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From Postpartum Struggles to Unstoppable Confidence: A Conversation with Ellison Ward
The significance of setting small, achievable goals emerges as a vital strategy for fostering confidence and momentum in personal development in this candid coversation with Ellison Ward. Ellison shares her transformative journey from feeling overwhelmed and trapped in a cycle of inactivity to embracing incremental changes that reshaped her life.
Tonya Leigh welcomes Ellison Ward to discuss the transformative power of reinvention. Ellison shares her personal journey of overcoming postpartum depression and the struggles she faced in rediscovering herself. Tonya and Ellison explore the importance of community and support during times of change, highlighting how the School of Self-Image has played a pivotal role in Ellison's transformation. This episode offers inspiration and practical insights for women looking to embrace their own journeys of self-reinvention. Tune in to hear Ellison's remarkable story and learn how you too can embark on the path to rediscovery and empowerment.
Talking Points:
00:31 - Ellison Ward's After Story
01:02 - Meeting Ellison in London
01:22 - Ellison's Background and Struggles
04:09 - The Challenge of Taking the First Step
04:47 - Overwhelmed and Anxious Feelings
07:48 - Advice for Women Feeling Stuck
10:12 - Building Confidence Through Small Wins
11:06 - The Importance of Community
13:08 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs
14:02 - Overcoming People-Pleasing
16:19 - Influence of Ellison's Grandmother
17:01 - Shifting Focus from Past to Future
19:34 - Echo Effect of Achieving One Goal
23:07 - Focusing on Energy and Health
24:58 - Enjoying Life's Pleasures
25:47 - Mastering Your Day
26:33 - Gratitude and Future PlansQuotes:
"I thought, sink or swim, I gotta do this. There's no excuse."
"I set small goals... those small goals get you to the big, and then you don't feel overwhelmed."
"You just need one person in your life that offers you a possibility that you never thought would be possible."
"Sometimes they want to fight with me on it. And I'm like, listen, you're going to thank me later."
"If you want to master your life, master your day."
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Never Say Never: Rediscovering Joy in Everyday Moments
Visualization is a powerful tool that can shape our reality by guiding us toward opportunities and success. By holding positive visions in our minds and allowing our brains to filter relevant information, we can create a pathway to achieving our dreams. Tonya Leigh's insights remind us that the journey is just as important as the destination, and by embracing the process with patience and excitement, we can manifest the life we desire.
She shares her five biggest lessons from 2024 and emphasizes the importance of taking time to assess the past year and intentionally plan for the future, highlighting the significance of visualization as a tool for shaping reality. Tonya discusses her recent experiences while working on her upcoming membership and the annual workshop, The Curated Year, where members come together to plan and learn from their past. Join her for insightful reflections and practical takeaways to carry into the next year!
Talking Points:
00:35 - Tonya's Five Biggest Lessons of 2024
01:08 - Annual Workshop: The Curated Year
01:29 - Reflecting on Last Year's Lessons
01:51 - The Power of Visualization
05:05 - Never Say Never
09:02 - Patience and Playing the Long Game
14:21 - Knowing Your Core Values
16:30 - It's Never as Hard as You Think
21:08 - It's Okay for People to Be Upset
24:34 - Looking Forward to New LessonsQuotes:
"Dreaming and visualizing aren't just wishful thinking. They're powerful tools for shaping your reality."
"There is power to visualizing what it is that you want and then letting go of how or if it's going to happen."
"Life isn’t linear. It’s more cyclical. You may find yourself coming back to parts of yourself that you thought were long gone, but you’ve missed."
"If you find yourself out of alignment, I want you to think about, do you know what your core values are?"
"I want to see myself as capable of doing hard things and being a woman who is true to herself, who's authentic."
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From Overwhelm to Calm: Redefining Your Holiday Season
The holiday season often brings a whirlwind of activities, expectations, and societal pressures that can lead to feelings of overwhelm and stress. However, by embracing the concept of holiday essentialism, you can transform your experience into one that is joyful and fulfilling. This approach encourages you to focus on what truly brings you joy while letting go of obligations that do not serve you.
Inspired by Greg McCowan's book "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less," which encourages focusing on fewer but more meaningful activities, Tonya challenges listeners to ask themselves three key questions:
What truly brings them joy during the holidays? What activities they do out of obligation? What memories they want to create?She discusses the societal expectations that can turn what should be a joyful time into a marathon of obligations. Tune in to discover how to shift your mindset and focus on what truly matters this holiday season, embracing the simple joys and calm instead of the chaos.
Talking Points:
01:09 - Holiday Overwhelm and Societal Pressures
02:13 - Fear of Disappointing Others
04:36 - What is Essentialism?
05:39 - Question 1: What Truly Brings Me Joy?
06:34 - Question 2: What Am I Doing Just Because I Think I Have To?
07:50 - Question 3: What Memories Do I Want to Create?
08:33 - Shifting from Excess to Intention
09:55 - Editing Ruthlessly
14:06 - Mindfulness and Being Present
17:02 - Secret Santa and Charitable Giving
18:04 - Simplifying the Holidays
23:10 - Setting Boundaries for Social Commitments
24:03 - Prioritizing Connection Over Perfection
24:13 - Setting Intentions for the Holiday Season
Quotes:
"If holidays are not your thing, especially around this time of year, I challenge you to skip it altogether."
"The shift in mindset with holiday essentialism is to move from access to intention and from pleasing others to cherishing moments."
"Just because you've done something for years doesn't mean you have to continue doing it."
"The holidays are not a performance and you don't have to be performative."
"Shed the souffle. Seriously, let her go. You don't need to do it."
"What people remember is how you made them feel."
Useful Resources:
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Finding Joy in Life's Challenges: The Uncommon Gratitude Practice
In our daily lives, we often encounter individuals who trigger strong emotional responses in us—whether it’s frustration, anger, or discomfort. The common reaction is to distance ourselves from these people, believing that cutting them out will provide relief. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, this approach may lead to missed opportunities for profound personal growth.
In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the profound lessons that can be learned from the things we often take for granted, complain about, or try to avoid in our daily lives. As Thanksgiving approaches, Tonya emphasizes the importance of gratitude and celebration, arguing that these practices should extend beyond just one day a year. She reflects on how embracing gratitude has been a transformative principle in her life, helping her navigate challenges and create a life she loves. Drawing from a recent workshop, she shares insights on staying connected to our celebrations, highlighting how they can foster personal growth and joy. Join Tonya as she invites listeners to recognize and appreciate the unexpected sources of wisdom in their lives.
Talking Points:
00:40 - Thanksgiving and Gratitude
02:06 - The Power of Celebration
03:11 - Practicing Gratitude in Hard Times
03:43 - People Who Trigger Us
07:04 - Learning from Triggers
10:06 - Embracing Failures
12:35 -Daily Annoyances
16:00 - Future Gratitude
22:34 - Showing Up for Your Dreams
Quotes:
"Gratitude has become a practice that I especially use during my hardest times."
"I have come to view these people as my biggest teachers. I like to call them my pets. They're my personal emotional trainers."
"I think the answer is to lean into it so we can learn from it and grow from it."
"A lot of the lessons that we need to learn are going to be learned in the mistakes, not in the successes."
"The next time you're annoyed, just ask yourself, is there anything in this that I could be grateful for?"
"I have found that the anticipation is even better than the arrival."
"If you come across just one podcast and you learn something that changes your life, I will feel like I have served my mission in life."
"Be a woman who shows up for her dreams."
Useful Resources:
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Reclaim Your Time, Avoid Distractions, and Boost Productivity.
Distraction is often viewed as an external issue, something that occurs due to our environment, technology, or other people. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, the reality is that distraction is primarily a mental challenge. In fact, it is stated that 90% of distractions stem from our own thoughts rather than external factors. This insight is crucial for anyone looking to improve their focus and productivity.
Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh delves into the pervasive issue of distraction and its impact on productivity. Research indicates that the average person loses nearly four hours each day to interruptions, but Tonya shares her insights on how distraction can be managed rather than succumbed to. She introduces five effective strategies she practices to enhance focus, derived from her personal journey of transformation from a scattered individual to someone who achieves remarkable results. As we approach the holidays, Tonya reflects on her experiences in 2024, expressing gratitude for the lessons learned and the growth achieved, emphasizing the profound influence of self-image on all areas of life.
Tune in for valuable insights that can help you navigate distractions and elevate your self-image for a more fulfilling life.
Talking Points:
00:49 - Holiday Greetings and Reflections
01:10 - Gratitude for 2024 and Excitement for 2025
02:31 - Self-Image and Humanity
03:46 - Observations and Commands to the Brain
11:20 - The Value of Attention
12:14 - The Real Cost of Distractions
14:03 - What Could You Do with 1500 Hours?
16:14 - Reclaiming Lost Time
19:03 - Breaking Down Plans into Actionable Results
22:22 - Emotional Responses to Distractions
25:08 - Understanding the Root of Distractions
26:26 - Examining the Cost of Distractions
30:04 - Personal Power and Focus
34:08 - Handling Distractions When They Occur
Quotes:
"It's the failures that teach us the most."
"Attention in this day and age is our most valuable commodity, and yet it's something that we do not guard often enough."
"What could you do with 1500 hours?"
"The question isn't whether you have the time, the question is, what are you going to do to reclaim it?"
"What do we need to feel in order to put our phones away and be present with each other?"
"Every focused moment is a vote for who I'm becoming."
"Those moments are meant to teach you, they're meant to grow you, and they're meant to help you become less distracted."
Useful Resources:
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Calm, Cool, and Connected: Embracing a New State of Being
One of the most crucial decisions we make daily is what she refers to as the "B decision." This decision centers on consciously choosing who we want to be in any given moment, regardless of the external circumstances we face.
Host Tonya Leigh dives into the concept of the "B decision," which focuses on the essential question we should ask ourselves: "Who do I want to be right now?" Tonya highlights the importance of this decision in shaping our experiences and handling life's challenges. She reflects on the anxiety and frustration many people feel when they rely on external circumstances to dictate their state of being. Using a personal story from her recent trip to New York City, she illustrates how life’s unpredictability can impact our emotions but emphasizes that we have the power to choose our responses. Tune in to explore how embracing the B decision can transform your mindset and lead to a more fulfilling life.
Talking Points:
01:09 - The Importance of the B Decision
02:02 - Life's Unpredictability
03:06 - Conscious Choice of Emotions
04:10 - Balancing Professional and Personal Life
05:02 - Energy and Thoughts
05:45 - Trapped by External Changes
06:37 - Default Settings and Triggers
08:44 - Responding to Crisis
10:09 - Energy Shifts and Influence
11:56 - The Self-Image Pause
13:48 - Purposeful Emotional Choices
16:29 - Ripple Effect of Being
20:05 - Curiosity vs. Judgment
24:00 - Life Improvements Through Being
25:04 - Benefits of Calmness
25:36 - Calm, Cool, and Connected
Quotes:"I asked myself, who do I want to be in this moment with nothing outside of me changing?"
"Your beingness is the energy, the predominant energy that you are embodying in any given moment."
"But you tell your brain, here's what we're doing. This is who we're being."
"I am becoming someone who takes immediate action."
"Every thought you think and every action that you take is a vote for who you want to be."
"I don't need the world to be different in order for me to be different. But when I be different, the world does change."
Useful Resources:
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Transforming Your Life with Intentional Language
Words have more power than we give them credit for, not only in copywritting but in our everyday lives. This discussion revolves around the profound impact that words have on our mindset and actions. One of the key takeaways is the transformative power of shifting our language from "I want" to "I am." This simple change can significantly alter how we perceive our aspirations and ultimately influence our behaviors.
Host Tonya Leigh welcomes special guest Jamie Palko, the behind-the-scenes copywriter for the School of Self-Image. Jamie shares her journey back to copywriting, highlighting the power of setting clear goals and the excitement of reconnecting with her passion. The conversation reflects on the serendipitous moments that brought Jamie to the podcast, where she first learned about the School of Self-Image. Join them as they explore the magic of wordsmithing and how it has brought them together in this full circle moment.
Talking Points:
00:10 - Jamie's Full Circle Moment
01:32 - Jamie's Journey Back to Copywriting
02:23 - The Power of Words
04:55 - Transitioning Between Projects
05:16 - The Role of a Copywriter in Content Creation
05:47 - The Impact of Words on Personal Life
08:35 - The Shift from "I Want" to "I Am"
10:35 - The Energy of Words
12:17 - Words Carry Energy and Meaning
13:00 - The Pygmalion Effect and Setting Expectations
14:47 - Reframing Nervousness as Excitement
16:47 - Teaching Mindset to Children
19:05 - Speaking from Your Future Self
20:02 - Overused Words: Should and Overwhelmed
23:19 - Shifitng "Have to" to "Get to"
28:38 - Practicing New Ways of Speaking
32:47 - The Power of Words in Creating Your Life
Quotes:
"I really do feel like those words that I spoke to myself and wrote that down and really sort of lived and breathed those for those couple of months made this happen."
"Two little words, so much just deleting them gave me so much relief."
"You've planted her in this small pot. And you need to plant her in the forest and let her grow with the words you use."
"Stop "should-ing" all over yourself."
"Your words are creating your life and they're very, very powerful."
"It was lovely to have this time talking to you and introducing myself to the world."
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Vote for Yourself: Five Ways to Champion Your Dreams
To truly champion yourself, it is essential to have a clear vision of what you want in life, much like political candidates who articulate their visions during campaigns. A well-defined vision serves as a guiding light, helping you navigate the complexities of your personal and professional journey.
Host Tonya Leigh poses a thought-provoking question: What if you applied the same passion and conviction seen in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations? Tonya explores five powerful ways to become your own champion, encouraging listeners to "vote for yourself" with enthusiasm. She shares her recent experiences from the SOSI tour in Europe and expresses excitement for the final stop in New York, emphasizing the importance of community and setting intentions for the upcoming year.
Tune in to discover how to champion your own goals and dreams!
Talking Points:
01:29 - The Elephant in the Room: U.S. Election
02:24 - Cognitive Bias and Personal Growth
03:19 - Campaigning for Yourself
05:07 - Championing Your Own Vision
07:04 - Vision Questions and Exercises
10:07 - Avoiding Vision Shame
13:10 - Strong Beliefs and Convictions
18:09 - Finding Belief in Yourself
19:12 - Being Your Loudest Supporter
22:04 - Overcoming External Doubts
24:00 - The Power of Environment
25:47 - Writing Your Victory Speech
Quotes:
"What if you brought the same passion, conviction, and unwavering belief that you often see in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations?"
"Just allow yourself to dream."
"Coaching is one of the best investments you will ever make in yourself. And I stand by that 1000%."
"If you have to get up and look in that mirror every morning and be like, listen girl, here we go. Today's gonna be an amazing day. You know why? Because you are amazing."
"What I've noticed is that when I just go within and I bet on myself, I evolve to the next level."
"You have a vision for your life, you build your campaign promises, you become your own rally, you invest in your victory, and you build your dream team."
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Finding Peace: Techniques to Release Attachments and Anxiety
In the journey of personal growth and freedom, awareness serves as the foundational step. Becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions, and attachments is crucial for breaking free from the cycles of worry and anxiety that often trap us.
Host Tonya Leigh dives into the transformative art of letting go, a topic she has passionately coached and personally navigated. Drawing from her own experiences and insights, Tonya emphasizes the importance of releasing attachments to ideas, people, and things, which can often lead to suffering and anxiety. She shares a pivotal moment during a vacation in Paris, where a friend's advice and the book "Awareness" by Anthony de Mello sparked a profound realization about the roots of unhappiness.
Tune in to discover powerful techniques and wisdom from spiritual teachers and psychologists that can help you cultivate calm and break free from the cycle of worry.
Talking Points:
01:19 - The Concept of Letting Go
01:39 - Awareness by Anthony DeMello
02:02 - Attachment Causes Suffering
03:29 - Happiness and External Factors
05:37 - Embrace Reality as It Is
06:19 - Importance of Self-Observation
07:34 - Love Without Attachment
09:10 - Letting Go of the Ego
10:19 - Letting Go of the Need for Approval
14:15 - Embracing Uncertainty
18:16 - Dedication vs. Attachment
20:55 - Fall in Love with the Practice
21:59 - Let Go of the RopeQuotes:
"All of my suffering was because of attachment."
"Happiness doesn't come from things outside of you."
"I want everything for you. I need nothing from you."
"All I need to do is let go. Just let go. And yet it's so hard."
"The ability to just show up in the world as you truly are, sharing the things that you truly love, expressing yourself in a way that feels true to you, is the most freeing thing in the world."
"The reason why you're suffering right now is most likely because you are attached to something or you fear losing something, which is also an attachment."
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Mastering Productivity: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant
Beginning and concluding your day effectively are essential practices that can significantly influence your productivity and overall mindset throughout the workday. Tonya Leigh and her executive assistant, Abigail Schroeder, explore the importance of these two bookends of the day and how they contribute to a more effective and fulfilling work experience.
Tonya opens the conversation by addressing a common question she receives: how she manages to get so much done. Tonya shares the story of how she found Abigail amidst over 500 applicants and highlights the importance of having a supportive team. Together, they explore effective work strategies, insights on collaboration, and the value of intuition in hiring.
Tune in to discover how to enhance your productivity and learn from Abigail's expertise in managing tasks and supporting a busy, thriving executive by creating a positive, effective work environment.
Talking Points:
01:53 - Role of an Executive Assistant
02:27 - Abigail's Responsibilities
07:04 - The Four Ds Framework
09:16 - Abigail's Signature Work Habits
10:51 - Starting Your Day Well
13:26 - Self-Awareness and Acceptance
16:01 - Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses
20:10 - Writing Everything Down
25:08 - Prioritize with Focus and Rest
31:14 - Diffuse Mode of Thinking
37:58 - Most Impactful Work Habit
39:33 - Company Culture
Quotes:
"My two main goals in my role is to optimize your time and to support the overall vision you have for the company."
"If you're going to do it, don't do something and then be struggling and arguing with it."
"At any moment, you can do a U-turn and recommit, do whatever you need to do to get yourself back on track."
"It's just part of the human experience. We're not supposed to be great at everything."
"You wouldn't expect yourself to be able to run a marathon without training for it, you know? And so we have to treat our brain the same way."
"Ending your day well can look like, I don't know, cooking, hanging out with friends, going on a walk, playing a game."
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Transform Your Workspace: Tools and Techniques for Enhanced Focus and Creativity
Creating a productive environment involves establishing "micro-environments" tailored to different types of work, such as deep creative tasks or administrative duties. This concept is based on the understanding that our surroundings can significantly impact our ability to focus and produce high-quality work.
Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of navigating a busy season filled with travel, program launches, and the joy of productivity. After a summer of significant changes and commitments, including the SOSI tour and the launch of the style experience, Tonya reflects on the importance of creating a productive environment to enhance focus and effectiveness. She introduces the concept of "productive surroundings" and discusses strategies that have helped her manage her workload and achieve her goals.
Tune in to discover how you can set yourself up for success and engage in deep, quality work amidst the distractions of the digital age.
Talking Points:
00:39 - Life Update: Busy Season and Achievements
02:04 - Concept of Productive Surroundings
04:00 - Personalizing Productivity Strategies
04:43 - World of Constant Distractions
05:57 - Deep Work and Distractions
07:02 - Specific Goals for Deep Work Sessions
09:11 - Micro-Environments for Different Tasks
11:01 - Office as CEO Time
13:09 - Creative Brainstorming at Breakfast Table
16:00 - Asana for Project Management
18:29 - Power of Routine and Music
19:24 - Getting Dressed for Productivity
22:04 - Collaborative Work for Productivity
24:46 - Importance of DowntimeQuotes:
"There are seasons where you may work more, there may be seasons where you work less, but there is a harmony that I feel like we're all seeking."
"I used to jump from task to task, always busy, but never really accomplishing anything substantial."
"I went from being completely unproductive to being the most productive I've ever been and creating the most results I've ever created from the process that you teach."
"Put your downtime on the calendar first, because if you don't, you will continuously push it to the back burner."
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Finding Your Place: The True Meaning of Belonging
True belonging begins with the acceptance and love of oneself, enabling you to show up authentically in any situation. This concept is central to the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes that belonging is not merely about fitting in or conforming to the expectations of others. Instead, it is about embracing your true self and cultivating a profound sense of acceptance from within.
Tonya shares her recent experiences at the SOSI tour stop in L.A., highlighting the joy of connecting with a supportive community. She reflects on the common feelings of insecurity and social anxiety many of us face, especially when entering new environments. The episode is inspired by her journey to cultivate a sense of belonging and acceptance, starting from within.
Tune in to discover valuable insights on overcoming feelings of isolation and building genuine connections with yourself and others.
Talking Points:
00:01:48 - The Essence of Belonging
00:03:25 - Need for Confidence and Connection
00:05:13 - Misconceptions About Belonging
00:05:45 - Authenticity and Confidence
00:08:47 - Vulnerability and Connection
00:10:04 - Embracing All Parts of Yourself
00:13:00 - Rejection is God's Protection
00:16:26 - Thoughts That Nurture Belonging
00:17:32 - Developing a Belonging Mindset
00:19:08 - Belonging in Luxurious Environments
00:20:26 - Taking Responsibility for Your Own Belonging
00:23:35 - Cultivating Belonging in Daily Life
00:25:09 - Celebrating Differences
00:26:13 - Challenge for the Week
Quotes:
"It's like this is the essence of what we are all about. Women celebrating each other, sharing and supporting."
"You will never belong in a group of people if you don't first belong to yourself."
"When you show up in that fullness of who you are, that's what really creates connection and true belonging."
"You belong because you exist."
"True belonging starts with you accepting yourself exactly as you are."
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From Ruts to Renaissance: How Style Can Change Your Life
A style renaissance is not merely about updating your wardrobe or following the latest fashion trends; it is a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In her podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes that true style comes from within and reflects who you are at your core. A style renaissance can help you rediscover your true self and use style as a powerful tool for self-expression.
Tonya invites listeners to embark on a transformative journey through their style. She introduces the Style Experience, an annual program designed to help women redefine their approach to fashion and personal expression. Tonya shares her own struggles with understanding style, highlighting a common experience of trying to mimic trends without a true sense of self. The episode emphasizes the importance of an inside-out approach to style, encouraging listeners to explore how their wardrobe can empower and elevate their lives. Tune in to discover how this unique experience can facilitate personal growth and unlock your authentic style.
Talking Points:
01:08 - Style Experience Transformation Journey
02:24 - The Deeper Questions of Style
04:10 - The Importance of Style in Personal Development
05:33 - Defining a Style Renaissance
06:16 - Rediscovering Your True Self Through Style
06:49 - Sign 1: Major Life Transition
08:14 - Sign 2: Being in a Rut
11:16 - Sign 3: Getting Dressed is a Chore
13:00 - Finding Joy in Getting Dressed
14:14 - Sign 4: Envy of Other Women's Style
15:30 - Sign 5: Hitting an Upper Limit
24:00 - No More Waiting for the Perfect Time
29:20 - Speeding Up Your Style Journey
Quotes:
"It never answered the deeper questions that come with a style journey, which is, who are you really?"
"A style renaissance is a personal awakening, a rejuvenation, a rebirth of who you are in relationship to style."
"Getting dressed is a form of self-care and self-expression. It shouldn't be a burden."
"I literally crawled out of my hole. I overcame an upper limit with style as one of the major tools in doing so."
"I can look back and see how style has been responsible for so many of the opportunities that I have been blessed with."
"A style journey really is a journey back home to yourself."
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Dressing for You: How to Break Free from Style Myths and Embrace Authenticity
Many individuals find themselves standing in front of a closet full of clothes, yet feeling as though they have nothing to wear. This common frustration often arises from a mindset that prioritizes an ideal body weight or shape over the current self. The belief that one must wait until they achieve a certain physical state before investing in their style is not only limiting but also counterproductive.
Tonya Leigh discusses her own experience with what she describbes as the "waiting game." She recalls how she spent years convincing herself that she would invest in her style once she lost a certain amount of weight or reached a specific body shape. This mindset creates a cycle of negativity, where individuals continuously reinforce a narrative rooted in self-doubt and dissatisfaction. As she explores her past and the lessons learned, Tonya encourages listeners to consider their own style choices and what they may have outgrown.
Join her for an inspiring discussion on embracing your unique style and stepping into your authentic self.
Talking Points:
00:00:37 - Tonya's Morning Motivation and Style Journey
00:01:43 - The Deep Connection Between Style and Self-Image
00:02:59 - The Style Experience: A Unique Approach
00:04:05 - Enrollment for The Style Experience
00:05:08 - Style Mistake #1: The Waiting Game
00:09:23 - Style Mistake #2: The Numbers Game
00:13:25 - Style Mistake #3: The Label Trap
00:18:25 - Style Mistake #4: Trapped by a Self-Image
00:22:40 - Style Mistake #5: The Knowledge Gap
00:28:18 - Conclusion: Embrace Your Style Journey
Quotes:
"Style may seem superficial on the surface, but in reality, it's so deep."
"Everything you choose is confirming a story about yourself."
"Waiting for the perfect body is like waiting for a train that never arrives."
"The moment you stand up and you say, I'm no longer waiting to feel beautiful, to live the life that I want to live, that's when you get all of your power back."
"Your style isn't defined by the quantity of your clothes, but how well they reflect and serve you."
"Style is a skill. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and improved upon."
"True style is about being comfortable in your own skin and your life, not in someone else's expectations."
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Gentle Persistence: A Journey of Sauntering Towards Success
Sauntering beyond your limits is a powerful approach that involves combining ambition with ease, playfulness with purpose, and approaching obstacles with curiosity rather than frustration. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how sauntering involves walking with purpose yet unhurried, being playful yet focused, and curious yet determined. This approach allows individuals to maintain a sense of calm and gratitude while pursuing their goals, even in the face of challenges.
By sauntering beyond your limits, you are encouraged to adopt a mindset that values the journey as much as the destination. Instead of constantly pushing yourself to go faster and do more, sauntering allows you to explore your limits with a sense of curiosity and openness. When faced with obstacles, the sauntering approach encourages individuals to stop, assess the situation, and consider alternative paths or solutions. This contrasts with the typical hustle culture that promotes pushing through obstacles without taking the time to reflect or adjust course.
Join Tonya as she discusses the power of taking a more relaxed and enjoyable approach to personal development and life.
Talking Points:
01:41 - The Concept of Sauntering
02:24 - Visualization Exercise
03:17 - Sprinting vs. Sauntering
05:02 - Curiosity Over Frustration
06:28 - Expanding Limits
07:43 - Playful Exploration
08:46 - Creative Problem Solving
11:02 - Detaching from the Outcome
16:02 - Lessons from Nature
20:36 - Micro-Adventures
22:02 - Style Challenge
Quotes:
"You know, we live in a world that's always telling us to push harder, go faster, do more. It's all hustle culture and no pain, no gain."
"What can I learn from this obstacle? How can I work with it rather than against it?"
"But a lot of successful people in the world have become successful because of their playful approaches to overcoming their limitations."
"To truly saunter beyond your limits, you must practice detaching from the outcome."
"You have the power to saunter beyond your limits. You can be ambitious and enjoy your life. You can make progress without burning out. You're capable of so much more than you know."
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Interior Design for the Soul: 5 Life Lessons to Elevate Your Self-Image
One crucial aspect of embracing contrast in life is recognizing and integrating all facets of oneself, including the shadow side. Tonya Leigh explores the significance of embracing contrast in interior design and how it can be applied to life. Just as in design, where contrasting elements can add depth and richness, embracing the diverse aspects of our personalities enables us to explore neglected or denied facets of ourselves, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance.
Tonya stresses the concept of the shadow side, a term introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, which refers to the darker, less desirable aspects of our personalities that we often try to conceal or suppress. She underscores the importance of not only showcasing our positive traits but also acknowledging and accepting the parts of ourselves that may not always be bright and cheerful.
Tune in to explore the parallels between interior design choices and self-image transformation.
Talking Points:
00:52 - Chaotic House and Podcast Recording
01:45 - Interior Design Lessons for Life
02:06 - First Impressions and Self-Image
03:09 - Designing Your Environment for Self-Image
04:40 - Creative Brief and Future Vision
06:10 - Curating Elements of Life
07:04 - Intentional Curation Beyond Physical Spaces
08:19 - Five Key Interior Design Principles
09:12 - Lesson 1: Embrace Contrast
13:20 - Lesson 2: Create Focal Points
19:15 - Lesson 3: Functionality is Essential
25:00 - Lesson 4: Embrace White Space
31:07 - Lesson 5: Don't Be Afraid of Making Mistakes
37:02 - Ongoing Process of Life Design
38:40 - Conclusion and Application
38:50 - Invitation to Soul Style Quiz
Quotes:
"Just as we thoughtfully curate our living spaces, we can intentionally design our lives to reflect our truest selves and support our personal growth."
"The key is to recognize that these contrasts aren't contradictions. They are complementary aspects of your whole self."
"We try to be good at so many different things versus really focusing and harnessing on the things that we're naturally good at."
"Remember, just as white space and design allows important elements to stand out, creating space in your life allows priorities to shine through very clearly."
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Quality Over Quantity: The Key to an Elegant Closet
An elegant closet transcends mere clothing and accessories; it is about curating a selection that truly embodies your authentic style, meets your lifestyle needs, and brings you joy every time you open its doors. Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of crafting a closet that effortlessly reflects who you are. This involves meticulously choosing pieces that resonate with your personal style and values.
When curating an elegant closet, it is crucial to consider not only the visual appeal of the items but also their practicality in meeting your daily lifestyle demands. The clothes and accessories in your closet should serve a purpose and align with the activities and occasions you typically engage in. By ensuring that your wardrobe is tailored to your lifestyle, you can feel confident and comfortable in your outfits, knowing that they cater to your needs.
Get inspired to turn your closet into a personal sanctuary that truly reflects who you are.
Talking Points:
00:44 - Tonya's New Home and Office
01:37 - Designing an Elegant Closet
03:03 - Four Essentials of an Elegant Closet
04:19 - Emotional Benefits of an Elegant Closet
04:30 - Inspiration from a French Friend
05:33 - Misconceptions About Elegance
05:55 - Soul Style Quiz
07:00 - Solving the "Nothing to Wear" Problem
07:21 - Easier Packing for Trips
08:25 - Investing in Timeless Pieces
10:22 - Challenge: Choosing Quality Pieces
16:02 - Personal Story: High Heels vs. Sneakers
20:09 - Organizational Tools and Tips
26:52 - Final Thoughts on Closet Curation
Quotes:
"When I was designing my closet, what I wanted was an elegant closet. And it turns out elegance isn't big. It's not massive. It's not over the top. It's about curating a closet that allows the beautiful expression of you."
"An elegant closet eliminates decision fatigue, it boosts your self-esteem, and it sets this positive tone for your day."
"Because let me tell you, no amount of cheap thrills can fill the space that's meant for true quality pieces that resonate with your soul."
"It is an intimate journey designed for the discerning woman who knows she's capable of more, but needs that extra guidance and inspiration."
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Creating Harmony: The Art of Morning Rituals
Creating a beautiful morning routine is not about overwhelming yourself with a long list of tasks but rather about being intentional with small parts of your day. Tonya Leigh believes a healthy morning ritual sets the tone for a successful day and starts with focusing on specific rituals that support your well-being and drive positive energy first thing in the morning.
Tonya emphasizes the importance of starting the day with a capsule collection of non-negotiable activities that contribute to your overall well-being. These activities can vary from person to person but should be chosen based on what makes you feel better emotionally and sets you up for a successful day.
Join Tonya as she explores crafting your own beautiful beginnings for a more purposeful day.
Talking Points:
01:24 - The Power of Morning Routines
02:08 - Intentional Small Changes
02:40 - Soft vs. Hard Mornings
05:01 - Capsule Collection Concept
05:33 - No Tech in the Morning
06:26 - Waking Up Naturally
07:09 - Better Sleep App
07:41 - Hydration and Music
08:46 - Sunshine and Stretching
09:18 - Honoring Life and Gratitude
11:51 - Family Time and Journaling
13:18 - Skincare Routine
15:05 - Meditation and Breath Work
17:04 - Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz
19:44 - Decadent Breakfasts
22:04 - Structuring Beautiful Beginnings
23:11 - Creating Intentional Days
Quotes:
"I love how it feels when I'm not plugging into the world first thing in the morning because it's coming."
"I love to honor my life. This is so important."
"There's something to be said for asking yourself what you can give to your life versus always thinking, what can life give to me?"
"I really find that my soul is like an old world kind of soul."
"A beautiful life is nothing more than a collection of beautiful days."
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The Art of Becoming: Navigating Life's Transformations
Embracing the process of becoming involves shedding old identities, beliefs, and habits to align with one's true self. As discussed in the podcast episode, the journey of becoming is likened to a metamorphosis, much like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. This transformation requires individuals to let go of who they have been to become who they truly are or aspire to be.
Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her personal experiences of going through various stages of becoming, including facing challenges, reevaluating her identity, and making intentional changes to align with her true nature. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of comfortable ways of being, confronting difficult truths about oneself, and being willing to evolve into a new version.
Join Tonya as she delves into the process of shedding old identities and embracing new versions of ourselves.
Talking Points:
02:32 The Art of Becoming
05:13 Letting Go of Identities and Beliefs
10:31 The Butterfly Metamorphosis Analogy
11:26 - Martha Beck's Change Cycle
16:17 Cocooning Yourself with Self-Care
19:30 Square One Mantra
23:34 Reimagining and Nourishing Your Soul
28:20 Embracing Failure and Obstacles
32:05 The Promised Land
36:45 Embracing Constant Change
Quotes:
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
"This is the part of the butterflies metamorphosis where it's literally dissolving into what she calls a person soup."
"Coming from the truest part of you, that takes a lot of courage and a lot of people will never do that."
"I don't know what the hell is going on and that's okay."
"I don't regret any of this, not a single part of it. I don't believe in regret."
"You need to give yourself permission to daydream. Let it run wild."
"That obstacle is there to grow me, not to back away from, not to run from, but to run towards."
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Creating a Lasting Impression with Your Soul Style
Understanding your soul style involves aligning your values, personality, passions, and dreams with your outward appearance. Host Tonya Leigh stresses the importance of knowing and embracing your soul style, which transcends mere clothing choices. She breaks down the components of soul style into four key elements: values, personality, passions, and dreams.
By paying attention to how you feel in different outfits and embracing the evolution of your style, you can create a wardrobe that truly reflects your inner essence and makes you feel confident, comfortable, and authentic.
Join Tonya as she delves into the journey of self-discovery and the significance of expressing your inner self through your personal style.
Talking Points:
00:00:51 - Personal Update from Tonya
00:01:45 - Reflecting on Life and Belongings
00:03:00 - Understanding Soul Style
00:05:45 - Components of Soul Style
00:06:32 - Values and Their Impact on Style
00:10:05 - Personality and Style Expression
00:12:54 - Dreams and Future Self in Style
00:16:16 - Creating Your Style Cocktail
00:17:09 - Primary Style Archetypes
00:21:03 - Reflecting and Experimenting with Style
Quotes:
"It's more about shedding layers to reveal the truth of who you are, the truth of your essence, the truth of your soul."
"I love taking care of my beauty, and I have been ridiculed for that, and that's okay."
"What I want for you all is that you are showing up in a way that truly represents who you are at your deepest level, at your core."
"Your soul style should make you feel confident, comfortable, and like you. It should feel like freedom."
Useful Resources:
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