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• People generally talk about things for a specific reason. If you can hear between the lines and find out what that reason is, you can have deeper conversations with others that are enjoyable for both of you.
• Doing this isn’t especially hard; all you need to do is pay attention to what is being said. People organically bring up topics they are interested in, and their body language will very obviously indicate excitement or happiness while talking about that subject. With practice, you’ll be able to spot these telltale signs better and use them to have more fun and engaging conversations.
• When someone is telling you something, try to determine what emotion is being conveyed. People are generally looking for some specific emotional reaction from you when they say something. It could be anger, a smile, amazement, curiosity, or something else. If you can figure out what emotion they’re trying to convey and what they’re expecting in return, you’ll make the other person feel understood and appreciated.
Remember that conversations aren’t all about you. It’s an activity that involves mutual sharing and listening. Reacting to the other person’s emotions appropriately shows that you’re paying attention and actually care about what they’re saying. This is why you should react to everything. don’t ignore or let comments or nonverbal gestures just pass with no response.
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00:00:00 Hello listeners. Welcome to Social Skills Coaching.
00:01:00.070 Match and Mirror Internal Communication Cues
00:05:23.610 Match on Content
00:10:46.720 Expressing Without Speaking
00:16:22.630 Posture and Body Orientation
00:20:28.560 Eye Contact
00:24:38.790 Paralinguistics
00:26:09.440 The Four Ps of Voice
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Feeling lost in conversation? This video is your one-stop guide to mastering the fundamentals of communication! We'll break down Chapter 1 of [Book Title] by [Author Name], diving deep into:
Identifying Your Communication Style: Discover your strengths and weaknesses as a communicator.
Psychological Barriers: Learn how to overcome common hurdles that block effective communication.
The Rapport Game: Unlock the secrets of building trust and connection with anyone.
Expressing Without Speaking: The power of nonverbal communication - understand body language and paralinguistics.
Summary Guide: Recap the key takeaways from Chapter 1 for easy reference.
Bonus: We'll provide actionable tips to help you immediately improve your communication skills!
Ready to become a communication master? Watch now!
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Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King
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00:00:00 Initial Impressions
00:10:41 Make the First Move
00:16:50 Find Similarity
00:27:35 Manufacture Connection
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LF
Networking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression.
Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just about every phase of conversation. From hello to goodbye, with strangers or old friends, you'll learn how to simply go deeper.
NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention.
Better Small Talk is a unique read. Imagine the following situation: you've just put on your name tag, and you're approached by a stranger. What do you say? Nice weather today. No, we can do better than this. Learn better small talk to avoid awkwardness, put people at ease, and build real rapport.
Learn to open people up without them even realizing it.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you.
You'll learn exact dialogues, responses, phrases, and questions to use.
•How to tell captivating stories and what to actually focus on. •Four ways to warm yourself up and prepare for even the most unpredictable conversations. •Instantly setting a tone of friendship and openness with strangers. •Common and subtle conversational habits you need to stop right now
Become someone who is magnetic and who can make new friends in any situation.
Simple conversation is the gatekeeper to friendships, your dream career, romance, and overall happiness. The ability to connect with anyone is an underrated superpower. People will be more drawn to you without even knowing why, and never again people will people be bored talking to you. You’ll never run out of things to say when you master these conversation tactic
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00:02:55 Are You a Conversational Narcissist?
00:11:01 The Power of the Support Response
00:17:03 ALBRECHT’S RULE OF THREE FOR CONVERSATIONS
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• The biggest threat to connecting well with others is conversational narcissism—i.e., the tendency of centering ourselves, talking too much, steering the topic, interrupting, invalidating others, bragging, manipulating, or acting superior to others. Everyone has the potential to be narcissistic in conversation at times.
• A shift response is an attempt to bring the focus and attention of a conversation back to yourself. A support response maintains that focus and attention on the other person. A great way to reduce conversational narcissism is to use fewer shift responses and more support responses. When used well, support responses lead to better, more fulfilling conversations for everyone.
• Dr. Karl Albrecht says that all conversations can be broken down into three fundamental components: declaratives, questions, and conditionals. His rule of three is to never make three declarative statements in a row without a question or conditional statement.
• Declarations can be presented as statements of fact whether they are or aren’t, and can shut down conversations or act as shift responses. Conditionals are modified, weaker forms of declarations that acknowledge their own subjectivity.
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• This chapter is about how to steer conversations to different topics without making things seem restrictive. One critical aspect of talking to people is ability to transition between topics seamlessly. Many people struggle with this because they often want to discuss specific things and end up making the conversation rigid.
• The key rule to be remembered here is the “yes, and” rule. Whenever someone states a proposition, your response should be to agree to it, and contribute a line that will keep the conversation going. Simply agreeing isn’t enough, since it brings the conversation to a dead end. Disagreeing is even worse, because it might make you come across as combative and unsympathetic.
• Don’t be afraid to enter into conversational topics that you don’t know much about. You might just end up learning something new, and you’ll see that your fears about coming across as dumb are unfounded. If you keep conversations open-ended, people will naturally want to talk to you because they will feel like they can share anything with you.
• A more negative version of the “yes, and” rule is the “yes, but” rule. It’s similar, but the latter immediately makes the other person think of you as argumentative. This is because, unlike the “yes, and” rule, it doesn’t help the conversation flow.
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The Confidence Formula: May Cause: Lower Self-Doubt, Higher Self-Esteem,
and Comfort In Your Own Skin (Be Confident and Fearless Book 8) By:
Patrick King
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0994VF5XH
00:16:21 Low Confidence Characteristics
00:22:05 Am I Unconfident—or Do I Have Anxiety?
00:24:09 The Spotlight Effect
00:30:53 Feelings Versus Automatic Thoughts
00:41:15 Your Confidence Resume
Stop making decisions based on fear of failure, rejection, anxiety, and
judgment.
Life is full of possibilities, but can you take advantage of them? Gain
the confidence to be all that you can be.
Not just “fake it ‘til you make it” or “just smile more.”
The Confidence Formula is filled with real, actionable advice for your
life TODAY. It’s not generic, borderline useless advice you can read in
any blog post online. This book will take you on a deep dive into the
depth of confidence, self-perception, and the psychology of confidence –
understand yourself so you can break through your mental barriers.
Everything from psychology, biology, and even cognitive behavioral
therapy is referenced in giving you the tools to feel more invincible on
a daily basis.
Finally feel comfortable in your own skin and become your own source of
confidence.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and sought-after
social skills coach and trainer. He was also one of the plumpest
children you’ve ever seen, and understands the pains and processes of
confidence like few others. This book was written by someone who knows
exactly what you’re facing and how you’re hurting.
Become bolder, more fearless, and good enough. Stop thinking about the
“what ifs” in your life.
Confidence will turn your life into a series of endless opportunities.
Your goals, your social circle, your relationships, your career, and
your life – confidence is the key. Confidence creates the life you want
and lets you smash through goals, while making sure you never feel
invisible, waste your potential, or feel paralyzed from anxiety.
Quiet the voice in your head and live how you want to. Stop feeling so
restricted.
#Amygdala #Confidence #ConfidenceFormula #ConfidenceResume #FeelingsVersusAutomaticThoughts #Gilovich #SpotlightEffect #ThomasGilovich #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheConfidenceFormula #TheRippleEffectOfConfidence
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00:03:17.360 Constantly Interrupting
00:05:38.100 Using Qualifiers
00:06:53.900 Equating Your Experiences
00:08:02.139 Floundering
00:09:13.940 Waiting Instead of Listening
00:13:42.170 The Rapport Game
00:15:09.470 Mirroring and Matching
00:18:48.220 Way 1: Match and Mirror External Communication Cues
00:21:06.070 Way 2: Match and Mirror Voice and Language
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Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King
00:14:25.120 A Childlike Exercise
00:22:30.760 Your Conversation Résumé
00:29:56.769 Conversational Stages
00:39:29.950 Initial Impressions
00:49:59.349 Make the First Move
00:56:07.650 Find Similarity
01:06:53.740 Manufacture Connection
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LF
Networking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression.
Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just about every phase of conversation. From hello to goodbye, with strangers or old friends, you'll learn how to simply go deeper.
NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention.
Better Small Talk is a unique read. Imagine the following situation: you've just put on your name tag, and you're approached by a stranger. What do you say? Nice weather today. No, we can do better than this. Learn better small talk to avoid awkwardness, put people at ease, and build real rapport.
Learn to open people up without them even realizing it.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you.
You'll learn exact dialogues, responses, phrases, and questions to use.
•How to tell captivating stories and what to actually focus on. •Four ways to warm yourself up and prepare for even the most unpredictable conversations. •Instantly setting a tone of friendship and openness with strangers. •Common and subtle conversational habits you need to stop right now
Become someone who is magnetic and who can make new friends in any situation.
Simple conversation is the gatekeeper to friendships, your dream career, romance, and overall happiness. The ability to connect with anyone is an underrated superpower. People will be more drawn to you without even knowing why, and never again people will people be bored talking to you. You’ll never run out of things to say when you master these conversation tactic
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00:10:46 Four Easy Self-Disclosure Rules.
00:14:38 Mini Self-Disclosures.
00:17:30 How to Respond to Someone Else’s Disclosure.
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• Vulnerability is essential for human connection, and appropriate self-disclosure creates trust, authenticity, and intimacy. Self-disclosure is intentionally sharing personal information that other people wouldn’t know unless we chose to tell them. The most effective kind of self-disclosure is the one that only slightly pushes the current state of affairs toward more intimacy.
• Friendship-making is an upward spiral of mutual and incremental disclosures over time. Keep things symmetrical, gradual, positive, and small at first.
#BanterLand #Chunking #Derlega #Disclosure #Selfdisclosure #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #TurningOnTheCharm:PrinciplesOfSelf-Disclosure
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The Science of Likability: 60 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction By Patrick King
.00:02:19 Context-Dependent Memories.
00:10:07 The Power of Association.
00:15:36 Shut Up and Let ’Em Talk!
00:26:10 Equity Within Relationships.
00:32:04 Similarity Breeds Liking.
00:38:05 This is known as the chameleon effect
00:40:09 Three Stages of Friendship
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VCRTJ59
100% scientifically-proven ways to make friends quickly, turn enemies into friends, gain trust, and be flat-out likable.
Utilize the most interesting, shocking, and counterintuitive findings in psychological science to simply make people want to be around you.The Science of Likability takes over 60 seminal scientific and psychological studies and breaks them down into real, usable guidelines and tips to create the presence you have always wanted. Every piece of advice in this book to increase your social standing and likability factor is 100% backed by in-depth, peer-reviewed research, and it goes far beyond simple common sense and intuition.
Learn how to subconsciously make yourself likable, trustworthy, and intelligent.
You can get a new haircut and wardrobe, and you even learn knock-knock jokes. But likability is something more. It's subconscious, and it's about the small signs that signal our brains to let their guards down, seek others out, and embrace them. We know what to do if we want to make someone hate us - we now also know what to do to become someone's favorite person.
Understand what makes people tick, and strategically give it to them.
There are seminal studies from (in)famous researchers such as Sigmund Freud, Ivan Pavlov, Stanley Schachter, and Daniel Goleman, but also the most up-to-date discoveries from 2019 - all insightful, analytical, sometimes surprising, but most importantly effective and actionable. Pair that with the insight and human intelligence factor of bestselling author and social skills coach Patrick King, and you have a guide that can be read equally for education as for helpful, real advice. Patrick's writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Discover:- How to take advantage of people's memories for your sense of charm.- The power of equity in relationships and friendships.- A literal formula for "friendship chemistry."- The real way to use eye contact to build trust.- Why tripping and being vulnerable in front of people is positive.- Universal definitions of charisma, wit, and humor - seriously. Universal.
Being likable unlocks the doors to everything you want in life.
A better career? You better believe that the people with the most promotions and highest salaries aren't just the most qualified. Better love life? Being likable makes you a potential love interest to anyone you want. Better relationships and friendships? Not only that, but you open the door to people wanting to be friends with you. Likability is the hidden force that makes people appear to be lucky in life and receive more opportunities than they know what to do with. Likability drives us forward, not intelligence or luck.
Ultimately, this is a social skills and charisma book to drastically change your presence. Pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page.
This is the first book in the “The Psychology of Social Dynamics” series as listed below:1.The Science of Likability: 60 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction [2019 Edition]2.Think Like a Psychologist: How to Analyze Emotions, Read Body Language and Behavior,...
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00:02:51 Conversation Equals Improv
00:09:03 Emotional Intelligence
00:12:19 Play
00:19:53 Takeaways
Does your mind blank in conversation and create awkward silence? Do you run out of things to say and struggle to keep dialogue flowing?
(A) Conversation isn’t scripted, (B) it’s 100% unpredictable, and (C) it can be terrifying at times. How do you prepare for such a thing? By learning how to apply improv comedy techniques to roll with any punch and improve your conversations and social interactions.
Become quicker and more clever in daily conversation.
Improv(e) Your Conversations teaches the ingenious rules of improv comedy that allow performers to turn boring prompts into memorable interactions worthy of standing ovations. This means there are real frameworks and templates to escape interview mode small talk – and start connecting and building rapport from the moment you say “Hello.” This book goes through over 15 of the most helpful and insightful improv comedy techniques with countless real-life examples to make you a great talker.
Learn the conversational secrets of the world’s best comedians.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.
Over 15 actionable tips that are actually practical and relateable.
•The three easy ways to always know what to say, even when your mind goes blank.
•What Sherlock Holmes has to do with great rapport.
•How to read people better and what to look for.
•The one goal you must always keep in mind (that you probably don’t even know).
Adapt, witty comeback, reply, and charm in record time.
•What causes awkward silences and how to prevent them.
•How your conversation should resemble a movie.
•How to “flip the switch” to be more entertaining.
Conversation skills are the gatekeeper to the rest of your life.
Improving your conversations gives you the ability to turn a random encounter into a flowing conversation, into a lasting friendship. Fewer acquaintances and more friends, less small talk and more true substance.
•Better networking, better career placement, better job interviews.
•New friendships, improved relationships, and being more attractive to the opposite sex.
•Instant likability and great first impressions."
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#Charismatic #Conversation #ImprovComedyTechniques #WittyBanter #RussellNewton #NewtonMG
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Conversation Skills Training: How to Build Relationships, Navigate Any Situation, and Talk to Anyone By: Patrick King
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CNPHL9PC
You are missing out on so many relationships in your life.
Communication is the bedrock of our relationships. But we often don’t know how to express ourselves, or truly hear others. Make sure that you are not letting amazing people pass you by.
Increase your social and emotional awareness.
Conversations Skills Training is truly about arming you with the tools you need for effective expression, listening, and relationships. Communication is the primary contributor to the relationships we attract in our lives, and this book takes you through almost every aspect of successful connection.
Imagine being able to walk into a room and make friends with strangers, avoid conflict, and have a charismatic presence. It’s not so tough, it just needs purposeful practice. This book will be your best field guide to knowing how to deal with people, their emotions, and your own emotions.
Get ahead in your career – because conversations skills gets promotions, not technical skills.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience.
The keys to preventing and dealing with conflict or other uncomfortable situations.
Identify your communication style, and why it might be holding you back
Exactly how much eye contact to use for emotional connection
One acronym to substantially improve your conversations
How to “hear” people’s emotions and make people trust you
Defusing conflict and tough situations
How to say no and assert yourself to anyone
An ancient Greek persuasion technique that works in any situation
Read people like a book – their emotions, feelings, and thoughts!
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00:08:18 Preconceived Attitudes
00:17:48 Judgment and Premature Evaluation.
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#Conversation #ConversationSkillsTraining #Training #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ConversationSkillsTraining #IdentifyYourCommunicationStyle
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Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating By Patrick King
00:04:28 Follow the Ostrich’s Lead
00:09:41 The Premortem Analysis
00:15:56 The Don’t-Do List
00:31:04 Err on the Side of Action
00:32:19 Get a Little Uncomfortable
00:39:04 Tiny Steps
00:45:25 The 40-70 Rule
00:50:14 Beat Indecision
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https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YZ95LV
Practical, psychological methods to turn your thoughts into reality, instead of endless avoidance and laziness.
Transform from struggling with getting off your butt, to a machine of productivity and self-discipline. Create an action bias in your life -- starting now.
How to break inertia, overthinking, paralysis, sloth, and insecurity.
Take Rapid Action deconstructs the psychology of laziness and why tomorrow always sounds like a better idea. This book is many things at once: a shot of motivation, a spark of fire, an understanding of your brain, and a list of techniques to get into motion. This is one of the most valuable skills you’ll ever gain, because only action matters in life, not good intentions.
Gain the ability to get things done and hit your goals, no matter the circumstances.
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.
Stop saying “I’ll do it later/tomorrow…” and overhaul your mindset for productivity and efficiency.
•The Premortem Analysis and the Ostrich Theory -- how they can quiet your overthinking.•How comfortable inaction is sabotaging you.•Actionable and applicable rules to get started before you feel 100% ready.
How to create motion and take the first step from complete stillness.
•How to defeat procrastination by “bundling.”•Strategically plan your days to prevent laziness and distraction.•What you think is action, but is actually a waste of time
Become a machine of proactive energy and activity.
Action and results are the only things that matter in the world. Not your planning, intentions, or nice thoughts. This book puts action at the forefront of your brain and makes it nearly impossible to stay still. That’s precisely what will get you ahead in life. Taking that first step is always hard, but it doesn’t have to be.
The more action you take, the luckier you become. Take that first step by scrolling up and clicking the BUY NOW BUTTON at the top right of this page!
This is the sixth book in the “Clear Thinking and Fast Action” series as listed below:1. The Science of Getting Started: How to Beat Procrastination, Summon Productivity, and Stop Self-Sabotage2. The Art of Clear Thinking: Mental Models for Better Reasoning, Judgment, Analysis, and Learning. Upgrade Your Intellectual Toolkit.3. 10-Minute Philosophy: From Buddhism to Stoicism, Confucius and Aristotle - Bite-Sized Wisdom From Some of History’s Greatest Thinkers4. Practical Intelligence: How to Think Critically, Deconstruct Situations, Analyze Deeply, and Never Be Fooled5. Learn To Think Using Thought Experiments: How to Expand Your Mental Horizons, Understand Metacognition, Improve Your Curiosity, and Think Like a Philosopher6. Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating7. Relentless Focus: 27 Small Tweaks to Beat Procrastination, Skyrocket Productivity, Outsmart Distractions, & Do More in Less Time
#DontDoList #DrRobertLeahy #GaryKlein #Leahy #OstrichTheory #Overthinking #Plutarch #PremortemAnalysis #TakeRapidAction #Uncertainty #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing...
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00:03:25 Why Stories Matter
00:05:23 Four Elements of a Good Story
00:09:28 Be Natural ... But Have a Plan
00:17:16 USING WITTY BANTER IN BUILDING RAPPORT
00:22:35 Technique 2: Use the Element of Surprise
00:24:03 Technique 3: Sarcasm
00:26:25 Technique 4: Being Self-Referential
00:28:15 Banter Warnings
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• Though the real foundations of a good conversation are humility, curiosity, and open-mindedness, it’s still worth learning how to tell engaging and entertaining stories. Storytelling is human, and anyone can be a good storyteller. But a story’s value is in how it’s perceived by the audience.
• The best stories have an attention-grabbing hook; they’re short, precise, and have a relevant emotional core. In conversation, a story is meant to create connection and rapport, not showcase you as interesting. Prepare somewhat by building a story “library” beforehand, then use natural transition phrases such as “You know, that reminds me of . . .”to introduce the story. Remember that telling a story is still a kind of conversation.
• Witty banter is playful, clever, amusing conversation that speeds up rapport and builds closeness very rapidly. Anyone can learn to banter as long as they follow the rules: start small and build, banter WITH someone, not AT them, and a little goes a long way.
• Self-deprecating or self-referential humor helps you drop your ego and shows strength and maturity, putting people at ease. Be brief and very obviously exaggerate something you’re actually comfortable with. Be unexpected and use the element of surprise to grab attention and create spark and spontaneity. Flaunt conversational norms with playful sarcasm. The focus is always on building rapport, not on entertaining or impressing people.
#AndyRichter #Banter #Sarcasm #ScottYoung #SelfDeprecatingHumor #Selfdeprecation #Selfreferential #WITTYBANTERINBUILDINGRAPPORT #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #MakeFriendsEasily #TurningOnTheCharm
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How To Say No: Stand Your Ground, Assert Yourself, and Make Yourself Be Seen (Without Guilt or Awkwardness) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 7)
By: Patrick King
00:02:05 Why Saying No is So Essential
00:10:26 Why We Struggle to Say No
00:20:53 The Psychological Root of Never Saying No: Codependency
00:36:51 Getting Rid of Counter-Mindsets
00:44:54 Change Strategies for Counter-Mindsets
00:46:19 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Makes You a Bad Person
00:55:31 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Means You Don’t Care
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Finally get what you deserve and stop “letting it slide” - without guilt, fear, or awkward tension.Saying no - just thinking about it sounds awkward, right? But that’s the barrier between you living your own life, and living for others. Get what you want, starting immediately.Stop sacrificing your own needs. Quit the agreeableness and accommodation habit.How to Say No examines the psychology of those unable to stand up for themselves. It’s not as simple as wanting to avoid awkwardness, and it’s not about the correct sequence of words. You’l dive deep and learn about your beliefs that are holding you back, as well as how to conquer them in short time.Saying no is the most liberating thing you can do for yourself, and this book tells you how to get there from inside to out.Swift tactics to gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.How to decisively say NO and stop being taken advantage of.•The counter mindsets you must change, and the mindsets you must replace them with•A multitude of categories for how to asset yourself•The easiest and least tense ways to simply say NO•An examination of your beliefs surrounding acceptance, love, and self-worth•Boundaries and how to ruthlessly enforce themStop putting others first and start treating yourself better.Who are you living your life for? Do you feel like you are exhausted by the time you can finally pay attention to your own needs?Do you finally wish that you could free yourself from self-imposed burdens and put yourself first? Learning how to say no and assert yourself is the most amazing tool that no one ever taught us. Start changing your life today.
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00:01:53 Dr. David Rock created the SCARF model
00:05:34 Assertive Communication
00:09:17 What Makes Assertive Communicators Different
00:10:45 Ten Essential Assertive Communication Habits
00:22:06 Bonus: The Broken Record Technique
00:23:47 Give and Take: The Art of Feedback
00:27:02 The Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model
00:30:50 The Best Way to Receive Feedback
• Regulate your own emotions by being aware of the underlying needs they express: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.
• Be assertive and communicate your needs, limits, and perspective with clarity and kindness. Be clear, calm, firm, open, in control, and respectful. Decide on the type of assertion that best fits your needs: basic, empathic, consequence, discrepancy, or negative feelings assertion.
• When it comes to giving or receiving feedback, remember that it is about behaviors and actions and not about people. Be kind, but also don’t take things too personally.
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00:02:20 Identify Your Communication Style
00:04:20 The Passive Communicator
00:07:57 The Aggressive Communicator
00:11:15 The Passive-Aggressive Communicator
00:19:19 The Assertive Communicator
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• The best mindset to adopt in order to become a better communicator is the one that will best allow you to connect, meet your needs, solve problems, and express yourself.
• Begin by asking yourself what your default communication style is: aggressive, passive-aggressive, or manipulative. None of these styles actually achieves the ultimate goal of communication, however.
• The way you communicate is a choice. Assertive communication is the ability to express needs, wants, thoughts, and feelings directly without disrespecting or controlling others. Mature conversationalists are self-controlled, balanced, relaxed, open, and respectful.
• Communicating well is simple and easy, but we need to remove the formidable psychological barriers that stand in the way. With awareness, we can remove them and improve our communication skills.
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00:02:46 Psychologist Shelly Gable coined the term “active and constructive responding”
00:12:42 A truly active and constructive response
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• Your response to someone’s good news can vary, being passive or active, constructive or destructive. Aim for active, constructive responses that acknowledge and reflect the emotion and energy in a speaker’s message.
• Give compliments—but keep them rare, sincere, specific, and appropriate.
• Avoid giving advice. Problem-solving is best achieved by helping people discover what they themselves think, rather than telling them.
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00:01:18 In an article published in the Journal of Managerial Sciences in 2009
00:01:48 The Different Types of Conflict
00:02:02 Not all conflict is the same—take a look at some variants: Affective Conflict
00:02:23 Substantive Conflict
00:02:45 Conflict of Interest
00:03:02 Retributive Conflict
00:03:19 Conflict in Values
00:03:33 Goal Conflict
00:03:39 Displaced Conflict
00:04:29 The Thomas Kilmann Model
00:05:34 1. Competing
00:06:22 2. Avoiding
00:07:17 3. Accommodating
00:08:01 4. Collaboration
00:08:48 5. Compromising
00:09:36 VOMP
00:09:58 Ventilation
00:10:48 Ownership
00:11:53 Moccasins
00:12:20 Plan
00:14:24 Uh Oh—We Talked and There’s Still Conflict
00:15:21 How to Master High-Stakes Discussions and Stabilize Intense Emotions
00:19:17 How to Navigate a Crucial Conversation
• Conflict is inevitable whenever people differ, but it can be managed with grace and tact. Try to understand the type of conflict: affective, substantive, conflict of interest, retributive, conflict in values, goal conflict, or displaced conflict from somewhere else.
• According to the Thomas Kilmann model, people come into conflict simply because they have different ideas, values, motivations, or wants. There are five conflict-resolution strategies according to degree of empathy and assertiveness: competing, avoiding, accommodating, collaborating, and compromising. Each has pros and cons and is best used in specific circumstances. Compromising (medium assertiveness and medium empathy) is usually a good bet all around.
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