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Have you ever completely fallen apart over something small… only to realize later it wasn’t really about that thing at all?Sometimes emotional overwhelm isn’t caused by one moment. Sometimes it’s weeks of stress, fear, shame, exhaustion, criticism, bad luck, and pressure piling up until one final thing breaks the dam.
In this minisode from The BPD Bunch, a side conversation turns into an honest discussion about emotional overwhelm, crying in public, shame, recovery, and what happens when emotions finally catch up with you.
The cast shares stories about breaking down at work, crying in front of authority figures, feeling embarrassed by emotional reactions, surviving impossible weeks, and learning that sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop fighting your emotions and let yourself feel them.
What starts as a tangent becomes one of the most honest conversations from the recording session.
We talk about:
* BPD and emotional overwhelm
* Shame after emotional reactions
* Crying in public
* Emotional sensitivity
* Fear of criticism
* Recovery from BPD
* Emotional regulation
* BPD and workplace stressIf you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your emotions, judged yourself for having a hard day, or wondered why one small thing suddenly pushed you over the edge, you’re not alone.
For the next few weeks, we’re taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don’t worry though, we’ll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Have you ever changed your entire personality just to keep someone from leaving?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Katja, and Solène welcome new cast member Dan for an honest conversation about BPD, foster care, relationships, parenting, treatment, and what recovery actually looks like when life is still complicated.
Dan talks about crashing after a breakup, begging and pleading, losing himself in romantic relationships, being afraid of the BPD label, and learning through two years of treatment how to build a life that feels calmer without losing the fun parts of himself.
We discuss:
* BPD and relationships
* Fear of abandonment
* Losing yourself in love
* BPD recovery
* Parenting with BPD
* Therapy for BPD
* Identity disturbance
* Dating after treatment
* Radical acceptance
* Men with BPD
If you’ve ever felt like being loved meant becoming whatever someone else needed, this episode is for you.👇 Find Dan:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18uWfKAUMv/?mibextid=wwXIfrInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/danstone8484UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! (Usually, that is! Xannie was sick last week so its one week behind🫠)_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Have you ever felt rejected and suddenly found yourself angry before you could even explain why?
In this mini-sode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja respond to a viewer question about regulating anger after rejection. The conversation gets into what can happen when rejection hits an old wound: shame turns into anger, hurt turns into passive aggression, and the body reacts before the mind catches up.
They talk about anger as a shield, the difference between real anger and hidden shame, walking away before things escalate, and what it looks like to catch the reaction before it becomes a full blowup.
Topics include:
* BPD and rejection
* BPD anger
* Fear of rejection
* Shame and BPD
* Passive aggression*
Emotional regulation
* Rejection sensitivity
* BPD relationship reactions
If you’ve ever lashed out when what you really felt was hurt, this episode is for you.
For the next few weeks, we’re taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don’t worry though, we’ll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Have you ever confused emotional intensity with intimacy?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Justin, Andre, Carys, and Mo continue their conversation about BPD and intimacy, this time focusing on what actually helped them build healthier relationships in recovery.
They talk about fear, jealousy, abandonment panic, choosing chaotic people because stability felt boring, learning not to punish people before having hard conversations, and realizing that love does not have to feel like emotional survival.
This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
Topics include:
* BPD and intimacy
* Fear of abandonment
* Trust issues in relationships
* Jealousy and BPD
* Push pull relationships
* Emotional permanence
* BPD recovery
* Healthy relationships with BPD
If you’ve ever wanted closeness while also panicking the second it started to feel real, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. ⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Have you ever felt like losing one person would destroy your entire life… even while the relationship itself was destroying you?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, André, Mo, and Justin talk openly about the intense, chaotic, and often painful relationship patterns that can happen with Borderline Personality Disorder. From abandonment panic and toxic relationship cycles to oversharing, emotional testing, and confusing drama for intimacy, the cast explores what closeness looked like when their BPD symptoms were at their worst.
This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
In this episode:
* BPD and intimacy
* Fear of abandonment
* Toxic relationship dynamics
* Push-pull relationships
* Emotional dependency
* Oversharing and testing people
* BPD and friendships
* Relationship obsession
* Emotional reactivity in relationships
If you’ve ever confused emotional chaos with love, stayed in relationships that were hurting you, or felt terrified of someone pulling away, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Can someone with BPD feel other people’s emotions so intensely that it actually starts getting in the way of empathy?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja continue their conversation about BPD and empathy by exploring the difference between emotionally feeling with someone and actually understanding what they need. They share their top tips, lessons and skills they use to navigate empathy more effectively.
In case you're new here, this season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
In this episode:
* BPD and empathy
* Cognitive vs affective empathy
* Emotional mirroring
* Rejection sensitivity
* Social paranoia
* Problem solving vs listening
* Emotion regulation and empathy
* “Feeling everything” with BPD
* The empathy trap
* Learning to ask what people need
If you’ve ever absorbed other people’s emotions, assumed you knew what someone needed, taken neutrality personally, or felt emotionally overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Can someone with BPD care about other people and still behave in profoundly unempathetic ways?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja explore the uncomfortable reality that Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes make people so emotionally reactive, hypervigilant, and consumed by fear that they stop accurately understanding or trusting other people’s emotions, intentions, and experiences.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD).
Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
In this episode:
* BPD and empathy
* Social paranoia in BPD
* Misreading neutrality as rejection
* Reassurance seeking
* Fear of abandonment
* Mind-reading and projection
* Why emotional overwhelm can reduce empathy
If you’ve ever convinced yourself someone secretly hated you, struggled to trust reassurance, replayed social interactions for hours, or felt overwhelmed by other people’s emotions, this episode is for you.
In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them check them out:
Part 1
Part 2
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🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨
🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________
About Us:
The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Do you struggle to know what you want, stick with a path, or trust your own choices?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys and Solène continue their discussion of BPD and self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), exploring how goals, values, identity, relationships, and recovery can all affect the way we build a life.
Under the AMPD, difficulties with self-direction are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside identity. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
This episode is for anyone with BPD who has ever wondered why it can feel so hard to know who you are, what you want, or where you’re going.
We talk about:
* BPD and self-direction
* changing goals, values, and interests
* favorite people and life decisions
* identity, emptiness, and sense of self
* perfectionism, recovery, and self-acceptance
* learning how to follow through without getting trapped
* finding direction while still allowing yourself to change
This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.
Follow Xannie and Solene's music journey @Nxi-Sol
In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing.
Part 1
Part 2
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🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨
🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________
About Us:
The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️
Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What does BPD actually feel like from the inside?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, meet our new cast member, Justin, a musician navigating life with borderline personality disorder.
In this episode, we talk about:
• What it was like getting diagnosed with BPD, and why it felt both relieving and complicated
• The reality that understanding yourself does not automatically make things easier
• What BPD felt like for him internally, including how he describes “living off his amygdala”
• His experience with therapy, and why finding the right therapist matters
• The role of creativity and music, including why it is not always healing
• How music can bring you back into past emotional states
• Navigating rejection, identity, and self-worth in the music industry
• Learning boundaries, self-compassion, and the power of saying no
If you’ve ever felt like finally having an answer didn’t change how hard things still feel, this conversation will probably resonate.👇 Justin's website + socials below.Website: https://www.justinyates.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinyatesmusicYT: @JustinYates UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday (or Monday) of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What happens when BPD affects your goals, career choices, and sense of direction in life?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys, and Solène talk about self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders.
Under the AMPD, difficulties with self-direction are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside identity. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
We explore:
• why people with BPD may struggle to stick with one job or career
• constantly changing direction and starting over
• tying your identity to work and what happens when that falls apart
• being influenced by other people’s goals or expectations
• the belief that if it’s “right,” it should feel easy
• how self-direction connects to identity and recovery
If you’ve ever asked yourself “what am I doing with my life?” and felt like the answer keeps changing, this episode is for you.
This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders.
In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:
Part 1
Part 2
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🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨
🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________
About Us:
The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️
Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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How do you actually build a sense of self with BPD?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja continue the conversation on identity, this time focusing on what’s helped us move toward a more stable sense of self. Still through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), we’re looking at identity as something you can actively shape over time.
Under the AMPD, difficulties with identity are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside self-direction. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
If you’ve ever felt empty, disconnected, or like you’re constantly reinventing yourself… this is the part where we talk about what starts to change that.
We talk about:
• how chronic emptiness and dissociation connect to identity
• relying on relationships or external validation to define who you are
• the difference between emptiness and boredom (and why that matters)
• finding purpose, values, and small anchors that make you feel more “real”
• learning who you are without labeling yourself as “broken”
• building identity through creativity, feedback, and lived experience
• integrating different parts of yourself instead of rejecting them
• why identity takes time and doesn’t form all at once
This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.
In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them, check them out:
Part 1
Part 2
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🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨
🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________
About Us:
The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What does identity instability’s actually feel like in BPD?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja, start looking at identity through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD). It’s a way of understanding BPD that focuses more on patterns and functioning, not just labels. Under the AMPD, difficulties with identity are considered part of impairments in self functioning, alongside self-direction. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we’ll be discussing in more detail later this season.
If you’ve ever had that “who even am I?” moment… yeah. This is that episode.
We talk about:
• what it’s like to feel like you don’t have a solid sense of self
• why you might feel like you don’t know who you are
• masking and becoming whoever you need to be to avoid rejection
• losing yourself in relationships, jobs, or even your diagnosis
• when BPD starts to feel like your whole identity
• how identity struggles show up in everyday life
This is part of our Season 7 series where we’re breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:
Part 1
Part 2
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🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨
🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________
About Us:
The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What does BPD actually look like in real life, and what does recovery really take?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Megan shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, including identity struggles, painful relationships, self-deception, emotional chaos, and the communication skills that helped her heal. This is an honest conversation about BPD recovery, relationships, truth, and learning how to feel seen and heard.
In this episode, we talk about:
• What BPD actually felt like in everyday life
• Why relationships can feel impossible with BPD
• The role of self-deception in BPD
• What it means to “stop lying to yourself”
• A communication skill that helped improve relationships
• Why healing from BPD takes longer than people expect
• How pain can become something you use, not just survive
👇 Megan's podcast + socials below.
Podcast: https://istheremoreworld.com/
TikTok: @meganatullyInstagram: @meganatully
UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month!
🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Hey…
This isn’t the video we planned for today.
This past week, I lost my dog. And I needed a little more time than I expected to get back on my feet.
I thought about just skipping this upload entirely, but there was something in this experience that felt important to share. Especially when it comes to what recovery from BPD actually looks like in real life.
There’s this idea that recovery means things won’t hurt as much anymore. And I’ve found that it’s not exactly that simple.
A lot of emotional contexts can and do change drastically in recovery, and it's possible to get to a point that feels emotionally stable most of the time.
But one of the universal human truths is that if you care a lot about someone or some creature, losing them will be painful. No amount of recovery will erase the grief process. And there's nothing abnormal or disordered about you if you feel the pain of loss.
So this video is a bit different from the usual, it’s just where I’m at right now and something I didn’t think we talk about enough.
Thank you for being here, seriously. I’ll be back to our regular episodes next week.
If you do want the more in-depth version of what’s been going on, I shared that over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/i-had-to-put-my-155040984(this one is available to free members as well!)
❤️ Xannie
_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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So… what even counts as “BPD” anymore?
Last week, we explored how the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD) moves away from strict categories. This week, we’re taking it further:
What does BPD actually look like in this model, and do you even need the label at all?
We break down the core of BPD through self and interpersonal functioning, how traits shape the “borderline” pattern, and why diagnoses like BPD and NPD might not be as separate as people think.
If you’ve ever felt like the DSM didn’t fully capture your experience, this might hit differently.
This is Part 2 of a 2-part series.
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Featuring:
Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.
Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).
Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.
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About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What if Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t just a checklist of symptoms?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, we explore the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), a framework that shifts how we understand BPD from a set of categories to patterns of functioning, severity, and relationships.Joined by leading clinicians in the field, we break down what’s changing, why it matters, and how this model could reshape diagnosis, treatment, and stigma.This is Part 1 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe for Part 2 where we break down what BPD actually looks like under this model.🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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What happens when grief, trauma, and misdiagnosis collide, and it turns out to be BPD?
Shaharin shares her story of being sexually assaulted, losing her marriage, struggling with rejection sensitivity, and finally receiving a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) diagnosis after years of confusion.
We talk about:
• Being misdiagnosed with grief instead of BPD
• Emotional abuse after a mental health diagnosis
• Rejection sensitivity and losing long-term friendships
• Dating again after divorce with BPD
• DBT therapy and real recovery
• Turning intense emotions into creativity and purpose
If you’ve ever felt “too much,” misunderstood, or ashamed of how deeply you feel, this episode is for you.
BPD recovery is possible. And this conversation proves it.
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The Girl Baba Left Behind: https://a.co/d/h953q4LUPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie and Carys chat with Katja about publishing her first book “Sorry, My Mental Illness Isn’t Sexy Enough for You”, going straight for the parts of BPD people never say out loud: shame, “unsexy” symptoms, misdiagnosis, self-sabotage, and why BPD can look totally different from person to person (quiet vs loud presentations, comorbidities, and stigma).
If you’ve ever felt like “I don’t look like the BPD stereotype”… this one might feel like a hug.
Here's a quote from co-cauthor Kay on why she wrote the book:
"Sorry my mental illness isn’t sexy enough for you, started out as the title of a blog I wanted to write after witnessing first-hand the difficulties of having mental illness, lack of support and the prevalence of poor treatment. Naturally, I wanted to make a difference but being unwell, combined with my human nature of not being a starter finisher, it lived as an idea in my head for a while. Then came along came Katja with this amazing idea of launching our own mental health project using the name, which is the website we know and love today. If you had told me our little project would be as successful as it has been and that we would be publishing our first book because of it, I would have laughed, but here we are. I’m so incredibly lucky to have been given this opportunity to achieve my wildest dream, and to achieve it with my best friend. Asking why I wrote the book is multifaceted, since the age of 14 I have been involved in Mental Health Activism with the purpose of reducing suffering in people who experience mental health difficulties. I raised awareness in a variety of projects and focused on bringing together people with lived experience and services to work together to improve mental health services. I wanted the book to share my story so that others do not feel alone, and so that I could provide understanding and hope, and to talk about ways people can have agency over their own recovery. Mental illness can sometimes be seen as a moral failing, especially the ‘unsexy ones’ that we spend our days challenging. I absolutely feel called to break down this dangerous concept that divides people and communities. I didn't write the book to be cathartic, but I think the process has provided relief in some ways – taking painful and difficult experiences and turning them into something that can help others."
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What actually happens when a relationship involving Borderline Personality Disorder ends...
from the exes’ perspective?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie sits down with Katja, Raf, and their former partners, John and Danni - who are still in each other’s lives - to talk honestly about breakups, impulsivity, communication breakdowns, fear of abandonment, and what recovery actually looks like after the relationship ends.
This conversation explores:
– What ex-partners noticed (and didn’t notice) about BPD symptoms
– When “normal” behavior crosses into something harmful
– Why some breakups stay amicable, and others don’t
– The difference between blame and responsibility
– How insight, accountability, and communication change outcomes
If you live with BPD, or have loved someone who does, this episode offers nuance, compassion, and reality, not stereotypes.
UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month!
🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________EPISODE TERMS:Schizotypal Personality Disorder - is a mental health condition characterized by odd or eccentric behavior, unusual beliefs or thoughts, and difficulty forming close relationships. People with this disorder may have magical thinking, such as believing they have special powers or can predict the future, and they often feel uncomfortable in social situations. Their way of thinking and behaving can be different from what is considered typical, which can make it hard for them to connect with others.________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. -
The holidays can hit different when you’re living with Borderline Personality Disorder.In this impromptu holiday episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette and Jack talk honestly about the parts of the season that are rarely acknowledged; financial stress, loneliness, family dynamics, oversharing, feeling “off” at gatherings, and the quiet grief of holidays not looking the way you wish they did.We also share what’s actually helped us get through it: neutral responses when people ask how you’re doing, finding small moments of joy, community rituals, opposite action, and learning how to stay present without forcing “holiday cheer.”If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so hard for me when everyone else seems fine?” this conversation is for you.💛 Want more support?On our Patreon, you’ll find extended cuts, deleted scenes, exclusive episodes, and practical skills videos designed to help you navigate BPD in real life—not just survive it.👉 Join us on Patreon for deeper conversations and tools that help. https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch Leave your questions in the comments—we love answering them in future videos.________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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