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On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.
Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.
Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.
Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU
Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/
Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/
Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work
03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use
06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?
08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue
10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help
12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you
14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners
16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use
18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents
24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution
27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography
29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people
33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue
35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive
38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast
39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery
40:43 - Conclusion
Software mentioned by Dr Hall -
Canopy: https://canopy.us/
Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/
Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/
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Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today.
Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player
Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:26 – Catherine’s background
03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about
06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project
11:37 – How Catherine put the series together
12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys
16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story
18:30 – The impact of social media on boys
21:03 – Problematic male influencers
24:51 – The gaps in education for young people
29:00 – Where young people are learning from
31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships
33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online
37:41 – The importance of honest conversations
40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism
41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?
43:10 – Conclusion
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Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.
Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/
Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:40 – What is Men of Steel?
02:35 – How people respond to the experience
03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?
06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?
09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand
13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel
15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel
16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years
18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex
22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality
23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel
24:28 – Ticket info
24:42 – Conclusion
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For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.
Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless
01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?
03:31 – Meeting mental health needs
05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives
06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives
08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives
10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives
11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here
12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle
13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC
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Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.
Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode!
Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:
Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065
Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903
Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876
Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039
Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077
Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766
Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331
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Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books.
In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life.
Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/
Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’
02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?
04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?
06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms
07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people
11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex
12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body
12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex
14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life
16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact
21:03 – Working out what you want in bed
22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner
26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love
28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values
32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life
36:01 – Summary and conclusion
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In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.
Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/
Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.
Together they spoke about:
What burlesque is and what it celebrates Why Verity started Club Burlesque What you can expect if you go to a show The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex What it teaches us about desire The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show.Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand.
Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/
Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:33 – What is burlesque?
02:54 – Understanding eros
03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque
04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque
06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque
07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex
09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire
11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality
14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel
15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side
17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?
18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque
18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire
19:52 – Conclusion
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On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.
In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity How to navigate peer pressure Why it’s important to choose your friends well What Daniel’s work looks like in practice What young people really think about Andrew Tate Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys The realities of young people’s porn use How parents and caregivers can support their kids And why soft skills are so importantDaniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence.
By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves.
You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/
Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does
05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture
06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity?
11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from
14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well
17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships
18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops
20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces
30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate
35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme
40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use
48:23 – Why soft skills are so important
51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help
56:44 – Daniel's message for young people
58:32 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space When we might expect to see regular people going to space The short and long-term risks of sex in space Has anyone had sex in space? The first married couple in space Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environmentsASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?
02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research
06:23 – Old space vs new space
08:30 – When might regular people have access to space?
11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps
13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space
15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space
17:40 – Why this research is so important
21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?
31:20 – The animals that have mated in space
32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex
34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?
38:01 – Funding research into sex in space
41:30 – The future of space travel
43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?
46:15 – Conclusion
Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here:
ASRI: https://www.asri.space/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch
Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space
Links mentioned in the podcast:
The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/
SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/
The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.
Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.
Check out Butt Seriously here: https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF
Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/
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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives.
Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication.
Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/
Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.
At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state.
During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.
In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector.
Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:06 – Bella's background
03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed
05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels
09:00 – Bella's vision and mission
11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from
13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses
14:26 – Lessons learned in life
16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex
17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount
24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry
27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice
30:26 – Bella's plans for the future
32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels
34:30 – Bella's message to listeners
36:04 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.
Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.
Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Intro
01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time
05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean?
07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about?
09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time
11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys
13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances
16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure
17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired
20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved
23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally
28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent
31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired
32:36 – Conclusion
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For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more.
Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/
Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV
Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK
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For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University.
Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use.
Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/
Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html
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Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:14 – What kicked off the book?
02:58 – What are sexual scripts?
04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives?
06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy
08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy
09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation
13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn
15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences
17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use
22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn
24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have?
27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space
29:24 – Men’s responses to her work
30:51 – Supporting young people
32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work
34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences
36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn?
38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture
40:26 – Conclusion
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On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman.
Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book
02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans
04:40 – Containment vs desire
07:28 – Lucy's upbringing
08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition
11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning
13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid
17:25 – First encounters with trans people
18:41 – Finding courage from others
21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier
22:31 – Gender in society
25:33 – The debate with feminism
27:11 – The joy of transitioning
31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice
33:51 – Conclusion
Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/
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For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work.
Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/.
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For this episode, Jane had the privilege of speaking with Susie Orbach, who is a British psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, social critic and the writer who hit the world with the iconic book: Fat is a Feminist Issue, which is an important examination of the obsession we have with food and body image. Written over 40 years ago, it remains hyper relevant to this day.
Fast forward to 2009, and Susie followed up on this idea with Bodies. In this book she argues that the way we view our bodies has become synonymous with how we see ourselves – our body becomes the way that we measure our self-worth. In Bodies, Susie suggests ways that we might be able to heal from this kind of messaging.
In the podcast, Susie spoke with Jane about this amazing body of work, and three main themes emerged – the development of feminism and the way that our perception of it has changed over time, our struggle as humans to be both connected and autonomous, and the way in which the food and beauty industries profit so significantly from body insecurity.
What you’ll find in the podcast:
How feminism was perceived when Susie was young
What role should work have in our lives?
The shift from relying on each other to competing
Can we find common ground with others?
Why connection is so important
Why do so many of us feel bad about our bodies?
How we can change the way we feel about bodies
Why you should read Bodies
A reflection on the times we’re living in
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For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Chanel Contos, founder and CEO of Teach Us Consent, a campaign that mandated consent education in Australia. Chanel discussed the success of this campaign and the response she received from people within Australia and internationally. She unpacks what people can expect from her book, Consent Laid Bare, and discusses the last chapter which is titled “Dear Boys and Men” and what she hoped to achieve with this particular part of the book. Chanel also gives her advice on how to have healthier conversations and practices around consent and understanding personal boundaries.
Find out more about the Teach Us Consent campaign here: https://www.teachusconsent.com/
Grab a copy of Consent Laid Bare: https://amzn.asia/d/87nIuxU
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:11 – What is the Teach Us Consent campaign?
03:22 – Responses to the campaign
03:52 – What Chanel has learned from working in this space
04:40 – What's most rewarding about being involved in this work
05:43 – What you’ll find in Chanel’s book
07:20 – Dear Boys and Men
10:11 – How to help people feel comfortable to say “no”
12:10 – What is affirmative consent?
14:24 – Advice to help have better consent practices
17:07 – How you can get in touch with your own boundaries
18:57 – Goals for the future
19:45 – How Chanel got into this space from starting in IT
20:46 – How you can support Teach Us Consent
21:17 - Conclusion
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