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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.
You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
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Marriage 911! What's your emergency?
My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us?
As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30)
Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54)
It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17)
Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21)
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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.
You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
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Marriage 911! What's your emergency?
“The thrill is gone!”
“I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.”
“We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.”
If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43)
Make your love life your hobby (06:13)
Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28)
Big change only happens when we take action (10:27)
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Register now for Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Relationship Reboot couples workshop on Zoom - Saturday April 13th 10-1 Pacific time HERE
This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.
You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
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Marriage 911! What's your emergency?
Dr. Cheryl, HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?
Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating (02:18)
An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know (03:29)
All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes (06:49)
No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner (09:40)
Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope (10:33)
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Let’s Connect!
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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.
You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!
Marriage 911! What's your emergency?
So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language (04:09)
Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive (04:37)
Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships (06:58)
Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize! (07:38)
Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!
Let’s Connect!
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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! If you want to be the first to know when registration opens make sure you get on the VIP waitlist HERE.
You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.
Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!
Marriage 911! What's your emergency?
Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is, every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common (04:44)
Complacency can ruin a relationship (05:06)
Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple (06:34)
50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed (07:22)
Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!
Let’s Connect!
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“Dr. Cheryl, HELP! My life is absolutely miserable!”
“Is micromanagement making me depressed?”
“How can I stop myself from playing worst-case scenarios out in my mind?”
Does it ever feel like your state of mind is completely out of your control? Like you're lost at Grand Central Station and you can’t find your way? Like you can’t read the signs and you’re wandering aimlessly, trying to board any old train you can find? Sometimes, as it turns out, you’ve unknowingly hopped aboard the Anger train, or the “I-Want-a-Divorce” train, or the “I-Don’t-Know-What-I'm-Going-to-Do-Next” train.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part three of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.
Tune in and hear my teachings about how you are actually responsible for your mood and for your feelings. That means that if you're miserable, it’s time to get on a different train.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
It's exhausting to micromanage your life (06:22)
Stop wanting things to be perfect all the time—it’s making you miserable (09:27)
We don't know what’ll happen tomorrow… and whatever happens, we'll be okay (27:24)
When you're reacting to other people's needs, you're never on balance (33:55)
If you’re willing to experience loneliness, you can discover connection everywhere (40:50)
Post physical reminders to show yourself compassion (46:43)
Interested in finding out more about Dr. Cheryl’s Dharma teaching? Check out IslandDharma.com for more info.
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, why am I always so harsh on myself?”
“How can I learn to give myself grace?”
“Why does it feel like I’m the only one given such a crappy lot?”
Do you believe that you count, too? The more kindly and compassionately we treat ourselves, the more our hearts and our minds are freed up to be kinder and more compassionate to our partners. It allows us to build better relationships, be kinder to our work family, our home family, and be kinder to the world.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features part two of a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.
Tune in and hear my teachings about what it is that moves us to care about ourselves, our relationships, our kindness, and our compassion… And I hope that will illuminate you to the idea that kindness begins at home.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
You, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your own love and affection (04:42)
Compassion is not defined as “feel better” (09:37)
Change because you care about yourself, not because you think you should (15:00)
We forget that other people suffer too, which can make us feel very, very alone (18:29)
In our culture, self esteem rests on a bit of a shaky foundation (29:52)
The opposite of kindness is blame, criticism, lack of wisdom, self hatred, anger, guilt, shame… (41:21)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to give myself a break?”
“Why can’t I help but be nasty to my partner?”
“What can I do to live a more compassionate life?”
How kind are you to your romantic partner? How kind are you to yourself? In our high stress, high activity lives, we can lose sight of the thing that matters the most: compassion for ourselves, for others, for our partner, our family, our friends, and even for strangers.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a talk I gave in December at a three day self compassion meditation and Buddhism retreat.
Tune in and hear my teachings on being with things as they are, being kind to ourselves, and realizing that happiness is right here, right now.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The popularity and fortune that our culture says will make us happy rarely does (09:48)
Happiness is fragile when it's dependent on something outside ourselves (11:38)
Your circumstances don't determine your happiness (25:46)
Work on being happy and free from suffering first, then work on the circumstances second (27:22)
Anger is often a secondary emotion and underneath it is either pain or fear (46:20)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Our sex life is suffering because of my own self image—help!”
“How can I learn to stick with my goals?”
“What’s the secret to being the best version of me for my sweetheart?”
When you think of eating healthy, regular exercise, being intimate with your partner… Are these things you derive pleasure from? Or are these all tasks you check off a list out of a sense of duty? It’s no big secret: if you enjoy something, you’re more likely to stick with it—so why do so many of us seem to forget that simple fact?
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m welcoming my new friend Oonagh Duncan, an inspiring health habit coach who is dedicated to making fitness pleasurable. Oonagh and I talk about the importance of staying healthy for your mate, her journey from overweight smoker to health guru, and why the 80/20 rule is so crucial for long term success.
Interested in joining Oonagh for her 28 day transformation program? Click here to join with a special discount just for SLE listeners!
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
Oonagh and her husband included staying healthy for one another in their wedding vows (02:33)
Choosing to be healthy doesn’t mean never having a glass of wine again (07:32)
If you're trying to build a new habit, you need a very specific trigger that's going to set off that habit (23:17)
The key to long term fitness is making your habits consistent and pleasurable (27:21)
Getting adequate sleep is one of the most important habits you can cultivate (31:30)
There is so much power in solidifying your identity as a person with healthy habits (40:41)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I improve my relationship?”
“All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?”
“How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?”
Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power.
Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one?
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships (06:23)
We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase (11:35)
Thrill needs to be cultivated (15:51)
We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose (21:33)
Today’s LoveByte (24:29)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, is there really a way to make Valentine’s Day special?”
“I have nothing but bad memories around VDay, how can I change that?”
“Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?”
Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.
February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of very bad chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person (01:20)
Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting (06:52)
First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (08:08)
Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate (13:31)
Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love (15:40)
Today’s LoveByte (19:10)
Did you and your Valentine pay it forward to another couple? We want to hear about it! Email your photos or story to [email protected] for a chance to win a prize.
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?”
“Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?”
“How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?”
Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2024 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.
Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36)
You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10)
If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51)
Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55)
Today’s LoveByte (14:44)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?”
“Why has the heat left our sex life?”
“How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?”
Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the spice back to the bedroom in your long term relationship.
Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body?
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49)
Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09)
Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11)
Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50)
Today’s LoveByte (17:36)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”
“How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?”
“Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!”
It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2024 and beyond.
When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40)
Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38)
Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38)
A great relationship is about taking action (11:16)
Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09)
Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18)
Today’s LoveByte (18:56)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
If you have 4 dates with your partner in the next month and send us proof, we'll send you a prize! Just email [email protected].
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“But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?”
If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag.
When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00)
One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38)
To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40)
When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28)
We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30)
Today’s LoveByte (21:09)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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“Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”
“Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”
“Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?”
These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back.
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year.
I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43)
The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15)
Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55)
Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51)
Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37)
Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11)
Today’s LoveByte (21:55)
Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.
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When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can definitely feel like failing… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance?
On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into 2024.
Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?
Some questions I ask in this episode:
One year from now…
How do you want to feel about your relationship?
What would success feel like? What would it look like?
What are you doing better?
How have you improved? In what ways?
Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?
Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way?
How do you want to feel?
What do you want to be?
Who do you want to be in your relationship?
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We all know the story of Scrooge and the visits he received on Christmas Eve—but have you ever stopped to realize that you’re acting a little like old Scrooge yourself? Maybe you’re a Scrooge to your sweetheart when you're under holiday stress… Are you bickering? Are you fighting? Are you blaming?
In celebration of Christmas, this week and next I’m giving you a double dose of my Dharma Talks. Tune into today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants for your front row seat.
Tune in and learn how Dickens’ classic A Christmas Carol still holds relevant lessons in today’s world and how we can use them to explore our mindset.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
Reasons are not excuses (14:08)
We can all redo, remake, regret, forgive, and begin again (20:40)
No matter what religion you follow, the ugliness of the human mind and psyche is universally greed and ignorance and aversion (32:48)
We have the opportunity every morning to wake up and lead with heart and generosity (42:51)
More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)
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As a kid, I had magical, picture perfect Christmases. The stockings by the fire, the gifts beneath the tree, and a beautiful, loving family to make it all warm and incredibly special… But the next day? I was in a world of disappointment, depression, and despair because I could never cope with the fact that everything was suddenly over. I was clinging to the past.
Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants is a front row seat to one of my holiday Dharma Talks.
Tune in and learn how we still have lessons to learn from Santa Claus and the Grinch—even as adults.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
Every time you think you've found the one who's gonna keep you happily ever after, it’s a variation on the Santa Claus effect (08:16)
The true heart is inside and whether all our beautiful things are there to share with people we love or none of our things are there we can still share what matters (23:41)
It's not about stuff, It's not about winning, it’s about love. It's about the light of compassion, kindness, community, and generosity (25:26)
Every time we love anything, we're going to hurt (32:15)
More often than not, we're simply ignorant—we forget to remember to give, we forget to remember to judge less and love more (45:11)
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This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence?
On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.
Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in St. Nick?
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)
It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00)
If you've got little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34)
If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking. You can individually wrap each thing—even try a treasure hunt and hide gifts around the house (13:52)
Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08)
Today’s LoveByte (25:52)
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