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What happens when we don’t share our own stories? They get told by non-trans, non-people of color who want to advocate for us, but don’t necessarily understand how to. This is why diversity and inclusion is so important, especially in spaces that can control narratives like media and entertainment. In this episode of Dem Bos Podcast, I continue the conversation with Sydney Baloue and we discuss the importance of storytelling, the fluidity of gender, the truth of “American culture,” and more!
www.sydneybaloue.comhttps://www.instagram.com/sydneybalouehttps://www.twitter.com/sydneybaloue
We talk:
The importance of storytelling in the trans community - 3:48
Sydney’s experience challenging the “gender is a fact’ rhetoric - 14:40
How the gender binary shifts with time - 23:50
Sydney’s favorite childhood cartoons - 30:07
Advice from Sydney Baloue - 40:04
Click here for transcript!
References:
Moi Renee
Miss Honey by Moir Renee
Kylian Mbappe
“HIM” from PowerPuff Girls
Dexter’s Laboratory
Sailor Moon
Looney Tunes
From Kalulu the Hare to Bugs Bunny: Trickster Lagomorph Legends
“What’s Opera, Doc”
Little Richard - Documentary
Tina - Documentary
Scooby-Doo
Read more about Sydnes in his bio below:
Sydney Baloue is a TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. He is in the House of Xtravaganza and he was Co-Executive Producer on HBOMax’s LEGENDARY Seasons 1 and 2. In 2022, he was the first Black trans man in the Writers Guild of America after working as a staff writer in scripted TV on The Vanishing Half at HBO and Tom Swift at the CW. Sydney is the author of Undeniable: A History of Voguing, Ballroom and How it Changed My Life (And the World). He was the first trans man to solely win Grand Prize for “Old Way” at the Latex Ball in 2019.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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If you’ve ever wondered about Ballroom, then this episode is for you! Today on Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with my friend, Sydney Baloue, TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. Sydney is an expert on Ballroom culture and he breaks down its history and the role it has played in his life. We discuss how we met, his transition journey, his career in TV, and much more!
www.sydneybaloue.comhttps://www.instagram.com/sydneybalouehttps://www.twitter.com/sydneybaloue
We talk:
How the name Sydney chose him - 4:37
Going deeper into the Ballroom scene - 16:13
Ballroom culture for those who don’t know it - 27:55
Sydney’s travel and studies abroad - 35:17
His work on HBO’s Legendary - 45:08
Click here for transcript!
References:
Sciences Po
London School of Economics
Edens Garden
CliniQ
Callen-Lorde
Apicha
Los Angeles LGBTQ Center
Tiq Milan
Paris is Burning
Legendary
Sara Ahmed
Making Gay History
Harper Collins
Read more about Sydnes in his bio below:
Sydney Baloue is a TV writer/producer, dancer, archivist and journalist. He is in the House of Xtravaganza and he was Co-Executive Producer on HBOMax’s LEGENDARY Seasons 1 and 2. In 2022, he was the first Black trans man in the Writers Guild of America after working as a staff writer in scripted TV on The Vanishing Half at HBO and Tom Swift at the CW. Sydney is the author of Undeniable: A History of Voguing, Ballroom and How it Changed My Life (And the World). He was the first trans man to solely win Grand Prize for “Old Way” at the Latex Ball in 2019.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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When many people think about creativity, they automatically think arts or tech, but there’s so much more to it. Creativity is about solving a problem; more specifically, how you go about solving a specific problem. As today’s guest says, “Parenting is creative… cooking is creative.” He challenges us to think about how we use creativity in our daily lives. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with El a.k.a Uppercutt and we discuss the many ways he uses creativity in his life.
https://www.instagram.com/all.of.el https://www.instagram.com/_uppercutt_ https://eltapiakwan.com/ 14uppercutts.myshopify.com
We talk:
El’s transition journey - 4:36
How colonization affects “gender” - 11:13
Being born and raised, and returning to Florida - 20:41
An awful high school experience - 32:58
Advice for listeners in Florida who don’t feel safe or have community - 42:07
El’s career as a creator - 54:54
How his road trip to California changed his life - 1:08:01
Click here for transcript!
References:
Trans Florida Resources IG - @transfloridaresources
Trans Empowerment Project
Discord
Signal Messenger (Groups)
PFLAG
Evelyn From the Internets
The Fitzlane Project IG - @thefitzlaneproject
Camp Out Florida
Queer Expressions St. Pete IG - @queerexpressionsstpete
Rose Dynasty Foundation
Found Family Collective IG - @foundfamcollective
Kaon City Medics IG - @kaoncitymedix
Read more about El in his bio below:
El is a born, raised, and returned Floridian currently creating wearable and shareable Queer Anarchist work for his Trans community under the brand Uppercutt. Through his (discontinued yet still available,) Youtube channel All of El, he is well-versed in shamelessly speaking about issues surrounding race, identity, sexuality, gender, social justice, trauma, and silly shenanigans.
He is an arts creator, educator, facilitator, and advocate working at the intersections of mental health, accessibility, and sustainability. When not teaching through local facilities or organizations, he works 1:1 with other creatives to uncover, unpack, discover, and inspire their personal projects through virtual consultations.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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I had a conversation with a friend recently about raising children. The person I was talking to didn’t think it was possible to raise a child as nonbinary. In fact, they believed that it was impossible to raise a child without gender norms. Well, allow this interview to be an example for anyone out there who shares that belief. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Zyon Aijon and he tells us what it was like to be raised without limitations and expectations and encouraged to be exactly who he was. We also discuss his artistic career, his transition journey, and much more!
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We talk:
Dealing with discrimination in the south - 5:59
Zyon’s transition journey - 13:31
Being raised without gender norms - 21:34
Zyon’s musical career - 32:15
His other artistic ventures - 41:04
Finding spiritual balance - 52:52
Click here for transcript!
Episode References:
OSCARVILLE & LAKE LANIER
Read more about Zyon in his bio below:
Zyon Lewis is a black trans artist born in Bridgeport, CT and raised between there and the south. He is a Vegan, Artist, Leader, activist and Innovator. He is a music artist, making music under the alias “1000 Percent”. He also produces gaming, lifestyle, creative and motivational content. He has been a digital artist/graphic designer since age 13 and now at 25 he continues to create. Zyon started his medical transition (HRT) August 19th, 2021 and he had top surgery in March of 2022. He continues to live his truth daily, by finding balance and peace in his daily experience.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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Today’s guest is not new to the show, and in fact, this will be his fourth time. He’s already shared his story with us in episode 31, “Speaking Truth to Power Leading Up to Knowing Your Worth,” and he participated in our Love, Sex, and Relationships conversation back in season one. But Mr. Amari Leach always brings the good vibes and deep conversation, so you already know what to expect. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, Amari and I discuss unity in the Black community, anti-trans bills, advice for parents of queer youth, and much more!
We talk:
Why he wanted to come back on the show - 5:14
What Amari does for self-care - 21:59
The “protecting the youth” lie from government - 33:50
Shawn’s philosophy on minding your own business - 43:17
Continuing the work to save lives - 1:03:10
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Episode References:
Season 1, Episode 31: Speaking Truth to Power Leading Up to Knowing Your Worth with Amari Leach
Season 1, Episode 18: Love, Sex, and Relationships Part 1
Season 1, Episode 19: Love, Sex, and Relationships Part 2
Caste: THE ORIGINS OF OUR DISCONTENTS - Book by Isabel Wilkerson
Read more about Amari in his bio below:
Mr. Amari Leach (He/Him) Is Strong Black Man born & raised in Louisville Ky & now resides in Seattle WA. He is Passionate about using his voice to help others Fight For Our Rights & Having a Safe Affirming Communities & Our Basic Human Rights Respected. He is a Human Rights Advocate, Youth/Trans Youth Advocate, Spiritual Energy Raiser, Educator On Real Black History(Black Excellence) & Real Issues In Our Community, Animal Rights Advocate & Disability Rights Advocate. He Stands For Truth, Unity & The Power Of Helping Each Other Grow & Learn. Through His Powerful Voice He Is Able To Help Shift Mindsets & Share Perspectives Of Folks Who Are Often Overlooked, His Main Goals Are Helping Our Youth Find Their Voices Protect It & KEEPING IT! Helping Them Utilize It With Their Parents & In Life, While Also Helping Parents Understand The Importance Of Creating A Safe Space For Their Children To Be Able To Speak Their Truth With Love & Acceptance Being Returned,Our wonderful youth are the leaders of our future and we have to lead the way correctly! He Also Is A Podcast Host Of His Own Show Tea With T™Talks With Mr. Amari Leach Where He Sheds Awareness On Real Issues & Advocates For Important Social Issues , Award Winning Graphic Designer Artist ( Mother George's Brew-Lavender Rights Project x Metier Brewing CO), Panel/Keynote Speaker, Mentor/Teacher & Business Owner, Songwriter & Author. ☕"I am changing the world one sip at a time"-Mr. Amari Leach
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The concept of visibility is about being able to see yourself, in other people, in the workforce, in the media, etc. But visibility can be dangerous, especially depending on where you live. So how do you find the courage to be visible, when it's especially dangerous? My guest, Mikail Khan, and I discuss that in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. We also talk about transness in Bangladesh, discrimination in South Asia vs America, the effects of Islamophobia, and much more.
https://www.instagram.com/banglatheyshi
We talk:
Mikail’s love for the Bronx - 5:49
Their transition journey - 16:31
The concept of abolition - 29:52
What Mikail’s mom would say today - 42:14
Advice for Muslim’s to gain courage to be visible - 50:23
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Read more about Mikail in their bio below:
Mikail Khan (they, he) is a Bangladeshi transmasculine queer Muslim media maker, communications specialist, writer, organizer, & film curator. They grew up in Dhaka for 19 years and are currently based in Lenape and Wappinger land (Central Bronx, NY). Mikail is invested in advocating for the liberation of trans and gender-expansive people of color through an abolitionist perspective. Their creative pursuits are driven by interrogations on gender, queerness, geography and religion, and they organize with a few NYC-based grassroots groups to counter Brahminism, Islamophobia, and white supremacy.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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If you’ve listened to any guest episode of Dem Bois Podcast, you’ve heard me ask the question, “how did your name choose you?” I believe that our names choose us for a reason and I enjoy learning about these journeys from my guests. And, today you’ll get to hear another Dem Bois first: the beautiful village naming process for Kaneon Hammock. In this episode we also talk about why and how they are fighting generational curses, advice for living in truth and being authentic, and much more.
https://www.instagram.com/__smmkd__
We talk:
How Kaneon’s name found him - 4:57
The acceptance he felt from his mother - 16:08
Advice for anyone wanting to transition - 24:43
How working at a bar encourage his sobriety - 33:33
His relationship with his nephews - 40:18
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Read more about Kaneon in their bio below:
I am 30, I’m an IT technician who has found himself driving trucks as well lol ! I am a living version of what I live by “Be yourself and live in your truth” Always be the man you wanna be! Nothing in life is unattainable!Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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There are always pivotal moments in our lives that put us on a path to discovery or point us in the right direction. They can be positive or negative, but they always have an impact on how we view life. For Marz T, that pivotal moment was the passing of his mother. It awakened his passion for music, which pushed him to find his voice and discover himself. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I sit down with Marz T aka Mo LaFlo and we discuss his transition journey, his mom’s passing, his music career, and much more!
We talk:
How the name “Marz” chose him - 8:38
His sense of self and identity - 18:40
The passing of his mother - 26:43
His relationship with his mom - 38:09
The stage name Mo LaFlo and his music career - 53:27
Advice for listeners who want to get into music - 58:44
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Read more about Mo in his bio below:Mo LaFlo is a Tucson-based artist from Winter Park, Florida, whose sound has traveled the ears of many listeners all over the world. Mo LaFlo's sound is transformative, exuding emotion and a climate of reverence. His sound captures the essence of R&B, Hip Hop, and Neo Soul. Outside of the booth, he enjoys mentoring youth and helping them find their voice and tap into their creativity.
https://www.instagram.com/mo_laflo444 https://www.tiktok.com/@mo_laflo
Question from listener Ozziel Inzunza to Marz:
What are your biggest inspirations and role models for your artist expression: personal and professional role models?
Marz Response:
Great question Ozzie. I would have to say my biggest inspirations/role models that inspire my artistry are Tupac, Chris Brown, Rhapsody, J Cole and Kendrick Lamar. I love lyricists & storytellers, as well as great entertainers when it comes to performing live. I would say those for professional. As far as personal, I lived say Maya Angelou, Nina Simone, because they lived and loved boldly and unapologetically! Thank you for asking!Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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Losing a parent is hard. It can feel like losing a part of yourself, leaving a space that will never be filled… or so it seems. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I share my experience with the death of my chosen mother. While her health was in decline, my birth mother’s behavior toward me completely shifted. It felt like that motherly love just flowed.
I haven’t recorded a solo episode in almost a year and in this episode I discuss that too. But, this topic weighed heavily on my heart, so I hope you enjoy it.
I talk:
A quick rundown of solo episodes from season 1 - 2:32
Things I learned from my birth mother - 7:41
Sharing the podcast with my family - 20:36
My birth mother’s shift in behavior - 29:54
How I met my chosen mother - 39:34
Being at peace with the passing of my chosen mother - 50:16
Click here for transcript!
Read more about Shawn in his bio below:
Shawn Aaron is the Founder and Executive Director of Dem Bois Inc. Shawn is a strong believer that trans men of color should have access to gender-affirming care and surgeries regardless of their economical status. Shawn is passionate about addressing intersectionality when it comes to one’s gender identity and access to non-bias healthcare. Shawn identifies as trans-masculine and understands the importance of accessing transition related care.
“I podcast to share stories and experiences of gender expansive leaders within my community. This allows me to build connections across different communities of color and people spanning multiple generations. From the rising generation of queer and trans folks of colors to the elders who paved the way for me and others. There are few storytellers that document the lives of trans men of color. As the host and creator of the Dem Bois Podcast, it is imperative that I continue to amplify and highlight the lives of trans men of color. Visibility = PossibilityTM
Through my storytelling, I demonstrate that:
- Trans lives are not monolithic.
- Trans men of color have always existed in society.
- Trans men of color elders exist and represent possibility for the next generation.
- Young trans men of color now have a point of reference of what they can become since our stories are often underrepresented.”Connect with Shawn
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Imagine being unhoused at a young age, disowned by your family because of who you are. Imagine having to stay indoors all day and all night because if you leave your home you could be imprisoned for life. In another Dem Bois Podcast first, today’s guest, Ruthra Lubega doesn’t have to imagine any of these things. Ruthra is an HIV/AIDS and executive director of Positive People Initiative Uganda, and in this episode we talk about what it’s like for trans and gender non-coforming folks living there.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064311236900 https://instagram.com/positive.transug?igshid=NzZlODBkYWE4Ng== https://instagram.com/ruth_lubegahttps://twitter.com/ruth_lubega?t=sCJBIYkhCHNTQlnx0UYCEg&s=08
We talk:
Being disowned by your parents at a young age - 5:23
Contracting HIV - 14:32
Ruthra’s belief in God - 22:36
Building community with like-minded people - 28:15
Ruthra’s number one fear - 32:55
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Read more about our guest in their bio below:
Ruthra Lubega Is an HIV activist who has lived with HIV/AIDS for the past 12 years and advocates for the rights of HIV positive persons, more so the trans gender persons and gender non conforming persons. Ruthra is the Executive Director of Positive People Initiative Uganda an organization that supports people living with HIV/AIDS in Uganda. Ruthra operates a transitional shelter that provides a diverse space for marginalized persons to socialize and also provides a robust advocate journey for shelter inclusion for people living with HIV/AIDS.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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Transitioning shouldn’t be for anyone else but yourself. It’s not about the person you’re in a relationship with. It’s not about your parents. It’s not about your children. It’s about you taking charge of your life and being your authentic self. That is the message I want you to take from this episode of Dem Bois Podcast! Today I sit down with Cameron Bostic and he shares about how his life mentally prepared him for his transition.
www.instagram.com/djladieslovecam
We talk:
Cameron’s transition journey - 5:43
Advice for mentally preparing to transition - 17:29
His relationship before and after his transition - 25:20
Cameron’s career as a DJ - 34:40
Last bit of advice for listeners - 44:21
Click here for transcript!
References
The Aggressives
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 3 - Surviving Homelessness
Read more about our guest in his bio below:
I am a transman dj, living in South Florida. I am also an ambassador for the South Florida black pride organization.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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Moving to a new city can be challenging. And, moving to a new city where no one like you really exists, that’s damn-near impossible. But today’s guest, Mia Obiekwe overcame that challenge and rediscovered themself in the process. Mia is a veteran, activist, model, and drag king, and in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we talk about all of those things. They also give advice for trans masc folks who are looking for support.
We talk:
Mia’s transition journey - 8:25
Their genderqueer identity - 18:51
Mia’s hope for Black queer people to be authentic - 25:59
Their former business and why it ended - 35:39
Rediscovering themself in a new environment - 41:44
What Mia’s support system looks like - 50:55
Click here for transcript!
References
them magazine
RuPaul’s Drag Race
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 6 Transforming Your Mindset with Zeke WilliamsRead more about our guest in their bio below:
https://www.instagram.com/miaobie.benbanjee
Mia-Obie is a trans masculine individual from Cincinnati, Ohio. They Spent most of their adult life in Atlanta, GA where they learned to hustle as a business owner in the cleaning industry. Within the past year they recently moved to Santa Fe, NM where they have had to rediscover themself in an environment where black trans people don't really exist, as well as, grieving the closure of their cleaning business.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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How do we learn gender roles? They are taught to us by society, our families, our teachers, our peers, our bosses, etc. They tell us who we are supposed to be and how we should behave. But we get to decide who we are and who we will become. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, my guest Father Venus shares how his gender journey sparked his artistic journey and how he incorporates the two.
We talk:
Father Venus’ love for being an Aries - 8:40
His career change because of his transition - 22:32
Message to former students - 32:59
Incorporating gender within artistry - 45:13
His goal with his music and business - 55:44
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References
Pilot Frixion Pens
Saturn Says Studios
Dem Bois Podcast, Ep. 7 - Transitioning at Work
Alexes Hazen, M.D.
Callen-Lorde Community Health Center, Brooklyn
https://www.saturnsays.comhttps://www.instagram.com/fathervenusmusichttps://beacons.ai/fathervenus
Read more about our guest in his bio below:
Father Venus is an artist who centers pleasure, justice, and magic through hip-hop music & visuals. Born & raised in Harlem, NY they now reside in Detroit where they independently craft their own style of hip-hop from their home base, Saturn Says Studios--AN ARTIST-OWNED PRODUCTION HOUSE & CREATIVE COMMUNITY FOR AND BY BLACK + BROWN, TRANS + QUEER ARTISTS, CREATIVES, AND ENTREPRENEURS.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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It’s true. Your transition never really ends. As you age, grow, and learn, you will continue to transform and transition. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast I had the privilege to sit down with actor, writer, producer, and editor, Shaan Dasani. Shaan discusses his career and how his Trans identity is integrated into his work. He also shares some advice for Trans actors. There are just so many good topics within this episode so I hope you enjoy it!
We talk:
How the name Shaan chose him - 7:01
Cultural narratives in having sons vs daughters - 14:15
Acceptance from grandparents - 22:29
How Shaan’s Trans identity is integrated into his work - 34:51
Advice for Trans actors - 51:34Click here for transcript!
References
Agents of Change Film
Ep. #33 Why It's Important For Us to Tell Our Own Stories with D’Lo
UN Climate Change Conference - United Arab Emirates
OTV
https://instagram.com/shaandasanihttps://instagram.com/agentsofchangemovie https://www.ShaanDasani.com
Read more about our guest in his bio below:
Shaan Dasani is a multifaceted actor, writer, producer & director. With an MFA in Film Production from Chapman University, he has produced over 30 short films and music videos. As an actor, he has starred in commercials for Google, Uber, and on TV in shows like Criminal Minds and Fox’s 9-1-1. His current penned project in which he also stars - AGENTS OF CHANGE - is a spy genre film about secret agents who fight environmental crime and showcases a queer and trans cast in a film that goes beyond identity to address broader social and political issues of our time.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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“The parent’s role is to guide and to nourish. Not to dictate or tell them how they should be, how they [should] live their life.” - Gabriel Vidal
This quote really sets the tone for what you can expect in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. This episode’s guest is one of my favorite people and once you hear the interview you will see why. Gabe is the Director of Youth Organizing for the GSA (Gender/Sexuality Alliance). He is also a Queer and Trans DJ. And, I am so excited to introduce you to him in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast.
We talk:
Gabe’s transition journey - 7:31
How he experimented with gender identity - 13:07
Having parents who are allies - 24:53
Advice for queer youth without that strong foundation - 30:43
Advice for parents of queer youth - 35:57
Music as a creative outlet - 43:59Click here for transcript!
References
Gender/Sexuality AllianceRead more about our guest in his bio below:
https://mixcloud.com/gfunktrecehttps://www.instagram.com/gfunktrece
Gabriel (he/him/Gabe) is a queer trans DJ, record collector and community organizer born and raised in Los Angeles. His approach to music has been shaped by his family, community organizing and underground music communities. Collecting records has been an outlet of his own transformation and a way to celebrate the experiences of his communities and others. Additionally, Gabriel is the Director of Youth Organizing for Genders & Sexualities Alliance Network and spends his extra free time DJing in local venues and community events in the Los Angeles area.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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If you know anything about the podcast, then you know that we are all about amplifying trans voices, so today we have another Dem Bois Podcast first. This episode won’t only be hosted by me. It will also be co-hosted by Vee Martin, and we will be interviewing our guest Ray Adens. I interviewed Vee back in season one and we had a great conversation about building confidence, going to therapy, and transitioning with children. In this episode, Vee is back and Ray is ready to share. We discuss family, mental health, battling with faith, and much more!
We talk:
Ray’s transition journey - 7:10
His faith - 15:26
Getting back in touch with his mom - 28:51
Learning to be a man without a “father-figure” - 37:07
Being kind and polite - 46:23
Bromance and competition - 50:44Click here for transcript!
References
Ep. 11 - Building Confidence to Become Your True Self with Vee Martin
Ep. 14 - Discovering New Life Through Grief and Healing with Mely Anais QuirozRead more about our guest and co-host in their bios below:
Ray - Humble in heart, wise in response (motto)
Vee - Vee is a father, husband, friend and overall a simple family man. He is on a journey of self love, understanding and exploring what his future holds.
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Today we have another Dem Bois Podcast First! In this episode, my guest TJ Jourian shares a difficult time in his life where he had to revert back to his previous gender and how that affected his mental health. And, I want to give an emotional warning, because we do discuss suicide ideation. We also discuss masculinity, being trans identified vs. being a man, cultivating healthy higher education environments, and much more!
We talk:
TJ’s transition journey - 5:48
How his family accepts his identity now - 15:50
How reverting back to his previous gender affected his mental health - 24:42
TJ’s higher education and how he navigated those spaces - 34:47
The importance of community in higher education - 47:10
How you can work with TJ - 54:12Click here for transcript!
References
Boys Don’t Cry (movie)
Brown Boi Project
Emergent Strategy by adrienne marie brown
Read more about our guest in his bio below:T.J. Jourian is a scholar, consultant, and coach with Trans*Formational Change. He helps changemakers – diversity workers, activists, creatives, scholars, and leaders – reclaim and transform their energy, as they transform the world. T.J. partners with colleges, companies, conferences, and community-based organizations across Turtle Island in their efforts towards equity and inclusion. His research examines race, gender, and sexuality in higher education; masculinity, transness, and racialization; and campus gender and sexuality practitioners. T.J. has published extensively, including the co-edited books Queerness as Being in Higher Education: and Queerness as Doing in Higher Education: Narrating the Insider/Outsider Paradox as LGBTQ+ Scholars and Practitioners.
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There are so many people out there who aren’t getting the care they need or deserve, especially trans people. We are met with ignorance and incompetence, and today’s guest, Dr. Julius Weaver wants to change that! Dr. Julius is a board-certified family physician who has been practicing for 20+ years and they are promoting Black and trans visibility through their medical expertise. In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, we discuss transitioning late in life, being stealth vs. being visible, transitioning with children, and much more.
We talk:
How the name Julius chose him - 2:55
His relationship with his ex-husband now - 9:44
Advice to trans parents navigating societal norms - 20:36
Transitioning while working in the medical field - 30:24
Being a doctor and providing that competent care to trans folks - 39:16
Where the name “Dem Bois” came from - 48:00
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Read more about our guest in their bio below:
Dr. Julius Weaver (he/they) is a black transgender board-certified family physician who has been practicing for over 20+ years. Julius is a busy, protective mother of three teens and in their downtime enjoys sports, gardening and being by any picturesque body of water they can find.Dr Weaver recently started their most exciting venture, RMD Proud. RMD Proud is a direct pay, virtual, gender affirming care program for transgender and gender-diverse individuals.
Julius Weaver is a late blooming non-binary trans guy. Their gender journey has certainly been lifelong but he started socially transitioning when he came out a few years ago to his family.
Currently, Julius loves to promote black and trans visibility through their own medical expertise and also by talking about their personal transition journey.
http://www.resolvemd.org/gender-carehttp://www.instagram.com/thetransmdhttp://www.instagram.com/rmd_proudAre you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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There are so many LGBTQ brothers and sisters out there who really want to be a part of a spiritual community and want to reconnect with their faith. But there are so many ways that society uses religion to condemn and push folks out to the margins. So I am very excited for this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, where I get to sit down with Andrés Herrera, a trans man who is also a spiritual care practitioner. In this episode, we discuss spirituality, faith, community, and masculinity.
http://www.cuidadoespiritual.comhttp://www.instagram.com/hola.andresh
We talk:
André’s’ transition story - 5:50
Emilio’s family’s disconnect from religion and acceptance of his transition - 18:17
Finding faith-based spaces that were affirming - 25:28
How spirituality has shaped Emilio’s masculinity - 39:17
Society’s use of religion to oppress - 47:50
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Episode Reference:
St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church
Faith from the Margins Podcast
New Revelation Community Church
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 14 - Discovering New Life Through Grief and Healing with Mely Anais Quiroz
Andrés is a trans man from South America who offers spiritual direction to other trans and queer folk, especially from Latin America. He is also the communications assistant at St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Houston, TX, where he produces the podcast Faith from the Margins.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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Something I always say is that when you have the love and support of your family, who cares what the world has to say?! But, many trans men of color aren’t fortunate enough to experience this during their transitions. In a Dem Bois Podcast first, my guest, Emilio Perdomo and I discuss what it’s like to have supportive parents and even having them be a part of your renaming process. In this episode we also talk about what he does as a social worker, mental health services, the current anti-trans legislation and much more.
We talk:
How it felt for Emilio to have his parents be a part of the renaming process - 6:11
Advice for anyone who wants to transition but may be struggling to tell their
partner - 13:56
The work Emilio does as a social worker - 21:09
His passion to work with foster youth - 32:41
The importance of showing up as your authentic self on your mental health - 42:05
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Episode References
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 8 - Advocating for Trans Lives with Luckie Alexander
Dem Bois Podcast Ep. 14 - Discovering New Life Through Grief and Healing with Mely Anais Quiroz
Instagram.com/emilioo0oRooted in Pride
Emilio Perdomo, LCSW is a first gen Salvadoran, raised in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is a Mental Health therapist and Social Worker with a passion for working with LGBTQ youth. With his love of art and graphic design, he created the brand Rooted in Pride. It highlights the culture and empowerment of being a person of color in the LGBTQ community.Are you enjoying the Dem Bois Podcast? Donate today to help support the cost of production and the honorarium we pay our guests for their time. All donations are tax-deductible. Click here!
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