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Ever feel like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Like you breeze past your successes and fixate on what went wrong? You’re not alone, and today, we’re tackling that sneaky little cognitive distortion: discounting the positive.
In this episode, we break down why so many physicians downplay their wins and how this mindset fuels burnout. More importantly, we’ll give you practical, science-backed strategies to flip the script and start celebrating your victories—big and small!
✨ What You’ll Learn Today:✅ Why your brain is wired to focus on the negative (and how to retrain it!)
✅ The power of affirmative reflection—why asking “What went well today?” is a game-changer
✅ How writing down wins shifts your mindset and builds resilience
✅ The magic of peer support—why celebrating together makes all the difference
✅ How shifting from “I failed” to “I learned” can transform the way you see challengesWe even bring in a Super Bowl-worthy mindset shift (thanks, Jalen Hurts!) to show how elite performers use self-reflection to come back stronger. 💪
🎧 Tune in and Take Action!This isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about thriving in medicine. So let’s start celebrating our wins, supporting each other, and building a more positive, resilient mindset. You’re already doing incredible things—now it’s time to recognize them!
👉 Want more support? Click the link in the show notes to chat with one of our physician coaches. Plus, grab our FREE video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good—no cutting back hours, quitting medicine, or suffering in silence required.
💙 You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. And the work you do matters. See you next time on The Drive Time Debrief! 🚗💨
#WholePhysician #CelebrateYourWins #PhysicianWellness #MindsetMatters #DriveTimeDebrief
Scientific References Mentioned:Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders.Burns, D. D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy.Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). “Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377–389.Shanafelt, T. D., et al. (2012). “Burnout and Satisfaction With Work-Life Balance Among US Physicians Relative to the General US Population.” Archives of Internal Medicine.Hofmann, S. G., et al. (2010). “The Effect of Mindfulness-Based Therapy on Anxiety and Depression: A Meta-Analytic Review.” Journal of Clinical Psychology.Neff, K. D. (2003). “Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself.” Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101.Links:
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Ever feel like your toughest critic is… you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into the exhausting cycle of self-criticism and how to break free from it. From shifting your inner dialogue to embracing self-compassion (without losing your edge!), we share real strategies to help you thrive in medicine without the constant self-blame.
🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why your brain LOVES to beat you up (and how to stop it!)
✅ The power of curiosity over self-judgment
✅ How to reframe mistakes so they help—not haunt—you
✅ Practical tools to quiet that inner critic and build resilience
✅ Why perfection is NOT the goal (and what to aim for instead)💡 Golden Nuggets from This Episode:
✨ “You wouldn’t tear down your 8-year-old self—so why do it now?”
✨ “Your 80% on a rough day is still someone’s 100%.”
✨ “Self-compassion isn’t about lowering the bar—it’s about setting yourself up for sustainable success.”💖 You Deserve This Reminder:
You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters.🎧 Loved this episode?
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✔️ Leave a review—it helps us reach more amazing people like you!Let’s keep lifting each other up. See you next time! 🚀💙
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In this insightful and inspiring episode, we take a deep dive into the emotional complexities that shape our experiences as medical professionals. Drawing wisdom from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart, we explore how paradox, irony, sarcasm, and cognitive dissonance influence both our interactions with patients and our own well-being.
We unpack the definitions of these concepts, examine their roles in clinical practice, and discuss strategies for navigating these intricate emotional dynamics with compassion and awareness. From the challenges of aligning personal values with professional recommendations to the power of rethinking and unlearning, this episode is filled with thought-provoking insights and real-life examples.
Key Takeaways:
Understanding Cognitive Dissonance:
The mental discomfort of holding conflicting beliefs is more common than we think.
Recognizing and naming our feelings can help reduce their power.
Aligning personal values with professional recommendations can prevent burnout and foster integrity.
Practicing non-judgmental communication builds trust and deepens patient relationships.
Embracing Paradox in Medicine:
Paradox exists when contradictory elements coexist, such as balancing empathy with objectivity.
The "both/and" approach (instead of "either/or") can lead to more nuanced and compassionate decision-making.
Cultivating comfort with ambiguity and practicing reflective listening enhances patient care.
Irony in Clinical Practice:
The outcome of a situation may sometimes contradict expectations, offering powerful lessons in humility and awareness.
Recognizing irony thoughtfully can provide insights while fostering resilience and understanding.
The Role of Sarcasm:
Sarcasm can be a tool for stress relief but also has the potential to alienate others.
Using humor with intention ensures it strengthens rather than weakens connections.
Prioritizing clear and empathetic communication fosters stronger relationships with both colleagues and patients.
Resisting Comfort Over Courage:
Growth happens in discomfort—choosing to align actions with values, even when difficult, leads to personal and professional fulfillment.
Learning to rethink and unlearn beliefs that no longer serve us is a powerful tool for transformation.
Compassion, both for ourselves and others, is essential in the ever-evolving world of medicine.
Final Thoughts:
ReferencesBrown, B. (2021). Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience. Random House.Festinger, L. (1957). A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. Stanford University Press.Cameron, K. S., & Quinn, R. E. (1988). Paradox and Transformation: Toward a Theory of Change in Organization and Management. Ballinger Publishing Company.Booth, W. C. (1974). A Rhetoric of Irony. University of Chicago Press.Lee, C. J., & Katz, A. N. (1998). "The use of sarcasm in conversations: Cognitive and social perspectives." Journal of Pragmatics, 29(4), 503-522.Free Video: "How to Crush Physician Burnout (for Good) without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or 'Sucking it Up' in Silence"
This episode challenges us to lean into discomfort, reframe our perspectives, and embrace the complexities of human emotion with curiosity and courage. By fostering awareness, practicing self-compassion, and embracing paradox, we can become more resilient and empathetic physicians, colleagues, and caregivers. -
Ever find yourself stressing over things you can’t control? Do you find yourself worrying about the future, the choices of others, or even the state of the world? In this episode, we’re diving into a game-changing mindset shift: understanding whose business you’re in. Inspired by Byron Katie’s powerful framework, we break down the difference between your business, someone else’s business, and God’s (or the universe’s) business—and how this clarity can bring incredible peace into your life.
We discuss how much unnecessary stress comes from trying to control things outside our influence and how redirecting that energy toward what is in our control can help us live with more resilience, joy, and calm. Whether it's health, parenting, work stress, or even politics, we’ll help you identify where you can take meaningful action—and where you need to let go.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The difference between your business, others' business, and God's business ✔️ How overthinking and “future tripping” create unnecessary anxiety ✔️ Why letting go of control can actually make you more influential ✔️ Practical ways to shift your mindset and reduce stress ✔️ The power of meeting people where they are (instead of trying to “fix” them) ✔️ How to focus on what you can do to create the life you want
Your Action Step: Next time you feel overwhelmed, ask yourself: Whose business am I in? If it’s not yours, practice releasing it and refocusing on what you can control.
Let’s Connect! 👉 Subscribe & leave a review if this episode resonated with you! It helps us reach and support more people just like you. ❤️ 👉 Follow us on social media for more insights, tips, and motivation.
Remember, peace comes from focusing on what you can control. Keep minding your biz, and we’ll see you in the next episode!
Resources:
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
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✨ Welcome back to The Whole Physician Podcast! ✨
Are you feeling emotionally drained, overwhelmed, or struggling to set boundaries in your medical practice? You’re not alone. Today, we’re diving deep into compassion fatigue—what it is, why it happens, and most importantly, how to combat it so you can thrive in both your career and personal life.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:💡 Why acknowledging your feelings (instead of suppressing them) can actually reduce burnout
Key Takeaways:
💡 The power of boundary setting—and how saying “no” is sometimes the best way to say “yes” to yourself
💡 How organizational interventions (like adjusted schedules and wellness programs) can improve both patient care and physician well-being
💡 Why simply “taking a break” isn’t enough—filling your cup with the right activities is key
💡 How shifting from “fixing everything” to compassionate support can protect your energy and peace✅ Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential for being the best doctor, parent, and human you can be.
Your Next Step:
✅ Your values matter—align your time and energy with what truly fulfills you.
✅ You don’t have to do it all—delegation and teamwork are powerful tools for sustainability.
✅ Small changes create big results—even a 5-minute mindfulness break can make a difference!What’s one small action you can take today to prioritize your well-being? A walk? A quiet moment with coffee? A conversation with a colleague? Whatever it is, we’d love to hear about it!
📩 Email us: podcast@thewholephysician.com
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⭐ Leave us a review – Your feedback fuels us!🎧 Join us next time as we explore resilience-building strategies for healthcare professionals. Until then, remember:
👉 You are whole.
👉 You are a gift to medicine.
👉 The work you do matters.Scientific References:
Figley, C.R. (1995). Compassion Fatigue: Coping with Secondary Traumatic Stress Disorder in Those Who Treat the Traumatized.
Hojat, M., et al. (2009). "Empathy in Medical Education and Patient Care: An Overview." Academic Medicine.
Cocker, F., & Joss, N. (2016). "Compassion Fatigue: A Meta-Analysis." International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health.
Coles, J. et al. (2020). "Mindful Self-Care and Secondary Traumatic Stress in Healthcare Workers.”
Kabat-Zinn, J. (2003). "Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction for Stress Management.”
Resources:
Mission Resource Network
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In this cozy and heartwarming episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra introduce us to the Danish concept of hygge. As the winter months stretch ahead, they explore how embracing hygge can transform cold, dark days into moments of warmth, comfort, and connection. From lighting candles and layering cozy blankets to gathering with loved ones and enjoying slow, mindful meals, the hosts uncover how this beautiful tradition can help us cultivate happiness even in the chilliest season.
What is Hygge?
Hygge is the Danish art of creating warmth, comfort, and connection in everyday life. It’s about slowing down, being present, and embracing life’s simple joys. With its roots in Old Norse, the word hygge translates to “comfort” or “to console,” making it the perfect antidote to winter blues.The Ten Principles of Hygge:
Atmosphere – Soft lighting, candles, and cozy surroundings.Presence – Disconnect from distractions and be in the moment.Pleasure – Savor warm drinks, comforting foods, and life’s little treats.Equality – Everyone contributes and shares in the moment.Gratitude – Appreciate the small joys.Harmony – No competition, just togetherness.Comfort – Soft blankets, warm clothes, and cozy corners.Truce – Leave drama at the door.Togetherness – Enjoy deep connections with loved ones.Shelter – Create a sanctuary from the cold.Why Does Hygge Matter?
Denmark consistently ranks as one of the happiest countries in the world, and many believe that hygge plays a role. Studies show that fostering cozy, nurturing environments can reduce stress, increase mindfulness, and boost happiness. Lighting a candle, for example, has been shown to lower cortisol levels, while engaging in a creative hobby can release dopamine.Bringing Hygge Into Your Life:
At Home – Layer soft blankets, light candles, and create a hyggekrog (a cozy nook) for relaxing.In Clothing – Opt for chunky knit sweaters, soft scarves, and warm socks.In Food – Enjoy slow-cooked meals, baked treats, and steaming cups of tea, cider, or cocoa.With Others – Keep gatherings small and meaningful, focusing on deep connection rather than large socializing.In Nature – Take a winter walk, enjoy stargazing under a blanket, or bring seasonal greenery indoors.The Hygge Manifesto:
Turn Down the Lights – Use candles and soft lighting.Be Present – Put away distractions and focus on the moment.Indulge in Pleasure – Enjoy good food, warm drinks, and simple comforts.Share and Include – Embrace togetherness and make space for all.Practice Gratitude – Appreciate what’s good in life.Embrace Harmony – No competition, just warmth and connection.Seek Comfort – Prioritize coziness in your surroundings.Final Thoughts:
Hygge is more than just candles and sweaters—it’s a mindset, a way of life that prioritizes warmth, presence, and joy. This winter, let’s embrace hygge and transform the cold months into a season of comfort, connection, and simple pleasures.Resources Mentioned:
The Little Book of Hygge by Meik WikingOnline hygge shops for cozy essentialsJoin the Conversation:
How do you bring hygge into your life? Share your thoughts with us on social media using #HyggeLife and tag us!Stay Connected:
Subscribe to the podcast for more inspiring episodesFollow us on Instagram and Facebook @thewholephysicianVisit our website for show notes and resourcesWrap yourself in a warm blanket, grab a cup of tea, and let’s hygge our way through winter together! ❄️✨
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Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we’re diving deep into empathy in medicine—why it matters, how it impacts patient care, and how it can actually make our work as physicians more fulfilling. We all want to be great doctors, but sometimes the fast pace of medicine makes it easy to fall into patterns of judgment, frustration, or detachment. This episode is all about shifting our perspective and learning how to meet patients where they are—without burning ourselves out in the process.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ How to respond to patient emotions with validation instead of dismissal
✅ Why “meeting emotion with emotion” creates stronger patient connections
✅ The hidden impact of judgment (and how curiosity can change everything)
✅ The truth about addiction, coping mechanisms, and why empathy is key
✅ How flexing your empathy muscles can actually make your job easier and more rewardingWe also get real about how burnout and job dissatisfaction often stem from these tough interactions—where we try to help but end up feeling unappreciated or frustrated. The good news? With small mindset shifts, we can turn these moments into opportunities for connection and impact.
🎧 Tune in now for practical insights, real-life stories, and empowering strategies to bring more empathy (and joy!) into your practice.
💌 We’d love to hear from you! Share your experiences or thoughts with us at [email protected].
Until next time, remember: You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters. 💙
Resources:
Atlas of the Heart
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In this heartfelt episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra explore the profound difference between sympathy and empathy, inspired by Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart. With personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and practical takeaways, they unpack how empathy fosters connection while sympathy can unintentionally create distance.
Dive into this conversation to learn how embracing empathy can transform not only patient care but also relationships with loved ones—and even yourself. From real-life “empathy misses” to actionable strategies for building deeper connections, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to lead with compassion and courage in their personal and professional lives.
What You’ll Learn:
The key differences between sympathy and empathy—and why they matter.Why empathy is a vulnerable yet transformative choice.How emotional intelligence impacts physicians’ ability to connect with patients and colleagues.Simple ways to practice empathy without experiencing emotional burnout.How empathy builds trust and creates spaces for authenticity and growth.Takeaways for Practice and Life:
Listen Without Judgment: Empathy thrives when we let go of the urge to fix and focus on being fully present.Ask Open-Ended Questions: A simple “What are you most worried about?” can open the door to connection.Validate Emotions: Reflect feelings back to others to help them feel seen and understood.Start with Yourself: Build emotional awareness and self-compassion to better connect with others.Balance Empathy: Learn to engage meaningfully while protecting your emotional well-being.Favorite Quotes from the Episode:
“Empathy isn’t about walking in someone else’s shoes—it’s about listening to the story they tell about their shoes and believing them.” – Brené Brown“You don’t have to fix it. Sometimes, the most healing thing you can do is just hold space for someone.”Resources Mentioned:
Brené Brown’s Atlas of the HeartFree Video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking it Up in Silence (Link in the show notes!)Connect with Us:
If this episode resonated with you, we’d love to hear your thoughts! Email us at [email protected]. Don’t forget to leave a 5-star review and help us spread this message of connection and compassion.
Closing Reminder:
You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Together, let’s cultivate empathy, embrace vulnerability, and build richer, more connected lives—one conversation at a time.
Resources:
Atlas of the Heart
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In this episode of Drive Time Debrief, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra tackle the often-overlooked emotion of contempt and its significant impact on physicians, relationships, and the culture of care in medicine. Drawing on insights from Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart and Terry Real’s work on grandiosity and shame, they explore how contempt—whether directed outwardly or inwardly—fosters disconnection and damages well-being. The hosts share strategies to recognize, address, and move beyond contempt, helping physicians cultivate connection, empathy, and a wholehearted approach to their work and relationships.
What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhat Is Contempt?
Defined as a mix of anger and disgust, often with a sense of superiority.Described by Brené Brown as “the I’m better than you emotion.”Different from anger, contempt creates disconnection and dehumanization.How Contempt Shows Up in Medicine
In interactions with patients, colleagues, and even ourselves.Outward contempt: grandiosity (e.g., judgment, dismissal).Inward contempt: shame (e.g., self-criticism, feelings of inadequacy).Examples: labeling patients, gossiping, or berating oneself after a mistake.The Impact of Contempt
Outward contempt damages relationships and trust.Inward contempt leads to shame, burnout, and isolation.Affects team dynamics, patient care, and personal well-being.Breaking the Cycle of Contempt
Practice Curiosity: Ask, “What’s going on here?” instead of judging.Name It to Tame It: Label the emotion (e.g., “I’m feeling superior” or “I’m being judgy”).Cultivate Empathy and Compassion: Replace criticism with understanding and self-kindness.Use Humility to Soften Grandiosity: Listen to others, validate contributions, and normalize vulnerability.Engage in Self-Reflection: Journaling, coaching, or therapy can uncover patterns of contempt.Building a Culture of Respect in Medicine
Model Vulnerability: Normalize imperfection and create safety for others to do the same.Address Contempt Gently: Call out harmful behaviors with care and respect.Prioritize Psychological Safety: Foster an environment where team members feel safe to speak up.Key Takeaways:Contempt, a hidden driver of stress and disconnection, has two extremes: outward grandiosity and inward shame.Small, intentional steps—like practicing self-compassion and empathy—can shift us toward healthier, more connected ways of living and working.By modeling respect, humility, and self-awareness, physicians can influence the culture of medicine for the better.Resources Mentioned:Brené Brown’s Atlas of the HeartTerry Real’s work on grandiosity and shameThe Four Horsemen research by John and Julie GottmanDon’t Miss Our Free Video:
Check out our free resource, How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence. Click the link in the show notes to access it today.Stay Connected:
We’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences related to this episode. Email us at [email protected].If you found this episode helpful, please leave a 5-star review and share it with a colleague—it helps us amplify our ripple effect!
You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters.
Next Episode: Tune in as we explore Empathy vs. Sympathy. See you then!
Resources:
Atlas of the Heart
Terry Real
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Exploring Terry Real's Us: Healing Through Connection and Recognizing the Inner Child
Episode Summary:
In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra continue their mini-series based on Terry Real's book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. The focus is on recognizing how the "adaptive child" shows up in relationships, understanding the concept of relational trauma, and learning how to move toward healthier, more connected relationships. This deep dive explores the impact of past experiences on present behaviors and how to intentionally shift away from maladaptive patterns.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Understanding the Adaptive Child:
How childhood coping mechanisms develop to protect us.Why these mechanisms often sabotage adult relationships.Identifying when your adaptive child is triggered.Trauma and Its Effects:
The difference between Big T Trauma and Little t trauma.How even good parents can unintentionally pass down wounds.The concept of relational trauma and its generational impact.The Relationship Grid:
Terry Real's trauma and relationship grid explained.How grandiosity, boundaries, and self-esteem interact in relationships.Recognizing where you tend to fall on the grid during conflict.Practical Strategies for Healing and Growth:
How to nurture your inner child and develop your wise adult self.Tools to help you shift from reactive states to a place of connection.The importance of intentionality in countering society’s individualistic bias.Key Quotes:
"The only person who can consistently nurture and support your inner child is you.""Real maturity comes when we tend to our inner children ourselves and don’t inflict them on our partners to care for.""Awareness is the first step to change. Once you become aware of your tendencies, the threshold for healthier relationships becomes lower."Actionable Takeaways:
Reflect on your adaptive child’s tendencies by asking:Who did I see this from?Who did it to me?Who did I do it to, and no one stopped me?Practice recognizing triggers and responding with grace and self-compassion.Use Terry Real’s relationship grid to identify patterns and set goals for moving toward the center of health in relationships.Resources Mentioned:
Terry Real's book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.Episode 135: How to Do Repairs with Your Children.Free video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking Up in Silence – Click Here to Watch.Link to the Relationship Grid.Get Involved:
Share your insights and experiences! Email us at [email protected] us a 5-star review with a sentence or two—your feedback helps other doctors find us and builds our community.Closing Notes:
You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Until next time, remember that healing and connection are always possible.If you found this episode valuable, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with a friend who might benefit!
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, we delve into the concept of counterdependence—a form of hyper-independence often rooted in trauma or learned behaviors. We explore how counterdependence differs from healthy autonomy, the psychological roots of this defense mechanism, and how it impacts personal and professional relationships. The discussion highlights signs of counterdependence, such as reluctance to ask for help, discomfort with emotional closeness, and overcompensation through self-reliance.
We also discuss practical steps toward healing and finding balance, including therapy modalities like Internal Family Systems, emotional granularity, and reparenting. Plus, we touch on the cultural context of counterdependence, particularly in individualistic societies like the U.S., and how it contrasts with interdependence found in collectivist cultures.
Key Topics Covered:
What Is Counterdependence?
Defined as avoiding reliance on others as a defense mechanism against vulnerability.The spectrum of connection: counterdependence vs. codependence, with healthy autonomy in the middle.Signs of Counterdependence:
Reluctance to ask for help.Mistrust of others and fear of dependency.Discomfort with emotional closeness.Overcompensation through self-reliance.Healthy Autonomy vs. Counterdependence:
Healthy autonomy embraces interdependence and vulnerability while maintaining self-reliance.Counterdependence is driven by fear and avoidance, often leading to superficial relationships.Psychological Roots and Cultural Influences:
Childhood experiences, attachment theory, and maladaptive coping strategies.How individualistic societies glorify independence.Consequences of Counterdependence:
Increased loneliness, stress, and difficulty forming deep emotional connections.Strained or superficial relationships and potential burnout.Practical Steps Toward Healing:
Build awareness of counterdependence tendencies.Seek therapy (e.g., Internal Family Systems, EMDR).Practice emotional granularity and reparenting.Start small: ask for help with minor tasks and open up to trusted individuals.Cultivate emotional intimacy in relationships and challenge the need for control.Resources Mentioned:
Brené Brown’s Work on Vulnerability and ConnectionInternal Family Systems (IFS) TherapyAttachment Theory by John BowlbyListener Takeaways:
Awareness is the first step to overcoming counterdependence.Vulnerability, though uncomfortable, is a strength that fosters deeper relationships.Balance between independence and connection is key to personal and professional well-being.Stay Connected:
Email us at [email protected] with your thoughts or experiences on counterdependence.Check Out Our Free Resource:
Watch our video, How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence. Scroll down to the show notes for the link!Support the Podcast:
Leave us a 5-star review and share a few sentences about what resonated with you. Your feedback helps other doctors discover our show and expands our reach.Remember:
You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters.Stay tuned for more episodes on building connection, resilience, and thriving in medicine!
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Episode Summary:
In this episode of DriveTime Debrief, we explore the powerful practice of forest bathing, its scientifically-backed benefits, and how physicians can incorporate it into their busy lives. Originating in Japan in the 1980s, forest bathing, or Shinrin-Yoku, is a nature-immersion technique that has proven benefits for mental health, immune function, and cardiovascular well-being.Discover how spending even 10–15 minutes in nature can help reduce stress, boost immunity, and improve mindfulness. We share actionable tips to make forest bathing part of your routine and discuss how to introduce it to patients as a complementary wellness tool.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What Is Forest Bathing?
Origin: Japanese preventative healthcare practice from the 1980s.Definition: Mindful immersion in nature to engage all the senses.Why It’s Relevant for Physicians:
High burnout rates in healthcare.Nature-based therapies as a tool for stress management and mental health support.The Science Behind Forest Bathing:
Stress Reduction:2010 study: Forest bathing lowers cortisol levels, blood pressure, and heart rate.Phytoncides from trees enhance relaxation.Immune Function:Dr. Ching Lee’s research: Forest immersion boosts natural killer cells and immune health.Mental Health:2019 meta-analysis: Reduces anxiety, depression, and fatigue by fostering mindfulness.Cardiovascular Health:2011 study: Improves heart rate variability and parasympathetic tone.Practical Applications for Physicians:
Micro-Doses of Nature:Visit parks or gardens for 10–15 minutes during breaks or after work.Weekend Retreats:Dedicate time for hiking, camping, or nature immersion.Mindful Nature Walks:Engage senses—listen to leaves, smell evergreens, touch tree bark.Techniques for Forest Bathing:
Leave technology behind.Walk slowly with no set destination.Pause to sit, observe, and reflect.Introducing Forest Bathing to Patients:
Encourage outdoor time for stress relief.Provide resources like local parks or trails.Share evidence-based benefits to improve adherence.Addressing Barriers:
Lack of green spaces: Opt for urban parks, indoor plants, or natural soundscapes.Limited time: Start with brief 5–10 minute sessions.Weekly Homework Challenge:
Take 10–15 minutes this week to immerse yourself in nature. Notice how you feel before and after. If you’re unable to get outside, try listening to a natural soundscape or adding greenery indoors.We’d love to hear about your experience! Email us at [email protected].
Resources Mentioned:
Free Video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Suffering in Silence.Studies referenced (available in the show notes).Connect with Us:
If you’re feeling stressed or burned out, schedule a session with one of our physician coaches. You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters.Tune in Next Week:
Join us for another episode focused on practical wellness strategies for busy physicians!Resources:
Talk to a physician coach with our complimentary Physician Wellness Triage
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Park, B.-J., Tsunetsugu, Y., Kasetani, T., Kagawa, T., & Miyazaki, Y. (2010). The physiological effects of Shinrin-yoku (taking in the forest atmosphere or forest bathing): Evidence from field experiments in 24 forests across Japan. Environmental Health and Preventive Medicine, 15(1), 18–26. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12199-009-0086-9
Li, Q. (2010). Effect of forest bathing trips on human immune function. Environmental Health and Preventive Medicine, 15(1), 9–17. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12199-008-0068-3
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Podcast Show Notes
Episode Title: From Pissed Off to Poised: Understanding Anger and Trauma with Dr. Arpita Gupta de Palma
Episode Summary:
Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we’re thrilled to be joined by Dr. Arpita Gupta de Palma, a pediatrician, trauma-informed physician coach, and podcaster. Dr. Arpita first joined us in 2022 to discuss anger (Episode 37), and now she’s back to dive even deeper into the topic. In this episode, we explore how trauma influences anger responses, why anger can act as an alert system, and how understanding these connections can lead to healthier emotional regulation.Dr. Arpita also shares insights into her new podcast, From Pissed Off to Poised, which combines practical tools for anger and time management. This conversation is packed with relatable examples, actionable strategies, and a generous dose of grace for anyone who struggles with frustration, anger, or the fast pace of life.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How trauma—past or generational—affects anger and emotional responses.Why anger is an alert system signaling core value violations or perceived threats.The biological and psychological mechanisms behind anger, including the role of the heart-brain connection.Strategies to pause and identify underlying emotions behind anger (e.g., disappointment, fear, or frustration).How anger develops in childhood and how early experiences shape adult reactions.The impact of trauma on leadership and how curiosity can enhance interpersonal dynamics.Key Highlights:
Recognizing Trauma as Physicians: Training in medical school, residency, and beyond can carry trauma that shapes how we respond to stress and anger in professional and personal settings.Understanding Anger’s Evolutionary Role: Our brain’s survival mechanisms can confuse emotional threats with physical ones, leading to reactive anger.Generational Trauma: Trauma can be passed down through generations, influencing our responses in ways we might not consciously understand.Transforming Anger: Identifying and naming underlying emotions helps reduce the intensity of anger and shift to more productive reactions.Dr. Arpita Gupta de Palma’s Podcast:
From Pissed Off to Poised is a limited-series podcast that explores anger, trauma, and time management. Packed with actionable tips and insights, it’s perfect for anyone looking to better understand their emotions and find practical solutions for managing life’s pressures.Connect with Dr. Arpita:
Website: www.thoughtworkmd.comSocial Media: @thoughtworkmdResources Mentioned in This Episode:
Dr. Arpita’s Anger and Time Management Courses (thoughtworkmd.com)HeartMath tools for heart-brain coherenceBook recommendation: Transforming Anger by HeartMathJoin Us for Free Training:
Don’t miss our free video training, How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence. Scroll down in the show notes for the link and check it out today!Let’s Keep the Conversation Going:
If this episode resonated with you, let us know! Leave a review, give us five stars, and share your thoughts. Your feedback helps more doctors discover the podcast and keeps our ripple effect growing.Closing Thoughts:
As Dr. Arpita reminds us, give yourself grace and props for recognizing the need to change how you show up. Anger is a universal experience, and addressing it with curiosity and compassion is the first step toward meaningful transformation.Remember: You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters.
Until next time!
Resources:
Book a free Physician Wellness Triage session with a physician coach
Download our Free Video: How to Crush Physician Burnout (for Good)
Arpita’s Website
From Pissed Off to Poised Podcast
Transforming Your Anger Course
HeartMath
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In this episode, we dive into practical and actionable strategies for fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Building on our previous discussions about losing and winning strategies in relationships, we share insights and real-life scenarios to help you create positive connections in your personal and professional life.
Key Topics Covered:
1. Radical Self-Acceptance
Embrace your strengths, weaknesses, and quirks without judgment or relying on external validation.
Learn how self-acceptance fosters authenticity and emotional independence in relationships.2. Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness
Discover how pursuing personal passions and fulfillment reduces dependency on others and creates balance in partnerships.3. Practicing Empathy and Compassion
Understand how stepping into your partner’s shoes during moments of conflict can de-escalate tensions and build trust.4. Clear and Kind Communication
Learn the importance of directly expressing your needs and avoiding passive-aggressive behavior.
Real-life examples of how open communication fosters understanding and collaboration.5. Setting Healthy Boundaries
Understand the importance of protecting your individuality while respecting your partner’s needs.
Tips for clearly communicating limits and following through with actions.6. Quick Conflict Resolution
Strategies for repairing relationships after disagreements by prioritizing reconciliation and emotional health.7. Commitment to Personal Growth
Explore the value of self-improvement for fostering mutual respect and reducing recurring issues in relationships.8. Appreciation and Gratitude
Small gestures of gratitude can have a significant impact on building emotional bank accounts and deepening your connection.Highlights and Takeaways:
Relationships thrive on intentional effort and growth.
Focusing on what *you* can do to implement these strategies benefits not only your relationships but also your personal well-being.
Small, consistent changes lead to long-term improvements in your connections with others.Resources:
Free Video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours or Quitting Medicine.
Schedule a free session with a physician coach for personalized guidance and support.
If you found this episode helpful, leave us a review and a five-star rating! Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and spread valuable insights.Until next time, remember: You are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters.
keywords: relationships, self-acceptance, happiness, emotional independence, personal growth, empathy, communication, boundaries, conflict resolution, personal growth, relationships, gratitude, emotional safety, trust, partnership
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In this episode, we’re thrilled to welcome Dr. Betsy Grunch, a board-certified neurosurgeon, mom, and social media sensation known as LadySpineDoc. Dr. Grunch shares her incredible journey—from growing up with a single mom, to becoming a leading figure in neurosurgery, to inspiring millions on Instagram and TikTok. She discusses how her mother’s spinal cord injury shaped her path, the importance of creating relatable content online, and how being authentic builds trust with her patients.
We also dive into the challenges of medical culture, the toxic training environments many face, and how Dr. Grunch advocates for a more supportive, inclusive, and collaborative workplace. Tune in to hear her thoughts on combating physician burnout, fostering work-life balance, and leading with kindness and humility.
What We Cover:
Meet Dr. Betsy Grunch: Her background, neurosurgery career, and family life.The Birth of @LadySpineDoc: How COVID-19 boredom sparked her social media journey.Dr. Grunch’s Story: The life-changing event that led her to neurosurgery.Empowering Women in Surgery: Breaking barriers and being a role model for future female neurosurgeons.Social Media’s Role in Medicine: Engaging patients, fighting misinformation, and showing authenticity.Medical Training Challenges: Insights on toxic cultures, emotional resilience, and advocating for change.Leading with Kindness: Dr. Grunch’s approach to building a supportive office culture.Physician Burnout: The importance of work-life balance and finding outlets outside of medicine.Future of Medicine: How collaboration, kindness, and authenticity can transform medical culture.Resources and Links:
Follow Dr. Betsy Grunch on Instagram and TikTok: @LadySpineDocCheck out our new video: "How to Crush Physician Burnout (for Good)" https://[email protected]Connect with Us:
If today’s episode resonated with you, leave us a 5-star review and share your thoughts. We’d love to hear from you!If you'd like a free Physician Wellness Triage session with a physician coach at The Whole Physician, click this link.
Stay Inspired:
Until next time, remember—you are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. -
In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra discuss winning strategies to improve relationships based on the work of renowned marriage therapist Terry Real. They explore how to move away from reactive, self-protective behaviors (losing strategies) and adopt proactive, compassionate approaches to foster deeper connection, trust, and resilience.
Key Takeaways:
1. Shift from Complaint to Request:
- Replace complaints with specific, actionable requests.
- Example: Instead of "You never help with chores," say, "Would you be willing to handle dishes on weekdays so I can focus on other chores?"
- Honoring your partner's ability to choose fosters cooperation.2. Speak to Repair with Love and Respect:
- Approach conflict resolution with empathy, scheduling focused discussions (e.g., a 10-minute repair conversation).
- Use Terry Real's *Feedback Wheel*:
- Share what you saw/heard, what it triggered, how you felt, and what you need.
- Let go of the outcome to prioritize understanding over "winning."3. Listen with Compassion:
- Listen to understand, not to counter.
- Acknowledge your partner's feelings, even if you don't agree.
- Example: "I understand why this feels overwhelming to you."4. Empower Each Other:
- Reinforce teamwork by appreciating contributions.
- Offer support when making requests: “Is there anything I can do to make this easier for you?”
- Share responsibilities and explore compromises to create balance.5. Cherish Each Other:
- Practice daily acts of appreciation and positive feedback.
- Schedule regular quality time together (e.g., weekly date nights).
- Engage in meaningful activities together, like volunteering, to strengthen your bond.**Actionable Challenge:**
Choose one winning strategy this week to practice with your partner. Reflect on its impact on your relationship and consider building from there.Resources Mentioned:
- Terry Real's book: Us
- Free Video: How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours or Quitting Medicine.Final Thoughts:
Relationships require effort, but intentional actions like these are investments in a fulfilling partnership. Start small and see the difference!If you found value in this episode, leave us a review and share it with someone who could benefit. Until next time, remember: You are whole, you are a gift, and the work you do matters.
If you'd like a complimentary chat with a physician coach, click the link to book a physician wellness triage session.
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In this episode, we tackle a common yet frustrating challenge: indecision. Even as professionals who excel in high-stakes environments, when it comes to personal or career decisions, we often find ourselves paralyzed. Why does this happen? How can we overcome it?
Here’s what we cover:
- Why indecision is so common – especially for high-achieving professionals accustomed to structured paths.
- The psychological underpinnings of indecision, including fear of failure, perfectionism, and a lack of confidence.
- Real-life stories of grappling with (and overcoming) decision paralysis.
- How cognitive distortions like proportion, temporal, and emotional distortions fuel indecision and keep us stuck.Key Takeaways:
1. Fear is often at the root of indecision—fear of failure, regret, or disappointing ourselves or others.
2. Our brains love the status quo. They resist risk and can blow decisions out of proportion, making them seem impossible or overwhelming.
3. Indecision isn’t permanent. By identifying the root causes and using proven strategies, you can move forward.Practical Solutions for Overcoming Indecision:
- Break big decisions into smaller steps. Focus on gathering facts and taking the next right action.
- Set deadlines for yourself. Avoid the endless loop of "information gathering" by choosing a reasonable timeframe to decide.
- Challenge distortions. Ask yourself:
- What's the worst that could happen?
- How likely is that to occur?
- If it did happen, how would I handle it?
- Reframe discomfort as growth. Feeling scared doesn’t mean something is wrong; it often means growth is happening.
- Limit outside opinions to trusted sources who align with your values and goals.Special Mention:
We discuss insights from Nuala Walsh’s TEDx Talk, including her three types of decision distortions (proportion, temporal, and emotional) and how to combat them.Don’t Miss Our Free Resource!
We’ve created a free video just for you: “How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence.”
Find the link in the show notes to start reclaiming your joy today!Closing Thoughts:
- You are whole.
- You are a gift to medicine.
- The work you do matters.If this episode resonated with you, please leave us a 5-star review and share your thoughts. Your feedback helps us reach more physicians and make a bigger impact.
TEDx talk: How to Overcome Indecision
Our links:
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Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we’re diving into *Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship* by Terrence Real. This book has left a deep impact on all three of us, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra, and we're excited to share key insights on how to foster deeper connections in relationships.
1. The Three Selves in Relationships
Terrence Real introduces the concepts of the "Wounded Child," "Adaptive Child," and "Wise Adult" within us. Each part can impact our interactions, especially in times of stress. For example, when stress triggers the Adaptive Child, we might revert to defensive, perfectionistic, or rigid responses, limiting our ability to connect.2. Moving Toward the Wise Adult
The Wise Adult is the part of us capable of emotional regulation, grounded in the present moment, and focused on the “us” in relationships rather than just "me versus you." Practicing "relational mindfulness," as Real describes it, helps us move from reactionary behavior to thoughtful responses that prioritize the relationship.3. Relational Mindfulness and Power Dynamics
Real’s approach encourages moving from a "power-over" to a "power-with" perspective. Relational mindfulness is about becoming aware of our own impulses and prioritizing the relationship ecosystem over individual needs. This doesn’t mean neglecting personal needs but rather not letting those needs dominate interactions.4. Relational Heroism
Real’s wife, Belinda, coined the term "relational heroism" for moments when, instead of defaulting to old habits, we choose connection and insight. This shift from automatic, defensive reactions to thoughtful, relational actions requires self-awareness and discipline.5. Self-Responsibility and Maturity
Maturity in relationships involves taking full responsibility for our actions and emotional triggers. This means acknowledging when we’re operating from an adaptive, defensive place rather than our wise, grounded self. Understanding our reactions and managing triggers is essential for healthier connections.6. Interpersonal Neurobiology
Real touches on the science of how our central nervous system and relationships are deeply intertwined. Our early life experiences shape how we perceive intimacy and connection in adult relationships. Relationships are meant to be a source of co-regulation, enhancing our physical and emotional well-being.7. The Importance of Connection
Real discusses “Social Baseline Theory,” which emphasizes the evolutionary benefits of social connections. These connections help us conserve energy, regulate emotions, and mitigate risk. This need for connection is evident in research on loneliness and isolation, underscoring the importance of close, supportive relationships.8. Understanding Subjective Reality
Real emphasizes that subjective experience is often more important than objective facts. Accepting your partner’s perception of reality can improve understanding and reduce conflict, shifting from a “me versus you” mentality to an “us” mindset.9. The Framework of Connection
True intimacy is built through awareness of each other’s needs, emotions, and triggers. Individuality has its place, but lasting relationships thrive on mutual understanding, shared values, and a focus on connection over competition.Additional Resources and Final Thoughts
As we continue our journey through this book, we invite you to explore Real’s work, available in his books, online resources, and YouTube videos. Thank you for joining us today—be sure to check out our new free video linked in the show notes. Remember, you are whole, your gift to medicine is unique, and the work you do matters.
https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670
https://terryreal.com/
https://www.youtube.com/@realterryreal
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System-Wide Remedies for Physician Burnout with with Stef Simmons, MD
In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra welcome Dr. Stef Simmons, a board-certified emergency physician and the Chief Medical Officer of the Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation. Dr. Simmons shares her journey and discusses the critical work of the foundation, created to honor Dr. Lorna Breen, an emergency physician who tragically died by suicide during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic. Dr. Simmons addresses the systemic issues that contribute to burnout and mental health challenges among healthcare workers and outlines national initiatives, legislative efforts, and resources aimed at supporting well-being in the medical field.Topics Covered:
1. Introduction to Dr. Stef Simmons and the Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation
Dr. Simmons shares her background as an emergency physician and a certified coach. She introduces listeners to the Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation, which she supports as CMO, and provides an overview of the foundation’s mission: preventing healthcare worker suicide and addressing the systemic drivers of burnout.2. The Story of Dr. Lorna Breen
Dr. Simmons recounts the life and legacy of Dr. Lorna Breen, an emergency physician in New York City who faced overwhelming physical and emotional challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic. Despite her dedication, Dr. Breen struggled with stigma around seeking mental health support, ultimately leading to her tragic death. This experience led her family to create the foundation in her honor, sparking national conversations about healthcare worker well-being.3. The Impact of COVID-19 on Healthcare Workers
Dr. Simmons discusses the heightened challenges faced by healthcare professionals during the pandemic, including increased workloads, insufficient resources, and the shift in public perception from admiration to criticism. She highlights how these challenges, along with rapid changes in healthcare delivery, contribute to burnout and mental health issues.4. Dr. Simmons’ Personal Journey
Reflecting on her own experiences with postpartum depression during residency, Dr. Simmons shares how the culture of medicine discouraged seeking mental health care. Her journey led her to roles focused on patient and clinician experience, coaching, and ultimately to her current position with the Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation.5. National Efforts to Address Burnout and Mental Health in Healthcare
Dr. Simmons outlines national initiatives, including the Dr. Lorna Breen Healthcare Provider Protection Act, which allocates funding to support healthcare worker mental health and well-being programs. She also highlights collaborations between organizations like the AMA, AHA, and ANA, working together to remove stigmatizing language around mental health in credentialing and licensing.6. The Foundation’s Statewide Collaboratives and Resources
Dr. Simmons explains the “All In Caring for Caregivers” initiative, starting in Virginia and expanding to other states. These statewide efforts focus on legislative changes, hospital-level interventions, and support for healthcare worker well-being. Resources include the Impact Wellbeing Guide, which offers steps hospitals can take to support clinicians, reduce burnout, and create healthier work environments.7. Steps Hospitals Can Take to Support Healthcare Worker Well-being
Dr. Simmons shares actionable steps hospitals can take to support their workforce:
- Identify and maintain existing positive practices.
- Listen to staff and establish an interdisciplinary team to guide well-being initiatives.
- Remove stigmatizing language about mental health in credentialing and licensing.
- Establish two-way communication between leaders and staff.
- Measure and support professional well-being through peer support, enhanced mental health resources, and workload impact assessments.8. The Importance of Coaching and Mental Health Resources
Dr. Simmons and the hosts discuss the role of coaching as a support tool for healthcare workers, emphasizing that while coaching is valuable, it may need to be complemented by other mental health resources. They encourage listeners to advocate for support within their own hospitals, including coaching, therapy, and psychiatric services.9. Advocacy and the Future of the Dr. Lorna Breen Healthcare Provider Protection Act
Dr. Simmons provides an update on the reauthorization of the Dr. Lorna Breen Act and the importance of bipartisan support for ongoing funding and resources. Listeners are encouraged to advocate for the act and spread awareness within their communities.10. Closing Thoughts
Dr. Simmons emphasizes that being a caregiver doesn’t preclude one from being a care receiver and encourages healthcare workers to prioritize their well-being. She reinforces the importance of system-level changes in creating sustainable work environments for clinicians.Resources Mentioned:
- The Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation website: [drbreenheroes.org](http://drbreenheroes.org)
- Information on the Dr. Lorna Breen Healthcare Provider Protection Act
- Impact Wellbeing Guide and toolkit for hospitals
- Champions Challenge Badge for hospitals that remove stigmatizing mental health language from credentialing
- The Foundation’s interactive map tracking state and hospital-level policy changesHow to Get Involved:
- Write to your state representatives in support of the Dr. Lorna Breen Healthcare Provider Protection Act.
- Advocate for changes to credentialing and licensing applications in your hospital or state.
- Consider donating to the Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation to support their mission.Special Offer:
Check out our free video, "How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking it Up in Silence," linked in the show notes. This resource provides actionable strategies for managing burnout and sustaining well-being.Contact Dr. Stef Simmons:
Email: [email protected]
Website: [drbreenheroes.org](http://drbreenheroes.org)Thank you for listening!
Please leave us a review and share this episode with fellow healthcare professionals.Resources:
https://drlornabreen.org/
Write your representative to re-authorize and fund the Dr. Lorna Breen Healthcare provider protection act: https://drlornabreen.org/reauthorizelba
Learn how to change the credentialing application at your organization: https://drlornabreen.org/removebarriers
Learn more about the Impact Wellbeing (TM) guide:
https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/healthcare/impactwellbeingguide/index.html
Become an ambassador:
https://drlornabreen.org/become-an-ambassador
Donate:
https://drlornabreen.org/donate
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In today’s episode, we’re diving into the second part of our series on “Losing Strategies” in relationships. We explore how certain behaviors undermine connection, create emotional distance, and hinder growth, drawing insights from renowned therapists Terry Real and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife.
We begin with a quick recap of the first episode and then introduce five additional “losing strategies” that can be detrimental to relationships:
1. Playing the Victim – Recognizing the disempowerment in victimhood and how it can impact both personal and relational growth.
2. Defensiveness – How defending ourselves undermines trust and prevents honest communication.
3. Blaming – Shifting responsibility onto others as a way of avoiding self-reflection, creating a hostile environment.
4. Scorekeeping – Keeping track of every wrong and using it as ammunition during conflicts, which prevents forgiveness and encourages resentment.
5. Emotional Blackmail and Stonewalling – Emotional manipulation and shutting down emotionally to avoid discomfort, which erodes safety, trust, and connection.We also offer practical strategies to counter these behaviors, such as practicing gratitude, setting personal boundaries, and recognizing self-authorship. We remind listeners that these strategies are meant for self-reflection, not to be used as a tool for changing others.
Finally, we discuss the importance of winning strategies that foster intimacy and growth, including empathy, active listening, and healthy conflict resolution. We’ll explore these more in an upcoming episode.
Resources Mentioned:
- *I Don’t Want to Talk About It* by Terry Real
- *Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship* by Terry Real
- Insight into “self-authorship” from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
If you found value in today’s episode, please consider leaving a five-star review. This helps other doctors find our podcast and extends our reach. Also, don’t miss our free video, *How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence.* You can find the link in the show notes.Thank you for tuning in! Remember, you are whole, you are a gift to medicine, and the work you do truly matters.
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