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In this episode, Ross Rosenberg dives into the metaphor of a "parasite" to explain the toxic dynamic between codependents (Self-Love Deficients or SLDs) and pathological narcissists.
Building on concepts from his books, The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, Ross explains how narcissists, much like parasites, rely on the life force of codependents to survive.
Ross emphasizes that healing from this destructive relationship pattern requires addressing the deeper wounds of Self-Love Deficit Disorder/SLDD (codependency), which originates from childhood attachment trauma.
He introduces his Self-Love Recovery Treatment program and the HITCH trauma resolution technique as methods for breaking free from the parasitic narcissist’s hold.
Learn how to stop giving your life force to a “parasite” and begin your journey to self-love recovery.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.
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Just like other 12-step programs, CoDA’s first step pinpoints the out-of-control addiction or compulsive behavior that constantly creates disorder in their life. For most 12-step groups, a chemical or substance is the culprit, but for others like CoDA, it is a pattern of behavior that creates chaos and unmanageability in their life.
In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why CoDA has been flawed since its inception and continues to be so. Through a historical analysis of the organization, he shows how CoDA’s “co-dependency” term originated from 1950s alcohol and drug treatment programs attempt to understand the partners of alcoholics or “co-alcoholics.”
When the field shifted to “chemical dependency” as the catch-all term for all addictions, including alcohol, the term briefly shifted to co-chemical dependency. Having too many letters/words, it was almost immediately shorted to “co-dependency.”
CoDA’s step one identifies its co-dependent’s primary out-of-control compulsion as trying to change or controlling people who are unwilling or unable to change.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.Support the show
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Ross Rosenberg's emotionally evocative podcast captures the terror, fear, and anxiety of being an abuse victim by a loved one who has borderline personality disorder. He not only explains the experience but also offers life-saving advice on how to survive it. Similar to his previous videos on BPD (which have amassed 1.8 million views), he provides insights from his distinctive perspective as a mental health service provider with a one-of-a-kind intellect.
A decade later, Rosenberg once again presents a heart-wrenching account of the horrifying realities endured by those who have suffered abuse at the hands of someone with borderline personality disorder.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast does not aim to criticize the extremely challenging psychological condition known as BPD. Instead, it serves as a helpful resource for individuals who have been hurt, abused, and/or traumatized by those with this diagnosis. The intention is not to highlight the negative aspects of people diagnosed with BPD but rather to offer a valuable mental health resource for those who have experienced abuse from their loved ones who suffer from this disorder. Sadly, the unfortunate reality is that individuals with BPD often end up hurting the people they care about or hold dear.
While I possess a considerable understanding of the disorder, I must clarify that I am not a specialist or an expert in its treatment. My expertise lies in working with individuals whom I classify as "Self-Love Deficients" (codependents) suffering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency). It is important to note that I do not represent individuals with BPD, nor do I make any attempts to do so.
Instead, I am a psychotherapist specializing in offering mental health services to individuals who identify as SLDs (codependents) and those who have experienced trauma. My focus revolves around empowering individuals, facilitating their healing, and assisting them in breaking free from abusive relationships. You can witness this dedication in my book, "The Human Magnet Syndrome," as well as in my various videos and training resources.
I want to clarify that my intention is not to cast blame on individuals with BPD but rather to provide support and guidance to my clients in breaking free from toxic and abusive relationships. My work focuses on empowering those who seek to heal their psychological wounds and are willing to take personal responsibility for their actions.Support the show
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Learn more about Karen here: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jbdpodcast
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In this insightful discussion, Ross Rosenberg and Karen McMahon delve into the challenges of high-conflict divorces, especially with narcissistic partners. Karen, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, shares her expertise in guiding individuals through the emotional and legal hurdles of divorce, focusing on those affected by self-love deficit disorder (SLDD) and codependency. She highlights the importance of personal healing and empowerment amidst the chaos of divorce proceedings.
Karen explains how individuals often feel diminished and fearful during a high-conflict divorce and stresses the need to concentrate on personal growth rather than being overwhelmed by the spouse’s behavior. The conversation also covers how to manage children’s experiences during a divorce, emphasizing the importance of validating their feelings while maintaining one's own emotional stability to better support them.
Ross and Karen draw parallels between codependency and addiction, noting that both involve a pattern of unhealthy reliance on conflict and chaos. They stress the importance of self-care and emotional healing to navigate post-divorce life and co-parenting effectively. The discussion concludes with a reminder that the impact of divorce extends beyond legal matters, emphasizing the need for ongoing personal growth to positively affect both individuals and their children.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 28 million views and 285,000 subscribers and the sale of 185,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.
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In this podcast, Ross interviews Alex Katehakis, a renowned marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction and healthy sexuality. Alex shares her journey, starting with an interest in human sexuality and later focusing on sex and love addiction, as well as sexual codependency. She explains the difference between healthy and problematic sexual behaviors, noting that it’s not the acts themselves but the misuse of sex that causes issues. Alex also highlights how childhood trauma and emotional deprivation can distort one's view of love, sex, and intimacy.
The discussion touches on challenges faced by people struggling with codependency and self-love deficiency, particularly in relationships with narcissistic partners. Alex explains how early experiences shape the nervous system, leading to unhealthy patterns, where sex and love are often confused to avoid abandonment. Healing, she says, requires therapy, group support, and self-reflection. She emphasizes the importance of addressing trauma to develop a healthy sense of self and a balanced approach to intimacy.
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the hidden dangers of pursuing happiness for those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. He explains how codependents often mistake the absence of pain for true happiness due to their relationships with narcissists, who manipulate and gaslight them. Ross emphasizes the importance of addressing underlying issues like trauma, shame, and loneliness, and building self-love before seeking happiness. For more resources and support, visit selfloverecovery.com or contact [email protected].
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With a new introduction, Ross re-shares the video that has changed thousands of lives.
The most effective of all the narcissist's manipulative strategies is “Induced Conversation.” Especially when breaking down a no-contact initiative or when trying to hoover (suck back into the relationship) the codependent. For codependents to not get sucked back into the relationship that has nearly destroyed them, they must have potent countermeasures to survive the narcissist’s induced conversation strategies.
Induced conversation is the primary weapon that the narcissist wrestler uses to maintain their power and control over you. As you begin setting boundaries, breaking off the relationship, and even utilizing the ODA technique, you will fail if you do not understand what is at stake for the narcissist. Remember, their number one goal is to keep you in the wrestling ring.
Narcissists are nothing by themselves, despite what they may tell themselves. They need you like they need oxygen to live. Internally, they are filled with insecurity, shame, and dread, regardless of if they are conscious of it. Most narcissists can’t become aware of these internal battles. There may be rare moments where they can connect with their shame, such as moments when they meltdown, beg, plead, and promise you everything so they can keep you in their life. However, that window closes quickly and is unlikely to reopen. They simply are oblivious to their darker sides and their shame.
Induced conversation is what keeps them in control of the relationship. It is how they command their powers and control strategies. After all, if they can get you to respond, defend yourself, or argue, you will be right back in the wrestling ring with them.
To wield this power, the narcissist has to get you to talk to them first. If you try to go no-contact, the only way for them to get back into your life is through induced conversation.Support the show
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the concept of pathological loneliness, a profound existential pain that individuals with self-love deficit disorder (SLDD), or codependency, experience when they are not in a relationship. Rosenberg explores the roots of this condition, its connection to codependency, and how it manifests as a visceral, bone-aching pain driving individuals into unhealthy relationships to avoid loneliness. He likens SLDD to an addiction, where the "drug" is the relationship itself, not the narcissistic partner. Through this discussion, Rosenberg aims to shed light on the existential crisis faced by those with SLDD and offers insights into his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program as a path to healing and overcoming this debilitating condition.
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In this podcast, Ross joins Wendy Meyers to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is joined with Psychotherapist and Reiki master Robert Jackman where they discuss the unresolved wounds one may acquire during childhood and the process for healing and embracing an authentic life.
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In this podcast, Ross joins Terri Cole on the Terri Cole Show to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses Codependent Threshold Reactors as a type of codependent personality characterized by intense emotional reactions and a tendency to overreact to perceived threats or slights. They often have a hair-trigger temper, quickly becoming angry and defensive when their boundaries or needs are unmet. This can lead to explosive outbursts, hurtful words, and damaging behavior. In relationships, Threshold Reactors may become overly attached and clingy, seeking constant validation and reassurance from their partner, which can create a toxic cycle of codependency. A fascinating topic!
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, explains the distinct characteristics between covert narcissism and sociopathy. In this deep dive, he elaborates that both disorders involve a degree of manipulation and lack of concern for others, the motivations and behaviors associated with each are different. Covert narcissists seek admiration and validation, whereas sociopaths are driven by a desire to exploit and control others. It’s important to note that these are complex disorders that should be diagnosed by a professional. If you suspect someone might have one of these disorders, it’s crucial to approach the situation with care and seek guidance from a mental health expert.
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In Renee Swanson's Covert Narcissism Podcast, I talk about my new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, we talked about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa). More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21
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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, discusses the only effective strategy to permanently escape narcissistic abuse and any potential for repeating it with the next romantic partner. The answer is simple; the explanation makes a whole lot of sense, but the process takes a bit of time. It can be accomplished through Rosenberg's Self-Love Recovery Treatment Method (Program).
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In this podcast, Ross reveals the insidious tactics of pathological narcissists and how they manipulate, coerce, and gaslight those who lack self-love. By understanding the concept of narcissistic trauma leakage, we can overcome the long-term effects of abuse and regain control of our lives. The term "leakage" is a reminder that the trauma seeps into different areas of our lives, affecting our emotional and physical well-being. By acknowledging and addressing the impact of narcissistic abuse, we can break free from the cycle of victimization and move forward with strength and resilience.
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In this emotionally compelling video, Ross explains how pathological narcissists manipulate, coerce, and/or gaslight their self-love deficient codependent victims into a symbolic form of "slavery." Historical references to the enslavement of people are discussed to make the above connection.
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In this podcast, Riana Milne and Ross Rosenberg dissect trauma's role in the creation of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency).
Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, has over 24 years of experience as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and expert Certified Life, Love Trauma Recovery & Mindset Coach. She is recognized internationally for her trademarked Life & Love Transformation Coaching Systems.Support the show
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Ross’s sensitivity and introspection goes beyond his clinical and academic contributions. In his poetry, he tries to capture glimmers of the human spirit
and the struggles. It depicts a person struggling with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) and understands the deepest idiosyncrasies of their psyche.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 27 million views and 275,000 subscribers and the sale of 165,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.
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Ross uses the "bait and switch" term to explain the furtive and manipulative manner in which pathological narcissists present unrealistic and untrue versions of themselves to "close the deal" on a new relationship. Like scrupulous car salesman, they offer all the "bells and whistles" to distract the "buyer" into believing they are getting a tremendous deal and should be happy about it. Deceptive narcissists use this manipulative technique to prey upon the vulnerabilities of people with self-love deficit disorder (codependency), who believe only in what they see and what is promised, and not what is hidden and withheld.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 23 million views and 260,000 subscribers and the sale of 155,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.
Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)
Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri)
Twitter (@RossRosenberg1)
and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)Support the show
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