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Almost a year ago, on winter solstice (which is this upcoming Saturday), I wrote this in a social media post. I said: Winter Solstice marks the day with the longest amount of darkness; it marks a SHIFT - the symbolic death and rebirth of the Sun; the gradual waning of daylight hours is reversed and begins to grow again.
Death & rising. Darkness reversed into Light...What other imagery does this evoke? Like many who go through betrayal trauma and find themselves rising from the hell they've been through into post-traumatic growth, I resonate DEEPLY with the imagery of the PHOENIX.
The song, Phoenix by Katrina Stone, that I picked to be the theme song of my podcast for 2024, to me captures the audacious amount of power I feel to face the "fire" (GASLIGHTING, anyone? đ).
I was IN it. I "laid there awhile" and made that hell my home. I walked through it. I came out the other side. And now, when I see the smoke rising from the hell my clients are walking through, I don't choke - I smile. Because I know I'm a phoenix. And I know they are, too.
2024 has been A YEAR, yâall! So, for my last âformalâ podcast episode of season two and the year of 2024, my guest and I are going to share what weâve learned and love about rising from the ashes, phoenix style!
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! I invite you to go back to the beginning of Season 1. There is so much helpful information, and a TON of validation, as people share their stories of experiences of gaslighting, and I help them understand the ins and outs of how and why it was gaslighting.
You can also check out my website for my courses on GASLIGHTING or to inquire about joining one of my groups or 1:1 coaching.
My guest today is Shawna Meek of Living Stones Coaching, based in Arizona. She is the author of the book, Determined for More, based on her own 25-year marriage journey, now available on Amazon.
Story Time: Sarah and Shawna talk about the "Phoenix" experiences they have had, and both the inspiration and life lessons they have learned from the story of the journey of the Phoenix.
If you'd like to know more about Shawna, her book, her workshops, or coaching, please check out her website!
I wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform. Iâm on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly. And now, Phoenix, by Katrina StoneâŠ
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Here we are, in the middle of all of the end of the year holidays. Itâs this weird time thatâs a juxtaposition of feeling all the nostalgia, and often romanticizing childhood, AND coming face to face with the jarring reality of the toxic patterns we see in our society, our religious systems, and in our family of origin.
Today, my guest and I are going to talk about the different responses people have when confronted with this experience, how we can choose the cycle-breaker option, and how we can stay on that obstacle-ridden path.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking to deepen your understanding of this thing we call GASLIGHTING and learn how to recognize the patterns so that you can break the patterns, I encourage you to check out my website. I am in the process of relaunching my programs, and in the interim, Iâve already lowered the cost of my programs significantly. You can now get my signature program for just $29.
My guest today is Sharon Rinearson of CORE Relationship Recovery.
Story Time: Sarah and Sharon discuss what generational patterns are, how trauma is connected to it, how we can increase our awareness around places we may be unknowingly living in these patterns, and what obstacles we may want to be aware of as we are trying to become pattern-breakers!
If you'd like to check out the work that Sharon and her husband, James, are doing, please visit their website, or email Gail to set up a free consultation.
I wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Instagram, Facebook, and (for now) TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Many, MANY years ago I discovered this blogger whose blog was called Momastery. There were so many things that drew me to this writer. There have been a number of phrases she said that absolutely changed the way I moved through the world. And one of the things I loved about her the most was how raw and vulnerable she was with how effing hard life is.
It was one such time that she said these words: âWe can do hard things.â It became the rally cry of the work she does in this world. And today, weâre going to take a look at how we can know the balance that we really need to have when we use that phrase, or phrases like it.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking to deepen your understanding of this thing we call gaslighting and learn how to recognize the patterns so that you can break the patterns, I encourage you to check out my website. I am in the process of relaunching my programs, and in the interim, Iâve already lowered the cost of my programs significantly. You can now get my signature program for just $29.
My guest today is Elizabeth Abbruzza of the Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center.
Story Time: Sarah And Elizabeth discuss the concept of "I can do hard things" â why and how it is a concept that can serve us; the âdangersâ of this mentality/using this phrase flippantly; and finally some tips/tools to help us find â and stay in â a place of balance around "pushing ourselves".
You can learn more about the work The Bellview Trauma Recovery Center is doing, read their blogs, follow them on Instagram, or even get on their email list
I also invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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As we head into the holidays, life can get really, really tricky. Family pressure. Cultural/societal pressure. Internal pressure. Pressure to put on a smile and be happy. And this month especially â pressure to have âan attitude of gratitudeâ. And yet â for so, so many of us, this can not only feel fake, but actually add to our struggles.
So today, Iâve invited an amazing human to come on the pod and share one of her favorite and most powerful tools we can use to find peace in the midst of the conflicts and contradictory circumstances we find ourselves in in life â and especially during this time of year.
Welcome you to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. And if youâre new here, welcome. Iâm so glad youâre here. I hope that the resources I have on this podcast and website help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing. Check it out, or better yet â schedule a free consultation call with me!
My guest today is Natalie Claire - aka Sunshine Strategist!
Story Time: Sarah and Natalie discuss what the Yes/And or Both/And is, the variety of ways we can use this mindset/tool to help us move through life with so much more peace, and a few reasons people may find themselves feeling a bit resistant to embracing the both/and.
Top Take-Aways: Usually I list out the top take-aways, but this time I just felt like I couldn't do them justice. There was just so much power and rawness and beauty in the discussion to capture it here.
If you'd like to talk with Natalie about hiring her as your strategist/business coach, you can do so by sending her an email addressed to: [email protected]. You can also follow her and her adventures on her Instagram account.
If you'd like to sign up for the "Take Back the Holidays" workshop, you can do so here.
I also wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform where we can connect and interact⊠Iâm on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Register for the workshop here!
The holidays bring a *special* challenge for MANY of us...
đParallel parenting with a GASLIGHTING ex
đToxic family gatherings where old patterns take you right back to feeling like that powerless child
đ Triggers and GASLIGHTING responses between intimate partners where betrayal trauma has happened
If you resonate with any of these situations, and know - far too well - the anxiety, sense of powerlessness, and dread they bring, I have something for you!
Nov. 16th I will be doing a special workshop where I will share the best strategies and tools I've used with my clients over the past decade to help them stay connected to themselves, and reduce (if not completely shift) the anxiety, and instead feel empowered and equipped - AND, quite possibly, a sense of peace - as they moved through their difficult holiday season.
November 16th, from 11am - 1 pm CST (9-11 PST; 12-2 EST)
Replay from 6 pm - 8 pm CSY (4-6 PST; 7-9 EST)
$30
Register here!
*ALSO - please share so that more people can know about this amazing resource this holiday season!
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Fear. Itâs a topic I revisit often on my podcast, because it can be a confusing one, especially since fear can sometimes be a helpful emotion. For example, fearing the pain that will happen if I touch fire helps alert me to the danger of fire.
While itâs an important emotion that can alert us to pay attention to whatâs going on around us, it is also something that can misguide us. For example, when I was a kid, I had a BUNCH or irrational fears, and many of them centered on stories and movies that always popped up this time of year.
So, what better time to revisit this topic than the month we most commonly associate with fear â October.
Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. In addition to the self-paced programs I have on my website designed to help you find your answers around gaslighting, I wanted to let you know about a special workshop Iâm doing next month - Take Back the Holidays. Save the date: Nov. 16th.
Story Time: Sarah discusses the difference between fear based on "real" vs. imagined threats; why we need to be able to sort through things to recognize the difference; complications with sorting out which type of fear we are experiencing; and of course, fear that intersects with gaslightingâ fear that is connected with gaslighting:
Top Take-Aways:
Get clear about "the story Iâm making up"... ask yourself if this a likely outcome? â if so, what options/choices do I have to change things and/or protect myself?"Head, Heart, Gut" check â Check out podcast episode: Season 2, Epi 22, May 28th â "I shouldâve listened to my gut".Asking yourself: if I face this fear, is it because of an opportunity for growth? If not, ask "why am I facing it/pushing through it?"â good distinction to flesh out potential coercionRemember: "Where focus goes, energy flows"
If you have determined it's not a "real threat", ask yourself one of the following questions: What would be the opposite of fear that I would rather be feeling? If I could tap into my âhigher selfâ in this situation, how would they feel/handle this? And then borrow those things from your higher self.I'd love to have you follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Gaslighting and our children⊠this is such a huge, heavy, and important aspect of so many people in life that while I planned on having just one episode on the topic, I ended up having two. In the last episode, my guest and I addressed the question: Am I gaslighting my kid? In this episode, weâre going to address the questions: Did my kid just try to gaslight me? What does that mean if they did? How can I help my kid be âgaslighting resistantâ?
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking for help around gaslighting issues, I encourage you to check out my website, where I have a number of self-paced programs designed to help you find your answers around gaslighting, find clarity and shift into a place of feeling more empowered.
My guest today is once again Lauren Hagen.
Story Time: Sarah and Laure share stories from their own lives to help you recognize when your kids may be trying to gaslight you, and when you are seeing others gaslight your kids. As they do, they share insights and tips to help you through these nuanced issues.
Top Take-Aways:
As Lauren said, "Slow the F down"As Sarah said, "Be mindful of the shortcuts we are tempted to take"Best tip for teaching your kids how to be gaslighting-resistant: help them know themselves and grow their voice.I wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
If youâd like to get in contact with Lauren, you can reach out to her for a free consultation at [email protected] or call or text her at 512-739-6759.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Gaslighting and our children⊠is there any place that feels more critical than this for those of us who are parents? Have you ever wondered about any of the following? Am I gaslighting my kid? Did my kid just try to gaslight me? What does that mean if they did? How can I help my kid be âgaslighting resistantâ? Iâve heard every single one of these questions over the years and asked myself each and every one of them. So today, my guest and I are going to share stories and tips to help address these questions.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking for help around gaslighting issues, I encourage you to check out my website where I have a number of self-paced programs designed to help you find your answers around gaslighting, find clarity and shift into a place of feeling more empowered.
My guest today is Lauren Hagen.
Story Time: Sarah and Lauren talk about the ways they've gaslit their kids, and the lessons they've learned about themselves, their kids, and parenting along the way.
Top take-aways:
Not all people who do gaslighting behaviors are doing it for nefarious reasons. It's important to take a look at our own motives for gaslighting our kids, with compassion and WITHOUT judgement. This is how we learn how to meet our needs in parenting, while behaving in ways that are staying in alignment with the way we want to parent our children/our values.So, dear listener, my and Laurenâs conversation about this very important topic was SO good, that Iâve done something Iâve never done before, and Iâve edited this podcast into two episodes so that itâs not 70 minutes long.
So please come back in two weeks, when Lauren and I talk about when our kids try to gaslight us, and when we see someone else gaslighting our kids.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm Facebook, Instagram and TikTok.
If youâd like to get in contact with Lauren, you can reach out to her for a free consultation at [email protected] or call or text her at 512-739-6759.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe.
Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Itâs back to school season, and as such, this month my two podcast episodes are going to be focused on supporting all the parents out there.
One of the most difficult places we can experience GASLIGHTING is when we are having to âparallel parentâ with a GASLIGHTING ex. The stories Iâve heard throughout my career of how this has played out would break your heart. So today Iâve invited someone near and dear to my heart to help me talk about this very difficult topic and give you some ideas of how to handle this if you are one of the many who donât get to walk away from your gaslighter like I did.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking for help around GASLIGHTING issues, I encourage you to check out my website, where I have a number of self-paced programs designed to help you find your answers around GASLIGHTING.
My guest today is Lindsay - a therapist and mother to five boys.
Story Time: Sarah and Lindsay talk about a variety of ways parents who have divorced their gaslighter, but still share children, experience GASLIGHTING. From "love-bombing" to undermining, they share many relatable stories and a few tips and tools to help you if you can relate.
Top Take-Aways:
Give yourself permission to prioritize yourself so that you can be fully present for your kiddos. Remember this important FACT: Itâs NOT your job to âcoverâ or âprotectâ that gaslighting parent.Remember the goal: stay connected to what you know to be true. You donât have to prove yourself to your ex/validate why you want the boundaries/ârulesâ, etc. â if they donât agree/wontâ comply, you get to differentiate, etc. Remember this statement: "If it's important to me, then it's important".I wanted to invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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I saw a picture of a sign that read, âbetter to admit you walked through the wrong door than spend your life in the wrong roomâ. I felt that. There have been big and small ways Iâve LIVED that.
We ALL have ended up walking through the wrong door a time or two in our lives. Being able to recognize when weâve ended up in the wrong room is crucial to living in alignment with our values in a way that is authentically us, rather living in alignment with what others want of us.
Today Iâm going to use this context to get political. I canât stay silent about what Iâve seen with my brain that is SO attuned to recognizing the gaslighting that happens. Not when Iâm seeing such huge and harmful impact because of it.
What I want to do today is speak to those of you who may be experiencing cognitive dissonance because you are beginning to realize that you walked through the wrong door. I want to help you understand how that happened. I want to help you feel seen and understood. And I want to help you find the clarity and power to get out of the wrong room.
Iâm Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and Iâm so glad youâre here! If youâre new to the pod and want to know a bit more about me and the offerings I have to help people recognize the patterns of gaslighting and whatâs more - heal from the effects of chronic gaslighting, please check out my website.
Story Time: Sarah deconstructs the "how" and "why" we end up walking through the wrong door; shares a concept she found in a Dr. Ramini video, shares a non-political example so we can see it in action, shares a personal example from her own life of walking through the wrong door, and then gets a bit political... all from a place of grace, yet wanting to speak out about the political abuse she's seeing, so that the USA can heal.
Top Take-Aways:
For those who may be in the wrong room:
Give yourself grace. You were lured in because you trusted someone who used your values against you. Pay attention to when and how FEAR is guiding your decisions. When we are guided by fear, we are vulnerable to coercion.Look for the Âœ truths â especially with exaggeration and distortion, and when you are noticing extreme fear.Get clear on your values and get curious around how they may be being manipulated through the aforementioned coercion. Give yourself permission to leave the room.For those who love someone thatâs stuck in the wrong room:
Approach them from the place of seeing them â their values, their fears, etc. Know itâs okay to have boundaries with them.And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, walked through the wrong door - but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we get some freedom and fly.
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Life can be really, really hard sometimes. Trauma. Betrayal. Gaslighting⊠fear, pain, abandonment⊠it can be immobilizing. Itâs not surprising that these things can (and often do) lead to depression. I remember being in some pretty dark places after the discovery of my exâs deviant sexual behaviors â especially in the early days.
One thing that I learned, quickly, that had the possibility to bring me out of those depths of despair, was laughter. Cultivating experiences where we can laugh and/or feel joy is often overlooked and not truly understood. So today, Iâve invited Dr. Jessica Lamar onto the pod to talk about why these things are so important for us.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, welcome! If you are looking for help specifically around gaslighting issues, I encourage you to check out my website, where I have a number of self-paced programs designed to help you find your answers around gaslighting.
My guest today is Dr. Jessica Lamar, Co-Founder and Director of Business Development and Strategy at the Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center (BTRC) in Seattle, WA.
Story Time: Sarah and Jessica geek out about the science behind laughter and smiling, talk about the difference between faking it til you make it and toxic positivity, and share tips on how to nurture laughter and joy.
Top Take-Aways:
Start small and safe Be intentional/choose to give yourself opportunities to laugh/find joyLook out for toxic positivity by being aware of "but" vs "and" (you want to be using the "and").If you'd like to follow Dr. Jessica Lamar and the Bellevue Trauma Recovery Center (BTRC), you can do so on Instagram where you can sign up for the email list, find resources, and learn more about their intensives.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform. Iâm on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broken and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Along my journey of deconstructing and unpacking all the ways gaslighting had impacted me throughout my life, thereâs one key lesson that, if I hadnât learned, I donât think Iâd ever have found the ability to stay connected to my authentic self, nor live from the place of authentic power. That lesson can be summed up in these three words: sacred self-responsibility.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. If this is the first time youâre listening to the pod, this month, while summer is in full swing, Iâve ventured away from exclusively gaslighting-themed topics, and instead am bringing topics that will help you fill your toolbelt. If you are looking for help specifically around gaslighting issues, I encourage you to check out my website.
Bio: My guest today is Bethany Ellen. Bethany is an award-winning mentor, best-selling author, and founder of Permission Granted.
Story Time: Sarah and Bethany get into the details of what sacred self-responsibility is, and how we can learn to ride the swings of the pendulum and come back to our authentic self by leaning into our core values.
Top Take-Aways:
Check in with yourself, specifically regarding "Villian/Victim". Am I making myself the victim or villain, or is someone else trying to convince me that I am the victim/villain?Use the concept of the grandfather clock pendulum and be curious about the extremes of compliance & defiance. Give yourself permission to be on a journey towards sacred self-responsibility, starting with simply getting curious about what responsibility means, then moving into what do you want to be responsible for/whom to, and then moving into owning that "sacred" aspect of using self-responsibility to help you step into "wholeness".If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life and robbed you of being able to live from a place of sacred self-responsibility, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.
If you'd like to follow Bethay, you can do so on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok. AND, if you'd like to get any of her Masterclasses (they are SO good!), you can use the coupon code: PODCASTSarah to get 50% off ANY masterclass Bethany has in her store (live in a few weeks).
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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There are a lot of words these days that are misunderstood. âTriggeredâ is one such word. Itâs also a very important word, as itâs one of those words that can help us both recognize whatâs happening to us, as well as help us communicate to others what is happening to us. So today, my guest and I are going to help bring clarity to the things surrounding the experience of being triggered and leave you with some helpful tips on how to recognize and deal with triggers.
Welcome to Deconstructing GaslightingÂź, the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. This month, while summer is in full swing, Iâm venturing away from specifically GASLIGHTING-themed topics, and instead bringing up topics that will hopefully help you fill your toolbelt. If you are looking for help specifically around GASLIGHTING issues, I encourage you to check out my website.
My guest today is Tammy Gustafson. Tammy is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR-certified clinician, and speaker. She is the founder of Betrayal Healing and is the host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference.
Story Time: Sarah and Tammy talk about their own journey of healing and dealing with triggers, what they've seen as some of the most common struggles around triggers, and how we can "reduce or remove" triggers as we are healing.
Top Take-Aways: (5-10 min)
Reverse engineer â if you can identify when you have been triggered, work backwards. Ask your who/what/where/when. Who was around you? What did they say/do or NOT say/do? Where did it happen? When did it happen?Ask: can I remove the thing that is triggering me? If not, can I minimize an aspect of it somehow â less time around a certain person/environment; boundaries around places/things; grocery shopping example. Ask: is what Iâm experiencing big feelings/activated or triggered? If itâs connected to a traumatic experience and we are in fight/flight/freeze/fawn, then we need to get to safety and get grounded/brain body connection back online. If activated, get curious - identify what feeling, what needs do I have? What values are being infringed upon, etc.Try using the "How we feel" app to identify and track your feelings/triggers.If you want to connect with or follow Tammy, you can go to her website, or follow her on Instagram or Facebook.
As I wrap up today, I wanted to let you know that if you want to understand more about the ways GASLIGHTING has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold self-GASLIGHTING has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram, and
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Where on your list of priorities is doing things to care for yourself? How much time and energy do you put into things that bring you joy or âfill your bucketâ? How you answered these questions likely reflects your beliefs â conscious OR unconscious â about self-care.
And of course we struggle to give ourselves permission to do self-care. Weâve been told that self-care is everything from âselfishâ to âlazyâ. Additionally, most of us, when we most need it, canât even think of HOW to do self-care because of being in trauma-brain.
So today Iâve invited Adrianna Lewis of The Heartbreak Box, who is doing amazing work in the area of self-care, to be on the pod so that we can debunk the GASLIGHTING around self-care AND learn both truths and tools to step into transformative, radical self-love through self-care.
Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. If youâre new here, welcome. Iâm so glad youâre here. I hope that the resources I have help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing.
Story Time: Sarah and Adrianna talk about the journey Adrianna has been on that led her to not only realize how crucial self-care is but find her passion in helping others embrace a lifestyle of self-care.
Top Take-Aways:
Make a pie chart of where/to whom you give your time and energy. Reflect on how much you give to yourself. Now ask yourself, how much of the pie chart do I believe reflects the values I want to live by? What would my pie chart look like if it was reflecting my values? From Adrianna - remember PIESS. These are the areas we GET to do self-care: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Social and Spiritual. Take account of where you are lacking and try doing some self-care to fill the void.If you want to get on Adrianna's Heartbreak Box waitlist, you can do so here. You can follow her on Instagram or follow her Facebook page.
As I wrap up today, I wanted to let you know that if you want to understand more about the ways GASLIGHTING has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform where we can interact⊠Iâm mostly on Facebook and Instagram, though I do have a cache of videos on TikTok.
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in particular who could benefit, please share it with them. And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time
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A few years ago, I had my founding members group for my Empowerment program. Before we began, I asked them to share the songs that helped bring them back to themselves. Some truly amazing songs came of that. One of the songs that I found that captured the journey the group was going on was Masterpiece, by Jessie J.
The chorus says: I still fall on my face sometimes and I can't color inside the lines, 'cause I'm perfectly incomplete - I'm still working on my masterpiece. And I - I wanna hang with the greats, got a way to go, but it's worth the wait, no - You haven't seen the best of me, I'm still working on my masterpiece.
In todayâs episode, Iâve asked one of my founding members, who is kinda the poster woman for this energy, to come share what sheâs been doing and HOW sheâs been doing it. Itâs going to be an epic show!
Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. And if youâre new here, welcome. Iâm so glad youâre here. I hope that the resources I have on this podcast and my website help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing. Check it out, or better yet â schedule a free consultation call with me! Side note â that list of songs is on spotify.
My guest today is no stranger to the pod, as she was in season one at least twice. She is truly a magical person. Lauren is this incredibly fierce powerhouse of a woman who is a fighter and a queen who has survived significant betrayal and gaslighting trauma along with a total loss of self-worth. Over the years she has worked tirelessly to reclaim herself, her peace, and her power.
Story Time: Sarah and Lauren talk about the journey Lauren went through to get to the place of freedom and confidence that allows her to be "creating her masterpiece.
Top Take-Aways:
Create your own (or borrow mine) âcreating my masterpieceâ playlist you can listen to. Find your âmovementâ/body experience that helps you feel groundedn and/or empowered â like dancing, or running, etcCreate a mantra, and state it in the present tense: âI am creating my masterpieceâ vs âI will create my masterpieceâ.If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love. Iâll have the link in the show notes.
As always, I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform where we can connect and interact⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Have you ever seen that Dove âReal Beautyâ sketches campaign video â the one where the women met a stranger, and after some time talking, that stranger gave their description to an FBI forensics artist. Then the women described themselves to that same artist. AND THEN, they had the big reveal of the difference between the strangerâs description and their own description. WITHOUT FAIL, the more accurate picture (and more flattering picture) was the one that came from the description of the stranger. Big forehead; small eyes; too many freckles; big nose. These women tended to focus on the things they believed were negative about themselves AND saw them as a bigger deal than they actually were. Why do we do this? AND how can we STOP doing this?
In todayâs episode, during this month of focusing on self-worth, Iâve asked the amazing Leslie Jordan to come back to the pod and help us understand our body image issues and the thief of self-love that comparison can be.
Welcome you to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. And if youâre new here, welcome. Iâm so glad youâre here. I hope that the resources I have on this podcast and website help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing. Check it out, or better yet â schedule a free consultation call with me!
Bio: My guest today is Leslie Jordan Garcia, MBA, MPH, CEDRS, CPT (she/her), a dedicated Eating Disorder Recovery and Body Liberation Coach.
*In case you missed it, Leslie and I had an amazing conversation back in season 1, where we talked about the struggle of how we view our bodies â especially when it comes to the concept of being âoverweight. That episode was season 1, episode 33, titled, âI was overweight by THEIR standardsâ.
Story Time: Sarah and Leslie talk about what body liberation is, why it's such hard work, and WHY IT'S SO WORTH IT!
Top Take-Aways:
Follow Leslie on InstagramIf you struggle with feeling self-acceptance and self-love when it comes to your body and want to experience body liberation - get on Leslie's wait list!If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform where we can connect and interact⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Do you remember what your dreams were when you were a kid⊠or maybe when you were a teenager. How about as you entered into your mid-twenties? Were you encouraged to dream, or told dreaming was foolish or a waste of time?
And hereâs the big one: were your dreams crushed by betrayal and/or gaslighting? Any number of these things can disconnect us from this thing I believe all humans have initially â the ability to dream audaciously. So today, my guest and I are going to have a chat to connect the dots of what causes this, and how we can begin to dream again â no matter the reason that was taken from you.
Iâm Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and if you want to be in the know about special deals on my programs, new things Iâm launching, conferences Iâll be speaking at, and lots of other helpful information and tools, sign up for my newsletter by visiting my website: deconstructinggaslighting.com
My guest today is my very good friend and amazing colleague, Rae Gaelyn Emerson of healing talks back.
Story Time: Sarah and Rae geek out over the intersection of dreams and values. Their discussion leads them to a variety of connecting points, with all roads leading back to how brave it is to continue to dream after betrayal/trauma.
Top Take-Aways: How can we be audacious dreamers?
Balance safety with audacityPlay â you donât have to take action... yet or ever. Self-talk: âI am worthy of having beautiful dreams and seeing them come true.âSelf-talk: âI give myself permission to dream. It is an important part of being human.âIf you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website, and Rae's website. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into Radical self-love.
Follow me and Rae on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok. Rae is on Facebook.
Thank you for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in specific who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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Have you seen those social media posts that go something like this â and I quote: âAfter all that she gave him, imagine what sheâll be able to give to the next personâŠâ and then it says, âNot a thing, because he broke her.â I HATE that picture. That belief that somehow, because of the trauma that I or my clients have been through, weâre somehow now âdamaged goodsâ; as if what we went through is now our identity instead of a chapter (or a few chapters) in our life.
This month the theme of my podcast episodes is self-worth, and I canât imagine a better place to start than tackling this nonsense with a lens on gaslighting.
Welcome to Deconstructing Gaslighting the podcast. Iâm your host, Sarah Morales. And if youâre new here, welcome. Iâm so glad youâre here. I hope that the resources I have on this podcast and website help you find clarity, empowerment, and healing. Check it out, or better yet â schedule a free consultation call with me!
My guest today is Phoenix Gould.
Story Time: Sarah and Phoenix talk about Phoenix's experience growing up with a Narcissistic mother, how that caused her to have a core of, "I'm broken", and the journey of healing. Along the way, they both discuss the common obstacles to overcoming this belief, and things both they and their clients find helpful in living from a place of wholeness.
Top Take-Aways: (5-10 min)
Phoenix's guided mediation: Free Radical Self-Love PracticeDo Kintsugi as an embodiment experience!Find/create a mantra that connects you to what your authentic/higher/wiser self would say about you.If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my website. I have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love.
As always, I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform where we can connect and interact⊠Iâm on Facebook and Instagram the most, but I do have videos on TikTok, too.
You can find Phoenix on Facebook, Instagram, and Youtube. She also has a Facebook Group for Women, and a Free Coffee Chat with Phoenix!
Thank you, my listener, for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful, and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can
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Have you ever had that little nudge â you know, the one that tells you something isnât right. Or the one that alerts you to some bad energy from the guy over in the produce section? And how many times did you talk yourself out of listening to that little nudge? Why do we do that? Well, today my guest and I are going to talk about the ways we do this, the reasons WHY we do this (ahem, self-gaslighting anyone?), and how we can begin to trust our gut again. All month long weâve been talking about self-gaslighting, and yâall, Iâve saved the best for last. I fully believe youâre going to LOVE every minute of our conversation!
Iâm Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and Iâm so glad youâre here! If youâre new to the pod and want to know a bit more about me and the offerings I have to help people heal from the effects of chronic gaslighting, please check out my website.
Bio: My guest today is Alana Gordon, co-owner and founder of Choose Recovery Services.
Story Time: Sarah and Alana talk about everything from the neurobiology of our "gut", to personal storied of how they didn't listen to their gut, to how they've learned to pay attention to their gut/body/feelings/intuition.
Top Take-Aways:
Listen to your body - slow down and pay attention to both physical and emotional sensations. The warehouse analogy: make sure you're moving things through via writing it out or talking it out. Practice listening to your gut/body to develop those "trust" neuropathways.Give words to your physical sensations. Look for where the incongruence is between your head/heart/gut/body, and ask yourself, "why" (while making sure you're safe). Ask yourself what YOU can do to bring yourself back into congruence.I wanted to let you know that if you want to understand more about the ways GASLIGHTING has shown up in your life and robbed you of being able to trust your own intuition and so much more, check out my and Alanaâs websites. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold GASLIGHTING has had over you and help you step into a place of self-knowing and self-trust.
I encourage you to follow me and Alana on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm on Facebook and Instagram. Alana is on Instagram and TikTok.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
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As a child in the 80âs, I remember being at the skating rink and playing Limbo on skates. Yep, I was that kid. LOL The song, âLimbo rockâ would start, and EVERYONE knew it was time⊠every limbo boy and girl all around the limbo world⊠la la la la la la la⊠limbo lower now⊠limbo lower now ⊠how low can you go? And the competition would begin to see who would get the bragging rights of being the one who could go the lowest (spoiler â it was never me lol).
I donât remember how long ago it was that Iâd heard enough of my clients making concessions and realizing just how low their relationship bar had been lowered, but one day it hit me â itâs like weâve unknowingly been playing limbo in our relationships â lowering and lowering our bar in an attempt to not end the game (so to speak).
So today Iâm going to share just a little bit about how concessions are a HUGE part of the
experience of self-gaslighting.
Iâm Sarah Morales, the host of this podcast, and Iâm so glad youâre here! If youâre new to the pod and want to know a bit more about me and the offerings I have to help people heal from the effects of chronic gaslighting, please check out my website.
Story Time: Sarah explains how making concessions is often where we end up after living in the land of shoulds. She gives definitions and real-life examples to show how we do this all. the. time!
Top Take-Aways:
Recognize that making concessions is not only self-gaslighting, itâs self-abandonment. Create a mantra for yourself that is something like, âI do not abandon myself to make others happyâ. Pay attention to any time you say, âmaybe I...â, or âat least theyâŠâ and ask yourself, am I making a concession here?Remind yourself that relationships are not a game of limbo. If you are basically seeing yourself in "how low can you go" mode, give yourself permission to stop and begin doing the work of shoring up your boundaries and raising your bar!I wanted to remind you of the different offering I have on my website that help you recognize gaslighting in ALL the areas of your life. Check them out or even schedule a free consultation with me to talk about what programs are the best fit for you in your situation or relationships.
I invite you to follow me on your preferred social media platform⊠Iâm most active on Facebook and Instagram.
Thank you for listening to todayâs episode. If you found it helpful and want to help me get it in the hands of more people who could benefit from it, please leave a review and subscribe. Additionally, if you can think of one person in specific who could benefit, please share it with them.
And remember â you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, youâre a phoenix and youâre rising again. I think itâs time we fly.
- Visa fler
