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Dave and Bethlie's youngest child, Charity Young, joins them for this episode. As 15 year old young lady, how did God speak to Charity recently when she read through Proverbs 31?
Listen, and enjoy!
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Proverbs 31:1-9
Verse 1 Taught = to chasten, discipline, instruct, admonish Verse 3 Stay away from women because they destroy kings This is counsel which Solomon in later years chose to ignore Verse 4-9 Stay away from alcohol Kings shouldn’t drink the stuff They can cause you to forget the law they can cause you to pervert judgment Alcohol use should be reserved only for those who need it Someone who is dying Someone who is bitterly ill Keep away from it so you can be a wise leader -
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Part 3
We want our children to have good appetites.
Appetites for eternal things over earthly things
God's Word God' Love Diligence Faithfulness Character Integrity FamilyWe want our children to be successful adults
Prepared All ready going that way before they get there Parenting is intended to teach our teens to parent themselves Know where you are taking your kids Give them opportunities to prove they are getting there -
Part 2
The goals we should have according to the verse
We want our children to have good behavior.
This idea shows up especially in the early chapters
Listen to our commands Heed our laws Do right and pursue wisdomTeach them to obey
Expectation Communication Follow-through Correction (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15,17) -
We Must Emphasize Training
Proverbs 22:6
Recap of our study through Proverbs:
Chapters 1-9 are about his training of his own son.
Chapters 10-31 contain truth about areas we should emphasize.
5 Reasons It Is Right To Emphasize Training
It is a word from Solomon, - known for His God-given wisdom. It is the Word of God by the Holy Spirit and it is therefore profitable for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. It is based on the truth of sowing and reaping. It is simply a summary of God's plan for the home and family. It makes sense.The Choices We Have As Parents
To train or not to train To teach or not to teach To correct or not to correct To love or not to love To impart wisdom or to leave to folly To prepare for adulthood or to relegate to failure To succeed or to fail -
We must emphasize the dangers of alcohol We understand this is a debated matter All of us agree that drunkenness is wrong Drunkenness is when alcohol is altering our God given faculties It controls our emotions It controls our reactions
2. We understand that this is a problem area
3. We believe it is an easy matter
All of us agree that we are wrong when alcohol is damaging our life and the lives of those around us Solomon’s main point over and over again is that alcohol is dangerous and should be avoided It does much damage One of the leading causes of preventable death in the USA (National institute on alcohol) 1/3 of fatal vehicle accidents were alcohol related 174 million abuse alcohol/only 9 million abuse opiods Financially It is expensive It is costly in how it affects work and health and relationships and so forth4. We must understand that Solomon is warning us about these dangers:
What it does Proverbs 23:29 Also 20:1 It mocks It rages It deceives and destroys wisdom How it happens Proverbs 23:30-31 Linger Search Look Where it leads Proverbs 23:32-35 It bites and stings It affects thinking and perverts v. 33 It makes you sick v. 34 It leaves you deceived. v. 35 It leads to addiction v. 35 It leads to perverted leadership Proverbs 31:4-5 Where it is acceptable Proverbs 31:6-7 Medicinally 1 Tim 5:23As parents we must emphasize the dangers of alcohol.
Show your children those who have been damaged by it
Relationships Car accidents Health failuresStay away from it.
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The Dangers of Anger
We just emphasize the dangers of anger
Here are the main verses in Proverbs dealing with anger:
12:16 A fool's wrath is presently known; but a prudent man coverth shame 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger 16:23 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty: and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city 19:11 the discretion of a man deferreth his anger: and it is his glory to pass over a transgression 19:18 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man thou shalt not go 27:3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty: but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both 27:4 Wrath is cruel and anger is outrageous (a torrent - a flood); but who is able to stand before envy. 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgressionLessons learned from these verses
1) We must address our own anger issues: Defeat anger or it will control you and damage you
Confess it as the sin it is Take steps to forsake it2) We must address our children's anger
Younger Children Never ignore anger Rebuke it Correct it (determine beforehand) Teach them how to respond appropriately Older Children Model correct responses Strive to live gently Admit when wrong and ask forgiveness Take steps to correct yourself Teach correct responses Stop and correct every angry response Teach your children the proper response Do it every time! We must separate from anger: handle specific areas in specific ways On a team or in a sport Be drastic here Pull them out Remove them from the team Remove their privileges With a coach An angry coach is a bad influence in your child's life An angry coach is a lousy role model An angry coach is carnal In a relationship Anger will destroy relationships Anger is a deal breaker In friendship In courtship and dating Never date a person who gets angry - and certainly don't marry them Anger that shows up in dating will only compound in marriage We must learn to handle intense matters properly: Learn to speak softly Respond quietly Speak in a lower voice Leave an angry situationAnger will prevent a happy life and a happy family
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1) Counsel Is Important
Proverbs 11:14 Lack of counsel = a fall Lots of counsel = protection Proverbs 12:15 It is foolish to act on your own It is wise to heed counsel Proverbs 15:22 Lack of counsel damages plans Lots of counsel established them Provers 20:5 Counsel is available It has to be found "on purpose" Proverbs 20:15 Greater undertakings demand greater counsel Greater undertakings are successful by counsel2) Counsel Requires Teachability
I should be willing to learn It is a heart matter It requires wisdom Bad counsel - can be tricky There is a way that seems right Always evaluate the source Always evaluate the ending Always evaluate the consensus Good counsel - has proof The end thereof Get counsel from those who have good fruit Dave Teis refused to write a book on parenting until his children were grown Don't learn parenting skills from a novice - a peer - a social media influencer We should be training our children to listen to counsel Proverbs 24:5 Wisdom = strong Knowledge = strength This requires wise counsel This requires much counsel Proverbs 27:9 Friendship is sweet when it includes hearty counsel Where do you find good counsel? Daily devotions - the Bible Prayer for wisdom Hearing the preaching of God's Word Studying good books written by good authors and published by respected publishers Learning from successful people We have talked many times to successful parents to ask for advice We schedule talks with successful parents Study history...if something has worked for a millennium, pull from thatNever face difficult situations without much counsel
Consider giving a trusted counselor veto power during times of great difficulty
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We must continually protect our children from foolish influences.
1) Internet
Only when supervised Not just for fun Not just because they're bored Use Gryphon Use Covenant Eyes Frequently check phones and computer history Keept it random Make it a surprise2) Social Media
None is always best How to do it? Get other parents to join you Get your school on board Teach your children to stand alone What to do if you do it? Make it a rite of passage Sign an agreement Write a paper Read a book My Tech-Wise Life Ways your phone is changing you Tiktok - dangerous and damaging Emotionally damaging Relationally damaging Legally damaging Purity damaging Instagram3) Music
Have standards
Talk thorugh matters and continually offer biblical wisdom
No one can handle a diet of unBiblical thinking communciated via music
4) Movies
Be careful Always evaluate a movie prior to watching it Wait for it to be available via Vidangel or on Clearplay Talk about reasons and teach truths -
Dave and Bethlie continue their study in Proverbs. This week, they'll continue their focus on Influences That Kill with a special focus on friendships.
We must protect our children from lousy friends.
The Simple (they lack wisdom) The Fool (makes fun of sin; ridicules righteousness)Lousy friends can quickly undo everything we teach our children
Better to have no friends than to have lousy ones
Amnon (Old Testament) had a friend and it eventually cost him his life
A good friend does right and helps you do right
We must protect our children from lousy friends
Choose their friends Insist they sit with you rather than friends Never allow them to be unsupervised (alone) No overnight in another home No teens alone in a car No teens alone on a trip No teens alone in a room Drop out of sports rather than allow teammates to influence your kids in lousy direction -
In this episode, Dave and Bethlie discuss the importance of godly and positive influences in the family. They emphasize the need to shield children and ourselves from negative, harmful influences.
Proverbs 13:20
We must emphasize the blessings and dangers of influence.
Proverbs 1:11-19
Proverbs 9:6
The best influences are those that impart righteousness and wisdom.
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Dave and Bethlie discuss words that destroy marriage from Proverbs 12.
Our words can do massive damage:
When we speak in "never" and "always" When we are mean. When we make broad assumptions.Beware of the "norms" in our society
Sarcasm Belittling Negativity Unkindness RudenessDetermine to be different by:
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Proverbs 11
Teaching our children to have Integrity
What it is?
It is honesty v. 1 The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that one refuses to change (Cambridge Online Dictionary) Think of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife Think of Daniel and his three friends in Daniel 1 And again in Daniel 3 when they wouldn’t bow to the false god And again in Daniel 6 when Daniel prayed even though it meant death This was an old command reiterated by Solomon Deuteronomy 25:12-14 Proverbs 16:11 and 20:10 It was a sin addressed by Hosea in 12:7 We must teach our children to always be honest For us, this was a spanking matter Matthew Henry says “He is not an honest man that is not devout; he is not a godly man that is not honest.” Dishonest business dealings are offensive to God Nothing is more pleasing to God than fair and honest dealing It models who God is He will do right every single time . . . It is humility v. 2 Notice that it is the opposite of pride Nebuchanezzar was severely judged by God for his pride Herod was as well. Notice that it is blessed by God Humility leads us to wisdom It is uprightness v. 3 The word means correct; right; straight Psalm 25:21 Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee. It is righteousness. v. 4-6Why it matters?
It guides us v. 3 It makes a difference in death v. 4 A good conscience makes the end of ones life easier It leads us to righteousness It counsels us It makes us gracious It makes us generous It brings life v. 30 It bypasses judgment v. 32How do you get it?
You train it Proverbs 20:11 A child either has it or doesn’t Verse 5 When they get it and mature - it directs their way Perfect = complete or mature or whole You pursue it We often have opportunity to pursue integrity . . . You live it It shows up in how we treat people In how we run our business -
Part 4
Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success- especially in our families
How do we get there?
We must emphasize God’s blessings v. 22 We should believe in God’s blessings v. 25 HE gives an everlasting foundation v. 27 He prolongs days v. 28. He gives gladness V. 29 His way gives strength 28:20 a faithful man shall abound with blessings Psalm 107:38 Genesis 12:2; 13:2; 24:35 We should desire God’s blessings Sometimes they are material/physical Deuteronomy 8:17-18 We work for these (and save and pray) We give thanks for these Sometimes they are spiritual Love joy and peace Contentment Favor Sometimes they are relational A good friend A good spouse He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the Lord Children Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is His reward In-laws A good spouse for your children A family connection that results Adams, Mundays, Pisneys, and soon to be Gentiles Bethlie’s parents to me and my parents to herQuestions:
How do we balance the idea of God’s blessings and the issue of “bad things” that happen? How do we teach this to our children? Is it ok to think of God’s blessings as material? How do we balance this with the idea that the best ones are not? -
In part 3 of this series we see that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success specifically in our families.
We must emphasize diligence (Proverbs 10:4-5; 16) The word Sharp pointed Trench - in the sense of dug A massive amount of difficult work Time consuming Physically exhausting Gold - int he sense of mined Figuratively - determination, eagerness Gain requires forethought - diligently A harvest is an involved process Preparing the soil Preparing the seed Planting the seed Caring for the field Waiting for the full growth Gathering it for the days ahead Gain requires a process of time and in time We want our children to develop habvits that lead to success It is imperative that we ahve goals for our children Some are spiritual - this requries DILIGENCE Know God and His Word Love God and His Word Fear God Worship God Walk with God Give financially Some are relational - this requires DILIGENCE We want you to be sweet We want you to be kind We want you to be thankful We want you to be polite Some are practicle - this requires DILIGENCE We want you to learn discipline We want you learn skills We want you to learn to handle finances We repeat our desires and our demands - this requires DILIGENCE too. Repeitition is required. We model DILIGENCE Gain requres work (vs.16) 4:23 Keep your heart with all DILIGENCE 11:27 he that diligently seeketh good procureth favor: but he that seeketh mischief, it shall come unto him. 12:24 The hand of the diligent shall bear rule; but the slothful shall be under tribute 12:27 The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting, but the substance of a diligent man is precious. 13:4 The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat. 21:5 The thoughts of the diligent tend only to plenteousness; but of everyone that is hasty only to want.
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Happy Family Life: Christian Parenting Tips and Bible Insights!
Proverbs 10 continued...
Practically, what does it take to have a happy life and a happy family?
1) It takes righteousness v2-3; 6-7; 11; 16;19-21; 24-25; 28; 30-32
Righteousness in our treasures v.2 Righteousness in our dealing with people v. 11-12 Righteousness in our work v. 16 Righteousness in our words v. 19-22 How do you incorporate righteousness in your life? What is right? What does the Bible say? What would be the right response? What would be the right step to take? What would be the right way to handle this? -
We're really excited to dive into Proverbs 10!
The US Constitution says that everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
life is a right liberty is a right happiness is not, it is the pursuit of it and that is a rightIt seems that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness.
vs 1 Having a wise son brings gladness and avoids heaviness
Get ready for an exciting series!
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Join Dave and Bethlie as they close this 3 part series on Teaching Your Children To Embrace Wisdom out of Proverbs 8 and 9.
Proverbs 8:32
What is the value of wisdom?
(Find point 1-3 in Episode 212)
4. It brings blessings to our lives Proverbs 8:32-36
5. Reminds us that God and wisdom are ETERNALLY connected (vs. 22-31)
You don't have one without the other Folly damages and destroys Wisdom builds and strengthens and lastsProverbs 9
Wisdom is better than folly
Wisdom takes time
(vs. 1) She has builded her house Dads and moms must recognize this It takes a lot of time to train our children for success in life It takes a lot of time to prepare our children for success in lifeWisdom takes investment
(vs. 4) Come live with me Learn from me Watch me and follow my lead (vs. 5) Come eat at my table
Receive waht I offer you Let's talk and linger Wisdom takes decisions Forsake foolishness and live Go in the way of understanding (vs. 9) Wisdom takes learning (vs. 10) Wisdom takes GodWisdom takes decisions
Forsake foolishness and live Go in the way of understandingWisdom takes learning (vs. 9)
Wisdom takes God (vs. 10)
Folly is a horrible way to live
Foolish woman is simple and knows nothing (vs. 13) Foolish woman is offering an alternative way to live Two choices on the shelf - pleaweing God or pleasing self Two choices in chapter 9 - the life of wisdom or the life of folly (vs. 14-16) Notice the offer (vs. 17) Notice the absurdity (vs. 18) Noitce the result This is life or death Galations 6:7-9 Deuteronomy 28-30 I set before you life or death, blessing or cursing etc. -
Dave and Bethlie continue in Proverbs 8 as we learn to help our children embrace wisdom.
Proverbs 8:7-11
Do a wisdom check Think about and choose things that are excellent Think about and choose things that are right Think about and choose things that are trueWhat is the value of wisdom?
It teaches us to hate evil (vs. 12-13) It is not enough to know what evil is We must learn to hate it... It teaches us how to lead (vs. 14-16) It teaches us how to be wealthy (vs. 18-21) Wealth is tricky in our society Examples: Musk, Bezons, Gates, Trump Social media influencers People want to make money doing nothing or just having fun Wealth is more than money It is family It is satisfaction Is is relationships It is favor -
Dave and special guest Charity Young (Dave and Bethlie's youngest daughter) share the traditions that the Young family have shared over the years.
Enjoy!
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