRUCErxuKic86vw
Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host, Amie Barsky, welcomes spiritual business coach, Rachelle Raku, to explore the metamorphic power of embracing both masculine and feminine energies, and transforming anger into motivation. Rachelle shares her insights on how women can tap into their dark feminine energy to birth their dreams and navigate male-dominated spaces.
This conversation goes deep into the importance of acknowledging and expressing emotions, like anger and rage, navigating relevant aspects of self-love, setting boundaries, and celebrating personal growth. Get ready to receive encouragement about embracing your sensuality and living authentically.
What We Explored This Episode04:06 Integrating Life's Aspects for Women
05:29 Exploring the Feminine and Inner Child
15:16 The Journey from People Pleasing to Self-Discovery
16:54 Exploring the Shadow Self for Empowerment
20:11 Embracing Sensuality and Overcoming Shame
21:25 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
22:43 Transformative Power of Expressing Anger
26:07 Transformative Power of Primal Scream Therapy
34:11 Living Your Vision Board
Memorable Quotes“Celebrate small victories and acknowledge your growth. This is crucial, as it reminds you of the progress you've made on your journey.”"Coming home to yourself means loving who you are and catching yourself in shame spirals, reminding yourself you're doing your best." "Anger is a powerful motivator. Releasing it creates space within you, allowing you to fill it with whatever you choose."Connect with RachelleRachelle’ Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/842528483158589/
Rachelle’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rachelleluvraku/
Schedule A Call With Rachelle - https://www.realignwithraku.com/book-a-call
Connect to Spirit Call With Rachelle - https://www.realignwithraku.com/book-a-spirit
Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes relationship coach Kelly Gardener to discuss the complexities of self-care, relationships, and the fine line between healthy selfishness and narcissism. Kelly shares insights on how self-trust and confidence can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships.
Together, they explore the impact of societal pressures on women, the importance of setting and holding boundaries, and how to cultivate sensuality and self-worth independent of external validation. This episode is a thought-provoking dive into modern relationships, offering practical advice and inspiring stories to help listeners prioritize their own needs and foster meaningful connections.
What We Explored This Episode03:57 Healthy Selfishness in Relationships
07:46 Socialization of Boys and Girls
09:37 The Paradox of Selfishness in Love
13:56 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships
16:37 The Connection Between Self-Trust and Confidence
20:01 Cultivating Sensuality and Self-Worth
22:00 Societal Standards and Body Changes
26:26 Defining Confidence
Memorable Quotes"The ugliest parts of me come out only with the people I trust the most. It's a paradox that the deepest, ugliest parts of my being surface because I trust you enough to see them. This reality, though unfortunate, is an opportunity for growth—for me and for us together.""Boundaries are not walls; they are permeable membranes that allow for connection. A good boundary doesn't require the other person's participation; it's about what you will do if your needs aren't met.""Healthy selfishness in a relationship means looking at how the issues that arise are reflections of your own experiences and triggers. It's about taking responsibility and getting curious about your own patterns."Connect with KellyKelly’s Website: https://www.kellygardner.com/about-me
Kelly’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamkellygardner
Schedule A Call With Kelly - https://communitygardnerllc.hbportal.co/schedule/6506a876455fe4002512df98
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In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative practice of Internal Family Systems (IFS), also known as parts work. Amie shares her personal journey and beliefs on how understanding and harmonizing the different parts of oneself can lead to greater self-awareness, acceptance, and compassion.
Through practical tools, inspiring stories, and expert advice, she expresses how to achieve freedom from limiting beliefs and societal pressures. This episode offers a deep dive into how IFS can help you make conscious decisions, improve relationships, and lead a more vibrant, fulfilling life.
What We Explored This Episode01:52 Core Themes: Internal Family Systems (IFS)
02:32 Family Influence On Personal Development
04:07 Unveiling Unconscious Blocks
05:38 Understanding Your True Core Self
06:36 The Common Parts of You
10:15 Deep Compassion for One's Parts
Memorable Quotes"When you have a loving relationship with your parts, they do their jobs when it's appropriate, and then they step back when they're not needed. This balance allows you to make decisions from a conscious, centered state of awareness, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling life.""Your true self is the core of you, which contains your leadership qualities, such as compassion, perspective, decision making, curiosity, and confidence. When you lead from this centered state, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and clarity.""All parts are good. They're actually trying to help you in one way or another. Even when their actions seem counterproductive, they are attempting to protect you from harm or discomfort, and understanding this can lead to profound personal growth."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
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In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky discusses the connection between inner work and living a vibrant life. Amie shares her personal journey and professional insights as a Nervous System And Trauma Master Coach, emphasizing the need to take ownership of one's life and build a deep relationship with oneself.
She discusses the significance of understanding and processing stored experiences in the body, challenging limiting beliefs, and fostering patience and faith in the healing process. If you are ready to let go of lingering self-doubt, anxiety or burnout, this episode is perfect to get you started!
What We Explored This Episode02:00 - Stepping Away From Interviews
03:43 - Living A Vibrant Life
05:03 - Core Theme: Inner Work
06:24 - The Connection Between Healing And Willingness
09:33 - Building Trust Within Body
10:25 - Unlocking A Level Of Intimacy With Self
Memorable Quotes"Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience.”"Healing requires willingness—the willingness to challenge your basic beliefs of who you think you are. Whether it's people-pleasing tendencies, self-doubt, anxiety, or past trauma, all of it is connected.""It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you, to create that safety, to say, 'I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.'"Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Master Coach Brandan Padilla to discuss the challenges faced by ambitious mothers. Together, they explore the subtle signs of burnout, the importance of self-regulation, and practical strategies for creating balance amidst busy schedules.
Having experience as a solo mama, Brandan shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood and time for herself. She offers insights on recognizing and addressing the early cues of stress, and emphasizes that self care is not a luxury but is an essential practice for well-being.
This episode is packed with actionable advice and inspiring stories aimed at helping mothers prioritize themselves and foster a healthier family dynamic.
What We Explored This Episode02:09 Self-Care for Busy Moms
06:33 Signs of Dysregulation in Parenting
08:36 Window of Tolerance in Nervous System
10:53 Self-Regulation as a Tool for Self-Care
16:14 Transforming Relationship with Self Care
18:28 Involving Children in Self-Care Practices
24:10 Teaching Children Emotional Expression
29:21 Dealing with Mom Guilt
Memorable Quotes"It's imperative that we, mamas and women, put ourselves first. If my cup is full, then anything that spills over, that's in the saucer, everyone else can drink from."
"If you are suffering from mama guilt, remember the three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. Be aware of your feelings, accept them, and then take action to change the situation."
"Enroll your child in your self-care practice. It's going to teach them beautiful practices. You're being a generational code breaker, giving them a better future."
Connect with BrandanInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/beingbrandan/
Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Casey Warwick, a business embodiment coach who is revolutionizing the way women approach success in business. Casey shares her incredible journey from a military career, cut short by injury, to becoming a personal trainer and, eventually, a thriving business coach.
Casey’s story is filled with raw honesty and powerful insights about overcoming personal trauma and the importance of intuition and energetics in achieving success. Casey dives into the common blocks women face in business and how to overcome them, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to confront and heal past traumas.
This conversation is packed with practical advice and heartfelt wisdom that you don’t want to miss. So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable, and join us in on this empowering discussion.
What We Explored This Episode00:00 Mental Frameworks on Guilt and Shame
02:36 Casey Warwick's Journey to Becoming a Business Embodiment Coach
04:44 Healing and Business Transformation
18:27 The Impact of Negative Influences on Women's Success
23:53 The Healing Journey
36:04 Mental Frameworks on Abundance
41:21 Casey's Business Transformation Through Stillness
Memorable Quotes"Guilt reveals, shame conceals. Those who are guilty will unconsciously see things, so it comes up. Whereas those who are in shame, who are often the victim of the circumstance, they conceal it."
"I realized that what I was doing in business was actually a reflection of who I was as a woman. It wasn't anything to do with my strategy or how I was showing up in business. It was all the stuff that was energetically going on for me."
"I challenge anyone listening: if you're not where you want to be, identify whose voice is holding you back. That voice will control you until you take ownership of it and transform it into your own."
Episode ResourcesEmbodied Business Playbook by Casey Warwick- https://www.casewarwick.com/playbook
Embodied leadership Quiz- https://www.casewarwick.com/embodied-leadership-quiz
Connect With CaseyWebsite- https://www.casewarwick.com/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/casey.warwick
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/casewarwick/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes nervous system leadership coach Kari Azuma. They delve into the intricacies of the nervous system and its impact on daily life, particularly for women. Kari explains how chronic stress affects our bodies and the importance of cultivating inner safety to set and maintain boundaries. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deep-rooted patterns of safety and threat, often established in childhood.
Kari shares insights on how to shift from a problem-oriented mindset to a solution-oriented one, emphasizing the need for self-compassion and resourcing oneself to stand in authority. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of nervous system regulation and personal growth.
What We Explored This Episode05:09 Nervous System and Safety
18:30 Fawning Response in the Nervous System
28:52 Nervous System Work and Personal Evolution
36:42 Importance of Self-Care and Connecting with Ancestors
Memorable Quotes"We don't have a nervous system; we are a nervous system. It's always looking for a threat, called neuroception, which means the nervous system is always listening, even when we're not thinking about it."
"Boundaries are the most activating act for our nervous system to carry out because they require us to stand in our authority and power. It can feel like confrontation, but they are also the most connecting aspect of a relationship."
"My work is really grounded in embodied leadership, rites of passage work for women, and deep root nervous system work. The combination of these is about rediscovering a deep, innate trust in yourself and building that inner world into a strong base."
Episode ResourcesPolyvagal Theory - A theory that explains how the nervous system responds to stress and trauma - https://www.stephenporges.com/
Kimberly Ann Johnson - Expert in nervous system work - https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/
Connect With KariInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/kariazuma/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kari.Azuma.3?mibextid=LQQJ4d
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes clinical psychologist Lorena Martinez to explore the intersection of psychology and ancestry. Lorena delves into how generational trauma can shape our present lives, offering insights into family dynamics and the importance of reclaiming one's place in the family tree.
The conversation covers practical methods for emotional release, such as somatic practices and ancestral healing, and emphasizes the significance of self-care. Also discussed are the challenges and rewards of breaking generational cycles, particularly for mothers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and overcome inherited emotional patterns.
What We Explored This Episode06:14 Psychology meets Ancestry
18:24 Ancestral Healing and Generational Trauma
20:13 Intergenerational Trauma
22:47 Generational Emotional Suppression
28:56 Acceptance and Forgiveness in Relationships
33:23 Breaking Generational Cycles
34:12 Somatics and Emotional Releasing
Memorable Quotes“The way we reclaim our power is when we take our place in our family tree. When we have been our sisters' mothers, our mothers' mothers, or when we haven't taken our role as the child, we can’t reclaim whatever life has for us.""When your grandmother was pregnant with your mother at four months, the egg that would become you was already there. So whatever your grandma lived through, you were already receiving those codes.""Our parents gave us what was given to them. Understanding that helps to step into a place of peace with what happened. They did what they knew, and we can choose to break the cycle."Episode MentionedRupert Sheldrake's Research on Morphic Fields - https://www.sheldrake.org/
Family Constellation by Bert Hellinger - https://www.hellinger.com/en/family-constellation/
Connect With LorenaLorena’s Website - https://www.thegoodkarmalife.com/
Lorena’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/people/ThegoodKarmalife
Lorena’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loremarti/?hl=en
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Emotional IQ expert Joshua Wenner. They dive into the intricacies of emotional regulation, exploring how high amounts of stress impacts our brain and behavior. Joshua shares his journey from grief and trauma work to helping high achievers heal their relationships. The conversation covers codependency, attachment styles, and societal expectations that hinder self-care.
Joshua offers practical advice on daily regulation practices and the importance of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Tune in for insights on transforming your life and love story through emotional awareness and self-prioritization.
What We Explored This Episode0:00 Daily Emotional Regulation Framework
13:35 Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships
21:52 Nervous System Responses in Relationships
27:03 Mental Frameworks for Moving from Codependency to Independence
29:04 Societal Expectations and Women's Self-Prioritization
30:05 Men's Self-Care and Nurturing Practices
35:02 Embracing Contraction and Expansion in Personal Growth
36:03 Joshua's Relationship Dynamics and Personal Growth
39:12 Embracing Duality and Grief Work
41:09 Emotional Regulation Through Breathing
Memorable Quotes"When you're high-stressed, you move into the back of your brain, which shuts off compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Getting regulated moves you to the front of the brain, where you can consciously choose how to respond." "In codependent dynamics, the anxious person leans in with controlling energy, while the avoidant person pulls away. This yo-yo pattern continues until both learn to regulate their nervous systems and address their wounds.""Life involves a constant contraction and expansion. Embracing both joy and grief, excitement and frustration, allows us to navigate life's ebb and flow more effectively."Episode ResourcesFacing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048
Connect with JoshuaJoshua’s Website - https://joshuawenner.com/
Joshua’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuawenner/
Joshua’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, welcomes Susy Schieffelin, the founder of The Copper Vessel and The Sound Healers Academy. Susy shares her transformative journey from a high-paced corporate life in New York City to becoming a renowned sound healer in Los Angeles. She opens up about her struggles with alopecia, addiction, and the pivotal moment that led her to sobriety and self-love. Susy discusses the profound impact of sound baths, Reiki, and Kundalini yoga on her healing process.
The conversation also delves into balancing masculine and feminine energies, redefining beauty standards, and the importance of self-care, especially as a mother and businesswoman. Tune in for an inspiring story of resilience, self-acceptance, and the power of holistic healing practices.
What We Explored This Episode3:26: Susy's Journey to Self-Acceptance
5:37: Susy's Struggle with Addiction and Recovery
14:15:Core Themes
21:36:Finding Balance in Masculine and Feminine Energies
25:17:Amie's Story of Missed Opportunity
29:49:Advice on Self-Care for Mothers
32:44:The Importance of Self-Care for Parents
36:38:Creating a Safe Nervous System
40:53:Susy's Daily Cacao Ritual
Memorable Quotes"Becoming a mother shifted so much for me because before that, I was very good about my self care, but I was also quite rigid. Like, every morning it was sitting on my sheepskin for an hour to 2 hours, doing my perfect breath work and my chanting and my Kundalini practice. And when you have a newborn and when you have little kids, it's not realistic to do that.""I moved from New York to California. And that was when I experienced my first sound bath. I had already been to rehab. I had already started meditating. I had already begun a daily gratitude practice, but I couldn't stay fully sober. When I moved to California and went to my first sound bath, it felt like something shifted within me.""I trust so deeply that the universe will put the person in front of me who can support me, can support my babies, so that I can fill up my cup and be the best possible mom to these little ones. And it's a gift to let other people love you and hold you. It feels good to help people. It feels good for him to get to care for the kids."Resources MentionedThe Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Experiment-Journey-Lifes-Perfection/dp/080414110X
Connect with SusySusy’s Website - https://www.thesoundhealersacademy.com/
Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecoppervessel
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Susy’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheCopperVessel
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes master coach Andrea Tessier to explore the profound impact of inner child work, somatics, and internal family systems (IFS) on personal growth and self-worth. Andrea shares her journey from a regimented teaching career to becoming a certified master coach, emphasizing the importance of understanding and integrating our inner parts.
The conversation delves into how childhood trauma shapes our nervous system and influences adult behavior, offering practical insights into building self-trust and harmonious relationships. Listeners will gain valuable tools to transform self-sabotage into self-love and enhance their connection to intuition and creativity.
What We Explored This Episode00:05:40: Explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS)
00:06:15: Impact of Childhood Trauma on the Nervous System
00:12:58: Understanding Parts Work in IFS
00:18:13: Breakdown of Manager, Firefighter, and Exile Parts
00:25:24: Connection Between Inner Child and Self-Trust
00:30:10: Navigating Relationships and Partner Dynamics
00:35:13: The Importance of Self-Trust and Integration
00:42:57: Distinguishing Between Pullback and Procrastination
Memorable Quotes"Our society is really built on this concept of willpower, that we should just be able to will ourselves to do something, be something, know better, do better. And when we can't, we go into shame and guilt and rigidity around it. When we're trying to will parts of us into submission, we're actually disregarding some really important wisdom and creating a level of self-trust.""Firefighters are extreme protectors. If your house is on fire, you want to call the firefighters—they are going to put that out. Firefighters in our internal system can show up as addiction, eating disorders, or explosive rage and anger. They are parts of us that we feel are really extreme, and they are protecting a younger part of us.""The inner child is like the most critical piece. Yes, it holds the pain and trauma and hurt, but it is also responsible for our creativity, innocence, play, and aliveness. The more we can awaken the inner child, the more we have direct access to that, and who doesn't want that? Because that's where life is really good."Resources MentionedClear Mind Clear Path: An Unconventional Guide to Decision Making for Overthinkers by Andrea Tessier - https://www.andreatessier.com/clear-mind-clear-path
Connect With AndreaAndrea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tessier.andrea/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes financial wellness coach Katy Chen Mazzara. Katy shares her unique perspective on money, emphasizing its role as an exchange of energy and its connection to self-worth. The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape our financial beliefs and the importance of aligning money decisions with personal values. Katy offers practical advice on managing finances, including tracking income and expenses, and the significance of slowing down before making major financial decisions. She also discusses the emotional aspects of debt and the importance of self-forgiveness in achieving financial freedom. This episode is packed with insights to help listeners develop a healthier relationship with money.
What We Explored This Episode00:05:33: Connection Between Self-Worth and Finances
00:10:17: Understanding Childhood Money Stories
00:13:29: Defining Money and Its Value
00:14:20: Practical and Energetic Approaches to Money
00:16:08: Methods for Tracking Finances
00:17:32: Making Money Conversations Fun
00:19:04: Discussing Money in Relationships
00:21:52: Emotional Connection to Money
00:22:15: Concept of Money Not Being Real
00:24:13: Evaluating Purchases and Personal Value Systems
00:26:03: Aligning Money Decisions with Core Values
00:32:47: Steps to Manage Newfound Wealth
Memorable Quotes"Money represents freedom, and that's all it represents. The more money I have, the more freedom I have. It's that freedom of choice as well.""Our self-worth is about who we are and what we bring to the table. If you know this, you can let things go a lot easier. Your financial success is built upon how good you feel about yourself.""The faster way to pay off debts is applying two things: slowing it down and only applying as much as you need to per month, and doing an energetic clearing out by forgiving yourself for those debts and releasing feelings of shame and guilt."Resources MentionedThe Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes special guest Sam Gibbs Morris, a Leader in Self-development, Psychedelics, and Breathwork. Together, they explore the dynamics of creating safe and trusting environments in romantic relationships. Sam shares his personal journey of overcoming pain, addiction, and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies both internally and externally. The conversation delves into the collective wounds of men and women, the significance of vulnerability, and practical tools for fostering deeper connections. Listeners will gain insights into breathwork, heart-opening practices, and the importance of maintaining open communication in relationships.
What We Explored This Episode00:06:17: Sam's Journey and Relationship with Masculine and Feminine Energies
00:09:25: The Importance of Masculine Holding the Feminine
00:15:10: The Importance of Feminine Holding the Masculine
00:19:48: Encouraging Vulnerability in Men
00:25:54: Communication and Addressing Issues in Relationships
00:31:03: Unexpected Challenges in Conscious Relationships
00:34:46: Embodiment Practices for Connection
00:37:15: Sam's Morning Routine and Personal Practices
00:38:26: Supporting Each Other's Nervous Systems in Relationships
Memorable Quotes"It's so important to cultivate acceptance and self-love along the journey, even if it doesn't look like what society or our parents think it should.""One of the things that we get to be aware of is our core wounds when we come into relationships. A lot of times, those wounds become weapons. We weaponize an abandonment wound or a rejection wound, and it falls into gaslighting or making the other person feel less than for having their experience." "The work is just beginning. You can do a ton of work by yourself, but the next level of work is when you meet someone and get into a relationship. The relationship will be the ceremony, and your willingness to stay in that discomfort through it is the basis of what conscious means in a conscious relationship."Resources MentionedWaking the Tiger: Healing Trauma - A book that explores the nature of trauma and how it affects the body and mind.
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Dr. Erin Haskell, a world-renowned leader and Doctor of Divinity. They delve into the intricacies of self-love, spirituality, and the science behind ending personal suffering. Dr. Haskell shares her journey from trauma to spiritual awakening, emphasizing the importance of daily spiritual practice and the pitfalls of seeking external validation. The conversation explores how to break free from societal programming and align with one's true self. This episode is a deep dive into the transformative power of inner work and the pursuit of genuine self-love.
What We Explored This Episode00:00:00: Introduction and Welcome
00:05:04: Understanding the Doctor of Divinity
00:07:57: Erin's Personal Journey and Overcoming Obstacles
00:10:35: The Myth of Spirituality and Manifestation
00:14:30: The Source of Suffering
00:17:30: Breaking the Cycle of Suffering
00:20:22: The Trap of Self-Love Industry
00:23:19: Navigating Divine Self-Love and Human Experience
00:26:33: The Importance of Daily Spiritual Practice
00:28:01: The Future of Spiritual Practice and Mental Health
00:29:27: How to Connect with Dr. Erin Haskell
00:31:00: Erin's Daily Spiritual Practice
00:32:08: Erin's Excitement for Future Research and Practices
00:32:49: Closing Remarks and Gratitude
Memorable Quotes"The myth of spirituality is that when I become spiritual enough, I'm going to be able to manifest anything that I want. The truth is, all the good things and all the bad things are not necessarily me just using the power of my mind to manifest, but rather for the evolution of the species.""All suffering comes from basically putting your power outside of yourself and resisting what is. The moment we do that, it's just an ongoing suffering. It never, ever works.""The true self-love can only come from one place, and it's from the divine, beloved source within. You have to go into self-love without one need, without one thing you want to manifest, with a pure, pure heart."Episode ResourcesSpiritual Psychology School - Founded by Dr. Erin Haskell, offering courses and certifications in spiritual psychology - https://www.spiritualpsychologyschool.com/
Connect with Dr. ErinDr. Erin’s Website - https://www.drerin.tv/
Dr. Erin’s Show Website - https://www.drerinshow.com/
Dr. Erin’s LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/drerin/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Andrea Aguilar, an embodiment coach and psychedelic facilitator, to discuss the importance of self-care and balancing masculine and feminine energies. Andrea shares her personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and the impact of losing her mother at a young age. The conversation delves into the concept of embodiment, the significance of listening to one's body, and the transformative power of psychedelics. Andrea also offers insights on how to approach psychedelics safely and the importance of finding the right facilitator. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of self-discovery, healing, and the practices that support personal growth.
What We Explored This Episode00:00:32: Introduction by Amie Barsky
00:02:36: Andrea Aguilar's Background and Journey
00:04:32: The Concept of Embodiment
00:07:07: The Role of the Nervous System in Embodiment
00:09:47: The Practice of Embodiment and Authenticity
00:17:03: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
00:24:43: Andrea's Personal Story of Loss and Healing
00:31:31: Introduction to Psychedelics for Healing
00:35:33: Finding the Right Facilitator for Psychedelic Experiences
00:38:05: How to Connect with Andrea Aguilar
00:39:10: Andrea's Daily Self-Care Practice
00:40:04: Closing Remarks and Gratitude
Memorable Quotes“When we become an embodied leader, an embodied mother, embodied sister, it is being able to hold the fullness of our lives with grace, with compassion and dignity and reverence.”"We are shifting into the next level of our human consciousness. And how we do that is we can start to play and manipulate the chemicals in our brain that bring us back to oneness, to a remembrance of who we are and why we're here.""For most of my life, the word intuition didn't exist. The word self-love didn't exist. I was so programmed to believe that if I give everything outside myself, everyone else and everything, my full and divided attention and love and appreciation outside myself, that was what I was supposed to do."Episode ResourcesPreparing for Transformation (Free E-Book) -
https://www.consciousmother.com/offers/Wz4tMJJ9/checkout
Connect with DreaDrea’s Website - https://www.consciousmother.com/
Drea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/conscious.mother/
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of self-care and breaking free from societal pressures with guest Kim Bilk, a women's hormone health expert. Kim shares her journey from a high-stress lifestyle that led to losing her period, to discovering holistic approaches for hormone healing and womb health. The conversation covers a range of topics including sexual reflexology, the significance of menstrual cycles, and the practice of yoni steaming. Kim also introduces the concept of cosmic breath and its benefits for connecting with one's feminine energy. This episode is packed with practical advice and empowering insights for women looking to prioritize their well-being.
What We Explored This Episode00:00:32: Introduction and Welcome
00:03:09: Kim Bilk's Background and Journey
00:07:19: Understanding Womb and Yoni
00:10:26: Trauma and Its Impact on the Pelvic Area
00:19:35: Introduction to Sexual Reflexology
00:25:19: Yoni Steaming and Its Benefits
00:30:28: Importance of Sharing and Sisterhood
00:32:04: Daily Practices for Connection and Gratitude
00:37:45: Kim's Daily "I Come First" Practice
00:38:27: Closing Remarks and Gratitude
Memorable Quotes"Our period actually is a symbol of our health. Some people will say it's our fifth vital sign. So I did compete again, and I didn't lose my period. The big thing was really just pulling back on stressors in my life."“Yoni is the Sanskrit word for womb. Think of where we carry children, right? Just in our pelvic area, just below the belly button. Everything's not the vagina. The vagina is internal. The external is the vulva. We have a uterus, we have fallopian tubes. So the womb just encompasses that whole area.""Cosmic breathing is a form of breath work. Place your hands on your womb, just below the belly button, and take an inhale, imagining the breath of air coming right from your clit. Breathe in, let it come up the front side of your body to the crown of your head. As you exhale, let it go down the backside of your head, down through the neck, spine, tailbone, looping around."Episode ResourcesCarbon38 - Mentioned as a fitness and wellness brand - https://www.carbon38.com
Connect with KimKim’s Website - Use "WOMB15" for 15% off at https://www.sacredwombcycles.com
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In this inaugural episode, host Amie Barsky welcomes Megan Thoma, a renowned dating coach who specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of relationships. Megan shares her insights on breaking free from societal expectations, healing from toxic relationships, and recognizing the red flags and green flags in dating. She delves into the science behind why women often stay in relationships past their expiration date and discusses the concept of a "loveability level." The conversation also explores how early childhood experiences with caregivers influence adult relationships, the importance of defining personal values and standards in relationships, and practical advice on building self-trust and effectively communicating needs and desires in a relationship.
What We Discussed00:01:23 - Megan's Journey into Becoming a Dating Coach
00:03:21 - Why We Choose to See the Good in People
00:06:03 - The Importance of Grace in Relationships
00:07:02 - Communicating Needs in Relationships
00:08:30 - Setting Standards and Values in Relationships
00:10:36 - The Role of Pheromones in Attraction
00:11:28 - Understanding Red Flags in Relationships
00:13:51 - The Impact of Familiarity in Relationships
00:15:41 - Building Self-Trust
00:17:27 - Listening to Your Body's Signals
00:19:00 - The Importance of Trusting Yourself
00:21:10 - Small Practices for Building Self-Trust
00:23:34 - Healing Old Patterns and Owning Your Voice
00:25:28 - Practicing Vulnerability and Communication
00:27:19 - The Importance of Expressing True Desires
00:29:27 - Practicing with Safe People
00:31:19 - The Power of Microscopic Truth in Communication
00:34:05 - The Importance of Vulnerability for Connection
00:36:05 - How to Connect with Megan Thoma
00:38:10 - Megan's Personal Practices for Self-Care
Memorable Guest QuotesOn Falling in Love with Potential:
"We excel at falling in love with potential due to our early experiences with inconsistent caregivers. As children, we cling to the hope that 'maybe someday' they will fulfill our needs. This pattern often continues into adulthood, where we find ourselves repeatedly drawn to potential rather than reality in our romantic relationships."On Expressing Needs in Relationships:
"There's a difference between trying to change someone and expressing your needs. It's about communicating what makes you feel loved and seen. For instance, I value words of affirmation and small gestures like notes, which might not come naturally to everyone. But when I share this openly, it invites my partner to meet my needs in ways that are meaningful to me."On Building Self-Trust:
"Building self-trust involves listening to your intuition and honoring the small, often overlooked internal prompts. Whether it's taking a different route or grabbing a coffee, these actions reinforce your ability to trust your own decisions. Over time, this practice strengthens your internal guidance system, making you more confident in your choices and more attuned to your true desires."Connect with MeganMegan’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/megan_thoma/
Megan’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/megan.thoma.7/
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Welcome to the "I Come First" Podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish - it’s self-care, and it is essential.
Yes, you heard me right, we are flippin’ the script!
Are you tired of being the superhero for everyone else while your own needs take a backseat? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out, wondering where in the world your own spark went?
If you're nodding along to that, then buckle up sister, because you found your tribe!
Hi I'm Amie Barsky, nervous system and trauma master coach and breathwork facilitator, here to guide you on a journey of self-care and empowerment.
From a young age, I bought into the belief that being the 'good girl,' meant putting myself last. I also followed the rules - convinced that the only way to success was constant hustling, pushing, proving, and people-pleasing.
I tried to live up to those unrealistic standards & it left me in overdrive, battling overwhelm, anxiety, spouts of depression and disconnection from my true self.
I have supported hundreds of women worldwide as they break free from similar cycles, and now it’s your turn!
This is the podcast for ambitious women who are tired of feeling overworked, under appreciated and are done putting themselves last! This is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a roadmap to help you break free from the pressure of societal norms, understand your nervous system and reconnect to your fierce inner strength.
Join us on this wild ride as we rewrite the rules, and share the secrets to putting yourself first. Each week, we’ll be sharing practical tools, advice, inspiring stories and unstoppable energy.
Let’s make “I Come First” your daily mantra and reclaim your zest for life!
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