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  • A fabulous time was had with the incredible Evita "Lavitaloca Sawyers" - as we discussed her journey as a black, queer, femme person into the worlds of non-monogamy, polyamory and kink! She shared with us her insights, wisdom and we enjoyed every minute!Evita is a coach, speaker, educator and author of "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Days of Reflections for the Consensually Non-Monogamous", as well as the well known "Today's Polyamory Reminder" on IG. Where you can connect with Evita: https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34/https://www.facebook.com/lavitalocasawyers/#polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship

  • Disclaimer: This episode focuses on vaginal birth only and may contain triggering information for some listeners. The term "normal" birth is used ironically and in the video version on YouTube you can see that Anne uses quotation marks.

    If you or your partner has recently given birth, here's a podcast for you! In this episode, we welcome our special guest counsellor Anne Chronnell who specializes in helping us navigate major life events such as childbirth and parenting. We chat about what the body goes through and needs to heal from, expectations we/our partners/or society places upon the birther, ways to build intimacy with your partner, and how to support someone who's given birth. Note: we recognize not all birthing parents identify as female and may use terminology other than "mother" to describe themselves. Find out more about Anne and her work at https://redtentcounselling.ca or reach her directly at her email: [email protected] Anne is hosting an in-person workshop for new birthers with babies 0-6 months old in January 2024 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.#polyam #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #sex #healthyrelationship #becomingaparent #parenthood #birthing #givingbirth #newparents #newparent #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #openrelationships #womenshealth #labour #intimacy #intimacygoals #intimacycoaching #sexcoach #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingformen #relationshipcoachingforwomen

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  • Comparison is the thief of joy! You may have heard that, recognize its importance and STILL suffer with comparison.

    We chat in this episode about our experiences with comparison, how it's shown up in our relationships and what we can do to help manage or reframe comparison to make it more helpful!

    While we focused in this episode on the differences in relationships to highlight their uniqueness, it is also worth noting that you may find yourself comparing similarities - which can lead to feeling "replaceable". Again, refocusing on what makes you special and unique as a human will help with those feelings. Also asking for reassurances from your partner(s).

    Books recommended: "Polywise" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, and "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor as well as the Workbook "Your Body is Not an Apology" by the same author.


    Error: Around 2:20 Leanne said "I'm comparing myself to my partner" but what she meant was "comparing myself to my meta" - although it also points out that you may feel competitive with your partner as well!

    #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship

  • We were super jazzed to have psychotherapist and author of "Polysecure", Jessica Fern, return with her co-author David Cooley to chat about their new book, "Polywise" which is an amazing resource on healthy relating. We discuss restorative relationship conversations, parts work, codependency, ambiamory and how Eastern philosophy helped shaped their journey, as well as we dive into their own relationship history. Eye-opening and genuine conversation with two awesome humans! We had a blast!

    NOTE: Outtakes at the end!

    "Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley @Thornapple Press

    jessicafern.comwww.restorativerelationship.com

    #polywise #polyamorousrelationship #relationships #polyamory #polyamorous #ethicalnonmonogamy #healthyrelationships #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #internalfamilysystems #codependency #polysecure #polyrelationship #polyamory #polyam

  • You may not have heard about Ambiamory - the ability to be in either monogamous or polyamorous relationships. For those who identify as Ambiamorous, like Leanne, there are challenges and gifts. We invite you to explore what Leanne's journey of Ambiamory is like.

    If you're confused about why your mono-mind is so active when you really WANT to be polyamorous, or you wonder why as a monogamous person you can't shake the need to have other connections, this may be the episode for you!

    Leanne & Greg Million are International Certified Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment Coaches specializing in polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, kink and alternative lifestyles. Join our FB group: Empowered Poly Relationship Support and Advice.

    Reach out to us directly at [email protected] and [email protected]. #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #ambiamory #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #relationships #healthyrelationships #identity #relationshiporientation #personaldevelopmentjourney #relationshipdynamics #polyamorous #monopolyrelationships #monogamy #polymono

  • #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment*Content Warning: sexual assault mentioned.

    Steeped in the mindset of possessiveness and ownership, entitlement can show up in ANY relationship, and polyamory is no exception. We chat about what entitlement is and how it's different than deserving, about the ways in which people feel entitled to you and why it's important to shift away from it when it does show up for you. Join us (Leanne & Greg Million) as we share our insights from our own experiences as well as what we've observed as Relationship Coaches. And sometimes we have an "aha" moment during one of these shows!

    Here's the article that Leanne couldn't remember the name of: https://solopolyamory.quora.com/I-Apologize-To-The-Entire-Poly-Community-For-This-One-https-joreth-dreamwidth-org-408917-html?ch=10&oid=7600056&share=47611ca0&srid=Ov6Zz&target_type=post

    #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment

  • #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #breakingup #breakups #endingarelationship #shiftingarelationship #polyamorous #openrelationship #openrelationships #relationshipcoaching #howtobreakup #managingabreakup

    In this episode, we take a look at how to mindfully frame a breakup in a healthy way, managing our feelings, holding space for the other person and dealing with potentially challenging or difficult breakups.

    During this podcast, we actually had a slight misunderstanding. Leanne had offered the idea of bringing to your partner how you would like to be broken up with, and Greg misheard this as "ask your partner how they'd like to be broken up with". Subsequently, Leanne didn't correct him, but went with the flow (as she is wont to do) and assumed she'd said it incorrectly. We missed that left turn and ended up in Albuquerque (if you know, you know). Ultimately, it all turned out fine in the end with some important discussion.

    Trigger warning: we mention situations where someone may be at risk and need to leave immediately, and we also mention getting help if you are in danger from yourself or others. These are not discussed in detail.

    Reference to the book "Illunimata: a Return to Prayer" by Marianne Williamson.

  • #openrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching

    As Relationship Coaches specializing in consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, we see a lot of stress occurring around meeting your partner's partner (your "meta").  

    So in this episode we ask...What are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not you want to meet your meta(s)? Why might your partner be feeling obligated to meet their meta(s)? Why do some people choose not to meet their meta(s)? 

    We chat about all of these and then give you some great TIPS for those of you who decide to go ahead and meet your meta(s).  

  • #sexualhealth #safersex #polyamory #sexuallytransmitteddiseases #std #sexuallytransmittedinfections #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polycoach #relationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching

    In this VERY IMPORTANT episode, we discuss what sexual health is, address the stigma of STIs and how we can help normalize having "the talk", disclosure, consent, and Leanne's journey with her own STI.   Disclaimer: The contents of this episode should not be used in place of medical advice. We encourage you to consult with your local STI health clinic or doctor when making decisions around your health.   NOTE: Cytomeglovirus, although discusssed, is not considered an STI.   (Apologies for the sound quality for Leanne - her lapel mic wasn't working!)

  • #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #openingup #disentangling #mononormativeprogramming #codependency #enmeshment #boundaries #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #ENM #CNM 

    Opening Up from being monogamous, whether you're solo poly or from a couple, is very challenging no matter which relationship dynamic you choose on the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. We take a look at what the most challenging aspects of Opening Up are, and how you can navigate them, including codependency, enmeshment, disentangling, autonomy, boundaries and communication.  If you want to learn more about what to consider when Opening Up, or even if you've already opened up, but are struggling and want to know if there was something you should be tending to, this is the episode for you!

    Trigger warning: abusive relationships are mentioned, no detail given. 

  • #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #kitchentablepoly #triads #cohabitation #triangulation

    What is it we are drawn to in seeking out Kitchen Table Poly? What are some of the challenges and how can we manage them?  In this episode we take a swim in the deeeeeep end of the poly pool...where you and your metamours (your partner's partners) hang out, socialize, and maybe even live together! Sometimes Triads organically occur in these situations, and our special guest and friend, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine, knows from her own experience what opportunities and challenges KTP offers. 

    You can find Ellecia online at elleciapaine.com, on IG @elleciapaine and you can follow her podcast, "Nope, We're NOT Monogamous" on Spotify, Google and Apple.

       

  • #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #monopoly #polyamorous #polyamory #monogamous #openingup #relationships #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching

    In this episode we dive into one of the more challenging relationship dynamics on the planet - the Polyamorous and Monogamous pairing. We will share with you our personal experiences as well as our experiences as Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment coaches as we chat about poly-bombing, guilt, helicopter partnering, ambiamorous-ness, relationship snobbery, disentangling, KTP (kitchen table poly - where partners and metas feel comfortable enough to spend time together) and parallel poly (keeping relationships separate) and relationship identities.  We'll give you some things we found helpful when navigating the particularly bumpy landscape of this challenging but also very rewarding relationship dynamic. 

  • #monogamy #openingup #polyamory #polyamorous #monopoly #griefinrelationships #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoaching #poly #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice 

    In this episode we tackle the grief that comes, as Greg puts it, as "many little deaths" when opening up a previously monogamous relationship. It isn't easy and many of us struggle, even unconsciously, with moving through the grief as we adjust to all the changes that come with opening up. The messages that we receive all of our lives about what love is and isn't create conflict in our minds as we grapple with pushing back against our identities, societal norms and expectations others have of us. 

    NOTE: our definition of "solo poly" was incomplete. Here's a blog that explain many nuances to the term in this person's experience of it: https://solopoly.net/2014/12/05/what-is-solo-polyamory-my-take/

    If you're struggling with grief, please reach out to us at [email protected] or [email protected].

    Here is Leanne's Poly Playlist on Spotify reference in the episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4qMkzemGbyazOaY7q0gcAf?si=ca0b191b3c0d4d41

    And the song she was struggling to remember is: "I'm Free" by The Soup Dragons ...AND there is another one on the list called "Free" by Donovan Frankenreiter.

  • #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #newrelationshipenergy #emotionalmanagement #fomo

    If you struggle to manage your own NRE (New Relationship Energy) or you know it's impacting your other relationships, this one is for you! We share some of our experiences with NRE, how it can affect you and your behaviour and what you can do about creating more balance.   

    While we're all ultimately responsible for managing our emotional reactions, being a compassionate partner is about taking responsibility for our own behaviour and mitigating negative effects of NRE, creating a safe space for honest dialogue about it, and preventing resentment from building up.   

    NOTES: Asexual individuals can experience sexual arousal, but not always. NRE can be brought about through touch without sexual arousal. Also any limited information agreement should still allow for information about whether fluid exchange occurred during intimacy.   

    Want one-on-one/ couple's or triad/quad coaching? Feel free to reach out to [email protected] or [email protected]. If you'd like a copy of our "Check-In" list, shoot us a message!  

    Our Facebook Group name has changed from EMPOWERED NOW to EMPOWERED POLY Relationship Support and Advice - please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2723042208009580  

    Websites and blogs: gregmillion.com and leannemillion.com IG: @leannemillion and @thegregmillion  

  • #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting #vetopower

    This is the continuation of our interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-Monogamy FB group) because we had so much to chat about! 

    In Part 1 we covered what couple's privilege and hierarchy are and how we all found autonomy in our relationships.   

    In THIS episode we discuss veto power and unicorn hunting.   

    You can find Michael's podcast ENM Talk Podcast on YouTube here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.   

    And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/enmgroup  

  • #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting

    This was such an awesome interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-monogamy FB group) that we had to keep going and ended up creating 2 parts!   

    We discuss what couple's privilege is and how it impacts relationships, how you can work toward more autonomy and why you may want to, and what hierarchy is in this context. And in part TWO we get into veto power and unicorn hunting!   

    You can find Michael Love's ENM Talk Podcast here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.   

    And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/199655087914476  

  • #toxicrelationships #toxicbehaviour #emotionalmanagement #boundaries #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoaching #faultvsresponsibility #healingwounds #emotions

    Yep, we thought this one would be easy...but it's complicated! Join us, Greg and Leanne, Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we tackle what exactly we can do about toxic behaviour in a relationship. Are you experiencing toxic behaviour in a relationship? Or maybe you're the one with the toxic habits? We ALL have learned behaviour that we would like to change. Watch for the moment when I (Leanne) use hurtful humour to deflect...and you can bet I apologized once I realized I'd done it. Oof.   

    Book mentioned: "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson  

    Reach out if you would like a copy of the notes we used for this podcast by emailing us at: [email protected] or [email protected]!   

  • #vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying 

    Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"!  A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative. 

    Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here:  https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress    https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/   https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu

    Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability: 

    "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown. 

  • #authenticintimacy #authenticityinrelationships #sexualfreedom #selfadvocacy #intimacy #autonomy #newrelationshipenergy #feelingtakenforgranted #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #ENM #poly #authenticity

    Greg and Leanne share their own personal discoveries about what intimacy is and isn't, how it can be nurtured and how it can be lost, and how it's different from sex. Getting vulnerable about how intimacy shows up in relationships and how we often take it for granted is what this episode is all about. They look at how much we value sex as a form of intimacy and how sexual autonomy might look if one person isn't feeling sexual. Does sex have to be at the heart of our shared intimacy? They examine the issue from both a monogamous relationship p.o.v. and also touch on new relationship energy and how it can impact established relationships for poly/CNM folx. 

  • #chronicillness #chronicconditions #chronicpain #mentalhealth #relationshipcoaching #relationshipadvice #relationships #autonomy #listentoyourpartner #relationshipbuilding #healthyrelationships

    In this episode Relationship and Emotional Wellness coaches Leanne and Greg Million offer their insight into the challenges of coping with chronic illness or conditions within a relationship. They provide perspective about how to help your partner, how to respect their independence and how to connect using these 4 pillars: Listen, Self-care, Relationship Building and Being Real.   

    For more details check out Leanne's blog article here: https://www.leannemillion.com/2021/08/29/managing-chronic-illness-conditions-in-a-relationship/ 

    This episode is lovingly dedicated to the memory of Leanne's father, Mel Maschmeyer 1944-2021.