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What if the secret to thriving during layoffs lies not in fearing the change, but in redefining who you want to be through it?
In today’s episode, we tackle the overwhelming emotions triggered by layoffs—both announced and rumored. We often find ourselves gripped by fear of the unknown and the "what ifs" that swirl in our minds, believing we can control how others should behave or how situations should unfold.
Join us as we explore how to reframe our thoughts around layoffs, focusing on self-compassion instead of fear. We’ll discuss the importance of recognizing our feelings, accepting the reality of corporate uncertainty, and taking proactive steps to align our values with our career choices.
By asking yourself, "Who do I want to be during this time?" you can transform anxiety into purposeful action. Tune in for insightful strategies to support yourself and others in navigating challenging transitions, empowering you to emerge as a strong leader and compassionate colleague—no matter the outcome!
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Listen to hear the common experience of restlessness in meetings and offer strategies to cultivate stillness and focus. Noticing how many people exhibit restless behaviors, like fidgeting or shifting positions, highlights a lack of emotional control. To counter this pattern, it's essential to embrace the mindset of being a "thermostat," setting the emotional temperature rather than reacting to it.
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Have you ever thought, "I am doing it all wrong"? Maybe you have a family member who makes you think this. Or you have someone at work that makes you think, "they definitely think I am doing it all wrong".
Let's talk about what it means to drop that awful thought and take on the true belief that we are doing it just right.
We need to lean into our own opinion of ourselves. We need to not hustle and act all weird to be the person someone else thinks we should be.
Contact me if you want to know more. www.lizjolley.com
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Think about how many leaders you worked for that were actually great leaders. Most of us can only count one or two . Shocking low number!
We need to get clear on our own definition great leadership to become the leader people want to work for.
Learn about why great leadership is few and far between and how to become the great leader you want to be.
www.lizjolley.com
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People talk a lot about being vulnerable at work or being their authentic selves. But very few people know what this looks like action wise.
What this looks like to me is being your whole self, especially when you cannot control the outcome. It is being self aware enough to reflect on how you are feeling through tough times like big changes. To feel your emotions so you don’t work them out on others or stuff them down and resist them.
www.lizjolley.com
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https://theschoolofcourage.com/s/Processing-feelings-worksheet.pdf
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What does good leadership look like through change?
Setting a clear vision helps teams focus on what matters through difficult times.
Learn how to use my Power Question Framework to not only align your team on a clear vision, but to have clear actions to help deliver the vision.
www.lizjolley.com
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Change is tough. Especially the change that feels like it is happening to us. Listen to understand how your mindset about change impacts how you lead through change.
Ask yourself, "why could be good about this change?"
You get to decide how you will show up through change. Will you resist the change or will you be the leader everyone wants to follow through the change?
www.lizjolley.com
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Society tells us from an early age that life should be fair. And yet, it never is fair. Our brain forgets, so we need to remind it.
Our crazy expectation that life should be fair causes so much suffering.
When the fairness fairy shows up, the way out, acceptance and curiosity. You must accept that life is not fair. This is the story your brain made up from it's perspective. You must be curious and ask yourself what is the result you want? How else can you get that result?
www.lizjolley.com
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We are the writers of our story. Looking in the past creates conflict, looking forward creates the future. Blame is holding you back from creating your future. A future of connection, love, trust, and solving tough challenges.
No matter what life is 5050. "Fairytale-izing" the version of your life that should have been and then blaming others or blaming yourself in regret does not drive you into the future, it holds you back.
Drop the fairy tale. Drop the ridiculous notion that life is supposed to be happy all the time and if it isn't that we should blame someone or blame ourselves.
Start today. Who do you want to be? What do you want to create? Go after it. Imagine that your past happen for you.
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Are you brave enough to admit you lose it sometimes with people you love? Want to avoid it in the future? The key to avoiding it in the future is to learn from when you do lose it.
If we can look back on these moments with curiosity and love, we can reveal what our thought was that caused this moment and catch it in the future.
www.lizjolley.com
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Anyone wonder why you are the one in charge of buying all the gifts for the gifts, the mothers, the brothers, sisters, neighbors, co-workers, house cleaner, nieces, nephews?
And you stress yourself out trying to find the perfect thing that you know they will love.
And then are you frustrated if you get no feedback on how they felt about the gift? Is it radio silence?
Let's breakdown this whole gift process and find our way to enjoy gift giving and do it from a place of love.
Understand your reasons for buying a gift. Find your way to love. Don't give a gift from a place of guilt or to impress.
www.lizjolley.com
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Stressed out about family over the holidays? This holiday season so many of us will gather with our family, you may love it and you may dread it.
I am going to teach you how to be with family all holiday long without getting annoyed or losing it.
www.lizjolley.com
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Having people over for the holidays? Does it stress you out just thinking about it?
Listen in on how to avoid stress when it comes to planning a holiday gathering.
www.lizjolley.com
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Ever think, "if only I knew back then what I know today"? Well that thought is not helpful. Regret goes back and beats yourself up for past decisions that you cannot change. You need to make decisions from today for your future.
Learn about the unhelpful thoughts driving regret and how to drop them to create the life you want in the future.
www.lizjolley.com
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All companies tout the importance of collaboration but why don’t people collaborate? Well, we often feel threatened and afraid with collaboration. How we respond to the fear is what prevents us from working together.
Our brain is always looking for what could potentially be dangerous to us or what is bad.
True collaboration requires others to help modeling ideas, question them, and challenge them.
In Beyond Measure, Margaret Heffernan says,
“The same is true for ideas, doubts, concerns: they all start off roughly hewn, imprecise, and out of place. The first glimmer of an idea or an observation is like gold dust—highly cherished but hard to spot and not immediately valuable. We come together in groups and teams to refine, reshape, and polish them. The ensuing arguments are the signs that we care. It’s through that conflict that the real luster starts to emerge.”
www.lizjolley.com
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We all face unwanted changes. Changes that make us face realities we don’t want. We argue against it and we lose.
Maybe your company just changed their work from home policy and you have to go back to the office 5 days a week. How do you face a change you don’t want?
Being mad about something is ok, but don’t wade in that water long. It doesn’t serve you. It makes you the victim and the other party the perpetrator. Move towards accepting what is, stop arguing with reality, and decide what now? You are not a victim. You have choices. Who do you want to be?
This is tough. But no one said life should be easy. Our brain forgets this often and life does a good job at reminding us this truth. No matter how much money you make, or what job title you have, or where you live, or how you have tried to prevent it, life get lifey. This is your chance to take control of your life through your decisions and what drives you.
www.lizjolley.com
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Ever seen an adult have a tantrum? Well, we've all experienced our own tantrum at work and at home. We find ourselves feeling shame, embarrassment, undervalued, offended (like we talked about last week) or overlooked and we react like a toddler. We have a tantrum.
We work out our feelings on those around us. We may not end up on the floor flailing around, but we cross our arms and pout or scowl, lash out, yell, raise our voice or say awful things. All not our best self. Maybe you lash out in a meeting or a performance conversation at work. Maybe you lash out at your spouse or your kid and have a tantrum. Not your best self.
So how do we avoid acting like a toddler and having an adult tantrum? You feel your feelings. You don’t react to them. It is experiencing the vibration of the feeling like in a chair.
www.lizjolley.com
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We waste so much energy being offended by what people say or what they do.
Offended is centered around thinking that people should be different, nice people act a certain way or would never say that.
Let's talk about why we are offended and learn how to not be offended no matter what people say or do.
Check out www.lizjolley.com for more.
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Who do you want to be 10 years from now?
What if the secret to becoming that person you’ve always desired to be lies in understanding and embracing your core values?
In today’s episode, we build on last week’s exploration of self-identity by posing a powerful question: "Who do you want to be?" Join us as we discuss how the clarity of your values can shape your identity and guide your decisions. We’ll explore the importance of letting go of unrealistic expectations and societal manuals that dictate how you and others should behave.
Through engaging stories and meaningful reflections, we’ll help you traverse the 50/50 of life and recognize that sometimes you’ll excel and other times you’ll stumble. By envisioning your future self and defining what matters most to you, you'll gain the courage to align your everyday choices with the life you truly value.
So, whether you want to cultivate curiosity, establish boundaries, or embrace vulnerability, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you take control of your path. Tune in to discover how living according to your values can create a more fulfilling and authentic life!
Link to Brené Brown's Living into your values exercise.
Link to my worksheet on defining your values Questions:
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In this episode, we delve into the provocative question, "Who do you think you are?" Often, this question invokes a defensive response when asked in a judgmental tone, but when approached from a place of love, it can unlock profound insights about our self-perception.
We explore how women, in particular, tend to judge themselves harshly, focusing on perceived flaws and shortcomings, while ignoring the beautiful complexity of being human. Life isn't meant to be perfect; it's inherently filled with struggles, mistakes, and growth opportunities. Accepting our 50/50 humanity allows us to release the pressure to be flawless and instead embrace our journey of growth.
Join us as we discuss how to transform negative self-talk into self-compassion, how accepting our imperfections allows for deeper connections with our children and others, and the importance of being present in moments of challenge rather than resorting to self-criticism.
Through personal storytelling and practical strategies, this episode encourages you to celebrate your uniqueness, embrace your flaws, and cultivate a loving relationship with yourself. Tune in and discover how you can redefine who you think you are by acknowledging your humanity!
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Check out my website: www.lizjolley.com
- Visa fler
