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We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself?
In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself.
You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t mean it, and ignoring what you need. That’s a form of self-abandonment.
I’m sharing some things I wrote in my journal this week, a few hard truths about how we treat ourselves, and why being your own best friend is the kind of care that changes everything.
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In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you.
I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in small, intentional ways.
This is not about being perfect. It’s about not disappearing on yourself anymore. This is important liberation work.
Mentioned in this episode:
– The 4 daily practices I use to rebuild self-trust
– What it means to make a decision and not waver
– How to move without proof (and why that’s important)
– Real-life examples of what this looks like for everyday Black women
Also, here is the link to the hypertension article I read and mentioned
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Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins
In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed me to move anyway.
We’re talking entrepreneurship, creativity, personal growth, and what it means to reclaim your time and voice. If you’ve been dreaming of building something outside the system—or you’ve already started—this series is for you.
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In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.
And I didn’t apologize.
This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.
I talk about:
What really happened that day on the sidewalkHow that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the pastThe truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorryThe quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not toWhy taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestralThis episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.
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Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address.
Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.
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In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.
I share:
Why crying helped me realize what my soul is cravingThe emotional toll of always showing up for othersWhy some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start overWhy self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessaryA question that might help you get closer to your own self-loveThis one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.
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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, we're cutting through the noise and naming the truth:
Black women are not the problem — the systems are.
Capitalism, white supremacy, grind culture, and patriarchy have conditioned us to blame ourselves for exhaustion, financial struggle, and “inconsistency.” But that ends here.
We’re not just naming the harm — we’re talking about how to push back in 2025. From reclaiming rest, to doing less without guilt, to unlearning money shame, this episode is your reminder that healing and resistance can co-exist.
In this episode, I cover:Why rest still feels hard (and who benefits from that)How capitalism set us up to fail with moneyThe truth about “doing the most” and what it costs usReal ways to resist — even if you're still tired, in debt, or just getting started This is for you if:You’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enoughYou’re healing while still playing the gameYou’re ready to choose rest, ease, and clarity — without guilt
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If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, this episode is for you. Whether the day brought up grief, frustration, numbness, or just left you feeling emotionally off, you are not alone. In this gentle episode, I’m holding space for the Black women who are expected to “bounce back” on Monday when their hearts are still tender. We’re talking about softening into the week, honoring your truth, and giving yourself permission to move slow. You’ll also hear a series of affirmations to carry with you as you reclaim your energy, one breath at a time.
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First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.
Now, onto todays episode. Have you ever been called boring or even a square? I have been several times and I allowed that to shame me into trying to be someone that i was never intended to be. I realized that the idea that I was too boring to show up or share parts of my life online (parts that I deem aren't too private or sacred) had a huge impact on my business and and even how I felt about myself. If this is you too, I'm sharing some takeaways I want you to consider.
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First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.
Now, on to todays episode. I decided to let chatgpt give me a prompt that would help me do some self-reflection and it didn't disappoint. I wasn't sure that I would share this when I hit record because this was a personal note that I created for myself to process my thoughts on fear + self-worth. I'm sharing this because I want YOU to trust your voice. It's hard to trust your voice if you are searching for the perfect thing to say or the perfect thing to feel. Healing is not about an aesthetic, it's about being real, raw and unfiltered. Using your voice can be a great step to becoming a place of safety for yourself and this is so important.
Don't be afraid to use the prompt in todays episode to see what comes up for you.
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In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of giving themselves their best. We have got to stop reserving our 'pretty' for others or future occasions. Black women have done enough, we have given enough, it's beyond time we utilize our best for our benefit before it is given away to others. On top of that, I'm tired of playing the supporting character in life so I share a bit about that, too. 2025 is about shaking tables and no longer hiding ourselves.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-worth, instead of helping us take action on our inherent abilities and knowledge. You were put here to lead but your conditioning tells you that you need to consume more before you can take action. No matter your purpose, this episode is for you.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who are sick of these systems and sick of laboring at jobs that deplete and exhaust us. Black women deal with societal systems every day that are not designed for us to thrive and I've come to realize that I have to break free from fear, perfectionism and imposter syndrome so that I can reject traditional 9-5 labor and instead do things that tap into my purpose and joy. Sound like you too? Press play!
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I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm's. She wanted to know how I hancled/am handling my IRS debt. Listen in and I'll share the simple steps I took for my 13k of IRS debt as well as the mindset shifts I finally made regarding financial/struggle cycles.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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This episode is specifically for those of us who grew up believing that we were "bad" or too flawed to be loved due to how we were treated as children/the conditioning we received in our childhood years. I've been thinking about my identity a lot as of late and once I learned that our identities were perfect when we were born, it made a profound shift in my life. Instead of grasping blindly at trying to be someone I'm not, I'm more focused on nurturing my "soil."
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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In this episode I'm getting real about my financial struggles, personal growth, and the steps I'm taking to break free from generational cycles of trauma and lack. I talk about my decision to leave corporate life in 2019 for my mental health, the challenges I faced thereafter, and my ongoing battle with debt. I want to STRESS the importance of shedding shame and guilt tied to financial hardships while discussing the conditioning and societal expectations that often plague Black women. My hope is that other 'cycle breakers' will continue to prioritize healing, make intentional choices, and reframe their mindset around money and self-worth as they navigate their unique journeys in 2025 alongside me.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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Sometimes we need to ask for grace, and there is no shame in that. Whether it’s adjusting a financial commitment, backing out of a purchase, or simply admitting that we don’t have the capacity for something right now—giving ourselves permission to be honest is an act of self-care.
In this episode, I share two real-life moments this week where I had to step back and say, “I can’t do this right now.” It wasn’t easy. It felt a little embarrassing. But I let that go because the reality is this: Being honest about what you need is responsible, not shameful.
Come get this reminder that we are all human and that self-preservation is a must.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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I had big plans for this season—new episodes, a bold rebrand, coming back stronger than ever. But the truth? This might not be the season for big things. And that’s okay.
In this episode, I’m sitting with that truth and letting go of the pressure to force momentum. If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or like you should be doing more, let’s breathe through that together. Sometimes, the most radical thing we can do is honor where we are.
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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m opening up about what I learned from taking an unplanned break. After moving and needing time to settle in, I found myself sitting in the discomfort of not producing—of not showing up in the ways I usually do. And even though I knew I needed the rest, there was still that lingering feeling that I should be doing more.
I’ll share how this experience reminded me that we are often more tired than we realize, how the pressure to always be productive is deeply tied to colonization and capitalism, and why it’s so important to give ourselves permission to pause before burnout forces us to stop.
In this episode, I’m sharing five key things to keep in mind when you’re struggling to rest:
You’re probably more tired than you even realize. We’ve been conditioned to run on empty for so long that exhaustion can feel normal—until we finally stop.Resting will make you uncomfortable at first. When we’re used to equating our worth with productivity, stepping back can feel unnatural. That’s colonization talking.The world won’t fall apart because you take a break. We carry so much on our shoulders, but the truth is, things will keep moving even when we pause.You don’t have to feel “ready” to rest. If you’re waiting for a perfect moment to slow down, it’ll never come. Your body, mind, and spirit need care now.You have permission to pause. You don’t have to earn your rest. You don’t have to justify it. Rest is your birthright.If you’ve ever felt uneasy about slowing down—like you’re somehow falling behind or not doing enough—this episode is for you.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m sharing an intimate life update as I prepare to move from California to Arkansas. I’m opening up about the emotional and practical challenges I’ve faced along the way, including letting go of 95% of my possessions due to financial constraints.
I’ll share how deeply rooted scarcity and self-worth struggles have shaped my life and why this move represents more than just a physical transition—it’s a journey of healing, grief, and reclaiming intentionality.
I’ll also introduce my upcoming collaboration with Yolanda, founder of Parenting Decolonized, as we work together to create a sustainable living community for single Black mothers and their children. This episode is about resilience, community, and embracing change, even when it feels hard.
Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.
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