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What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?
In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, reveals how attachment orientations, like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment, are part of the codependent strategy of survival and how it is necessary to build capacity in the nervous system so your attachment system becomes nimble and responsive.
Use this episode's guidance to help reduce anxiety, loneliness, and pain and increase your worth, belonging, and sense of safety in your daily life.
We heal together. We thrive together.
Diane Poole Heller's attachment assessment: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/
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Live classes start March 2nd, 2025.
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Why You Fixate On Other People's Approval
In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals a hidden necessity to healing your codependency and experiencing sustainable, fulfilling freedom and prosperity beyond it. Without grasping and embodying this quality, you will continue to seek permission from others to be, do, and have what you desire in your life.
Your sense of self, power, and belonging will be defined by the expectations of others, leaving you lost, empty, and frustrated.
Learn today the importance of self-authority and how to begin implementing this natural right into your daily life.
Healing codependency is the work of becoming one's Self-authority. Marshall's work makes you the master of your self-authority by taking you through the 3-phase Self-Authority Mastery Journey: Exiting Survival, Healing & Growing Into Your True Self, Mastering Your Reality.
We heal together. We thrive together.
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Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:
https://ayc.freetheself.com
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Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:
https://ccc.freetheself.com
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FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:
https://foundation.freetheself.com
Live classes start March 2nd, 2025.
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THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:
https://system.freetheself.com
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How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself
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In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the habit that leads us to emotional burn-out, emptiness, and resentment, and teaches you the first essential skill to take back your power, your freedom, and well-being from codependency.
Whether you're facing anxiety, burn-out, frustration, emotional emptiness, feeling lost to yourself, this episode will help you begin to reverse this and start experiencing a sense of power, connection, and direction in your life.
Healing codependency is the work of becoming one's Self-authority. Marshall's work makes you the master of your self-authority by taking you through the 3-phase Self-Authority Journey: Exiting Survival, Healing & Growing Into Your True Self, Mastering Your Reality.
We heal together. We thrive together.
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Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:
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Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!
Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, and structure.
There are powerful, dangerous misconceptions about codependency that are sabotaging your healing and preventing you from succeeding and healing as fast as you deserve to have. Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, and structure. Today
Today, I explore misconception one: Codependency is part of who you are.
Learn the truth about codependency and who you are by listening in today.
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FOUNDATION starts March 2nd, 2025. End codependency by mastering emotional safety, belonging, and real self-worth through this 15-class live training. This for ALL codependents that are seeking to finally stop being codependent and feel safe enough to stand up for themselves, choose themselves, trust themselves, and love themselves.
We start March 2nd, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
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The Freedom From Codependency Suite
This is exclusively for the recovering codependent, people-pleaser, or perfectionist that is hungry to create and enjoy satisfaction, success, and peace in…
… their relationships
… their money and finances
… their life purposes
… their dreams
… their friendships
… daily life
And they want the hands-on, live mentorship, guidance, and support to help them achieve this, keep this, and enjoy this.
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How To Stop People-pleasing: Taking Back Your Worth
One of the key entanglements that drives the people-pleasing impulse has to do with your worth.
We are taught a transactional model of worth, meaning we earn it by doing xyz. In people-pleasing, what our worth is dependent on is approval and the avoidance of rejection.
This creates massive anxiety, hypervigilance, and insecurity in our sense of self.
Shifting this orientation and taking back your worth is CENTRAL to ending people-pleasing.
Learn about this shift in today's episode!
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People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
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How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?
People-pleasing drives us to over-prioritize and emphasize people's negative feelings towards us and towards other things. This can motivate us to try to fix their feelings, which blinds us to important realities about what is happening, including:
1) Incompatibilities between you and that person
2) Boundary violations that you've done or they've done
3) Ignoring of your intuition and sense of the situation
4) Knowing what is real and valid for you in a situation
We end up with damaged senses of self, anxiety, and feeling insecure when we over-prioritize other people's feelings.
Yet, properly caring for the emotional impact someone has is essential to clarity and to building secure attachment.
So what is the balance we need to walk here?
Learn the secret in today's episode! ***
People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
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Are You Blended Up In Them?
Codependency and people-pleasing require a high level of vigilance and emotional enmeshment with others in order to feel some sense of safety.
This happens because the nervous system and attachment system discovered that regulating others feels safer than living with the chaos created by the toxic relationship's uncertainty. It found that if it can attune and soothe or please the other, the chaos lessens and they even get some breadcrumbs of affirmation, love, belonging, and comfort at times.
This is how we become blended up with other people's emotions and take on responsibility for soothing and managing them through pleasing them, avoiding conflict, being "nice", and accommodating their toxic patterns.
Anxiety, shame, low self-trust, and depression are the result of this, as your needs are not being seen, heard, or valued to any worthwhile degree.
But there is a way out into freedom, peace, and trust.
It starts with one of 3 essential transformations the people-pleaser must make.
The first is Emotional Sovereignty.
Discover this transformation in today's episode.
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People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
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The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing...
I have done a lot of DIY healing. Some of it was all I had available to me due to finances. Much of it was due to a deep wound in my identity that said, "be needless. do it yourself" and "when they know you this way, they'll abandon you."
Being raised to regulate other people's feelings with the promise that they'll take care of me and then being betrayed and abandoned when I was in need created this.
Many "needless" codependents have this same struggle.
If this is you, I see you and hold great warmth and understanding.
And there are 3 things you need to "chew on" if you're in this place and considering bringing on help (mine or others):
1) DIY cannot show you the blind spots you have. You need an independent set of eyes to help you see what you're unconscious to in your behaviors, beliefs, and patterns.
You *will* repeat your patterns if the blind spots are not made conscious and shifted.
You deserve a mentor, a course with community support, or therapist that see you warmly, kindly, and honestly.
2) DIY will cost you more in time, emotion, health, and money in the long run. It's cost me over 100K along with many sleepless, stressed nights and days.
You deserve to rest, to have returns on your time, energy, and money that bring more to your life.
If the money isn't there, I recommend sticking to specific people's youtube, podcast, email, etc that you trust. Do what they recommend. Practice and stay CONSISTENT. Jumping around will interfere more than it will help.
3) DIY feeds into the narrative that you don't need others. You do. You know you do.
You deserve community, belonging, and supportive reflection.
It is time to end the Do-it-Yourself Healing fantasy. We need you. You need us. We heal together. We thrive together.
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People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
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Changing our minds is an essential part of being our personal, sovereign authority.
And I have changed my mind and made a change.
FOUNDATION is rescheduled for later this Spring so I can follow what the energy I feel is directing:
People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace
This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.
We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.
Investment: $197
Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
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We Heal Together. We Thrive Together.
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What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?
We have motivators that drive what we do.
The motivators that drive codependency are very, very different from those that drive our well-being.
In this episode, I discuss these two types of purpose and how to detect and shift them so you're coming from alignment with your power rather than the reactive nature of codependency, resulting in more outcomes you want.
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CORRECTION: Class starts SUNDAY JANUARY 19th, 2025.
FOUNDATION starts January 19th, 2025. Enjoy greater emotional safety, belonging, and real self-worth through this 15-class live training. This for ALL codependents that are seeking to finally stop being codependent and feel safe enough to stand up for themselves, choose themselves, trust themselves, and love themselves.
We start January 19, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
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THE EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM IS ABOUT TO GO AWAY FOREVER
Have you ever wanted to have access to everything a coach, leader, or mentor offers?
Have you wanted to feel the security of knowing when they release their next course, training, or group program, you don’t have to come up with the money to attend it?
Instead, you get an email saying, “Your membership to the Everything Forever Program has secured your spot in this course! Click here to register so we know you’re coming!”
That’s what the Everything Forever Program is.
And it goes away forever January 1st, 2025.
Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
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2025 brings you and I into a pivot in the work. I will be focusing on leading you to the results that matter to you.
This all starts with understanding IDENTITY. And through a 4-step process, you get the results you seek faster and easier than you've thought was possible.
I'm calling it, "ACCELERATE".
My "Leap The Gap" Training happening December 18th will show you what this is, how it works, and why it will transform your healing work into satisfaction, success, peace, or even surprise for you quickly. Register here: https://leap.freetheself.com
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When you've gone through trauma, the brain tends to amplify it's negative bias, creating negative anticipation towards uncertain things.
We find ourselves planning for the worst, as it gives us a sense of power and comfort. It makes sense. The negative thing has happened to us in the past and we want to be prepared.
This must be balanced with positive anticipation, especially when facing the mundane uncertainties life brings us.
Learn a gentle, two-step practice to start experiencing more peace, confidence, and power in facing uncertainty in today's episode!
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FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
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It will be essential, at some point, to admit to and embrace the authority and power you rightly, naturally possess to direct and govern your life.
You cannot exit codependency without this vital step, as it will keep you tethered to the power of other people's approval, rejection, disappointment, and agreement.
The anxiety of making your own choice, following your own path, even trusting yourself to choose what's best for you on a daily basis comes from tethering our personal authority and power to the approval and perspectives of others.
You don't trust yourself because someone else is being put in the position of authority by your mind.
Let's break this spell and put you back in charge of your adult life with today's episode!
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FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com -
How a therapist, coach, mentor, support community, or even yourself view codependency and codependents directly influences the outcomes, results, and transformation you experience (or don't) in that relationship.
This is why it is crucial you're aware of how prospective mentors, therapists, coaches, and so forth view and understand you and the topic you're working with.
Today, I share how I view codependency and codependents. This will help you make a more informed decision about if and when to join my work and allow me to lead you from codependency to your real worth, innate purpose, and satisfaction in your life.
Listen in and let me know your thoughts in the comments!
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FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com -
The Importance of Gains:
What is a gain? It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make.
An example: I gained my peace of mind by not going back to the dysfunctional person.
Why does this matter? Gains are the benefits we receive with a positive, healthy change. If we let ourselves recognize and magnify the gain, it helps our body adapt and adjust quickly to the new state of affairs rather than linger in the yearning, seeking, or rumination on the positives of the other situation.
Gains can be determined by identifying:
1) What you gained with the choice
2) What you avoided with the choice
You can amplify them by:
1) Adding significance to the gain. "Wow, I really did avoid more pain there. That's really, really important to me and my well-being."
2) Adding praise to yourself: "Wow, I really did avoid more pain there. I am so proud of myself for doing that for me."
3) Allowing them to take up more emotional space in your body and experience than you normally would. Allow them to be bigger
The key to gains working for you is believing their inherent importance and worth and letting yourself FEEL them.
*** START HEALING BY JOINING MY MONTHLY WORKSHOPS
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Course Links:
FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com -
Pain vs Your Story
Transformation of a person's pain-filled life to a joy-filled life is the journey of healing and becoming who you truly be.
It has three Phases: Survival, Healing, and Creation
And in each of these, there is a work we do around identity and one's pain.
In the Survival Phase, the pain and the identity are the same. "I am angry!" "I am shameful!" "I am unworthy!" "I am invisible!"
This creates the never-ending loop of painful outcomes that drive many of us to seek relief from these things through healing work.
Learn the gentle process I use and I take my students through to help end this painful pattern and find real peace and healing in today's episode!
*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-DAY CLARITY COURSE
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Connect with Marshall and The Healing Work here: https://links.freetheself.com
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Course Links:
FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com -
Burden of Cause
What is the "burden of cause"?
It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they treated you.
When we are enmeshed this way, we will internalize people's behaviors as a reflection of some internal flaw or problem that we then must change.
This leads us to believe that the other person will change, too, creating a potent fantasy that leaves us hurting, helpless, and confused.
Listen in this episode to learn how to detect if you're taking on this burden and how to shed it completely.
*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-DAY CLARITY COURSE
Discover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com
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Connect with Marshall and The Healing Work here: https://links.freetheself.com
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Course Links:
FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com -
De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish.
It is about understanding what matters personally to you while setting aside other people's opinions and perspectives of what you should be centering in your life.
They are not the authority, and they do not live with the outcome like you do.
You are the authority. You inherent the outcome and consequence of your actions. Thus, you must center yourself if your life is to yield well-being, peace, satisfaction, or whatever else you desire to experience and feel.
Centering yourself means asking, "does this option take me where I want to go?"
It means saying no deliberately to things that don't take you towards the purpose you have chosen for yourself, even when it means ending commitments, disappointing people, or doing things others may not understand.
It means saying yes deliberately to things that do take you towards that purpose, even if it is scary, new, unknown, or you may initially fail.
Centering yourself in your life is how you start experiencing what you want as something you have.
Learn how to do this in today's episode!
*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSE
Discover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com
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Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com
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Course Links:
FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.
Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.
Only 100 students are admitted annually.
Enrollment opens July and February each year.
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Knowledge overwhelm is a primary factor in experiencing freeze, procrastination, and loops of stagnation when you're trying to heal from trauma and instability.
The mind's ravenous appetite for knowledge is driven by a fantasy that "if I'd only known better, I could have done better". There's a deep assumption that we're lacking something specific and when we find that specific thing, we will HEAL!
What makes this so compelling is that it isn't necessarily wrong. But it is also not useful when you're bombarding yourself with 567869 view points, much less never really internalizing the knowledge into experience (which is where change actually occurs).
I know this well. I've done in my own healing, as well as with business, marketing, relationships, book writing, computers, IT work...
This is why I have 224+ books on healing and relationships.
This is why I spent 10s of thousands on various trainings and memberships.
Always seeking the "missing piece that makes it all work."
Is this sounding familiar?
Learn how to get out of this trap and start actually succeeding in your healing in today's episode!
*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSE
Discover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com
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FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.
Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.
Only 100 students are admitted annually.
Enrollment opens July and February each year.
Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com -
Going Slow - It Is A Must
To heal, we must sloooooow down.
To know ourselves, we must sloooooow down.
To find direction in our lives, we must slooooooow down.
Codependency, trauma, and the culture of "productivity" demands you speed up.
You get it done now.
Faster! Faster! FASTER!
Healing, thriving, having a sense of self, liking yourself, loving yourself, loving others, feeling satisfaction - these all come from first slooooowing down.
Slowing down helps us hear our own voice. It helps us step out of the patterns of reaction that re-create the pain we're trying to escape.
Slowing down helps us build real safety, real connection, and know ourselves better.
Slowing down helps us hear, helps us respond, and helps us heal.
Learn how to gently let yourself slow down - just a bit - to accelerate your healing.
*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSE
Discover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com
***
Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com
***
Course Links:
FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.
Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.
Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.
Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.
Only 100 students are admitted annually.
Enrollment opens July and February each year.
Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com - Visa fler
