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If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “where did all my friends go?” or felt like making friends as an adult is impossible, you are not alone.
In today’s episode, Mel is breaking down the surprising reasons why friendship feels so much harder in adulthood—and, more importantly, how to change that.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The three essential pillars for creating deep, lasting friendships. Why you may be experiencing a “friendship recession” How to stop taking friendship shifts personally. How to use The Let Them Theory to take a more flexible approach to friendship. A simple, step-by-step plan to find and keep incredible friends at any stage of life.Mel also shares shocking research that will change the way you think about friendships—including how long it really takes to form a close bond and the single most important factor in building lasting connections.
If you feel lonely, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the friendships you already have, this episode will give you the exact roadmap you need.
For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page.
If you liked this episode, your next listen should be this one: What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness
Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory here.
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We have been on quite a journey together over the past 10 years.
I’ve created an extraordinary amount of content full of concepts and lessons that have helped me in my own life and business.
Thousands of you have taken those lessons, courses, and certifications to create lives you never dreamed possible for yourself.
You created businesses. You fell in love. You worked hard and created tremendous success for yourself.
I am so proud of you and of us.
While the episode you hear today might feel sad, I want you to know this isn’t goodbye.
In this episode, I share what you can expect from me and The Life Coach School over the next year, and why I need you to get ready for what I’m going to unleash and bring to you in 2026. It’s going to be more epic than anything I’ve ever created, and I can’t wait to share it with you.
What You Will Discover:
The two books that have impacted me the most in the past couple of years.How you can experience my work in 2025 if you never have before.What’s in store for 2026 and why you don’t want to miss it.Featured on This Episode:
#526: Student to LeaderFrom Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life by Arthur BrooksDie With Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life by Bill PerkinsJoin The Life Coach School on Social:
instagram.com/lifecoachschool/instagram.com/therealbrookecastillo/facebook.com/lifecoachschool/linkedin.com/school/lifecoachschool/tiktok.com/@lifecoachschoolpinterest.com/thelifecoachschool/Do you have a suggestion for a topic you think I should cover? Email [email protected]
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On this week's episode, I will explain exactly how fear works, why we are afraid to do important things in our lives, and how you can use it to your advantage. Listen in to learn valuable and actionable tips that you can start using today to help you create the life you deserve.
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Every day we speak to people about their goals and how to succeed. However, most people never achieve their goals because they are afraid to fail. On this week’s episode we are talking about the importance of failing and learning how to fail.
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On this week's episode, we're going to talk about how setting goals, believing in them, and achieving them allows us to remove the obstacles to understanding our greatness.
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On today's episode, we are talking about exactly what it means to feel better, and how you are in control of those feelings.
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We wanted to give you a chance to get to know us before you ever sign up for training, and we hope this podcast will give you the information that you need to lead you on a path of understanding.
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How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist?
Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?
Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?
How do I handle narcissists at work?
Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?
How can I keep a narcissist in my life… and not go crazy?
And, most of all:
What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists?
You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world’s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast.
You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions.
This episode is for you if you…
Have no idea what narcissism isWere raised by a narcissistAre married to a narcissistThink you might be dating a narcissistWork with/for a narcissist Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better preparedAre afraid you’re a narcissist
Today you get:
Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundariesKey takeaways to help you move forwardOne solid truth that will ground you in your confidence
You’ll also learn:
What you can do today to begin your own healingHow to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanityThe signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissistWhat gaslighting looks like in real lifeThe situations that make you more susceptibleHow to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissistIf you’re more prone to attracting narcissistsWhy you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones”About “trauma bonds” The signs of “love bombing”About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplaceWhat yellow rocking and gray rocking are
Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault.
Xo, Mel
PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it: “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself”
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The biggest secret to getting the life you want is understanding 3 words I hope you never forget:
Motivation. Is. Garbage.
Right now, think about something you want to change or improve.
I bet you know WHAT you want to change – and what you need to do.
But the 100 million dollar question is: HOW?
How do you get started?
And how do you keep going even when you don’t feel like it?
Look, if change was easy, we’d all have six-pack abs, a million dollars in the bank, and healed our trauma.
And that’s where this episode comes in: I teach you the HOW.
I cracked the code on motivation, and in the next hour, I’m sharing everything I know with you.
You’ll learn the secret to breaking old habits, creating new ones, and how to hack what neuroscientists call “activation energy.”
You’ll also learn one simple but incredible tool, that’s grounded in decades of research, and will change your life forever. This tool is a “cheat code” for motivation. It’s worked for millions of people and it will for you, too.
I wish that what I was about to tell you was something I had read in a book, but unfortunately, that's not how I tend to learn things.
I'm the kind of person who either has to fall into a hole that I didn't see to learn a lesson, or more likely, I screw up my life so badly, I dig the hole for myself.
This was me back in 2008. I was digging the biggest life hole ever. And that’s where this episode begins.
I was at the lowest point in my life. My husband’s business was failing, I was unemployed, on the brink of bankruptcy and divorce, I was drinking way too much, and to top it all off, I couldn’t even get up in the morning. Not the Mel Robbins you know today.
This is the exact moment I discovered the secret to hacking motivation – because I had to if I wanted to fix my own life.
And if I can do it, you can too.
If you're a new listener, you'll learn more about how I got to where I am today.
And if you've been a fan for a while, this episode will be a reminder of the power within you to make any change you can imagine.
At the end of the episode, I’ll also give you a free 5-day challenge – The Wake Up Challenge – to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup
You won’t believe how simple it is to transform your life, your work, and your attitude. I can’t wait to show you how.
Xo Mel
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A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult.
This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.
From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?
This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering…
Where did all my friends go?
I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.
Let’s fix that.
I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.
What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you.
I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.
These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.
That’s why you need to hear them.
So did I.
You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.
Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.
You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends.
And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.
Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.
So let’s go.
Xo Mel
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Today’s conversation is required listening for everyone.
We are going to blow the lid off of emotional triggers.
Let’s get to the bottom of why you and I react the way we do, and more importantly, learn simple ways to take control of our emotions.
It doesn’t matter where you live, how you grew up, or even if you’re a freakin’ saint to everyone else, I know you have something that triggers you.
You have days just like I do when something sets you off and you either snap like a firecracker or withdraw like a turtle in a shell.
And just like me, you say and do things you later regret.
I’ll go first: I’m trying hard to work on the nasty tone of voice I use with Chris and our kids when I feel frustrated or confronted.
And it doesn’t end there. If you’re like me, you beat yourself up for getting triggered, and you now start feeling bad and regret what you did (or the fact that you did nothing).
It makes me feel like crap when I do these things. I have felt helpless for a long time because it’s been so automatic when I get triggered emotionally.
I don’t want to keep living like this. I’d like to feel calm, peaceful, and more in control.
And that’s what this episode is about.
Wouldn’t you love to get out of this cycle of feeling emotionally triggered? Wouldn’t you love to take control of your emotional life as an adult?
The good news: you can rewire your response to stressful and annoying situations.
And in turn, you’ll bring more happiness, presence, control, and closer relationships into your life, because you’ll be present in them instead of letting your emotions drive you.
So, who is going to teach us about triggers?
I’ve tracked down a psychologist who teaches one of the most popular online workshops about this topic:
The incredible Dr. Becky Kennedy.
She’s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside. And do not let the fact that she is a child psychologist and parenting expert keep you from soaking up and applying everything you can learn from her.
No matter how old you are right now, YOU were once a child. And that, my friend, is where your triggers got hardwired inside of you: before you even knew how to talk.
Understanding triggers (and taming them) requires you to go back before you can move forward.
Dr. Becky says, “Your triggers are stories from your past.”
Listen to this episode and really try to absorb what Dr. Becky shares, because the wiring and triggers that frustrate you right now are not permanent.
I know you’re going to send this to every one of your friends who is a parent, and please send it to your kids, nieces, and nephews, too.
Learning how to rewire my response to stress at 54 is amazing. But imagine if you knew how to do this in high school. That’s why I’ve asked our three kids – ages 23, 22, and 17 – to listen too. Sure, it would be nice for us to pass this healing and confidence-building stuff down to every generation, right? If they get this information now, they can rewire themselves faster.
This is really important, life-changing stuff. And I love that it’s also so simple. And you know what else I love? You. Thank you for listening and let me know what you learn.
Xo, Mel
PS: Want to go deeper?
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
One thing that helped me gain control is taking control of my mornings. If you haven’t checked out my free 5-day Wakeup Challenge, let me support you in getting going and creating a better morning. Sign up here.
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You know those days when you just feel “off”? Well, last week, both my friend Amy and I were having bad days.
Thankfully, I had just had an appointment with my amazing therapist that morning.
So, as Amy and I started to talk about why we didn’t “feel like ourselves,” I got this crazy idea that maybe we should invite YOU to join us as the conversation started to unfold.
We decided to turn on a recording device and unpack how we were feeling – on the fly.
I need to say: I stole everything you’re about to hear from my therapist Anne, and you should steal it too.
This is way more than just learning how to put on a happy face.
These tools are truly transformational because they help you tap back into the incredible power within you.
This is a very intimate and special episode that unfolds live.
So I’m inviting you right now: pull up a seat at the kitchen table with Amy and me.
Join us. Don’t just listen, but close your eyes and do the exercises with us.
Do not miss out on what happens near the end. It is magical and I certainly did not see it coming.
And I know you’re going to want to see the cowboy boots: don’t worry, they are in the show notes on my website here.
Xo Mel
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Narcissism is on the rise and you need to learn how to spot it in other people and have tools to protect yourself.
We all know those people who constantly turn a conversation toward themselves, who only call you when they want something, and who have a way of making everything someone else’s fault.
Well, guess what? Turns out narcissism goes far beyond that.
I’m telling you right now, even if you THINK you know what a narcissist is, you need to listen.
I thought I knew, yet I’m still reeling from all my breakthrough moments.
Do you have a narcissist in your life?
Maybe you grew up with one.
Maybe you work with one.
Maybe you married one.
Maybe you don’t know what the hell a narcissist is!
Pull up a seat at the table with me because class is IN session.
Narcissism is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days, so how do you know if you’re *really* dealing with a narcissist?
You have been blowing up my email and DMs about this topic, so Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to answer your questions.
She’s the world’s leading expert on narcissism and someone I’ve followed and admired for years. I love how she breaks down the topic of narcissism in a way that’s understandable, simple, and packed with tools you can apply the second you learn them.
Listen in as she shines a light on the REAL definition of a narcissist and the 5 warning signs you need to know if you’re dealing with one.
This topic is so juicy – and so surprising – that you’re going to be shocked by what you learn. One part in particular will change how you approach narcissists in your life from this day forward.
That’s exactly what happened to me. I have somebody in my life, a very prominent somebody, who absolutely displays narcissistic tendencies, and I have spent years in therapy dealing with it. So I actually got out of my chair and hugged Dr. Ramani after everything she taught me and you in this amazing episode!
If you get something out of this episode, or if you have a friend that has struggled with a narcissist in their life, please share this with them.
And if you think a person is a narcissist, don't even bother sharing, because if there's one thing you're going to learn: you don't want to EVER call one out…
That's just one of the many rules you're going to learn to follow in order to protect yourself from narcissistic behavior.
This episode is jam-packed with teachable moments that will leave you seeing the narcissists in your life with 20-20 insight.
You’ll learn how to not only deal with them but also end this episode with the tools to heal.
And that, my friend, could be the takeaway that changes your life forever.
Xo Mel
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
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How do you know if the thing you’re holding on to is something you should keep fighting for or if it’s time to let go?
Phenomenal question. I’ve got the answer.
The truth is, most of us never let go.
You spend a lot of time adding things into your life – new projects, new relationships, new stuff – but when was the last time you *subtracted* something?
I’m talking about all the things you hang on to, even when they’re no longer serving you or helping you grow.
The stuff that you know is weighing you down and sucking your energy dry, but you can’t seem to drop it.
I’ve got the solution for you.
I’m about to walk you – literally – through a strategy that nobody talks about. It will help you let go of what’s a pain or a drain in your life.
Are you staying in a job you hate?
Do you keep hanging out with that friend who brings you down?
Holding on to those too-small pants because you’re hoping to one day fit into them again?
As the late, great Pulitzer and Nobel prize winner Toni Morrison wrote, if you “want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”
By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how to start letting go of what doesn’t serve you to create room for growth.
And, you’ll learn the two things you must let go of today.
Get ready to step into your new potential and unlock the magic of your life.
Aren’t you ready for that? I know I am. Let’s do it!
Xo Mel
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
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Everything you think about anxiety is wrong.
Yes, we’re starting there.
And yes, we’re going deep.
I know that this episode will change your life. It has done the same for mine.
It’s not a secret that I’ve struggled with anxiety for pretty much my whole life. I swear I came out of the womb in a full-blown panic attack, and I was just warming up for a life of worry on a very elite, professional level.
I have been sharing my anxiety journey, and the tools that have helped me, for the past five years.
And in this episode, things go deeper than they have ever have before.
No exaggeration when I say that my takeaway from this interview today is so revolutionary, it’s forever changed the way I think about my anxiety and my relationship to it.
Which is why it’s my honor to introduce you to Dr. Russell Kennedy, MD.
I’m willing to bet that what you learn today you haven’t heard yet.
Like the real reason you’re anxious in the first place.
It’s not what you’re thinking.
No lie, I’ve been stalking Dr. Kennedy on Instagram for the past year because I just love his stuff.
Like me, he’s lived with his own anxiety since childhood. As a neuroscientist and a medical doctor, he also has the clinical experience to teach us how to HEAL our anxiety.
Did you catch that?
You don’t have to stop at managing your anxiety; you can actually heal it.
I see you if you’re living with a constant “nervous stomach.”
I see you if you can’t sleep.
I see you if your heart races and your muscles are often tense.
What Dr. Kennedy shares with you today has changed my relationship to anxiety, and I know it can do the same for you.
It will blow your mind when Dr. Kennedy tells you that we’ve been attacking this all wrong, and he’ll give you simple science and research-backed tools that will change your life immediately!
I ask all the questions you are thinking about anxiety and Dr. Kennedy and I get real with the answers.
You are not only going to learn how to deal with your anxiety in a very simple but effective way, you are going to learn why it’s there, what it’s trying to tell you, and how to heal it for good.
This episode has changed my life and I know it will do the same for you and your loved ones. Bookmark this episode and share it with those in your life who need it.
It’s time. You deserve what you’re about to learn.
Xo Mel
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
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Souvenez-vous du Modèle de Brooke, un outil puissant pour mieux comprendre les situations qu'on traverse et comment on y réagit. Dans cet épisode de Change ma vie, je partage avec vous quatre exemples d'application autour de quatre situations de vie différentes. Une sorte d'atelier autour du Modèle de Brooke, pour mieux vous l'approprier. Retrouvez les notes de cet épisode sur http://changemavie.com/exemplesbrooke Vous pouvez dès aujourd’hui vous abonner au podcast Change ma vie sur iTunes, et y laisser votre avis, c’est le meilleur moyen de le soutenir. Vous pouvez suivre son actualité sur Instagram et sur Twitter sous l’identifiant ouichangemavie, et je vous invite aussi à vous inscrire à la newsletter de Change ma vie sur http://changemavie.com : je vous enverrai en cadeau de bienvenue trois exercices simples pour explorer votre esprit. Et n’hésitez pas à partager ce podcast avec vos amis si vous pensez qu’ils pourraient aussi en bénéficier !
Vous pouvez consulter notre politique de confidentialité sur https://art19.com/privacy ainsi que la notice de confidentialité de la Californie sur https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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L'indépendance émotionnelle, ça consiste à assumer à 100% la responsabilité de ses émotions, de comment on se sent. Et ça, c'est une prise de liberté énorme ! Ça permet de s'affranchir de tout un tas de schémas de relations qui ne nous satisfont pas, et de considérer notre rapport aux autres et à nous-même avec clairvoyance et de sérénité. Je vous explique tout ça dans l'épisode d'aujourd'hui ! Si vous avez besoin d'aide pour appliquer ce principe à une situation précise, n'hésitez pas à me la décrire par le biais de ce formulaire. Retrouvez les notes de cet épisode sur http://changemavie.com/independance Vous pouvez dès aujourd’hui vous abonner au podcast Change ma vie sur iTunes, et y laisser votre avis, c’est le meilleur moyen de le soutenir. Vous pouvez suivre son actualité sur Instagram et sur Twitter sous l’identifiant ouichangemavie, et je vous invite aussi à vous inscrire à la newsletter de Change ma vie sur http://changemavie.com : je vous enverrai en cadeau de bienvenue trois exercices simples pour explorer votre esprit. Et n’hésitez pas à partager ce podcast avec vos amis si vous pensez qu’ils pourraient aussi en bénéficier !
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Parlons méditation, deuxième partie ! La clé d'une pratique régulière et épanouissante, c'est d'essayer différents styles de méditation, de voir ce qui nous parle le plus, et même de varier les plaisirs selon les jours et les envies. Dans cet épisode, je vous donne quelques pistes et outils qui m'ont été utiles, pour vous encourager à vous lancer ! Cet épisode est réalisé avec le soutien de Namatata, une application de méditation disponible sur iPhone et Android. C'est une application vraiment bien faite, ludique et pédagogique, qui propose toute une variété de méditations guidées, pour différents moments de la journée. Namatata est une application qui fonctionne par abonnement, mensuel ou annuel, avec de nouveaux programmes qui enrichissent la bibliothèque tous les mois. Vous pouvez télécharger l'application gratuitement, sur l'App Store ou le Google Play Store, pour découvrir les modules offerts dès l’installation. Retrouvez les notes de cet épisode sur http://changemavie.com/meditation2 Vous pouvez dès aujourd’hui vous abonner au podcast Change ma vie sur iTunes, et y laisser votre avis, c’est le meilleur moyen de le soutenir. Vous pouvez suivre son actualité sur Instagram et sur Twitter sous l’identifiant ouichangemavie, et je vous invite aussi à vous inscrire à la newsletter de Change ma vie sur http://changemavie.com : je vous enverrai en cadeau de bienvenue trois exercices simples pour explorer votre esprit. Et n’hésitez pas à partager ce podcast avec vos amis si vous pensez qu’ils pourraient aussi en bénéficier !
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Parlons méditation ! Dans ce premier épisode sur le sujet, je vous explique en quoi consiste la méditation, à quoi ça sert, et ce qu'on a tous à y gagner. Tout aussi important, on va parler des résistances qu'on rencontre souvent, et pourquoi on a du mal à se jeter à l'eau même quand on adhère à l'idée intellectuellement. Retrouvez les notes de cet épisode sur http://changemavie.com/meditation1 Vous pouvez dès aujourd’hui vous abonner au podcast Change ma vie sur iTunes, et y laisser votre avis, c’est le meilleur moyen de le soutenir. Vous pouvez suivre son actualité sur Instagram et sur Twitter sous l’identifiant ouichangemavie, et je vous invite aussi à vous inscrire à la newsletter de Change ma vie sur http://changemavie.com : je vous enverrai en cadeau de bienvenue trois exercices simples pour explorer votre esprit. Et n’hésitez pas à partager ce podcast avec vos amis si vous pensez qu’ils pourraient aussi en bénéficier !
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Comment fait-on pour se sentir vraiment mieux ? Dans cet épisode, on met ensemble tous les éléments qu'on a vus jusqu'ici pour répondre à cette grande question, la seule qui compte au fond. Parce qu'on peut passer sa vie à attendre que le bonheur vienne de l'extérieur, alors qu'on a déjà en main toutes les ressources dont on a besoin. Si vous avez besoin d'aide pour appliquer la démarche décrite ici à une situation précise, n'hésitez pas à me la décrire par le biais de ce formulaire. Retrouvez les notes de cet épisode sur http://changemavie.com/mieux Vous pouvez dès aujourd’hui vous abonner au podcast Change ma vie sur iTunes, et y laisser votre avis, c’est le meilleur moyen de le soutenir. Vous pouvez suivre son actualité sur Instagram et sur Twitter sous l’identifiant ouichangemavie, et je vous invite aussi à vous inscrire à la newsletter de Change ma vie sur http://changemavie.com : je vous enverrai en cadeau de bienvenue trois exercices simples pour explorer votre esprit. Et n’hésitez pas à partager ce podcast avec vos amis si vous pensez qu’ils pourraient aussi en bénéficier !
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