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This week on Come Curious, Reed sits down with kink theorist, power exchange mentor and educator Tripp Terrier to unpack one of the most misunderstood roles in BDSM: the dominant.
Together they explore why true dominance isn't about control, arrogance or entitlement but instead, it's about presence, responsibility and service.
Tripp shares his unique perspective on power exchange, explaining how authority is earned through knowledge, patience and skill rather than demanded through status or ego. They discuss the importance of integrating every part of yourself including the feminine and more uncomfortable aspects of your personality, and why self-awareness is one of the most powerful tools a dominant can develop.
Inside the episode:
- Why dominance is a giving role, not a taking one- The difference between confidence and entitlement- How power exchange can become deeply transformative- Why consent is more complex than a simple "yes" or "no"- The role of humility in healthy masculinity and leadership- Supporting partners through subdrop and emotional vulnerability
Tripp also shares his essential reading list for anyone curious about kink, including The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton, alongside The Heart of Dominance and The Dominance Playbook by Anton Fulmen.
Whether you're dominant, submissive, curious or simply interested in healthier models of masculinity, this conversation offers a fascinating look into power, connection and personal responsibility.
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Ever feel like everyone else is having mind-blowing Os while you're still trying to figure out what all the fuss is about?
In this solo episode, Reed dives into one of the most common questions in seggs: why can orgasms feel so difficult to reach?
From cl"toral Os and G-spots to nipple Os, footgasms and everything in between, Reed shares her own experiences navigating pleasure, performance pressure and learning what actually works for her body.
She explores the biggest O blockers — including stress, overthinking, hormones, shame, medication and unrealistic expectations — and explains why chasing an O is often the fastest way to stop one from happening.
Plus, she tackles:
š¦ Why faking Os helps nobody
š§ The mind-body disconnect that kills pleasure
š„ How solo play can transform partnered seggs
āØ What our Curious Fckers revealed about their O habits
ā” The difference between pleasure and performance
Whether you O every time, rarely get there, or are still figuring out what works for your body, this episode is a reminder that pleasure isn't one-size-fits-all.
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Is being single actually lonely… or are we just taught to fear it?
In this deeply honest solo episode, Reed opens up about the messy, liberating, emotional rollercoaster of single life — from dodgy dates and incredible seggs to heartbreak, healing, k'nk exploration and learning how to stop losing yourself in relationships.
Expect candid chats about:
š Codependency and self-worth
š Casual seggs, k'nk, and ethical dating
š§ Nervous systems, attachment and emotional safety
āØ Learning your boundaries through dating
AND it's a Watershed episode meaning our Patreon's get the secret second half where Reed goes in deep on fantastic sx stories… and the disappointing dates.
Raw, reflective, horny and healing all at once — this is Reed fully unfiltered.
Come get curious š«
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M4sturbation May is officially here, and Reed is diving deep into the art of pl3asuring yourself.
From shame, fantasy and corn habits to discovering what actually makes your body feel good, this solo episode is an honest, hilarious and deeply relatable guide to self-pleasure.
She explores why “bigger” isn’t always better, how knowing your size can transform seggs, and why orgasms should never feel like a performance.
Plus, this episode is sponsored by The Bad Peach - your one-stop shop for toys, lingerie, b0ndage and all things solo pl3asure. Use code ComeCurious20 for 20% off your order and start building the pleasure toolkit you actually deserve.
Inside the episode:
– How shame impacts m4sturbation and 0rgasms
– Why corn taught Reed the wrong techniques
– Learning your real size preferences (and unlearning corn myths)
– Toys, wands, d*ldos, suction toys & discovering what works for your body
– The importance of fantasy, mood-setting and self-exploration
– Why mutual m4sturbation can completely change partnered seggs
Come get curious š¦
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Is being single really freer?
Is marriage actually boring?
And does your sex life have to change once you settle down?
This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed unpack the assumptions we make about relationships, sex, and happiness — and why neither married nor single life is as simple as people think.
From pregnancy libido changes and emotional intimacy to loneliness, rejection, freedom and validation, the girls get brutally honest about what their current realities actually look like.
They also dive into your listener confessions about:
– Dead bedrooms and relationship ruts
– Ethical non-monogamy and opening things up
– Why communication changes everything
– How chronic pain, stress, kids and life impact intimacy
– The pressure society places on both single and married people
Plus, the episode is sponsored by Feeld celebrating their’s new Reflections feature — a tool designed to help you better understand your desires, boundaries, relationship style and sexual authenticity.
Check it out here: https://feeld.co/reflections
And follow Feeld on IG @feeldco
Because whether you’re single, partnered, married, exploring, confused, horny, lonely or somewhere in-between… there’s no “right” way to build a fulfilling sex life.
Come get curious š«
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What does it actually mean to be a “better man” today?
This week on Come Curious, Florence is joined by Jerry Xzeng for a powerful conversation about masculinity, identity, and the pressures men are facing right now.From the rise of red-pill culture to the quiet crisis of male loneliness and mental health, they unpack why so many men feel lost and what needs to change.
Jerry shares his personal journey growing up in a traditional household, how he’s redefined masculinity on his own terms, and why emotional accountability is at the heart of being a better partner, friend, and human.
They also explore:
– The impact of toxic online spaces on young men
– Cultural expectations and masculinity across different backgrounds
– Why awareness is the first step to change
– Rethinking responsibility in relationships (including Jerry’s decision to get a vasectomy)
This episode is honest, nuanced, and an essential listen for anyone thinking about what masculinity could - and should - look like today.
Come get curious š«
online and check out his series on IG about Being a Better Man IG: @jerryxzeng
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Tickling… but make it kinky?
This week on Come Curious, Reed gets personal as she opens up about her own tickle fetish — what it is, how it feels, and why it’s so often misunderstood.
From the difference between kinks and fetishes to the shame that can come with desires we don’t always choose, this episode is all about destigmatising pleasure and owning what turns you on.
Reed dives into:
– What a tickle fetish actually is
– Why it can feel so intense (and confusing)
– The language of the community (lur, lee, switch š)
– How to find others safely
– Why consent and communication are EVERYTHING
Plus, how she’s building community through her own event Ticklethusiasm.
Check it out on IG ā @ticklethusiasmā and get in touch if you're interested in coming along on 13th June.
If you’ve ever felt unsure, curious, or a little ashamed of what turns you on - this one’s for you.
Come get curious š«
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What does it actually mean to be a man in the kink scene?
This week on Come Curious, Reed is joined by Kryron Kruger - latex-loving, boundary-pushing content creator who’s redefining what it means to be a man in sex work. Together they unpack male etiquette in BDSM from communication and consent to performance pressure and what it really takes to show up respectfully in kink spaces.
Kyron shares how he found himself in the industry through fetish communities, why being a male sex worker is far more than just sex, and how emotional intelligence, trust, and reputation are everything.
Expect to hear ALL the juice on:
– Why men need to stop expecting people to read their minds
– The truth about performance anxiety (and why erections ≠ good sex)
– How to respectfully approach dominatrixes (and why your DMs aren’t it)
– The importance of serving your partner — even as a dom
– Breaking down shame around men, desire, and vulnerability
This episode is honest, eye-opening, and essential listening for anyone navigating kink, dating, or sex with more awareness.Follow Kyron on IG @the_kyron_kruger and see his latex loving side @king_kruger_
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This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive headfirst into your dirtiest, most unhinged, and secretly-held confessions — and let’s just say… we were not prepared.
From:
Golden showers & cum curiosities
CNC fantasies & breeding kinks
Sock fetishes & used shoe obsessions
Watching yourself back for pleasure
Fantasies that feel better than reality
And the question… are we all just a little bit queer?
We also get real about shame, desire, and where they collide and why your fantasies don’t define you (but they do deserve exploring).
Plus, Florence opens up about pregnancy, body changes, and feeling finally at home in her body - while Reed shares a very honest “get f*cked” about performative sex and Viagra culture.
This episode is chaotic, validating, shocking, and weirdly comforting because no matter how “dirty” your secret feels… you are definitely not alone.
Come get curious š«
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Swiping, ghosting, endless chatting… and still no actual dates?
This week on Come Curious, Florence is joined by Marsha Goei, co-founder of dating app Breeze, where love is worth the leap! We're talking no chat, just REAL dates.
Marsha tells us about why modern dating feels so exhausting — and how to actually get OFF the apps and back into real-life connection.
Breeze flips the script on traditional dating:
No endless messaging
Real dates organised for you
Safe, public locations
No time-wasting — just meet
We dive into why dating apps are leaving so many of us burnt out, how over-chatting can actually sabotage connection, and what happens when you skip straight to meeting in person.
Marsha also shares her best tips for dating success:
– How to build a profile that actually reflects you
– Why authenticity matters more than perfection
– The mindset shift that makes dating feel fun again
– How to stop treating dates like interviews
If you’re tired of swiping and ready for something real, this episode might just change the way you date.
Come get curious š«
Breeze is available on all app stores
You can follow them on IG @breeze.social
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This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed are coming to you from opposite sides of the world — one in Thailand, one in California — juggling time zones, baby prep, and a whole lot of life.
It’s a proper catch-up episode filled with everything from near-medical emergencies to unexpected romance, body changes, and facing fears head-on.
Reed shares the scary reality of getting seriously ill while travelling and how it forced her to confront some long-standing health anxieties. What started as a terrifying experience turned into something unexpectedly empowering — and a reminder to always listen to your body.
Meanwhile, Florence opens up about being in the final stretch of pregnancy — the highs, the discomforts, and the surprising sense of connection and “goddess energy” that comes with growing a human. She also shares how intimacy and relationships shift during this time, and what it really looks like behind the scenes.
Of course, it wouldn’t be Come Curious without a bit of chaos — from rekindled connections and new dating stories abroad to niche kinks popping up in unexpected places.
This episode is a mix of funny, vulnerable, and deeply human moments — the kind that remind you life (and sex, and love) rarely goes to plan.
This is a Watershed episode:
The extra juicy, more personal and explicit stories are waiting for you over on Patreon — where we share the full unfiltered version.
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This week on Come Curious, Reed is joined by neurodivergent coach, breathwork practitioner and somatic therapist Hannah for a powerful, eye-opening conversation about how ADHD, autism and PMDD shape the way we experience friendship, sex, and relationships.
We dive into what neurodivergence actually feels like - from dopamine-seeking, impulsivity and sensory overwhelm, to the quiet burnout that comes from masking and constantly apologising for who you are.
Hannah shares how somatic practices and breathwork can help regulate the nervous system, release trauma, and reconnect you to your body - not just in everyday life, but in intimacy too.
We also explore:
– Why “body doubling” can be a total game-changer
– How neurodivergence impacts communication, conflict, and processing emotions
– The reality of delayed reactions and emotional overwhelm
– Why kink spaces can feel safer and more structured for neurodivergent people
– The difference between equality vs equity in relationships
This episode is honest, validating, and full of practical tools — whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or love someone who is.
Come get curious š« and follow Hannah on IG @hannahfinds_ and over on @exhalethenoise
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This week on Come Curious, we asked you to send us your most shameless confessions… and you absolutely delivered.
From secret kinks and unexpected encounters to moments that made us gasp, laugh, and occasionally say “oh my god you did WHAT?”, Florence and Reed dive into the wild, weird and wonderfully honest stories from the Come Curious community.
We hear about secret fetishes, train journeys that got a little too exciting, complicated situationships, and the kinds of confessions people rarely say out loud. Along the way, Florence and Reed share their thoughts, advice, and a few of their own experiences too.
You’ll also hear:• Reed’s latest update with the now-infamous German tickle fetish guy• Florence opening up about the surprising body changes she’s experienced during pregnancy• Listener questions about introducing BDSM to a long-term partner• The kinks and curiosities people are finally brave enough to admit
This is a watershed episode, which means you’ll get the juicy confessions from our community here… but the really naughty stories from Florence and Reed themselves are saved for our Patreon subscribers.
If you want the full unfiltered episode — including the hosts’ own shameless confessions — you can unlock the second half on Patreon at our $15 tier.
Come get curious… and maybe a little bit scandalised.
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This week on Come Curious, Florence is joined by fertility writer, speaker and advocate Seetal Savla for a deeply honest conversation about the side of fertility journeys we rarely hear about.
At 34 weeks pregnant herself, Florence sits down with Seetal to talk through the reality of trying to conceive — from early loss and years of IVF, to the emotional rollercoaster of hope, grief, and the pressure to keep going when your body and heart are exhausted.
Seetal shares her experience of five rounds of IVF, navigating clinics that sometimes made her feel more like a “walking credit card” than a patient, and the stigma surrounding fertility struggles, particularly within South Asian communities where conversations about loss and infertility are often hidden behind silence.
The conversation also moves into pregnancy, birth and postpartum life, including the difficult physical and emotional realities after a C-section, how reproductive trauma can resurface after birth, and why planning support in the early weeks of motherhood can make all the difference.
In a surprising twist after years of IVF, Seetal also shares how she conceived naturally after deciding to step away from treatment. A reminder that fertility journeys rarely follow a predictable path.
This episode is compassionate, vulnerable and full of wisdom for anyone navigating fertility, pregnancy, loss, or supporting someone who is.
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Instagram: @seetalsavla
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Is your sex drive "too high"? "Too low"? Has it disappeared completely? Or is it all over the place?
This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed tackle one of the most asked (and most anxiety-inducing) questions in sex: is my libido normal?
From pregnancy libido shifts and ADHD hyperfocus highs, to widow’s fire, medication side effects, birth control changes, and relationship mismatches — we unpack what actually influences desire… and why “normal” might be the wrong question altogether.
We also answer your listener questions about:
– Mismatched libidos in relationships
– Losing your sex drive on the pill or antidepressants
– ADHD peaks and troughs
– Low libido from stress and parenthood
– High libido when you’re trying to stay single
– Thyroid issues and chronic pain
Plus we recommend Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski — and dive into “brakes and accelerators” when it comes to desire.
Tune in and share your thoughts via our DMs
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What actually happens at a queer kinky rave? šš„
This week, Reed is joined by Lily Eff - co-founder of Quench, one of London's hottest queer kinky raves and play party communities.
Tune in for wild sex party stories (including a 21-person orgy…) and how Lily is building inclusive, intentional kink spaces that feel like HOME. They dive deep into the emotional reality of exploring fantasies IRL, boundaries, consent, and what to do when things don’t go to plan.
Plus, Lily shares her BEST advice for anyone curious about going to a kinky or queer party for the first time. From nerves to outfits to aftercare, we’ve got you covered.
Whether you’re kinky, curious, or just nosy (we see you), this episode is honest, funny, vulnerable, and seriously eye-opening.
š Tell us in the comments:
Would you ever go to a sex party?
What would you want to know first?
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This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed are joined by Matty Hennessy - sex toy designer, transmasc educator, and the brilliant mind behind Eversense Toys and the chaotic internet phenomenon Dildo Nightmares.
We dive into Matty’s journey creating toys for bodies that are often overlooked by mainstream sex tech including his upcoming designs specifically supporting transmasc pleasure, bottom growth, and accessibility needs. From the story behind his first prototype to the emotional reality of relearning pleasure in a changing body, this conversation is honest, educational, and deeply affirming.
Of course, we also explore the absolute madness of the sex toy industry, including some of the most cursed designs ever created (yes… including a demon-looking toy Reed received š).
Matty answers your listener questions too: how to introduce toys after bad experiences, navigating intimacy with a transitioning partner, and the best ways to stimulate nipples safely and effectively.
This episode is sponsored by Erika Lust - pioneers of ethical, cinematic adult films. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off their platform - erikalust.com
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This week on Come Curious, Florence goes over some fun pregnancy sex facts, what breeding kinks are all about and gets into the updates you've been missing when it comes to being 30 weeks pregnant! AND you sent in some GREAT pregnancy sex related stories and questions!
PLUS Florence shares the juicy deets about her upcoming erotic film for Erika Lust and rates the pregnancy porn that you can watch over on the Lust website. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here
āØ We LOVE hearing your thoughts about what you want us to discuss so send us your burning questions, spill the beans and we’ll share all on the podcast!
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This week on Come Curious XXXtra Kinky Episode, Florence and Reed unpack whether “red flags” are actually warnings… or just wildly subjective vibes that depend on who’s holding the binoculars.
They get honest about bras, pleasure doms, consent in long-term relationships, “high value men”, performative feminism, and whether bad sex actually exists… or if it’s all just incompatibility.
And just when things get extra juicy, they cross the dirty watershed and head into the explicit Patreon-only half (dating chaos, DDLG discomfort, and why stability can feel suspicious). This is for our subscribers only so if you want to get the REAL goss, then become an XXXtra Kinky Curious Fcker and tune in .
PLUS we rate our FAVE Erika Lust films and this month it's all about outdoor erotic cinema! Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here
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In this fabulous, no BS episode, Reed is joined by infamous Australian sex worker, advocate, and content creator Jade Blair to talk about the reality of getting paid for p***y without shame, shock tactics, or fantasy.
Jade shares what in-person sex work actually looks like: the conversations, the boundaries, the safety routines, the money talks, and the emotional labour that most people never consider. Together, Reed and Jade unpack why society is so comfortable with unpaid, disappointing sex, but will lose its mind the moment money enters the room.
They talk about pleasure at work (yes, it exists), the myth of “selling your body,” the difference between sex work and trafficking, why certain terms are harmful, and how laws can either protect or endanger sex workers.
This episode is all about understanding the power of SW, autonomy, consent, and asking better questions about sex, money, and power.
Get to know Jade Blair on IG @jadeblairxox
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