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  • We all know that children lie sometimes.

    But - when our OWN child lies - it can feel hard not to get triggered.

    "I told them I want the truth"
    "I'm raising a liar"
    "Why is my child so deceitful?"

    In this episode I share 3 perspectives about lying - that can help you hopefully stay a little more grounded when you respond to your child. And actionable strategies to help your child to tell the truth.

    You might want to share this one with a friend or your partner







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  • There is that fine line that we can cross as parents when what our child does or says provokes us. It is that line that line that denotes that we are dealing with and talking to our child - and not another adult.
    We modify our language
    We dial down the volume
    We engage in less threatening body language.


    After all, we are talking to a child, right!?

    But most parents will recognise that once the surge of cortisol and adrenalin rushes through the blood and gears you up for fight or flight, it can feel hard to think straight. To get the thinking brain back online again.

    In this primal state - we can come off as scary to our children.

    And it is in those, less rosy parenting moments, that our own inner critic has a field day;

    "I am not a good parent"
    "No one else would behave like that"
    "I need so much therapy"

    These are human moments that most parents will encounter - but that few will talk about. And maybe, it feels like there's no alternative to the immediate reaction.
    No stop button to push once the train has left the station.


    Oscar Van Rooij and I are exploring what happens in these difficult parenting moments, and what we can do to begin to regulate ourselves and recognise the signs that we are heading into the red zone.

    This might be just what you needed to hear



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  • The thing that we most yearn for is to feel connected and that we matter to each other.
    But why is then, that we often prioritise the laundry, packing the bag for the next day and emptying the dishwasher over spending time with our partner?

    And what is the cost of living this way?

    I asked someone who really knows about the importance of relationships. Catherine Topham Sly - BACP accredited couples relationship therapist and transformation coach is worth a follow on social media where she shares her wisdom in little nuggets that make you feel seen, heard and empowered to tackle the ups and downs of our relationship.


    We explored:

    how we can have relationship conversations without saying; "we need to talk" how we might be able to tell that we are feeling disconnected in our relationship and how this affects the whole familywhat we can do to create more connection and why our relationship dissatisfaction doesn't change by wanting our partner to do more.


    You can access Catherine's work here:

    https://insightconnection.uk/
    https://www.instagram.com/insightandconnection/

    And retrieve her free downloadable question prompts to boost connection:
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  • All too often, the children's school break is anything but a break for us parents.
    It feels more like an addition of work and chores -or more of everything; conflict, connection, tears and joy.

    Intense togetherness with our family highlights one thing; our ability to have our own needs met when we're surrounded by little people and partner's with needs too.

    Experienced health coach, Sarah Stannard is my guest in this episode and she shares her top tips for getting us mentally and physically ready for week ahead.

    Sarah is a big believer in preparation and scheduling.
    And it makes perfect sense - because how often do we find ourselves with a spare hour to spend on ourselves - unless we put our own needs on the family's agenda too.

    Sarah Stannard's private practice is based in Chertsey, Surrey.

    She delivers regular corporate wellness events, and consult for both Surrey County Council on their “be your best” program for children in Surrey and Healthier Weight UK and The Weight Loss Clinic. On a monthly basis.
    She also produces health and wellness articles for numerous publications and her work has been featured in The Global Women Magazine, Women’s Own and on BBC Radio Surrey/Sussex.

    You can get in touch with Sarah for private sessions or if you'd like to get her free hormone balancing information packet right here:

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-stannard-77018b22/

    www.sarahstannard.com

    or email her on:
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  • Can you actually change your mind without loosing your child's respect?

    When your child has asked you for a snack and you've said no - but you realise that your child might be more hungry than you thought or you just don't have it in you that day to tow the line

    or

    When you cancelled the birthday party your child was looking forward to going to - in a fit of frustration

    Can you actually change your mind without being seen as permissive?

    Many of us WANT to - but feel bad about doing so.
    Consistency is key after all.

    I'm here to tell you - you can!
    But HOW you do so matters greatly.

    In this episode I walk you through the do's and don'ts - and a powerful question to ask yourself before you change your no to a yes.


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  • Have you ever felt that everyone else's feelings and needs take precedence over your own?
    That you are so quick to tune into the needs of those around you, that you figure you'll come back to you when you have enough time.. only that time never comes?

    That's called parenting.

    But it need not be this way. Because it benefits no one.

    It is when we start our day on the backfoot in this way, that a morning tantrum, lateness or a forgotten bag throws us and sees us reacting in ways that we spend hours forgiving ourselves for once we've parted ways with our family.


    In this episode I'm sharing with you my most powerful morning ritual - one that you can refer to anytime of day - but is particularly useful to practice before you lean into your day.

    It takes less than 10 minutes but you reap the benefits throughout the day.

    This episode is one you might want to save and come back to time and time again


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  • Few things can feel more upsetting than to part ways with our child at the school/ nursery gate, following a morning of chaos, tears and tantrums.

    How do we get children to cooperate with us in the morning without the use of threats, yelling and defiance?

    My wonderful guest in this episode is Angeliki, mum of 2 and a mum I have had the pleasure of working with over the past 3 years.

    Angeliki's biggest frustration at the moment, is instilling independence in her 8 year old daughter - who currently only gets herself ready in the morning if her parents physically dress her.

    Angeliki wonders if there is an alternative that she hasn't yet discovered?
    Whether independence will ever be achieved if they add as much help as she seems to need right now?


    This conversation is for you if you recognise some of these thoughts and you can be sure you to walk away much clearer on what fosters cooperation and what promotes independence in children.


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  • Nothing like a little sprinkle of doomsday picture to motivate our child, right?!

    In this episode we dive into 5 common ways that we drain our own energy as parents and inspire fear, limiting beliefs and insecurity in our children.

    We also look at our obsessive focus on the British weather and using our child's difficult moment as a teachable situation - rarely feels effective.

    Finish the year a little clearer on what you might unintentionally pass on - so that you can show up more intentional.


    I can't wait to connect with you again in 2024
    Thank you so much for listening

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  • What is it actually like to be a teen?

    Of course we can ask ourselves what it felt like.
    But then again - it's a while ago AND we didn't live in the age of social media, mobile phones and a global pandemic.

    I have had the privilege of sitting down with three young women, - 19, 20 and 22 - to explore

    What it FELT like being that ageHow their change in mood, hormones and interests impacted on their relationships to their parentsWhat they felt about their parents boundaries What they wish their parents had trusted about themWhat parents can do to stay connected during the tween/ teen phase.


    This is SUCH a brilliant listen because these three girls are so good at reflecting and communicating their experiences.

    If you are a parent in this season of life - this one is for you

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  • Adolescence doesn't have a good rep.

    When your children approach this age, well-meaning parents who've been through this period themselves, will 'wish you luck' - and your parents might have jokingly prophesied that your karmic lesson will be taught during this time.

    Rather than softening our critical gaze, and embracing the word 'grace' these ways of talking about raising teens and tweens - make us want to amour up - ready for battle.


    Oscar van Rooij is back, this time talking about a topic that is close to home for the both of us. The gear that we are having to change in our parenting, when raising tweens and teens.

    We talk about:

    need for privacyrude and sassy attitudeembarrassment laziness


    And.. perhaps most importantly - what we can do to support our children AND our own future - during this time.


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  • As if parenting wasn't hard enough.

    The way we show up in relation to our partner and the role we inhabit in our family's dynamic - can be really tricky.

    Oscar Van Rooij is back - and we are exploring how the feminine and masculine energy that exists inside all of us, often take on new forms when we become parents and the to-do lists pile up and the mental load increases.

    This episode is for all mums and dads who sometimes feel stuck in roles that they didn't feel they signed up for in the family, and who wish to understand better the differences between the male and female mind.


    Oscar Van Rooij is a Dutch motivational speaker and coach, residing in the UK. Oscar runs online courses, offers free master classes and shares his brilliant work through 1:1 sessions online.

    You can get in touch with him here:
    https://oscarvanrooij.com/


    SHOW NOTES:

    The YouTube clip referred to in this episode can be found here:

    https://youtu.be/29JPnJSmDs0?si=GO-SAT5n1r_N2hFN

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  • What does it mean to be a good parent?
    In most other areas of life we are able to rate our progress, score ourselves and determine whether we are good, below average or whether we are acing it.

    And then there's parenting.
    If we look at our children's behaviours to tell us whether we're good parents - we're most likely going to get a different score every day.

    No - we need to often look at other things that BEHAVIOUR.

    I share, in this episode, 3 things that might surprise you - that reassure me as a mum and maybe after listening to this, you feel a little better about yourself as a parent.

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  • Before I became a parent I looked at other parents and thought;

    Parenting is all about getting good at the practical stuff;

    CookingPlanningOrganising

    And of course, setting boundaries so that the children can be tolerable for other people.

    Some of us become so well versed at the practical sides of parenting, never missing an appointment, never sending our children out into the world with dirty hands, unkempt hair or creased clothes - that we overlook - possibly THE most important parenting skill of all.

    In this episode I share what I see as the most important parenting quality - and ways that we can begin to grow that muscle WHILE taking care of the million practical things that relate to being a mum or dad.

    To learn more about the wonderful
    WALK AND TALK - parenting program - please visit:
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    or contact me on;
    [email protected] to book your free 20 minute discovery call


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  • Why do we feel so hard done by when our children don't comply or when our partner fails to meet our needs?
    In this episode, Oscar van Rooij shares:

    The reason we feel life or other people are against usWhat meeting our own needs has to do with our ability to feel differentlyHow we can become more okay with 'what is' - even if it is not what we prefer.

    Oscar van Rooij is a passionate coach, speaker and facilitator and committed to sharing the brilliant work of Tony Robbins. Oscar is Dutch, a dad of 2 and lives in the UK where he coaches in person and remotely. And if you'd like to get in touch with him, you can find him on:

    www.oscarvanrooij.com

    Instagram:
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  • We continue looking at the unique dynamic that exists between siblings.
    Now that we have established that we can safely take a step back in a lot of our children's daily squabbles - there is something that we DO need to pay attention to as parents.

    The red flags that warrant our interference are important to know about so that our children feel that it is safe to take off their armour when they return home from being in the world with a brave face.

    This episode talks about boundaries, values and shame.

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  • One minute they laugh and share and you feel like you've succeeded as a parent. The next moment they are at each other's throat and you despair; "What's causing all this fighting"?

    Love and hate, peace and war, tears and laughter - are all part of the sibling relationship dynamic and we have got to hold on tight to not get swept up in the daily storms.

    There are 3 things that can massively help us and our children to get on better and I have shared these top 3 tips in this episode, available for you whether you are currently at your wits end or simply wish to understand what might help you in moments of need.



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  • We can always insist that our child says 'sorry' but we can never control whether our child's apology is sincere.

    How do we ensure that our children learn to apologise when in the wrong?
    And how come it feels so difficult for one of our children to admit to any wrong doings, while for another child they rush to reconnect and rebuild relationship?

    In this episode we look at the 'GOOD APOLOGY' and the 4 ways that we so easily mess up an apology with an excuse.

    As parents, we are going to have to be willing to lead the way .. and be patient.
    The road to this ability is through a commitment to the act of 'repair'.

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  • Few things can feel as confronting as when the people closest to you share their thoughts on your parenting or on your child's behaviour.

    Our survival strategies come out:

    - Push back and defend
    - Shrink and hide
    - Increase perfectionism


    We all have a preferred strategy that helps us when we feel overcome by shame.

    In this episode, we continue to look at the resilience skills that we can hone in order to be able to cope with more heat - without tapping out.


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  • When was the last time you played offence in your own life?

    - Said yes to something that made you feel nervous?
    - Followed your gut instinct around care of your child, although it veered from what - your friends were doing?
    - Dared disappoint someone else so as to not disappoint yourself?


    The more we can work up the capacity to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings that follow when we lean into courage or choose to live from our values rather than what is expected from us - the better we can show our children to do the same.

    In this episode I share how this is playing out for me at the moment and delve into the 7 behaviours that make up resilience - and that I lean on at the moment to avoid running back to safety.



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  • Ever wondered why other people are so annoying or inconsiderate - and why your children take you for granted?

    There's more to other people's unwanted behaviours than meets the eye - and I do a quick dive into the human phenomenon that we all fall prey to in relationships.
    The fundamental attribution error!

    Let me share with you my top tip to improving your relationships instantly.

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