To kick off Black History Month, we are visiting with a New York Times bestselling author. You may remember her from Episode 58, way back in 2016. She was here to promote her first book, and today, she’s telling us about her second book. The book is available for preorder, and it’s required reading for any dream chaser. Join us!
Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and podcast host who thrives at the intersection of comedy, media, and justice. Her debut book, https://amzn.to/2L4nPIG (I’M JUDGING YOU: The Do-Better Manual), was released to critical acclaim, hitting the New York Times bestselling list at #5. She’s an internationally recognized speaker who takes on dozens of stages every year around the globe, and she has spoken at some of the world's most innovative companies and conferences, including Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Twitter. Her TEDtalk, “Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable,” has over 5.5 million views! Her new book, Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual, drops March 2, 2021, and is available for preorder at http://www.professionaltroublemakerbook.com (www.professionaltroublemakerbook.com).
Ordinary people, extraordinary things
Who is a hero that you’re tempted to put up on a pedestal? Luvvie doesn’t want to be put on a pedestal. Even though we tend to view people with platforms as heroes, we have to realize that they went through the grind and the struggles to take their journey. People on pedestals are set up for failure because they WILL get tired and fall. Even our heroes are flawed individuals who are learning and growing along the way. Luvvie wants everyone to know that she’s a regular person, just like everyone else. It takes constant work to maintain a platform of influence and be an ordinary person doing extraordinary things.
TWEET: Even our heroes are flawed individuals who are learning and growing along the way. @luvvie #chasingdreams
Would you ever vacation alone? You’ll probably say NO, but Luvvie urges you to reconsider that viewpoint. As her 30th birthday approached, she wanted to go on vacation but realized it was too late for any of her friends to schedule a trip. She went alone to the Dominican Republic and had the time of her life. That same year, she visited several other countries all over the world--all by herself. She fully thrived in the freedom to make her own plans and choices each day without consulting anyone else. There are so few opportunities in life to do exactly what we want without having to consider and accommodate the wants and needs of other people. She says these solo vacations are a true gift she gave to herself that have changed her life. She’s learned that she doesn’t need the counsel and approval of other people to do what we need to in life. Why do we live our lives based on the opinions of others? Try a solo vacation if you need a new perspective on life!
TWEET: Don’t live your life based on the opinions of others. @luvvie #chasingdreams
“Too much, too loud, and too troublesome”
Are you a fear fighter? Luvvie wrote her second book to help those who need to know how to fight fear in their lives, which is an especially relevant topic for women. With blogging, writing, podcasting, and creating communities, Luvvie tries to establish what she needs because that means that others will find value there also. The concept of fear-fighting means we have to do scary things sometimes. Fear is a universal emotion, but we each feel like we are alone in our uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety. We need community to know that we are not alone. We need others to be “too much, too loud, and too troublesome” with us. Remember that it’s OK to stay scared and move forward with courage.
TWEET: Remember that it’s OK to stay scared and move forward with courage. @luvvie #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Write down your dreams. Whatever they are, write them down.”
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I’m excited to share the inspirational story of someone who is the epitome of a dream chaser. At age 70, my mother is still going strong, staying busy, and enjoying happiness in her new role. I hope you’ll join us to hear her story.
Ammini Aunty (Saramma/Sara) was a nurse in Baltimore for 40 years after her childhood in Kerala and Mumbai, India. During her nursing career, she welcomed every opportunity to teach nurses and nursing students because teaching has always been her natural gift. When her children asked her to capture her knowledge and passion for cooking for them and her grandchildren, Ammini Aunty knew she could do it, thanks to her love for teaching and orienting others. As people watch her cooking show, she encourages them to ask questions so they can learn and be successful in their cooking endeavors. She believes that a love and passion for cooking and learning can help anyone become a great cook. Ammini Aunty says, “If you put your mind to it, you can do it.” With this mantra in mind, “A Pinch of Kerala” was developed to share her love for cooking with others.
Why a cooking show?
Do you love sharing your passion with others? Ammini Aunty loved teaching other nurses during her long career, but now, in retirement, she loves sharing her passion for cooking with the world. She loves being in the kitchen, always experimenting and trying new things. Chicken, for instance, can be cooked in so many ways, so she loves watching cooking shows, learning new recipes, and trying them out on her family. She cooks for family, friends, and neighbors and anxiously awaits their feedback and approval. It’s her passion for food and cooking that keep her going strong and enjoying life at age 70, even in the middle of a pandemic. Cooking for people is definitely her “love language.” If you ever visit Ammini Aunty’s house, don’t be surprised to be brought into the kitchen to peel ginger or grate coconut because that is just her way of doing things.
TWEET: Cooking for people is definitely Ammini Aunty’s love language! @apinchofkerala #chasingdreams
“No one is born a chef”
How are your kitchen skills? Ammini Aunty is of the firm opinion that anyone can learn to cook. When her daughters were in college, they often brought friends home who wanted to learn to make things like chicken curry or fried rice. Ammini insisted that everything is made from scratch, so she would make them follow each step in cutting up the raw chicken, chopping fresh vegetables, and adding spices. One important step in cooking is tasting as you go, to make sure the flavors are right! She loves imparting her knowledge to others and teaching them to do something new. She says that no one is born a chef, but we can all learn cooking skills by practicing.
TWEET: No one is born a chef, but we can all learn cooking skills by practicing. @apinchofkerala #chasingdreams
“We are meeting a need”
How have you kept busy during the pandemic? It may sound crazy that a 70-year-old retired nurse started a cooking show from her kitchen during the COVID-19 pandemic. At the urging of her daughters, Ammini Aunty began recording cooking videos last April for “A Pinch of Kerala.” She sees the value in what she does in helping people learn to cook and try new things in the kitchen. At the end of 2020, her daughters asked if she wanted to keep doing the show. She replied, “Of course I want to keep going; we are meeting a need that people have.” She knows that her cooking videos are preserving something for the following generations to see. Because of the joy and newfound purpose in her life, Ammini Aunty plans to continue her show, and she has big plans for a handbook and cookbook-- later in 2021!
TWEET: Ammini Aunty knows that her cooking videos are preserving something for the following generations to see. @apinchofkerala #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”There is no age limit on chasing your dreams. Follow your passion.”
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Welcome to 2021! It promises to be a wild ride! If 2020 left you feeling less than successful in your dream chase, then you can’t miss today’s show!I’m claiming 2021 as my own. I’m listing ten things I’m doing to make that happen. You can follow these steps as I count them down to make YOUR 2021 a year of progress and accomplishment.Top Ten Ways to Claim 2021 for yourself:10- Decide for yourself what you want in life.TWEET: I was conditioned by my culture to go in directions that didn’t fulfill me. Don’t be like I was. #chasingdreams9- Visualize your dreams and goals.TWEET: Plan out what you want to see and when you want to see it happen. #chasingdreams8- Step outside your comfort zone.TWEET: Don’t live in fear, but open up to new possibilities. #chasingdreams7- Create SMART goals for yourself.TWEET: SMART goals are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-based. #chasingdreams6- Identify your reason and your WHY.TWEET: Your WHY is your motivator, fuel, and your reason to keep going. #chasingdreams5- Practice an attitude of gratitude.TWEET: Gratitude will change your outlook to focus on the positives. #chasingdreams4- Find your accountability support group.TWEET: Get a coach or mentor, or find like-minded people who will support you. #chasingdreams3- Be intentional.TWEET: This is my theme for 2021; it’s about the dream chase and its progress. #chasingdreams2- Value progress over perfection.TWEET: Take the first step; don’t wait for things to be perfect. #chasingdreams1- Take action.TWEET: Make choices that align with your goals. #chasingdreams OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[2:18] Make your own decisions[4:29] Visualize your dreams and goals[5:40] Step outside your comfort zone[7:25] Write down your SMART goals[8:57] Identify your reason and WHY[10:20] Practice an attitude of gratitude[11:18] Find your accountability support group[12:34] Be intentional[14:30] Value progress over perfection[16:34] Take actionRESOURCES MENTIONED:My https://www.facebook.com/aimeej21 (Facebook)My https://twitter.com/aimeej21 (Twitter)My https://instagram.com/aimeej21 (Instagram)My https://linkedin.com/in/aimeej21 (LinkedIn)https://youtu.be/ydreW2EYJGc (Watch the Episode on YouTube)TWEETS YOU CAN USE:You have to decide what you want and not rely on what other people tell you. #chasingdreamsStepping outside your comfort zone gives you more options. #chasingdreamsTo align my goals, I have to say NO to some things. #chasingdreamshttps://youtu.be/ydreW2EYJGc
Today’s show is a special solo episode. Since it’s the only show for December, we are looking back at 2020, which was an unprecedented year. I feel like the year began with such promise and hope in the hearts of so many people, but it came in disrespectfully--and it seems to be heading out in much the same way. The problems of 2020 aren’t over, and we’re learning to make adjustments and accept that we are living with a new normal. Let’s spend time reflecting together!2020--The year of the pivotHave you found yourself making big changes in your plans and dreams for 2020? Like me, you may have begun the year with grand plans to travel, celebrate milestones, and start new endeavors. Just a few weeks into the year, we were told to stay inside and socially distance ourselves from others. Weeks turned into months, and here we are, watching 2020 on its way out. Masks have become a debatable issue that has somehow turned political. Businesses and schools had to pivot and change their operations in unimaginable ways. It is, indeed, the year of the pivot--and not the kind of pivot anyone expected or wanted. The economy spiraled downward as countless numbers of people lost their jobs and homes. The difficulties have been unparalleled for many families.TWEET: 2020 is the year of the pivot, and not the kind of pivot anyone expected or wanted. #chasingdreamsPeople need peopleIs it easy for you to admit that you need other people? Many of us like to think we can “go it alone” through life, but the truth is that we need others so much more than we might think. It’s hard to draw strength, support, encouragement from others when we’re socially distant. It seems like just maintaining our sanity has counted as success in 2020. All around the world, people were (and are) facing difficult situations. The key is to change our perspective, which is one of the only things we can control. Besides dealing with the pandemic, we’ve lost many iconic individuals in ways that are hard to understand, like Kobe Bryant, John Lewis, and RBG, to name just a few. “2020” will forever be a descriptor of hard things that aren’t easy to understand. Life became a new normal for many of us, and we didn’t invite it, expect it, or desire it.TWEET: Changing our perspective is one of the only things we can control. #chasingdreamsBe grateful--and step out of your comfort zone!Has 2020 caused you to take a more appreciative view of what you have? It’s important to acknowledge what you have and be grateful for those things. 2020 has forced us to take a new look at what’s really important in our lives. As we reflect on this difficult year, it’s important to have a spirit of gratitude for the blessings we have. I was forced to evaluate what I was doing in my life and make some changes for sustainability. This included selling some items to build efficiency and improve the processes I use for podcasting. I’ve had to step outside my comfort zone as a podcaster and learn to livestream. Staying in your comfort zone means that new and exciting things aren’t happening, so challenge yourself and step out! As we say goodbye to 2020, I urge you to take time to evaluate the areas of life; are you happy with how things are going? Remember, it’s never too late to make changes and do things differently.TWEET: Staying in your comfort zone means that new and exciting things aren’t happening, so challenge yourself and step out! #chasingdreamsOUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[2:00] 2020’s beginning[3:55] The year of the pivot[4:24] People need people[6:24] The new normal[8:45] My mom’s big pivot[11:50] Acknowledge the things you have[13:12] My life with its changes and pivots[21:00] What can you change?RESOURCES MENTIONED:My https://www.facebook.com/aimeej21 (Facebook)My https://twitter.com/aimeej21 (Twitter)My https://instagram.com/aimeej21 (Instagram)My https://linkedin.com/in/aimeej21 (LinkedIn)...
Today, my guest shares her inspiring story about what helped her turn things around in life to manifest her dreams. She shares nuggets of wisdom and practical techniques that can help you move forward in your dream chase. Join us!Heather Hakes is a mindset coach, speaker, and author of https://amzn.to/3pHkMWa (Take the Leap). She has been featured on numerous podcasts and published in Voyage Denver and Women Who Empower and Inspire. Heather has reached tens of thousands through her international podcast, Mind Over Matter.Heather specializes in helping others get out of their own way by awakening their infinite potential to create their ideal life. Heather is a graduate of Tony Robbins’ Mastery University and Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass. She also studies Eckhart Tolle, Bob Proctor, and Robin Sharma’s principles of presence, shifting paradigms, and personal mastery. Heather manifested six-figures after taking the leap to quit the corporate world by aligning with her true passion and purpose and is now on a mission to help others overcome self-doubt through her transformative coaching programs, retreats, and courses.Following society’s rulesHow likely are you to follow the “rules” that society sets for you? Heather admits that she was caught in this trap for a long time. She followed society’s rules in getting her degree and moving into the corporate world. For over a decade, Heather felt out of place, like she was chasing someone else’s dream. She remembers complaining to her parents about what she was doing while dreading every single Monday and cheering every single Friday for week after week. Climbing the corporate ladder left her feeling miserable about her job and her life. She finally clarified what she really wanted in life with the help of a coach.TWEET: Stop chasing someone else’s dream. @heather.hakes #chasingdreamsA moment of pivotWhat is it that you need to pivot from right now? Pivoting away from what you’ve known is not an easy thing to do. For Heather, it meant leaving the safety and security of a corporate job with a steady and sufficient paycheck. She had felt the gnawing inside of her for a long time as it told her to make a change. Her message to others is not to wait until you’re “ready” and everything is aligned because those moments may never come. You just have to jump first and let the net appear. Heather made the leap, even though it meant facing the worst-case scenario with fear and hesitation. We all need to realize that our story is a journey and a process---and not a destination.TWEET: Don’t wait until you’re “ready” and everything is aligned to make a change because those moments may never come. @heather.hakes #chasingdreamsCreating a pathWhat do you do when the traditional path isn’t available or clear? Heather says to find a mentor when your circumstances change and you can’t see clearly the path ahead. Look for someone who is where you want to be or a few steps ahead of you. They can help you create clarity and formulate a roadmap forward. Be resourceful and find an “accountabili-buddy.” There are coaches, mentors, and peers who will help you if you just ask; they can be great resources to help you move forward with an attitude of gratitude for your journey and what you learn along the way.TWEET: Look for a mentor who is where you want to be or is a few steps ahead of you. @heather.hakes #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream-chaser to take--”Take one step in front of the other. Don’t look too far down the road. Try my technique for identifying specific goals: know your WHAT, be super specific about your strong WHYS, and take your first step.”OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[:32] Young Heather’s dreams [1:05] How Heather incorporated teaching into her work [2:15] Following society’s convention[3:58] Benefits to being curious[7:07] Heather’s moment of pivot[11:03] Why Heather has no regrets about her decision
Today’s show might be exactly what you need. You’re in for the inspiring story of a woman who defied the odds and never gave up on her dream. She’s got gold nuggets of wisdom about believing in yourself and becoming your biggest advocate. Join us!Kate Garnes is a motivational speaker, choreographer, actor, and podcaster. She travels the country to speak, especially to teenagers. Kate uses her story of being told she was never good enough to go on to become a performer at Walt Disney World. She’s gone on to become a gladiator, not because anyone saved her, but because she learned how to save herself. Kate is the author of https://amzn.to/32kdRYR (Mixtape: How to Stop Listening to the Recordings of Your Past). Big dreams Have you dared to dream “big dreams”? From the time she was very young, Kate’s dreams and plans were to be a singer. She planned every step in her life around that dream but overhearing a chance conversation between her parents one day sent her the clear message that she wasn’t good enough. Through high school and college, Kate dabbled in various endeavors because she wasn’t sure what to do with her life. She soon auditioned at Walt Disney World and became a character performer for ten years. At age 28, her dream shifted to becoming a motivational speaker, which is what she does today. It’s a career that she loves and one that fulfills her in ways she could have never imagined. Today, Kate instructs teens on how to be their own biggest advocate and not their biggest critic in dreaming big and fighting to make those dreams come true. TWEET: Be your own biggest advocate in dreaming big to make your dreams come true. @kategarneslive #chasingdreamsBelieving the lieDo you worry about what other people think about you? Most of us spend way too much time caring about what others think of us and our dreams. Part of the problem in believing in ourselves and chasing our dreams is that we believe the lie that everyone else knows more than we do. It’s the reason we let their words have such a strong influence over us. The truth is that other people don’t notice or think about us nearly as much as we think they do. Why do we give other people such power over us? Kate says we let their words determine our value and squelch our dreams. Why?TWEET: Stop giving other people power over you. @kategarneslive #chasingdreamsDetox your lifeDoes your life need a detox? Think about the podcasts, TV shows, movies, and friends that you have in your life. It’s an important principle that we will live out what we are consuming. An important step in chasing your dreams and realizing your worth is to detox your life from things you need to leave behind. There are movies and TV shows that you need to leave behind. There are friends who are full of negativity and criticism that we need to leave behind. Detoxing your life of negativity will leave more room for positive energy. Kate explains why we all need friends who are willing to “get in the mud” with us. TWEET: Detox your life from things you need to leave behind. @kategarneslive #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Start asking questions. Ask as many questions as you know to ask, and if you run out, then ask some more. Listen to the voice inside you and give yourself permission to be the goddess, giant-slayer, adventurer, and hustler that you were created to be.”OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[:42] Young Kate’s dreams[3:03] Doing what she loves to do[4:47] Why kids struggle to dream[11:14] Being your advocate and putting in the work to be happy[15:49] Why we believe the LIE[17:36] How Kate found clarity at age 28[22:00] Advice from Kate[28:37] Detox your life and show yourself grace[31:27] It’s OK to walk away from a dream[37:52] Take care of yourself--and then help others[45:16] ONE action for a dream chaserRESOURCES MENTIONED:Kate’s https://www.facebook.com/kategarneslive (Facebook)
You are in for a treat with today’s guest and her unique story of resilience. Even though it took many years to make her childhood dreams come true, she found a way to make it happen despite overwhelming odds that were against her. She’s now enjoying success that she never saw coming--and the best is yet to come! Join us to learn more!
Lori Orlinsky is a multi-award-winning author who lives in Chicago. She is a member of the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators. An author with Mascot Books, Lori writes rhyming, lesson-based picture books that naturally lead to a discussion about important topics, such as bullying prevention and honesty. At just over five feet tall, she wishes her first book https://amzn.to/3krn88B (Being Small (Isn’t So Bad After All)) was around while she was growing up.
Fulfilling a lifelong dream
How long would you chase your dream before giving up? Lori knew as a young child that she wanted to write books. Even as a kid, she crafted construction paper “books” to tell her stories. She later prepared for the journey to writing children’s books by going to journalism school and writing in different capacities whenever she found opportunities. Her inspiration came from a specific incident with her oldest daughter being singled out as the shortest in her class. When Lori looked for children’s books about being small, she couldn’t find a single one! This was her inspiration to write https://amzn.to/3krn88B (Being Small (Isn’t So Bad After All)). Lori calls this event her “Aha moment” in the journey to chase her lifelong dream of being a writer. This is what it took to realize her dream was finding the personal passion for writing about a topic that impacted her family, along with realizing that the need existed for a book like hers. Lori’s book is for kids who feel singled out and slighted because of their small size, but it’s a book about bullying prevention at its core.
TWEET: Lori realized her dream was finding the personal passion for writing about a topic that impacted her family. @loriorlinskyauthor #chasingdreams
Continuing on the journey
How many “No’s” would it take to make you give up on your dream? Lori would give a big number to that question. After writing her book, it took about 200 tries to get it published, but she never gave up. Lori’s second book, https://amzn.to/34lrfgO (The Tooth Fairy’s Tummyache), was written in response to her struggle to teach her daughters the value of honesty. The story, with a main character named for her youngest daughter, concludes with an admonition to be honest and always tell the truth. The book has the fun silliness of a story with rhymes, but it teaches an important lesson in honesty, too. Lori believes that a fun story that teaches kids a valuable lesson is better than sitting down to have those difficult conversations about their behavior. Lori’s third book, Balloons for Tiger, is about the love we have for our pets and will be out in May 2021.
TWEET: It took Lori 200 tries to get her first book published. @loriorlinskyauthor #chasingdreams
The epitome of a dream chaser
Does your dream chase inspire others? You don’t have to look hard at Lori’s story to be inspired by her resilience. She NEVER gave up on her dream. She waited for inspiration to strike and the need to arise for each book she has written. She says, “The best books come out of the times in which we live and the things that we experience.” Her first book is still in demand, it’s still being reprinted, and she’s still connecting with parents and teachers about it--even during the COVID-19 pandemic. Whether writing or just being a mom, Lori is passionate about teaching kids to focus on the positive moments in life and not let negative moments define them.
TWEET: Lor waited for inspiration to strike and the need to arise for each book she has written. @loriorlinskyauthor #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Go back to your...
My guest today proves that you’re never “too far in” to make a pivot and chase your dreams. Even a dream job with a world-renowned company can leave you feeling unfulfilled if you aren’t living in the authenticity of what you were meant to do. Join us to hear her inspiring story.Lynnette Phillips is a passionate leader, certified LPS facilitator, speaker, author, and live-your-best-life enthusiast. Having worked almost two decades with the Walt Disney Company, one of the world’s most recognized brands, Lynnette combines the art of storytelling with the magic-making of hospitality. Through the years, Lynnette enhanced her practical experience at the Walt Disney World Resort with a master’s degree in Organizational Leadership with an emphasis in Executive Coaching from Regent University. In 2019 Lynnette co-authored It’s Possible: A Dreamers Manifesto to Overcome Opposition, a collection of inspirational stories of overcoming obstacles. When away from work and the world of clients, Lynnette is grateful for time spent reading, cooking, traveling, or creating the most magical memories with her husband and children.“Empower Your Possibility”How do you approach new things? Lynnette named her coaching business Empower Your Possibility because she is passionate about each challenge that comes her way. There is no “wrong” experience to have. Everything you try is a new opportunity to make something happen, which is the meaning behind the word empower. Each of us has the responsibility to serve others, so Lynnette teaches her clients to find their purpose because someone out there is waiting on you to fulfill your dream. Others are depending on you! Someone needs your school of thought and what you’ve prepared to do through every up and down on your life’s path so far.TWEET: Each of us has the responsibility to serve others. @lynnettetphillips #chasingdreamsA 17-year journeyIf you worked for a company that is the “dream employer” for many people around the world, would you have the courage to leave? This was the dilemma for Lynnette. She signed up for a six-month internship with the Walt Disney Company at age 21, and she fell in love with the entire experience. She opened new resorts, managed project initiatives, and ran departments. The company allowed her to grow and develop other leaders and then move to make her pivot. After 17 years with Disney, she was at an intersection when COVID-19 showed up and furloughed her. The journey into coaching allowed her to explore additional ways to serve others more fully. Lynnette took what she calls a “purposeful pause” to fully commit to the pivot, and the driving force behind the pivot was knowing that her life still held unexplored territory.TWEET: Sometimes it’s necessary to take a “purposeful pause”. @lynnettetphillips #chasingdreamsDoing it on her own termsAre you stuck in things that don’t bring you joy? Lynnette says to look at the things you are really good at doing and move outside the things that don’t bring joy. Focus on your self-development to create a new reality. Lynnette wants to conquer the new opportunities and possibilities available to her as she explores life. With every breath, she looks for new ways to show up and serve others. You don’t have to give up certain things to ensure that your dreams come true. Lynnette hasn’t given up anything to do what she loves, but she’s living the most authentic and connected version of herself in pure joy.TWEET: Look at the things you are really good at doing and move outside the things that don’t bring joy. @lynnettetphillips #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Don’t take for granted the notes you’ve taken throughout your life. Go back and revisit those ideas to see what might be there for you.”OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[:25] Young Lynnette’s dreams [3:40] Every experience is a new opportunity [6:50] A sexy question...
There are so many things we can learn from hearing the experiences of others. Today’s show is packed full of wisdom from valuable life lessons as a previous guest returns to share more of his story. Join us!
Chris Stevenson, former Power Ranger stuntman, is the founder of Stevenson Consulting. Chris’s current focus is helping businesses and entrepreneurs of all types maximize their potential. His expertise stems from his past hands-on experience in all aspects of the health club industry. For almost 20 years, Chris and his team successfully owned and operated Stevenson Fitness, a full-service boutique health club in Southern California. The club’s success was based on providing an unparalleled member experience centered on proper staffing, systematic operations, and world-class leadership. This success was reflected in the club’s NPS, which was consistently in the 90s (the industry average is in the 40s). Chris recently founded Be Military Fit California to bring the world-renowned brand to the US. Be Military Fit is the world leader in military fitness and outdoor training. Chris is an international speaker who regularly presents at IDEA, IHRSA, Club Industry, and other fitness and business events. He sits on the IHRSA board of directors and the Customer Engagement Academy. From health and wellness to business strategies, Chris has the unique ability to connect with people instantaneously and to present viable, applicable lectures that resonate with every audience.
Young Chris’s dreams
Do you have a dream you’ve chased since childhood? From the time Chris was very young, the field of martial arts has been his passion. He left all other sports behind to focus on his training, and his dream was always to run his own martial arts school. The martial arts belt system taught him to set goals to accomplish his dreams. He learned the value of having a mentor, the value of trust, and how to listen and learn from an instructor. Chris began with Tae Kwon Do and then branched into other martial arts disciplines, and finally into boxing to hone his hand skills. He stayed busy with college classes while teaching martial arts, but pivoted after college to take time to have fun and enjoy life in CA, where he still lives today. Chris lives with no regrets because his choices back then brought him where he is today.
TWEET: The choices Chris has made has brought him where he is today. @thechrisstevenson #chasingdreams
Controlling your stress response
How do you handle stress? Chris explains that some people struggle with mindfulness and mental health because of how our stress response is wired, which is the same way our ancestors responded when they were trying to get food and not be eaten as food. Our minds are automatically wired to defend ourselves, so we instinctively fall into a negative “fight or flight” response to everything. We have to train our brains to respond differently and react more positively. Even the simple act of deep breathing can have a huge effect as we engage our controllable nervous system to offset our natural instincts.
TWEET: The simple act of deep breathing can have a huge effect on our mindset. @thechrisstevenson #chasingdreams
The best lessons learned
What are the best life lessons you’ve learned? Through Chris’s varied experiences, he’s learned many lessons. While running a martial arts studio, he learned that he could accomplish anything he put his mind to if he committed to working hard enough. Another lesson was when he learned not to let other people dictate his emotions and reactions. The important thing is to be aware and flip the reaction so we don’t give other people control. He learned another important lesson about holding grudges. The truth is that grudges only hurt the people who hold them--so, let them go! Another problem is that we encounter more negative influences as we age, and we become conservative and afraid to take chances. We should never lose the excitement of taking a risk....
Today’s show is about embracing creativity and purpose on the pathway to chasing your dreams. My guest proves that there are multiple ways to craft a life of service to others, even when creativity is your passion.
Clara Thomson is 26 years old, and she’s starting her journey as a pediatric resident physician. She enjoys finding ways that medicine can connect to other industries and the arts. Clara’s passion for music while finishing medical school culminated in creating her album, Chasing Dreams, which is out now on all platforms. Clara describes herself as an extroverted introvert who is learning to embrace her imperfections. She has decided that it’s perfectly acceptable to have multiple passions and chase your dreams, even as you prepare for the rollercoaster ride that is life. Her pseudonym is CallMeClarity, a spinoff of her name.
Finding fulfillment in music
Where does music fit into your life? Being of Indian heritage means your parents hold aspirations of the most “worthy” professions for you. Even though Clara’s parents never pushed her to be something she didn’t want to do, being a doctor was always in the back of her mind. She knew from a young age that her love of science would lead her into medicine and that her love of the arts would play a prominent dual role in her life. Clara soaked up knowledge about musical instruments and singing, and these endeavors helped her come out of her shell as she created new music. Clara recently used her songwriting and producing talents to partner with a nonprofit that helps children with life-threatening illnesses.
TWEET: Being a doctor was always in the back of her mind from a young age. @callmeclarity #chasingdreams
The ups and downs
How do you handle the “downs” in life? Even at her young age, Clara has learned that ups and downs are a part of life and a part of every person’s journey. She learned firsthand that everything doesn’t always work out in ideal ways. Being a “chaser” means that you go after dreams and goals with your whole self to see if those things are meant for you, but you know that everything isn’t sunshine and rainbows. Clara’s advice is to give it your all, but realize that there is a risk in chasing every dream. You may not achieve what you envision, but the process will help you build new strength and resilience.
TWEET: Ups and downs are a part of life and a part of every person’s journey. @callmeclarity #chasingdreams
When the doubters come
How do you react when people doubt you? The people closest to Clara knew her potential even when she may have doubted herself. Friends and family members have been supportive and encouraging of Clara’s dreams, but she realizes that this may not always be the case. At times along the way, there will always be those who don’t resonate as strongly with what you’re trying to do--and that’s OK. Pleasing everyone is not the goal, and you can’t lose sight of your goals because of what someone else might say. Clara says that you never know how much you can do if you keep on going--so keep on going!
TWEET: Along the way, there will always be those who don’t resonate as strongly with what you’re trying to do--and that’s OK. @callmeclarity #chasingdreams
Guest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Just take a moment to write down what you are truly passionate about, then check back a few months later to see if it resonates with you.”
OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:
[2:41] Young Clara’s dreams
[6:49] A left turn toward music
[12:02] Clara’s album, Chasing Dreams
[13:55] Being a chaser
[16:33] The journey to fulfillment through uncertainty
[22:13] Feedback from others
[28:27] Clara’s plans for her career
[33:57] Clara’s musical inspirations
[40:50] ONE action for a dream chaser
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Persuasion is not a word we hear often, but the reality is that we all find ourselves in acts of persuasion throughout each day. We use persuasive tactics in our interactions with family, co-workers, neighbors, and strangers without even realizing it. If you want to be more persuasive, empathetic, generous, and understanding in your relationships, you don’t want to miss today’s show.Jason Harris is CEO of the award-winning creative agency, Mekanism, co-founder of the Creative Alliance, and author of the national bestseller, The Soulful Art of Persuasion. Jason works closely with brands through a blend of soul and science to create provocative campaigns that engage audiences. Jason has been named in the Top Ten Most Influential Social Impact Leaders, as well as the 4A’s list of “100 People Who Make Advertising Great.” His methods are so effective that they are studied in cases at Harvard Business School. How to stand out in businessDo you need a different approach to your business? Jason’s book contains a unique approach, and the feedback he’s received shows that people have responded well to his ideas. Many have adopted Jason’s actionable principles and turned them into action steps for their own success. Jason doesn’t just state abstract theories for people to follow, but he gives habits and examples to be put into practice that can truly make a difference. The book is original and authentic in every way, which stays true to Jason’s values. He explains that to stand out in your business, you have to lead with originality and vulnerability. TWEET: Turn actionable principles into action steps for success! @jason_harris #chasingdreamsLive with generosityAre you a generous person? What Jason means by leading a life of generosity is to give something away with every interaction and to leave someone better off for having crossed paths with you. Advising, counseling, and sharing can all be part of generosity as you let someone know that you are thinking of them and care about their interests. Generosity can be shown in giving a gift to someone, but Jason challenges people to think of it in less tangible ways. He explains how it’s been the hardest thing for him to learn, but being generous has helped him be successful because people are drawn to generous people. These “things” you give away will come back to you with compounded interest. Being open enough to ask for favors and help is another form of generosity, as demonstrated by the Ben Franklin effect, which Jason explains in detail. TWEET: Give something away with every interaction and leave someone better off for having crossed paths with you. @jason_harris #chasingdreamsWhat the world needs now is . . . empathyWould you call yourself an empathetic person? Even though, as humans, we are 99.9% the same as each other, empathy seems to be in very short supply in today’s world. Empathy is developing a natural curiosity for others, along with listening and understanding people more. We don’t often know and understand the micro experiences that contribute to people’s beliefs and opinions about certain issues. Once we know their back story, we can better understand why they think or act the way they do. That is empathy, and it takes more time and effort than judging people quickly and painting everyone with a broad brush. Jason explains that another part of empathy involves collaboration, which is reaching out to others and asking for help when you need it. TWEET: Once we know someone’s back story, we can better understand why they think or act the way they do. @jason_harris #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action step for a dream chaser to take-”Be a dream chaser.”OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[0:04] Jason’s book and his viewpoint on persuasion[4:00] The reception to Jason’s book[9:57] The importance of the stories within us[15:10] The importance of generosity[18:45] The Ben Franklin effect[21:37] The principle of empathy...
Most people long for love. Some are successful in the search, and others feel that true love is just not in the cards for them. The truth is that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else and be loved in a fulfilling way. If that sounds too abstract to comprehend, then join us for today’s show--and learn what you can do to bring more love into your life. Veronica Grant is a love coach for successful women who feel like they have it all except love, and she helps them find it. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free workshops, and coaching, Veronica is committed to shaking up how you find love, even in our “swipe right, swipe left” world. Some of her guilty pleasures (a must-have for recovering perfectionists!) include binge-watching HGTV, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything. Join us to meet Veronica and clear what's blocking you in love!Making a pivotHave you felt the nudge to make a big change in your life? Veronica looks back to her time as a paid staffer on the Obama campaign in 2012. Her work consumed every moment of her life and turned her into a monster. She realized later, as she worked herself to misery in a job in DC, that she could not allow herself to stay in that world any longer. Looking back, she sees that these experiences led to the turning point that spurred her to other things, like starting her own business. Too many people let guilt convince them to stay in a miserable situation much longer than they should, and they use every excuse to justify their misery. Veronica realizes the big pivot she made was necessary to regain her sanity and wellbeing. TWEET: Don’t let guilt convince you to stay in a miserable situation longer than you should. @veronicaegrant #chasingdreamsWhy a Love Coach?Does someone really need a love coach? While Veronica’s work IS about dating and finding that special someone, it really isn’t. Her work is all about the personal development and self-love of her client. She is more concerned about how someone treats themselves when they are frustrated, rejected, sad, and lonely. Those feelings are part of life’s path, but they shouldn’t factor into how you perceive your lovability and what you deserve in life. While she can’t prevent the inevitable heartbreaks for her clients, she doesn’t want that experience to change the story they tell themselves about their self-worth. TWEET: Heartbreak doesn’t have to change the story you tell yourself about your self-worth. @veronicaegrant #chasingdreamsYour inner child and your self-worthWhat was your inner child taught about love? Self-worth is tied to what we have been conditioned to believe about how and why we are loved. Most girls are conditioned with clear messaging that they will be more successful in love if they are skinny and attractive. We all want love, safety, and belonging, so we listen to the messages from the adults in our lives, especially those that tie body image to love and happiness. The little girl in you has to be reparented in the subconscious to heal that wound. Old beliefs have to be reprogrammed, and we have to be gentle around our thoughts to create a more positive headspace. Practice will create habit change. TWEET: We have to be gentle around our thoughts to create a more positive headspace. @veronicaegrant #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”No technique or tool will help you see change if you still beat yourself up. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[:50] Young Veronica’s dreams[3:25] From astronaut dreams to life coach[8:10] Enough is enough[13:00] Life coach to love coach[18:05] What is a love coach?[23:00] How we build self-worth and self-love[29:58] Healing your inner child[32:42] Where to start with healing[39:25] ONE action for a dream chaserRESOURCES MENTIONED:Veronica’s https://www.instagram.com/veronicaegrant/ (Instagram)Veronica’s...
In these challenging times, gratitude has become more important than ever. A gratitude practice is one tool that is free of charge and equally accessible to people of all races, genders, ethnicities, and economic status. Gratitude has the ability to bring positivity to any situation and give your mindset an instant boost!Geoffrey Blake (GB) describes himself as a grateful human. He’s an introvert who plays an extrovert when it's necessary. He's toured internationally with his band, co-founded a non-profit, been a successful personal trainer for over a decade, and now his main focus is a global movement toward gratitude as the founder of the Global Gratitude Jar.The great connectorWhy focus on gratitude? GB had an unshakeable feeling early in his life that he would be part of the positive change in the world. The change happens when we see the good in ourselves, the good in others, and how much alike we really are. Geoffrey views a gratitude practice as an entry-level activity to bring about change and connect people--and anyone can participate. He sees himself as an encourager to help people form and establish a habit every day that can contribute to positivity and overall mental health. TWEET: Change happens when we see the good in ourselves. @GBGeoffreyBlake #chasingdreamsTry JOLTWhere do we start with a gratitude practice? GB says to start with a warm memory from the past, which is easy to find, even if your “gratitude muscle” isn’t developed enough to sense what you’re grateful for in the present. The key is JOLT: “Just one little thing.” Find one small thing to be grateful for every day, and you’ll grow into a more detailed gratitude practice. GB uses simplistic prompts to get people to think about the miracles in everyday life. Nothing is too small or insignificant for which to be grateful. He points out that in his Facebook group, someone’s gratitude is not up for judgment or comment; they are allowed to own it in whatever way they choose. TWEET: Find one small thing to be grateful for every day, and you’ll grow into a more detailed gratitude practice. @GBGeoffreyBlake #chasingdreamsYou hold the powerHow does your positivity affect others? GB says that gratitude has a domino effect as it tips in the direction of sunshine. A simple smile, comment, or show of appreciation has immense power to change someone’s day and bring sunshine. Gratitude helps you bring positivity and your best to every situation, even the difficult ones. We hold the power to change someone’s day and make a positive impression just by looking for opportunities for connection. He explains how he looks to tell his mentors how they have impacted his success, and now he passes that encouragement along to those he mentors. TWEET: Gratitude has a domino effect as it tips in the direction of sunshine. @GBGeoffreyBlake #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Commit to 30 days of gratitude with the JOLT method. The next step is to join our Facebook group, Global Gratitude Jar.” OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[:15] An intro to Global Gratitude[3:20] GB’s motivation to gratitude[5:21] How gratitude contributes to mental health[10:04] How to start a gratitude practice[14:42] Young GB’s awareness of gratitude[19:58] The effect of gratitude early in life[23:20] The impact of our gratitude on others[27:16] The domino effect of gratitude[31:06] Being impactful in life[33:54] ONE action for a dream chaser[35:36] Get to know GB betterRESOURCES MENTIONED:GB’s https://web.facebook.com/groups/globalgratitudejar/ (Facebook)GB’s https://twitter.com/GBGeoffreyBlake (Twitter)GB’s Article: https://medium.com/@gbgeoffreyblake/gratitude-while-the-world-is-burning-c677dfe553a0 (Gratitude While the World is Burning)GB’s Email https://youtu.be/ogN2M_QI1bI (Watch the Episode on YouTube)TWEETS YOU CAN USE:In six months, Global Gratitude Jar has grown from a...
We are all drawn to authentic people. We appreciate the inspiration and empowerment that spillover from those who dare to live authentic lives. Today’s show will encourage you to boot those limiting beliefs to the curb and live a life of authentic connection as you chase your dreams. Erin Hatzikostas spent her career “first half” working in the corporate world, where at the age of 42, she became the CEO of a $2 billion healthcare financial institution. In just three years, she tripled earnings and sent employee engagement skyrocket.Just when things were booming, she decided to walk away so that she could help solve what truly breaks her heart: the immense lack of authenticity and happiness in Corporate America.Through her company, b Authentic inc, Erin is provoking authenticity and enabling an army of people to crush their careers without compromising everything else.Erin is a career coach, prolific speaker, and edutainer. She also co-hosts an offbeat career and leadership podcast called b CAUSE with Erin & Nicole.The “sucky songs” we singWhat are the hurdles to being authentic? Erin says the common thread is the “sucky songs” we tell ourselves. That’s her way of identifying the limiting beliefs and deep-rooted negativity that stop us. These beliefs may make sense in our minds, but they don’t feel right. Erin digs into these hurdles with clients to make them understand how they can inspire others. She teaches that inspiration is not a “river that runs in only one direction,” meaning that your authenticity can inspire those above AND below you.TWEET: Inspiration is not a river that runs in only one direction. @ErinHatzikostas @b_authentic_inc #chasingdreamsA new authenticityHow has the COVID-19 pandemic affected your authenticity? We see a new wave of authenticity as we interact with our bosses and coworkers in new and different ways than before. Erin says the challenge when we get through the pandemic will be in keeping the good parts of the new authentic environment and not slipping back into old habits, and she believes these changes will ultimately benefit women in the workplace. She gives examples of connections she’s made over Zoom during quarantine that wouldn’t have come about under normal circumstances. Erin reminds us that we have to plug into other people’s authenticity while realizing that our own version of authenticity is always changing. Keep in mind that it’s in discomfort that we grow the best.TWEET: Realize that our own version of authenticity is always changing. @ErinHatzikostas @b_authentic_inc #chasingdreamsYour brand of authenticityHow do you figure out what YOUR authenticity is? Erin says we need to listen to who and what other people say we are. Family background also plays into the development of our authenticity in growing our core values and discerning our purpose. Erin breaks it down by using the fourfold Japanese concept of ikigai, which shows what you’re good at, what you love to do, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for. She reminds us that doing what you love and getting paid don’t have to be mutually exclusive; they can be correlated. TWEET: Listen to who and what other people say we are. @ErinHatzikostas @b_authentic_inc #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Get curious. Just start with one thing.”OUTLINE OF THE EPISODE:[1:59] How Erin became authentic[7:42] The struggle to be authentic[10:20] Inspiration comes from many directions[11:33] How we’re connected as human beings[14:48] The aftermath of COVID, growth, and new mindsets[19:40] Why we have to ask questions[20:57] What your authenticity is[24:15] What it means to be authentic[27:40] How to change--at any age[31:59] ONE action for a dream chaser[32:03] Get to know Erin betterRESOURCES MENTIONED:Erin’s https://web.facebook.com/bAuthenticInc/ (Facebook)Erin’s https://twitter.com/ErinHatzikostas (Twitter)Erin’s...
If you’re stuck in a place without passion and purpose in life, then today’s show is for you. You might not think that someone can pivot from being an actress to a lawyer to the sweet world of baked goods, but today’s guest proves that it is possible! It’s never too late to chase your dreams and create the happiness you deserve!Jessie Sheehan is a cookbook author, food writer, recipe developer, and baker. She is the author of The Vintage Baker, (2018, Chronicle Books), which was named one of the Washington Post’s best cookbooks of 2018 and is beloved by Oprah, Nigella Lawson, Gail Simmons, and more. Jessie is also the co-author of Icebox Cakes (2015, Chronicle Books).The thing that drew Jessie inHow many people start out in one profession before finding their niche in something completely different? It happens more often than you might think. Baking was the thing that drew Jessie in after she explored other unrelated professions. She grew up in a “foodie” family that loved experimenting with delicious foods, and there was a great reverence for sweets. As a new mom baking at home, she found that it was something she loved, even though she had no formal training. Getting a job at a bakery put Jessie doing menial tasks like bagging granola, and then her superiors saw that she was in it for the long haul. A journey of learning from others and growing her knowledge and skillset gave her the opportunity to progress to other duties, and she proved herself by being a hard worker and a fast learner. TWEET: Learning from others and growing your skillset brings new opportunities. @jessiesheehanbakes #chasingdreamsFinding what she was supposed to doDo you look back on your journey with regret? Jessie looks back and sometimes wishes that she had just started out by going to pastry school instead of pursuing other passions like being an actress and a lawyer. Her training process happened on the job at the bakery, and she knows there are gaps in her knowledge that pastry school would have filled. She also realizes that if she hadn’t taken the long journey to discover her passion for baking, then she might not have the same appreciation for what she is accomplishing each day. TWEET: Don’t look back on your journey with regret. @jessiesheehanbakes #chasingdreamsThe balance between accomplishments and goalsHow do you find a balance between the accomplishments of the past and the goals of the future? As Jessie contemplates the trajectory of her career, she’s pleased and grateful for what she’s accomplished and the cookbooks she’s helped create, but she still wants to do more. In enjoying the moment and feeling pride in accomplishments, there is a balance with looking toward the future and wondering what wonderful things might be around the corner. Way back when, Jessie was a young mom looking for an interesting job to fill a few hours away from her home and her kids, so she began packing and sealing bags of granola at the bakery. Now she develops recipes, writes cookbooks, and makes national media appearances with her baking skills. TWEET: Find balance between past accomplishments and future goals. @jessiesheehanbakes #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Hustle, hustle, hustle. Keep going after what it is that you want.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[:50] What teenage Jessie wanted to be[10:18] Making the jump to baker12:43] The learning curve[16:47] Finding the “sweet” spot[19:48] Becoming a recipe developer[24:01] Jessie’s cookbooks[29:34] If it hadn’t worked out . . .[32:04] How things have turned out for Jessie[33:55] Advice for those starting out in a career[35:06] ONE action for a dream chaser[36:19] Get to know Jessie betterRESOURCES MENTIONED:Jessie’s https://www.instagram.com/jessiesheehanbakes/ (Instagram)Jessie’s https://www.jessiesheehanbakes.com/ (Website)Jessie’s https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiesheehanbakes?lang=en (TikTok)...
No one has a perfect life. We each have negative experiences from our past that have helped shape the person we are today. There is a difference, however, in how we respond to those tough challenges. Some people allow those circumstances to define them, and they can never seem to move past them. Others are able to change their perspective and use difficulties to strengthen them and propel them into the future. I’ll let you guess which category best describes today’s guest. As a teenager, Michael Arterberry was fortunate to receive guidance from positive adult role models who helped him overcome adversities and set high expectations for his future. Grateful for the role these mentors played in his own development, Michael decided to dedicate his professional life to helping people navigate the difficulties of life and launch their future into motion.For more than 25 years, he has been helping teens and adults use what they have gone through as a catalyst for success rather than an obstacle for failure.Michael is the author of Be Encouraged: 250 Days of Motivation and Encouragement, a daily motivational book. Additional information about his struggles as a child and a debilitating spinal cord injury as an adult can be found in his wife's book, God Was Holding My Hand.**Please be advised that a brief sexual assault/molestation reference occurs in this episode. If you are triggered by this, please check for details about skipping over it as you listen. A positive mindsetIs it possible to overcome extreme difficulties and develop a positive mindset? The answer is YES! Despite a horrific childhood, Michael was determined to create a positive mindset. A big part of that was his relationship with God, and in addition, athletic endeavors became his respite. He didn’t think of playing sports as “therapy” at the time, but that’s what took place as he reflects on his years in school. He played basketball, baseball, football, and soccer, and he was able to channel all of his energy from his family challenges to “play like a wild man.” Having a healthy outlet for his frustrations helped fuel his positive mindset, along with his determination and resilience.TWEET: Having a healthy outlet for frustration helps fuel a positive mindset. #chasingdreamsGetting resultsHow does Michael’s youth program produce the desired results? As he goes into schools around the country, his two-day program helps young people recognize the land mines in their stories and the damage they didn’t even know they had sustained. He teaches them to revisit those painful places but know that they can’t stay there if they want to move forward. Michael shares examples of kids who were wounded deeply; some go on to have miraculous healing journeys, and some choose to go in other tragic directions. Besides his youth program, Michael created his book of motivation and encouragement to help even more people.TWEET: You can’t stay in the painful places if you want to move forward. #chasingdreamsFeeling lostWhere do you turn when you feel lost? Michael likens feeling “lost” in life to going through a shipwreck and finding the broken pieces that are left---and holding onto them. He says to take those broken pieces and change your perspective. He warns us to be careful to not “drown in the shallow water,” but to stand up and walk on. The only constant in life is change, so look at 2020’s challenges as a time in which we’ve all felt lost in some way. Again, change your perspective and move forward. TWEET: Be careful not to drown in the shallow water. #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Narrow down your dream to what will make you happy, not what will give you the biggest paycheck.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[2:01] What young Michael wanted to be[11:31] How Michael developed a positive mindset[14:40] How Michael started his non-profit[18:40] The results of Michael’s program [24:36] Why
I’m excited to introduce you to a new friend that I met at a conference last October. If your life feels out of balance and out of whack, then this is the show for you. You’ll learn how to take action steps to become a more empowered and grounded person no matter what obstacles you face. Melanie C. Klein, M.A., is a sought-after empowerment coach and respected thought leader in the areas of authentic empowerment, visibility, and body confidence. She is also a successful writer, speaker, and Professor of Sociology and Women's Studies. With over two decades of professional and personal work, Melanie integrates her background in mindfulness and embodied wisdom with her academic expertise and advocacy work. In this way, she offers a holistic and unique pathway to personal freedom and prosperity, one that is customized to each individual. How to thriveHow do you meet new challenges? Melanie explains that mindset and a sense of self are two keys to thriving during a challenging time like going through a global pandemic. We know from this point forward, our new normal will become normal. To be empowered, we have to be deeply rooted in ourselves and discerning about helpful conversations and decisions, along with being conscious of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The biggest, brightest expressions of ourselves aren’t dependent on external circumstances. The key question to ask is, “How am I approaching this?” It all comes down to mindset, so try to view each obstacle as a new opportunity.TWEET: Try to view each obstacle as a new opportunity. @melmelklein #chasingdreamsMaking your own choicesAre you honest with yourself? Times like these give us time and space to consider things we’ve overlooked in the past. When we’re forced into a slow-down mode, we have time to rest deeply and make informed decisions. We have to decide when to lean out and when to lean in. It’s essential to pay attention to your inner compass and become comfortable with yourself in this “dance of existence.” Melanie explains how to know when to flow and when to create more of a container for yourself.TWEET: Slow-down mode gives us time to rest deeply and make informed decisions. @melmelklein #chasingdreamsThe two M’s: meditation and mindfulnessWhat was your explosive moment? Melanie recalls the eye-opening experience of a class she took years ago that allowed her to understand more fully the systems and structures in the world. It helped her decide what her life’s work would be in what she calls “an explosive and liberating moment.” Soon after, she discovered yoga--way before yoga was cool. Pairing yoga with meditation has helped her develop a critical consciousness in the world, which has been fortified by her mindfulness practices. After more than 20 years of yoga, meditation, and mindfulness, Melanie still turns to these practices daily to find balance in her life. TWEET: Melanie discovered yoga way before yoga was cool @melmelklein #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Get honest with yourself. Take ownership and accountability for what you do, and be completely real about what you want.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[2:10] A return to what kind of normal?[8:57] Melanie’s advice about handling challenges[15:35] Don’t conform to the standards of others[19:19] Getting comfortable with your own choices[24:52] Is now the time?[26:21] The value of meditation and mindfulness[33:12] Limiting social media and notifications[38:35] ONE action for a dream chaserRESOURCES MENTIONED:Melanie’s https://web.facebook.com/MelanieKleinEmpowerment/ (Facebook)Melanie’s https://www.instagram.com/melmelklein/ (Instagram)Melanie’s https://www.melaniecklein.com/ (Website)Purchase or Preview http://www.yogarisingbook.com/ (Yoga Rising)!Purchase or Preview http://www.yogaandbodyimage.org/ (Yoga and Body Image)!http://ybicoalition.com/ (Yoga & Body Image Coalition)...
Many dream chasers start with a bang, but they falter in their purpose when obstacles and challenges come. We might let other people derail us, or our own limiting beliefs, or we give up on our dream simply because the going gets tough. If you’ve ever been tempted to quit--to give up on your dream--then you can’t miss today’s show. Sourena Vasseghi was born with cerebral palsy, and he now faces life with a severe speech impediment and is bound to a wheelchair. He has defied the odds to become ”The writer who cannot write and the speaker who cannot speak.” Sourena is an inspirational and motivational presenter, an award-winning author, and the owner and founder of The Sourena V. Group. Together with his stage partner, Chris Stevenson, Sourena speaks and produces content dealing with motivation, achieving goals, mindset, and working around challenges to reach amazing success. A mindset to succeedWho gave you your mindset? Sourena quickly attributes his mindset to his parents. When he was growing up, they never acted like cerebral palsy was a big deal, and they refused to let Sourena act like a victim. His parents told him he could have a good life, and they treated him like he was no different than other kids. It was only when he reached the end of high school that he realized that he couldn’t be independent and mobile like other kids going off to college. Because he still had big plans and dreams, he didn’t let that stop him from figuring out how to make his life work. Sourena has never viewed himself as an overcomer because he can’t “overcome” his handicap; he is just a man who has figured out how to deal with his challenges with the right mindset--and that’s the key.TWEET: Dealing with challenges with the right mindset is key. @SourenaV #chasingdreamsMotivation and purposeWhat drives you? Sourena says that experiences are what drives him. He wants to experience everything he can in this life, and he plans not to let his handicap be what drives him. He enlisted the help of Chris, a fitness trainer, to be a translator and speaker when he gives keynote presentations. Chris says that Sourena has “a lockdown mindset,” refusing to let his handicap stop him. Sourena wants to show everyone how to deal with their challenges so they can accomplish anything. A big lesson he teaches people is that your mindset isn’t fixed, but it can change every day as we rewrite our narrative in new directions. TWEET: Every day, we can rewrite our narrative in new directions. @SourenaV #chasingdreamsHow we thinkWhat controls your thinking? Are your thoughts controlled by logic or emotions? As humans, we are wired for safety. We are wired not to take chances and not to get “eaten” out in the world; we are wired for pure survival. Sourena says that we don’t pay attention to our “emotional diet” like we do our physical diet. We tend to dwell on negative thoughts and fear. When we saturate our minds with bad news, we have to do other things to fortify our emotional diet in positive ways,like taking walks outside, spending time with people we love, and reading books. Chris echoes Sourena’s words by saying that fear comes from the unknown, from something we can’t control, or from the feeling that we aren’t worthy. The key to overcoming fear is to reach out for support.TWEET: Fortify your emotional diet in positive ways. @SourenaV #chasingdreamsOUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[2:17] Sourena’s mindset[4:32] How Sourena deals with challenges[7:36] Sourena’s college journey to USC[9:51] Sourena’s motivation and purpose[13:16] Common themes that cause people to struggle[19:07] Emotional thinking vs. logical thinking[24:07] The most inspiring thing about Sourena--from Chris[26:15] How Sourena addresses limiting beliefs[33:37] Why Sourena and Chris are happy with their lives today[35:27] Get to know Sourena and Chris betterSourena’s https://web.facebook.com/sourenav.fan/ (Facebook)Sourena’s...
Our world has changed a lot in the past few weeks. These changes have been unimaginable, and with those, there is a new emphasis on mental health. If you’re looking for ways to manage and alleviate the anxiety and overwhelm that we all experience, then today’s show is for you.Dr. Kevin Gilliland, Psy. D. is an expert in mental health, depression, and addiction. He’s the author of Struggle Well, Live Well: 60 Ways to Navigate Life’s Good, Bad, and In-Between. After working for more than two decades in healthcare as a clinical psychologist, Kevin became a pioneer of outpatient treatment as the CEO and Executive Director of Innovation 360, a treatment center for alcohol and drug addiction, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, family therapy, and life development. What’s going on?How are you handling the stress of living in a pandemic? Stress is hitting many people in their finances and their security, unlike anything we’ve ever seen before. We all have to deal with these unusual circumstances, but it’s significantly worse for those who battle mental health and mood disorders. This trying time is forcing all of us to be mindful in new ways every day. Mental health and wellness are often pushed to the back burner of our lives, but these difficult times are forcing us to prioritize mental health. Kevin explains the proven connection between stress and cardiovascular health, which is another reason to practice stress management techniques. TWEET: There’s a proven connection between stress and cardiovascular health. @dr_keving #chasingdreamsJust breatheDo you practice breathing techniques? Kevin says deep, belly breaths are his #1 recommendation for any dream chaser. Focused breathing elicits the opposite of the “fight or flight” response. It brings a “rest and digest” response, which settles us into a calming mode and redistributes nourishing blood flow throughout the body. Breathing can lower blood pressure to an extent greater than eating right and exercising. Do you need to slow down and calm yourself? Kevin says to try some apps to practice deep breathing--and calm yourself. TWEET: Focused breathing brings the body a calming “rest and digest” response. @dr_keving #chasingdreamsDon’t be plugged in all the timeHow much time do you spend each day on social media? Watching/listening to the news? There are dangers when we are “plugged in” all the time. Being constantly plugged into social media will lead you to compare yourself to others. Being constantly plugged into the news will cloud your mind with negativity. A little bit of information will decrease anxiety, but too much information will increase anxiety. More is NOT better! Find the sweet spot of getting the right amount of information, but don’t make the mistake of living too much on social media or listening to the news too often. Put boundaries in place, and find ways to manage and evaluate the effects on your mental health. TWEET: There are dangers when we are “plugged in” all the time. @dr_keving #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”Practice focused breathing.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[2:25] What’s going on right now in our world?[9:18] How we can help others[12:54] Focus on breathing[18:27] How to do belly breathing[24:37] What should we be doing?[27:40] There’s no ONE way[29:28] Dangers of too much information[35:05] The value of reading[36:57] Kevin’s advice about adapting your dream[40:52] Learn to run with it[42:11] Get to know KevinRESOURCES MENTIONED:Dr. Kevin’s https://www.instagram.com/dr_keving/ (Instagram)Dr. Kevin’s https://www.drkevingilliland.com/ (Website)Dr. Kevin’s https://www.drkevingilliland.com/innovation360 (Innovation 360)https://amzn.to/2WIdlQQ (Struggle Well, Live Well: 60 Ways to Navigate Life’s Good, Bad, and In-Between) by Kevin Gillilandhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMjTJf4-xz0 ( How to do belly...
I met today’s guest at a conference in Atlantic City. I quickly found her to be a kindred spirit, as we felt an immediate connection and friendship, despite our different cultural backgrounds. She joins us all the way from her home country of Australia!Samantha Riley left the corporate world and ventured out into the world of business over 25 years ago because she wanted the freedom to spend more time with family to be rewarded for working harder. She has built multiple businesses and grew her first seven-figure business before she was 30 years old. Sam leveraged herself out of her brick and mortar businesses and found herself working less than ten hours each week. Now she has replicated that same system to build her online coaching business, which gives her even more freedom as she’s now location independent. Sam teaches her system to successful entrepreneurs, business owners, and experts, and she helps them develop their thought leadership so they can replace their income, reclaim their time, and lead a more purposeful life. Taking a big gambleIf you landed the safe, stable government job that your family dreamed of for you, would you leave it to jump into the unknown? Many people wouldn’t, but Samantha isn’t like everyone else. Being a ballerina was her childhood passion, consuming her nights and weekends for many years of training. As she reached adulthood, she was told that she’d never make it as a dancer, so she gave in to her passion for teaching and opened a dance studio after her brief two-year stint in the corporate world with a government job. Logic told her to stay in the stable world, but she realized no one around her was happy. She made the decision to take the gamble, leave the corporate stability, and start over, even though she and her husband had two kids and a mortgage at the time.TWEET: Logic told Sam to stay in the stable world, but she realized no one around her was happy. @TheSamRiley #chasingdreamsSam’s advice for othersWhat drives you? For Sam, it was her passion for dancing that dominated her business life for 20 years. A split from her first husband put her through a difficult time, so branched into holding retreats around spirituality and health and wellness. She helped people with job troubles and moved into the coaching world. Sam quickly realized that she loved the business end more than delivering the expertise; it was through networking and administrating that enlightenment came to her. She says that the problem is that most people won’t make life-changing decisions until their back is against the wall, mainly because they haven’t acknowledged what they really want out of life. TWEET: It was through networking and administrating that enlightenment came to her. @TheSamRiley #chasingdreamsFinding fulfillmentWhy do so many mothers put everyone else first and themselves last? Sam grew up in a household where she saw her mom always put herself last, and she fell into that same pattern with all the aspects of motherhood. As a result, she became resentful, tired, and unfulfilled. She never took time for herself, choosing instead to be the martyr. It took separating from her husband for her to realize that she COULD do things for herself. That big step has made her life very different now than what it once was. Everything she teaches now is based on what people want out of life and how they can make the choices to get them there. TWEET: Always putting herself last made Sam feel resentful, tired, and unfulfilled. @TheSamRiley #chasingdreamsGuest Recommendation: ONE action for a dream chaser to take--”The #1 thing you have to do is to get really clear about what you really want. You can’t create the actions you want to get there until you know what it is that you want.”OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE:[2:46] Young Sam’s dreams[5:16] From dancing into the corporate world[7:16] Taking a big gamble[10:58] Wanting more[14:18] The prevalence of coaches today...