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In this episode, they provide insight into how we balance empathy, accountability, and challenge while working with addicts. We explore the complexities of detecting deception, handling relapses, and creating safe spaces for clients to share their struggles. This candid conversation offers a deep dive into the nuances of therapy for sex addiction and the transformative power of recovery.
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Working with sex addicts can be deeply challenging but also incredibly rewarding. In this discussion, we share our experiences and perspectives on why we are passionate about this specialty. The work isn't just about addressing sexual dysfunction or relational issues; it's about guiding people through their journey of healing, transformation, and self-restoration. We talk about the privilege of being trusted to help clients navigate their shame, trauma, and pain, and how we help them turn these dark experiences into growth and hope.
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The discussion also touches on balancing empathy with accountability. While it's important to avoid shaming the client, it's equally essential not to minimize their relapse. The approach includes both encouragement and challenge, analyzing what happened and identifying steps to prevent future relapses. The goal is to help clients harness feelings of regret as motivation for change, without letting them fall into a deep shame spiral. This balanced approach seems to foster more open communication and honesty from clients regarding their behaviors.
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Today’s mailbag episode tackles a complex question from a listener about relapse and recovery.
The question revolves around the pain of discovering a partner’s hidden sex addiction and the struggle with the concept that relapse is part of recovery. We explore whether relapse is acceptable or justifiable, discuss the impact on partners, and delve into the accountability of sex addicts.
We address the idea that while relapse can occur, it’s not an excuse for continued harmful behavior. Our discussion highlights the importance of clear expectations and accountability in recovery, and we offer insights on how to manage and prepare for potential setbacks.
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Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?
Clinically, the model remains the same for both genders, holding all addicts to the same standards of recovery. However, societal perceptions often differ, giving different leniencies to men and women. While the treatment approach focuses on ""progress, not perfection"" for everyone, societal and partner reactions to addiction and relapse can vary based on gender dynamics.
Stay tuned for our future video!
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In our latest discussion, we explore the complex issue of addiction, relapse, and recovery, particularly in the context of sex addiction. The central question is whether it is ""okay"" for a sex addict to cause harm to their partner and family, with the justification that ""relapse is part of recovery.""
While relapse may occur for some addicts, it is not ""okay"" or an excuse for harmful behavior. There is a distinction between sobriety and recovery; sobriety is the starting point, and recovery involves ongoing work to heal the damage caused by addiction. Stay tuned for our future video!
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Join us for an insightful discussion on the double-edged sword of technology in today's world, featuring Tim Stein, Jeannie Vittoni, Dan Drake, and Wendy Conquest. In this episode, we dive into how technology shapes our lives and relationships, the impact it has on our brain chemistry and development, and the challenges we face in staying truly connected.
Drawing insights from an interview with Dr. Pat Carnes, we explore topics like screen time, social isolation, and the addictive nature of our devices. From personal stories to research findings, we discuss how to find balance and stay mindful in a tech-driven age. Don’t miss this engaging conversation!
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Did you know that 39% of Americans report feeling lonely or lacking significant relationships? In today's episode, we explore the growing sense of isolation and disconnection many of us feel in our technology-driven world. From walking our dogs while glued to our phones to missing out on real-life interactions, we're slowly burying ourselves in our devices. We discuss an alarming trend: the inverse relationship between a country's wealth (GDP) and its happiness levels. Stay tuned for our future episode.
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Have you ever thought about how often you reach for your phone daily? In this episode, we dive into our growing attachment to technology—phones, computers, and beyond. Stay tuned for our future episode.
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Today, we are thrilled to host Barbara Steffens, a trailblazer in betrayal trauma research. Barbara shares her groundbreaking PhD study, which revealed that nearly 70% of betrayed partners met the criteria for PTSD. Discover how her work has reshaped the understanding of betrayal trauma and the treatment of affected partners. Don't miss this insightful discussion with a true pioneer in the field.
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In this video, we explore the early days of recognizing trauma in betrayed partners, particularly focusing on the impact of infidelity. Dr. Barbara Steffens shares her journey, highlighting the anxiety and determination she felt while presenting their groundbreaking work around 2006-2008. Stay tuned for our upcoming full-length video soon.
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In our latest episode, we speak on the groundbreaking PhD study that explores whether partners who were betrayed experienced trauma and to what degree. With a background in trauma and crisis intervention, we discuss with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPC, a researcher set out to understand this dynamic beyond the traditional labels of co-addiction and codependency. Stay tuned for our full episode.
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Welcome to Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Dan Drake and guests Wendy Conquest, Jeannie Vittone, and Tim Stein. Today, they delve into the challenging topic of betrayal violence with therapist and magazine creator Hope Ray. Hope introduces the concept, defining betrayal violence as a complex dynamic involving secrecy, repeated fidelity violations, and abusive behavior.
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In this insightful conversation, Hope Ray discusses her work with men in a support group called Getting Dire Straight, where they delve into sensitive topics like male entitlement and misogyny.
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In this episode, we speak with special guest Hope Ray on the dynamics of power and control in relationships affected by addiction and betrayal. We discuss how withholding essential information creates a power imbalance and restricts a partner's agency, ultimately leading to exploitation and harm. The conversation emphasizes the importance of transparency and informed consent in rebuilding trust and fostering healthy relationships post-recovery.
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In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we discuss the topic of dating for partners after a relationship ends. We explore the challenges faced by partners when relationships don't work out, emphasizing the lack of conversation and support for those navigating life after a breakup or divorce.
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In this discussion, we delve into offering guidance for betrayed partners re-entering the dating scene post-recovery. We emphasize the importance of building a supportive social network before diving into dating. Self-exploration and identity formation are key steps to feeling confident and secure before seeking new relationships. Instead of viewing trust and safety as binary, we encourage seeing them as degrees, allowing for gradual progress.
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In this discussion, we explore the challenges of readiness and intimacy for betrayed partners entering the dating scene post-recovery. We challenge the cultural pressure to rush into sexual encounters and advocate for a more deliberate approach to building emotional connections. By reframing the question to focus on compatibility and emotional safety, we highlight the importance of self-awareness and setting boundaries.
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In this heartfelt discussion, we delve into the challenges partners face when deciding to end a relationship affected by addiction and trauma. We explore the complex emotions of sadness, relief, fear, and excitement that accompany this decision, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and processing grief and loss.
The conversation emphasizes the significance of trauma healing and self-discovery as essential steps towards embracing empowerment and vulnerability in new relationships. -
Today, we're discussing the impact of sexual betrayal on families and children, a vital but often overlooked topic.We're excited to have Casey Allison, a certified partner coach, who has created a unique children's book addressing this issue. Her book provides age-appropriate explanations about betrayal and recovery, featuring beautiful illustrations. Casey's experience as a mother of nine gives her valuable insights on helping children understand and cope.Join us for this important discussion. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe!
- Visa fler