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We’re winding down this season on love, and what better way to bid you farewell than with a love letter? This episode is a walk down memory lane of all the nooks and crannies love encompasses. We’re so grateful for bell hook’s guidance with her book, All About Love, and all of you who took the time to read and reflect with us. We do this work because we love you.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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We don’t shut up about Bi+ community, and this season sure wasn’t going to be the exception. We’re firm believers that Bi+ community is the life-hack we all need to embrace so we can feel confident in our queerness and bring forth the Bi+ revolution we didn’t know we needed. Sit with Bailey and Jace in this episode that exists as a living love letter to Bi+ communities around the world.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Are friendships important? Can you be friends with folks of the genders they’re attracted to? Can bisexuals even HAVE friends? These questions have plagued us since we came out, and now we’re here to share our answers with you. Friendships are crucial for us to foster healthy interdependence and learn how to love selflessly. In this intimate conversation with Bailey and Jace, we cover all the basics on how friendship shows up for Bi+ people.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
Cohen, R. (2024). The Other Significant Others. St. Martin’s Press.hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Rich, A. (1980). Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. Signs, 5(4), 631–660. http://www.jstor.org/stable/3173834https://www.biwomenquarterly.com/against-the-hierarchy-centering-friendship-in-bi-womens-relational-lives/Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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For a lot of polyamorous people, being Bi+ is an important part of their lived experience. In this episode, our hosts expand on how both polyamory and Bi+ness are philosophically intertwined. From unpacking imposed relationship norms, to celebrating the abundance of love that surrounds us, this episode holds beautiful insights on what it means to nurture yourself so you can gift more to others.
Jace is so looking forward to meeting you at the Bi+ World Conference! Haven’t registered yet? Check out all the details here.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Klesse, C. (2017). Theorizing multi-partner relationships and sexualities – Recent work on non-monogamy and polyamory. Sexualities, 21(7), 1109–1124. https://doi.org/10.1177/1363460717701691 Spiedel, L. (2025). Relationships: Dating, monogamy, and consensual non-monogamy. In Bisexuality beyond binaries: Celebrating multiple bisexual identities in a world of erasure. Routledge.Weitzman, G. (2006). Therapy with Clients Who Are Bisexual and Polyamorous. Journal of Bisexuality, 6(1-2), 137–164. https://doi.org/10.1300/j159v06n01_08Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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The question that abounds in Bi+ subreddits and support groups is: If you’re already married, does being Bi+ even matter? This episode, we give this question the attention it deserves. From opening your marriage to Bi+ community involvement, we dive deep into the most common pain points for our married Bi+ listeners.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
Give It to Me Bi: Learning to “B” Proud. An advice column on how to come out to your children.Frisk, M. J. (2021, February). Maintaining my bi identity while married. bi.org. https://bi.org/en/bi-stories/staying-bi-while-married/hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Parker, K., & Minkin, R. (2023, September 14). Views of divorce and open marriages. Pew Research Center. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/09/14/views-of-divorce-and-open-marriages/Spiedel, L. (2025). Relationships: Dating, monogamy, and consensual non-monogamy. In Bisexuality beyond binaries: Celebrating multiple bisexual identities in a world of erasure. Routledge.Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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This season is all about love, and one of the most important lessons we need to learn is how love cannot co-exist with abuse. Over a third of women in the US have been victims of intimate partner violence, and the rates for Bi+ women are even more worrisome. To help us navigate the stats, we’re lucky to welcome Katie W. Bogen as our guest.
In her own words, Katherine Wela Bogen is “first, a storyteller; second, a scholar-activist; and third, a joyful little freak.” Bisexual and Jewish, she grew up in rural New England. A doctoral candidate in clinical psychology studying the intersections of bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink, she has published more than forty peer-reviewed papers and is the host of the political podcast SuperHumanizer. Bogen’s 600k+ social media followers will recognize her as @k.w.bogen from her public-facing scholar activism. Queering Him, the first in the Avra and Kieran trilogy, is Bogen’s debut novel.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Where to Find Katie:
Instagram: @k.w.bogen and @k.w.bogen_booksThreads: @k.w.bogenTikTok: @kwbogenPatreon: @kwbogenPodcasts: 1) Super Humanizer and 2) Think Thirsty: A Podcast for Smart SlutsWhere to Find Katie’s new book:
https://booklife.com/project/queering-him-103299Resources:
Katie’s Responses to Disclosure Slide DeckBermea, A. M., van Eeden-Moorefield, B., & Khaw, L. (2018). A Systematic Review of Research on Intimate Partner Violence Among Bisexual Women. Journal of Bisexuality, 18(4), 399–424. https://doi.org/10.1080/15299716.2018.1482485 Head, S. (2020). Understanding Power Dynamics in Bisexual Intimate Partner Violence: Looking in the Gap. In: Russell, B. (eds) Intimate Partner Violence and the LGBT+ Community. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-44762-5_7 Coston, B. M. (2017). Power and inequality: Intimate partner violence against bisexual and non-monosexual women in the United States. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 36(1–2), NP316–NP340. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260517726415 Corey, J., Duggan, M., & Travers, Á. (2023). Risk and protective factors for intimate partner violence against bisexual victims: A systematic scoping review. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, 24(4), 2130–2142. https://doi.org/10.1177/15248380221084749 Flanders, C. E., Anderson, R. E., Tarasoff, L. A., & Robinson, M. (2019). Bisexual stigma, sexual violence, and sexual health among bisexual and other plurisexual women. The Journal of Sex Research, 56(9), 1115–1127. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2018.1563042 Friedman, M. R., Dodge, B., Schick, V., et al. (2014). From bias to bisexual health disparities: Attitudes toward bisexual men and women in the United States. LGBT Health, 1(4), 309–318. https://doi.org/10.1089/lgbt.2014.0014 Johnson, N. L., & Grove, M. B. (2017). Why us? Toward an understanding of bisexual women’s vulnerability for and negative consequences of sexual violence. Journal of Bisexuality, 17(4), 435–450. https://doi.org/10.1080/15299716.2017.1364201 McCauley, H. L., Bonomi, A. E., Maas, M. K., Bogen, K. W., & O'Malley, T. L. (2018). #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou: Social Media Underscore the Realities of Intimate Partner Violence. Journal of women's health (2002), 27(7), 885–891. https://doi.org/10.1089/jwh.2017.6560 Salim, R. (2022). Sexual violence and revictimization risk among bisexual women: A systematic review. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse. https://doi.org/10.1177/15248380211073837 Turell, S. C., Brown, M., & Herrmann, M. (2018). Disproportionately high: An exploration of intimate partner violence prevalence rates for bisexual people. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 33(1–2), 113–131. https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2017.1347614Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Being a Bi+ monogamous person isn’t the oxymoron it seems to be. In this episode, Bailey shares about what it means to be monogamous while still holding on to her Bi+ identity. From defining monogamy to sharing our favorite romance gestures, this is the episode where we prove the biphobes wrong.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Resources:
Ault, A. (1994). Hegemonic Discourse in an Oppositional Community: Lesbian Feminists and Bisexuality. Critical Sociology, 20(3), 107-122. https://doi.org/10.1177/089692059402000306 (Original work published 1994) Diamond, L. M. (2008). Female bisexuality from adolescence to adulthood: Results from a 10-year longitudinal study. Developmental Psychology, 44(1), 5–14. https://doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.44.1.5 hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Mark, K., Rosenkrantz, D., & Kerner, I. (2014). “Bi”ing Into Monogamy: Attitudes Toward Monogamy in a Sample of Bisexual-Identified Adults. Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 1(3), 263–269. https://doi.org/10.1037/sgd0000051Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Dating as Bi+ person comes with its own set of challenges. In this episode, we dive into what it means to be on the dating scene as a Bi+ person, and the role of self-love. Part philosophical musics, part practical dating tips, this episode is the Bi+ dating perspective you didn’t know you needed.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected].
Resources:
hooks, bell, 1952-2021. (2000). All About Love: New Visions. New York: William Morrow.Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! The world outside our windows gets more terrifying by the hour, and we aren’t here to pretend it’s not happening. Season 5 explores a crucial element we are missing in today’s world: Love.
Grounding ourselves in bell hook’s longing for a more loving society, we begin this season by asking key questions about love. What is love? How do we know love? What does it mean to love in a time of terror?
From now until June, we’ll be covering all kinds of love, relationships, and connections from a Bi+ perspective. From marriage to community interdependence, this season is all about new visions in the name of love.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected].
Resources:
hooks, bell, 1952-2021. (2000). All About Love: New Visions. New York: William Morrow. More on on the Myth of the Alpha Wolf: https://www.sciencearena.org/en/interviews/selfcorrection-science-absolute-truth-david-mech-wolves/Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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We're closing this chapter the only way we know how: by looking backward, forward, and directly at ourselves. This week, we reflect on what this season of bi+ history, legacy, and movement-building has taught us and what it asks of us next. From archives and elders to Discord chats and living rooms, this season reminded us that bisexual history isn’t abstract. It’s personal, fragile, and alive.
This episode is about honoring the bi+ leaders who came before us, including the late bi+ activist and scholar Loraine Hutchins, whose work shaped so much of what we now take for granted. We talk about leadership, burnout, decentralization, institutions, teamwork, and why movements don’t survive on passion alone. From accessibility and disability justice to racism, class, and intergenerational conflict, we name the hard truths that bi+ spaces must grapple with if we want a future at all.
As we wrap the season, we ask: What does it actually take to sustain a movement? Who gets remembered, who gets erased, and who pays the cost? And how do we move forward in a way that’s rooted in care, accountability, and shared power?
Stay bisexual. Stay strong. We’ll see you in the next chapter.
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Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
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Teamwork makes the Bi+ dream work! This week, we’re diving into a fellow Bi+ advocacy project, the Give it To Me Bi podcast. Co-host Steve joins us to reflect on the outcomes of meeting a fellow kindred spirit that’s ready to do some meaningful Bi+ change. From volunteer groups to online community building, we’re discovering all the overlaps that we Bi+ dynamic duos share.
Chad Barnier and Steve Spencer are the masterminds behind the Give It to Me Bi podcast. A podcast with a mission to amplify Bi+ voices, challenge stereotypes, and build community for everyone under the Bi+ umbrella. Their podcast was born out of a desire to create something impactful for the Bi+ community, a space where they could bring their perspectives. With Chad’s background in marketing and Steve’s health research, they’ve created the Bi+ space they dreamed of. From legislative advocacy to passionate storytelling, this dynamic duo is uniquely committed to making sure Bi+ voices are seen AND heard.
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Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
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Resources
Fill out our listener survey here!Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Sydney Bi+ Network: Sydney Bi+ NetworkWhere to Find Chad & Steve:
Give It to Me Bi website: https://giveittomebi.com/about Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/gitmb/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/giveittomebi/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@giveittomebiSound engineer: Richie Smith
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By now we know that Bi+ people are everywhere, but are there Bi+ Cities? This week, we’re getting all the tips and tricks for building a Bi+ talk show that lasts for over a decade! With project leaders, Dr. Marge Charmoli, Dr. Anita Kozan, and Bill Burleson spill the details on what it’s like to run a cable talk show on Bi+ topics. Join us in this Alice-through-the-looking-glass moment as we chat about the importance of joy and teamwork in keeping advocacy sustainable.
Bi Cities! is the world’s longest-running show dedicated to bisexuality. Since 2002, hosts Dr. Marge Charmoli and Dr. Anita Kozan have led weekly conversations with leading experts, activists, and cultural figures in the bi+ community. Each episode shares stories, research, and advocacy that deepen understanding and visibility, making Bi Cities! a vital platform for documenting bi+ life for more than two decades. Recognized as a leader in the Twin Cities by the Bisexual Organizing Project, honored with Producer of the Year by St. Paul Neighborhood Network, and awarded Changemaker of the Year by the St. Paul LGBTQIA Community Organization, BiCities! has welcomed guests from local pioneers to international voices, including Fritz Klein and Robyn Ochs.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
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Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Learn More About BiCities!:
BiCities website: https://www.bicities.org/ BiCities Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BiCitiesShows/ BiCities YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0QEvUVWUvmowkoEbm6tA2A?“How To Make a Bisexual Talk Show Last 20 Years: A Step-by-Step Guide” by Emerson Rice: https://www.biwomenquarterly.com/how-to-make-a-bisexual-talk-show-last-20-years-a-step-by-step-guide/Learn More About Bill:
Bill’s Website: www.williamburleson.comBill’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/billburlSound engineer: Richie Smith
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Finding and celebrating Bi+ media is something that speaks deeply to the hearts of the Bi+ community. Today, we’re digging deep on what it means to explore Bi+ stories through on-screen adaptations with guest Martin Rawlings-Fein. From volunteering with BABPN to the founding of BiCONIC, we reflect on what it means to bring together Bi+ history, art, and activism.
Martin Rawlings-Fein (MAR-tin RAW-lingz-FYN) is the founder of BiCONIC, a film festival celebrating Bi+ stories and filmmakers, and a longtime organizer with the Bay Area Bi+ & Pan Network (BABPN). Through BiCONIC, Martin uplifts underrepresented voices in cinema, fostering visibility and pride within the bisexual+ community. With BABPN, he builds local community, organizes events, and advocates for Bi+ inclusion across the Bay Area. A bisexual trans man, educator, and activist, Martin brings decades of experience in LGBTQ+ leadership to this work. His commitment to justice, storytelling, and connection drives his vision for a more inclusive future.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
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Resources
Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Where to Find Martin Rawlings-Fein
BiCONIC Film Festival: https://biconicsf.com Bay Area Bi+ & Pan Network: https://www.babpn.org Bay Area Bi+ & Pan Network Chat: https://www.facebook.com/groups/babpn BiCONIC Film Festival FB/IG: @biconicsfMartin FB/IG: @feinmentschMartin’s IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3345325/Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Bi+ people are everywhere, and we know networks are crucial to our survival. This week, we’re diving into the history of BiNet USA, and the ripple effects of Bi+ collectives with our guest, Barry Saiff. From reflections on what makes an organizing team run smoothly, to tips for Bi+ fundraising, we’re determined to figure out what makes or breaks Bi+ collectives over the long term.
Barry Saiff has spent more than three decades shaping bi+ history as an activist, organizer, and community leader. He began his bisexual activism in the early 1990s with the Alliance of MultiCultural Bisexuals in Washington, D.C., and went on to co-produce the 1993 National Conference Celebrating Bisexuality, held alongside the historic March on Washington. With four keynotes, 50 workshops, and over 600 participants, it was the largest bi+ conference of its time. Barry later served as president of BiNet USA, where he helped secure the funding that made it possible to hire the organization’s first executive director, a turning point in national bi+ organizing. He has continued to speak at conferences and webinars across the U.S. and internationally, carrying bi+ visibility into new spaces. Beyond activism, Barry has led a long career in technical communications as a writer, manager, and entrepreneur. He founded Saiff Solutions, a technical writing firm in the Philippines, and currently works as a manager at DocuSign. Barry is also a dedicated volunteer and fundraiser, having raised millions for causes such as The Hunger Project. He is married to his Filipino husband and remains active in progressive organizing, including the Chicago Democratic Socialists of America.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
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Resources
Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Saiff, B. (2018, October 20). Outsourcing Technical Writing: A Primer. XML Press. Take a trip down memory lane from the BiNet USA website: https://web.archive.org/web/20070818050105/http://www.binetusa.org/faces.htmlWhere to Find Barry Saiff
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barrysaiff/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/magicbarry Saiff Solutions: https://www.saiffsolutions.comSound engineer: Richie Smith
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Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! This week, we’re exploring what it takes to begin a Bi+ history-keeping project and keep it going with the founder of Bi Community News, Jen Yockney. With stories of bridging tradition with contemporary times, and fabulous fashion tips, Jen brings laughter and joy to the long process of Bi+ history keeping. Together, we navigate multiple facets of the journey, from early volunteer days to finding trustworthy team members that can keep the vision alive. Join us as we uphold Bi+ legacy across the pond.
Jen Yockney was born and raised in Wales before moving to Manchester, England, for university. That was meant to last three years, but more than thirty years on, she still hasn't reached escape velocity. Most notably, Jen notched up a double-first when she received the MBE (Member of the Order of the British Empire) for "Services To The Bisexual Community" from Queen Elizabeth II in 2016. It was the first bi activism honour, and the first time the title Mx appeared in the Honours List, which she says cemented Mx in the English language - as if anyone decides what constitutes "the Queen's English" then surely it was the Queen. The MBE reflected what is now over three decades of bi volunteering, centred on BiPhoria - the UK's longest running bi social and support group - and Bi Community News, the British print magazine which turns thirty this year. There are side projects too: having organised the only UK event to mark September 23 as a bi holiday back in 1999, two years later she started bivisibilityday.com, which to this day lists events marking the date around the world.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
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Resources
Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Bi Community News Magazine: bicommunitynews.co.uk Yockney, Jen. “Getting Bi In A Gay/Straight World: 2019 edition.” 4th ed. Biphoria. https://issuu.com/biphoria/docs/getting_bi_web_2019Where to Find Jen Yockney
Bi Visibilty Day Website: bivisibilityday.com Jen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenyockney Biphoria Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biphoria Bi Community News Magazine: https://www.instagram.com/bicommunitynewsSound engineer: Richie Smith
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Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! This week, we’re digging into the politics of memory, archives, and erasure with Mel Reeve of the Bi History Project. Mel’s work shines a light on the stories that have been fragmented, forgotten, or deliberately erased, making sure bi+ people are recognized in the past as much as in the present.
Together, we explore why bi+ history so often slips through the cracks, how power shapes what gets remembered, and why accurate representation matters, even when historical figures didn’t use the word “bisexual.” We talk about the labor of piecing together stories from fragments, the challenges of pushing back against erasure in LGBTQ+ archives, and the power of recovering the lives of those who came before us.
Mel Reeve is an archivist and award-winning writer. She is the founder of the Bi History project, host of the Bi History podcast, and an editor at Fear of Making Art Press. Mel works in archives with a focus on improving access to digital collections and LGBTQ+ histories. The Bi History Project shines a spotlight on the rich and complex past of the bisexual+ community. Through training events, workshops, lectures, podcasts, and consulting, it brings LGBTQ+ and bi+ history to life and encourages inclusive heritage practices. The project empowers those within and outside the heritage profession to engage with bisexual+ and LGBTQ+ history.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
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Bi History Podcast: https://bihistory.buzzsprout.com/Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. -
Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! This week, we’re exploring what it means to be a Bi+ activist who’s in it for the long haul with the one and only Robyn Ochs as our guest. This Bi+ visibility month we’re focused on sustaining our efforts by honoring their inherent fluidity. We discuss how Bi Women Quarterly began and its transformation throughout the years, the importance of crafting intentional legacy, and what happens when Bi+ voices are centered as a collective. From the lives recorded in Getting Bi to those in RECOGNIZE, we know that history is remembered when we’re together.
Robyn Ochs is an educator, speaker, grassroots activist, and editor of Bi Women Quarterly and two anthologies: the 42-country collection Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World and RECOGNIZE: The Voices of Bisexual Men. Her writings have been published in numerous bi, women’s studies, multicultural, and LGBTQ+ anthologies, and she has taught courses on LGBTQ+ history & politics at Tufts University, MIT, and Northern Vermont University. Among other things, she crafted the definition of bisexuality that is used by many bi+ activists around the world: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge in myself the potential to be attracted — romantically and/or sexually — to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree.” Robyn is deeply committed to intersectional and sustainable activism, to working with others to build coalitions across identities and across social movements, to supporting emerging leaders, and to learning and growing. She is particularly interested in bi+ health, the experiences of bi+ people in the workplace, the global bi+ movement, bi+ elders, and bi and LGBTQIA+ youth. An activist for 50 years (so far), she is in it for the long haul. In 2024, she was named an LGBT History Icon.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
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Resources
Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Getting Bi: The Voices of Bisexuals from Around the World, Second Edition 2009. Edited by Robyn Ochs and Sarah E. Rowley.RECOGNIZE: The Voices of Bisexual Men, 2014. Edited by Robyn Ochs and H. Sharif Williams.Bisexural Resource Center: https://biresource.org/ Bi Women Quarterly: http://www.biwomenboston.org/Where to Find Robyn Ochs
Website: https://www.robynochs.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pixel.ochs/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robynochs Threads: https://www.threads.net/@robynochs Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/robynochs.bsky.socialSound engineer: Richie Smith
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S4E1: Bisexual Killjoys Lost in History
Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! Season 4 opens with a reckoning: what happens when your history keeps getting erased? Bailey and Jace reflect on how far the podcast has come, why bi+ history matters, and what it means to build legacy in a world that constantly pushes us to the margins. From Stonewall to the AIDS crisis, from forgotten activists to speculative bisexual icons, we’re taking a messy, curious, and determined dive into the cracks where our stories have been buried.
In this episode, we talk about how bi+ erasure shows up in history books, archives, and movements that claim to be “for all queers,” but consistently leave us out. We trace six generations of bi+ activism, dig into the blessing and curse of being a decentralized community, and wrestle with what legacy-building actually means. Spoiler: it’s hard, it’s frustrating, and it’s essential.
This season is all about history, erasure, and resilience. Our goal isn’t to create a perfect archive but to give bi+ listeners a sense of place, belonging, and possibility. Allies, you’ll hear concrete ways to show up beyond rainbow reposts. Bi+ folks, this one’s for you: your history is here, your community is here, and you deserve to see yourself in it.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
Were you a Bisexual Killjoy this week (or since we saw you last)? We want to hear from you! Chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]
Buy us a Coffee or leave us a tip here.
Resources
Bi All Accounts: An Anthology of Bi+ Voices, Volume 1. Edited by Bailey Merlin, Bi+ Book Gang. 2025. Order your copy today!Bisexual Resource Center: https://biresource.org/ Foucault, Michel. The History of Sexuality. Pantheon Books, 1978.Sedgwick, Eve. Epistemology of the Closet. University of California Press, 1990.Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! Here we are at the end of another season, and boy, are our arms tired. We ran the gamut from mental health, from race to economics, spirituality, class, parenthood, and neurodiversity. And by talking about these big topics, we were able to learn more about ourselves and each other. In this episode, we recap the season, meditate on community, and make predictions on Pride.
We’re off for the summer but are already planning for season 4. Until we meet again, keep being a Bisexual Killjoy. Stay bisexual, and stay strong.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
Were you a Bisexual Killjoy this week? We want to hear from you! Send us a message, chat with us on our Discord server, or email us at [email protected]
Buy us a Coffee or leave us a tip here.
Resources
Bisexual Killjoy Substack: https://www.bisexualkilljoy.com/ Bisexual Killjoy Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/join/BisexualKilljoy -
Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! What does it mean to survive as a bi+ person in a world structured by class? In one of our most expansive and layered conversations to date, Bailey and Jace are joined by educator, activist, and musician Alicia Ortiz to unpack the taboo of talking about class, especially in queer spaces. Together, we explore how class functions as a sticky object in our lives, how bi+ people uniquely navigate systems of poverty and power, and why the myth of meritocracy doesn’t hold up under scrutiny.
From identity politics and the legacy of the Combahee River Collective to Olúfẹ́mi Táíwò’s Elite Capture, we examine how movements are co-opted, how queerness is commodified, and how bi+ people are often excluded from both straight and gay narratives of respectability. We also dig into how upward mobility—whether through the military, education, or sex work—is often pathologized, and why coalition-building is essential for a liberated future.
Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by subscribing to our Substack, joining our Patreon, and following us on Instagram.
Were you a Bisexual Killjoy this week? We want to hear from you! Send us a message, chat with us on our Discord server, or email us at [email protected]
Buy us a Coffee or leave us a tip here.
Resources
Dalke, Anne. “Classism and the Queer Community.” Serendip Studio, 2013. https://serendipstudio.org/exchange/critical-feminist-studies-2013/ep/web-event-2-classism-and-queer-community Gaskins, TY. “Black Dandyism Explained—From Its 18th-Century Roots to Modern-Day Expressions.” Vogue. 8 May 2025. https://www.vogue.com/article/what-is-black-dandyism Stop Soldier Suicide. “Veteran Suicide Stats.” https://stopsoldiersuicide.org/vet-stats Táíwò, Olúfẹ́mi O. Elite Capture: How the Powerful Took Over Identity Politics (And Everything Else). Chicago: Haymarket Books. 2022.Where to find Alicia Ortiz
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alicia.vida.ortiz Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicia_vida_ortiz/ Classes: https://impactboston.org/in-person-classes/ - Visa fler
